Family: Question: Should I skip my mom's funeral for my 21st birthday party?

Question: Should I skip my mom's funeral for my 21st birthday party?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 11:12 AM PST

So my mom passed away on Sunday and the funeral is on Saturday. Unfortnately, it falls on the same say as my 21st birthday party. I officially turned 21 on Tuesday, but I wanted to celebrate it on Saturday. All of my friends are expected and I don't really want to postpone it because I will only turn 21 once. I am thinking of ditching my mom's funeral and go ahead with my fabulous 21st birthday. My family is mad at me because they think I'm being selfish. I told them that's what happens when you schedule a funeral on my 21st. They told me to wait until the following week, but I would be 21 for 11 days and that kind of takes away the excitement of turning 21. So what do you think should I blow off my mom's funeral for my 21st?

Question: I know how it feels not to have another side..Serious answers only plz..Thanks in advance ��?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 11:02 AM PST

I have had custody of my sisters only child since he came home from the hospital he is now 4...Me and my sister work together she lives with me and we help each other... NOW far as his other side I don't hear from any of them not at all....I have heard from dad a few times nothing consistent then he just stopped...His aunt came when he was born to bring a gift,and to tell me that if he need anything to call her...But I didn't hear from her no more till his next bday...And that is sort of the pattern I would only hear from her on his bday...No calls through out the year....No calls from the grand mom....These people are complete strangers.... Now What exactly is my part here... Because the aunt told me it goes both ways when I asked her why my nephew only hears from her once a year?? I am doing the hard part which was keep him out of the system....If they are not putting forth the effort to get to know him...Should I be calling them...I feel if they knows he exist the burden is on them...Once they have proven they want to be in his life....Then we can meet in the middle...But right now I don't see an effort...Am I doing something wrong..Did I miss something...

Question: Songs about a dead loved one?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 10:59 AM PST

My sister passed away a year ago, and in really missing her right now. She was more of a mother to me than my real mom when I needed her, and since she s been gone, I ve been very depressed. Are there any soft or slow songs I could listen to to help?

Question: Ideas for giving back for a passed away loved one?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 10:34 AM PST

Recently my father passed away and I would like to do something special in honor of his name. Something that would make my mom feel better too. Does anyone have ideas?

Question: My parents want me to be perfect or they want me to be myself and I can't bc to them I could be a better daughter?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 10:26 AM PST

My parents always put the blame on me it's never it was an accident or it wasn't my fault they never believe me I started cutting myself 4 months ago and they don't know they want me to have the perfect life but I can't ever do anything right. My parents are always to busy to do anything with me of if I'm doing something they ask me why I don't come spend time with them. I don't spend time with them bc they drive me crazy they want me to be the perfect daughter but I cant. I'm always doing something wrong or if it's right its try harder. They never understand me no matter how hard I try it never works they band me from everything. I'm homeschoold and they won't let me meet other teens. It's always to dangerous. I have to stay inside 24/7 and there's nothing to do. They don't like me going to church or hanging with my friends they'd rather have me all to there self. What should I do they never listen to me or I can never find a good time. When I do its always LATER. But they change there mind and act like I'm not even there. Please help me idk what to do anymore.

Question: Mother Problems - Help?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 10:26 AM PST

Well, to begin with I'm 14 years old. I live with my mother and brother. We also have a pet. Our financial situation is... dire, to say the least. This... emotional and verbal abuse started about 2 years ago, when my father committed suicide (don't say you're sorry, I don't give a damn about him anymore). I changed, and a lot of emotions piled up in me, and I never vent. Just never. My mother started being more controlling. She tried to control every single aspect of my life, from what and how I eat, to making choices for me and not allowing me to have an opinion on any matter. She gets furious over the most trivial matters. For example: I forget to put the plate in the sink. She starts yelling at me, swearing, calling me a disappointment and she says she's going to commit suicide aswell. To be frank, I don't give a ****. But it's in my best interests if she stays alive and with me. I do love her. I know not if she loves me. Not a single day passes without her yelling at me or my brother. She can also get emotional and start crying because I don't tell her about what's bothering me. How can she expect me to tell her what's bothering me, if her only answer will be: "I have my own problems"? If she doesn't answer like that she starts yelling and swearing. To be honest, I have no idea how I could put up with this for so long. This question is more of a way to vent, than a cry for help. I could deal with this my own way, but it's best if I don't. Anyway, I appreciate the help.

Question: Who do you think??

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 10:05 AM PST

If a boy and a girl were physically fistfighting, who do you think won the fight based on the end results: Girl-the one on top. Gave the boy a small bump on his head. Boy-the one on the bottom. Gave the girl a small bloody mouth from her braces. So who do you think won the fight based on the end results and explain why???

