Family: Question: My mother likes to hurt me by saying hurtful things about relatives I love who she is mad at. How do I survive this since I see my mother?

Question: My mother likes to hurt me by saying hurtful things about relatives I love who she is mad at. How do I survive this since I see my mother?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 01:43 PM PDT

I know I can always stop seeing my mother since I am an adult living on my own now but I don't want to go to that extreme as then I am acting as bitter as her. So how do I survive this? She often says the hurtful stuff not to me directly but to others in the room with me there since I don't visit my mother one on one much.

Question: Since my Dad is an alcoholic should I allow him to drive when he seems sober if I am over (or could he get drunk)?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 01:42 PM PDT

Question: My Dad is always sticking up for my mother if a relative cuts her down but half the time my mother is the one wrong, is this normal?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 01:42 PM PDT

Is this normal and required in marriage? I know sometimes he has to if she is right but if she is wrong is he still required to stick up for her? I don't mean with us kids but with other adults. She makes him responsible to get involved in any feuds she is having with others and then his relationships are strained. @Jack----My parents are not divorced

Question: Worst Father and Son Relationship Ever!!?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 01:39 PM PDT

So me and my dad cannot have a conversation. No matter what subject it is about he will turn it into an argument and then turn it personal. Like we were sat down watching a football match and he had a blown up argument about something not being a penalty. He will then turn it personal about how I ve done nothing with my life and how I m a "lazy ****" and I "sit on my *** all day" even when I have a full time job.... I haven t had a full conversation with him for years. And when it gets bad it can get bad to the point we are full on insulting and saying the taboo swear words like "C***" and "W***er". No matter what happens we always argue. I can t get away from him because I live with him. My mum says "ignore him" but it s sort of hard when he s properly going in on me. Don t know what to do anymore. I walked out the other night and was made to come home by my mother the next morning. And he s still not changing! I m done with him tbh.

Question: My grandma got drunk and said that she was gonna go take a nap, but...?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 01:34 PM PDT

She's been asleep for almost a week now. Should I be concerned?

Question: My mother has a friend that likes to gossip about my family (My Dad and step-mother). How might I get out of having to see this woman?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 01:24 PM PDT

This woman's husband sadly has cancer so my mother has been with her a lot. The woman does not gossip about my Dad in front of me unless my mother brings it up which only happened once (I walked out of the room). So I am worried that come times like Thanksgiving my mother is going to want to do the holiday with this person and her husband since the husband is ill (stage 3 cancer). So how might I POLITELY get out of having to see this friend of my mothers even on special occasions like Thanksgiving. I don't mind seeing the woman (the friend of my mother's) if my mother is not there, but the two combined I am uncomfortable with because of their gossip. The friend of hers shares my mother's negative attitude toward my Dad and step-mother and my Mom is not sensitive at all to my feelings here when I tried to talk to her about it. She just said "don't lecture me about how to feel". The woman knew my step-mother at one time so that is the connection. I ASKED EARLIER TODAY AND JUST LOOKING FOR DIFFERENT IDEAS (LAST TIME I WILL ASK). I am and a guy if that helps and college age. I should add my parents divorce was years ago and my mother asked for the divorce so she was not the victim in it though I am sure she was hurting (I was 8 at the time). By asked for I mean she left my father and filed for divorce

Question: I get scared with Cold War Era talk my mother does about how we might have to evacuate to Catskills in another 9-11. What do I do?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 01:23 PM PDT

I am an adult and yet my mother is the fear type (she was raised this way) and we live near NYC. She is saying things like "if there is another 9-11 we all need to meet somewhere fast and evacuate to the Catskills where my friend has a farm". Depending what is going on I am an adult and would not necessarily leave town as we didn't on 9-11 though I wouldn't go into the city (we live 20 minutes away). So how do I get my mother to chill. She brings it up whenever there is an attack in Europe and yesterday with today's anniversary. When 9-11 did happen we stayed home and were fine. My grandmother on my mother's side is ill and my mother watches Fox News all day with her and so she gets these stories about worst case scenerios and thinks the world is coming to an end.

Question: Should I reach out to the family that my father destroyed?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 01:22 PM PDT

my father (whom I never had a relationship with) while driving drunk, hit and killed a man. Amidst his guilty verdict I just found out the name of the family. The man killed has a daughter about a decade younger than me (16yo) and a birthday about a week before mines. Should I reach out? Gosh, what to/not say? Would you want to hear from me if it were you? I feel terrible that my fathers selfish actions cost another mans life.

