What is your opinion on consensual voyeurism? Referring to couples watching other couples or porn. For the religious people, I know it is considered a sin, but that is not what I am asking, what do you think of it in the act and effect? If you believe it is wrong then please tell why..., thank you all. Excuse the typo please, I meant poll.

This Sunday, me and my mother decided to get my dad a puppy for Christmas. There is an adorable papillon puppy that we put a deposit on to hold it for us until she's 8 weeks old. My dad obviously, having it going to be a surprise, doesn't know about it. The papillon is only 6 weeks old so we have to of course wait 2 weeks before we can get her. The day after we put the deposit on her, my dad started texting me and my mom pictures of this Brittany spaniel he wants. Me and my mom said no because we don't want to end up with two dogs. He said that he's going to get it anyways because he really wants it (my dad is so stubborn). Of course he hasn't made a purchase on the puppy yet but we need to somehow get his mind off the Brittany spaniel until we surprise him with the papillon (that's two weeks). Please help!!

If my puppy is suffering from something serious, and I have absolutely no money, what are my immediate options? I have plenty of money right now, so it's not an issue, just plain curiosity.

So i met this guy.. his instagram seem to be full of pics of him clubbing with girls, alcohol, bottle service etc. Does it mean this guy can't be trusted? I'm not a party animal at all, i'm a nerdy type of girl; can sense sth's not right but the guy's a looker

I'm going to say some pretty harsh things in this question, but you have to look at my question history to understand why. So please forgive me and don't pull any SJW bull crap on me for stoning her and her bullcrap competitive behavior. When I met my wife in 2001, she was a shy, quiet, gentle, loving, tender, sensitive, cooperative, and vulnerable woman. I loved all of this. It screamed femininity and it reaffirmed what I wanted to believe about myself. Sure, she was 20, and she secretly was being emotionally abused by her mother and verbally abused by her father, but as far as I could tell she was just a very feminine woman looking for a decent man after a bad 2 year relationship with a man who turned out to be a stalker (how she addresses him even today). We didn't marry until 2004 but we remained engaged and tethered to each other by living together for those 3 years (as well as gave birth to a child). But during those first 3 years, my wife didn't show any signs of competitive behavior. She was actually too drained from working, raising our son, and cleaning to compete. But in 2005, strange things happened. A power struggle emerged and she was now competing with women on myspace for "best mom" (never best wife though). Then Facebook emerged and now she compares herself there... She's constantly competing to "be the best"; we can't play competitive video games because she takes it too seriously. I honestly have no idea how to channel this energy away from me... As a kid, my wife wasn't competitive at all. She did dance, basketball (and sucked apparently), bell choir, 4H, and a bunch of other activities; but she never showed signs of being competitive. The only competition that I knew of was sibling rivalry. She wanted to be more righteous than her ADHD brother who was always in trouble and she couldn't compete with her more fashionable sister so she overcompensated by being the smarter one by a long shot. Should this have been a red flag? P.S. I didn't know about her family until after marriage in 2004. She didn't talk about any of that. It was a sore subject for her. She didn't want me to know too much. I didn't even get to know about the 2 year bad relationship until 2006 or 7. There was always a cloud of mystery around her. Even today, I don't think I know much about her. But the things she showed to me, I loved about her; until she took it all away and I realized it was an act to bait me in.

And if so, why have you regretted it?

He has been married and has a 17 year old daughter with his first wife

My husband and I have been together for 3 years and we're pregnant with my first child and his 5th child. He's a older than me, obviously and his boys are 20, 17, 15 and his daughter 19. We told all his children one day together and everyone was ok except his daughter. The first and only thing out of her mouth was - that's not my brother! And I thought you weren't going to have more kids! Any who time has passed and she only visits from time to time, but every time she comes over she becomes more rude - doesn't say hi when she gets there, says comments under her breath, etc. I had a talk with my husband about it, but it still makes me uncomfortable when she comes over because I'm afraid of a confrontation one day. I don't know how to deal with this especially with a baby on way. Like I told my husband, I understand maybe this is not what she expected or wanted, but we don't judge or say anything about her personal life and she's not a child anymore she's 19 yrs old. There's no need for the attitude and I really don't need it, especially on the holidays when I want to be home relaxing. I don't know... Maybe I'm just venting, but she came over yesterday and I'm really tired of it. I know I'm the adult so I keep to myself and don't say much to my husband on the subject because I know its touchy.... Any thoughts on how to better handle. I know keeping quiet is fixing anything.

