I've adopted a stray cat. I call him Marty. He's not the most aesthetic cat in my opinion because he's not a special breed, he's just a standard mutt. I was thinking of buying a Maine Coon or Dollface Persian Cat because they're better looking but I know that women have soft spots for men who "rescue" animals. I thought hey why not kill two birds with one stone--rescue a cat and make myself more attractive to women? By the way, what do you think of my lips? I think they're quite pillowy for a white man and very aesthetic.

Mine is 6'8'' and I am pretty average. Our baby is 26'' at 4 months.

I told my husband we are having,twins and i think he is freaking out he has been quiet lately and barely speaks to me, and seems down and mad sometimes.

I have the most hopeless infatuation with one of my managers. We're both 25, he's a little younger than me though. He's been married since his late teen years. He has caught me looking at him so much lately. I get kind of nervous around him and sometimes when we make eye contact or he's near me, I can't hide my smile. I added him on Facebook last night and he accepted almost right away. Is it wrong to hint to a married guy that you have feelings for them? My friends/family have always said I am transparent when it comes to my feelings. And no, I don't seek an affair. He's IN LOVE with his wife, it's obvious all over FB and he always talks about her. Plus, I am not that type of person. I am not "throwing" myself at him. I barely talk to him the majority of the time. When we do talk, it's almost always about work. I'm not a skank. I just.....what guy doesn't like knowing somebody OTHER than his wife has feelings for him? Yes Stella, that's why I never plan on getting married dear.

I just don't see myself being happy married. I want marriage, but at the same time I don't. I like having a companion, but I don't think I would like having the same companion for life. I also don't see myself enjoying living with someone, I see it as more of a burden. I also don't want kids. Am I just not right for marriage? It's not about meeting the right person, this is about how I personally feel. Meeting the "right person" is merely infatuation and it distorts what you truly want. I was never "up and down" about marriage, I've always felt this way.

Like if you're 16-22 & your boyfriend is 39-56 besides the money and probable true love why do women date older men these are the only relationships I know I try to save these young girls but they don't realize all the other men use them for sex. I guess I'm too emotional because I always end up being the other guy

What I'm saying is that if your husband works all of the time, meaning 12-16 hours a day at times and even sometimes on Saturdays, is it really wrong to look elsewhere for affection? I mean I don't really love the other guy, I love my husband and we only meet up a couple of times a week, but it's just nice to be around someone who cares about me. Is that really so bad? It's been going on for a month and I'm starting to feel guilty about it especially since my husband is saying how sorry he is that he can't be around me as much. But I can't see ending it since I do get lonely at times in that way, if you know what I mean. What should I do end it or keep it going for now?

Yesterday my mother's boytoy went to a music festival to watch the bands black sabbath, slipnot, disturbed, megadeath, anthrax, trivium, and other crappy bands play. He took my mother with her and she was so giddy when she got back. She doesn't even listen to metal. I used to like these bands when I was a teenager and she used to yell at me when I played the music in the house. She took ended up taking my CDs away. She said only trashy people like that kind of music. But now that she's dating a wannabe musician she all of the sudden likes that kind of music. Her boyfriend is such a loser that he is the drummer of a metal tribute band that he started with his lame friends as a hobby. Her boyfriend is very immature. He also has a tattoo on his left arm and has pierced ears. My mother always said she would never date a man with tattoos and piercings but clearly she has made an exception for Steve. He is definitely not worth making exceptions for or compromising morals for! He is a degenerate.

I don't know what freaks me out about marriage, or why I'm so freaked out about it. Marriage just isn't something I can see myself enjoying in the first place, though. So maybe I'm just not right for marriage, and that's why it freaks me out? I just don't like the idea of spending the rest of my life with someone

Like if you're 16-22 & your boyfriend is 39-56 besides the money and probable true love why do women date older men these are the only relationships I know I try to save these young girls but they don't realize all the other men use them for sex

I mean seriously, more and more jobs are just becoming cruddy part time jobs, and no self-respecting guy or lady will date or marry someone trying desperately to get somewhere in life versus someone who's already there. Besides, you've gotta get more money and pay off your debts and penny pinch like crazy anymore, which means you have no chance of getting a good date or marriage since most marriages and relationships fall like crazy, leading to more money waste and more debts and more problems and poverty. Also, pets cost more and more and are getting unaffordable, even something like fish require big money and time commitment which we don't have now. And most pets are so badly bred that you'll just pay through the nose to keep them OK like going to the vet or even just constantly having to give them meds and clean their cage or tank And now it's basically impossible to raise good, level-headed kids and live OK unless you're from rich or upper middle class families. And this absolutely has to do with marriage and dating and divorce, which is why I asked it here.

