Me and my dog barely got out

My husband and I separated in June of this year. Since then, he's made absolutely no effort to file the paperwork. I don't know if it's because he's just incredibly lazy or because he's not sure about filing. Yesterday, I told him that I needed him to file the paperwork so that I could move on with my life. I feel like still being legally married gives me hope that we are going to be able to work things out. He told me that it's a process that I need to work through and that I shouldn't need a divorce to move on with my life. What are your thoughts?

Just curious. I'm an aromantic asexual, so I'm not looking for love (except from puppies). Here is the scenario, taking place in the future because I'm only 18: I pretend to love a rich man even though I don't, because I can't, and he loves me back. We get married. After I pay off some of my student loans, go travelling, buy loads of puppies, or whatever, I divorce. I make it real- feigning a fading love for him, and then divorce because I 'no longer love him'. Again, I'm an asexual, so there's no sex involved whatsoever, we don't have kids, I let him know beforehand that we wouldn't have sex, etc etc. Also, I would put a lot of effort into this. I would really have him believe that I loved him and make his time worthwhile, such as doing things for him like all lovers would do. To the outside world we would appear like any loving couple, except only I would know what was to transpire. And then, I would cut things off and divorce. I think this would be okay because: 1) I would give him the time of his life 2) I get money and financial security 3) More than half of marriages end in divorce anyway, so this would look like any other marriage fiasco. OTHER THAN the fact that I plan to break it off with him so this love would never get anywhere, can you provide any other reasons why this would not be okay? Because, worse things have happened. I realize that not all people who marry rich walk away with a lot of money after the divorce, but I still would have money. Just to let you know I grew up very poor. Lived the first, like, 3 years of my life in shelters, cars, and basements with my family. Barely survived that, and grew up below the poverty line since. I'm very cautious and afraid when it comes to money, even having panic attacks over it. I made myself get 5 jobs at once just to get as much money as possible. All I ever want is to be financially secure and, if possible, see the world. This is not an excuse, just a background on myself. Also, I'm actually aromantic and asexual. This isn't a phase or an excuse or whatever, so please respect that. Yes, we exist... Also, even though I consider myself a feminist and aspire to be in the FBI one day and make good money with a good job that I love, I'm still afraid it won't be enough. It's called anxiety. So, yes, while I do plan on being productive in society and make my own money, I'm still scared. I just want to be financially stable, guys, okay?! Just to let you know, again, the person I would be marrying would be asexual as well (duh), because sexual guys would want sex. Either that, or I allow him to have sex with other women, just not myself. And I don't want to marry an old rich guy or else it will be too obvious. Oh, and don't ask if I would like it if someone did that to me. That doesn't answer the question. And yes, I know what an asexual/aromantic person is. Stop being rude by questioning it. Please, stop. One more thing (maybe): the partner would NEVER know. I would make SURE of it. He would be completely oblivious to my deception forever, because I would never reveal my intentions to anyone. So he won't be too butt hurt about everything. Also, please don't say things like 'what if you fall in love with him though', because, as stated, I am actually aromantic. So, this would never be happening. PLEASE RESPECT THIS THANK YOU :) Another update: An example of how scared I am when it comes to money is the fact that I just spent 4 dollars on myself today and had a panic attack. So, excuse me IF I WANT REASSURANCE WHEN I'M OLDER. IT'S ALL I ASK FOR- FINANCIAL REASSURANCE/SECURITY. It's not like I can 'love' like you guys...

I know this sounds rather obvious, however if a marriage worked with the first child, why not the next? Also, if the first child wasn't abused, nor the other siblings in the household, why is one child targeted? This question has haunted me my entire life. Bonus question: In the case that the abuser is narcissistic, and twists and turns everything the child says and does, causing the children's friends and the families of their friends believe the mother, what course of action should the abused child take? They feel as if even though they are out of the abusive parent's household, the abuser still has total control over their life. It seems as if the abuser can destroy everything the child loves. What to do/ think?

