Family: Question: My mom has no friends?

Question: My mom has no friends?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 01:53 PM PDT

I'm 17, so I can't move out yet. I love my mom, but I need my space from her as I get older. I say this because she works from home & doesn't hang out with friends; which means I'm the only person she regularly talks to. Since she's always home, it gives her time go through my room & obsess over everything I'm doing. I have to go to friends houses / purposefully work overtime because it gets really annoying to be in the same house for too long; she'll complain to me a lot or try to create drama out of nothing. I want to encourage her to make friends / get out more by not being home so much...sending the message that I have my own life & I'm not gonna be her "best friend", I'm her daughter. Any tips on how to deal w this situation? None of my friends can relate bc their parents work a lot & they have time away from them.

Question: Step-by-Step guide to independence for teens?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 01:37 PM PDT

So I am 17 years old. I go to Connections Academy so I m at home all the time. I cut off all my friends because they were pretty immoral. My closest friends are all adults and role models. I depend on my Aunt and Mother for pretty much everything and have had much difficulty getting a job. I would like a step by step guide to independence. any help. no sarcastic answers please.

Question: My father and brother are constantly fighting?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 01:30 PM PDT

Hi, recently school has started back up and I have found that my father and my brother are very agresive toward one another. Nothing physical, just all words. The amount of swear words they use is just very sad to hear and I wish it never happened. I've tried to get them to stop, but they take their anger out on me. My brother has klinefelter's syndrome and works a part time job. He also has college but does not have any classes on Tuesdays or Fridays. He complains that he does not have enough time to get his homework done with his job schedule. (which I admit has been a pain). I'm only 15 and I'm afraid they will start to get physical with one another. My mom is a very kind and sweet person who has the ability to calm things down, but she is away at work most of the day and this is interfering with her ability to get things done as well as my ability to get my work done. Should we get a therapist involved? Please help I'm scared. Also, my dad has been pushing him to get all of homework done as well as attend his job. They are thretening to remove him from college all together now and this is very stressful for all of us.

Question: How do I get custody of my niece? She told me she wants to live with me? Her mother passed away?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 01:27 PM PDT

Her mother passed away and now her father has custody. I don t think he would allow her to.

Question: What time should I be in? Girl, 14?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 01:16 PM PDT

I m 14 and have to be in at 7. What time is a reasonable time to be in?? All my friends stay out til like 9 or 10, it s so embarrassing cos I have to leave really early!!!

Question: Guys if your girlfriend was on crunhes and in the hallway and she had her boobs exposed would you pull her bra up or leave them out?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 01:11 PM PDT

Question: Everyone thinks my dad is a racist!?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 01:05 PM PDT

The other day, my dad got rear ended by a guy named Trin Tron Tran, and as he was telling the story to one of his buddies, some lady overheard him saying "oh, and he said his name was Trin Tron Tran" and somehow misinterpreted it as making fun of Asian Americans. It turns out that this lady is also a huge gossip, and now everyone at my dad's work and some of the local shops think he is racist, and most of our friends won't speak to him anymore. I have been trying desperately to set the record straight, but no one will listen to me, and his boss has even threatened to fire him over this. Please help, this is ruining our social lives and I'm afraid my dad might lose his job. What can we do to fix this?

Question: I really want to kill my mother?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 12:25 PM PDT

All my life she's hated me. Since I can remember she's always put me down calling me fat ugly pig cow prostitute and ***** and so many mean things. When I was 8 my brother raped me and I told her and she didn't believe me. She said her little boy couldn't possibly have done that. So my brother kept doing it till I was 12. While I still had to deal with her insults and she beating me up whenever I did something wrong. She's tried to choke me. Stab me. And throw heave things at my head and in my country police don't really pay attention to that. Theyou don't let me work or leave the house without permission. I have to do everything around the house. I'm practically their maid. I have to take care of my grandmother (my mom's mom) and I don't even like her either. I'm 21. I'm trapped. I want to kill her. She hits me if a question I asked annoys her or anything really. I'm either gonna end up killing her or killing myself. I'm extremely miserable and depressed. Idk what to do.

Question: Kids Expensive? They worth it?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 12:18 PM PDT

Im completly ok with no kids in my life. But something behind my head said its what all young kids say as they grow up. Im 24 with a 30k salary job. Is it worth it?

Question: Grown brother in law has been wiping boogers everywhere in MY home?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 11:54 AM PDT

Okay, lol, I know this sounds crazy but I'm furious. So my grown @ss 28yr old, brother in law has been wiping boogers all over my house and I'm fed up! I had been finding bloody boogers in the bathroom and on my living room walls and furniture and I couldn't figure out why! I was asking my husband was he doing this but I was like surely he wouldn't when he could just go get tissue. My brother in law is a disgusting person and never showers anyways but I didn't know he was this low! I WANT HIM OUT! NOW! ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! It's bad enough I have to clean up after his disgusting butt but now this is too much! Should I make him clean these nasty bloody boogers up from now on!!? My husband will probably be mad at me for making his brother do stuff but I'm sick of it. He will just have to be Mad because he will be mad either way. My husband is a huge enabler and he baby's his brother a lot. I, on the the contrary, have no remorse or sympathy for him whatsoever! He doesn't work, clean, or do anything but get in our way, eat everything, dirty $hit up and cause problems! Hellllppppppp meeeeee pleeaasseee! I'm losing my mind here... I'm about to lose it on my brother in law!