My fiancee is Air Force, and he is home on leave, and our four year anniversary is tomorrow. With everything going on we didn't have time to plan anything, but I want to do something nice for him to remind him how special he is to me. I want to have fun with it. Every year we just go to dinner and a movie, but this time I want it to be something he will remember when we are apart. He is the mushy lovey type, he always brings home silly cards with sweet notes written in them for me, that type of thing. Any ideas would be awesome! Thanks!

Do you think when someone has trouble making a decision it s because they don t want to choose the choice they know is probably right? What do you do? Choose the thing you don t really want out the thing you maybe.shouldn t and hope for the best?

What creates these dynamics in the first place? And why is it that SOME people on here think it's a piece of cake to go from dom/sub to love/respect? If one person doesn't want it based on that, then you STAY dom/sub.... So why even offer that advice? Why not just help people in their chaotic power struggle with their difficult person?

On the outside it seems like I have a great life; I have a beautiful fiance, a beautiful daughter, a good career and a nice home. But I'm not as happy as I should be. I'm 23 and my she is 7 years older and we've been together for over 3 years already and most of the time it has been great. We're engaged, have started a family and she's loving towards me most of the time... but not always. She dominates and dictates my life and she can be really abusive at times. Nobody would believe a petite blonde can be violent but it happens. She controls many things and is too passionate at times. Maybe I am responsible in some way.I believe this is just a temporary problem but it hasn't been easy. Maybe relationship counciling would help?

I have asked him to make other arrangements for our daughter because he isn't staying there. We co-parent and he has her during school because I moved 1200 miles away for my husband's job and I have her all summer long and one week out of every month when I visit, holidays, spring break, etc. He told me that our daughter is staying with his ex and that it's HIS decision. What the heck are my rights here??? I'm LIVID!!! He's claiming she's "babysitting" for him, but, he doesn't have another address & has been staying w/parents. All my daughter's things are there w/step-mom & she is SLEEPING there, eating there, everything. My daughter told me she slept at "home" last night. I asked him to make other arrangements, he told me "NO." Ppwk doesn't address any issues with staying with third parties, it says he is residential parent for school purposes & we co-parent & neither one of us are superior to the other. Let me give you some history: The step-mom takes my mothers day gifts&throws them away, never gives them to me. Gets mad at my daughter if she tries to give me a mothers day gift. Cut my daughters hair when both my daughter & I didn't want it cut (several times, shoulder length when she wanted it long). She got mad when I traveled 1200 miles to be at her school party because the teacher told her she couldn't go and that I could, so she picked her up early from school so she left party early. History continued: The step-mom wouldn't let me get my daughter ready for one of her dance recitals when she had two of them and was in my custody for parenting-time during that time. She's spanked my daughter after telling her it's not her place and tried to have me arrested for telling her the same, but, the cop laughed about it because I wasn't threatening her like she claimed and he read the texts. She makes my daughter feel like she can't talk to me on the phone and scared of what to say. The list goes on and on with all the things the step-mom has done. I'm a stay-at-home mom of 5 other children. My husband has a great job and we just purchased a 5 bedroom home. I'm the one who agreed on this custody arrangement so our daughter could be close to family, I put my feeling aside for hers as any good parent would. I've regretted it since the day I did it because of all the things she has put me and my daughter through. The step-mom also accused me of burning my daughter with a cigarette butt, I don't smoke. She burnt the top of her foot with a sparkler when she dropped it. She tried to say that my daughter's eye was black after calling me & starting a conversation with me saying that her eye looked red and asked if she was allergic to anything. I told her maybe the dog because I didn't have any pets. Then she changed her story and said it looked black, not red. She also did the same things to his sons mom

