Ok, so long story short I am married And have a baby girl with my husband. Him and I are separating. We are both from PA but I am currently stationed in Ca (he's here with me but he's a civilian) He is CHOOSING to leave to go back home to PA. I have 10 months left stationed in CA until I get out and go back home. He is trying to say he wants me to put my daughter on a plane and let him have custody of her for half the time I am still here (5months) and I don't want him getting her at all (long story, many instances have occurred where he put her in harms way.) Will a judge really make me ship her across the country & give him some kind of custody? Or will I get full custody until we get back to PA? I am not going on any deployments any time soon and have a way more stable and safe environment for her to live. Just wondering has anyone ever experienced a similar situation? And what was your ruling?

It's been 14 years of marriage, we don't have any kids. We have never fought or never had arguments. We live a decent life, Always positive on each other and helpful. I really love her. Just 3 days ago I came back from Japan where I went regarding my Job, she and her parents have surprised me in the airport when since I was not expecting them. The next day she is a usual, I shared my experience in Japan and how lovely the place is, She wished she could go with me,etc. Yesterday, suddenly she seems really off from the morning, Off enough to understand something is wrong, Even if I ask something she would just ignore or go somewhere else.... I didn't bother as I though she is busy, And later in the evening when I was about to take a bath, She comes to me and said "we need to talk", I asked what happened, She just said "I'm sorry but I want a divorce". I did not get what was happening and asked if anything was wrong, she said nothing is wrong it's just she wants a divorce, if I were to stop she will do anything against it. next morning I tried to make some conversation but she has refused to reply to any. I have contacted her parents wherr she visits once or twice in a week, I have confirmed that they do not have any idea of it... I have tried to ask her if I did anything wrong or if anything happened, She would just say nothing is wrong or just would not say anything... What should I do?

I was married to a man for 6 years, with him 11 and have a 6 year old daughter with him. He left me over a year ago for another woman. He was always mentally abusive toward me but physical the last year of marriage. He would throw things, break items, he choked me several times, smacked me once and in January 2015 I am extremely thankful to finally be safe and away from the situation. I have been fighting for custody of are daughter ever since. Due to rages, I know he wouldn't hurt her physically. But I can see the damage he does to her mentally. I am also afraid if he looses his temper with his new wife. Who is going to protect my daughter the way I tried to. I went to court 2 weeks ago over the custody but it was put into a recess until December. But during trial, my lawyer tore into him and done a great job. The look on my exs face was pure rage the same face I seen many times before he snapped. But for once he couldn't do anything. I left the court room smiling and happy to finally get him and he couldn't harm me. But for the past week I keep seeing his face in my head and I start to have small anxiety attacks then start reliving everything again. The rape was over a year ago but for the past few days and specially tonight it effecting me worse than ever. I don't have health insurance right now so I can't go back to my therapist. I am just wondering if anyone else fills this way a year after something happens to them. Or was my ex always right I am crazy.

So my husband has been acting weird way before we were married. He is always giving me fashion tips and stuff. Recently he's been doing it more and more giving me advice on what to wear. Whenever I wear a tank dress or a tube dress he is like go put on a cardigan because you don't wanna reveal too much and wear black pumps it will look good with the outfit. I just find it so weird that he is giving me tips like something that a woman would give tips to her friend. Even when we go out shopping and I go into the shoes section he would be like get another pair of pumps or he would say something like oh these heels are like 7 inches and oh gosh they look so sexy and you should get them. I also have a suspicion that he is wearing my clothes and heels too because I found some dresses in the hamper that I don't remember taking out and wearing it. Is he gay if he is acting like this and giving me fashion advice ?