Question: Is my teenager spoiled?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 11:54 AM PDT

So my teenager is 14 almost 15 and a freshman in high school, I changed my data plan into a family plan and now she can have a smartphone ( even though she has a ipod touch and a perfectly good phone). As she is going on a trip with her youth group tomorrow, i told her she could get a smartphone soon. She texted me at school saying "today is the pep rally and i cant go because i dont have a ticket, can you pick me up and we can go to the phone store? i mean im stuck in spanish 2 all day and I already did my homework" but SHE KNEW I was not going to rush it, and when she came home she asked to go and I wanted to go to the beach. Now shes crying because shes a big baby for not getting what she wants big deal. I seriously doubt i should give her a phone now that shes acting all spoiled but i dont know what to do. Any advice?

Question: Am I a bad/evil person do I deserve to die?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 11:30 AM PDT

This was 7 or 6 years ago. When I was 10 years old me and my little brother were in the room and I was humoing him I pulled out my penis and I pulled down his underwear and started humping him we were not naked and then I was in my bump bed and he was on top of me he was hearing his shirt over his head pretending to be a girl and we were humping reach other we were not naked at all we had our clothes on. I feel very very bad I don't even deserve to live anymore. My little brother is not damaged or effected by it. It's not bothering him at all but its effecting me I was around 10 years old. I'm 18 now and he's 14 years old now. I don't deserve to live do I deserve to die am I an evil person? I was not trying to hurt him at all I was ten years old at the time

Question: How can I convince my mom to let me get lip injections? I'm 18?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 10:43 AM PDT

I know I'm legal and could be going to the doctor alone (I have my own money) but it's still my first time doing it and wouldn't mind going with my mother. She keeps saying plastic surgery is for dumb people, but getting lip fillers isn't even plastic surgery! I just want fuller lips because I think I'd look better, nothing much. I'm not insecure. What can I do?

Question: At what point do you give up when your adult children never remember you?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 10:32 AM PDT

They never call or return your calls, no cards, ever, for Father's or Mother's Day or for Christmas, no presents. Always too busy to bother. No get together's. Totally ignored through out the year. Never see the new grandchild. The other side does, all the time. It's like not having children at all.

Question: My sister is planning on beating up a bully in my school, was it the right choice for me to tell her about what he said? Please help!!!!!?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 10:24 AM PDT

So the new school year just started and i'm already getting into trouble. On the second day of school a new guy joined the class i was in. And it turned out to be a guy i knew from 8 years ago. He used to bully me back then aswell and my sister beat him up back then. So now he's back and history is just repeating itself. He always threatens to beat me up, he pushes me around the hallway, is extremely violent (He randomly punches people when he feels like it) and missed a full school year because he was in a mental hospital. When we were in the changing rooms during PE, he talking about my sister having a horrible looking nose and just today grabbed my bike and said: "Oh look a new bike for me" i told him it was my mom's bike and he said: "Oh, shame, if it was your sisters bike i'd already have drove off" And i know he's not joking cause he's a psycho, i'm not kidding. So just an hour ago i told her about what he said and asked my sister what his deal was with her, and she reminded me about her beating him up back in elementary school to protect me. And now she's planning on going to take her friends with her to confront him. I'm extremely scared right now not only for myself, but for my sister. The bully doesn't mess around, he's spent time in jail, deals drugs and looks at bloody pictures during class and talks about bloody stuff too, and knowing him those are bad signs. I don't know what to do anymore :(

Question: Advice please?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 10:13 AM PDT

Please no negative comments. My son is 1 years old and me and his father have joint legal and joint physical custody. He does NOT communicate with me at all. There s been multiple occasions where I ve called him because it s his weekend and he ll say he can t get him because he s in Tennessee, or up north. He couldn t let me know in advance?! I constantly get screamed at and called names by him just because I ask when he s getting him next. He s suppose to get him today but told me he has other plans. That does not sound like a parent putting they re child first. I don t feel joint custody is right for us or my son. What am I suppose to do about this? Me and his mother are close and she s been upset telling me he moved in her house and screams at her and causes a ton of bullshit. Which I why I left him. He was physically, mentally, and sexually abusive towards me and now that he lives with his mom whenever he does have our son he is causing trouble and screaming at his mother. I don t want my son around that.

Question: Girlfriends male cousin kisses her the mouth, should I say something?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 09:39 AM PDT

My girlfriends male "cousin" (she calls him her cousin but they are not related by blood but by marriage) is very rude and standoffish towards me. He will kiss my girlfriend on the mouth and give her long hugs at family events. He also has a fascination with her 4 year old daughter. The guy is a huge dork so I don't feel threatened but it makes me uncomfortable. My girlfriend thinks her "cousin" is wonderful (she's mainly impressed that he has a lot of money and a good career) Should I say something?

