I'm the account holder's brother. I think I'm a mama's boy. I love my mom a lot and miss her almost every day because I'm in college and barely get to see her. I talk with her on the phone a couple times a day (almost always less, though). I often get her opinion on things (dropping a class, where to work if I'm deciding between two jobs). I am independent though: I always cook for myself, my friends, and my family. I do my own laundry which is apparently a sign of being a mama's boy if your mom does your laundry. However, like I said, my mom and I are close and I can't imagine never visiting her like some people here do. I partially think it's cultural, because in my culture children don't move out until marriage and even then they try to find a house as close to their parents as possible.

So I'm 19 just moved out of my mom's a year ago been living fine. And long story short My mom isn't the average mother. When I was 13 I found out the man who raised me wasn't my real father. N I never knew my real father. Okay cool. So she's been collecting child support for me and still is when I'm on my own n I get no money from her. So I have 4 beautiful amazing siblings ages 2,7,7, and 10 and they absolutely love me and they are my world. They are my best friends. Well so I chose not to go to college and of course my mom is disappointed in me but I have a house a car and a job. So she gets mad when I can't babysit for her and she wants me to anytime between mon-sun. And get no pay. So we just got into a huge argument because I posted on social media I feel disappointed in myself for letting others down. And she took that as it was to her and now she told me she doesn't want me near the kids I can't see them or go to their school what do i do? Because I am depressed like no other and it can get worse.

In my experience as a female, I've noticed that in the end, most women will always favor their older brother in many things over their husbands or boyfriends. Why is that?

I'm 20 and I'm a virgin. I'm also in college which makes it worse. My parents have instilled in me to save sex until marriage. But... were they virgins when before they got married? My dad told me that when he was younger that his mom (my grandma) told him "if you're going to have sex with that girl, be prepared to marry her". What's making me suspicious is why would my grandmother have to say that? My grandma and my grandpa were got divorced when my dad was a teenager, and my dad knew what effect adultery outside of marriage had on his family (his dad cheated). It makes me conclude that my dad had sex while he was still in high school, but I'm just trying to gather more information from a psychological standpoint. Also, my mom was decently popular in high school (she got one of the senior standouts, was top of her class, etc.). I'm trying to figure out if there's a correlation there too. I just want to see if my parents are just the "do as I say, not as I do" type when it comes to this.

My family and I live in the same house but in separate flats (it's a house with 2 flats). I have lunch with them every day, and in the evening I go to their flat to take a snack and spend like an hour or so with mum. Lately she's accusing me that I don't ever show up, and she is giving me silent treatment (she makes sure she is already in bed in the time when I always go upstairs). When I ask her to come over to my flat, she says that she tried twice, and I was on the phone both times so she won't come anymore. I feel emotionally manipulated by her. I'm 25 years old, I'm not a child! What can I do to solve this stupid situation?

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i don't know some or alot of parents still do it or are old fashioned but seems liek these days everyone i know are allow to sleep in the same bed as their bf/gf in their parents house. but its different if they're married. my grandparents (mum's parents) had my dad sleep in the spare room when he moved in after him and my mum starting dating and my parents were the same when my ex stayed the night, he wasn't very happy about it and wanted to sleep in a bed i told him he couldnt when he asked me to ask my mum and he got angry with me. when i tell some people my parents don't allow boyfriends to sleep in my bed unless i'm married or got my own place, they said oh really or really that's weird. and im too scared to say anything about it if anyone asks me about it. i hate seeing photos of couples even couples younger than me (i'm 26) who take pics while in bed together and still living with their parents. i would love to fall asleep with someone and wake up next to them the next day and feel safe and have plenty of privacy if we want to be alone in my own room. i never had that before and i know its my parents house, their rules. i probably wouldnt feel comfortable either if i had kids so i can see where my parents and others are coming from. some say its disrespectable, some say there's nothing wrong with it and they should be allow to have sex in their own bed in their house. would love to hear your opinions.

I have a younger brother, he s 20 has no job, gets benefits and spends it on clothes and drugs and lives of family lending him money and food, he lives in a bed sit because he s stole out of everyone s house to buy drugs to the point everyone said enough is enough, he s constantly in my room no matter how many times I tell him to keep out, going through draws, wardrobes, taking clothes (expensive clothes we are talking £100 a t shirt) and has them on for days on end without even asking, I m sit of coming home and finding my room turned over for stuff, he s constantly trying to put me down to other family members saying **** like, "He s been raised with a silver spoon" but everything I have and own I have worked hard for, I work daily and try and show him but it s like he looks at me with hate, how can u hate your older sibling getting money and moving on in life? If I was in his shoes I d look at it as motivation but he looks at it like envy are jealousy, is he a snake? Should I cut him off?

