Family: Question: Why are alcoholics dangerous for kids to be around when they are close family and are NOT violent?

Question: Why are alcoholics dangerous for kids to be around when they are close family and are NOT violent?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 02:38 PM PDT

I can see if it is like a neighbor they might not be the wisest example but if it is like a parent, older sibling, grandparent, etc.... My mother alienated me from a loved one with alcoholism until I was 14. Then I got close to him once old enough to be allowed to. He was perfectly nice when sober and in his later years even got better with drinking. However, I never got why, when little, she didn't let me go see him supervised (it was my grandfather). My cousins got to go with their parents for holidays and stuff but I did not and all my cousins turned out fine. So why would a parent ban their kid from seeing someone with alcoholism when violence is not an issue? He would get grouchy but not violent. Could it be she was just angry herself (she had her own issues with him) and it had nothing to do with protecting me? Both are deceased now (my mother and my grandfather) and am thinking back on it. I understand needing to have a second adult there, but never understood not letting me go until I was a teen when all my cousins got to go for holidays and stuff. It ended up backfiring on my mother.

Question: Why won't they lose weight?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 02:32 PM PDT

My neice(17) and nephew(19) refuse to lose weight, no matter how many times I encourage them to. My neice weighs 56kg and is 5'7 and my nephew weighs 59kg and he is 5'6, they said they eat 1300 calories a day which is too much for someone of their ages. Why won't they lose weight for?

Question: What should I do with this family drama?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 02:08 PM PDT

So I posted on FB how to vote online and said that I'm voting for Trump and then my cousin posted on it and told me not to and I told her "My choice my business" and then my brother comments saying it doesn't surprise me the fact that I'm voting for him cuz I had a nazi flag in my room and now my cousin is going to tell everyone. So my family will hate me. What should I do? She is snitching on me and I feel like she is doing this so my family will hate me and I am thinking to tell everyone she smokes pot and drives crazy and without a licenses. Cuz she says I had a nazi flag in my room. I feel like this is my business and it is freedom of speech and she and my brother are causing drama. Now I feel like killing myself and my mom told my brother that he doesn't need to talking to me like that and the past is the past. And he has not responded. I just feel like killing myself over this! Now one of my family members removed me from facebook!

Question: Considering starting over in a new state?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 02:02 PM PDT

Last year around this time my fiancé left the state 2 start over where his family relocated. The plan was to get on his feet, find work and we would look for a place that we can afford until I found work there when I came w/ our son. This didn't go as planned, my living situation back home didn't go how it was suppose to go and I never got a chance to save money and the way things went for him out there he ended up coming back. It's been a year and here we are struck in the same spot before he left and we are in dire need of a fresh start for our family, relationship, & peace of mind. I'm just wondering if it would be a dumb decision to reconsider trying to move again and take that leap of faith. I feel so trapped where I am like there's no way out. Cost of living is going up and I'm tired of working at my family business even though it's about the security of having a stable job in which I won't have if I leave. I would be leaving my family behind who are very intruding on my life and toxic people who don't know there boundaries. Mom is on drugs and my only worry would be leaving my siblings behind until I can possibly send for them. I'm really scared but since I left church last week this has been really heavy on my heart and I am considering it.

Question: Why does my brother do this?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 01:58 PM PDT

When he gets home from work he honks his car over and over tell mom opens the door for him when he has his kid with, like you really can't open the door by yourself? If she doesn't answer he does it again. It would embarrass me if anyone seen that outside and I had to open the door for him because he's to lazy not that I would but you know lol I am a 21 year old female and he is 27 is he just to lazy to do it himself?

Question: I adopted a kid two weeks ago, but I don't like him anymore. Can I send him back to Mexico?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 01:55 PM PDT

He's a whiner and he only speaks in really lousy impressions of Eric Cartman. At first I thought it was cute, but now I just want to get rid of him. How do I do that, exactly?

Question: Wish app packaging?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 01:51 PM PDT

I want to order a birthday present for my mom but I don't want her to see it and know what it is so I'm wondering how wish packages their products, or if it differs from product to product. I'm getting her something that comes in a box, not clothes, btw.

Question: My dad gets mad cause i won't play with my neighbor?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 01:50 PM PDT

So my neighbor sees me out and asks to play but i don't want to so i tell him i have to eat dinner... my dad gets mad at me cause i don't wanna play with him. idk what to do cuz my dad keeps grounding me and i don't wanna play with the kid cuz he is a jerk

Question: Is my mom giving me the silent treatment1 and is she purposely avoiding me?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 01:47 PM PDT

We argued yesterday about me leaving a wet towel and I told her all she does is yell so "I could care less about what she is saying right now". She went in her room. I went in mine after being downstairs and reflecting on the situation. Well the next day came and she is still in her room I went downstairs and there is no sign of her being here. Is she giving me the silent treatment. Is she porpousely avoiding me?