Question: Have a parent that talks bad/misrepresents you?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 09:23 AM PDT

My mother always talk so ill about me. Often saying things like "she don't like people" because I choose not to hang with the people SHE chose to bring into her life. She's young, and we are just different. But why talk negatively about your own daughter? I mean, I'm not a product of my environment like her, or oozing bad parenting like my siblings. She has horrible taste/no standards in men, and once we had a neighbor who basically harassed me with the crush he had. I highly disliked this boy, and she accused me to "faking" and liking him! Literally 4/5 years of harassment I dealt with. She even hung with his family playing cards and sat, listening to him tell how he wanted to f***k me! Then told me as if I would be flattered! Every time I hear her talk about me to someone I cringe inside. It's always such a misrepresentation. I think, not only am I NOT that person, but wth would she want someone to think I was? Correcting her would be too much, it would literally be every time she opened her mouth. Also, though frustrating I chose not to give a f**k, because she as well as the ppl the choose in her life - aren't relevant to me. What's worse is that I can't seriously talk to her about anything! She's so emotionally immature. How could you talk negative about someone you don't talk TO? Even though I feel she invested no time getting to know me, its sad. She SHOULD be the person that knows me most. Is she trying to ruin my life?

Question: Should I help mother pay bills or move out on my own?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 09:13 AM PDT

Right now my mother, younger brother, and I live in my grandma's house due to a situation that had happened half a year ago. My mom was renting a house until she decided we should to move into her boyfriend's house, who later cheated causing them to break up. We are currently living at my grandma's house with my grandma, uncle, my older brother, his friend, and occasionally my grandma's boyfriend. It tends to get a little crowded and plus it's hard for the women to clean and work, the others don't work nor clean. I had plans on moving out with my friends, but they fell through so I began thinking about living on my own (I'm turning 19 this month). I am also planning on going to a local community college soon for a certificate, so should I help my mom half the rent and bills or just move out on my own?

Question: Parents won't let me go outside?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 08:19 AM PDT

In the past year or so, my parents won't let me go outside. I get absolutely no excercise unless I want to do some inside our tiny house. They rarely ever take me outside, even though we have a huge adventure park a couple minutes a way. They do not let me out of their sight. I can't even go in the front yard without them being with me and we live in an extremely safe neighborhood. All I ask of them is to sit in a damn chair to watch me. They can go on their phones if they want. Their excuse is, "I'm too tired to go out." — even in the front! I can't even run up and down the sidewalk! This is getting so ridiculous. Even on weekends when they have no work whatsoever, I rarely get to go outside my own house. I am 14 year old.

Question: Resentment towards my parent?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 07:51 AM PDT

My parent doesn't show affection, they've never hugged or asked about about how I felt. I tried to get them to understand but they'll ignore me and change the subject. Growing up, my parent never acted like parents and had my neighbors look after me. I got sexually abused and felt like no one cares. Years later I told my parent about the abuse and they said it's not a big deal.. I should get over it to prevent them from worrying. My mom also calls me ungrateful and threatens to hit me, if I ever confront them about the problems. Are they trying to denied it or scare to face the problems? She says I'll always be a failure and have a miserable life for dropping out of college. I suffer from anxiety and tried working part time to get my life together, sometime I am suicidal and have a lot of resentment towards my parent for their failure and how they're constantly letting me down.

Question: Who else knows of an option?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 07:40 AM PDT

Who else knows of an option of where I can stay I'm 31 I'm my own guardian. My mom passed away in December it seems as if my uncle is deciding what I should do. Months ago there was a discussion that I may stay in a group home I can't handle that that's given me more stress. For a temporarily place I will stay with my other uncle. My uncle said staying at a friends isn't an option but if someone else offers me to stay I"m taking it, The only disabilities I have is I'm hard of hearing in one ear I have epilepsy that is well controlled I do fine by myself. I want to make my own decisions where I want to stay.

Question: My mom has cancer and I always feel bad for having plans??

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 07:39 AM PDT

She doesn't have a long time to live but my boyfriend and I don't have days off together and tonight we're going to the drive in and tomorrow night I'm going to a concert. Next weekend her and I will be together all weekend and I'm home most nights after work. No one is really home during the day except my grandmother and I work full time. Is it ok if after this weekend I don't really go out much? I don't want her to think I don't care but my dad is an alcoholic and I live with my nephew who's kinda a punk I just need to leave sometimes. Also, is it wrong that I work full time?

Question: Am I being ridiculous?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 07:27 AM PDT

So um basically I need to know if I m just being a spoiled rotten white brat or if my problems are legitimate So I guess first things first, I m 12, I m white, I m male. Now I m basically going to list all of my problems o.o. 5 siblings Lives on an actual fricking farm Forced to take care of chickens, which is like completely disquesting because they have salmonella & they like generate poop dust. Not to mention the fact that eggs make me sick and I ve never eaten an egg from our chickens A 2 year old brother who has just entered the super rude and disobedient stage A 5 year old sister who gets whatever she wants, who is constantly physically abusing everyone in the family (5 year olds are actually pretty strong lel) I m homeschooled, have been since first grade, so I legit have 1 IRL friend. We recently switched from our state s homeschool to a private one, that costs like thousands of dollars. This new school is one of the worst things that has ever happened to me, because its sooo damn hard. My mom is a complete health & cleaning freak, and is SUPER worried about what other parents think about her. This usually means we have to eat granola bars or oatmeal or something gross like that Did I mention we have a garden? When I say garden, I mean like a giant garden with soo many plants that my parents make ME pick, even though I hate every plant that comes out of it. I ve never been allowed to walk around my neighborhood or like anything Am I being ridiculous?