I would like very much to be married, but men are rare and dating opportunities are scarce. I had dreams for my life when I was young and it's so disheartening to think of resigning myself to a lifetime of singleness. There are so many women out there longing for a husband, and there is a huge shortage of men. Sometimes I just lose heart because it seems like my odds are so dismal that I am more likely to win the lottery. I want to be married very badly. My father is always making me feel like crap because I don't have children, and I am sure I could get pregnant but I can see myself hating my life as a single mother. I feel ostracized and shunned socially. I look at these other women with husbands and I don't know how they managed to do it. I have become very depressed and I occasionally have suicidal thoughts because I don't think things will ever get better, but fear holds me back from killing myself. What if I killed myself and then things were on the cusp of getting better the day I was buried? That would be so sad. In North Carolina women outnumber men 9 to 1. Things are very dismal here, and most of the extant men are unemployed or married.

I like her company a lot, but I'm still a single guy with no plans of getting married. Would it be wrong for me to meet her without her husband around? She's just a friend.

Women when they are young often hook up and casually date alpha male men, who are outgoing, funny, tall, handsome, muscular, etc but then they marry nerdier beta male guys who are skinny or fat, act more meek and feminine, and are usually less outgoing, have less masculine energy, etc. Basically they hookup with guys like Chris Hemsworth or Chris Evans, etc when they are young, and marry guys like Sheldon Cooper etc

if your going to give marriage rights to people who are Gay you had better God dam well give them to everyone else and that even goes for people who believe its alright to have sexual relationship's with Animals. Right now somewhere in America their is a brother that is having sex with his sister and they deserve the same happiness as everyone else in America if they want to get married nothing should stand in their way and that means even you people who oppose it. For the record you cannot say yes to one and no to the other your no better than everyone else and nothing makes you special. Incest should be legal in every state in America and family should be allowed to marry family.....just as a man should be allowed to marry 4 women if thats what he wishes to do its his life not yours

Why exactly are you against gay marriage? Keep your answers clean and respectful please, just be honest as to why. I will not judge you for your reasons.

Nor the couple s love for each other. A divorce still hurts a couple wether or not they have kids. Right?! Thanks for not being mean to me others, or attacking me!

my mom says he is masturbating, to make sure my mom said to inspect shower drain for goo in drain and sure enough the dirty perv is doing this, do I confront him?

He's always rearranging everything I do, even the way I put on our kids diapers or socks. He's always full of criticism about everything I do. Sometimes I just let it go, but other times it gets on my nerves. Please advise.

My husband and I are very happily married! I love, and trust him more than anything in the world, but I m a very insecure person and I worry a lot about things. He talks to his ex wife a lot. They have a 16 year old child together,That s fine I have no problem with them talking about there child,but they talk about everything not just there child.about things that remind them of each other, and just talking just to talk. He also calles her."toots" which is a cute name he calls me. I tell him it upsets me, but he gets mad and we start an argument because he believes im accusing him of cheating on me even tho he assures me all the time there is absolutely nothing there between then.I ask him to at least let me know when he talks to her and he dose for the most part but still hides it from me, and gets mad every time I mention her or get upset about her. Should I be worried or am I just insecure