Question: What is my dads problem with me?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 01:11 PM PDT

My dad has always been a controlling person. I always feel awkward around him or nervous about what I say because he has such a short temper. I am 20 years old and in college. I feel like as I get older, the more distant me and my dad become. My mum lives in Scotland, so I only talk to her on the phone. She came to visit me recently and I spend two weeks with her. Once I got back home from visiting my mum, my dad freaked out on me. He told me that its not fair I can go on vacation for two weeks while he works 6 days a week and provides for me. He told me he took me off the insurance and that he is done providing for me. I do work all the time when I am home from college and even when I am at college, I am a student athlete and I work. This came out of nowhere when he decided to cut me off. Another example where my dad freaked out on me was when I was buying college text books. we both decided to wait until my classes started to see what books I needed. The first week of classes went by and I sent my dad the textbooks I needed. To say the least, he lost it on me. He told me he wanted to order them back in july and that he is done with my S*** (even though we had a conversation about waiting to buy them once my first week of classes are done). He went two days without talking to me after this and even blocked my number in his phone. Why does he always yell at me and treat me this way?

Question: Is my house cursed?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 12:58 PM PDT

I have lived here all my life. My grandpa is in the czech republic along with my parents for a business trip and my grandma is taking care of me. she came here on friday, and since then, im creeped out. First, the dryer breaks, then the upstairs sink fossit breaks and the handle falls off and it almost causes a flood, then the light downstairs breaks and keeps blinking over and over again until we swiched the lightbalb, and now 2 of the tv s in the house are broken saying "no sync available" while the other tv s work, and then me and my friend started fighting and now she blocked me so i cant text her, and now my fish died! I m really scared, please help!

Question: My sister and me did playing doctor years ago, now she is telling?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 12:48 PM PDT

am I in trouble?

Question: Help Part 2 Now that I have put out the fire with the little one, I move on to the bigger boy?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 12:40 PM PDT

I have to beg him to open his door, he is sobbing uncontrollably and says he is so sorry before I even get a word out. Turns out that the boys have been doing a lot more than just masturbation together. Blown away, I try my best to keep it together as he describes the multitude of sex acts they have tried together. Now my oldest boy is convinced he is a total pervert and incurably sick. He has been watching hardcore twisted porn of almost every variety that exists, from rape, to gay, S&M, and I think even bestiality. When he showed a close friend his sex aid (which I let him buy almost a year ago) and some of the videos he was watching he was ridiculed mercilessly and told he was a freak. And he is afraid he "contaminated" his little brother. I told him he isn't sick, he is just a horny teen and that everything will be okay we just need to talk about boundaries and stop watching porn (at least less and more of the vanilla variety). I think that counseling is going to be needed (for both boys), but I am afraid of him getting in legal trouble because of the things he and his little brother have engaged in. Any suggestions on how to proceed? Even though the things they both did together are shocking I still feel like it could come under the category of youthful experimentation and exploration and I am hoping that I can make both boys feel normal and healthy again (possibly without counseling).

Question: How do I deal with my mom death during childbirth?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 12:39 PM PDT

My mom died 17 days ago and my grandma is the only one who's sat down and talked with me about it. My dad barely mentions it. I have a 12 year old sister, a 2 year old sister and a 5 month old brother (I'm 14) and they're all obsessed with him. I honestly don't know if I should love my little brother, like he contributed to my mom's death. How do I deal with this?

Question: Help Part 1 I posted about problems with my youngest son's indiscretion around masturbation. Now I have a bigger problem with both boys.?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 12:25 PM PDT

Last night I laid down the law with the younger boy. I told him that masturbation was to be done in private only. I woke up early this morning feeling very proud of my handling of the situation. That lasted until breakfast. The younger one comes to the table in tears and says that his brother hates him. Naturally I ask him why he thinks that and then all hell breaks loose. The older one screams at him and runs to his room. After a few minutes of coaxing the little one finally lays it all out. Apparently, they have been masturbation together for some months and suddenly, the older one completely stops without a word of explanation to the younger one. The younger one feels rejected and starts being overly noisy with his masturbation at night to irritate his brother. When that isn't satisfying enough he starts seeking human contact (with me!) while he is doing that . Instead of getting that connection he is looking for, I (unwittingly) reject him further by telling him that he is being inappropriate. So, in an attempt to be that cool, open dad I have encouraged this boy to be proud of his body and urges without properly explaining the flood of confusing emotions that goes along with the intense sexual desires he is experiencing as his body matures. Not to mention I neglected to tell him and his older brother that they shouldn't be doing it together. I told him it will be okay and I will explain it in more detail tonight. One sobbing boy down, one to go.