Basically, long story short, I smoked openly when we first met. After we became serious he began to oppose it, so a couple years into our relationship I tried to quit, but couldn't. I have been battling my addiction for 5 years and resorted to smoking behind his back for the majority of that time. Within the last 6 months he caught me smoking and we had a heart to heart. I was honest with him and told him I couldn't quit. So then I got an e-cigg because ive known several people who were able o quit with e-ciggs. I've had it for a week. I told him about it. I still am not comfortable smoking it around him because of how judgmental he is, but have, like 3 or 4 times in the last week taken a puff in front of him. Tonight he saw me use it and was like "I thought you got that thing so you would quit smoking". I said, "yeah, I did, I don't smoke cigarettes anymore", to which he replied "yeah but you're smoking more than ever now". I asked him if he thought cigarettes and e-ciggs were the same thing, and he said yes! This is why ive never been able to quit. He's not supportive or understanding. He just berates me. He's by far the straightest guy you've ever known. Never smoked, never tried any drugs, barely drinks. So he doesn't understand at all. He just thinks I'm weak. Where do I go from here? I was tired of hiding my smoking, but I knew I couldn't quit. Ive tried over and over again for so long. So I thought if I got an e-cig that would be an acceptable compromise and I could just do away with the secrets and avoid all the fights. But it's still not good enough. Please don't comment if you've never personally experienced addiction. I realize more and more that it's something some people just don't understand. Like, I don't understand what he was expecting or what he means by "I thought that was supposed to help you quit smoking". It's a substitution. It's not just $100 hunk of junk that I carry around which magically makes me quit. wtf? I've looked into government help programs, but he's always like "Why would you do that? You don't need that. Taht's stupid. Just quit being weak and stop on your own". So I never follow through, cuz I don't know how im supposed to do it on my own. I try to explain it to him, but he wont listen. He just wants it to magically be done.

Whenever my back hurts, my lovey wife always mixes me up this weird paste and i go in the shower and run it on my back and the pain just seems to go away for the night. I want to know why the mixture does this "magical" thing. I don t want to make my wife feel bad because she isn t actually sure why it works either, she learned the recipe from her mother who is now passed. The mixture is mostly coconut oil and sugar with a few drops of tea tree oil and just a splash of lemon juice. Is there Anybody that can tell me why his is THE BEST thing I have ever used?

at vegas4rm CA.got kickd out the club&stayed cos my friends were still in the club, phone dead, no money, scared.Charged for trespasing.Help

This is a serious question please no playful answers.

I think it should be separate.

When we were engaged we were having sex twice a week.

My husband lost his job two months ago.He actively looking for another one.We have no savings.I make a low income that I spend every penny out of to support the family but that's not enough to cover all the bills. I think my husband could drive uber while he is looking for another job but he has not. I've got some premarital assets in my bank account.Should I spend money out of it to pay the rest of the bills? I am very confused and feel helpless in that situation. My husband wants me to open my saving account. I would not mind doing it if he tried to make some income but he spend all his time looking for a new job. He could work nights and weekends

My 25 year old step lives with my wife and I. Although she seems ok with me marrying her mom I have always felt like she just tolerates me. She says very little to me if anything at all. I do things for her all the time like giving herr a ride to the train station every morning so she can go to work. Now she has never been rude to me or has said anything negative to me. But have you ever had that feeling that a friend or family member really doesn t like you but is nice to you because you are family even if it is through marriage? I would really like to have a better relationship with her but don't know how. My wife says that's just the way she is but I have seen her around other people and she is very outgoing and friendly. I sometimes feel like I am annoying her so I have been trying to just not say much to her. I guesss you can't make someone like you. It just makes me a little sad. Update. My step daughter sees her biological father rather regularly cause he lives about 10 minutes from us. Also I just recently married her mom but have been with her for 6 years before we married. My step daughter was living with her boyfriend at his parents home but moved back in with us and has been with us now almost two years. She is still with her boyfriend just not living woth him because of where he lives and where she works.

My former father in law (I am divorxed from his son) keeps telling me the details of his new relationship and the physical and mental health problems his new girlfriend has. My husband told me I should tell him I'm not interested in hearing about it because it's too personal. He tells me this stuff when he comes over to my house to babysit. Why does he tell me this stuff and what should I do?