So recently my girlfriend got placed into fostercare. She has become a close member of the family, however only some are aware we're dating. Because we're really conservative Christian, we had hoped to come out later in life to my family, to avoid issues with conflicting values while under my parent's control. My mom and brother know, but my dad does not. When she got taken, my parents immediately decided they wanted to take her in as a foster child, however her drug addicted father told them we were dating and she didn't lie about it. Still, due to the conservative nature of our household they've said they would have to wait and decide from there. It's been a month and no word on whether or not we've gained further consideration. It's been made clear the realtionship would be paused if we fostered her (for obvious reasons) and that we have her best intrest in mind. Meanwhile they've offered custody to her bio dad (who left before she was born) and to her drug addicted adopted dad but not a single word about us. We have a friend who has a ton of power at the staate level, and could help us and put pressure on them to allow us to foster her, but I was wondering if they could out her or I in the process? It's against the law for teachers and such, however I've never heard of this situation? Meanwhile, I can see her only 2 hours a week when she practically lived with us before. Help?

i was bullied throughout my primary school and high school years, but copped it worse in high school. A lot of the kids bullied me and always ask me if they could borrow a pen or whatever off me or money or ask me to buy something for them from the canteen. even though i only had enough money for myself, i still bought something for them or lent them my stuff. i didn't say no because i was too scared to and i thought they were being nice to me and i wanted them to like me. but the next they were mean to me again. they never paid me back when they said they would and sometimes i never got my stuff back they borrowed. one day i eventually said no to them when they asked to borrow a pen and they said oh, no need to be like that or no need to be a *****. then i felt bad even though i knew shouldn't of. then at uni i was going out with my ex at the time and he used me ans took me for granted, all the times we went out i was always buying him food and stuff and he never paid me back and one time i lent him $5 so he could buy a packed of smokes. one time we went to maccas he wanted me to buy him something but i only had enough money for buy myself something i told him that and then he gave me the silent treatment on the way back to his place. he once tricked into giving him $20, saying hell get his dad to give my dad money for fuel, but it didnt happen. he also cheated on me with his ex and treated me badly then i eventually dumped him after 6 months of hurt and pain. continued... he had a new gf a week later and did what he did to me to her, buying him stuff liek new phone and $200 shoes and far as i know they're still together 6 years later. I'm 26 now and i regret not standing up to myself more back then, i just let people walk all over me and take me for granted and i've lost so many over vthe years because of it. i was friends with a girl who used me to drive her around to guy's places so she could hook up with them and i had to wait around for her continued... when i wanted to go home and she never gave me money for fuel and one time she asked to buy her something from maccas and i did ans she said she would pay me back but she never did. if i saw all these people now, i would tell them how i feel and how much they really hurt me but they probaly wouldnt care.

So I got an invitation from my aunt to a get together in a few weeks when an out of town relative is visiting. She invited me and her siblings. It seemed unusual on the email list she had me and her siblings but not any of the other cousins except that this out of town relative knows me well (does not know my cousins very well). So should I be concerned she invited me by accident or since I replied "I saw you copied me and I would love to join and see him" should I assume she is going to know she invited me and I am not imposing (even if it were by accident)? I am hyper careful socially (I have asked weird questions before on here). However, I used to be the opposite and just show up places and be intrusive so I worry I still have that reputation 10-15 years later so I am now super careful. I don't want to ask "did you invite me by accident" because then I am just checking too much (which I also used to do). @Ashley M----I apologize for asking more then once, I won't ask any further (this was the 3rd time and 2nd in this section).

Life up where I live isn't treating me very well, I have no friends at the school I go to nobody even tried to converse with me, and it's breaking me apart and I need a fresh start or do online. My parents aren't very emotionally supportive and I've been diagnosed to PTSD. I talked to my grandma and she doesn't mind as long as I follow her rules and do what is asked of me. My grandma lives 30-60 minutes away from my parents not very far. But I need help convincing my parents we are going to discuss me moving out this Saturday and I'm scared they'll say no. I have written out points and what not, but I need more points thanks!

i'm 13, and she's 19. she told me to take out the trash and i didn't want to. i called her a b word and she hung her right hand way out and slapped my face!!! i got a red cheek ugh! i couldnt catch her hand and now im really mad! was she even right?

So my husbands cousin is getting married on Saturday about 2 and a half hours away. He didn't want to go to the wedding to begin with and still doesn't but I did. Then today my sister asked me if I wanted to go to the Elton John concert with her, also on Saturday. I love Elton John and really want to go. My dilemma is first off my husband doesn't see his dad's family often due to the fact that most of them live a few hours away so I feel bad that he wouldn't see them but his other cousin is also getting married soon. Second, my hustand and I hardly ever have a day off together since he only has weekends off and I never do, he would be spending most of the day by himself. I know this is probably a stupid question I just have a very hard time making decisions on my own and he won't tell me what I should do

I had to fly across the country for work for 5 days and I took my fiance with me. I rented him a car so he could get around while I was working that week. He ended up making an illegal U-turn and getting into an accident. The woman he got into an accident with is trying to sue him for $75k even though she wasn't hurt and only got a dent in her car. I'm starting to feel really bad about the whole thing, like it's partially my fault he's in this situation because I asked him to come along. I know I wasn't the one driving and I wasn't even in the car, but I feel like his family is silently blaming me for making him go out there with me in the first place :/ They haven't said anything directly to my face, but I can tell by the side comments they make when the situation gets brought up. I don't know what to do.