Question: Tired of life?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 07:20 AM PDT

I'm so tired and done with my parents. They annoy they heck outta me. They are overprotective and emotionally abusive. 1. I wanted to go to a water park but wasent allowed to. 2. No talking to boys. 3. Oh your eating a donut? Let me tell you how fat you are. 4. Oh your depressed cry me a river. 5. School trip that takes you away for 4 days? No way! 6. Fun? Without me? Nuh uh. 7.College away from me? NO YOUR FORVIDDEN. 8. Moving out? Are you crazy. 9. Oh you got a b in history? Your an idiot and deserve to be shunned. 10. Sleepover? NO WAY 11. Something above the knee? You slut! And the list just goes on and on. I hate them and I'm done know what to do. Help please.

Question: I need to move out of my parents house but I dont have the means to?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 07:18 AM PDT

Long story short life is hell in this house. Every day after I get off work it's non stop cleaning until i go to bed, and if I ask for like a 10 minute break my mom's BF punches me. But I'm 18 now and only make 10 an hour at my part time job and I WOULD have cash saved up, but my mom takes about 80 percent of my every check for her own goods. My sister is alright with me moving in with her as long as I pay the utilities which I dont know how much that'll be, and if I can even find a job in that town. But I can't stand living another week in this house, what should I do?

Question: Hi what i do?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 06:36 AM PDT

My name is Mike. I was lucky to be a life. My truth story is that my real mom name is Brenda was at a place where she holds a gun up to her head and pulls the trigger. It did the bullet not go in her head, but she saw the person next to her died. She over dose me too. It did not kill me. The boyfriend that she was with put a plastic bag on my head and try to kill me. That the police came and got me put with nice people took me their home and love me. My aunt came to get me in California take me to Maine. I went to California to see the people took in their home. That where in lives now and I went to school and I getting a job. I am a boy scout that made Eagle Scout, and made some muster long the away but I am try to find what it mean to be Eagle Scout. is is my feel that everyone hate me

Question: Call mental for being suicidal?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 04:39 AM PDT

I had been having issues at home for years with my mom abusing that it made me suicidal. I told her many times I feel suicidal because of her and she ignore it and call me "crazy and mental". One time I told my guidance counselor of how my mom abuse me for years and I'm suicidal and she told my mom on the phone. Later the guidance counselor said for me see the psychiatrist. My mom later that day at home yell at call me names like "insane and mental" and that why my guidance counselor sent me to a psychiatrist. She trying say my counselor think I'm psycho. I said "I'm suicidal because of the way you abuse me mom and you never listen to me when I told you in the past, so that why I told my guidance counselor" and she said "after I gave birth you, feed you, raise you, you going tell on me? Shame! Such a horrible daughter you are!" She trying say she could treat me how she want (even be abusive) only because she my mom and it give me no right tell on her because she gave birth me, feed me, raise me, etc. And yes I will move out I'm old enough. I was dumb for not telling my counselor earlier for my mom abusing me years ago. However I want my mom get in trouble first then I will move out. Who should I report this to? What will happen to my mom? Can I tell that person to send my mom to the psychiatrist? Because clearly my mom the crazy one here.

Question: My 13 year old sister abuses me?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 03:54 AM PDT

I'm mad as heck as my sister but Im also very concerned by her behavior. She acts very immature. I'm not sure why she lashes out because she has a pretty good family life and her childhood was far better than mine. It would make since if I was the abusive one because I had a tramatic childhood. If I call her out on her behavior when Im watching her ( my parents told me I could) she instantly gets nasty and sometimes abusive. I'm at my wits end with her and I wonder what she treats her peers like at school. There are days when I have to be really firm with her because of the attitude I get. I'm 18 so I'm moving out next month but I tell her all the time when myou older sister moved out I regretted not spending time with her and now I miss her all the time. What do I do? I'm really worried about how quickly she will hit me or my little sister she doesn't seem to show remorse until I bring it to my parents about what's going on. Any advice? Thanks in advance

Question: How should I confront my sister?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 03:37 AM PDT

Hey guys so about two weeks ago my sisters boyfriend sent me a message being pretty rude. He stated that no matter what him and my sister were going out that Friday night and if he gets a text from her about somebody "b***hing" he would "lose it". A little back story is my sister met him about a year ago right before our mom came home from a nursing home. She requires 24/7 care and she needs assistance with everything as she is mentally and physically incompetent. I take care of my mom most of the time and when my sister gets off of work (3pm) it is her duty to change her and feed her dinner for the night. My girlfriend also lives here with us and helps me out when she is home. So, my sister and her boyfriend goes out every weekend but still gets mad because I let her know she also has priorities at home. I told her 2 weeks ago that I didn't want him back here (especially if me or my girlfriend is here) because of the way he came at me so rude, and never apologized. I wake up this morning at 5am and I see his car parked in our driveway. So right now as we speak he is here with my sister (6:30am) My sister knows how I feel about him being here, and last weekend she stayed the whole weekend (including Labor Day) at his house and didn't come home to help care for mom.. How should I confront her?? I don't want to cause a scene but it's not like she wasn't aware of how I felt towards him. I even told her "If you want to see (name) go to his house please".. My sister is also in the process of moving to his house. They are building a cathouse type thing for her four cats that he doesn't allow inside. I don't mind if she leaves now. She requires my help as is to change her, feed her, etc. so it wouldn't make a difference. That's my last concern, I wish she would just move out already because before I moved here her and her ex boyfriend would use my moms check for food and bills instead of theirs and now my sister has over $4k saved up and my mom has none... Smh the nerve of some people