A woman goes on a date with a guy and he takes her out and treats her nice then she says "her heart hurts for him" because of the way his sound system in his car is set up and she keeps suggesting he fix it then and there.

My fiancé and I have been together 4 years and engaged a few months. I JUST moved in with him last month. I am 27 (he's 29) and my family hates that we are living together before being married. We just set a date and found a venue, but our wedding won't take place until 10 months from now. My mom says we can't stay in the same room if we visit until we are married. She acts as if he's my boyfriend. She's constantly suggesting that he's "wasting my time". She's impossible to please. I am likely just not going to go. She says she's not being unreasonable. Who is right? Is it normal for parents to act this way? Or is she just insane?

I m 25 and had female friends mostly few gf but each time something bad happenes even with my wife which I m separated now. It s getting ridicolous

Say you meet up with a hot broad and she wants to do you with no strings....There's no love involved....is that still cheating?

The second law of side action states that in order for side action to be rewarding, the other broad must be greater than or equal to wifey on the hotness scale.

My wife is 5 months pregnant with our son. She does nothing but cry everyday. She mostly cries at night. She cries over every little thing. She's been telling me all day she's afraid of me leaving her. I told her I would never even think of leaving but she's really afraid. How can I help her feel better ?

She says this over and over to defend why she divorced my Dad. My Dad has said the same thing before. I feel it is all my fault because of this and I need to make it up somehow now that I am an adult (I was a kid age 9 when they divorced). So since my mother says this was it my fault? How do I make up to them?

like this past Wednesday night we spent the day together and went out to dinner and for drinks afterwards and when we got back to my apartment we were laying in bed and he was trying to initiate sex with me but I wasn't in the mood for it so when he started touching me I said to him. "Im sorry babe not tonight please I'm not in the mood " and he said ok. He didn't force me or anything he stopped touching and me and said I'll see you later and he just got up and left. why did he leave? I was looking to just cuddle with him but I had to cuddle with teddy bear instead :( help me?

This is an extremely sore subject and my dark secret that I have never revealed about myself to anyone. Im super ashamed of myself because of it and I get anxiety and depression over it. how do I go about it or should I just watch foot videos instead?

I've recently learned of my husbands inflation fetish. I find this very uncomfortable and I don't know what to do with this situation. Any tips?

because I'm becoming extremely angry at her.

My friends say that I'm crazy, but honestly, I want to marry cheetos! My dad is a priest, and I'm sure I can convince him to conduct the ceremony. I dont know if the cheetos will rot, though. Are there any ways to preserve them? I've even bought a wedding ring. 18 karat gold, with a diamond. (Small, but noticible.) I had to beg my dad for money for it, but its worth it! But I want some opinions... Everyone I've told this about says I'm nuts. What do you think?

he always goes to "The store" sometimes comes home with nothing, most of the time its because hes going to his work to do something but other times he says hes going to hang out with my uncle. My mom always asks ME where he is (idk why) and my dad asked me about it and said if she asks anything say hes home and he WILL PAY ME $10 FOR EACH...thats shady af and im scared that he is. I was also thinking about putting a cam or an old phone in his car where he cant see to see where he goes. Plz HELP. I plan on figuring out my dads phone password and checking his messages...i understand its not right and i shouldn't do it but i have to know for sure... Wish me luck