2 months ago this guy who I've liked since 9th grade started talking to me . we had been talking everyday up until recently. Friday we went to a party together , and after the party we went to his friends . he took me to this room , so we could make out but it lead to other things and I let him take my virginity. After he took me home. The next day he wouldn't reply to my texts I thought he was busy because he works some weekends. So I just waited till Monday to see him at school. When I saw him be was around his friends but I didn't care I wanted to say Hi. He basically turned around and said hi and continue talking to his friends . I asked him to texted me later and he didn't say anything . all night I waited for a text then I text him , he read it no reply . I was upset . today I saw him and with his friends again and I asked if we could talk he said no leave me alone . I just said OK and went to the bathroom and cried . I feel used and I don't wanna look at him anymore. Advice on how to deal with this. I'm 18 BTW in senior year

Hi, I married to a man with an american citizenship about 6months ago. I was getting the green card support from this man (husband). He kept on telling me that our marriage was a mistake and told me that he doesnt love me anymore and that I am not a good wife and told me that he wants to get divorced over and over. Because of this.. I fell in love with another person who listened and supported me while I was verbally abused from my husband. Hi, I married to a man with an american citizenship about 6months ago. I was getting the green card support from this man (husband). He kept on telling me that our marriage was a mistake and told me that he doesnt love me anymore and that I am not a good wife and told me that he wants to get divorced over and over even I was trying so hard. Because of this.. I fell in love with another person who listened and supported me while I was verbally abused from my husband. We are in the process of getting our divorce and I already left my husband and moved in with the person that I wish to be with. I am not proud of what I am doing now, but I really want to stay in this country. Do you think I quality for VAWA by the abusive words stated above? I did not go to a counselor or a doctor for this, but I am still hurt, and I am thinking about going to a doctor or counselor if that will support my case. Please let me know of your thoughts about this. I am still shocked and a little confused but I really want to stay in this country.

My girlfriend had a break down and started getting paranoid to the fact that she had first seen her father in 3 years, after she had left with her mom. And she's been telling me that he can still gain some sort of legal custody over her, but I would think other wise if he's had a criminal history especially if he has done drugs. Do you think he can still gain custody over her? I don't know what to tell my girlfriend to calm her down.

So I just got him to calm down about my parents fighting and now they told me they're divorcing and idk how to tell my little bro . Also thank you to the people that wandered my other question .

I have this feeling, this gut feeling that my wife wants to ruin my dreams of being a voice actor and touring musician by making it known to everyone on my Facebook page that I am becoming a dad. ? I told my voice over coaches about me having some marital troubles and feel like since they most l likely are able to see this information my wife has openly spoken of that its going to ruin my dreams . Should I be worried? am I wrong for feeling this way ? I still want out of this marriage and a career that I WANT . not the LIFE that she wants FOR ME

Not sure how but I know we both trying to make our marriage better and stronger. And maybe even built again. We love each other very much. But there has been stresses and hurt. A lots of it. And I don t know how to deal with it and move forward without coming back to it... and I get how my husband is so tired of trying and not moving anywhere. Even when he does something nice a lot of times I m not happy about how he did it and we argue a lot. It s so sad cause that s not what I want at all but somehow I feel like there was a better way... I think I m dealing with a lot of lack of affection for past 3yrs (married 7yrs) and my husband tries but most of the time slips back into the comfort zone and I grew tired of always being the one affectionate, planning romantic things, doing them and inviting myself on a date etc. I dont feel like a woman anymore. Also a lot of times when I do I met with rejection (I m tired, I need to sleep etc). I m really not sure what to do. I m so hurt when he behaves so cold and not as a man I need him to be and when there s a glimpse of doing so I will find something wrong with it. Like I hate how special that feels sometimes. He can touch me and I will have goosebumps and feel like and idiot and hate him notice that.

What traits and attributes are you looking for?

wife has had sex with husband's girlfriend many times to please him . is she considered homosexual?