Question: Am right to be annoyed?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 12:18 PM PDT

My dad died just one year ago. And I have recently found out my mother is seeing my sisters fiancee dad. My sister has two children to her fiancee. I am soooo annoyed no one can see where I am coming from i have just watched my dad die if cancer not even a year and she has a new man I'm outraged I have not even fully greived

Question: One person at a time. Conveying the message takes exactly one minute (dialing included). How long does it take until everyone is clued in?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 11:51 AM PDT

Question: Why is my son such a loser?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 11:48 AM PDT

All he does is sit in his room watching Anny Mays and has never had a girlfriend. He's 19 and doesn't have any friends or a job. Why is he such a disappointment? I honestly hate having him live with me at this point as he is just a reminder of what a failure I produced.

Question: Grandmother keeps giving me old stale out of date moldy food?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 11:46 AM PDT

Hello out there I have a problem my grandmother keeps giving me old stale out of date food when I say out of date I mean like at least a year or two. I keep having to throw it out which I feel bad for but it's getting annoying now. What can I do. I have tried to tell her but it's just disgusting to me.

Question: What happens on Christmas if part of my family can't see me due to obligations with the other side of their family?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 11:46 AM PDT

What do I do

Question: Why does my big brother grunt in his bedroom at night?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 11:42 AM PDT

Every night when I put my ear on the wal I here him grunting, my mom came in and said get a room. Wy?

Question: Is my sister-in-law selfish or scared/?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 11:07 AM PDT

my wife was recently diagnosed with a rare blood disease, shes' been getting treatment and has begun to feel better. Her older sister lives 20 mins from us and has not been by to visit at all. I think she's selfish, my wife says I'm wrong and that she scared of the illness and/or her sister has been emotionally consumed with her recent divorce ( we lent her sister money to move into an apartment post divorce & have not seen her since) Opinions??

Question: Every one thinks im weird and a freak..this is always been my life. No one understands me not even my own brother. I really want to die.?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 11:02 AM PDT

I honestly don't have any other way of expressing myself. But I seriously want to die.. I cry 5 times a week and I don't know what to do anymore. I don't fit in anywhere. I need some advice because I seriously think I'm going to break and kill myself soon. I just want to die. I don't like this world. It's an awful place to be in. No girl seems to be interested in me. My mom is a gold digger all she cares for i money ***** abandoned me when I was 14..and my punk dad never existed. Im just tired I don't have friends. I don't have anything..

Question: Is it bad I text my dead brother over Facebook?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 10:52 AM PDT

My brother died exactly a week ago. He commited suicide. He was only eleven. And ever since I can't stop texting him on Facebook to see if he would respond. Of course he hasn't because it's impossible. Is this messd up? Is there somthing wronge in my head?

Question: Why is it that parents are more strict on daughters only becuase they get pregnant?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 10:42 AM PDT

Facts are: a woman actually has more power in the aftermath. She can have an abortion or in the worst case, is she can't for religious reasons, etc, she can make the young FATHER'S family pay child support and the father too when he's 18. She can also give the child up for adoption. When you're the parent of the father: 1) You can do nothing to stop the birth of the parasite that's possibly your's. 2) You get a paternity test shoved in your face and now you and he has to pay child support. 3) You really can't do much to get out of this. I think the female and her family have more freedom to relieve herself of the burden, meanwhile the family of the guy can't do too much after its proven that he's the father. ALSO, why the **** is it the trend for parents to lock up their daughters like they're in prison BUT THEY DONT TEACH THEIR SONS TO NOT RAPE!! Look at Brock Turner's parents. They see him as the victim. And the father dismissed it as "20 minutes of action". Why dp some parents not care??? And why is it that guys can be happy and have fun and it's dismissed as he's being a boy, and girls are not? AND WOMEN ARE STILL CONSIDERED INFERIOR TO MEN!! You're raising your daughters to 1) Not be able to know a dangerous situation and get into so much trouble as soon as she moves out. 2) your daughter feels that women are inferior and will neve have a life. Why is it just becuase I'm showing some emotion in my *questions* I'm ranting? I'm showing only 1% actually. Idk, I also self harm so often now. It's becuase I always feel a c*nt between my legs, it just IRRITATES ME THROUGHOUT THE WHOLE ENTIRE DAY!! Just imagine how hard that is! I can't stop hitting myself to get anger out!!! 😭😭😭