Now it is just my parents, and two siblings and my sister's family (she is married with two kids). Also my mother's sister sometimes comes. It is only September buy I am thinking of Christmas because once again this year there will be that sorrow. This will be year four since the last of the four grandparents died. There used to be big Christmas' with both sides of the extended family (Christmas Eve with Dad's side and Christmas Day with Mom's side). Now the extended family activities are in summer. I miss the old days and it makes Christmas depressing. How do I have a Merry Christmas.

So I just turned 23 in August and I live with my mother and her boyfriend. I am working and I do plan on going to college next semester. I do plan on moving out but its expensive living in NYC. I ve never lived on my own yet. And I m an only child so I have to admit I am nervous about making that step when the time comes. But I do want my own place. But , All of a sudden towels have gone missing in the house and my mom is blaming me in a indirect way. She s saying that I have to start buying my own towels and that I m grown now. And for some reason it kind of hurt to hear that. She says that her and her boyfriend will use the towels but now I have to buy my own. I looked in my room and couldn t find any at first. But now I checked in a a old bag and didn t realize that I did have one of the towels for a project I did for my birthday last month. But because she was so mad and said what she had said I decided not to even tell her because it won t even matter. I didn t realize it until after everything. I feel like I m a stranger in this house sometimes. When I m my own mothers daughter. Advice?

i m 18 and about to go off to college, i have a few medical issues, but they re all under control. my mom always calls and makes my appointments, she refuses to let me handle my own medicine, not because i m doing anything wrong with them but because she thinks i won t take it. (although i ve taken it all everyday for the past 10 years. and never given her a reason) she picks up and drops off every prescription she can and takes me with her for those that she can t get without me. she calls and makes all my appointments without taking consideration of my schedule. every night i have to be home at 5:00. on weekends 11. i ve threatened leaving and my dad said "then get out" and when i walked out the front door it ended in a violent fight in the front yard and being chased down the street by my dad. i want to get out, i have no money, my parents won t let me get a job. i want to be in control of my own life and everything else, after all this time next year, i ll be on my own at college. i tried talking about it but that s what lead to the big fight. i tried telling my therapist about it but i feel like i can t say what i want to say because of course my mom forces herself to come with me everytime. i need a change but anytime i say something it gets thrown back in my face to make me feel guilty. what do i do? please help.

My 13 year old daughter came to me with what she thought was a problem. She had heard her brother tell his friend on the phone that he was going to spank the monkey. She was afraid he was going to hurt an animal. OH MY GOD. How do you explain to your daughter what her brother was really going to do? I explained to her what he really meant by what he said. That is when I got a BIG SHOCK. She said "If he was going to j**k off, why didn't he just say so and then I would know what he meant". He does that all the time. I must also have a talk with my son about locking the door to his room when he does that. Is my daughter growing up way to fast. Parents, (and teenage girls) please give me some guidance? Isn't 13 to young to know about all that stuff?

My boyfriend and I have known each other for about 8 years, best friends for 6 years and have been dating for about 2 years. My family has known about him as just my best friend in the begin of our relationship because I wanted us to present it to my parents once I've graduated high school (2 years ago). My parents are really old school and as any parent would, care about my education etc. before these type of things. Unfortunately before my graduation, my boyfriend and I were caught by my father dis-robbed in my room and this caused my whole family to be very upset. I am now 20 and so is he. Things are less awkward with my family and I've talked it out with my mom and sister where they are accepting of the fact that him and I are dating but my dad still gets very upset to even touch the topic. My boyfriend wants and has wanted to apologize to my dad and clear the air but I feel like I should talk to my dad first because I love and care about him a lot and though I do understand this isn't something easy to just accept or brush off, I would like to connect with him and let him know I meant no disrespect and I'd like to pretty much get a second chance at presenting things "correctly".

I am 19 now, till I was 14 I always knew who my mom and my dad were. But then everything changed when a lady messaged me on FB asking if I'd like to meet my little sister. I was so confused, I thought she had the wrong person. Turns out that that my dad isn't my real dad, since I was only 14 my parents told me not to talk to his lady since since she was married to my real dad and he did a lot of bad things to my mom. Last year my girlfriend reached out to my step mom and asked if I could meet my litter sister since I was too asked to ask myself. It turns out that my real dad and his wife got divorced so now I can meet my sister without it being around my real dad. Anyways, I am meeting her tomorrow, she is 12 and I have no idea what to say to her! Please help

Me and my SO have been together for three years, and my best friend many years before then. He had to move so we've been long distance for two years now and he's coming next week to see me for the first time since then. Im in college and live at home, how do i tell my parents about him? can i simply just continue to lie? We are not a very close family and have a very bad past together. Im actually terrified of my parents, they control every aspect of my life including choosing my major that i told them i didn't want to go in. As soon as I can leave my parents, I will not be coming back to them for a relationship due to what they've done in the past, but for now I have no choice but to stay. I love my fiancé, and i don't want to lose him because of what my parents do. (My fiancé is very prone to depression, and I want to be able to be there for him, I even canceled plans two months ago to see him because i was so scared of my parents and what they'd do to me because of it and i know it made his depression worse because of it. I will not cancel on him again, because i don't want to not see him either.) Might i add, i was never given permission to date, chose my friends, or ever have social interaction. We decided not to tell anyone were engaged yet because of my parents, i do not wear my ring at home. What do i do?