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 09:56 AM PST

My parents have been sheltering me my whole life. They've had 5 other kids and now they both work extremely hard to provide for us all. I'm home schooled and I also have to teach them Since My Parents Don't Trust Public schools. My little sister is autistic and yells and destroys things nonstop. I can't keep anything nice. I'm now 20 and I want to move out but I know nothing about the world. I want to start my life but I don't know how to begin. I'm so scared. My parent don't listen. I can't get my license, I can't have a phone. I get sickly and nervous around people because I barely get out. Only to church and the store. I know it's not going to be easy out there. I would be such a target. What the heck am I going to do? I can't do this anymore. Please pray for me. I feel pretty lonely right now.

Question: Two different holiday cards...?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 09:09 AM PST

So, my family just took our holiday photos to send out to family/friends. Currently in our home, my mother resides with us. We took several pictures... some with my mom, some solo, and others without her. The idea for the card was to place several of the different shots we took on the card. My wife, however, feels that it doesn't make sense to send a card that has my mother on it (along with me, her, and our child) to any of her family/friends who have never met her. So she would like us to make two different cards... 1) one with everybody, and 2) one with just "us" (husband, wife, daughter). My thoughts are that because my mother is apart of our household, that she should be included in our family photo. Am I wrong for thinking she's be rather ridiculous, or does she have a valid point? If anyone has had a similar experience (and possible solution to this dilemma), please share.

Question: Help!!! My divorced dad is getting a roommate?!?! Please answer!!!?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 09:09 AM PST

So my parents have been currently going through a really rough divorce and it's taken its toll on our entire family. There divorced is still being finnalized and my mom is so fed up with my dad that were moving and going to live with my mom, because of this my dad must get a roommate. We have no idea who this man is my dad literally found him in Craigslist.My dad has 30 percent custody of us so well be around this man a lot. I constantly ask my dad to do a background check but he won't and says I shouldn't worry. This has been another source of arguement between my parents but neither are doing anything. I know not all guys and child rapist or molesters but I feel like the minute I let my guard something could happen to me or worse my siblings. My dad doesn't even know this man and most likely there will be times were he asks the man to watch us because that's the kind of person my father is. I really would never forgive myself if he were to do something to my little siblings. I'm out of options I don't know what to do... Btw in 15(girl) and my siblings are 12(girl) and 7(boy).

Question: How to deal with learning you re father is not biological and find proof?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 09:08 AM PST

Over the holidays I was told that my father is not my biological father. I believe it because I look nothing like my sisters, I m always treated like the step child, and I have no photos of my dad with me until I was one. My birth certificate was amended two years after I was born (when I m told my father adopted me). My parents have no idea I know and I can t share that information until I can prove I found it on my own (not trying to start family feuds). I want no relationship with my biological father and his family (maybe eventually meet my bothers and sister though...). Any ideas on how to deal with learning this information? And how to find adoption papers, original birth certificates, etc?

Question: What should I do? Drama issues getting out of hand!?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 09:05 AM PST

So there is this neighborhood girl who me and my fiancée look after and has grown to be like an adoptive daughter to us. At first the mom loved the idea because we were a positive influence on her. She stayed out of trouble and her grades drastically improved. Now, her mother is getting jealous of the fact we help out with her where she cannot and is spreading bad rumors like my fiancée is jealous of her boyfriend (the girl's) and he plans to wait until she is 18 and then dump me for her which is what will never happen. She keeps spreading vile rumors and keeping the girl as a house slave. There is never food in the house (even though the girl's mother gets food stamps) and is never cleaned (even though the mom is unemployed at the moment) I fear that the girl's mom will file fake molestation charges against us. We have contemplated distancing ourselves because of the mom being so vile and hostile but then the girl will be hurt and abused and I don't want that to happen either. We can't just walk out because the mom will be bad to the girl but if we stay she may get violent. What would you do?

Question: I screwed up and said something about Santa to my younger brother?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 08:57 AM PST

To be honest I don't have a filter and generally make weird sarcastic remarks so, when my little brother (he's six) asked where santa gets the money to buy all the presents I didn't say they were made by the elves. Instead I told him there was a sort of conversion working with money and teenagers tears. Thankfully he doesn't know what conversion means but did I really screw up? We're ten years apart and I'm worried my parents will think I'm some sort of bad influence....

Question: If you suddenly met your dad who, for unanswered reasons, was absent for nearly a half of your life, what questions do you want answered?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 08:46 AM PST

Imagine it. Or if you did have experienced it, please share. He's gone away when you started to learn how to walk; you only hear about what he's like from your mother who has now passed away; you have a family of your own; you've reached a few milestones in your life; experienced life without a father, and then he shows up out of the blue. What would you feel?