Question: My parents stole almost 50000 euros from me! Should I sue?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 10:40 AM PDT

When I was born my grandmother opened and account for me with 57000 euros in it. Because I was a baby she put my mom as the legal representative on the account therefore she could monitor the account and keep it safe until I became 18 to be able to use it. Also she gave me a store for me to rent and put the money I received every month in that same account, so that I could grow my money. But as I was young, the legal guardian was my mother and she was in charge of putting the money on my account. When I was 6 or 7 my parents decide to build a summer house in their hometown. But the money was short so they took 47000 euros out of my account to help pay their bills. They lied to me and told me they had only taken 15000 euros. I didn't even how much money was on there in the first place, but I was told that I had been left with 5000 euros. As a naive child I accepted when they said they would put the money back when they could. I am now 19 years old, my parents split up, I moved out and am currently in college, and my mother is refusing to buy me a used car for 8000 euros which I need because the transport system in my city sucks, and hardly ever gives me any money. She says I don't deserve a car because I am not a successful person. She also said that money she took was my grandmother's way of helping me buy a house and that when I were to buy a house she would help me. But what if at that time she thinks I don't deserve it either? She stole from me. Should I sue?

Question: Worried about my sister's future?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 10:34 AM PDT

hi im 14 yo girl and just lately im starting to worry about my sister's future. she drop out of school 3 years ago (8th grade) when she was 13. now she resell clothes online and make $700/month on average. we came from a broken and divided family. me & my sis live together but our parents went their own way with their own families (divorced). but they still provide our needs except for school fees. i just started going to school again and cathing up the things i've left behind all these years because my grandma decided to pay for my school fees. im studying really hard and i really want to find a well paying job and make them proud. i really want to change our lives (me & my sis) so we don't have to suffer from all this. but my sister doesn't want to learn or go to school. she only want to spend all the money she makes. she doesn't care about her future. when i ask her about her future, she always say "i'll just marry a wealthy man". i know she's pretty and all but what man wants an uneducated girl? what should i do? she's 2 years older than me (16) but have no intention to change her life. btw which major should i choose in college? accounting & finance, engineering or business? thanks :)

Question: I need help with this problem?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 10:28 AM PDT

I live in a building. The people above me have children in their apartment. I don't know these people but I have seen the father before. My father know their father but they are not close. Someone told my father "the man in the wheelchair is a molester"..The dude in the wheelchair is the father of that household above our apartment. My bedroom is below their children room. I can hear everything they are saying it's coming from my pipes. I don't know if it's really a kids room above my bedroom but I always hear kids only. One past day my mother told me "she was talking to her friends then got interrupted by the father. he kept yelling at his daughter to sit down on his lap. My mother & her friends saw fear on the little girl face. She looked about five years old. This Saturday I heard the bed rocking. It sounded as if someone's having sex. It went on for three hours. I couldn't handle the rocking so I listened to music. It was so clear it sounded like it was coming from the room above me. I hope it was their parents and not the kids getting raped. Today I hear a little girl scream. I should be calling 911 but I don't want nobody hating me for false things but I can't handle knowing the father is a molester. I don't know if he did time before but when I see him he never have a smile on his face. He remind me of those people who hate the world for no reason. What should I do? Mind my own business?

Question: Do you have family members that you hate. (But obviously still care)?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 10:28 AM PDT

I feel this way towards my sister. She has always gotten me in trouble when we were younger and constantly stole from me. Shes now trying to forgive but I honestly just don't want to see her. I want her to know I care but I rather not bring her into my life

Question: I hate my brother because he caused my mom to die during childbirth?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 10:22 AM PDT

my mom died 15 years ago during childbirth. i was only one at the time and I didn't find out the REAL reason she died until now. my uncle told me she died after giving birth to my brother and now I absolutely hate him. I want to confront him and tell him he's the whole reason why she died but how do I do it?