Question: Do you think this situation is fair? Should I say something?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 01:03 PM PDT

I'm away at my cousins holiday home with my husband & 3 month old baby. There's 6 other couples here (half are my cousins & half are their friends). There are basically two houses joint together, the back house is only bedrooms and the front house is where the kitchen, lounge and everything is. No one goes in the back house unless they are going to bed. We arrived a day later than everyone else and ended up with the bedroom furtherest away from the front house... it's literally right at the back. I don't feel comfortable leaving my 3 month old in there by herself at all (for naps and when she goes to bed before us). There are two bedrooms in the front house which would have been ideal but we're claimed by my cousin (she has a 1 month old so understandable) and this other couple (friend of my cousin) who have a 4 year old. I asked my cousin if she could ask her friends to swap rooms with us because their child is a lot older and she said no... Apprently the 4 year old went into remission like 6 months ago and her parents don't like being too far away from her because she wakes up often (we will be eating dinner and hanging out in the front house after the kids are in bed). I just think this whole situation is slightly ridiculous, there's no need to baby a 4 year old especially when there are other babies around who actually NEED to be close to their parents. I'm trying not to get mad because I don't want to create a negative energy but I'm so not comfortable with this!!

Question: I want to have a hyphenated last name (my bio dad s name and my step dad s last name)?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 12:24 PM PDT

ALITTLE COMPLICATED I was born in Brazil and when I was 4 my mom and dad got divorced. My mom then met an American man and married him when I was 6. I moved to the US with my mom and my step dad and my bio dad stayed in Brazil. I ve lived here for 10 years now (in the US w/ mom and step dad) and I go visit my bio dad in Brazil a lot (we are very close and he s responsible and loves me). My mom and step dad had 2 kids (my little sisters) and I love them SO much. We are very very close. My step dad and my step dads family have never made me feel like I m not part of their family. I m his daughter and his parents are my grandparents etc. I always tell people I have 1 mom and 2 dads The problem is that my mom, step dad, and sisters have a different last name as me and I feel that if I had the last name it would be like the last thing to really belong. So my name right now is Victoria Alejandra Gomez. My step dads last name is Brown. Is there a way that I could change my name to Victoria Alejandra Gomez-Brown? Who would have to agree and could it even happen? Thank you!!!

Question: How do I break free from my mother's bitterness and grudges?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 12:14 PM PDT

In many small ways that add up to big ways my mother's bitterness and hatred towards her family cost me dearly. I missed out as a kid on much family time. Now as an adult I can see them but miss out some due to traditions (like tradition is not to have me to an event since I am assumed to be with my Dad and his family). My mother is dead now (she died last year) and her grudges live on. She was good to me but sadly her grudges ruined her reputation and while I am close to her family I fear missing out. I am an adult but fear like a kid. My Dad would adhere to my mother like a slave so he is not close to his in-laws though they came to see him at the funeral last year and have seen him once since. So how do I break free of these grudges my mother held and all the loss I experienced of losing family ties as a result of them even though I have built them back some? It is especially painful around family time like weddings (we are asked to about half of them but not all), Christmas, Thanksgiving (both very painful), and summer travel.

Question: My siblings prefer each other over me?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 12:03 PM PDT

There are three kids in my family. My little sister (12), me (female,16), and my eldest brother (18). My brother is gone at college now, but nothing has really changed at home. My siblings like each other more than me. My little sister and I get along well, but she doesn't respect me. And she isn't very good at hiding her favor for my older brother. Even though I help her with her school work, I cook for her, I clean up after her, I play with her, and I'm generally very patient with her. She tries bossing me around and snaps at me, but she's always so nice and sweet to my brother. He didn't spent very much time with her even when he was home, but she really enjoyed the time they did spend together (which isn't a bad thing, its really sweet). It just bugs me that I do more for her and she doesn't realize it. As for my brother, I can tell he prefers my little sister over me. I would do my best to gain his approval, and tried to spend time with him when he was still home. He doesn't like shopping alone, so I would go with him because he asked me to (He liked my opinion on guy clothes). I would cook him dinner after he would come home late after work, and would help him with things such laundry and hemming his jeans because he was busy with school. And I was always nice to him. I try my best not to let it bug me, but those two text more than I do now that he's gone, and its always hurt my feelings. Why is it like this? How do I not let it bug me?