At the risk of sounding stupid, I m curious if my husband s behavior is a form of mental/emotional abuse. Here s the most recent example of what happened: I love my mattress. I ve had it since before I met him, and he loves his mattress. I don t sleep well in his mattress and he doesn t slee well in mine, yet for the past few months since we ve moved into our new house, we ve slept on his mattress while mine remained in he guest room. Unbeknownst to me, while I was at work yesterday, he switched them, and when I came home he asked me to sit on the bed to see if I noticed anything different. I told him I didn t and we went about our evening. He kept asking strange questions regarding the bed over the course of the evening, and I kept saying I didn t notice a difference (remember, I had been sleeping on his mattress for months now, with variable results). Then he told me that he had switched mattresses while I was at work to prove a point, that as soon as I found out it was my mattress it was suddenly better. I slept like a rock last night, and yes it was because it was my mattress, but my husband said he slept horribly but he traded mattresses to do an experiment, to prove that I can t look at stuff objectively. This is just one of several incidences where he seems to want to prove a point, to make me feel stupid or a fool. Is this normal marital behavior?

My husband and his brother have always had a rocky relationship but when we got married things got worse. My brother in law set our new house on fire while I was inside, I did get burned but not too much (left shoulder blade to the back of my neck)but I do suffer from PTSD which I do go to therapy for . His brother was charged with attempted murder and arson. This happened a few months ago, my husband feels so guilty about it. I can tell it's eating him away, he has lots weight and doesn't talk or have sex with me as much but has been really paranoid. What makes it worse is that I sometimes wake up from night terrors. I always try to joke about what happened and say stuff like it has given me an excuse to redecorate. I can't imagine what he is going through, his brother is in prison for nearly killing his wife. I've tried to sit down and try to have a conversation about what happened and he allows avoids it. I've tried to make couples therapy but he doesn't turn up or cancels last minute. I know I can't force him to do anything. I just want to ease the pain for him. I don't blame him and do want everything to do back to normal. Anything that I can do ?

It was only the 1st time she caught me so it is not like I am some chronic cheater. How do I get her to get over it? It has been 2 months since I saw the girlfriend last and I told her I'd break it off. My wife and I have been married 13 years and have 3 kids I should add my wife is prone to over react to things like this that are not that big a deal.

my wife was a virgin when we married (and i w0uld n0t have married her 0therwise), but she d0es n0t care if i sleep with 0ther w0men a sl0ng as they are sl utty and far em0ved fr0m 0ur s0cial circles its n0t cheating bc i d0nt lie t0 her ab0ut it. she kn0ws and it d0es n0t negativly affect 0ur relati0nship. we have a great marriage and family. she is als0 very c0nfident and has every reas0n t0 be that way. she is y0ung in her physical prime and beautiful, has a first rate classical western educatin, is n0t a freel0ader and capapbel 0f living a fashinable lifestyle n ber 0wn, and c0mes fr0m an influential and 0ld family with many n0ble deeds t0 their credit.

I want to like my parents but I cant. My Dad I like but am mad at and my mother I cant look at without being mad. It has been 12 years since they divorced. I put on a nice act because I love them but like and love are two different things. My mother divorced my Dad which is why my anger is so much stronger at her. My Dad however was not open to my mother's anxieties in life so that was his error. She on her end attacked my Dad verbally all the time like a nasty teacher does to a weak student. They were married 23 years and their marriage went bad at year 14 when my mother's son (my Dad's step-son) committed suicide. He was 21. My mother resented my Dad as part of her grieving. She allowed her son's legacy to be that he wrecked his parent's marriage by his suicide. He was mentally ill (had severe anxiety and some Bipolar). So anyway not to go on and on but I am 30 now and my parents have been divorced a while and it would be nice if I could forgive them. I used to like them a lot. I was an easy kid with really good parents. They failed me and my siblings, my mother especially. All the values they taught us I feel are thrown out the window by their divorce. I already had some issues with my mother because of how she would alienate us as kids from whichever family member she would be arguing with on a given year. But otherwise she was a very good and protective mother. How can I forgive them or even trust them again? Both parents had one kid from a previous marriage and their previous divorces were okay because they were short marriages and they married people young. My Dad married someone only because his Dad had died and my mother married a guy who left her and his son never to be heard from again (didn't even come to his son's funeral) so she was the victim the first time. This time my parents are wrong and it affects me because it is MY parents (last time I wasn't alive yet)

Ok for example, this morning I had to take my medicine so I made me some toast. I came back in the bedroom he gets mad because I didn t bring him anything. The other day I asked him to take out the trash. For three days he said I will so I finally took it out. He gets mad at me for doing it. Now when he gets mad he cusses and says things like I don t care or whatever. I stand up for myself I m being an *** or have an attitude. He always apologizes later but I am Starting to walk on egg shells around him. I don t know what to do to fix it or what to do to help. Anybody got any answers?