If you're a regular here on M&D in the last month, you know my struggle; I believe in being a team, my wife holds my "balls" in her hand through coercion, and she is a TERRIBLE matriarch (she only looks out for her best interests, just like her Mom did). My wife is not afraid to go "all in" to get her way. She will put EVERYTHING on the line so she doesn't have to lose an argument; this includes threatening divorce, threatening to make my life hell, or threatening to take the things I enjoy away. She also knows that if anything WERE to happen she has the support of the police force (I fear that men are more punished for any domestic disputes than women due to sexist beliefs) to be a higher authority to "put me in my place". And if we were to divorce, she would get all the money, full custody of the kids (I fear that men don't win enough cases to justify me having them - especially with me carrying mental health labels and her avoiding a diagnosis), and since I love her more than she loves me I would have a deeply broken heart. So there's a LOT for me to lose. When I explained it to her, I called this a "level 100 weapon" against me (we're geeks - just go with it). I don't believe in power struggles. I never have. I shouldn't have to, honestly. And just like I've said, I value logic and reasoning. When I enter a power struggle, I have NOTHING at my disposal to upstage her. My weapon is level 50 (at best). I'm not a risk taker like that, because what if she calls my bluff? IMPORTANT INFORMATION --- She hasn't done this coercion recently because I haven't given her many reasons to do it. After all, it only takes one time peeing on an electric fence to know you don't do that! Now I'm mentally EXACTLY where she wants me (have been for 10 years), but this is NOT where I want to be. I lack self esteem, values, confidence, power, and dignity; I have no idea how to gain these things in my current situation... There's always been a suggestion to "call her bluff" because they are "empty threats", but in my experience with my Mother they aren't bluffs... My Mom threatened that she created me so she can kill me; which was true until recent child laws. My Mom also threatened to take things away (constantly) and when I challenged her (because she was being unreasonable) she did just that. My life WAS hell. I stayed in my room for an entire summer break and only left for dinner as a family...

My wife and I use to fight a lot about money,but this last year things have been better. We're making budgets and are doing good.I use to have 3 credit cards, but now I have 2.I know plans change, but we have been planning to pay this one off and cut it up for over a yr. Its been up to 2500, down to under 500, back up to 2300, than down to under 1000, and now it is creeping up to 1700 again. I recently deployed and started a savings where in a few weeks we will be getting 4000. If we paid the card we would be ok and not need to charge.I've done the math and shown her. She doesn't like it, then it's a no. Mind you we have $25.00 in our savings because I let her control our budgets bc she was mad how I don't trust her. Well I gave her over a year and it hasn't worked. when I was leading we had 3000 savings. I feel if I don't pay it off now, who knows when. I know she would be upset and resent me for doing so, but what do you guys think? I told her we could use that for school, but just like she told me the same countless times,then the plans changed. By the way we live 4 hours away bc she hates the town I'm stationed in and lives with family. I know how bad that sounds, but honestly besides that our relationship is pretty solid. We pay 2 rents. Should I feel bad about paying? Because we need $7000 for first semester of her school anyway, and with that extra $4000 would only be at about $6000, and I'm sure there's payment plans that she has yet to look into. Thanks again!

How do you forgive your spouse after she has deliberately denied you sex for almost 2 months just to show that she can control you. We are both in our 30's for those asking of age

I'm 24 y.old and i feel like this my only chance. No-one guy has ever liked me in my whole life, asked me out or... even kissed me. I'm seriously so hideous and unattractive that i have no other chance

Scenario: When Johnny met Carol, she had two children (son, age 7 & daughter, age 5) from previous relationships. After three years of dating, they were married and seemed to be "content" for the most part. Johnny always expressed to Carol that he loved her kids as his own, but he desired to have a child of their own. Carol was initially reluctant claiming that she wanted them to be better financially secure before having another baby. Unfortunately, more problems developed between Johnny and Carol which caused them to separate after two years of marriage. During the separation, Carol was dating another man (Steve) for nearly seven months and became pregnant with his baby. Johnny was obviously devastated with the pregnancy of his wife and another man. However, he was willing to stay with Carol raise the unborn child as his own and resolve their marital issues. Carol had another daughter and moved back into the marital home with Johnny. After two and a half years, when Johnny once again expressed to Carol his desire to have his own child with her, then she blatantly refused claiming that "they had enough kids" already. Johnny was furious and disappointed. He asked Carol why would she have children with other men, but not with her husband. She remained quiet and said, "I don't know." Why would a wife do this? Thanks for your response.