Question: Should I keep sending my niece gifts?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 08:31 AM PST

My sister in law is a very ungrateful person, demanding rude, very rarely says thank you - in fact, her own mother has to prompt her to say thank you! This person is 20, but has been raised very poorly in my opinion. So I'm struggling with the idea of, should I keep gifting to my niece? My niece is 1, and I have loved getting her gifts, but what I don't love is never being told thank you, or even getting a picture or Facebook message with my niece playing with or wearing her gifts. Then my sister in law will get demanding, and usually ask when I can send more items, etc. I'm honestly burned out, my SIL has been this way since I've known her. So should I stop giving gifts, or just do less personal thing like a card with a few dollars for my niece for her birthday and holidays? I hate to feel like I'm punishing the kids, but I have a feeling they will follow in the footsteps of their mother and be very ungrateful and constantly demading things. Help!

Question: Waiting for a sign from my passed away father?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 07:46 AM PST

2 years ago when I was 17 I was living with my dad and I was away for the weekend. The last time I saw him was a Friday Night, and I got a call Saturday afternoon that his best friend who was visiting with him for the weekend, found him in his room. He had passed away in his sleep (he was only 50). Since then, I feel like I barely every get any signs, signals, or "visits" from him. I know it may sound nuts but it makes me worry he's not ok or at peace. We were very close. Please no rude comments.

Question: My dad don t trust there are some boys who use this n they trys to make a negative image of mine how can I talk to my dad n gain trust?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 07:13 AM PST

Mansi

Question: Gift idea for dad who has everything?? NEED HELP!!!!?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 06:48 AM PST

My dad is the most difficult person to buy a gift for. He just buys himself stuff when he wants or needs it, even my mom can t come up with any ideas. So this is what makes it hard, my dad doesn t drink coffee or wine AT ALL. he drinks liquor maybe twice a year. He hunts once a year for deer hunting. He doesn t watch any sports, doesn t play golf or croquet. My mom pretty much does all the cooking, they rarely use the outdoor grill. He doesn t do summer or winter fishing. He doesn t play video games or binge watch TV shows. He doesn t have a smartphone or tablet (I was very shocked to find out he knew how to use the internet to go on Craigslist to look at cars). and I will never attempt to buy him clothes again, even my mom doesn t buy clothes for him anymore. he doesn t wear watches or jewelry... he likes guns and ww2 books... ANY ideas are appreciated!!!!!

Question: Is there anything wrong with my brother's memory?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 06:48 AM PST

* He is FASCINATED by dates. He seems to know the birthday of every person who he has met. * He remembers really weird details.... things which even I forgot. 8 years ago I asked my friend what her sister's favourite colour was to make a card for her birthday. He still remembers that it's purple even after 8 years ( I forgot I even made a card, but my friend remembered and my brother was accurate in remembering the favourite colour) * He knows everyone's grades/test scores from years ago

Question: Help!! My divorced dad is getting a roommate!!! Please answer?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 06:45 AM PST

So my parents have been currently going through a really rough divorce and it's taken its toll on our entire family. There divorced is still being finnalized and my mom is so fed up with my dad that were moving and going to live with my mom, because of this my dad must get a roommate. We have no idea who this man is my dad literally found him in Craigslist.My dad has 30 percent custody of us so well be around this man a lot. I constantly ask my dad to do a background check but he won't and says I shouldn't worry. This has been another source of arguement between my parents but neither are doing anything. I know not all guys and child rapist or molesters but I feel like the minute I let my guard something could happen to me or worse my siblings. My dad doesn't even know this man and most likely there will be times were he asks the man to watch us because that's the kind of person my father is. I really would never forgive myself if he were to do something to my little siblings. I'm out of options I don't know what to do... Btw in 15(girl) and my siblings are 12(girl) and 7(boy).

Question: Sometimes I feel totally alone and without guidance?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 06:45 AM PST

I have parents but we are not that close in a sense that they don't know about my problems, how I feel etc. A girl I really like thinks of me as a creep (most girls do) and I don't know what to do. My parents treat me "nicely" but is it weird that I don't feel loved? Once in a while i get touched by my parents (I can't remember when) but I seldom feel it. No one to confide in when I cry to sleep at night. So here I am on Y!A. I feel grateful for some of the nice responses because I only divulge my problems here. But I feel like I'm filling a void which cannot be filled. Ever since I started feeling this at 13, my grades have plummeted and I cannot concentrate on my studies at all. Advice appreciated.

Question: How to be more respectful towards my mom?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 06:44 AM PST

My mom does a lot for me but I always act disrespectful and annoyed towards her. I don't know if it's because I'm a teenager and its hormonal changes or whatever but lately I've been being very disrespectful and I get mad easily and I have no idea why?!

Question: Why am I so easily angered?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 06:40 AM PST

I am the youngest child in my family. I usually get mad when something does not go according to my plan. When mum tells me we are going somewhere but she cancel the plan at the last minute. I'll get mad instantly. I'm the only one in this house who will always get mad. I really hate myself when I'm doing all this but I can't control myself! I try to tell myself that doesn't matter, it's just a small matter and I even try to imagine the people I mad with is myself. But that doesn't seem to work! I hate myself when I make my family unhappy. I know I'm annoying and irritating. My mum and sister hate me because of my attitude. I know. I would also hate someone who act like me too! But I just can't control myself ! Can someone pls help me?