Question: My son is going to go blind?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 11:56 AM PDT

He isn t even 2 if he doesn t get surgery he will go blind and my insurance won t pay for any. Gofundme.com/caleeyesurgery

Question: Should I just kill myself?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 10:53 AM PDT

Please help me . I am sick of my life. I am stupid. I have horrible grades. My dad hurts me. Physically. My brother and mom hate me HELP. I feel so useless. People always make fun of me. I have no real friends. My life is already over. Should I just get rid of the poor body ? I'm such a loser. I can't even type this without crying. I don't know still. My mom and dad are getting a divorce. My brother is smarter. They love him. No one would ever love me.

Question: :/ I accidentally said a really bad word that i don't like to say?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 10:24 AM PDT

I am 13, Today i was at school and these 3 morons kept picking on me, they keep picking on me everyday and today they ticked me off and i accidentally said "god dammit" i do swear sometimes but i am scared to say "God dammit" because i am christian is it wrong that i said it?

Question: How do I reach out to family at Christmas appropriately when they are all in town next year?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 10:21 AM PDT

Some will be out of town this Christmas but all will be in town next year (2017)

Question: A couple that is allegedly married and a spouse dies who is considered next of kin if children are involved?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 09:51 AM PDT

Question: Do I have a hard head + do I need help?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 09:51 AM PDT

I got mad at my fake friends and I just lost it, I grabbed a tablet and hit my head on the case side of it 3 times( I didn't have a case) or the opposite of the screen and it cracked. My mum came upstairs and yelled at me then told me to go to bed. I then hit my head on the wall a bunch and then I created a hole. my mum heard it then told me to go downstairs and I got in bigger trouble

Question: How do I deal with a controlling stepmom?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 09:47 AM PDT

My dad has been married a very long time and he puts up with my stepmom. My stepmom is very controlling and mean. Her and I don't get along at all. My dad doesn't mind her controlling him. In fact, my dad stops seeing me less and less all because she tells him not to and it's hurting my relationship with him. He wont speak up, he won't be assertive, and allows her to bully him! How should I handle this? Is there any way I could get a restraining order or a lawyer to help with this if my dad won't do anything? I think she is very abusive to him too!

Question: Is it wrong to do this ?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 09:34 AM PDT

Me and my sister are cuddled together watching her favorite movie. We really need some alone time right now. Is it wrong for us to cuddle ?

Question: My mum hit me?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 09:30 AM PDT

So today I asked for some fruit in my lunch box tomorrow and my mum flipped at me. She physically punched me then dragged me up the stairs and into my room by my hair. My face is now bleeding and she has ripped three of my piercing out. Does she have the right to do this?

Question: Why are some people so disrespectful to their parents?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 09:29 AM PDT

My brother who is 32 and still lives at home curses out and disrespect my dad very bad its very sad and my dad is a very easy going and good person i mean he really would help anybody out...I told my dad to kick him out of the house but he wont do it and earlier this year when my brother went to jail my dad paid $300 to bail him out and i just dont know why he would do that if all my brother does is cuss him out...It just really hurts me to see him get treated like that cause he doesnt derserve this and this has been goin on for a long time ...Idk what yo do...Dont know why some people are disrespectful to their parents especially when they have good ones

Question: Problems with Parent?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 09:16 AM PDT

my mother is about 54 years old. i am 16. i do not have my drivers license due to her saying she cant afford the insurance, but i told her i would take over the bill. I wish this was our only problem. we fight immensely anywhere from over the dogs fighting, to me not taking out the trash. but its a consant war. im a rather calm person and she is always loud and screaming. i despise it so much. she doesnt ever let anything go, she wakes up yelling and goes to sleep yelling.. ive tried everything from doing everything she asks to treating her like a god.. im at my wits end... and i dont know what to do...

Question: Does my mom even love me?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 09:13 AM PDT

My mom puts her disgusting fat *** boyfriend before her own kids besides my baby sister. I can't have a conversation with my mom with out her hurting me. She hurts me alot so bad. About a week ago me and my moms boyfriend were fighting and she always defense her boyfriend. ALWAYS. She defense her boyfriend and yells at me but when she yells at me it's abuse, she cussing me out with so much hate. She threatens to fight me and suspects me to be happy. She's trying to get rid of me, she doesn't consider me as her son she treats me like a stranger. What did I ever do to that *****. I seriously hate her.

