I am a 23 year old sharing an apartment with my mom, her boyfriend, and my older sister. My moms name and my name is on the lease. I usually pay my rent on time. Here is the problem my hours at work are cut so instead of bringing home 350-500 a week I am only bringing home 175-230 a week for the last two months. I have been looking for a job elsewhere. I pay 400 a month for rent but since my monthly income has been cut in half I wont have my rent until after October 7th. I did however say I will pay the late fee since it is my fault rent is late. Of course my mom is flipping out and saying I am irresponsible and how I just need to move out. This is where it gets crazy because our rent is 1180 a month, my sister just got a job and is paying 500 a month(was not paying anything for 6+ months before), her boyfriend pays 300, and I pay 400 which is 1200. She pays the electric, water, cable, and groceries which is a lot more of course. She is always paying the electric bill late, the cable bill is always later as well. She thinks it is okay for her to be late but not when I am late or my sister. Every month she gets mad as well thinking I will not have my rent money but I always do except this one time. So what can I say to get my mom to realize she is overreacting or am I in the wrong here?

How do I get over this feeling. I know I sound like a little kid but I am Mom and Dad's 2nd rate son. All the talk about is my brother who died four years ago and their worship room to him (he killed himself but was sick in the mind) and my sister who just got married and is pregnant and everyone finally has happiness and glorifies her. I am the other one. My sister and her husband live in the house with us so I practically am not noticed. I know I sound like a 4 year old, I am 15, but how can I stop feeling like a 2nd rate child. No one pays attention and there is nothing I can do (absent something bad) for any of that to change. ANY THOUGHTS? I cant bring it up to my parents or I will sound immature.

So first and foremost, I tried to convince her to get an abortion (pls respect my views)and she still wants it; by the way I don't live in the same city as her, i was just visiting my mother for a couple of months before I start college. Anyways, i met her family and I do not agree with anything her dad is saying; the first thing he asked me was when are we getting married and saying we have to move in together; OMG. I don't think he knows I live somewhere else but anyways I just don't like how her family is trying to run everything and act like I'm suppose to just go along and agree with everything. While he was telling me this I did not disagree I stayed calm and just let him talk, but I do not like this at all. Like dam I don't even want to keep the baby , my life is just now getting started and I'm just now living a dream I always wanted. I haven't told my family yet because I am honestly ashamed and I don't want them telling me I have to stop school and work , I will tell them later in but now I'm still going through it with my own head.

So my mom has been planning my baby shower for a month. Its set for 3 days from now. She's bought so many gifts, decorations, and even catering. She's sent out at least 30 invites. I've never seen her more excited. But my younger siblings that live at home just got over a cold and the event was supposed to be at her house. The delema is deciding if she should cancel, move locations or follow through. If it were me I would go through with it, but my grandma is saying she's going to tell everybody not to go, which is extremely embarrassing to me and my mom. I have high doubt's of anyone getting sick because nobody has a fever anymore, and there are still 3 days to disinfect and clean the house. Any suggestions on canceling or throwing it anyways? And any suggestions on how to handle my grandma? Thank you!!

We had an issue with our water a week or two ago and I was the only person in a house of 5 to notice. I told my dad and he ignored me and said I was imagining it. Then a week later my sister said it so he went up to where our water system is and found dirt. So I was right. He added chlorine and itwas very strong in our water but now after a week I am the only one who am still taste it. My mom said I'm imagining things but I'm not as others girls in my grade ( my friends tasted it in my bottle ) said there was. It makes my food cooked in the water unedible and I have to spend €2 a day every day every week, on a bottle of water to drink. Could I be right and just be the only person who can taste it? How long until it's gone?

She doesn't seem like one but what if she is

I'm going for my first ever professional bra fitting tomorrow (my bras never fit right) and I don't know the protocol. I'm not overly modest (around other women) so I don't mind getting topless if I'm supposed to, but I don't know if I'm supposed to. It makes sense that it'd be more accurate if you were topless.... But I don't want to commit a big faux pas either. The store advertises "free, professional bra fittings" on a sign but there aren't any more details. I assume they take you to a fitting room for privacy. How much do I strip down? Will they tell me when? Sorry, just young and new to all this lol I'm more or less comfortable, I just wanted to make sure I wasnt wrong. Will they tell me when to take my top and bra off or do I just strip down right away? Will it just be one girl doing the fitting I assume? KittySue---thanks for the detail!! Sounds like it'd be a lot easier if I just let them in, and that it wouldn't be unusual or inapropriate if I did. Accurate?