My parents hold my younger sister to a different standard than me. With me and when I was growing up, they pushed me academically and gave harsh punishments. With her they are so lax. I'm 23, she's 21. If I got a C on a test, I got yelled at. She gets a C in a class and they're all, " as long as you gave it a good try." If I came home drunk in high school, I got punished with about 12 straight hours of chores, she got a " Don't do it again." I've asked about it and their answer is, " You're her older brother, you need to set an example." Is that fair?

She just nags about everything. I ask her a simple question, for example 'how did you meet grandad?' And I get stupid answers like, and I quote, 'why the hell wouldn't I meet him?!' Yeah that's a really helpful answer. She's literally like that about EVERYTHING. Then if I don't talk or spend more time in my room she nags that I sleep all day. If I go out she nags that I'm spending my own money (I'm 21 and don't live with her, I'm here on holiday- my parents bought a holiday home and she lives in it). She just moans and nags and complains about EVERYTHING and if I say anything back she says I have an attitude lol. She talks cr*p about everyone too. How to deal with someone like this for 2 more weeks?

My sister and her fiancé are expecting their first baby. She's 17 weeks she's finding out the gender tomorrow. She's worried because her friend had a miscarriage at 17 weeks. About a month later she's still posting stuff about it. It's making her worry. She wishes there was a way she can not look at this stuff without unfriending her. She doesn't want to read this stuff right now. How can I help her feel better ? She wants to know if there is a way she can not read posts from her friend without deleting or blocking her ?

I have a case involving my sister. I'm the oldest of four children. After me are two brothers and my sister is the youngest. My dad was harsh on us boys growing up but favored my sister, probably because she was the only girl and was the baby. After we grew up, my brothers and I all joined the Army like my dad. After we retired (we retired as E7's like my dad himself did. I'm kind of sorry that I didn't try to make E8), we moved to different states and stayed near our wives' families but we always called to check on our parents as well as sent them gifts and money (though they didn't need the money). My sister became a nurse and stayed with our parents around the Atlanta GA area. Our mom died around 10 years ago, and after talking to our dad at the funeral, we told him we'd call and check on him every so often to see how he was doing since we boys were living in other states. I recorded my last conversations I had with my dad. Around 2 years ago, when I'd call my dad as routine, he wouldn't answer the phone. So I'd wait while then call him back, he still wouldn't answer. I told my brothers and they said he wouldn't answer them either. We would call our sister who lived next to him, and she told us that he was out visiting this uncle or that cousin. We'd call dad again a week or so later, and still couldn't get in touch with him. Finally over a year ago, one Saturday afternoon as I was preparing to go to work, I got a call from my sister who had 2 things to say: 1) Dad died. 2) Dad's funeral is in another HOUR. Couldn't believe what she just told me. I asked her WHY are you just telling me that the funeral is about NOW when you know that I'm in another state and wouldn't be able to make it there in time for the funeral? She actually claimed that she hadn't known when dad died and that somebody else set up the funeral. "What the hell do you mean?" She wouldn't answer me and hung up. Very soon after that's when my brothers called me in a panic that she told them about dad. When I called her back again and demanded she tell what the hell was going on, she told me that the coroner said dad died of a heart attack. After my brothers and I went to Atlanta to see what the hell was going on (after missing our fathers funeral), that's when everything started to unravel. I finally was able to find the numbers of the cousins/uncles she said he "visited," and of course they all said he never came to see them. A lie from my sister. My sister also LIED to us when she said that dad died of a heart attack. We found out that dad had terminal colon cancer and THAT was the reason why we couldn't get in touch with dad because all that time up to his death he moved into the hospice that she was working at. Moreover, the whole time he was dying, my sister drained out his bank accounts and was collecting his Army retirement and social security checks ALL FOR HERSELF and wouldn't share single penny with us. And we found out that also sold his house, cars and land away and pocketed that money ALL to herself too. We also found that dad DID have a notarized will with all four of our names on it, but my sister had a new unnotarized will made up in my dad's last months with ONLY HER name on it. She also FORGED dad's signature on it and we have PROVEN that she did so. When we told her that we found out what she did, she got really arrogant and told us, "You boys were never good sons to MY DADDY!" Really? YOUR daddy, as if YOU were the only child? My brothers and I are fighting her in probate court now. It still hurts that my sister did this to us and we have to fight her in court. Terrible enough that she forged a will with only herself on it getting all of the inheritance, but to lie to us about dad dying and making sure that we wouldn't make the funeral is just unforgivable. Do you have an experience with family backstabbing like this too? Just wanted to share mine because it still hurts. We think my sister justified this because she felt that since she was always babied by dad that we didn't matter and that she felt she could get away with doing this because we lived in other states while she lived next to him