Question: I think its necessary to teach my little sister to defend herself?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 09:03 AM PDT

My parents think shes too young at 14 but I know what happens in highschool and I would feel a lot safer if she atleast could stand a chance. Did u teach your daguhters or sisters and how did they end up

Question: My siblings found my sex toy what should I say?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 09:03 AM PDT

So my dog sniffed up my toy, brought it outside and chewed on it. My whole family knows about it but I don't think they exactly know who's toy it is because they found it outside. It is a vagina imitation so they know it's one of the boys. What should I do? No harsh comments please about getting a real one. I do but it's pain/pleasure for her

Question: Are my expectations too high?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 08:59 AM PDT

My family life has a lot of problems like a lot of family's but that isn't the point of this question. Is it my fault for having high expectations for my birthday like cake, party, presents. When I was little I grew up thinking that someone's sweet 16 is supposed to be something special. I expected a little surprise party n presents n crap. All my friends had a party's and one even had a limo n so many things I was jealous so when it came time for my 16th I thought something was gunna happen and nothing did. I was v disappointed I even cried. I ate KFC in an old folks home w my grandma then went home n cried. N I probably could have got over one bad birthday but I can't remember ever having a good one. For my 15th my dad worked and my older brother and mom where out of town n n my little brother n me sat at home alone but then we got into an argument and he threw a soup can at my face n gave me a fat lip then my dog died on my birthday so it was the most depressing day of my life. No one was there n i didn't get a present or cake or even a phone call and my dog died. And for my 14th we did nothing again. Maybe it's bc I'm a middle child idk. I'm turning 17 next month so idk maybe I should have no expectations so I won't be let down. N my brothers n parents always have a party bc I make sure of it. I'm the one in the family that makes sure they have a gr8 day but I think everyone just forgets about my day. Idk like I said my family has sooooooo many problems

Question: How do I get over the pain of broken family at Christmas?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 08:53 AM PDT

My mother is a grudge holder. When I was a kid she alienate us from family. I felt sad at Christmas knowing I had cousins getting together and we couldn't go. We;d see my grandparents who'd mention my cousins but we couldn't see the uncles or the aunt because my mother was mad at them. Then when I was about 14 things got better and we started going again. I was SO happy. This continued for about 15 years. Now my grandparents have died and my mother is at odds with her siblings again. It is not as big as last time but she is not doing holidays with them. I am an adult and will offer to bring a gift by at a time convenient but won't be invited to the big gathering as they will assume I am with my parents. I can't invite myself to their dinner as that would be rude. So it will be sad this year. I feel like something is wrong with me as their kid and like my cousins will think less of me. I feel sad just thinking of Christmas (and Thanksgiving). My mother doesn't realize her grudges affect others but again I can't go invite myself as her family is very formal though I will offer to bring a gift by at a time convienant during the holidays. How do I get over this pain? How do I get my mother to grow up one day? I know it is September but I saw a similar question of someone going through this with divorced parents so I thought I;d ask

Question: He wont return my calls but he answers every time she calls?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 08:50 AM PDT

I paid for us to have a nice romantic weekend last week and things were going well for maybe 3 days after. I had gotten the flu and asked him to come take care of me. He agreed, he told me that he'd call me before he left work. He never showed, never called and didn't respond to any of my calls for texts. Then he text me the next morning accusing me of slashing his tires. Then he turns around a apologizes to me for not being there for me while I was sick...why? He has an ex that has embarrassed him in public. Punched him in the face, threw a drink on him, cut up his clothes and left them outside of his apartment and he continues to call her constantly. She has my number and tells me every time he contacts her but he won't call me or answer or return any of my calls. He said that her and I are the two tire slashing suspects he claims that the neighbors have a camera with footage showing him who did it. I've reached out to him all weekend trying to see if he's gotten the results or how things are going with him and he won't respond to my texts or call me back but his ex said that she called him this morning and he talked to her. Why won't he talk to me? Why is he treating me so bad and accusing me when she's done all of these things to him? I know he answers when she calls because she has my number and she makes a point of sending a screenshot of the call log of him calling her. Why doesn't he want to talk to me?

Question: My parents used me as ammunition in a family conflict when I was a kid, how do I get over my resentment of them for doing this to me?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 08:39 AM PDT

It caused me much trauma. The conflict was in my mother's extended family. It involved my mother feeling too nervous to see people she felt didn't like her and of them was an alcoholic (though later recovered). Things got better and we started seeing them again but for about 5 years we didn't and I was between ages 9 and 14 and I took it so personally and felt so left out that I felt my parents were using me as ammunition in their feud with my mother's siblings and in trying to get her step-father to stop being an alcoholic. How can I get over this? I am 24 now so it has been a while and things are better. It is my parents I blame, no one else, since my parents used me. My siblings didn't mind but I did.

