I just want to know how long it would take to get the divorce if we both agree and we don t share a kid, just pay rent for a room back home, and nothing too big other than cell phones together. He s back in home state and I m still in school. I just want the divorce ASAP and wondering how long the shortest process can take.

Just out of curiosity, which one would YOU rather prefer? What are the advantages or disadvantages of either?

Long story short we are just married have sex almost everyday. I am a good looking woman. He wont stop looking at porn and i find this disrespectful for two reasons. Number one he is a married man he should not be ******* himself looking at other womans ***** everyday, that is nasty ****. Number two I asked him to stop but he wont. Guys if you wife is constantly cumming to other mans dick and balls. How would you feel? Porn is a ******* joke that ruins the image of woman and makes guys more prone to treating woman like sex objects and probably influences them to become cheaters. What do you men and woman think? When I asked him to stop he says he will but hes not following through Im going to try something different and start waching videos of men jerking off and see how he feels knowing his wife is looking at other mens ***** all day

Would you take her up on the offer ?

I have been out of an abusive relationship for well over a yr now and have been doing quite well. My ex who has since then re-married still does everything possible to make my life difficult. I unfortunately have to deal with him because we have a child. There is a court order in place, but he has refused to sign it, so the attorney will have to do a motion to enter. He makes things extraordinarily difficult for me and his son. For example, when it comes to health insurance, it's like pulling teeth to get a copy of the card. After my son comes back from visiting his dad he will barely talk to me and tell me how his dad says I am evil. My exes parents who used to be pleasant towards me treat me like I have wronged him. Has anyone experienced this. If so how did you cope. It hurts me when my son will barely have anything to do with me after visitation with dad.

Not married yet but me & the boyfriend have been discussing it so sooner or later. Of coarse we got on the topic of infidelity. So far my babe is faithful but I keep an eye on him due the fact my man is a catch & gorgeous if I do say so my self ( sorry to brag I can't help it he's perfect ) any who I can't see myself cheating he's the only one who can satisfy my needs. So I asked him if he ever want another women to join in with us he said yes but now when I asked if another woman can join us as a girlfriend he said he no longer have thoughts of another woman joining because I am all that he need. So I don't ask any more. Now yes I am possessive & yes I do get jealous like a normal woman lol . I told him if he ever get bored or lose the excitement. Let me know ill try everything to get it back I even told him I might let him pass with another woman every 2 years or so as long as he talk to me about it first . he told me he would never need to because he wouldn't want me with another man I told him don't worry about it. I would never .

Forgot to add details...basically she keeps making decisions to go out alone without me. Books tickets with her cultural group to see performances etc but doesn't think about inviting me. Then won't go out with me when I suggest something. She called me desperate last night!! I was thinking what the hell! I'm considering divorce as the next step. Go cold and stop interacting with her. Keep hitting the gym and put my profile up on dating sites. Basically turn away from the marriage. She called me desperate because I tried to pull her into line to start acting like a wife to me. How pathetic is that right? Her arrogance has made me so angry. She has been doing this crap for years to me. I finally have had enough. Lucky we don't have kids. I am questioning if she has any feelings at all for me anymore. She can lie in bed hugging me and saying how much she loves me but it feels like a game. When it comes to making love, it's a case of her acting bored and wanting to look on the computer. Even will lie there when I attempt foreplay and says she is bored! Didn't seem to want to make any effort to me at all. Then turned around later and tried to apologise. But the damage is done. She won't go to counselling and seems to think everything is alright despite how strongly I have told her that I'm not ok with this anymore. How can I snap her back to her senses without leaving or cheating? Or will it take something as serious as leaving for her to begin to understand the damage she is causing? Her calling me desperate has made me feel like she sees me as a pushover and that she doesn't care about being married. But then she softens and starts being nice like she wants to continue moving into our first home and having a baby with me! She never cooks. But at least helps clean around the home. But practical things aside, she doesn't make an effort towards me beyond showing some basic affection. I am not leaning on her. I try to take the lead by getting movie tickets or booking all manner of things but she will refuse to leave the office and will keep working instead of going out with me. Citing job pressures instead. She doesn't understand that it's like a literal slap to the face for me!!

He was arrested for assault and then CPS got involved and I had to do what was best to protect myself and the babies and also not get my children taken from me so I filed a protection order against my husband while he has charges for domestic violence he came home and broke down crying because he did not understand why he couldn't come home and I partially feel very bad for him I am the victim and I am a mother of two feel like I still love my husband even though he abused me. He was just honorably released from the navy. He has a home mortgage that I can't afford and a car in his name. The court ordered him to stay away for 15 days till the next court date. I was a stay at home mother my husbands career may be ruined. I feel like our family may be torn apart because I tried to do the right thing. ALSO the shelter in my area for abused women is acting slow on my case and I don't think they really want to help me.

Does that mean staying married and supporting him during his rape trial?

Through it all I've been married to my husband for five years now. He still loves me and we remain strong. Today I am starting a new routine and am changing my stupid ways, and my husband will see that and doesn't care about the past as long as I stick to this new future :) But I still feel guilty about all my screw ups! How do I shake this feeling? I know I am on the right path now but it still gets me down sometimes mentally. Even though I know I am going to be a new person from now on! What are some techniques to not feel bad about past mistakes?