I have a case involving my sister. I'm the oldest of four children. After me are two brothers and my sister is the youngest. My dad was harsh on us boys growing up but favored my sister, probably because she was the only girl and was the baby. After we grew up, my brothers and I all joined the Army like my dad. After we retired (we retired as E7's like my dad himself did. I'm kind of sorry that I didn't try to make E8), we moved to different states and stayed near our wives' families but we always called to check on our parents as well as sent them gifts and money (though they didn't need the money). My sister became a nurse and stayed with our parents around the Atlanta GA area. Our mom died around 10 years ago, and after talking to our dad at the funeral, we told him we'd call and check on him every so often to see how he was doing since we boys were living in other states. I recorded my last conversations I had with my dad. Around 2 years ago, when I'd call my dad as routine, he wouldn't answer the phone. So I'd wait while then call him back, he still wouldn't answer. I told my brothers and they said he wouldn't answer them either. We would call our sister who lived next to him, and she told us that he was out visiting this uncle or that cousin. We'd call dad again a week or so later, and still couldn't get in touch with him. Finally over a year ago, one Saturday afternoon as I was preparing to go to work, I got a call from my sister who had 2 things to say: 1) Dad died. 2) Dad's funeral is in another HOUR. Couldn't believe what she just told me. I asked her WHY are you just telling me that the funeral is about NOW when you know that I'm in another state and wouldn't be able to make it there in time for the funeral? She actually claimed that she hadn't known when dad died and that somebody else set up the funeral. "What the hell do you mean?" She wouldn't answer me and hung up. Very soon after that's when my brothers called me in a panic that she told them about dad. When I called her back again and demanded she tell what the hell was going on, she told me that the coroner said dad died of a heart attack. After my brothers and I went to Atlanta to see what the hell was going on (after missing our fathers funeral), that's when everything started to unravel. I finally was able to find the numbers of the cousins/uncles she said he "visited," and of course they all said he never came to see them. A lie from my sister. My sister also LIED to us when she said that dad died of a heart attack. We found out that dad had terminal colon cancer and THAT was the reason why we couldn't get in touch with dad because all that time up to his death he moved into the hospice that she was working at. Moreover, the whole time he was dying, my sister drained out his bank accounts and was collecting his Army retirement and social security checks ALL FOR HERSELF and wouldn't share single penny with us. And we found out that also sold his house, cars and land away and pocketed that money ALL to herself too. We also found that dad DID have a notarized will with all four of our names on it, but my sister had a new unnotarized will made up in my dad's last months with ONLY HER name on it. She also FORGED dad's signature on it and we have PROVEN that she did so. When we told her that we found out what she did, she got really arrogant and told us, "You boys were never good sons to MY DADDY!" Really? YOUR daddy, as if YOU were the only child? My brothers and I are fighting her in probate court now. It still hurts that my sister did this to us and we have to fight her in court. Terrible enough that she forged a will with only herself on it getting all of the inheritance, but to lie to us about dad dying and making sure that we wouldn't make the funeral is just unforgivable. Do you have an experience with family backstabbing like this too? Just wanted to share mine because it still hurts. We think my sister justified this because she felt that since she was always babied by dad that we didn't matter and that she felt she could get away with doing this because we lived in other states while she lived next to him

I despise him with every fibre of my being, he is such a little *****, **** him, what do i do?

For a year now a close family member has been on my cell phone account. I pay the whole bill. They have never once given me money towards the bill which is fine the only problem I have is I'll get ONE txt from then maybe once every month or so this persons wife usually has the phone on her and phone is used for her and her family I've been thinking a lot about disconnecting it but then I wouldn't have a way to contact the person the phone was meant for. What would you do???

So I was getting dressed and my dad walked in on me naked. My mom came in and yelled at me saying, "You nasty prostitye whore." She beat me and forced me outside naked but my dad held her back. Should I run away?

My dad lost his mum to cancer few years back and his dad remarried and was never there for him, he would constantly steal from him and his siblings don't care that much about him either. He always says to me he doesn't have any friends. I caught him texting another woman(third time) a few weeks ago romantically and he came clean to my mum and apologised to us and said he's been feeling like he has no one to talk to. My mum is a very strong woman and doesn't like to baby him and has a lot on her plate. He visited the doctor recently and she said he has very high blood pressure and is worried about him. He keeps telling me he's lucky if he lives a few more years and asks my mum if she thinks he's going to hell. Im not sure if he's done something wrong in his life and is scared of the possibility of death or if he's going through some sort of depression. He keeps saying he hates his life and doesn't physically look like himself anymore, he hardly laughs or shows affection. He is very lucky, he has 4 healthy children (I am his daughter, in Law school and my brother is doing Biomedical science) I don't know if he feels pressured to be certain way as we have never really been very well off. He is going to be 55 soon, what should I do to help him I feel really sad? :(