I've been married to my husband for two years, and before he joined the military everything was fine, but since we've moved overseas I get between 45 minutes to an hour of his time a day. He will come home to dinner already made for him, the house tidied up, our dog played with and me asking him for nothing more than some time together but as soon as he finishes his food he's on the video game. Even if I haven't finished yet. I am pretty, I'm super funny! I don't understand why he doesn't want to spend any time with me. I struggle with mild depression and I don't have any friends here so I'm really struggling. He says he understands what I'm feeling, but he needs time to decompress. I understand that but he spends 2 1/2 hours on the video game and one with me. I don't know what to do. And to make matters worse my ex from six years ago has been chatting with me. I'm over 3000 miles from home so it's not like we've met up or anything, but he texts me, my husband never texts me. He makes me feel good to have someone talk to me. I don't want to feel guilty for talking to somebody because I don't get to talk to anybody all day. I'm so lonely out here, I love my husband but the less he wants to spend time with me the more I just want to talk to my ex instead. What am I supposed to do?

I am not enjoying my marriage anymore. I am married to a very attractive man. I do desire him sexually. He ignors me. I have even asked for sex straight out, tried initiating. He told me he finds me borng. I have a 3 month old. I am busy with her. My friends do call. I even went back to work. My job and friends bore him too. All my conversations seems to bore him and I dont do much right at home. I do love him, and want my baby to have both parents. But the lack of attention is annoying me to the max. I want to be appreciated. Help.

Who comes first to a man his wife or his mother? My husband and I got life insurance the other day and when they asked him who he wanted to put in case he died or anything he chose his parents before me. I felt some type of way... Idk maybe it's just me but what do you guys think? I understand from both perspectives but there's some things that have happend & make me even wonder why he's with me in the first place. I'm not a gold digger of that's what you guys might think because I felt some type of way for him putting his parents first. I'm a full time student and have a job. I have my own bills. I'm very independent if you ask me. I just feel like he never puts me first when it comes to his family in general mostly his mother... Just want to see what other people think.

I want to break up with my fiancee and need advice on the best way to do it. We've been together since our senior year of high school (almost 5 years) and live together. At the time we got engaged I thought she was the one, she was smart, funny, and just fun to be around. But now she's completely different. She dropped out of college to "take time for herself" a year ago and hasnt gone back since. Around that time she began to get a wild streak in her and began partying again, even when I'm not able to go out with her. I work and go to school full time and she doesnt try to make time for me when I'm free. So with all this I've decided to end this. I cant see myself keeping this up for another year, let alone the rest of my life. We live together in a house her father owns so I'm going to have to move out soon, but how should I break up with her? At this point I'd want to just say "I want to break up" and leave it at that but I know I owe her more. How should I do it?