Question: Who was in the wrong?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 08:38 AM PDT

I had to fire this babysitter, I had watching my 3 and 5 year old recently. I fired her because she was very stupid. I had her since March, my 5 year old was in the restroom at our house by himself while she watched my 3 year old. He is a 5 year old!!!!! She told me he came out of the bathroom laughing and said he pooped on the floor as a joke. She came upstairs and got me, I was studying as I'm in college my husband and I are 40 and 45. I cussed her out for interrupting me and told her she will never amount to anything and will never work for anyone again. She refused to clean his mess up, saying he needs to and it is not funny. At first my 5 year old was laughing then started crying when she told him he has to clean it up because she refuses to. I got in her face, she pushed me away I threatened to call police but instead got my husband to come home and we fired her. Why is she an immature woman? She is 17 or 18 I forgot which one. She should be more mature than that. What would you have done? Maybe she's retarded... When I was her age, I had my own home already, I was a CEO and did not do babysitting jobs anymore and she doesn't. I feel bad for special people. Babysitter said she tried to get my son that is 5, who is too young to clean up to clean his mess up but he started screaming and is when she got me. I have been giving this womans number out to people, her name and picture too. I have been telling everyone how horrible she is, and to never hire her for any job. So, far, it is working, I think. I refused to make my son who is TOO YOUNG!!!!!! To clean up his mess, and I also refused to give the stupid babysitter any cleaning supplies. I hold grudges Yes I am a 40 year old woman, but that is just who I am I was only standing up for my baby son!!!!!! He IS 5 years old!!!!!!

Question: I feel uncomfortable that I'm always compared to my younger sister?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 08:31 AM PDT

I'm the middle child who is always being compared with my little sister. It's like my parents are trying to create a better version of me through her. For example, I used to be really good a swimming but then my parents made me stop so easily but now they're making my younger sister swim and they are more involved with her than I. I kinda felt like they threw me away and replaced me with her except a better version. She had a school meeting today, she's in 5th grade and the teacher said she was doing great and is advanced. My mom told my dad in the car speaking in Filipino but I obviously understood them. They said that she was better than me and when I said what? They both looked at me and laughed.

Question: Is my Mother holding me back!?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 08:29 AM PDT

To make a long story short, I nearly died. My Mother since is even MORE worried and controlling(I'm an only child and female) then She was when I was in High School! To the point She won't even let me sit alone in a waiting room while She gets an ultrasound. Therefore, She bosses me into waiting in the corner of the exam room for Her, so She can see me, and I'm 32 by the way! I know, She nearly lost me, but Her worrying is beyond ridiculous. How am I EVER going to become independent again if She keeps me practically hand cuffed to Her!? I'm beginning to hate Her and suspect this is what She has always wanted. To control my life and make me do everything She wants me to do in life and be like Her basically.

Question: I'm obsessed with my half sister..... need advice.?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 08:12 AM PDT

I've been obsessed over my older half sister ever since she moved out to my state a few years ago when I was a teen. That was my first time really meeting her. She lived out here for maybe 7 years then moved back across the country. She comes and visits every now and then. She is just sooooooo hot. I used to smell her under wear in her dresser and just fantasize about sleeping with her. I feel like such a freak being so obsessed about my own half sister I know its gross to society but she's too hot to the point where I don't care but deep down I do care. Sleeping with her is something I wish I can do before I die that I can say. I facetime her every now and then and I think of possibilities off the smallest things like if she adjusts her bra or shirt on face time, even though I know its nothing. How do I get over this obsession or how do I go about pursuing this long sick goal of mine?

Question: Is there a such thing as severe empty nest?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 07:20 AM PDT

I'm thinking that my dad is going through a bad case of empty nesting. I'm 35 and it's like he wants to go back to being 15 so that he can tell me how hard life is, yesterday I was was telling him about something negative in my life and commented that what has happened to me is not right nor fair. His response was very demeaning and proceeded to tell me that life isn't fair. I'm quite old enough to know that and have known that since I was six. I feel like he wants me to stop everything and pay attention to only him. He tells me that he is happy that I quit school, and that he's happy I'm not working. He also acts like all I ever did was bad things during my teenage years. Like I got bad grades and did drugs, that's why he makes comments to me like it's easy to get into drugs. I was the complete opposite of what he thinks, I was a Principals Honor Roll student, and even had the option to Graduate early. I am so happy as a person because of the choices I made and got into a university back east, which I am glad I did because I got a pretty good education and I got the opportunity to explore see of New England. But I feel that the way my dad feels is that I went away from him. I went back east to get my own life and it's not like I never went home to see my family again. I wish my father could understand me better and stop treating me like I'm still a teen-ager.

Question: My sister is not married but wears 'wedding rings' - has a boyfriend and 2 illegitimate kids. How would this make you feel?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 07:19 AM PDT

She has been doing this since she became pregnant with her first child. She wears an engagement-looking ring and a band on her left ring finger. She has even joked about wearing the rings so it appears as though she is married. I feel like this is disrespectful to actual marriage. I understand she may be embarrassed of her situation, but I can't help but feel like doing this dilutes actual marriage.