Question: Are girls/women protective of younger brothers?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 06:06 AM PST

Please state your age if speaking from personal experience. I know older brothers often are towards little sisters.

Question: My sister and I were thinking of buying a house?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 05:41 AM PST

So my sister (18) and I (17) were thinking about buying a house together and I guess I am just wondering whether anybody had done it and found it to be a good thing. We both work for Woolworths and I am currently completing year 12 at school whilst my sister is going to uni. Any ideas??

Question: Grandma wouldn't allow mom to go on cruise, now she's mad. Who's fault?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 04:58 AM PST

My mom is in her 60s, my grandma in her 90s. Grandma has always been opinionated/bossy/controlling. My mom was pretty much on life support this summer and was really sick with an infection, she got well, then got in the hospital again. My mom goes on 6 cruises/year. My grandma told my mom that she doesn't want her going on any more cruises in case she got sick on the ship or in port, my mom supposedly agreed (this was mos ago). My mom went and canceled the cruises and got a refund, my grandma was happy. Now- my mom is depressed, says she wants to look @ the 4 walls, dislikes everyone, etc. I explained to her that she had free will and she chose to listen to her mother, simple as that. She says this is all her mom's fault that all her friends are about to go cruising and she has to sit at home because "her mother forced her to cancel the trip". My mom said my grandma would have made her life heck if she did not listen and would have nagged until she got her way, which is true. Who is right in this situation? does my mom have a right to be depressed when she chose to listen to grandma and cancel? And no- she cant rebook the trip. Her travel agent is a friend of hers and said it is sold out. Yes- my mom never takes responsibility. If I ask her why she does something, the answer is always "I learned it from you". She is over 300 + and has every health condition you can think of related to obesity and she still eats lots of carbs and sugar, but she says she is depressed because nothing was ever good enough for her mom. She refuses counseling, saying she does not need it. She is actually an RN.

Question: My son snesks in bed?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 04:13 AM PST

Question: Scared of coming out?!?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 04:13 AM PST

I'm a 13 year old girl, my parents pest away when I was 10 and since then my older brother(27) is my legal guardian. My brother doesn't except the gay community! He thinks that that's an entire community of idiots, he said that those are people how weren't spanked enough. And I think that I'm bisexual! But I'm scared to death of his reaction! I think he's going to spank me on my bare bottom until I cry or send me to a foster home.( he is the only family I have left) I think I'm bisexual and I except myself! But I love my brother and he means the world to me! Should I come out? I'm scared

Question: Please help me...did it really happen to me?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 03:50 AM PST

I was at another city with my family when I was a child...maybe 6 or 7 or 8 I honestly don t remember There was this cousin of mine(my mom s brother s son) we were playfully fighting and I was awake from like many hours It was very early in the morning I was a dramatic child...I pretended to fall asleep so that I could get carried to bed and that was just what happened...I was still pretending to stay asleep...I feel really bad whenever I think about it I just hate thinking about it please help me I really didn t know what was happening I just lay there with my eyes closed...he was kissing me everywhere and after some time he went away(I don t remember much) and I quickly got up after he went away and I got dressed but I knew you shouldn t be naked around people and that it was wrong...when I saw him come back he looked really scared(I still remember his face at that time) I spat on him and left After that he never showed up again and now he is married(he was twenty or above at that time) I can t tell my parents about this please is it wrong to not tell anyone? And did it really happen because he left after some time I just don t think he did anything

Question: How can I get my boyfriend to stop giving me a hard time about helping out my kids?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 03:16 AM PST

My boyfriend and I have been living together for 8 years. I have 3 kids from previous marriages; ages 26, 20 and 17. The youngest (son) has autism and is mentally about 9 years old. My oldest is a single mom with 2 small kids. She works full time. I like to help her out by making a little extra dinner so I can send some home for her and her kids. I do this a few times/month. My 20-yr-old daughter still lives at home, attends college full time, works part time. I grew up in a family where we did not have to pay rent at home after we graduated high school as long as we were furthering our education. My boyfriend grew up in a family where you were kicked out the minute you turned 18. He wants me to make my daughter start paying rent, and he gives me crap about helping out my older daughter. He says she's an adult and needs to learn to take care of herself and her kids on her own. I grew up in a family that helps each other out. My boyfriend has never been married nor has any children of his own. Money is always tight for us, but we do ok. My oldest lives nearby so I help her out quite a bit, but I enjoy it and she's so busy that I don't really get to spend time with her unless I'm helping her with something. I don't ever give her money, even though my boyfriend accuses me of it This is pretty much the only item of contention between us, but I'm getting tired of him giving me crap every time I pack up leftovers to give to my daughter to make her evening a little less stressful.