I'm 23 & I've been married for 2 years & with my hubby for 6 years. For the last two years I haven't been attracted to my husband. I don't understand why bc he's handsome/fit/smart/successful. On paper he's everything I want & he's actually my favorite human being and I love him but the thought of being intimate with him disgusts me. We haven't kissed since our wedding & we haven't had sex since January 2014. I lost my virginity to him & he's the only guy I've been with so I don't know why I feel like this but As of now I want to divorce him. I don't see myself ever being sexually attracted to him anymore. I wish I could change that but idk what to do. I told him how I feel & he said he feels the same way but I think he only said that to make me feel the same as him. He won't go to therApy so idk what to do? I'm also the only girl he's had sex with as well. If it matters.

Had your spouse ever cheated on you, or you on them? How did you overcome it, if at all? How did you deal with it?and moat importantly WHAT LEAD YOU TO CHEATING??? I hear a lot of men say that it was just an "opportunity" and that the sex meant nothing to them. Like, it was some exciting adventure making up for the slacking of the wife, physically and emotionally. I feel like cheating spouses come from neglectful relationships most often then not. It's years of being with someone with no appreciation, just a day after day ritual. It's human nature to get comfortable. But I feel in marriage you should never get too comfortable. Always change things up and have surprises here and there. I believe it really helps in the long run and grand scope of marriage. I am married myself, my husband nor I have ever cheated and hopefully we never will. If I want him to do something I tell him or he tells me. If I feel something I share it with him and vice versa. What was the cause for cheating?

So back in July my husband asked me to leave the home because he wanted a "break", I left to stay with my mom for a week just for dramas sake and came back he after things calmed down. Yes I was angry about that and we discussed it and he apologized and said he wouldn't do it again. However, he asked me for a divorce and said I could stay at the home until I get myself together. I agreed, because I don't want to force anyone to be with me who doesn't want to be. We lived that way for about two months and now recently he told me he wants to save the marriage. I want to save it to, but now I'm having a hard time trusting him. I feel so disposable now like if anything changes and he wants me out then that's it. Over the 2months I had grieved and already came to the terms my marriage was over, now it's like he just reached back in the water to save me after already drowning. He promised he would never do it again, and we had been arguing a lot and that's what made him do it. Which he has never done anything like this to me before so I was shocked. I still love him but now I don't feel the security I used to have with my husband. How do I overcome these feelings and work on my marriage? I already do forgive him. Has this ever happened to you?

So I m about to get married, I don t wanna drop any of my names now but I still want to add my husbands name to mine, can I just add his name on? (I have my username on so many sites as just my 1st and last name and I don t want to change those, but I wouldn t have to if I could just keep my given name and not drop any of my name...)

My husband plays on ps4 and he had his messages opened up. The persons user name was Alyssa, he says it's a guy. That guys do that all the time, make their usernames, girl names. In the messages he said wat up and they said "go wat up away from me" then he said join and they said "I don't like you go away" he said wow really how do you not remember me. Then they said "no idea who you are" he said chat then. They replied with already in a private party. He said fine your mean. And they said "sorry I don't want to join a random party with a random guy I don't know" (that's the message that makes it hard for me to believe it's a guy) he said it's okay then they said "what's your name" (user name) and he gave it to her and that was it.

I'm getting married soon but I've come to the realization that I do not love my wife as I should. More than anything, I'm happy that she has good credit so we will be able to have nice things since my credit is bad (high 400's). Also, I'm happy to have someone around the house to help clean and do chores. I'm happy to have someone that will be able to watch my sons when I work. These are the top 2 reasons why I want to be with her. Is this normal or should I value her for something different?

Me and my wife have been married 4 years we been together for 5. We have a daughter who will be 4 this year I have a son from a previous marriage he's 13. My wife got pregnant with our daughter when she was 19 I was 40. Her aunt also my sister and my nice ( her cousin ) and my son didn't like it when we got married she thought I was too old for her. But she told her since she was almost 20 she could be with whoever she wanted. Her parents kicked her out when she was 16 she moved in with us. She's also kind of a brat but I still love her. This month is actually gonna be our 4th year anniversary. She's pregnant again. Was it wrong for us to get married ?

Hey guys I'm a 24 year male who works in the automotive industry I've been in the field for 5 years now it's been good to me but now I'm married and I have a stepson with a baby on the way I work mon thru sat 6am til 5pm I started a aviation school for maintenance but the times of the classes are 5 till 11 full time and school is quite a drive for me so I have been doing part time and it's been very hard with my work and personal life and paying bills I went to school for automotive service and it's what I know how to do I have a son on the way so now it's gonna be harder what would any parent recommend me in my situation I've been coming home really tired and it's causing me to mess up at work I deal with cars and trucks everyday and I can't afford to loose my job any advice would help

My husband and I are getting a divorce. This is a brand new decision we have made and it is weighing heavily on my heart. Throughout our short marriage (2 years this coming Monday) he has become a raging alcoholic, he had an affair, he constantly talks to women online and on the phone, and he has yelled at me, gotten physically violent a few times, etc. Obviously, it was me who brought up divorce. I cannot live like this any longer. I deserve better and he refuses to get help. I know I need to do this, and I am going to, but at the same time my heart is hurting so much. Why? Is it normal, even after such a horrible marriage? No Mercy, I'm hoping once this sinks in I will feel better. I DO WANT to be done with this. I want so much to go back to my quiet, drama-free life. That won't happen with him around. whyskyhigh, wtf are you talking about? He was a closet alcoholic before we got married. He hid it well, and I had no idea how horrible he could be when drinking. I don't make him drink and I certainly do not enjoy when he's fighting and attacking me. It's not me fighting and attack him. thegreatone, because he doesn't love me....and trust me, I have done everything in my power to make the marriage work. It's impossible because his first priority is alcohol.

she refuses to do it I told her she doesn't do it I would for sure divorce her she said that sounds like an ultimatum and that's why she refused we have been married 25 years