Ok so my boyfriend hanged out with his guy friend on Friday . just the usual drink smoke play pool and play video games. Saturday morning I came over. He promised me that day was our day. Well he claimed he was tired and hungover from the night before so he's just going to watch tv and stay in and sleep. I was disappointed but not surprised at least I had him next to me. Even though that means we won't go out since he was worn out from the night before . Ok so pretty much the same friend ended up calling the same night and guess what ! My boyfriend got up and went to go hang out with him again ! After he promised me it was out night even though it meant I would've gone the tired part of him and just stayed in on a Saturday night. Well I told him I'm leaving he told me to stay here and wait for him . I said he'll no and left. Do you think I had a reason to be mad ? I haven't contacted him today is Sunday . Its crazy how he's tired to hang out with me somewhere just wants to hang in. But when his friend called now he's able to leave the house ? And after he promised me that not only would he hang out with me but if his friend called he wouldn't chill. They just hung out the night before anyway ? Can someone explain whays going on ?

People use the excuse that, "oh I was drunk, I didn't know what I was doing" and all that bs. Drunk actions are sober thoughts. In my opinion you wanted to cheat, but you were scared. Being drunk, all it does is make you care less and do stuff wouldn't dare to do but want to do while you're sober

We were driving and we saw a billboard at it said useless boyfriend? Call this number and we'll fix your problem! And I said to him maybe I should call that number but I said it in a jokingly way and his response was just think if I was dead you wouldn't have to see me again and you can go find yourself a new boyfriend. And then he threw my anniversary gift at me and said happy fcking anniversary to you too. I felt so bad and tried to apologize but all he said was don't talk to me and get out of my car. He won't answer my texts and I feel bad now. I opened his gift and it was a gorgeous diamond bracelet:( I'd be devastated if he died please help me:(

We dated for 3 months, to find out he was separated but still married to his wife. (I HAD NO IDEA)..he then got back with his wife and after a month he left his wife. We still communicate but my gut feeling tells me to cut this guy OFF.should I give him an explanation or should I just do it.

"Martha and Whit were passionate for each other and for literature." Her own memoir seem be mention about a divorce with her second interest , lol , I guess this a lesson teach

I'm straight and in my 40s. I've never been married. No, I'm not gay; I just don't want a relationship. I've had enough needy, dramatic, time-consuming girlfriends who play mind games, all instead of just being enjoyable. So I'd rather focus my time on getting ahead in the workplace (and I work very, very long hours, including nights and weekends); spending time at church; and seeing family when I can; that's a better use of my time now. Anyone else in this same position? Basically, is it weird not to want to date/marry if you've had terrible girlfriends who've turned you off from the idea? This applies to women who've had bad boyfriends. Thanks.

I have been w the same woman for 2 years. Living together most of it. Met online which she kept her online ad up for 8 months after we committed. she also keeps in contact w 2 other woman that she slept w that she met online (yes we are gay) which I have not met as she won't allow it & she forgot to mention in the first 6 months of our relationship she slept w both woman stated prior they were only friends They ended up falling in love w her so I spoke up & said Im not comfortable with her continuing a texting/friend relationship until I meet them. Btw.I still haven't met them 2 years later. My gf has been a heavy drink for the past year tells me Im to blame for her drinking, her work stress, reason why she can't hang out w these 2 woman, why she can't lose weight, She drives drunk w her 12 yo nephew. I believe in security, respect,loyalty, compassion, when being in a committed relationship. I feel I don't get that. She compares me to her worst employees & calls me their names. So I speak up &ask her to please stop and to please treat me with respect. She instead gets all mad when I bring up anything & immediately says Im the reason she isn't allowed to anything & states that she is not doing anything wrong. I know the good side and the bad side of her I'm hoping that the right person wins. I need advice on what I can do to be a better person to her & need to know if I am the reason to all of her problems. And in return I keep taking the blows from her??

