I was married this past July to the love of my life! My question is this: Am I required to send one of his groomsmen (and this man's wife) a thank you note? Here are the reasons I am considering not sending one: 1. He showed up to the rehearsal 20 minutes late 2. He did not attend the rehearsal dinner (he went shoe shopping instead) 3. We tried getting into contact with him after the wedding to give him the gift we had purchased for him but he didnt respond to any of our phone calls. 4. He showed up almost an hour after he was supposed to at the wedding, about five minutes before we entered the church. 5. When he showed up to the wedding, he was not dressed properly. 6. After the ceremony, instead of taking photos with the rest of the wedding party and our families, like we asked him, he left. 7. When he left, he was purchasing alcohol "as a gift" to us for the bar at the reception, even though we had asked him to please not purchase any extra alcohol at least three times. 8. He and his wife were very rude during the reception; they refused to sit at the head table with us and his wife offended my mother and "giving her the hand" during their conversation. 9. Finally, during our send off, he tried to get in the car with us, and as a result spilled his mixed drink all over me. All of this said, along with the fact that they did not get us a gift.... Do I have to send them a thank you note?

My husband and I best friend's daughter is getting married. She has a registry with a lot of sensible items of a variety of prices from BB&B and target. I thought of buying from her registry, but the stuff from it is kinda cheap with so-so brands. I thought about buying the stuff she listed, but from another brand that is much, much better that is going to last forever and more expensive, but I am afraid to offend the bride by doing so. Example. She listed a set of knives from cuisinart, which is a crappy Chinese brand. The particular set have bad reviews and people complaining of rust. I want to buy a set by Wustoff, Henckles or Chicago Cutlery which would be 3-4 times as much, but will last forever. Or she listed a black and decker iron, but I rather gift them a Rowenta. I really want to give a good gift! What would you do?

My fiancé and I met in the 2nd grade. Now, as we re planning our wedding, we wanted a cheap outdoor venue that meant a lot to us, and the school seemed like an obvious area of interest. There is a public(ish) butterfly garden behind the school that we remember tending to back in school, and we wanted to use it as the venue. In order to get permission, do I email the principal? Or is there another person that would be a better fit?