I have been dealing with this for 6 years now. My mother is always mentally abusing me and she is hard to deal with. My father tries his best to make her happy, but even he is at his limit. My two brothers aren t really doing much to help me and are actually making the situation worse by provoking my mother, which leads to violent arguments and someone almost getting sent to jail. I have tried being nice to my mother, but she just ignores my kindness and hurts and tortures us even more. She has a mental illness (meningioma) and ever since her surgery 6 years ago, she became like this. She thinks my father is gonna molest and rape me, she follows me all the way to my bus stop to school, embarrassing me, and she also has taken over my half of my room by sleeping there with me. I really don t know what to do. Does anyone have any advice?

I have had it with my son's disrespecting behavior. He's 16, but acts emotionally immature. He seems very emotionally unstable: He likes to argue; will yell at you, if you talk to him in what he perceives to be a nasty tone. If you argue back to him or criticize him, he'll have an explosive outburst. We tell him about not wanting the neighbors to hear him, but after hearing us say this, he has on several occasions gone outside the front door and yelled at the top of his lungs about how rotten his parents are. He'll even start yelling at you, if from his pov you said something in a nasty tone in a public place. He'll say something like, "Do you think I'm going to let you get away with talking to me like that just because we're in a public place & it might be embarrassing? We tell him that no normal person his age would act the way he does. What can we do to stop my son's behavior? If his mom does something or says something that triggers him, then she tells him that she is his mother and that he needs to show respect, he'll tell her that she is using that whole, "I'm your mother" as an excuse or a shield for her wrongdoing. He is well-behaved, except when something triggers him to go into one of his outburst.

All's well no matter how you personally see it. God doesn't make mistakes so cheer up and stop whining. Life is unfolding exactly as it is supposed to.

you have no idea how upset I am with this girl, my son gave her everything she wanted and needed but now that he had accident she is leaving him but he doesn't know it yet, do I tell my son what she is up to?

So I started the disney college program about 6 weeks ago and I've felt absolutely miserable ever since. I absolutely hate my job and I just feel like sh*t all the time. People keep telling me to stick it out but I honestly don't see a point to continue if I'm going to be this miserable the whole time. I've already talked to my boss about switching positions but there is nothing they can do. The only thing that makes me happy right now is the thought of going home. So should I just go home or should I stick it out for a little bit longer? Thanks

he will call her all sorts of words and sometimes the police are called if he chokes her. I don't want my friends over when it happens since I am not supposed to tell anyone at school.

So my mother took our family and moved from Chicago to Miami. Don't get me wrong the place is beautiful, but its not home. I am 18 years old and I had a great life there, I go to school here now and I made friends but I just feel very unhappy here. I feel if I stay here, I'm going to continue being unhappy, but if I leave, I feel like I'm abandoning family, but I will be happy once again. What should I do?

When I was younger, my older brother used to pull pranks on me and call me names. He was so misbehaved that my parents refused to get him a car or his license when he turned 16. My family is a beautiful and loving family, I am blessed to be in such a good family, my brother was just a jerk, so don't reflect on my family from this. I was in middle school and he was in high school, he was a singer and in the marching band. And ever since then I've talked trash on those people. because of his verbal attacks. My boyfriend knows the whole story. My boyfriend and I are the jock type. I play varsity volleyball and he plays ultimate frisbee and Football. We went to my parents cabin last weekend and my mom has a piano in the basement there. In the middle of the night I heard noise coming from the basement. I went down there. He was playing the piano and singing bohemian rhapsody by queen. One of my favorite songs ever. It was so beautiful, he sang so beautifully and I stayed for the remainder of the song. He saw me and stopped and started stuttering "Hannah! I was just. Lip syncing to see if it was an easy thing to pull off" he was shaking and stuttering nervously. I knew he was responsible for the beauty that was played that night. But he's been acting nervous all week. He continues to deny it. He knows I've talked trash on young singers like my brother, and I think he's nervous that I'll turn on him too. should I talk to him? Should I feel guilty for making him worry so much?