Question: What Can I Do To Avoid Serious Altercation?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 02:39 AM PDT

My Wife She Has A 1 Year OLD Son In The Hospital and Yesterday I thought It Would be A good Thing To Go Support Her, But As She Was Informing Her Baby s Father, He Spazzed Out And Flew TO THE Hospital And Waited for Me, I told her I would just drop her off and go relax at a friend s house until she s ready since it was such a big deal. Any who We Got TO The Hospital and I dropped her off, he came up to the window and stated "This is gonna BE My last time telling you, stay the f*ck away from my son, or I ll have to get to straight blasting on your a** f*ckboy" Now Given That He s Bigger THAN Me By Much I really didn t give a damn I kept my cool while he pointed and pretty much scratched my face, I said "ight" and left. I Told Her From Now on I won t be mentioning her son at all because I can t take it, By all means It takes nothing for me to whoop someone s ***, but considering that he s bringing a gun into this situation makes me scared for my life and making all kinds of crazy thoughts run through my head, Like I Should Kill him Before he Kills Me. No I do not have any mental issues , and i am not a violent person but like I said I m scared for my life, What Can I Do Before Anything goes down? I will not hesitate to react if I feel threatened.. I am A 19 year old black man who s never been convicted of anything and I would not want to get a life sentence for anything please help

Question: My friend has her boobs out in class and she is asleep should I pull her bra up or touch her boobs?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 02:35 AM PDT

Question: Divorced parents in different countries.. Who to live with ??? Help!!!!?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 01:51 AM PDT

I'm 13. My parents have been fighting a lot lately and have decided to get a divorce very soon , they both asked me who I want to live with , and I told them I need some time to think.. I can't live without my mother in a different country , and I also can't live without a father. My mother is abusive some times , she hits me and abuses me Infront of people . My father is a good man and promised me to take care of me and not allow anyone to hurt me. I love them both so much no matter what they did/do to me. I'm a self harmer and this too got me depressed very bad lately. No matter how abusive my mom is I still can't stay without her , as well as my father. Please help me ASAP ??

Question: How do I help my dad fix his relationship?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 01:25 AM PDT

Hello. I am a 15 year old girl who is living in the UK (Ireland) and I would like some help on how to help my dad with his relationship? My mom passed away when I was 4 from cancer and my dad got together with this guy when I was 7. He is basically another dad to me and he's a really amazing person, but the last couple of months they have been going through a lot of problems and I want to be able to help them in some way. I know it is adult business and I really shouldn't be getting involved, but they are both really sad and I just want to see them happy again. My dad and his partner have been fighting over a lot of things (cheating, alcohol, sex, etc). My dad is upset because he doesn't think that his partner is faithful and his partner is upset because he is always at the bar and never home to care for his needs. My dad has always struggled with alcohol, so I know that is a big problem and I am pretty sure his partner isn't cheating on him because a majority of the time he is at home (he lives with us).. There have been a few nights were they fought so bad my aunt had to come pick me up and even one time the Garda had to be called because my dad hit his partner and threatened to hurt him really bad. They are a really happy couple when they are happy and I just want to see them be that way again without the fighting. They light up each others worlds when they are happy, so what can I do to make them not fight anymore? How do I make them happy again like they used to be?

Question: Why is it so easy to convince someone that you're angry so much to the point where you gotta watch say more than you gotta watch your anger?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 01:01 AM PDT

it pisses me off when this is true not only because i got to watch what i say more than how angry i feel but this isn't the first time i asked this quesrtion, the first time i asked this question someone was convinced that i'm angry because i SOUND angry and he didn't even focus or pay any attention to whether i was saying it calmly or not because he was ignoring whether i was yelling, giving an angry facial expression etc. which proves exactly my point it's soo easy to convince someone that you're angry that all you gotta do is say something negative that sounds angry to them, hell anything that you say sounds angry to them because they don't understand whether you can say it calmly or not which means if you're saying something that sounds angry to them, which is pretty much anything, while totally feeling calm they wont notice it and that's the same with saying something that sounds calm while feeling pissed off if you say something that sounds calm while feeling angry they wont notice that either, but mostly they ignore whether you are saying something negative calmly or not the most because they believe that you can't say it calmly, whether they admit that or not it's true because they don't understand that's why they assume things instead of admitting that they don't understand

Question: Why does my mom keep saying that im still a kid at 18?

Posted: 09 Sep 2016 12:40 AM PDT

I was having a conversation with my mom and my 18th birthday is coming up. She keeps going on about that 18 doesn't make me an adult and that im still a child is this true? Because i heard once you turn 18 you can do as you please. She told me I'll still have a curfew even after my 18th birthday and im wondering do i have to follow her orders even though I'll be 18? Disclaimer: i do love and respect my mother but i just want to know if i can make my own decisions and i would like to know what are my rights once i turn 18 in 2 weeks.

