My husband and I have been together for almost 6 years now, 3 being married. Before we were married and when we first started dating, he cheated once with his daughters mother. There have been other things like talking to my friend with bad intentions. He signed up for fu** buddy sites and then 3 days later told another woman she was beautiful! He lies all the time! Especially about those things, then eventually cones clean. Will he ever stop?? I've given so many chances! I need others opinions and outlooks on this situation! HELP ME!

The thought of my friends getting married and where I am at has made me really depressed. It is reminding me just how alone I am. I have a good number of friends but I really wish I could have one that I can have a strong connection with. I suck at communicating seeing how I have PDD and don't know where to look for the right one. I'm hoping I could find someone who is a Christian and decent. I'm just a couple days away from turning 25 but I really want to make a change now. Any suggestions?

As a married women, I have more male friends than I do female friends. I never hang out with guys who are flirtatious, mostly guys who share the same interest as me or offer different perspective. I have a hard time trusting women, probably because of some weird psychological problems, but I feel less anxiety around men. My husband lets me hang out with most of my guy friends but guilt still occurs to me for some reason. I can sense he is uncomfortable but trusts me. So back to the original question. I know my intentions are good but do platonic relationships exist? My husband has told me before he knows how males think, but I don t generalize, neither am I naive. I m just tired of the guilt.

Ive been dating this guy for 3 months officially and hes odd sexually. He wont initiate kissing me beyond a few minutes and has not tried to initiate french kissing me. I once tried but he kept his mouth closed. I brought it up once and he stated he is damaged from his ex that told him he is bad in bed. But starting a few weeks ago, he continues to do this and then grabs random body parts. He even does this when we are simply talking (out of the blue). Im finding it really offputting. Itd be different if we have had sex and were at that point, but we're not. Itd also be different if we were working our way up to it, you know physically, but we havent been doing that either. And when I have brought it up he doesnt seem to think its inappropriate. And by body parts- I mean my butt or boobs. Im finding myself wanting to avoid physical contact with him bc I find it offputting

My husband and I have been having problems. We had a big fight 2 days ago and pretty much haven't been speaking to each other. We have communication problems big time. He just won't talk. The fight we had was him screaming at me and getting in my face over nothing. Anyways, I woke him up for sex and I was on top. I wanted him to get on top so bad because the last like 5-10 times we've done it I've been on top. So I get off and he just turns over and pulls his boxers up. And I'm you know wanting him bad, so I begged him a few times whatever, so he sat up and was on top backwards which I was fine with, it was something different. I put all my weight on his shin so I could scoot over and he screamed at me because it hurt. So I put my clothes back on, crying and he asked what was wrong and I told him everything, US. And I'm sitting there crying and he just turns back over and says we'll talk tomorrow. Idk what to do. For awhile now it's been this on and off thing where we feel distant. I'd love to go to marriage counseling but at this time in our life we're focusing on getting our own home (we live with his brother). Yes I know there's things he's stressed about in life right now but I feel like he's not happy with me and he's just not saying it. Idk. Advice please? (Sorry tmi with the sex talk) The fight was 2 days ago. Then the sex and me crying was tonight. I know I'm pathetic, asking for answers on here. I just need advice I guess.

wife cheated on husband twice, had him falsely arrested, tried to take his child, filed for divorce, and tried to take his apartment. It all failed. His criminal case was dismissed, the family order is intact, and she wasn t on the lease of the apartment. Now in a last ditch effort to reconcile she wants to keep the marriage. This would be great for her because she would be able to stay in the apartment if the divorce does not go through. After going through all that would you move on or try to salvage your family?

I guess maybe I never looked at skin color or realized the stigma that comes along with it. Even after 11 years, I still hear the comments especially from people I work with. It's like I get singled out by co workers who make idiotic comments. Some are very harsh. I have a lovely family two great kids and husband. Some guys make sex talk about how I must be satisfied with my hubby cause he must have a huge black tool, or I don't like them they are the wrong color I've been told I'm ruined or tainted . I get welfare comments even though We live comfortably not on welfare just a variety things I'm too embarassed to even discuss with him because I don't want his feelings hurt. The comments are worse I just refuse to type or say them. how should I respond? Is this normal behavior in healthcare ? I've been quiet about this for ten years at work. I'm starting to grow increasingly angry. I don't want my kids hearing this same thing when they grow up.