Question: My Mom remarried a real jerk, he never takes her out or pays for anything?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 10:16 AM PDT

I did 3 tours in Arm came home and opened a car repair shop--my step dad is a used car dealer, he is a crook too, some months he makes 0 dollars. I went over to drop off some pies for my Mom and I saw her in back yard sun tanning, I felt so attracted to her, I actually got aroused seeing her legs and breasts, I know its wrong but I need to tell her how I feel, I know she is so lonely, imagine if we did get to hook up? @@Update--please don't move it ok? do it for my mom.

Question: My parents think I'm rebellious... help?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 09:58 AM PDT

So, my parents are constantly breathing down my neck. I'm a 15 year old girl. I've never done anything bad, like smoke cigarettes or have sex or sneak out at night. But my parents think I have behind their back. They constantly accuse me, and team up to try and embarrass me in public or wherever about stuff I've never done. They're suspicious of me. If my mood is slightly off, they accuse me of being drunk or high. And I've been half awake before, hearing them talk about me behind closed doors. My mom thinks I steal her pills. My dad thinks I drink his beers. I don't do any of that stuff. I was a sheltered shy kid that was bullied in school with no friends. And I'm sick of my parents treating me like this. It makes me feel like they don't love me. Any advice would be appreciated, because I don't know how to fix my relationship with my parents. They think I'm a bad daughter. Many thanks

Question: Are my distant Aunties & Uncles are considered as my Mum's or Dad's distant cousins?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 09:10 AM PDT

Question: Please help me im going crazy?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 08:37 AM PDT

so heres the thing right my mom and dad are divorced its was hard and my mom got married that was hard too and now my dad is getting married i cant do this its bad enough im left out everywhere i go my mom dosent even call me anymore cus she has step daughters now i have step sisters and step brothers im going crazy how is my brain supposed to deal with all this one day im in a broken home the next my mother and father are getting married to people i have not met or seen that is not fair im left out everywhere all my step brothers and sisters got mobiles and xbox's and i got a keybored are u ******* kidding me this is abuse and im movinginto a smaller room cus miss sunshine wants to be closer to the window ffs i cant take this why am i being left out i do all the good **** wtf their ruining my life in highschool as well im gonna kill myself im gonna kill my self how would u feel if one day ur parents got a divorce and non of em payed you any attention and got married and sended the middle son in the ******* windowless room **** this **** why do i have to do all the stuff i want to kill my self i wan to kill myself

Question: My dad left me.?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 08:19 AM PDT

I'm 15 and have never met my dad. Now he has a new family. Why wasn't I good enough for him to stay?

Question: My mother had me at 18 and now she is pregnant (I am 22 and have a 3 year old). So what is my kid to her kid?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 07:43 AM PDT

Will her kid still be my kids aunt-uncle even though my kid is three years older? Understandably with my mother having me at 18 she is now just married and having a kid for the first time in marriage and only her second kid so nothing weird about it only wondering how related out kids will be. Also will her kid actually be my sibling rather then my nephew or niece? My mother is now 40 (it is twins she is having so two kids).

Question: How can I sway my mother to learn to forgive her family members she feuds with?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 07:30 AM PDT

She has a long habit of labeling my loved ones from her family as negative if she has feud with them and then filtering anything about them into something negative. She has a sister who does the same thing (they are like twins). So many of my loved ones I have to be secretive about seeing or my mother harasses me even though I am an adult living on my own. How can I sway her to forgive them? @Merp---It is actually 9:44 AM where I am (CST USA)

Question: I'm moving out, but should I? I'm 18 years old I don't have a job I don't have money and I'm still in high school.?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 07:29 AM PDT

I think I should be treated like an adult because I helped them pay bills and buy groceries all the time when I worked. I use to save up my money for a car I had 700 now when I talk about to my parents it doesn't exist. My mom said I won't be a adult until I start paying rent and get a job. Well my boyfriend who is a friend also that I've known for 8 years offered to pay for a bus ticket to go to him and live with him. He has 3 other people living there and everyone's paying rent. It's super cheap. Now I don't want to upset my mom but I have to leave. I just have gone through the doctor and have to see a physical therapist but I believe I can transfer to where I'm going. I'm not sure if my mom will be so upset that she'll take me off her health insurance even though I can still be on there until I'm 25 years old. I love my mom, but I don't get respect or privacy in the house. Especially from my step dad barging into my room when ever he feels like it. My mom knows that I've been planning to move out but she's been trying ever little thing to keep me from moving out. So if I did tell her she would do anything to stop me. I don't want to hurt her she has been hurt by my older sibling already, but I need to do this as an adult. I don't want to hurt her.. I've waited so long to see if it can change.. But living with them causes anxiety, stress, and depression. I know that moving out is hard but I feel like I need to do it for me as an adult. What should I do?