It's weird. Some parents will be like, "You better no be lying to me or I'm a whoop your ***!" Then if you do tell them depending on what the situation is they'll still beat your *** or tell you to move out. Like you don't agree with how controlling and one-sided a parent is being in demanding info from you but never revealing how they feel without having anger behind their words almost like they always feel threatened. Guess some folks are always on some kind of power trip.

A cam girl is someone who gets paid to chat with men, strip and masturbate for money online. It's legal and everyone is signed up on an official website to do it. I'm in my early twenties and I'm saving up money working my butt off doing hours and hours of caming because I want more for myself than a life where I'm working a normal job just surviving/getting by instead of enjoying life. Caming makes A LOT more than normal jobs in much shorter amounts of time so I will be able to set my own schedule, travel and do whatever I want when I want and not have to miss out because I have a "normal job." I'm noing this in my room at my grandparents house on their internet that they pay for. They don't know how much I'm making so I'm not forced to drain my bank account paying rent and for my own food. That allows me to save up even more money. Do you think it's wtong that I'm doing this in someone elses house?

My mum makes me want to die. I live in the middle of nowhere and I miss my home city. I live alone with her. I have depression and so does she but she s taken up bdsm and is talking to men on her phone all the time she says they re just friends and she ll never meet them but I read on her diary she was planning to meet her "master" when I m on my school trip in Germany. Anyways she always shouts at me for stuff and she says she s always there for me but she s always on her phone. Maybe I m just being selfish but I want to die and I cut myself. I had therapist help before but my mum think sin cured even tho Im not. I m scared cuz I don t know how I m gonna live here for another 4 years. (I m 14). I also hate myself because I m chubby af and can t lose weight even tho I work out and eat healthily and I always feel ugly. My boyfriend lives in my home city (london) and I live in the middle of shittt france and I miss him. ( he s actually the nicest person I ve ever met very innocent sweet and not at all sexual even tho he s 17) I ve been with him for 9 months. So yea advice plz on what to do.. I hate my scars..

After a long stressful day, after it all, I come home to the abusive parent I hate so much. Who's been physically and emotionally abusive. Yet here I am, doing the same thing to a much younger sibling, 6 years old. I tell her she's gonna fall down from a window, take her there and scare her. Then ask who's gonna miss you. Then I say are you ready, before putting her back down. I've always been this way, seeking to hurt others smaller than me, I believe I am capable of being just as monstrous and I tell myself I never want to be like them but that's exactly what I'm becomming. I speak of morality, and how wrong it is for me to be abused, yet I seek power and ability to hurt others. I realize once again, that I am capable of true evil.

The woman wasn't doing anything in particular she just walked in

I'm disapointed in my neice and nephew. Both of them work crappy jobs, neither of them own their own house yet or live on their own. They are 17 and 19, when I was close to their age 35+ years ago, I owned my own house and had a great job as a dentist. I am also always encouraging them and telling them they need to lose weight, my neice weighs 56kg and is 5 foot 7, my nephew weighs 59kg and is 5 foot 6. They aren't even in college yet because they say "We don't want to be in debt." And "It's too expensive." They eat way too much for their ages, they said they eat 1300 calories a day. They have never listened to me, not even when they were younger. Why don't they listen to me? Why is their age group, so immature and held back unlike mine was at their age? I went to school at 17, became a dentist at 21. They don't even work much. They only work 30 hours a week, they each make $360 weekly, which is immature of them. Everyone needs to work 75+ hours a week, neice and nephew are very lazy in my opinion. Why wre they like this?

I have a sister who is a year and a half younger than me. She is a cold hearted person who will do everything and anything to hurt u. She is full of drama and is always in our mom's business. Our mom is the same way. They both are just full of drama. My sister uses my mom and is very mean to her. My mom used to call me and complain about her to me to the point where I no longer to talk any of them. They are just so full of negativity and talk about each other. Its driving me crazy. I have another sister who just cant seem to get her life together either. She is a mother of 7 kids and cant find a job. My older brother is a police officer with his own house, cars, two kids, and wife. He is pretty much stable. He stays away from them because I am sure he is embarrassed and fed up as well. Our youngest brother never finished high school, cant and wont find a job, and smokes weed, and just uses my mom as well. Myself, I have two jobs, a car, and roommates I live with. I am grateful that my life is coming together but I feel bad for my other brother and sisters. They blame me for abandoning them. My sister says I am selfish. that's not true. After my dad passed away everything jus hit rock bottom. He was the one that held us together and now that he is gone, everything is a disaster. I don't know what to do. every time I call it is never a good conversation, its always about someone or something. I have shut them out completely because of this but I miss them a lot. I get that no one is perfect but u would think we would stick as a family but that's not the case