Question: My parents used me as ammunition in a family conflict when I was a kid, how do I get over my resentment of them for doing this to me?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 05:25 AM PDT

It caused me much trauma The conflict was in my mother's extended family

Question: Am I betraying my mother by feeling sad when my father dies?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 05:25 AM PDT

We don't have much to do with our Dad because if he loved us he wouldn't have lied to our Mom about his income. Since they divorced 8 years ago we only see him once a year. Our Mom says he doesn't love us or he would have treated our Mom (her) better. He has terminal cancer and I kind of feel sad. I don't want to after he misled our Mom and I am afraid I will hurt our Mom by being sad when he dies. I am not sure if I will go to the funeral or not, it depends if our mother lets us or not. But, will I be betraying her if I am sad when he dies. She insists he doesn't love us but I sometimes wonder if that is not true as he seems nice when he sees us.

Question: My mother and her sister got in a brawl this weekend and are not talking now, should I block my aunt on Facebook so not to make Mom mad?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 05:20 AM PDT

They were brawling over my late grandparent's estate (their parents).

Question: I missed the bus and my mom might get mad?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 05:15 AM PDT

I'm 16 years old and now a junior in high school, this is my 4th week and I just missed the bus for the first time this year I went out there to wait about a min late and he's not there, either came early or the bus driver is really impatient, my mom is at work rn and goes home in about an hour from now and I'm afraid she might get mad what do I do if she does? I did everything to get ready for school breakfast, shower, ect. I sent her a text about 10 mins ago saying "I missed the bus I went out and waited for about a min late and I waited out there for a long time and she's still not there" she hasn't replied yet either she's busy at work or too mad at me to text back and I'm just afraid and need alittle help

Question: Why do women share their food with their kids?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 05:06 AM PDT

random question

Question: How Did My Mother Know I Was Lesbian?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 04:51 AM PDT

When i was 25 i met my mother for the first time, her and my father divorced when was young and that was the first time i really met her was when i was 25 and since then we are building a relationship. I am a lesbian and at the time i was living with my girlfriend in our own apartment, i invited my mother to my home and she met my girlfriend but at the time i didnt tell her i was a lesbian or that the woman i was living with is my girlfriend. However when my girlfriend had gone to the store to get some food, my Mother talked to me and said 'She is a lovely woman, i am glad you have found someone who you love and who loves you as she does, I never really cared which gender i dated as long as i loved the person and i have loved more women, it is clear you love this woman' How did she know that me and my girlfriend were a couple? She is accepting and now several years later my girlfriend is now my wife and my mother walked me down the aisle when i married my wife.

Question: I'm not sure Im okay with what hospice is doing?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 03:33 AM PDT

My mom has liver cancer and she went downhill friday, has been sleeping ever since. She was waking up and talking a tiny bit, even though it was slurred. She seemed ok, said no when I asked if she had pain. She was a bit confused but she also wanted sips of juice every 90 minutes or so. Her nurse came and said she was breathing too heavy, so she gave her 2 morphines (10mg) and Ativan to have her relax. She did become restless yesterday, not able to get comfortable, but now she's not drinking anything? I don't want her to suffer, but she seemed ok and I don't want to kill my mother :'( I asked her nurse and she said it doesn't hasten anything but she doesn't wake up to drink now??? I was given her 5mg now it's 10mg

Question: My sisters ex boyfriend abused my niece and nephew for five years what should I do?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 03:12 AM PDT

My niece is five year old and nephew is three year old. My sister is 26 year old older than me. I didn t feel right that her ex boyfriend Daniel visit her kids at my apartment every two weekly because he s bad father he still hurt kids he has a problem brain idk what it called. I don t understand why my sister still let Daniel visit kids but he s nothing play with kids just nothing it s been five years and also he pushed me fall when I was 18 I called cops but my sister defend him than me as sister blood. Now he s nothing learn how to stop abuse kids my sister keep saying he will learn blah like many times nothing happen she need wake up that he s ain t man and no good for kids I don t want my son see him abuse kids or yell or crazy ... what should I tell her about it?

Question: Is what my sister doing wrong?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 02:48 AM PDT

I don't think that this is ok. She's been tempting me to do her homework for her and bribing me with something I like/ (I like feet) and she puts them in my lap and says you can have a go at them if you do my homework for me. And a couple of times I have but is that wrong? I feel like she's got some power over me

Question: How to get my brother to stop bullying me?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 02:40 AM PDT

My brother is 3 years older than me and he is twice my size. He will push me hard against a wall or pull me by my hair until im on the ground and then jump on me. I always get into trouble bc I m the one who is asking for it. The last thing that happened was about 20 minutes ago when i was watching tv and he pushed me off the couch and my head hit the coffee table. I tried to stand up for myself but he just kept pushing me and i just lost it, so i slashed one of his tires. I got into trouble for slashing his tire and he didn t get any form of punishment. I constantly have visable bruises but my parents don t believe that their wonder child would hit someone. What should I do??? (I know it was wrong to slash his tire but im just sick of him bullying me)