My husband is very cruel to me he often name calls and things that are hurtful during fights but besides calling me a b-itch half the time today he was on a new scale of cruel I've struggled with hearing my entire life it effected me in school I didn't learn anything I've been tested I am at a solid 5th grade level of solid education and they said that's pushing it. When I was younger I got scarlet fever it almost blew my heart and I had scar tissue inside my ears it causes a high pitched ring and a sharp ache inside my ears sometimes I get no pulse of sound other times I get a vibration of sound and I'm aware someone is speaking I just have no clue what they are saying I am great at reading lips a perfected skill you come adapt to learning if people don't face me I mostly just say yeah mhm I see common answers and head nods my husband when we were dating he was so kind I was embarrassed of my problems and I shared them with him he acted interested learned some ASL signs he talked to my face he was just so genuine. After we were married it slowly slipped his mind after he ruined our marriage by cheating he became cruel and uncaring today we got into a spat I asked him to call a service company because we needed something he doesn't do it as usual and tells me to do it! I've been embarrassed on the phone before by people at his work they told him I called and I obviously made no sense because I don't know what is going on , on the other end of the line. He told me put hearing aids in which I don't have anymore and can't afford the 3,000 for new ones it's been on the "to do" list after I commented we couldn't afford it (this fight was in text) he then goes ahead and mocks me by just saying I'm lazy with selective hearing and it hurt me so much. What should I do sometimes I wonder if I should bother anymore clearly he thinks I'm some joke not worth his time for simple things.. He doesn't use ASL anymore I have to read him he often doesn't speak to my face it hurts when he's telling me about his day and half the time I get parts then I don't and it's just constant this way I feel alone because the man I'm with no longer cares about me anymore. Sometimes he remembers to face me but when it's good for him nothing more, but now I know what he truly thinks he thinks I'm a joke and I'm not sure how to take it. I felt alone before but honestly I think I'm dead to him He even does things that endanger my life, because of the scarlet fever I have a long history of seizures. They started because of the fever and continued on after. I have light sensitivity where I need to shut my eyes to adjust to light changes tonight because of the fight he comes in the room and just shuts the light off he does this every time he's angry at me he risks my safety because he likes to make the point I have no control in him or what he does. I feel like he wishes me dead He wishes I would just have a seizure that would put me out and leave him with no more me he often tells me it's over when he's out of the house but then changes his mind when he's home because he needs something from me.. I feel like a tool and probably am better off gone I hate myself for ever being with him but at the same time love him so I don't know what to do I've given him a chance to change but I honestly think he is waiting for me to just up and die because that would do him favors

My ex husband and I were married for 5 years. We got divorced 4 years ago. He has dated while we were separated and again after we got divorced. Whenever he is in a relationship, the gf messages me harassing me and telling me to have no contact with him. We have a 6 and 4 year old. We talk or text just about every day. He says that gfs have left him because of me, but I have never once said a single word to any of his gfs. Every time we see each other, at the very least he tries to get a full on kiss. What can be going on in his head?

I'm not necessarily talking about searing lingere. What is you wear something specifically for his benefit. For example you are having a date night so you wear a special bra and panties which you expect him to enjoy later. Or you're going to a party and wear a dress which you specifically picked out for his enjoyment. Also, what specific kinds of situations do you do this? And what types of clothing do you put that kind of though in to. The reason I'm asking is because I know this becomes less common in a relationship vs when you' are just dating. But I'm curious to know how often you actually do so.

I have a friend who recently lost her husband and she had a Go Fund Me Page and kept updating his condition. She put really sad pic of her spouse who was losing his cancer fight. She put sad sob stories on the Go Fund me website, and people contributed more than $65k. She even went as far as to say she needed money. She is still piping in ever few days, but I have noticed the Go Fund me page is no longer there. She is now traveling the world, taking pics of things she is doing all over the world. Drinking wine, and going to famous places. Seems like she is spending her money on a major world vacation. I feel like she scammed people who were feeling sorry. Any thoughts? He was once a very handsome vibrant, healthy, handsome guy. She used his pics to gain sympathy, so more money would be coming. I also know one guy who is a laid off, who contributed to her Go Fund Me account could have spent money on things such as bills, or their own needs. To have her post pics of her world travels after she said she had no money, and she didn't know how she would pay her bills if he died, and then show up in Europe and post pics!!

Asking on behalf of a friend in a VERY tight spot. Her and her now sorry ex-husband have been officially divorced for 8 months, married 11 years, 5 kids between them. She was a homemaker and never worked during the marriage (wasn't granted alimony for the record). He makes/made 6 figures a year and was ordered to pay $2990 a month. He paid the first two months and then left the country. It took her about 2 weeks to figure it out. He stopped all contact with the children when they separated 2 years ago. He changed his number and she has no way of contacting him. His family has never liked her or the kids so they are no help. Don't even ask about his friends. She thinks he's in Germany because that's where the family is from, but he could be anywhere. She doesn't have money for a lawyer, she's barely able to provide for the kids ages 10 to 3. She was working 2 minimum wage jobs and was recently laid off from one and evicted from her apartment. Kids are staying with her parents in a tiny 2 bedroom house. She didn't get anything in the divorce; everything was in his name and she foolishly signed a pre-nup. Does she have any options?