I m thirteen for a starter. I know damn well I m too young and it s illegal to smoke, but yeah. I started smoking cigarettes about a month or two ago and I ve been really careful about it. My mum left for about a day or so, leaving me with my dad and no way to get more cigarettes. I got two lighters from my mum s bag, because she s a smoker. She started around my age as well, either thirteen or fourteen. I got home one day from being with my friends, and I put my lighters under a jacket on my floor. My mum was still gone. I came home from school to see my jacket hung up and my lighters nowhere to be seen. It s either I did that and moved my lighters somewhere else, or my mum moved my jacket up and found them. What do I do?

I am the oldest of three daughters and the only one to not have children. My family sees having children as a sign of being an adult and you should get having children out of the way quickly. I chose to go to college first which was upsetting to my family especially my grandma. Then I went to graduate school. During graduate school I met my husband and are now married. I am currently 29 (my husbands 33) and am not ready to settle in yet. We have decided we don't want children yet despite being married 3 years now. We enjoy traveling and going out on the weekends which a child would limit. Sister 1 (27): Is unmarried and struggling through nursing school but my family is happy because she has 2 kids. Sister 2 (26): Divorced and remarried to the same man and already talking divorce again but has 4 kids so all is good. For a wedding present my parents bought me a nursery set and my grandma gave me a stroller, car seat and a bunch of hand knitted baby clothes. Since, every time I have seen them they keep asking when is the baby coming and continue to buy things for the nonexistent baby. My dad and other male relatives have made it the running joke to question my husbands manhood. It is upsetting my husband and is refusing to go to any get togethers until this stops. I don't blame him though after my grandma offered to pay to have us both tested for infertility/sterility I am not so keen either.

So I'm 23 and my mom is my legal guardian and I don't live with her i live in an adult living program. She is my guardian cos i have PDD and AD/HD. My mom says if i keep cussing on facebook that she will disconnect my internet. My brother cusses on facebook and she won't do it to him. Its not fair. Cos she will disconnect mine and not his. She never makes him do anything and he is 34 next month. She told me that I could be my own guardian when i turn 18. She told me no now cos she didn't know all the problems i have which is not true cos she did know these before i turned 18. I feel like my mom loves my brother more than me. My dad even told me that he loves my brother more which is not even his kid it is his step son. Cos me and my brother have the same mom and different dads. My mom does spend more time with me tho. I love my mom. I just don't like it how she punishs me and not my brother. My mom also does spend more money on me tho. I see my mom 2 times a week and i will see her today. And i see her on Wednesday and Sunday. How can i get my mom to stop punishing me. It's not like I'm doing anything illegal. I pay for my own internet.

I am a 25 year old woman who has lived in NYC my entire life with my mother, brother, sister in law and niece. I have a decent paying job and completed my BA at 22. I have never left home, and my mother did not allow me to go away for college. My mother is a 78 year old woman with some health issues (bad heart, arthritis and diabetes), but the surgeries that she had improved her quality of life for the most part. My family and I have had our issues, and a lot of people I've spoken to has even called it a toxic environment. My brother despised me ever since I was small, and though he now says otherwise, I know he still hates me for taking away his mother (I'm adopted). He would hit, threaten and belittle me for petty and silly things, like bringing home a single bad grade or not cleaning for example. My mother did the same thing, and even though she basically saved me and loves me dearly, there are things that she has done and names she has called me that I cannot forget about. My sister in law is two faced and can never accept blame for anything, and my niece is just there. My self esteem and sense of worth has crippled in part due to my family. Now at 25, I have constant anxiety over what I should do. I believe deep in my heart that it's time to move on with my life, but the fear of the impending guilt that my family will pile on holds me back. Especially my mother, who is convinced that I will spend the rest of her days taking care of her in the house. What should I do?