Almost two and a half years ago I met a guy from Jordan at my college, and a few months later we got married, yes it was rather fast and we had nothing but our friendship, and a little money. But we wanted to support each other through the rest of our days in college. It was hard at first but we are beginning to understand each others culture more and more. We do love each other and want more with each other. We had a very hard time at first because we were not financially stable enough to start a family, and we had a lot of work to do, but he has wanted children with me now and asks about it, but the deal was we needed to build our marriage, understand each other, and we need to be making our own money. We are now working and making our own money. I don't know why people pass judgement on us so much, yes I know where he is from, but he's just a person like me and we were students when we met. Its a challenging marriage, but its unique, We actually want to have a child in the near future.

My husband's parents put him through school for 4 years. They paid for his apartment, car, books, some tuition probably was $47000. My husband and I have helped them out also for the past few years. We have given probably $5000 total. Last year we gave his dad $2000 because he said it was to help his mom generate money starting herself a business in another country..that plan didn't work so the money was a waste who knows if he played with that money and lied. His dad is retired on a fixed retirement income. His mom is still young enough to work she's 54 but she quit her job to travel with his dad going back and forth overseas and back to America 6 months at a time. When they need money they just call him asking for $200 at a time or more. They don't even call to say hi. I know some parents that put their kids through school but don't ask their kid for money like this. Is this normal? Should I say something or let it be. We make OK money but not rich.

how to get rid of a irrevocable trust 4 years ago. im getting married and need out of it

My husband of 5 years is texting and occasionally calling (only 1 min calls) ESCORTS. Local escorts from wherever he is, he travels out of state a lot. He's loving, caring, good as gold husband (at least the side of him that I know) and we don't have any issues in our marriage. Could he just be texting/MMSing with them kind of like a porn substitute, or is he definitely seeing them? Need men's opinion. Thank you.

"Maiden name" is such a gendered word, and of course the vast majority of people who change their names when they get married are women, but if a gay man wants to change his name to his husband's for instance, what would he call his old name? I can name one off the top of my head (albeit a celebrity) - Jack White took his wife's last name.

I have been in a relationship for the past three years with my boyfriend we are pretty young our relationship was rocky but now it hasn't been for the past five months my boyfriend is 20 and I'm 20 we have a 2 week old child together and we have been living together since we were 18 our relationship was rocky I will admit. but I recently Tried to talk to him about marriage.. He got mad and said he was uncomfortable he says he's in love but don't think we should rush into marriage because of our past which I agree but it makes no sense because we act like we are married we live like we are married...but yet he says that its rushing???? I don't understand why are men so afraid...

He is 19 now.

We have an agreement in writing of his financial monthly contribution to me and the kids already. He do his part. We don't want to divorce because we are trying to figure things out right out. However,I need a legal separation because of other personal demands that require us too.

Like to do certain chores around the home? Are some of you just naturally lazy and honest-to-goodness don't mind that your wife has to ask you all the time to do certain things? My husband is an only child, and his mother did the vast majority of everything around the house, though he would do something when asked, but never really takes initiative to just DO IT. He says that he DOES NOT MIND it at all when I ask things of him, but I do feel like I nag him all the time to do things. Do you feel like your wife nags you, or you don't mind the chores being dictated by her? How can I stop feeling like a nag when I ask things of him? I'm the type to see what needs to be done and do it. He can look at the full trash for days and not be bothered to take it out unless I say something...just curious. To clarify, I do ask nicely. I will say, "Dear, can you please take out the trash and clean out the litter box?" And he does, but I feel like I ask so much sometimes, but I need help! Also, we live in an apartment, so there's no outdoor work or division of "men labor vs. women labor." @ real estate: good point. Sometimes, no, he doesn't remember to do things for himself or things that are important to him, really. @ Dave: Yes, a few times. And he gets a little better, but like you, he said he doesn't mind the kind reminders. Thanks for all the input so far :)