Question: Some advise on my situation, running out of time with this?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 03:13 AM PST

I live ~1200km away from home. Been alone for a couple of years and my place is very neat. I met someone I want to spend the rest of my life with, and he wants to come home with me this holiday (which starts next Tues), to meet my family and spend time with them. Problem: My family home detriorated over time and quite frankly, I am embarrased to take him there. Even as much as I love my family, when I get there, I cannot wait to get back to my apartment which is neat. Dont get me wrong, Im not embarassd by my family or the tiny house. Im not superficial like that. the place is untidy. Picture this: ceiling has holes, clothes all over the coffee table, holes in doors, paint scrapped off walls, disgusting bathroom. I will stop here. I am financially able as well as willing to sort that house out BUT they cannot look after anything! Buy a new wardrobe to store the hoarded stuff in, and the lock will be broken in a week. Tried then giving them money to fix things, they rather buy a bed that we dont need to store in upright in the passage, so people squeeze past each other. now he has booked a bnb, but obviously it would be nice to invite him home for coffee/meals.... but not with this untidy house of my fam. What to do? :-(

Question: My mom only make rice and beans but i want to stop be poor ;-; what do?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 02:45 AM PST

Question: How to save up for a MacBook?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 02:40 AM PST

Hey guys I m 13 year old girl living in saudia Arabia which means no job no babysitting no anything is allowed for women the way it s allowed for other country women anyways I want to buy a MacBook ! And the new iPhone also ! My mom gives me 10 riyals for lunch I only save that ! Which making something now everything ! Please if u guys have any idea then share it with me ! I can t ask my mom cuz her answer will be no for sure cuz recently she brought for me. Mobile

Question: Do these symptoms sound as if my parents and one of my siblings as being "sick in the head"?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 02:38 AM PST

I don't know why or how my parents and one of my siblings got like this, but I have a very strong conviction that they are suffering from some sort of mental health issue that makes them dysfunctional ever since they either attended a feminization program or Christian indoctrination. Here are examples of what my parents and one of my brother does. Dad - He has been bossing, blaming and scolding me for just about everything where he also likes to look for any reason, even if small, just to give me the silent treatment. He has also tried to force me to being a macho man when it clearly doesn't suit me. He has also permanently blacklisted me from feminization programs after he took my teen siblings and that violent 27-year-old macho brother. 27-year-old brother - He has always had this kind of mental illness where he can go from a normal chat to an abusive one when the other person has done nothing to cheese him off like that. For example, you have a non-abusive chat with him where he would somehow concoct ideas that I was trying to offend him or that I'm being competitive where he would go abusive for days on end. He has assaulted parent and siblings a number of times in the past. Mum - Say that I'm crap and doesn't do anything to improve it. She may have also blacklisted me and once said to me "you don't need to attend" I'm just a 23-year-old who is non-violent, self-conscious and sensitive.

Question: I feel like everyone is addicted to techology nowadays, but I'm especially worried for my brother who hasn't even reached primary school yet?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 02:09 AM PST

Everyday he just either watches TV, go on the computer to watch childish YouTube clips of cartoons ( yes he can go online by himself...so fricken smart that way....)or go on his iPad. I bugs me soooo much!!! He's still soo young and we have plenty of toys for him. And worse, my parents can't control him. I don't know what to do...i know it's so bad for him... It's been going on for a while now...

Question: Does this give my parents and brother to blacklist me from it and treat me like crap?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 01:57 AM PST

Parents took siblings to a Christian/Catholic indoctrination program without me since I was busy with something else, and now my parents have permanently blacklisted me from it where they also like to find reasons to blame, scold and boss me around while my 27-year-old brother does the same thing where he also likes to find reasons to bully me with abusive comments. This WAS something I wanted 5 years before parents took my siblings to it since we were only baptized catholic as an infant. I'm now blacklisted.

Question: My mom never trusts me? :(?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 01:55 AM PST

So the problem is that my mom has trust issues with me, she never allow me to do anything, I can't go out with my friends alone. I can't use the oven when i'm alone at home, i cant use a taxi bec shes afraid the driver may kidnapp me like srsly mom??? and what do you call it when ur mom closes the door so u wont get out of the house? Yea I know I'm a wild animal that should stay in its cage... It really pisses me off like why is that? I have no freedom at all. I hate the fact that I always rely on my mom because she forces me to, I want to feel I'm not a child anymore but my mom keeps treating me like a 3 years old girl... I hate my life srsly....I need a solution because I don't to stay like that Sorry for bad English....and btw I'm a 15 years old girl, I'll be 16 on April

Question: Does anyone else get jealous of their parents relationship with your siblings children? Do your parents favour the sibling that's had kids?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 01:46 AM PST

My parents don't seem to care about anything that goes on in me and my siblings life but we have one sister who is married with children and they are favoured. We are pressured to have children. The kids are treated way better than we ever were which is quite normal and ok but my parents literally only talk about their grandkids it's the only thing in their life they care about and if I ever try to talk about an issue I'm having or something I've achieved they literally do not listen and they cut me off to tell me my niece **** her pants today and it was adorable. It drives me crazy.