This is my mother's family I am referring to (aunts, uncles, and cousins) @Laredo----I am just like you

My aunt is really annoyed because her current boyfriend got mad at her son for no reason and spanked him with a piece of wood and broke it on him. He's ok but he's only 7. I don't know if it was for no reason or not she didn't say. He didn't hurt his brother only him. She said she doesn't want to leave him because they have a daughter together. They're daughter is 3 her other son is 5. The kids not even his and he had to go and hurt him. Her boyfriend is about 10 years younger than her. She's 27 she acts like she's 16. She's nothing but drama when she's with boys. Now she's mad because a teenage girl keeps messaging and stalking her on Facebook. She never lets her 5 and 3 year old come over only her 7 year old. I spend the most time with him. She said that his brother and sister aren't my niece and nephew but they are. The two boys father is my brother. Just because she had the girl with someone else she thinks she has no reason to be in my family. She's really upset that the girls father did that to her son and this one creepy chick is stalking her online. How can I help her feel better ?

I dumped him last week for standing me up and possibly cheating. However, I called him yesterday and I was shocked that he answered the phone. We talked for about 30 minutes about lunch and our favorite TV shows. He's still taking my calls is there hope for us to make up? If he didn't want me calling he'd tell me to stop calling and texting him right?

First of all, please don't respond saying social media is a waste of time. I'm hoping people only answer if they understand the social media culture. Second, I by no means think likes are an accurate measurement of popularity, relevance or likeability. After years of observations I can tell you there are several factors that determine number of likes including how frequently you post (the less frequent, the more likes), whether or not you have friends who actively engage in social media, number of people tagged and how engaged their friend base is, and also ppl definitely buy or request likes, use dumbie accounts etc. So what you see is not what you get with social media. However lately I've been getting the feeling that a lot of people from my past and present life befriend or follow me but never like stuff. I know they like other people's stuff. But not mine. And it's not about quality of pic. Someone could post a pic of a Lima bean and get 60 likes and I'll post a pic of the Amalfi Coast and get 0. I'm getting the feeling that I have a few frenemies. For instance, a girl I grew up with wants to stay connected via social media but never wants to hang out and never likes my stuff. She just wants to snoop I guess. My sister in laws never like my stuff but they see it. They'll comment in person that they saw it, funny pic, nice pic etc. What is going on?

For reasons I won't get into my parents don't interact with extended family except weddings and funerals. It is not due to any feud or anything but just them not wanting to because of weird personality stuff my mother has. I really like family and want to interact but people don't reply much when I ask "can I join in" so I don't ask anymore. Now I am an adult so it would be rude anyway plus my grandmother died so there aren't as many get together's on my mother's side and my Dad's parents are in a nursing home. So my cousins get together about once a month but they see me about two times a year. I can't invite myself and I host a party once a year in the summer on both sides of the family (one each). Show how can I reach out so my cousins are as close to me as they are to each other without intruding on my aunts-uncles? I am 25 so a little older, most cousins are high school-college age. I don't want to be the little known cousin like my parents are the little known aunt-uncle though sadly because of my mother I was the little known cousin as a kid. At the same time I don't want to be the obnoxious cousin who imposes on everyone like my mother used to tell me I was as a teenager. My Mom's sister would get agitated with me for this some also when I'd go overboard. As noted my parents are just strangely private and my mother has some issues. It is not due to any falling out or anything like that. The family is private though so mannerism are a big deal I;ve asked in etiquette but they seemed to think I was someone else so I am asking in Family section.

I know my parents love me but I constantly worry the extended family thinks of me as a family friend instead of a true family member. How do I get over this? I have been reassured this isn't the case but that hasn't helped, I still think people think less of me and I can't ask cousins and all, I only ask my parents and one grandparent, I'd be embarrassed to ask anyone else. I think they think less of me since I dont look like them and am not real family by DNA. I was adopted as a baby and am 16 now.