And when I met him I really didn't like him. His looks and everything. I was crying a day before wedding. I only married him because someone broke my heart and I told my parents that they can find someone or else i would stay unmarried my whole life. anyways I did get married. But I am not sexually attracted to him. I have no chemistry with him. what is going on please help me what should i do about this. When I had sex with my ex it was like sparks and amazing feeling. but he doesn't even know how to kiss. he cant keep a kiss on lips and repeatedly kisses on face and lips. and he doesnt know how to have s e x. Im more than depressed and need help! i dont want to break my marriage only becausei want to prove that i can keep a relationship. but we have had many arguments over small things and its just been one month since our marriage.

Im completely done with my husband. He hasnt had a job for the 4 years weve been together we have two kids he stays at home and doesnt clean or cook anything. He always says he wants to work but blames me for it. I dont know how to leave him or the right moves to make because hes a very revengeful person. Hes got a track record with meth and recently got caught driving for the 7th time without a license and had drugs in the car. I had to pay 400$ to get the car out of impound and he sti taking the car. Anytime i tell him not to do something or even ask njcely it turns into a HUGE really bad argument and his conclusion of the argument is its my fault. We arent together but we still live togwther and now his dad moved in and he doesnt have a job either but he helps babysit sometimes. I know that if i kick my husband out he will do something really mean to me like to my car or to the house and prevent me from doing the things i need to do like school and work he would be really revengeful and i dont know how to go about this without causing something bad happening to me or him taking the kids. I really dislike him and he makes me miserable. This morning he woke me up at 4am yelling at me because we needed milk and quarters for laundry and he thoyght it was a completely rational thing i need some major advice of how to escape this

So I recently got mad and said stuff that people took as an offense. Recently my fiancee postponed the wedding for another 3 years saying that she has some personal stuff to worry about before thinking about marriage. She says she has to care for her siblings and family and told me that she would think about marriage in a few years from now. I am 27 and I am lonely and I want to start a family of my own. I can't find a woman in america who would date me so they setted me up with this woman. I had planned this trip since 2012 and I was so happy knowing that I was going to go over there this summer and she had to ruin my plans by postponing. I am upset and told people that she should be listening to me as I am the one with the power to bring her to america. People think that i have potential to be abusive and a psychopath and they wanted to report me to the police and FBI. Do I really sound abusive like they say ?

I'm afraid my dad will lose some respect for me but I'm worried that her and the guy are just playing a game or something but she has been getting seriously angry when I try to figure her password out. Ugh I just wanna cry.😢😢 I know if I told me dad they would get a divorce,

For all the married couples out there, how did you know when you were ready to get married? I want to get married someday but, I still feel like I need to understand certain life skills in order to "survive." Understanding money, bills, insurance, housing skills etc. I'm not trying to sound lazy just, how do you know when you are fully prepared?

How long do you think I should give myself and my spouse for our emotions to settle and for us to get ourselves together financially amongst other things before we decide to get a divorce. We are separated as of right now. We both are opting for divorce but neither want to rush it. How long would you wait?

My wifes sex drive towards me has slowed to a stop. She does not initiate sex anymore. she has a work friend she has known for many years. There was even a rumor when I woked there that they came back on a monday years ago (long before we met) with hickeys on their neck even though they had no boyfriends at the time and she was staying with her and my wife 2 childen. I heard a phone conversation the other day. My wife was talking to her asking her in a possesive insinuating way "where you at" and "what are you doing". In a jealous possesive boyfriend girl friend sort of way. Maybe im reading to much into it. She even joked how this girl didnt know how to take a selfie. My wife says "Shes weird looks like shes looking off to the side instead of at the camera My wife say jokenly but in a way that boyfriend or girlfriend kind of way. She said "what jokenly "what are you looking at"? as if my wife was talking to her at the time. again but in jealous kind of way.

Cheating!

I have been engaged for roughly 4 months now and I am starting to feel like I am already married because my fiancé and I are having lots of problems lately. I am in the US studying and he is back in Africa working and I am supposed to join him in few months after graduation. Things are not going well between us because of the things he would do to me to make me sad and unhappy. He is saying that it's because he wants to prepare me to married life, that it's not always going to be a fairy tale. But this situation is making me have second thoughts, I knew marriage is not easy but I don't think I am ready to be unhappy. I am really scared. I love him so much and he really does too. He is sweet and kind hearted but lately been doing lot of things to upset me. I don't know if he is the right person or if marriage is always like this, or if all men are the same. I am really scared. Help!