So ive been with my boyfriend for two years..Four years ago his mother died. His father was drunk driving her around and they got in a accident. So my boyfriend is kind of scared emotionally and motherless..now for the topic, I kind of act like a mother to him. And his siblings. When I go to his house, it's messy. Its all men in the house and one 7 year old girl. There's clothes every where and its dirty, I always try to clean up. He tends to make bad decisions sometimes like money wise, I try hard to help him financially. I am 17, he is 19. I understand he is an adult, but he needs help in life that a mother could give him. Its sad watching him be the mother of his house and trying to take care of things...I guess I try to help him as much as I can. When he gets hurt, I try to make him relax and not over do himself. When he needs comfort and to talk, I'm always there. I dont smother him. Is it a bad thing to try to help him like a mother should .?

im a girl and i have a twin brother. We have a shared room and we sleep in a bunkbed, im on the top. But sometimes when we go to sleep i can hear my brother masturbating on the bottom bed and it just makes me uncomfortable. Its not the best feeling to fall asleep to that sound... How can i ask him to stop or to do it somewhere else without making it awkward? he gets embarrassing easily and im a bit shy myself

Ok, first things first: my parents are very, very wealthy. They're divorced, but my dad is a consultant and business owner and is paid extremely well. My mom is a life coach and travel writer. They're both not Bill F'n Gates, but let's just say both of their net worths are quite high. Now before anybody starts calling me a spoiled brat, I'll own up to it. I am. I've had everything handed to me on a silver platter. I have only had one real job in my life. My mom (I live with my mom) told me at 16 that if I worked a job for three months, she would buy me a car. So I was a dishwasher, and I got a new car out of it. I quit right after that. That's great and all, but I'm f****** 20 years old, not in college, without a job, and I'm living off of my parents and with them. I want a family someday, and to be able to tell my kids that I've earned everything that we have. So please... somebody tell me where to start. Do I go to college or get a job first, and when I do get a job, how can I stay motivated to work everyday? I've never been taught how to do this Sh** and something inside of me wants to break out and work. I just don't exactly know where to start, or even what I want to do yet. Thank you. P.s. I know that if I wanted to, I could live forever with my mother or father. I don't want to. And I don't want them to buy me a home. I knew this question would make me sound horrible. I absolutely love my parents and I'm very appreciative of what they've done for me. Just felt to say that

It should be a simple task, but my family's mindset is that you had time to save money. If it meant something to you, you would have saved for it. Any who, I was laid off about a year ago and since then I have been working these low paying temp jobs. Right now I'm at a part time temp job that is going to end soon and I'm terrified that I won't have something else after. I've been looking everyday and I've had several interviews. My family knows that my husband and I are struggling. We've had 3 emergencies happen in the last 6 months that cost a lot of money each time. Our credit card bill is over $4,000. We're slowly paying that off now. We just cannot afford to do anything. We can't even save any money because we're trying only to pay bills our debt off. Long story short, we need to let everyone know that we're not doing Christmas this year. No gifts, no dinners, no extra anything. We don't expect gifts from anyone and we're not participating in any activities that cost money. Also, we don't have kids. We typically spend $100 on each other and $100 or more on just my mom alone. We might be able to do small stocking stuffers for each other, but it would have to be really inexpensive.

Hi I'm 15 years old and Me and my mom are not close at all. She been repeatedly saying she'll kick me out the house for months now and now I really don't care if she does. Today she brought up the topic early in the morning because I haven't been to school in 3 days now. She brought up situations like court and everything but I'm not new to this because I know what the situations and laws are but she doesn't understand why I do this. It's not on purpose, It's because I have depression and I tried taking pills but it just made things worse for me. I really don't want to live anymore anyways so why would I care if she kicks me out. I really don't know what to do in this situation.

Me and my husband have been helping his brother and girlfriend. (Helping is not a problem for us) The problem is that they don't like helping others and we don't like helping people who are like this. Her mother came and she had to sleep in a friends living room and at no point did they offer her to stay with them. Now another brother wants to move where we are and they won't hep just because thier wife/girlfriend are in some kind of drama and the brothers have conflict because of them. What bothers me is that as brothers (4 of them) they should help eachother in chains. In any moment the could break up and all you got left is your mother, father and siblings. Is it wrong for me to not want to lend a hand to those who don't? Is it wrong for me and my husband to retreat our help to those who have bad faith? We feel bothered by this, and right now I just need an outsider's opinion.

It really makes me mad whenever an adult does something that they regret but refuse to apologize. My teacher yesterday called me out in class for being too loud. When I explained that I hadn't spoken a word, and that it was someone else who was talking. He said "oh. You'll get over it." I said that it wasn't ok that she accused me (something she always does and it really hurts my feelings because I'm working on being quiet and not extroverted ) but all she said was "you'll live." She then continues on with class. This happens with my mom, too. Whenever she thinks I did something and punishes me for it. When she then finds out I didn't do it, all she says is "this was punishment for something in the future" Why? Why can't they just say sorry? I won't rub it in their face and laugh at them. Veryone makes mistakes and I understand them. But we are expected to apologize for OUR mistakes, yet they're not?