I gave each of my parents a matching pair of expensive necklaces which I found out 20 yrs later that my mom gave hers away to my sister. I feel badly hurt, but should I? My siblings and I are not in a financial need situation, so these are just that - gifts. I plan on calling my dad to buy back his necklace if he doesn't want it anymore - assuming he still has it. I will also buy my mother's back from my sister. Am I going to start war by doing this?

ever since i was a baby, i went to my aunts house when my parents had work. That lead to me going to her house after school. So when school lets our, she picks me up and takes me to her house and i stay there untilnlike 7 or 8. ( shes really my cousin but i call her my aunt for respect) but since i m starting highschool, i feel like it s totally unnecessary. i m old enough to take care of myself. how can i let my parents know im sick of her! she yells at me for doing nothing. she yells at me for using my phone or watching the tv. she makes me clean her house even though i mess nothing up. i clean up after her. she hits me for having an " attitude " . she has this cat that hates me and has attacked me. the cat gets fur everywhere and its on all of my clothes. all of them. i see her everyday. if there is no school that day, i go to her house. before summer camp starts, i go to her house. after i leave summer camp, i go to her house. and i don t understand why they can t trust me. We have an alarm system that calls the police if someone comes in and doesnt put in the code. we have a lot of trusting neighbors houses i could go to if something happens or i get scared. i live in a great neighborhood. My grades in school are excellent. Why won t they trust me? evey time i ask i get yelled at. does anyone have a good arguement?

It's been over 5 months since my mother and father divorced. My father is alcoholic and he drinks whenever he has money. Then he comes home and psychically abuses everyone. He gives very little money to my mom (my mom takes care of me and my brother, pays bills, etc) and he ususally eats all the food in the house. Whenever asked about moving out he tries to change the subject or simply walks away. My mom says if we call the police and he is taken away he'll just come right back and I don't know what I could do about it, I'm only 15

Yesterday, I thought I needed a ride home from college because the train to home was running late, my dad had to go to the doctor because he was sick and my best friend was getting a ride from her dad. We live like 2 min away from each other. So I asked her if she can wait until like 1:30 because that's when my class usually ends, but the official end time is 2:30. She called her dad to come at 1:30 but later I told her I don't think the class will end by then, definitely 2:30. However, she was too shy to call her dad again to just come at that time. He came at 1:30, they waited like 15 min and then left. Because the train was running very late yesterday, I had to call my dad right after he got out of the doctor's office. I am annoyed because I really needed her help but she couldn't help as she was too shy to call up her dad again and tell him to come later. It's really not a hassle to drop me at my house as we usually do ridesharing and we live extremely close by. I have waited for her before and I had no problems with it. This wasn't the only time she was "too shy" to tell her dad either and it's really bothering me since it affected me too.

My child is old enough to start helping with dishes etc. I'm trying to teach him that it's polite to help clean the dishes after you eat or drink specially when you're at someone's house. When he is at home he washes all his dishes and cups sometimes even the pots and pans. When he goes to his grandmas she insists he doesn't do anything and says "he's just a child" she looks at him and says you don't need to do any of this you should be playing. Sometimes he even will talk back when I ask him to clean up after himself he says why grandma says I'm just a kid. The reason this is really important for me if because my husband was babied his entire life. He wouldn't know how to clean a kitchen or do dishes if his life depended on it. He has no idea how to do laundry, he has no idea how to pick up after himself and I know this is because of his mother. I don't want our child like this. I was brought up to help around the house and in general house keeping skills are important for any adult. How can I tell my mother in law without offending her? She takes everything as an attack towards her and will start crying. 10 minutes of washing and tidying up per day doesn't take away from his play time In my culture it's polite to help clean up at someone's house. Specially if you contributed to the mess. It's just customary for me to do so.

I am a senior in high school and live close by. I want to walk to school alone but my Mom insists on walking me. We have to cross the street right in front of school and my Mom still makes me hold her hand she also gives me a kiss in front of everybody.

I hate school. I'm terrified of going and I just keep making excuses not to go. I'd rather just get a job (my parents have a bakery) or go to an online school, but whenever I bring it up to my mom she yells at me saying I'm just making excuses because i'm lazy. I want to die. I want to kill my self but she isn't interesting in hearing that I guess. She doesn't care at all. I'd rather be in a hospital then the position I'm in now. Please tell me how i can fix everything, those of you who have been through the same situation as me.