I come from a South Asian Muslim country..I got married a year ago.He then left me to take care of his sick mom and went to work in Gulf promising me to bring me there after she gets well..Her mom is a typical Muslim Mother-in-law..She dominates me,berates me,she puts false complaints to his son and he then scolds me as he think his mom is a saint..I beg him to come back but he says he needs to earn for his mom's medical expenses and our future..He also doesnt want to hire a nurse and bring him there..I'm stuck..I cant leave due to my society and religious situation where I will be looked as an ungrateful woman who left a sick woman and divorcees here only get remarried to old men looking for young girls..Also I have not gone to college and my country isnt that women friendly in non technical jobs.. This person is a widower living alone..He is always there for me..He keeps me sane when my MIL tortures me..He didnt try to take advantage of me using my vulnerable situation.. I've fallen in love with him and he too knows it but doesnt stop me which means he too likes me.. But I cant be with him..He's more than double my age and our lives are in danger if anyone learns about it..thats how things are in my country.. Leaving my husband is a appalling but for an old man will create so many problems and this will also make me look like a woman who had sexual affair when her man is not around... I feel so depressed when I think of future at times..

I'm an undergrad student who has a research paper on the topic of marriage due shortly, and I haven't yet done my interviews for it. Please help! Part I: Describe each couple. How long have they been a couple? How long have they been married? How old are they? What do they do for a living? Do they have children? If so, what ages? What is your relationship to the couple (i.e., are they your parents, siblings, best friends)? Part II: What initially attracted you to your partner? Has your attraction to your partner changed over time (e.g., from a physical attraction to a mental/emotional attraction)? Describe your courtship. Who asked out who? How often did you see one another during the initial stages of dating? How soon into the relationship were you exclusive (i.e., you decided only to date one another)? What expectations about marriage roles did you bring into your marriage? What did you expect out of a wife/husband? How did you decide who was going to do what in the household (e.g., cook, cut grass)? Describe your communication patterns. How do you bring up important issues? What are your views on conflict? What are the best ways to communicate with your partner? (If applicable) How has your marriage been impacted by children and parenthood? What are your views about divorce? What do you wish you would have known when you got married? If you were doing it all over again, would you do anything differently? What do you think are the guidelines for a successful marriage?

My husband has used an attorney for years for his business (100% in his name) and we are in the process of setting up trusts. Do I need to ask the attorney if he is "fiducially" working on behalf of my husband and/or his company or is he working for "us". Wanting to ensure I'm getting fair representation as well.

I'm specifically talking about 5 other family members. They are on FB all day posting other things and liking even other extended family members gf's posts. I know this seems like a stupid question, but I just don't get it. I don't do this to them. Just looking for broad reasons i may not be thinking of so i can move on from this silly BS. I'm taking it as though i'm irrelevant to them, in other words, i'm NOT family and never will be.

What happens during a divorce? Is it worth it? (I am a man asking this, btw)

Friends, me & my wife separated and she is pregnant now so i have sent a visitation notice to her through lawyer and she is saying that she will not allow me to have visitation and she says that i will torture her and her kid after born which is not true... she is just trying blame on me that i will make her more stress etc.... how do i handle this ......

My husband and I alternate nights cooking. One night he prepares the meal and the next night I do. When it's my night to cook he's already thinking about what he's cooking the next night. He'll check the freezer in the morning of his day and take something out to thaw. When it's my day to cook I won't think about dinner until I'm on my way home from work. My husband gets on me all the time about doing that. Well, Sunday was his day and instead of cooking his normal Sunday meal he just threw some burgers and dogs on the grill. Homemade burgers he mixed, seasoned, and cooked himself and he did bacon wrapped dogs too. Good meal. Last night was my night so instead of cooking I just pulled out the extra burgers and dogs from the fridge and let everyone warm up what they wanted. He feels that's technically not me cooking but just piggybacking off his night. I feel that since he didn't have to prepare anything that counted as my night so he should now prepare tonight's meal. What do you think?