He husband was diagnosed with ptsd and i honestly don't know what to think of him or this anymore... he's a very cold man he keeps grudges against his family and something happend with my family and he gave me an ultimatum its either him or my mom. I feel like hes trying to turn me into a mini him. I dont know what to think about him anymore. He likes to be a loner and now that he got out of the military he treats me like a dog. He used to be a nice guy but these past 2 years have been rough. Some days he treats me like a princess he loves to cuddle and what not. But then theres other days where he tells me to shut the f up and he gets super mean. Were in the process of moving into an apartment. Last night he bought himself water and food and he didnt bother to bring me anything. I was supposed to meet up with my family to say goodbye and he did not let me use the car.He can be the sweetest and he can be a very mean man. He likes to push people away and i feel like he is very mean to me but i feel like he does it so he can push me away. Our marriage is not the same anymore. But im confused cause when im gone for a day or 2 he misses me and sometimes he gets pretty depressed. But other days when were together 24/7 i irritate him. He also said he prefers to be alone instead of being married. Do people with ptsd do this? I dont know if i can keep being treated like a damn dog any longer. I love him so so much but honestly he makes me feel so alone when he treats me like a dog.

I'm 22 and all the guys that ever approach me are 40 and up. Why don't guys my age approach me ? And why would a guy old enough to be my father think I'd ever be interested in having sex with him ? Does this mean that if am still single at 40 that no guys will want me because they are too busy chasing women young enough to be their daughters, women who won't want them anyways and I'll be left single ? I don't know what to do

I don't want to ever get married, but I'm terrified I will change my mind because of getting caught up in my emotions. I don't like the idea of living with someone. Just the thought of marriage makes me feel trapped and I feel extremely anxious. I want nothing to do with it, and I want to force myself to never change my mind. Do I have a fear of marriage? If so, how can I keep the fear so I never get married? I will force myself to always fear marriage, because I refuse to ever get married! I'm petrified of changing my mind. This question belongs under Marriage & Divorce, please stop changing my category! PLEASE STOP!!! STOP BULLYING ME!!!! PLEASE STOP!!!!!!!!!! I WILL ******* KILL YOU WHOEVER IS CHANGING MY CATEGORY!!!!!

This question belongs under Marriage & Divorce. Please stop changing my category! PLEASE STOP!!! PLEASE STOP BULLYING ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I WILL ******* KILL YOU WHOEVER IS CHANGING MY CATEGORY!!!!!

I've had a lot of trust and abandonment issues with guys in my past, the biggest being my dad. He never really kept his word or was there for me. So when I started dating, when a guy would promise something, it made me feel reassured and I felt like it was genuine. Well, I'm now married, so promises from my past boyfriends were abviously a big lie. My husband had made me certain promises and swears by them. I've been married to him for almost 2 years, and we've been together over 5 years. He has never really given me a reason not to trust him and he knows how much promises mean to me. He has the same morals and values as I do, so since he's made some promises in our relationship/marriage do you think I can trust them?

This is long but please please please read and share your 2 cents... My husband's 2 kids live with their mom and I have 2 from my previous marriage. Our 4 kids range from 10 to 13 yrs old. I love his kids to bits and they know it. HIs kids and their mom lived 30 minutes away but they recently moved 2 hours away for a job. We still have them every other weekend. Kids this age look forward to the state fair every year, and the state fair is here now. Well HIS KIDS WENT LAST WEEKEND TO THE STATE FAIR WITH THEIR MOM. The fair will be here in town this weekend and I plan on taking my kids. My husband plans on being at work on the weekend. Well his kids will be with us for the weekend. My husband has been saying he has no money for bills, no money for groceries no money for this and that. I have been carrying a big financial burden which sometimes includes getting his kids what they need. Well I asked him what the plan was for this weekend and he said his kids can stay home while I go to the fair. I know it will be hurtful to a child to stay home while the other half of the house goes to the fair. So he said he will borrow the money so that his kids have money to go to the fair. I don't want us to go in debt over the fair and I told him I don't think that's a wise financial decision. What would you do in my shoes?