Question: Are moms better parents than dads?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 07:22 AM PDT

The wife and I both work and we have a 3 yr old and a 6 month old. My wife is awesome and is a great mother. I just feel I'm lacking in parental skills. I work an odd schedule so I'm off during the week most weeks so I watch the kids. By the end of the day I really want a beer, lol. I love the kids but when I come home from work, my wife has the house cleaned, supper cooked and the kids bathed, On the days I have the kids it's all I can do to keep them fed and happy, Don't get me wrong I enjoy watching them, but I don't know how my wife can get so much done. Just wondering if it was normal for dads, most of my friends don't have kids and think I'm a super hero with the kids

Question: My parents are divorcing and my mother says if my father is voting for Trump then that is the last straw, how can I change his mind,,,,,?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 07:21 AM PDT

How can I change his mind on who he votes for so my parents will stay married. It is not the only problem but my mother says it is the last straw. If they fix this they can at least work on the other stuff. How can I get him to change his mind and vote Clinton for my mother?

Question: My mother and sister are fighting and I am feeling nervous. How do I get them to stop when I get home from school this afternoon?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 07:19 AM PDT

Question: Why does my mom blame me for her cancer? She does not have cancer now but when we argue she tells me if it comes back it s my fault?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 07:08 AM PDT

My mom was diagnosed with thyroid cancer a few years ago. (She does NOT have her cancer now) The time frame for her cancer is 5 years (That it could return somewhere else in her body.) I believe it's been nearly 3 years since her cancer. Whenever we get into an argument, (Which is kinda rare anyway) She will tell me "If I get my cancer back it will be your fault because God will punish you!" hearing this breaks my heart of course as she guilt-trips me for all my wrong doings. I am a christian and I try to have faith that God will not do that kind of thing to me. Her mother would say the same kind of things to her as well i witnessed growing up. I'm in a constant state of fear that God will take her away if I don't do everything the right way. I also must add that we have a WONDERFUL relationship. We had some bumpy roads in the past but now we are like best friends. She is a great mother and I don't want to tear her down in anyway becuase she is just awesome most of the time!

Question: My mother and her sister are in a fight and both trying to get the last word in (it is year 6 of this). How do I get them to stop?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 07:08 AM PDT

I am trying to get them to see the one who walks away politely is the winner. My grandmother is dying and I want her to have some peace. Holidays turn into brawls.

Question: Since my sister is always mean to people how should I act when I see her Friday (I am seeing her at a funeral)?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 06:55 AM PDT

@If you say so---I like that quote "Less said soonest mended", thanks. My mother and sister (and me as a teen) both have habits of trying to get last word in and becoming at fault even if not having started a conflict. I like (Less said soonest mended.).

Question: Why do mothers often alienate their kids from loved ones when the mothers are angry at the child's loved one?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 06:52 AM PDT

I see this not just in divorce but like when mother and a sibling or mother and a parent of hers will feud and the child is used as a pawn. It happened to me and I have seen it many other times. Only once have I seen a father do it. Why do mothers and occasionally fathers do this? My mother was not a narcissist or anything.

Question: Why am I so worried about my brother going out?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 06:42 AM PDT

I will state now that I do have severe social anxiety, but I get super uncomfortable when my brother goes out with my father, who does drugs and is a bad person.