Question: Should I ask for advices here? I'm really struggling, not sure what to do..?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 01:12 AM PST

Question: What does my dad mean?? My mum says he is still working?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 01:05 AM PST

My dad said that we need to wait until late February to find out the news about how much longer we will stay in Oman the middle east! I am so worried that we may have to leave early to another country. But my mum said just wait and we don't know yet... help?? what do you think will happen? thank you xx

Question: Is Hope Good Or Bad?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 01:04 AM PST

Question: Providing for family...which should be a better option?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 12:56 AM PST

A 34 years old family man torn between Finance and Nursing. Already decided on going to college to better myself and job prospects.Well, you know when you have a family, always have to consider before making a decision. The rationale here is a path that will help me support my family and be a responsible father. What's your advice?

Question: Is this considered incest?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 12:41 AM PST

My mother is my best friend and I've been having serious back pains since an accident I was in last year in which I lost my left hand (I use text to speech to type). I'm 24, she's 53 (had me on accident very young). She offered to massage my back for me on her bed and it was very thoughtful so I accepted. Halfway though she asked me to roll over on my back and look at her and I did, and she was naked. She asked me to please satisfy her just one night (she's been single since she had me). I turned down the offer because it's incestuous, but she asked if she could watch me play with my dick while she masturbated. I let her. Is that wrong since she's my bother and best friend? Technically no sex happened, just watching each other masturbate.

Question: I was molested as a child?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 12:20 AM PST

I m a female and my sister is 7yrs older than me, she molested me and i never told anyone because I always thought that it was part my fault. She would tell me that I d get in trouble if i said anything, and I felt guilty for letting it go on for so long and i felt like i was a part of it. Even though i was probably only 3 when it started and it continued until i was 11-12. I m 27 now and for years i just tried to forget about and tried to have a relationship with my sister, and i was doing pretty good until a few yrs ago. My sister had an affair and shot her lover, it devestated myfamily and it was painful for me too but what was worse was for some reason all the past hurts came rushing back up to the surface. I felt guilty again thinking that if i would ve told about the abuse that maybe my parents could have gotten her the help she needed but her life was dominated by sex. I wanted to tell my mom about but she was hurting so much already thinking that she had failed as a parent that i couldn t do it. I met a man and got engaged and i told him and he was compasionate and it helped me to finally tell someone, but even though he knew i wanted to wait until marriage to have sex (he said he wanted to do the same, even though he had sex in the past) he made me feel like i didn t love him if i didnt have sex with him so i did but when i told him i felt bad about it when we was finished he made it seem like it wasnt a big deal since i wasn t technically a virgin

Question: My step mom has ruined our family and has drawn a wedge between my father and his daughters, while giving her daughters now an amazing life?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 12:18 AM PST

Okay I know this is a weird thing to post here, and I clearly need therapy to help understand and cope with what I am going through.. but in the meantime just thought i would seek out some help. I'm in a pretty dark place right now. My dad and step mom got married i think 15 years ago.. we had the best family w 7 siblings and we were all best friends. then some things happened a year ago with business, and my two sisters haven't spoken to my dad or anyone since then. it's breaking my heart since my niece and nephew haven't seen my dad and are missing out on having a relationship with him. i thought they were completely wrong and tried to remain neutral. then my step mom found a way to be mad at me, and exed me out telling me i wasn't welcomed at the house and they didn't invite me to my step sisters wedding. just super hurtful. i feel i dont have a home. i keep trying to still understand and have a relationship with my dad, then sometimes, usually late at night or early in the morning, i get the most intense anger and rage and send him the nastiest angriest texts. how can he allow someone to completely say we aren't welcomed in the home we grew up in? she could have rectified the whole thing from the get go. but chose to keep escalating things all while my dad just acts clueless and like he doesn't know what to do. I finally said i can't have a relationship w him, as i need to heal myself right now. but why do i feel so bad for cutting him off after everything?

Question: Should I let my 18 year old daughter have sex with her boyfriend in my house?

Posted: 10 Dec 2015 12:06 AM PST

Question: Do I call her a spoiled brat or a rich BRAT?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 11:51 PM PST

She has a car but never drives herself anywhere, her parents do. She goes to NZ every December with her brother, goes to Hawaii and the Pacific Islands every summer and has a boat that her granddad got for her when she was little for their island. Her family pays for everything she has and gets and she still doesn't ever seem happy. Like beetch hi, you go on more than 5 vacations every year while there are people homeless and starving all around you! We're both sophomores and I have money (probably more than she does) I just know how to handle myself more. Someone who's halfway through high school can be this immature. Wow

Question: You see a kid running the streets I she doing everything he can to stay away from home?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 11:26 PM PST

I say 'No" for to them there more fun outside then sitting watching some old soap opera on TV and the only one to play with is their sister or baby brother still in diapers.......