So my husband and I have been married for almost 3 years.. And dated for 2 years prior. When we first got together neither one of us had many friends. It was us, us, us all the time and I loved it! About a year ago we bought a home and now he loves throwing wild parties and having a bunch of people over. I love to party and so this is fun for me sometimes but it's gotten to be like an every weekend thing and if its not at our house its at one of our other friends houses. We all party until like 5 or 6 in the morning and I'm just exhausted from this every weekend. He knows how I feel about it these days and how it makes me feel like he doesn't enjoy mine and his company together like he used to. I feel like any weekend where its just us that he isn't happy and would rather be surrounded with other people. Am I over-reacting to this? Please don't post mean things. We have a happy marriage. This is just such a touchy subject for me and I don't know what to do or how to handle it. I'm 23 and he is 28.

My husband forced to me marry him. He said he fell in love with how cultured, mannered, and pious I am. He is none of those things himself! Since he belongs to rich family, he was very arrogant and spoiled. He dated and slept with many girls before we got married. That is why I did not want to marry him. Looking at his academic achievements, family background, and wealth, my family immediately said yes to his marriage proposal. I am a Muslim, and I belong to religious, conservative, and strict Muslim family. My family is middle class. I was raised with a deep understanding of my religion. I was a virgin until I was married. My husband says he loved that I had never been touched by a guy before him! I am happy with him today, and loves me ALOT! We have three boys together. But back then I hated him! I wanted a pious and religious husband for myself, he he couldn't be farther from that! I had seen his true colors before got married. He would flirt with every girl. He tried to flirt with me as well. But I did not give him what he wanted! He says, that's what he liked about me! He says, he also loves that I always others with respect. Now, he is so loving, caring, kind, and compassionate as a husband. But I think it is very hypocritical of him to want a pious wife, when slept around! What Him think that a women doesn't want pious husband?

Every time we go out in public I notice my wife eyeing black men, especially big muscular ones with extra dark chocolatey skin that glistens in the sunlight. It makes me feel uncomfortable and I've told her to stop but she denies that she looks at them and told me I'm crazy. Its gotten to the point that I don't even feel comfortable being out in public with her because I know she will be looking at black men and making me feel awkward. What can I do?

So I like to wear tube dresses sometimes and I often would wear a cardigan over it to cover up a little since it is quite revealing. My husband complains about it and wants me to take it off whenever I wear it but I don't want to. I don't want to walk around in public wearing a tube dress without covering myself up. I don't get why he is mad because I can take the cardigan off for him when we get home. Why is he mad over something small like this ?

Unless you want to father an incel loser who will probably kill himself or spend his whole life crying himself to sleep while women continuously reject him then you need to find a tall, robust woman with a large bone structure, wide face, and masculine jaw to have sons with. The reason there are so few alpha males on this planet is because alpha males tend to seek out the most feminine looking women. If you look at the most masculine studs out there, all of them have manly looking mothers. The most popular guy who went to my highschool back in the day was an absolute slayer. He was 6'3"230 lbs of pure muscle by the time he was 16. He had a wide skull, big chin, big jaw, broad shoulders, big wrists, and a huge frame. He had sex with the whole cheerleading squad and he supposedly even had sex with the hottest 28 year old teacher in our school. His mother was a dog. She looked like Chyna the wrestler. His dad wasn't even an alpha and he wasn't masculine at all. He looked like an incel cuck. He was a beta provider. But because he procreated with a manly woman he created a genetically superior son. All studly men have robust mothers. It seems that these genes pass from the mother, not the father so it is important for men to seek out robust women not delicate dainty super feminine women. I hate my father for choosing a feminine woman. My mother has a very feminine face with a weak jaw. She has a narrow skull and thin wrists. I inherited her lithe features. If my father would have chosen a robust woman to procreate with then I would be a studly alpha slayer. Right now I am not even a beta, I am an omega. I can't get any women. I am an incel. Beta males with low testosterone who marry feminine high estrogen women end up with asperger's omega incel sons. That's a proven fact. I have hooded bedroom eyes, pillowy lips, a 6'1" figure and am educated with a BMW yet women still don't want me. All women deep down want a brutish looking man to ravish them.