For reasons I won't get into my parents don't interact with extended family except weddings and funerals. It is not due to any feud or anything but just them not wanting to because of weird personality stuff my mother has. I really like family and want to interact but people don't reply much when I ask "can I join in" so I don't ask anymore. Now I am an adult so it would be rude anyway plus my grandmother died so there aren't as many get together's on my mother's side and my Dad's parents are in a nursing home. So my cousins get together about once a month but they see me about two times a year. I can't invite myself and I host a party once a year in the summer on both sides of the family (one each). Show how can I reach out so my cousins are as close to me as they are to each other without intruding on my aunts-uncles? I am 25 so a little older, most cousins are high school-college age. I don't want to be the little known cousin like my parents are the little known aunt-uncle though sadly because of my mother I was the little known cousin as a kid. At the same time I don't want to be the obnoxious cousin who imposes on everyone like my mother used to tell me I was as a teenager. My Mom's sister would get agitated with me for this some also when I'd go overboard. As noted my parents are just strangely private and my mother has some issues. It is not due to any falling out or anything like that. The family is private though so mannerism are a big deal I asked last night in Etiquette but they had me mixed up with someone else so I moved to Family Section.

I am 14 and she is 26 so more of a motherly figure. My Mom just says she is being petty. It was an honest accident.

I was close to my alcoholic father for years and saw him recover from his disease. My mother was convinced I would become an alcoholic if I met him (I was 8 when she began alienating me from him due to her anger about his alcoholism disease and 15 when I started seeing him again regularly ). Was her fear correct that I will now be an alcoholic? I know it is worth me being careful as it is genetic but otherwise?

My dad started screaming at 6 in the morning at my sister saying how she doesn't clean her rabbits cage cause she has homework. I agree with my dad cause my sister usally procrastinates but here's what he did next. He started yelling louder, grabbed the bunny cage and threw it around with the bunny who's not even 1 yet. Then I kept yelling at him to stop and he ignores me. I was trying to sleep at the time and I am now too but I can't thinking about it. I can't tell him eaither or I'm scared he'll yell at me or grab me and throw me or drag me. At the same time he's a really nice person, so I don't know. In bed I'm thinking if he's the reason I've been so depressed, since it started when he started acting like that, which is when I was 6 or 7. I'm 13. Is this abusive? Sorry for the rant! Also the rabbits my sisters And the only reason she didn't clean it was cause she has a lot of homework to catch up, so yep.

I'm not going to school today. My mom yelled at me and I cried as she told me to go to school. I can't go. I wrote her a letter telling her my problems and she doesn't give two shiz. I'm willing to lose everything. I'm on the verge of killing my self. Help how do I take punishment without crying like a baby.

I'm disapointed in my neice and nephew. Both of them work crappy jobs, neither of them own their own house yet or live on their own. They are 17 and 19, when I was close to their age 35+ years ago, I owned my own house and had a great job as a dentist. I am also always encouraging them and telling them they need to lose weight, my neice weighs 56kg and is 5 foot 7, my nephew weighs 59kg and is 5 foot 6. They aren't even in college yet because they say "We don't want to be in debt." And "It's too expensive." They eat way too much for their ages, they said they eat 1300 calories a day. They have never listened to me, not even when they were younger. Why don't they listen to me? Why is their age group, so immature and held back unlike mine was at their age? Neice and nephew work at the same place, they work 27 to 30 hours a week which is very lazy in my honest opinion.