Question: Overbearing parents to adult child?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 06:28 AM PDT

I'm a single mom of two and before having children I was in college and independent, my parents didn't help me do anything. I struggled a lot. Even something as simple as giving me $20 for groceries were difficult. If they did anything for me I had to pay them back. From the time I was 18-22 I lived on my own without their help. At 23 I became a mom to their first grandkid and of course they'd be excited but they immediately became extreme overbearing, yes the man I choose to have kids with wasn't the best candidate but we were trying. My father would pop up over our house when ever he wanted, it caused a lot of arguments with me and the child's father. The father and I broke up and I moved in with my mother. She forced me out, argued with me and was emotionally abusive. So I left, went on the other side of town. Literally a month later, my mother moved around the corner. Said she wanted to be close to make sure my kids father wouldn't move back in, she didn't want me with him. Now baby #2 came and now my parents are just completely driving me insane. I understand that I am a single mom, I work nights and my parents keep the kids (only three days) but they have to stay at my house ( their decision) they're always in my business. I can't even date anyone , or go anywhere with friends without being asked a thousand questions. How do I get this to stop

Question: I don't want to die but I can't live like this anymore, 17 yo, female. What to do?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 05:49 AM PDT

I'm not going into details, but basically nobody in my family loves me, and trust me, I mean this. My parents are divorced, nasty divorce, and my sister (19 yo) is autistic, so obviously they like her better because she is troubled. My mother is a manipulating s*ut and my father has gone mad from his depression, literally, mad. I used to find comfort in my friends, but eversince they all started dating and getting in serious relationships, they obviosuly and naturally started to prefer their significant others. And because for the past 2 years I had way too many problems with my family, I've never had any luck with boys, even though many say I am good looking, because as a coping mechanism with my trouble, I became disgusted with love and anything love related. So basically I do not accept it. But my problem is, for the past 3 weeks I've only been thinking about killing myself, because feeling this alone and unloved and always a second choice amongst everybody, is literally killing me emotionally. If I'd die, obviously my family and friends would be a little upset. But that's it. I am replaceable and temporary to everybody. I don't want to die but I cannot live like this, what should I do? I am desperate..

Question: Daughter wants my ex wife and I to get back together.?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 05:46 AM PDT

My daughter is 20. My ex and I divorced 5 years ago. Since then, both my ex and I have dated others and the frequent trend is, my daughter doesn't like the " new people" and makes it known and frequently pleads us both to just remarry. I get where she's coming from, but, as I told her, we just don't get along. Do I still give it a shot?

Question: My mother has a friend that likes to gossip about my family (My Dad and step-mother). How might I get out of having to see this woman?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 05:34 AM PDT

This woman's husband sadly has cancer so my mother has been with her a lot. The woman does not gossip about my Dad in front of me unless my mother brings it up which only happened once (I walked out of the room). So I am worried that come times like Thanksgiving my mother is going to want to do the holiday with this person and her husband since the husband is ill (stage 3 cancer). So how might I POLITELY get out of having to see this friend of my mothers even on special occasions like Thanksgiving. I don't mind seeing the woman (the friend of my mother's) if my mother is not there, but the two combined I am uncomfortable with because of their gossip. The friend of hers shares my mother's negative attitude toward my Dad and step-mother and my Mom is not sensitive at all to my feelings here when I tried to talk to her about it. She just said "don't lecture me about how to feel". The woman knew my step-mother at one time so that is the connection. I am 23.

Question: My mom loves my stepdad more than me?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 04:49 AM PDT

My mom always tells my stepdad she loves him , they always do things together like vacations, movies, restaurants, etc. she calls him he calls her all day say they love each other etc. when I call my mom she talk to me and after a while says "I'm @ work I'll call you back " then calls back like 3-4 days later. My stepdad has daughters of his own and we're all grown with our own houses and they always go to see them and he calls them every day, they call him etc...but when it comes to me I'm always kinda feeling like I'm on the back burner. For example my wife's mom made them dinner and invited them over. I told my mom ahead of time.( Like days) I don't know if she thought I was bluffing but when it was time they didn't show up because they'd just come from Texas and they were "Tired". This is just one example and this is the attitude they have but my mom always says "you're my only child no one can explain the bond between mothers and their sons" but she doesn't act like it at all. TBH I really don't like my stepdad. My real dad passed away when I was 8-9 and my mom married this guy when I was 11. Growing up we would get into fights (physical) at times . My mom would cry and get upset or whatever but she would always be right back in his face the next couple days smh. At this point I'm so over my mom that I stopped calling her. She been saying lately "we should talk more" and calling me because she feels the distance.