Question: Weed smell and strength?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 11:57 PM PDT

If I have weed that i haven't smoked and I open the bag that it's in (8th bag) while I'm in my room will the smell stay stuck in my room I believe no cause people assume that's it smells like weed just cause you put the thought in your head and you over exaggerate like I have a brother he tends to spray himself way to much and always claims you get red eye no matter what, I have been smoking for 3 years or so and my eyes don't even turn red anymore but of course since my brother doesn't smoke often he assumes everybody gets it no matter what same thing with the weed he assumes it smells just cause I have weed but not currently on me but in my stash

Question: How do you like my singing?? PLEASE BE VERY HONEST!!!?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 11:27 PM PDT

How do you like my singing?? PLEASE BE VERY HONEST!!! https://youtu.be/bO0w39a4J2U

Question: So sick of my life?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 10:30 PM PDT

I'm so tired and done with my parents. They annoy they heck outta me. They are overprotective and emotionally abusive. 1. I wanted to go to a water park but wasent allowed to. 2. No talking to boys. 3. Oh your eating a donut? Let me tell you how fat you are. 4. Oh your depressed cry me a river. 5. School trip that takes you away for 4 days? No way! 6. Fun? Without me? Nuh uh. 7.College away from me? NO YOUR FORVIDDEN. 8. Moving out? Are you crazy. 9. Oh you got a b in history? Your an idiot and deserve to be shunned. 10. Sleepover? NO WAY 11. Something above the knee? You slut! And the list just goes on and on. I hate them and I'm done know what to do. Help please.

Question: Would you ever forgive someone for something like this?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 10:00 PM PDT

My uncles wife has hated my dad ever since she met my uncle. She purposely always tried to cause a lot of problems between my father and his brother. Well, in January, I had my first child, a daughter. My father convinced me to move back in so he could help me out with my daughter while I finish college because my ex walked out on me (I am 22 years old), and also because I was suffering with postpartum depression. So I moved back in the beginning of March. In April there was a call to C&Y about my father's home "being a mess", which wasn't true, and when the workers came out to the home they determined that the claims were false. Several more calls were made to C&Y about us and eventually C&Y just stopped listening to the "caller". I found out at the end of May that my aunt had been the one calling and that my uncle KNEW what she was up to. My aunt even spoke with a lawyer to help try and have my daughter taken away. My aunt's reason? She didn't think my father deserved the joy of a grandchild. I found all this out because my cousin confided in another family member who told me. My father, brother, and I have cut all contact with my aunt and uncle. Anyway, my grandmother wants US to forgive my aunt. Honestly, shouldn't my aunt be asking for forgiveness? And is trying to throw someone's baby into foster care simply to hurt the grandfather of the baby even forgivable? They are no longer family to me. Family doesn't do that. Would you forgive and forget?

Question: What should I do with my mom?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 09:17 PM PDT

Im currently a senior in highschool. College applications are less than a month away! I feel no support from my mom whatsoever. She says i think im "rich" cause i wanna go straight into a 4-year. At the end of this year, i would have taken a total of 9 AP classes and 6 honors and passed all of them with a B or better. i think i only deserve to go to a 4year. Not only that, but she puts me down alot and complains of what i do and dont do. Like today she said i look like a dead body without makeup, yet when i wear makeup she says its way too much. That freaking hurts me so much. I also have a job but i only work weekends. So my check comes out to be approx. $200 every two weeks. Well she takes half the check. She makes me give her 50$ because she says " food aint free" and i give ger money and i have to pay a bill AND i pay my phone and my service. And she still expects me to have enough money to buy clothes and whatever i want. I dont go out at all because she always complains and talks crap about my friends and shes super rude to them. Since the minute i wake up, she says i did something wrong and the minute she picks me up from school, she yells at me. I really feel so stressed and unable to concentrate at school. This is the most important year for me and i feel put down and alone. I suffered major depression when I was 9 and im scared to fall back into this. All I feel like doing is crying. I would appreciate any advice.,,

Question: My Great Aunt has a dad. Her dad has a first cousin. That first cousin has a son. What is the son's relation to me? Please answer accurately?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 09:17 PM PDT

Trying to find my accurate blood relationship to ricky martin.

Question: Why she cries everytime she see me?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 09:10 PM PDT

My god mom passed away four months ago and it has been tough. Her sister became apart of my life and she would drive over an hour to see me, and when she sees me she tear up. I wonder at times why she becomes emotional,why is she driving to see me,call me, text me and tell me that she loves me. Her and i have a strong connection,i feel the tight bond. She calls me her niece and I call her auntie.

Question: My Parents Heard Me Masturbating...HELP?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 08:54 PM PDT

I won't go into extreme detail, but basically I was being fairly noisy and they noticed pretty quickly. My dad sent me the texts "What's going on up there," "Come downstairs," and "Come downstairs now!" I'm kind of scared, the last time this happened was about two years ago and I denied everything because my parents are the type who thing masturbation is entirely wrong. I'm fairly certain that they'll confront me about it tomorrow morning. What should I do?

Question: Hate my new school, getting depressed in the third week already, help?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 08:54 PM PDT

I'm 16 and in my junior year this school is my fifth school and third highschool sadly. I'm from a state twelve hours away and when I first moved it was to a little town up there and I seriously hated my life, i started cutting myself and was to the point of suicide to where I was sent to a psych hospital. Then my sophomore year we moved to Texas and I absolutely loved my new school, then I basically dropped out for eight months because a long story with mom and missed a semester of work, so we moved homes in the same city though and now I'm at a new school that is so much bigger than any of my other high-schools. The teachers for the most part can't explain our work and I feel dumb as heck . I now have to go to night school because I missed so much of my sophomore year and didn't get credited. I love my AP classes but the teachers dead serious can't teach. I've been crying all this week at night because I'm getting depressed and having thoughts of suicide but don't want to stress my mom anymore than she is. I have my life dang near planned out with people who get me and now Im at this school with snobby girls and rude sexists guys (most I've encountered anyways) how can I get through this year with flying colors and convince my mom to let me graduate from my old school?