I'm not planning to do either, nor have I ever had any of them done to me, but I just wanted to hear people's opinions on which would be more evil? One of the actions is selfish, but some people say that what you don't know won't hurt you. On the other hand, lying that you've cheated is intentionally hurting your partner and manipulating the person to try to get the response you want. Personally, I think that cheating then keeping it secret is slightly more evil, but the other one isn't far behind. I think that the latter can arise in a situation where the liar wants to end the relationship with a person who is very attached, or want to have an excuse to break up, but do not have the guts to cheat while still with someone.

I get angry with my husband over literally nothing. When he's being nice to me, I'll get upset. Like the other night, we were at Jack in the Box, and I wanted a water. I assumed it was free since McDonald's has free water. They ended up charging us for it. Before we pulled up, I told him to ask her about it, but she ended up saying the price before we could ask so he pulled up anyways. And she had already had it made when we got up there, so my husband took it. And I got mad at him. He didn't even care that he had to pay. He loves me and wanted me to have it. And I got mad at him because we had to pay. I got mad at my husband for doing me an act of kindness and love. Why?? I used to never get angry with him. Whenever he'd upset me, I would get sad and almost cry. Just be hurt. Never angry. But now, ever since we got married, I treat him like crap and I don't know why. This is not the real me. I always do this to the people I love. I push and push until they end up living. Only then does it make me stop. Like I have to test their limits and play around with it. When it's not a game at all. I can not lose my husband. And he doesn't deserve it. He forgives me every time. And I don't deserve him. But he loves me anyways...why do I get mad at him? He is the best man I could ever ask for..and I just act like he's dirt. Last night, I slapped him for the first time since we met. How can I stop myself before I do this again? I feel awful.

My wife is very professional and is not into the fighting thing. She had grown very upset though over my financial responsibilities and some habits around the house. I made a deal with her that she could penalize me for certain things after she became very mad. I didn't even think about it a lot and what it meant. That is until she made me cancel my plans for an outing to watch football. She also is scheduling a day that I have to work around the house all afternoon. I did spend a good amount over our budget and I understand. But this feels embarrassing and I want to refuse. I rationalize I shouldn't be what effectively amounts to being punished by my wife! But I would have to deal with her over refusing and she's smart. I feel silly to have agreed and she wasn't playing I guess.

my husbands mom comes over uninvited an stays for days sometimes a week, while she's there we constantly have to watch her cause she goes through everything taking things she "thinks" are hers ( they never are), she bad mouths my husbands friends, bad mouths him, turns our lives upside down, he will put up with it for days and ask her nicely to please leave but she won't till he has had enough and yells at her to leave then he is the disrespectful one, the low life, everything up down and all around, even then she will hang around till he practically has to throw her out then she will come back a few days later and start all over again, it's my home, he moved in with me, I want to ban her from comming over unless she is invited but being that she's his mom I don't want to over step my bounds between mother and son, what would you other wives do?

Ever since she started to earn really good money in her real estate job and paid for deposits on a couple of properties, she chosen to look down on me. She says things like shw doesn't want to share with me what's going on in her life. She acts like my power is low to non existent. Posts on her social media that she is lonely. Asks friends for advice on what to wear after asking me. Straight out told me again today that she needs a man and not a woman. Needs a man to earn at least 100k or more a year to get on par with her. She leeps saying that until my pay is higher, she doesn't want to do anything with me except work in her company. I feel like I am being punished and that one day we will divorce. My pay is low. I work full time and I'm looking for nursing work. What to do about her disrespect?

What are your thoughts on two people from two different races dating or getting married?

I have a cousin who did that and she and her hubby have been married for 5 years and still going strong. They now have a two year old son and a second child on the way. So what's the huge issue here? I am open to opposing opinions but please be polite about them and don't jump on other people's backs for having a different view on the matter than you. No one is always right.

and did you manage to get over it? How? :(

What do people think about divorced people?