So my story goes something like this. My relatives were all of a sudden asking me when I m going to Egypt and these weird questions like that. I was completely lose since I have never heard about this before. I soon realized my parents planned on taking our family from our home in the US to Egypt for us to get a different perspective on life as Muslims since we were all born and raised in the us except our parents and they feel as if we were getting too "westernized" you know talking to the opposite sex, getting modern haircuts, dressing nice , normal stuff like that so they decided we will move here for a couple of years and then go back home. I am absolutely devastated. I was 16 and my parents were always very strict and I wanted freedom so we never got along. They wouldn t let me get a job, get my license, or even move out when I get old enough but I didn t care because I knew I would move out when I get older with or without their permission. My dad never asked me and basically forced me to come to Egypt against my will and took me out of school when i was about to start my junior year because I was too Americanized. I m a normal person lmao you wouldn t think I m non social if you saw me I just have some very very weird parents lol. But anyway fast forward to now I m stuck in Egypt but I kept arguing with my dad until he promised me he will take me back. What I am worried about though are my siblings. All of them have started school here in Egypt which if you don t know Egypt has one of the worst education systems but yeah I wanted to know what can be done and more importantly if my dad decides to not take me back could the us embassy be able to do anything about that if I reported this situation. Thank you I would also like to know 1) is it legal in the first place to take your kids out of school for like 2-3 years for a sh*t reason like this 2) is it illegal to be forced to leave your home country like this for no good reason 3) since I am turning 18 soon, if my parents force me to keep staying here when I turn that age, is it still hopeless for me to contact the embassy and try to come back home I really want to stress thatThis really is a horrible situation and I don't like it one bit. You get pulled away from your friends, family, fun (I barely remember that world now), my culture, and life in general by my parents for no good reason when I was 16. Now I am almost 18 and I am wondering would I still be forced to stay here and my life basically be over. I really can't believe this happened. I used to be a regular person you would never think my parents would do something like this

Ever since I was a little kid my mom has always showed me in any way possible that she loves my brothers more than me. In fact my earliest memory of her was her hitting me in the stomach while I was in the bath & I remember feeling like I was gonna black out. She always called me ugly, fat, worthless, & said she wish she aborted me. I dont understand why she hates me so much. When i was living with her (before my dad took custody) she would tell people i was just a roommate. She also was very big into the bdsm scene & when i used her computer when she was gone i sorta snooped & found out she was telling people i was her servant. She even once told me to tell a guy to get himself off on the phone which i didnt then she told me i was a mistake. Growing up she always would beat on me & even have deprived me of needs such as food, clothes, & showering (she would refuse to let me shower , feed me, or buy me new clothes that i couldnt fit in anymore.) She let her friends twist my nipples when i hit puberty which caused them to become infected and needed surgery. She would even tell lies to my dad saying i did stuff when i didnt so he would beat me with a belt. But she always done & done so many things for my brother. In middle school i was living with my grandmother (her mother) when i won a art contest my mom shredded my art & broke my award. She would never let me have anything.

I mean I think they are, but how can I tell for sure?

My family finally visited, haven't seen my family because I began a family on the other coast and now my sister stayed here with us. She refuses to work, she was a nurse caregiver on the east coast and now she's here in Los Angeles. Does not want to do that at all, so we support her for 2 months and asking her what she wants to do. She stays in the house and watches our 2 children, avoids all conversation regarding this point and we, my bf & I, don't know what to do. I admit I haven't been around when she was young as I was in another country when she was growing up so I don't know her as well as I would've liked. I was surviving as a girl alone but this is difficult to do. Can someone help with advise? Sorry for the long story but please help.

Everyone is all sad, like im happy Chris chose a right decision to do. He got shot in the head. The doctor said there s a chance he would survive but we don t know. He passed away on Sunday afternoon. Like I need to tell my mom that she had us. I know that s her son but we re doing the best we can. I can t even go to school right now or sleep near my family cuz it reminds me of Chris. I comfort her all day but it didn t work. Its been 5 days and we re doing this fundraising for his funeral my mom is all stressed. Even my cousins and aunts are helping/comforting her. It s hard to say goodbye to him but my mom still remembers her little baby. Chris is going to donate his organs btw cuz he always said that he wants to save others so my mom is kind of settling in. If you want to help with his funeral, please help us? https://www.gofundme.com/chrisgodinez

My family lives cross country and his family lives 5 hours away. His mom and brother visits about every other month for a few days and fiance likes to go out there about every two months. I have a toddler from a previous relationship and its really a hassle with the car ride and I always feel drained when once we get out there until the time we get home. My fiance has a bunch of friends he always goes to hang out with and I end up having to run around town with his mom and the rest of the family and its gets tiring, interferes with my sons nap times, someone always says something about me breastfeeding and I don't want his mom watching my son for a while because she makes him cry WAY too long. Its definitely a vacation for him but I dread it every time. Once I get home, i'm completely touched out and just don't want to be bothered. We also end up arguing every single time either in the car or once we get out there. Its just no fun for me and I would rather stay home this time and let him go out and enjoy his time. Is it rude of me to tell him? ADDING TO QUESTION: Do you think his mom would be offended? Shoudl I even care?