Question: I want to sneak my boyfriend in my room at night. How though ? Tips ?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 11:17 PM PST

(Btw I m almost 17) But anyways, I want to sneak my boyfriend in my room but I m afraid of getting caught. My parents room (only my mom sleeps in there) is right across the hallway from my room and my sisters room is next to mine. My dad sleeps in the living room but he s a heavy sleeper. My mom is a light, my sister is a medium sleeper. Ive snuck out of my window many times to see him. It s nerve wrecking but I never get caught. Isn t it almost the same thing if I m sneaking him in? Because I m still opening and closing it twice. Only difference is i ll be bringing him in. I m confident that I can pull it off because once I snuck In my bestfriend one night through the front door (my dad was sleeping right on the couch) and we weren t quiet about it. We also spoke loud in the room and nobody even noticed anything. So it won t be so hard with my bf but I know we still have to keep quiet. Sex may occur just saying. Thanks :)

Question: My sister says she is gonna kill herself because I found out she has sex?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 11:08 PM PST

I only found out accidnetly! I wasn't gonna do anything about it but she keeps saying she'll kill herself now. Help? She is 16

Question: My immediate family are all lying to eachother and I am the burden who knows all their secrets what should I do?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 11:01 PM PST

Please hear me out! I am in a really tricky situation. I am f15, my older sis is 17 and I have a mum and dad. My dad is a business person who is always travelling, is the CEO but he has indulged in his business in a lot of illegal ways and he is also cheating on my mother with several women, but he pretends to be religious! My mother is unemployed but she steals lots of money from my father, always fakes illnesses, lies so much, makes lies to people saying he hits her or I bash her, (I am the only one who knows about her theifing) she is really mean. She also covers up for my sister who is not attending school, fakes her grades by paying people with fathers money, had sex with multiple boys, does drugs, been pregnant and my mother pays for her abortion. My father always says how my sister is a good girl and I should be more like her. My family all lies to eachother. I am the youngest who knows all this and they ask me to keep my mouth shut. Idk what to do. It is really hard on me. They all use eachother.

Question: Is it cold that I shut out my sister after she....?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 10:56 PM PST

So I havent talked to my sister in over a year and I dont plan to because She went out and slept with my babys dad and bragged about the stuff he gave and bought her like jewellery, take her out to movies etc. And he never spent a dollar on his cbildren that really hurted and pissed me off. They arent together anymore but she has tried to message me on facebook to apologize. I will never see her as someone I can trust or be "sisterly" with the way I use to. I blocked her eachtime she tried to apologize and has made new accounts to contact me. I made I clear I never want to speak to her again. Am I bieng too. Cold or am I wrong to never speak to her again even tho shes my blood.

Question: Is it OK for an adult siblings of different sexs shares the same room and a bed?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 10:45 PM PST

I have a friend, who recently told me that he is sharing his room and his bed with his elder sister... He is 21 and his sister is 26... They live with their parents in a condo of 3 bedrooms, where 1 bedroom has a bed and everything but no one use it.. When I told him that it is weird to share a bed with your sister at this age, he said I am being gross.. Is it only me who find it weird and uncomfortable or this is actually a weird thing.!!!!!

Question: Please tell me what happens if I report child abuse. Is it right if we can't financialy afford to take care of my brothers?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 10:41 PM PST

My dad. Let me explain what happened a few hours ago. It happens almost everyday but I'm just going to say what happened today. My dad beats us. He beats us when we make him repeat what he told us, he slaps us if he talks to us and we don't hear him because we have headphones, when I didn't get him his cigar and lime he scratched my leg with a knife. I walked around the store crying not because it hurt but I was hoping an adult would see me and report him. It was nearly an inch cut so it wasn't a big deal. Today my dad called my nine year old brother but my brother was mad and already crying from loosing a game, so my dad go annoyed, called him and my brother gave him an attitude. He said "WHAAAT?!" like he was mad but trying to sound like he wasnt. My dad didn't like his tone, got up, slapped him- knocking him over on his side, stood above him and and slapped him twice while yelling. F&CKKKKKK HIM. I Just sat there and let him do that to my brother. Worst of all he was in his underwear and only hits us because he knows we won't hit back and knows he's stronger than us. He punches me on the side if my head ever since I was 11 and I'm now 16. When he gets mad at me for not hearing him, his favorite thing to do is punch my head. When I was my brothers age he would only kick me in the middle of my chest stopping my breathing and now he's more physical. Please help me I don't want my brothers and mom to be split up or homeless because mom and I don't have jobs

Question: I dont think i am my dads child?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 10:09 PM PST

About 2 years ago, a man messaged me saying he is my father. My entire life i have never questioned that my dad is mt dad. After gathering alot of information, i think this man is my realt father, i dont want anything to do with him. He is a drug addict, (so is my mom) but he recently got out of prison and i searching for me. My dad is an amazing person and probably the only reason i have turned out to be normal. Because of him ive had a normal life and never got into drugs and have a son of my own. I dont want to tell him this and break his heart. My mom gets super angy and denies it but i feel like shes lying. What should i do? Its so confusing... im an adult, a mom, and have my own life now. As a teen maybe i would have wanted to explore this, but i feel like it will only hurt me, and my dad, the man who raised me, and believes he is my father.