Question: My Great Aunt has a dad. Her dad has a cousin(first). That cousin is a mother of a child. Who is this child to me?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 08:51 PM PDT

Trying to figure out Ricky Martin's exact relation to me.

Question: Trying not to break ****?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 08:38 PM PDT

So I'm super pissed right now fresh out of a lecture from my mom. So basically my AK studies class has to grades in it a quiz and a test. I got an 80/100 on the quiz and 60/100 on the test so I have a 64 in that class. She chewed my *** off and then I tried to tell her that only two grades were entered (not to mention I can correct the test and get half credit for it but that's due tomorrow.) So now I'm super pissed and don't know what to do. (Taking it out with my parents dosnt work, they don't like talking back or for their child to say that they were wrong.)

Question: I feel like I'm not nice enough to my parents and I don't love them enough?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 08:33 PM PDT

I have had this relationship with my parents since when I was young where I have always basically wanted the same amount of respect from them as they give me. I'm very independent besides the basic necessities my parents provide me. I feel like I've conditioned myself in this way that I get mad at my parents way too easily, specifically my dad, which is probably cause I didn't get to see him much as a child. The other day I had a dream that my dad was dying and I immediately regretted everytime I've ever gotten mad at him. I feel like I don't love my dad enough and don't spend enough time with him at all. I could use some advice on how to stop getting mad at my parents so easily and how to show them I love them without telling them directly.

Question: How to deal with 'parental control' strict parent?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 08:25 PM PDT

I'm 16, soon to turn 17, and live with only my mom. My mom is very strict when it comes to "parental controls." I can't have any social media, i have restrictions on my own personal tablet she bought me, parental controls on the TV's in the house, she wont let me download explicit music on my cell phone, which i just end up listening to anyway, and I CAN'T EVEN CLOSE MY BEDROOM DOOR. I understand the concept of not being able to lock doors but I can't even close it. I would like these privileges but she isn't the easiest person to talk to because she always feels she has that right and i don't have a say in any of that. What should i do?

Question: Do any of you parents with adult children wish your child was still young and at home?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 08:15 PM PDT

or just glad theyre grown up and out of the house? there are more of the latter I am one of those adult children who wishes I could be young back at home! my parents were like no way.. (even when I was still young-ish) so I was curious if there are lonesome moms out there who do miss that and wish for that life again.. at least by reminiscing all the time (that's what I do) if so , that's sweet!

Question: My dad is harassing my mom(divorced) and she's blaming me..PLEASE HELP?!?!?!?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 08:14 PM PDT

My mom and dad have been divorced since February 2016. My mom has been dating a guy since then and all my dad does is texts her calling her a slut, saying he knows she's dating someone else, etc. it's freaking annoying bc it is NOT his business anyway. I do competitive cheer, and my mom is in the private Facebook group that gets notifications for practice dates and times, etc. My dad was dropping me off at practice last night and I used his phone to log into my mom's Facebook account to see what time it started. I looked at the message my coach sent out to the group, and then I logged out of her account. I'm not on Facebook, so I didn't know that apparently right after you log out, you still have access to that account. So he dropped me off at my mom's house and I thought nothing of it. Tonight, my mom started yelling at me out of nowhere "how could you do this to me" "you ruined my life" "im not paying for your sports anymore" "I hate you" "I never want to talk to you again", etc. Of course I had no idea what she was talking about, so I asked her and she said that he logged into her Facebook and went through all of her messages and such. That its my fault and I should've known not to log into her account on his phone, that I should've known he was gunna do this, etc. I didn't even think twice after I logged out whether or not he still had access. Of course, he'd been texting her all night harassing her about her boyfriend, again. calling her a slut, whore, etc. HELP

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 08:12 PM PDT

I have a cousin who I have been really close with since we were kids were 6 months apart live pretty close to each other and we used to talk all the time I would tell him everything but lately he's been kind of annoying when we hang out if he knows something makes me mad he will laugh at it and tease me and he will lie about something so dumb right to my face also if I ask him to do something for me he will make an excuse to why he can't do it when I know he can and when he ask me something ill do it so we don't really talk that much and when he does try and call or text me I just say I'm busy ill call you later and not call back and when he text me I just won't answer or I will lie and say my phones dead and he called me out on it and said im being a a** but I don't really care I don't really don't want to talk or hang out with him but sometimes I feel bad cause we have been like best friends since I can remember im 15 now btw also he will also send me things to brag that he knows I can't get and he know I want and he will do it on purpose I won't say anything but he knows he sends it just to make me upset

Question: 18 and left house to live with my cousin/uncle,aunt.?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 08:08 PM PDT

I'm 18 and have had it up to here with my mother nd dad. Not gonna get into detail but I called my aunt to come pick me up and they did, they always treated me like a son and will support me and always wanted me to live with them etc... I ended up packing a small bag and went with them. I'm joining the service a month or so from now. I really want to talk to my mom and let her now I'm not doing this in a bad way, I don't want her to hold a grudge on me. What do I tell her??