I had my inlaws in my wedding as bridesmaids and groomsmen and then I find out that my mother in law ,sister in law and my brother in laws gf go shopping and out to eat like everyother weekend without even asking me ? Should I give them the benifit of the doupt because I do live thirty minutes from them but isn't it give what you get ? It just hurt my feelings that they didn't even consider inviting me, maybe they didn't think I'd want to go I don't k ow

Im saying that its not a whim or something but you have thought about him and are really attracted to him over a period of time and not being with him is causing a lot of pain. Is this still wrong? Thanks because my therapist said to follow my passions but maybe she is just telling me what I want to hear. I have never talked to my husband about him not being with me sexually the way I like and when he does he asks about every step and I want to be taken in passion.

We have been married for a little over a year. We dated for a year and a half before getting engaged. He lied to me about the smallest, most insignificant things in the past, but when we got engaged I told him no more lies or I will not marry him, and he ended up coming clean about every lie, none of them big. He has a job which requires him to travel and although I know he would never cheat I get the feeling he s lying about stupid little things again. Now I m not worried about the lie so much just the fact that he is lying to me. I have good reason to believe He s lying, but no matter how I approach his lying, he denies it until I lose my **** and scream at him which I do not want to do. Any advice on how to deal with this is much appreciated.

Me and my wife having a difficult time we have been married for almost 8 years we have kids shes never happy she's feeling unlucky with her life every time I make life easier for her but that's nothing or not enough to her. She's acting like the happiest person in front of the people and on Facebook too but we are different at home

My wife came from a no nonsense, bold family. You either did as you were told or you were punished for it. Getting straight A's was the minimum standard and anything less was also punishable. There wasn't any real love in this family, there was just a deep understanding that you acted "properly" or you didn't have safety, security, affection, or freedom. Everything was uncertain and no one acted with integrity. If they came home in a bad mood, you had to deal with it (or hear about it). The line between adult and child were blurred too; my wife had to comfort her mother a lot as a kid after marital disputes. I came from a family that was all about peace, love, and harmony. As long as we all got along, you were forgiven for anything you did wrong. The bond between us was more important than getting good grades, having a good job, or obeying "authority". My parents were hippies with low expectations. In ways I wish they had higher expectations so I could have been motivated to go to college, but I can't complain. My parents put me on a pedestal and made me feel like a superstar. Sure my parents fought, but they never involved me or my brother. So here's my question: My wife doesn't agree with an Authoritarian lifestyle and prefers a Permissive one like I had growing up. But just because she wants a Permissive lifestyle doesn't mean she thinks like a Permissive person. This got me thinking, how might have her Authoritarian upbringing affected how she thinks about our marriage? Am I seriously the only person who thinks this deep? Come on! I find it very hard to believe that after 23 minutes no one else had an insight worthy of giving me a compare/contrast. There's no shortage of Authoritarian people on this page, surely you've met Permissive type people (and not yelled at all of them and scared them away); so how did your life/values/morals differ from theirs? That's all I'm asking!

The man I am dating is separated from his wife. There is every intention to divorce on bother ends, and his entire family knows he is seeing me. There are circumstantial reasons for the delay in the actual divorce that I understand. Some people still put their noses in and say I'm in an affair. That I should leave until the divorce is final. Is this just advice that is in general a good idea, or do people think I really should do it? Why? What would be made better by randomly stepping out of our relationship now? Especially when we both know we will be together.

There's so much to be angry about on both sides of the boundary line. There's so much to be angry at on our own side of the boundary line. There's so much to just be angry at. I think we got addicted to that anger because it helped us remember why we can't trust the other person, so we held on to this anger to remind us that the other person is our enemy. Which we all know you can't be married to an enemy or a person you are competing with, so that's why you all tell me to divorce her already or to go to counseling - there's so much hurt, pain, and unhappiness in our relationship, but you aren't skilled enough to help me sort it out. I get it, I truly do. But I am on a tight schedule. While the dysfunction is going on, time is being wasted in 25 different directions. It has been my job to redirect all that time so our days are some what functional. Every single diagram I find online where there's dysfunction there's always this ONE person who manages to keep everyone together, and that person has been me. But it takes a lot of time/energy so all I have time for is trial and error. And trust me, I do get progress this way, it's just very slow. So I am here to ask for advice on how to use my limited time schedule to try to build new behaviors, habits, and routines in my family so I can start fresh with my wife and get my kids back on track. All I'm looking for is insights on what MIGHT work. If you have any ideas, please share them here. No one dreams harder than I do.