Question: Whats the best way to approach this situation?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 03:03 AM PDT

My best friend passed away 6 weeks ago, leaving behind her 6 year old daughter. I've kind of had a special connection with this little girl since she was born and she's incredibly close to my babies who are 3 & 1. Since her mothers death however it's clear to see she's really latched onto me even more. I don't actually live in the same country as her and left a week after the funeral. I came back to visit her again 4 days ago and she has not let me go since. She's been staying with my family and I the past few days pretty much because no one has the heart to drag her away & upset her. Every night she's begged and begged to sleep in my bed with me and got really upset one night because I let my 1 year old son & not her (I only let him because he was vomiting). All day she wants to hug me, hold my hand and be near me which I don't have a problem with but my heart is already breaking thinking about having to say goodbye to her in a weeks time!! This poor kid has already lost her mum I don't want to put her through anymore heartbreak. I can't just not go home though and it's not like I can just take her with me either... Her grandmother told me she's been super distant from everyone the past few weeks, except for me so this is kind of a big deal. What on earth am I supposed to do? I'm in tears just writing this.

Question: How can i leave him alone?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 02:27 AM PDT

I'm a 17 year old female and i ve a 25 year old brother who's suffering from joint tuberculosis. I've decided to join the navy and i'm very determined, but unfortunately i don't know how to leave my brother alone. We're orphans and there's no one who i can trust, to tell him/her to take care of my brother. I don't have much money to get a nurse for him. He can't live alone. Most of the time he feels pain, allover his body. He has became too thin and weak. Sometimes, his feet and his hands get numb and he becomes unable to move. How can i leave him alone and join the navy?

Question: I want to go to the Army.?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 02:15 AM PDT

But my mother doesn't want me to. I'm 17 years old and I'll be 18 in 6 months. A few months ago she was talking mad sh×t saying she wants me to go now she saying she doesn't want me too and even went as far as to say she'll pray to God that if it's not his will to not let it happen then she started crying. Like what the f#ck?! This isn't her life. It's mine. It isn't up to her. My uncles son went and now he's back and perfectly fine. My other cousin from my aunt wanted to go but she held him back and now she's the blame for his life being destroyed. I don't want to be away for a year or more and my mother is home about to give herself a heart attack cause she's worried about me because then that'll have my mind off of what's important and I won't have my head in the game. Help me please!!

Question: What would you do if you saw your daughter walking around with her boobs exposed? Would you ignore her or make her pull her bra up?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 02:02 AM PDT

Question: My heart and mind are being haunted. Why is this happening to me. I want peace, how do I have peace?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 01:40 AM PDT

Question: My sister & I have not spoke to each other in 9 months.I feel like dying,?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 01:21 AM PDT

Question: Is my ex bf missing me and using my mom?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 01:04 AM PDT

So we broke up 8 months ago. Mutually. I blocked him on socials to move on, i fell pretty hard. The relationship was turning into long distance and i couldnt bare to see him with other girls in the future. My mom recently bumped into him recentky and said for them to have coffee on his break, his back for a bit then heads out of town again. They never hung out or chatted before only when i brought him over. She said no but then kept asking questions about me... Im a suspicious, is he missing me?

Question: How do I tell if my parent hates me and wants me gone?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 01:00 AM PDT

Im almost 17 and i have lived with my grandma and grandpa all of my life... my grandma left my grandpa when i was 4 and ive practically raised my self ever sense she came back about a year ago but not to get back together there was this whole jail thing with my gpa anyway he got out and i get treated like the dumbest person on earth and like im worthless and he always threatens me with "i would kill myself if you left" and im honestly tired of it and it feels like he wants me gone and that im just in his way...im a really big animal person and i have a few goats and 2 dogs and a cat and i wouldnt be able to take them with me but i have no idea how i would be able to let them go. i guess this kinda turned into how do i get out without any legal issues? just quick and easy and painless pretty much

Question: Do you think my dad is being unfair?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 12:52 AM PDT

Normally my dad makes me ask permission before I watch videos on Pornhub, but today I did it without asking just the one time. When my dad found out, he grounded me. Do you think he's being unfair?

Question: I'm afraid of father and want him to stay away from me what can I do!?

Posted: 13 Sep 2016 12:16 AM PDT

Every time me and my father gets into an argument he starts to threaten me real bad. What he said to me last time we spoke is not sitting well with Me and i feel like he's really out to harm me. Im 7 months pregnant and live with his mother who gave him a key to her home to come in if he wanted to and i am afraid and have a bad feeling. Hes causing stress and anxiety and I just want to stay healthy for my baby. What can I do!?