I really like extended family but my mother feuds with half of her family and makes us skip some family events. Nobody is dangerous or anything, it is just personality conflicts. And my mother tells me everything (too much my Dad says)

Everything is decided by who hates who more

I have been sober 6 years and out of prison 4 years

She won't forgive my sister because in high school my sister was lazy and according to my mother dishonest. I never noticed much of the dishonesty but I was away at college then. My sister was lazy. However, my sister now works 5 days a week hard. She is not dishonest and not sassy. She is getting therapy for some issues stemming from her adoption (she was adopted at age 4) and is absolutely doing her best. She is not perfect like my mother says I am but so what, I wasn't an orphan for the first 4 years of my life. My mother is stuck in bitterness because of my sister's high school years and stuck claiming my sister took my mother from her family (my mother's family is disgusted with how my Mom treats my sister). Grandparents have died but aunts-uncles are appalled at my mother and cousins have pulled away from us. So how do I get my mother to stop hating her daughter so much? She has pretty much dumped her daughter like it is a boyfriend. She as always favored my brother and I but now it is to the extreme of hating her daughter. I am biological but my brother is also adopted. My step-Dad couldn't conceive so they adopted (my real father left when I was a baby). Lastly, my brother has Asperger's and is the youngest and dependent somewhat on our Mom. So my mother has totally brainwashed him against our sister. Our sister used to be extremely protective of him (they are half-siblings from the same father though 5 years apart). Now the brother won't call the sister.

My mom had to go to the hospital by ambulance around 2:30 in the morning. It's just me and her... my dad died six years ago, and my mom is diabetic issues. Anyhow, I've been here for three hours while they are running tests. They are just now getting her checked into her room, and we're not sure how long it will be till they get everything figured out. I could leave now if I wanted, bit I'm running off 3.5 hours of disturbedd sleep (she wasn't feeling well last night) and I'm a pre-k aide... I would need to be to,sit at eight,. I'm not mentally or physically awake. Even if I was home, I. would have probably been too shaken up to sleep. And even if she hadn't had to go to the hospital, I still would have been home, beacause she couldn't have been unattended with the pain she was in. I think I should miss today for her, and myself l, and I do get 10 sick and 2 personal days a year. But at the same time I want to be sure I'm using my days wisely since my job is new, and there's a day I need off in Novemeber.

I gave birth to a baby prematurely and unfortunately, she died not long after. The sight of that dead baby will forever be burned in my mind and though it's been four months, it still feels so fresh in my mind. Over the past 2 years, I've also lost my mother and my sister. The grief I'm feeling is indescribable. Not long after the baby died, I had surgery to prevent any future pregnancies. I asked my husband's mother to pick up the baby's cremains until I could come get them. The crematory is an hour away and she just happens to live minutes away from there. I can also freely admit that I just couldn't go get those ashes. I had just made a trip to that crematory 6 months prior, to retrieve my sister's cremains. So this week, my mother in law sends me a text with a photo of a container she put the baby in. I had named the baby Elizabeth. On this container, she labeled it with Lizzie. Her defense to this was, "I couldn't bear to see her in that plastic container provided by the funeral home". When I apologized for being upset about what she had done and admitted that I am sensitive about that baby, her response was that "she was sensitive about the baby too". So do her feelings and wishes for my baby's cremains take precedence over mine? I am truly upset about this.

I've got 3 older brothers and the eldest is 8 years older than me. Growing up with them, I had more stricter rules like throughout high school my twin had a different curfew than me, which sucked but I got on with it. They are all overprotective of me, since I am the only girl and youngest I am spoiled but to a certain extent. My oldest brother is also very harsh, I wanted to live in a dorm for my first year of university, but he convinced my parents that I should commute instead of living away. I would leave my house at 6am and would come back home around 8/9pm everyday. Although my grades never slacked, but it was mentally and physically draining. My parents did notice that I wasn't happy and they did agree that I should live on campus. But my older brother tries to change their mind. He always calls me a spoiled brat but I don't think I am spoiled since I started working at the age of 15. Although, I try to convince my parents to be a bit more lenient towards me. He is married and has a son, I try to visit them as much as I can since my sister in law is so wonderful. But every time I do, he is so hostile. It's not something new, but he has been like that to me ever since I can remember. I've tried to plan trips for us so that we can bond but he always rejects it. My two other brothers are less overprotective and I am much closer to them. But I really want to have an actual bond with him. Any advice and suggestions on what I can do ?

He s 70k in debt, slept around and lies to get what he wants, NEED HELP

I feel really bad for saying this but, he is very spoiled and doesn't know how good he has it. His parents buy him everything, all his games the newest phone. He never helps out around his house. He has life handed to him. He doesn't have a job and doesn't plan on getting one. His parents just bought him the car of his dreams and he's complaining to me day in and day out about how hard school is and whatever else. I am just so sick of it. I got a job as a CNA right after turning sixteen, I'm still paying off my old crappy car. Since forever things have been tight for my family so as a kid I never had all the 'cool toys' like talking dolls or whatever. Recently my parents don't even buy me enough clothes to not be made fun of. I've quit all my hobbies and sports and clubs and things because they were getting way too expensive. I just.... hate that my boyfriend thinks he has the right to complain. I'm so ashamed of my families situation I haven't told him, though I want to I don't want him to see me differently. I show up at his house (which is an hour away, jeez, gas.) This big amazing house. And there's my boyfriend, laying on the brand new sofa pouting about God knows what. And all I can think is. "He's way too good for me" I just had to rant this out. A reply would be nice but posting stuff here calms me down a bit