His birthday is next week, but the trip will be in June this summer. But I want him to have something to unwrap for his birthday. And something a little more elaborate than just giving him the tickets... Maybe clues or something?

People tend to forget that men are different from women. Men loves sex while women loves attention. If the husband didn't give you proper attention, it does mean that you are not giving him enough sex that's why he goes around searching. And then you wife will get mad and curse the mistress, when it is your duty to please him and not the other girl. Actually, husbands always blame the wives because they got fault too. End case. They should learn to prioritize their spouse or less lose them. Some of you are pathetic. You feel like i defending the mistress when im just pointing out if the wife is really all that innocent as to why her husband is having an affair. Maybe the wife is really innocent or doing nothing about it.

But this year, in our marriage. Our relationship has been going on the rocks. We're having serious quarrels on small matters. Often fights rooting from small misunderstanding. Sometimes its because of the approach, or tone of voice, or the way she treat me at a certain time, I tend to react high pitched. I can;t help it coz my temper sometimes is being affected by my Hypertension. Not that I haven't tried. I try really hard to mend any misunderstanding. I know, that at times I'm at fault. But most of the times I am the one who accepts the wrongdoing. I can't remember her saying, I accept that I am wrong, and I want to change. She always says I need to change or I have not changed. Its not as if I've done something wrong to the extent of being with another. I've always been loyal in our relationship. I don't even go out drinking with friends anymore. Sometimes I feel that my heart just wanna explode. I want somebody else's advice. Hope this Question I've submitted is worthwhile and hoping I get some inspiration from this. We are currently 13 years married and have 2 kids

Once we was married he changed big time . He yells all the time at me 1st thing in the morning because I have to turn the light on to get ready for work 45mins is yelling at saying mean things to me i have tried to get what i need the night before and got yelled at saying was snicking out on him .. He seems not to care if he makes me cry or anything . calls my work number yelling cussing at me and i am at work only wants sex when he wants it if i try to get it he goes off the deep end saying thats all i want from him. Want hold me at all.. Lies to me .. I feel so lost i cry my swlf to sleep saddiest we been married almsot 3 mos . and I hate it ... I do everything to make him happy . but its so bad its hass to be all about him 24/7 what am i to do???

Bear with me, i ll give you full details and not some half *** story most people give on here. I like to drink, she does too, not as much as I do but when we do together it s a mutual choice. Tonight I guess she drank to much, she told me she does my hobbies, "drinking" why don t I do her hobbies. "smoking" . I have noting against it, it just doesn t work for me. I already have anxiety and weed makes it worse, I ll be honest we ve had a few good times smoking it but I still choose not to. She s basing those few good times off of we should smoke. I don t force her to drink and don t expect her to expect me to smoke. I can t handle it, I m 40 now and back in the day I could smoke. It s not the same anymore for me, it leads to me having a bad time, maybe a handful of good times but majority bad times. She refuses to understand I won t have a good time despite the few good times I had. How do I get her to stop expecting me to do it just cause she has a good time.?

We are in a long distance relationship.and he ia coming in my place next month.i want to plan a dinner date.Please give me some ideas...i want to do everything by myself. I mean the total arrangements.i don't want to go to a restaurant coz that is so artificial. I want to do something creative..

Back story my husband is 23 I am 21 .My husband was homeless as a teen, abused as a child and we are going to college right now. So he shakes uncontrollably sometimes and he always has nightmares. My husband took on the habit of heaven drinking to the point where he barely functions any more. I mean I have to cover him on the couch if he passes out, clean him of throw up... He says that pot and alcohol help him forget but I have strong feelings against it since our church does. How do I plan an intervention and talk to him about this.

I have a 6 month and it become so stressful sometimes especially to nap. My husband has a small business sometimes comes home late. I get no help from him and when he comes I have to tend to his needs and if baby cries he hands him to me. I try and tell him but he says you act like your the only mom out there who takes care of their baby 24 hours. I dont know what to do or say. I feel so overwhelmed sometimes. :/

I'm tired of saying like, happy wife, happy life, you better agree with her, because this really doesn't sound appealing.

We have been married for ten years and my wife knew I had "sissy" tendencies. I was born with a hormonal imbalance, which I think makes me act more feminine (and left me with a very small penis. Now I started to wear woman's panties, jeans, camisoles and t shirts. I love cooking, cleaning and taking care of the house. We love each others company and have lots in common. She wants to stay with me, but asked if she could "take a lover" every once in a while. I am thinking that I have to agree to keep her, but I am scared she will leave me if she has a real man. Your thoughts?