So my Dad has a friend who is male age of 36. These past few days he has been non stop staring at me and saying that he would marry me. He says that I'm the most beautiful girl he knows but he has a wife. I'm only 16 so I don't know what to do! Please help?!

it has been 1 year since I broke up with my ex and have regretted it ever since. He was devastated but has since moved on and is in a long term relationship with someone else now. All of my attempts to get him back have been futile. The last I heard from him was earlier this year when he sent me a text asking how I was. I was excited, thinking we might have a chance at reconciling. But he told me he was still with his gf and he proposed to her. I sunk into a depression after that conversation. It has gotten better, but still my heart aches for him. I have dated other men but nothing serious and none have compared to him. I'm back to being single and it hurts knowing I can never be with him again because he's getting married. I don't want this feeling to last another year but I don't know how to stop it. I also see him on social media and they look so happy, so I had to delete him off my social media because I was tired of being reminded of what I no longer have. When he was seeing her, he was flirting with me off and on, and even tried to get me to see him (have sex) while he was dating her, but I wasn't about to go from being te ex fiance to the other woman, so I declined his sexual offer. It confused me a lot. Can someone please help me with this?

I feel I need a girl opinion about this: I'm an army officer (not in USA) in a firefighting brigade & I'v just gotten engaged last month... My fiance is the most beautiful girl (inside out) I'v ever seen The problem however is that I have a very weak character Whenever there is free time my suprior officers enjoy giving me humiliating orders I once refused & was threatened with court marshal & I honestly don't want that on my record plus my family (specially my mum) wouldn't survive it Since my engagement they'v been targeting her, one day they call her & tell her I'v been badly injured & she needs to come to the station quick It was a trap I was there & they kept verbally harrasing her & she defended herself (she's very tough) but felt extremely threatened & at a point she ran into my arms & cried... They were all laughing & kept saying "yeah we ... your fiance slut what are u gonna do about it" & "ur future husband is a wimp" & I couldn't say or do anything, I'm used to humiliation now It's not about courage, I practice martial arts & I almost single-handedly put out 3 fires it's just my character I warned her about this, I told her I'm a weakling she wouldn't listen Now she says she believes I can change, I told her I think that's out of reach She's now very upset Should I break the engagement for her own sake & well-being so that she would find someone better than me? Okay dj, first thanks a lot for your answer Second, let's assume I can change Can u help with the questions u wrote; how can I stand up to them & how can I teach them their boundaries & how can I protect her from their teasing WHILE at the same time not losing my job, not getting demoted or court marshaled (basically dishonored / imprisoned for disobeying lawful (no matter how humiliating) orders from my superiors) & not getting bullied even more intensly by them or by officers above them ? I don't see any middle ground here, it's either I change & defend myself & her & lose everything as a result or I stay as I am & keep everything except her & my own dignity / self-respect (which they have already taken from me a long time ago) Look, I'm not sure about my self image but I don't feel "tough" I can step into a burning building & save 10 or more people & still not feel tough at all, just someone who's relatively good at his job nothing more I'm more afraid of these guys than I fear fire or injury or death because they have the power to end my career & possibly my whole future & my parents' happiness & well being with a stroke of a pen The only thing I can do is keep my head low & avoid them Their word is taken over mine forgrantedly because they are my superiors, I have absolutely no power, how can I even feel tough in such position, what strength could her love give me? Plus I get extremely nervous when I answer back, i sweat, my whole body shivers, my face turns red, my voice goes, sometimes I stutter, sometimes I lose my hearing, it feels like I'm dying I wanted to defend her that day, my body's reactions made me fail badly This doesn't happen with fires or martial arts training, it happens with them To the extent that I feel they could rape her in front of me & all I can do is faint U still think i can change? If u can answer in a comment I'd appreciate it