Question: My mother and sisters call me lazy and useless. This makes me sad. How can I feel better?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 07:58 PM PDT

I'm 18 and currently going to college full-time. Since graduating high school back in June, I haven't done much but savor my last free months not spent at school or working. My family has been hounding me incessantly to "get a job" as if it is some kind of moral requirement. I'm not a Puritan living in the 1600s, I'm a normal guy looking to get my education and go on to my career. I have put in several applications, but I am scared to follow up on any of them. My family is making me feel like a bum because I elect to focus on school for now rather than work (weekends). Should I try to get a weekend job, or just continue focusing on school work? How do I tell my family that they are making me feel bad?

Question: Do other guys dislike handling their mother's underthings?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 07:33 PM PDT

This question is primarily for other males out there. I know women don't tend to view this the same way. I'm in my 30's and my mother is in her 50's and I'm just wondering if other guys share my discomfort with handling our mother's unmentionables when it comes to laundry and such?

Question: Do my niece and her father have a strange relationship?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 07:32 PM PDT

My sister had a daughter in 1998 with a man who was 18 at the time. My sister passed away due to complications during childbirth, and her father's daughter (his name is Paul) raised my niece (Bella) all by himself. Bella is 18 now, and Paul will turn 37 in a few days. Paul has truly done an incredible job raising Bella. She's grown up to be a classy young woman. Paul has always known how to discipline her when it's needed and hasn't ever slacked off as a father. He's provided her with everything she needs and more. Although Paul is a pretty strict parent, he's also a really fun one. He and Bella have a lot of inside jokes and you can tell they genuinely enjoy being around each other. I joke that they should have a sitcom -- they're always making people around them laugh because of their little antics and such. At times, they even act more like brother and sister than they do father and daughter. They're truly FRIENDS -- not just dad and daughter. Here are just three examples of things they've done: 1. Paul took something of Bella's and wouldn't give it back, so Bella said, "I'll jump on you! I'll do it!" Paul said, "you're not gonna do it". Bella said, "watch me" and proceeded to jump on Paul's back. He laughed and was like, "get off me! You're crazy, get off me!" The whole family was there watching. 2. We were at my parent's house. Bella can't drive yet, and Paul came to pick her up. It was late, but Bella wanted to stay and talk for a while. Paul was getting antsy and was ready to leave but Bella just kept talking. Finally, Paul just picked Bella up and said, "bye!" and carried her out the door while we all laughed. 3. Paul: "every time you start a sentence with 'what if', it never turns out well!" Bella: "That's not true! Give me some examples." Paul: "(Mocking Bella) Dad, what if I became a groupie?" Then they both bursted into laughter. Is their dad/daughter normal or too close for comfort? *her daughter's father (not her father's daughter)

Question: How much did your baby weigh when it was born?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 07:27 PM PDT

Question: How do I save my failing relationship because of my actions?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 07:14 PM PDT

Hello. I am a 27 year old male, in a homosexual relationship with my 24 year old partner of three years and I am in need of some advice on how to save my relationship from falling apart, because of my actions. I grew up in a family where my father abused my mother and I guess you could say some of that mentality he had, is exactly what I am doing with my relationship. I am not proud of it, but it's something I just do and I need help on how to stop because my partner doesn't deserve some of the s*** I put him through. I'm really possessive of him and I get pissed off when I see another man talking to him in any way; I mean to the point I have gotten in literal fights with these guys, got arrested once, even harmed my partner over it. When I get mad, I get violent and there's been times where I have left bruises or scratches on him. I've sexually harmed him before, because him and this guy were getting to close, because I figured it would show him who he belonged to. It's not like I want to hurt him, but it just happens. I get so mad that I just explode with rage. I hate the idea of someone taking him away or him leaving me. I know he deserves better, so don't lecture me on that; I'm an ******* that doesn't deserve someone like him. I just need advice on how to change myself. How do I stop abusing him, what can I do to change?. I need advice on how I can save my relationship because he is threatening to leave right now and I can't loose him. Please.

Question: My sister has a step-son she belittles and a daughter she builds up. Would I be wrong to be extra nice to her step-son?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 06:59 PM PDT

My sister is a little narcissistic so the step-son she belittles is not the best student due to learning disabilities and thus doesn't reflect good on my sister. My sister's daughter is a scholar and only 8th grade (future Harvard Valedictorian is my sister's claim). Another daughter is ignored but not mistreated (classic narcissistic parenting). So since I feel for this step-son of hers (his own mother died) would I be wrong to be extra nice to him? I normally don't want to interfere in my siblings' parenting as my mother hated it when her siblings gossiped about her parenting when we were little. I feel sorry for this step-son of hers though (he is 13). He is easy going and just a C student due to disability and is awkward socially which humiliates my sister. She cuts him down constantly.

Question: Should I go with my mother to a party this weekend even though my former step-mother is going to be there?

Posted: 08 Sep 2016 06:54 PM PDT

I don't want my Dad to be mad that I saw his ex-wife. I really likes his ex-wife so I don't mind but I don't want my Dad to be mad. I'll actually be with two of his three ex-wives and both the ex-wives from my lifetime.