My grandpa has green eyes and my Dad has brown eyes. My husband's dad has Amber eyes and his mom has dark brown eyes. His grandma has light blue eyes and his grandpa has light brown eyes. I have hazel eyes. My eyes are light brown (Amber) with flecks of green (people have told me that they thought that I had green eyes) and my husband has dark brown eyes. My youngest sister got blue eyes. My middle sister got hazel (hers are darker brown with more flecks of dark green than mine.) And my brother has dark brown eyes. So what are the chances of our kids having colored eyes?

My 2 year old recrntly had a massive abdominal surgery and after 3 weeks in the children's hospital we are currrently staying in the Ronald McDonald house with her, they want to keep her close to the hospital but she's essentially out of hospital care. A group of my friends want to come visit us, there's about 6 of them. My daughter is pretty laid back and I don't think it would startle her or anything but just don't know if allowing this is a bad idea?? It sounds selfish of me but I'm desperate to see them, I haven't seen anyone other than my husband and daughter for weeks now (excluding the constant stream of nurses & doctors) and am going slightly crazy. I don't want to put my daughter in a stressful situation either though... so I don't know! There's a chance we could be here for as long as two weeks. :((

being the first born and having lots of hope in me from my parents, I have been planning on leaving home for months now that I even got a place of my own.Well I sort of disappointed my parents at the last moment and quit my final year of college due to my results. They're probably going to get so disappointed in me and my supposed graduation in coming up soon like next week. I was studying with my sister and unfortunately I didn't make it. How should I write an apology letter to them and also tell them am going to try to look after myself and that I love them so much to see them hurting and embarrassed of me.

Ok, so I'm like a dad to this 15 year old boy that lost his dad when he was 12. October 8th will be 3 years. I've been in his life for 6 months and in this short amount of time, I've already become a very important person/figure in his life, father figure to be precise. His biological dad's name is, Robert Harris and on my Monday night bowling league, I bowl with a Robert Harris so last night his mom posted this comment to Fb. "Well that is a little bizarre as Jesse agrees that you are bowling with Robert Harris". I'm like a dad to this boy like I said so I'm just trying to understand what they find even a little bit bizarre. Update: *Jesse is the kid btw and he loves and sees me like a dad so I'm just trying to understand why he and his mom find it to be a little unusual or strange. It isn't like this guy that I'm bowling with can help that he has the same exact name as this boy's deceased biological dad, right? Nope.

Im late for school about 3 times a week... i wake up really early but im slow at eating and doing my makeup and stuff. Sometimes i even miss my bus when im already ready early but i decide to wait a bit so i dont have to wait for the bus outside and then i end up doing something and i miss it... my parents constantly yell at me because of this and its always a really bad start for my day because it makes me angry. Help?

Background, I'm a 28-year-old male and live with my parents and brothers (20 and 26). The 20-y.o.'s in college and the 26-y.o. graduated and is working. I've been in and out of college since I was 18 and am attending now and hoping to graduate in a year. At 1 am I couldn't sleep and thought I'd take a walk to the store to buy cigarettes. My dad heard me trying to leave and came barging in my face. I'm 28 and he's 56 and he still treats me like I'm f**king 14 years old because I still live under his roof. He asked me where I was going and then called me a liar when I told him about the store and not being able to sleep, because 14 f**king years ago I sneaked out of the house at night and he still remembers it. Then he took away my keys. HE TOOK AWAY MY APARTMENT KEYS LIKE I'M A F**KING CHILD TRYING TO RUN AWAY FROM HOME. When I told my dad I'm 28 years old he said I was still "draining his financial resources" like a child, apparently because I get $200 a month in pocket money like my adult brothers. I told him immediately that I don't want it anymore. Every time my family f**king gives me something they have to remind me of it and use it against me. I'm sick of living here. I was on my own a few years ago but I messed up so badly that I had to come home. I fell in with a bad crowd and went into serious debt. I've never held down a real job, mostly because I haven't graduated college. I need to vent. I am shaking with rage right now. I get that I f**ked up my life and made every mistake in the book and I'm still living with my parents and not paying rent or anything (I do a lot of things around the house though) but why the f**k does my father have to humiliate me? I'm 28 years old and can't go for a f**king walk at night if I can't sleep, without getting interrogated, called a liar and losing my apartment keys?! I would move out right now if I had a reliable income, but the only thing I know how to do is tutor students and that's never stable. I don't want to get a minimum wage job instead of a job with my degree that's almost finished that would pay at least twice as much. This forum of morons is always f**king WORTHLESS. I would be just as well off telling this to a frog or brick as to any of you half-witted troglodytes.

I really want this surgery and have done the research and made my decision, but don't know how to tell my dad/ask him for it because I'm afraid he'll think I'm crazy and shut me down. How do I bring it up and get him to understand where I'm coming from?