So he has pictures of other naked woman in his phone. And i know it sounds ridiculous and stupid for me throw a fit. But the truth is. That I'm fat and ugly and i know because i see my self in the morrow every day. And knowing that even if i lose weight i will never in 100 years look as beautiful as them so. When he calls me beautiful i kind of seem to believe it and it makes me feel special. But when i see those pictures. I feel like I'm not enough. Why can't he just look at me and love me the way i look. Just like i see him every day. I don't look around the internet for a sexy man. I see my husband as a beautiful piece of art. I love every single flaw in his body. Because that's the man i feel in love in the first place. I don't see any point in staring at other men. Why does he? Em i not perfect to him? Em i not enough? Is what i don't understand.  And yes. It makes me cry all the time

My friend and her husband have been having problems off and on. But it recently got really bad. So bad that she took the kids and went to her mom's house. Her husband messaged me on Facebook after she left and tried to hit on me. I told him he was being disrespectful and I screenshotted the messages and sent them to my friend. She told me that she confronted him about it and he became abusive with her and knocked her down. We were texting a lot earlier and we were supposed to have a girl's night out to vent. She said she went home and broke down and cried to him about how hurt she was, she wants a divorce, etc. Anyway, she hasn't texted back in a few hours and I'm getting worried since her husband has proven to be violent. What should I do? I thought about calling the cops or just driving out there and checking on her. But my mom is always warning me about how I tend to get into dangerous situations trying to help my friends.

I think if a man and woman do not have true chemistry, their sex will be gentle and relaxed. If they have real chemistry, he will not be able to resist the urge to ravish her like an animal and she will not have the ability to resist because she gains so much pleasure from this behavior of his. Animals know it. If you and your partner ain't having animalistic sex, it's not real chemistry. It's just playing around. Find you a real man, ladies. Do not settle for a guy who doesn't want to completely dominate you in bed. dominate you in the heat of passion*---not just any old domination!

MY four year old tapped car door next to us with his door. First thing the man did was get out of his car and scream at my 4 year old son saying what the hell is wrong with you kid. Then went to look at the door that got tapped for damage he ran his finger across door and claimed he could feel a dent lol. Then told my husband to run his figures across door to feel dent my husband refused and said there is no visible damage. He then asked for our insurance my husband said no there is no damage done. The man began shoving a camera in my husbands face taking pictures of him and license plate. My husband told him to get his camera out of his face or he will wack it out of his face. The man listened and took camera out of his face. then stood behind our vehicle after we got our kids in car to leave. My husband told me to get in drivers seat and start the car. My husband had to put his body weight and push the man away from rear of car so we could leave. He used his forearms and body weight to push man out of the way. As we left the man called the police. Is this something we can get in trouble for? Its not considered hit and run is it? we live in southern ca. None of the vehicles were turned on my sons door slightly touch his car door that's all? so stressed about this.

I went through a horrible break up 8 years ago and find that only since I found out he got married am I processing it; I think I always held out hope that he would come back. We were together for 9 years and when I nudged about planning for future/ marriage etc. he said we were on different pages and became a different person to me within a week. I think shock set in. He then tried to coach me and tell me I would be ok and that it will just be tough for awhile. once he relocated and bought a new home within months after, he called me on all holidays for the next year and even asked about my valentine's day which he self reportedly spent with his sister and brother in law. It was brutal what he did. Guys...why do men behave this way? Why can't they tell you the truth about why they are leaving after so long, and then give you peace by not bothering you anymore instead of stringing you along with more phone calls. why can't they say, I never loved you. I met someone else who will be a better fit. Anything beyond we are on a different page at 9 years together saying I love you and living together and planning a trip, etc. ?

Sorry but I am NOT sucking a NASTY hairy smelly uncircumsized (YUCK) cock. Besides I do not like it because I don't want to kiss a man after he licks my twot. I really MY pussy in MY mouth NOT? Name ONE woman who is NOT a PORN star that "enjoys" giving head? OH NO DICK WEED I AM STRAIGHT. My ex boyfriend beat up ****** men. wth is that called? Oh yeah GAY BASHER! We need MORE. I wouldn't screw a DIKE if someone PAID me. OK? I think butt fuking is a sin and SO IS SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE? Does ANYBODY believe i OK does ANYONE believe in JESUS CHRIST OUR LORD AND PERSONAL SAVIOR? stop SINNING. I am a virgin. Both of you rim job givers get a DISEASE from eating each other's feces.