Question: Mom wants daughter to wear loose clothes.Although the daughter is curvy mon says they dont look good on her.Daughter is adult?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 02:02 AM PDT

Question: I dislike my brother girlfriend?!?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 02:01 AM PDT

I went to high school with her, she talks a LOOOOT of gossip, I try being friends with her but every time I talk to her she gossips about people, & energies are contagious so I say something after & then I regret it b/c i dislike talking gossip! She always likes to talk bad about me to my brother, with information that isn't even true! Talks bad about people but follows them! I feel like my brother might become like that & I don't want him too! He has the best heart & doesn't talk bad about anybody! He is a hard worker all she does is talk bad about people & let him spoil her (lazy) & she thinks she knows it all, always tries bringing me down witch is ridiculous because she has nothing without my brother btw she was negative about him finding a job! & doesn't want to go to church with him & she thinks she is better than me. She is jealous of me. I am kind I don't say anything back. I love my brother. I want the best for him, b/c he deserves the best! I had to distance myself b/c I don't want to her energy around me b/c that is destroying my principles I don't talk about people I talk about ideas/ plans. I haven't talked to my brother.. in a while.. I am a Christian & I do ask God if she isn't the right one for him to take her away . Am I being selfish? *to be next to her energy PS my brother & I are really close.

Question: Should I go to this job fair?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 01:16 AM PDT

I signed up online to go to this job fair in Manhattan. It starts at 4:30 PM tomorrow. The thing is, I have mandatory volunteer work from 1 PM to 6 PM, but sometimes I leave around like 5 or 5:30. I don't know how long the job fair is going to last, but Tuesdays is my busiest work day in the volunteer center I'm in. I mean, I don't know, should I go???

Question: How do I keep warmer when I'm sensitive to the cold and my family isn't?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 01:15 AM PDT

I'm sensitive to the cold. I have been to a doctor to make I'm not anemic or have poor blood circulation and everything has come back clean. With that, I'm constantly dealing with being cold year round because of my family. In winter they have every window open even when its snowing outside. The second the heat comes up for the first time in winter the windows get opened, and because the radiators are near the window all that heat literally goes out the window and I'm stuck huddled under a thick blanket trying to keep warm. Its a nightmare to do work or any kind since taking my hands out from under the blanket leaves my fingers to start slowly feeling cold and my writing getting sloppier from shivering so hard. Even in summer its an issue because they will turn the air conditioners on full blast all day and night. It often forces me to leave the house to thaw myself out. I only had one summer where I got a break and that was because the air conditioners broke down. I've spoke to my family about this. That its not fair that I have to constantly be freezing and uncomfortable in the house all year. Family: "Well your the only one that's always cold." Me: "So because of that I always have to be freezing and have my fingers and toes go numb?" I can't even shower to warm up because then I'm damp and going into cold rooms outside the bathroom door. I just don't know what to do. Anyone have an idea of how I can deal with this? Getting them to stop is out of the question.

Question: Does anyone have any decent advice for young fathers?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 12:59 AM PDT

Question: How do I get revenge on my moms ex boyfriend for getting my sister pregnant?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 12:17 AM PDT

Question: Moms mad at me ? ...?

Posted: 27 Sep 2016 12:11 AM PDT

So, recently my mom stopped talking to me over some things that happened couple weeks ago . I was over my parents house with my 4 year old... My daughter started acting up and I sent her to time out so my dad made a comment saying don't make me call the cops for doing that . Like really ? For sending her in time out and rasing my voice at her ? So , few days later my moms like apologize to your dad and I'm like for what ? I didn't do anything but stand up for myself and won't allow to be talk to like that no matter who you are . Now , she's angry and my daughter keeps asking for her grandma but won't even pick up her phone to see her grandchild . It's one thing to hurt me but it's another thing to hurt my child . She keeps asking for her and it's breaking my heart . I don't know what to do . Why does she have to act like this towards her own grand daughter ?