Question: Just to listen...?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 10:01 PM PST

My mom and sister are in the other room laughing and having a good time, having fun. Here I am on my bed laughing at some stupid facebook post and then I think "look at me. I'm in a room all alone, laughing to my self while my mom and sister are in the other room having a good time? Why am I not there?" I'm lonely but I'm not. I have family to talk to but I can't talk to them. My mom says she's here for me and to listen but the moment I try to say something she gets agitated and starts complaining. I love my family but I feel so alone. Sometimes I feel I don't want to be on this earth anymore, but most times I just don't want to be in the life I am. I can't fall asleep without thinking about a separate world I'd like to live in. I'm alone and it bothers me, but it doesn't, and that bothers me.

Question: Selfish brother is destroying me!?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 10:00 PM PST

My brother is such a filthy ******* liar! Only cares about money.. He is trying to destroy the relationship between me and my parents (It's already bad enough) hoping my parents would leave him their wealth and house in the future! ...It's digusting how much he lies and he is always trying to proof to everyone how sucessful he is which he isn't btw! but his friends and my parents seems to believe whatever he says I don't know what to do anymore... He lies about the everything like when I bought my new car he tells everyone at his work he bought it for me so everytime he calls me to pick him up, I reject everyone thinks I'm an asshole. He tells everyone he started an online business making more than £3000 a month asked my parents for 20,000 to expand the business and my parents gave it to him!! 4 months later comes back saying the business is bankrupt... It's so unfair cuz when I need help with such as a new phone I don't even get £10!!! wtf?? I started working/providing for myself since 16, I'm 21 now my brother who is married ,has kids and is 28 still asks for money! My parents basically feeds his whole family including wife! It's ******* ridiculous I don't get any help at all even when I need it! My brother still owes me £3000 which he borrowed off me claiming he has family emergency, it had been over 4 years now everytime I ask for my money his answer is always "I'm broke! I'll return it when I have money" this is so ****** up! I don't know what to do anymore...

Question: My dad is making me sleep in the bathtub because I didn't say I love him when he asked. How come he can do this???!?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 09:56 PM PST

I don't want to say if I do or not. He's mean and hits me and yells when I don't do what he says fast enough. It's crazy if he expects me to say the word love to him

Question: How can I move in with my dad?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 09:46 PM PST

So, first off I'm 18. I graduated high school in june and I now have a full time job. I'm going into the military next September. I currently live with my mom. For the past couple of years, our relationship has gone downhill. Every single time I have a conversation with her it turns into an argument. It's affecting my mood and stressing me out. Everyday I come home to a pig sty of a house (I know it's partially my fault). I hate coming home just because it's depressing and my mom's always in a bad mood so I just stay in my room away from her as much as possible. Since I was born, she's been way too overprotective. She wouldn't even let my dad ever take me hunting when I was younger because she always thought, and still do think, the worst of everything. I've gotten to the point where I don't want to live here anymore. The thing is my dad lives less than 2 miles down the road so if I were to move there I could still see my mom whenever she wanted me to. We just got broken into about a week ago, and so now she even goes as far as to unplug all the tvs every day and hide them before leaving. It's ridiculous. I just need to get away from her I feel like it would be good for both of us. I just don't want to leave her by herself. What would be a good reason to give her so that she won't cry or be depressed that I'm leaving her here by herself? The last thing I want to do is hurt my mom. I feel like being away from her would be good for both of us . Please someone help.

Question: How to move out from home when you're 18?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 09:41 PM PST

i plan to move out once i reached 18 (i'm 16) but i know my family won't let me, so if i moved out that would means i'm running away from home. and i dont want my family to find me or reach me so i plan to runaway to another country (the nearest one from my country) my question is, what should or what can i prepare from now? i dont know how will i survive once i'm running away, i know i have to think how to get money and save it for running away but i'd like to ask your opinion on what's the best thing i can do to got money and save up money for running away (it wouldn't be cheap because i'll have to take flight to the country i planned to move out) and also, i need your advice on how to survive and get a job/get money once i got into the country i planned to move out. (it could be australia or guatemala). i'll be glad if you'd like to talk to me / discuss about it via email or kik, just tell me and i'll drop my contact info :D thanks in advance and sorry for my bad english