Question: HELP OUR FAMILY IS IN DANGER!!! we were scammed by someone?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 11:48 PM PDT

we were scammed someone from nigeria and i don t know what he said but she believed in some stupid things but when i try to read the emails he sent mom she wouldn t let me it began like year ago she got loan huge amount and now she is ready to go to jail since she didn t give the loan back and i m sixteen myself and planning to selling my kidney she agreed so we are searching someone but i m scared my mom and i does both work but it just isn t enough what should i do??? if i just sit and watch what my mom does we are going to break apart and please don t ask what does my father think about this, he himself said he can t help please where do i call or international police??? i really don t know so please please help me

Question: How can I confront my dads fiancé in a nice way?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 11:43 PM PDT

So I recently moved with my dad this past May. I m always on time with my rent that we agreed with my grandma since it s her house and she s also renting it to my Dad, his fiancé, and my uncle. The main problem is the bills. The one who manages the bills is my dads fiancé, she charges me for everything! Gas, Light, Trash, Internet, and even the water she receives monthly from Cosco. Now we ve agreed I m not paying for the Cosco water since my mom buys me water bottles and theirs no point to it, since I don t use it anymore and I felt she was charging more than what I m supposed to pay. The bills are split in 4 since we all work, but not only do we all work so does her daughter. She works part time and goes to school. And I work full time and go to school. And she does not pitch in for anything because her mom doesn t want her too because she wants her to focus in school, idk but I love my step sister but I feel bad that I get to pay my share and she don t. I don t care if she doesn t pay rent but at least for the bills. My dads fiancé also has another son who s still in middle school and i find it so unfair that I get to pay a lot when I m just one person and I m paying for their share. Moving in with my dad has been the worst mistake I ve made.

Question: I have a crush on this guy! HELP! PLEASE!!?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 11:14 PM PDT

Okay so let me give you a run down on my situation, I'm a sophomore and he's a freshman. I think he is so cute and every time I see him I want to kiss his face! I don't know anything about him and I want to get to know him so badly, I don't have a problem doing that tho... My problem is that he is my cousins' step cousin... Let me explain. My cousin is related to me by my moms sister being his mom. On his dads side of the family my cousin has an aunt that already has 4 kids. She left the dad for this other guy that already has 2 children from his last relationship. One out of those 2 kids that the guy has from his last relationship I think is so cute and I want to talk to him but I want to hear opinions on what should I do? Do you think that I should give up on my crush or should I pursue it? By the way I think he probably has a thing for me too because every time I see him he stares at me and when I catch him I get butterflies in my stomach like I have never felt before. When I catch him he doesn't look way I'm the one always turning my head because of how embarrassed/flustered I get. I don't see him offen but I do get the opportunity to see him twice a week. I don't take it because I'm still unsure what to do about this. This is the first time I have ever wanted to do something about having a crush on someone. I need help, I tried asking my other cousin but she doesn't know what to do about it either... Please someone answer...

Question: What's wrong with my father in law?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 10:42 PM PDT

So I think there's something medically wrong with my father in law. His hands shake all the time. They never stop. I asked my wife why that is and she doesn't know. He's not on any medications and he hasn't suffered any neurological damage to be known of. He also quite rude some times. For example, one time while I was riding in the car with him he says something to me and when I go to respond he turns on the radio, turns it to the sports station, and turns it way up, effectively drowning out anything I had to say. He will cut you off mid sentence if you're talking. He's extremely dismissive of things others say, no matter how important or insignificant they are. Big things don't seem to bother him but small things that go wrong make him freak out. One time my wife and I were driving somewhere with him when he lost something small, like a pen or the like, and he took his hands off the wheel and eyes off the road and starts screaming "I CAN'T FIND IT ! WHERE IS IT ?!?" We almost wrecked. He can also act extremely childish. Like he'll laugh when he farts and he still watches the Disney channel. So what I'm wanting to know is is there anything medically wrong with him that anyone can tell?

Question: Why am I the odd one out of my family?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 10:25 PM PDT

I've never gotten along with my family. I have one sister, my mom & then my dad. I don't speak with my sister at all, she is always stealing my things (I sleep over my boyfriends home often, and have things at home she doesn't live there but she comes and takes my things while I'm gone). I have my mom, who is always yelling at me & my dad who I feel couldn't care less about me. Whenever I was younger, well not too much younger than I am now I tried to get along with my family. They're just always saying rude things to me and it makes me sad. I don't have any family outside of these 3. I have little to no desire to be close to my sister because she is just awful & extremely rude. I would like to be close to my mom and dad. They are so much older than me though which makes it hard. They had me very late (40's). That doesn't mean that they have to be so nasty to me. They are always telling me I can't do things or I have high goals in life, I only want better because I grew up in a poor neighborhood on the outside of Atlanta & don't want to be stuck living life like they did & miserable. I feel like they don't want to see my succeed. I don't like being the odd all ball out but I don't know how to rekindle or even have a relationship with these people who are always trying to knock everything I do or say? I'm doing extremely good for myself, I'm working toward moving to Florida, am in school and have two part time jobs. I'm trying very hard to be accepted but it is not working.

Question: I thought about how perfect he did with his life the light of God so I have to move on now where should I begin?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 10:03 PM PDT

Basically this boyfriend that I've been wishing for the question is already a boyfriend Cuz she had a baby and he has to protect her daughter