In spousal maintenance. My spouce is 23 years old and has not worked or given one penny to the household. Its not that they cant work...he doesn't wish to work and I make enough money to support us both. He is capable and able to work. He does light house keeping but has never contributed money to the household. He has not helped me in any way which would hinder him from working...he just didn't wanna work. He sat at home and mostly played Xbox. Would a judge award any spousal maintenance. I kicked him out for alcoholism and cheating. Also I own my home and have owned it for the last 6 years. I did refi it while we were married but I am the only one on the loan...he is on the title now because of the refi. He has not contributed anything but lite housework to the household NO MONEY, hasn't paid a single bill has never had a job. Would a judge award anything to do with the house to him? Remember I have only been married 10 months. My testimony will be that he married me so he could divorce me and try to get money out of me. I am willing to give up household items so he will have necessities like kitchen ware bed and everything he came into the marriage with. What do you think my liabilities are? How will the judge d

Plz kay I m 12 years old I have 2 little sisters and my dad has a drug problem. I just figured it out recently after my parents divorce. I think that it could be the stress but idk I just meet his girlfriend who is also his employee ( why my parents divorced he was cheating on her) I moved in with my dad about a month ago, he has a small handheld bong that is on the back porch with weed or dabs in it. I respect my dad a lot and he keeps his life private hense why I am scared to confront him about it. He has no idea I Evan know what "drugs" are hence y I don t want to say anything. I was not that worried about it at first because he has a vary good well respected job and makes a good paycheck but as I kept thinks about it it worried me the drugs are not cocaine but a leafy kind of substance. I am afraid to talk to this about my friends cause I think they ll judge me since (not being vain) I am vary popular and wicked smart as I ve been told I don t know how to tell him, and don t want him to get mad at me can some1

My parents want a divorce! Im having an anxiety attack! My dad messaged another girl and had an affair and my mom freaked out started hitting him and says we are calling for a divorce. I dont have friends i dont have a life im lonely my parents are all i have. Help me please

I am a desperate and disappointed mother of 5. I brought my children up to believe in right things and morals. So many years and tears and sweat and nerves spent... and now I see ''the result''. I don't know what to do. My husband passed away 2 years ago and I have no one to talk to. My 1st son (31) married an evil girl. They used to live with us, but she fought with me all the time and at last they moved out (her wish). It was 4 years ago. Saw him 6 times since then. My 2nd son (28) is in prison for selling marijuana since 2 years ago. it's what killed my husband, he had a heart attack after finding out. He also has a child, but never married the child's mother, and she's who-knows-where. My 3rd, daughter (25) dropped out of high school and ran away from home at 17. I see her sometimes - she's tattooed, TOO skinny, I think she's using drugs, asks for money too often, and I don't know what the money is for. My 4th, daughter (23) married some punk, they live off by playing music on the street, and selling paintings and handmade jewelry! They're very poor, but she won't divorce him. I don't like him. He doesn't believe in God, and hates on the country, and talks about dangerous things (doesn't believe in medicine, for example). My 5th, son, (19) got expelled from school at 17 for a physical fight! He still lives with us, doesn't think about his education. He hangs out with ''the ghetto''. Police intervened a thousand times. Only the eldest went to college. How can I cope with this? I'm falling into the deepest depression. I even thinking about taking my own life. I live with my sick mother. I think she's the only one who currently keeps me alive.

Ok why is it that if a guy proposes to a girl for marriage, the girl is excited when they already planned for getting married? I don't get it.. Is proposal just a formality? When you plan to marry your gf, do you tell it to her first before the proposal, or you just surprise her about getting married through proposal? Thanks

I've been through several long term relationships and I never felt like someone was THE ONE. But I don't know if that's something you know right away or it takes time. Do you have to somewhat settle? I dunno I'm in my late 20s and the idea of finding the ONE baffles me.

Child is 24. I was in jail 5 years and it gained interest. I have other kids under 20 but mother and I are married. Child is now incarcerated has been for 6 plus months. Should child support stop..

Being from India, I was forced into marriage by my parents. I was 19 when they started looking for a suitable groom for me. By the time I was 22 and completed my engineering, my marriage was fixed and without even encouraging me to do job, I was married to my husband and I left India forever and moved to Canada. Since getting married, DH and I got into lots and lots of arguments and fights. Everyday we would fight. We were both unsettled and worked hard towards getting a job and buying our new home and now after 5 yrs I have a baby. Looks like we both are matured now and taking decisions as adults unlike before. Anyways, all my friends are getting married now after they have enough savings, and are matured enough to take important decisions of life. But in my case DH and I get panic attacks and sometimes feel that we r still not ready enough to tackle more responsibilities. I wish I would have gotten married a little late when I knew something about life but that's not the case. How to overcome my regret?

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and when we first met i had a full-time job for about 3 months into the relationship but then they laid me off but then at the same time i got bogged down with college work and needed to pass my classes before the semester ended so i decided to focus on school he thought that was stupid and i was "wasting my time when i could have been making money like a real woman" then after school ended i got in a bad car wreck with left my back and neck extremely injured and i had to go through physical therapy for 3 months and had to go through another semester in college and my boyfriend still gave me sh!t for not working saying he wanted a real woman who can work and pay her half on dates etc now he's telling me he's falling out of love for me cause i don't have a full-time job like him (mind you he's only a line cook and makes 8.50 an hour) he use to say i was his first love but now he's saying he doesnt think he loves me anymore JUST BECAUSE OF NOT HAVING A JOB IN OVER 6 MONTHS ISNT THIS WRONG???/ DOESNT THAT MEAN HE WASNT REALLY IN LOVE???? Im 21 and he's 25 btw my back and neck are healed now i have bronchitis and still trying to get over it and now he's mad at me cause I'm not trying to go out to find a job so i can get him a Christmas and birthday gift (his birthday is on new years eve) BUT MY DOCTOR PUT ME ON BEDREST I'm sick as a dog but he's still telling me how he's starting not to love me cause of me not having a job

The money is not the entire reason for wanting a divorce but it's the final straw. The majority of the reason is he's cheated on me several times in the past and did drugs behind my back. He made $80k a year and now he just took a job making $47k a year because it's not stressful and he would be home more and I just don't want to have to take care of him too. By the way I work and make $80k a year. He has all these bills that aren't mine. He is a compulsive spender. On his little salary he will go broke if I left him. I'm tired of paying his bills.

I slept with other women during our marriage but she was ok with it under certain conditions. I found out she had a secret affair and made her leave. She had no money or no job, and a degree in art history so I told her as long as she left and never came back.our son would remain my legitimate heir.and enjoy all the rights and privileges that came with that. I gave her a small check and she signed th spaers and she was gone. he was 4 months then, now he's 4 and she is showing up at our doorstep...im remarried and have another child..a daughter. Ive called the police and they made her leave...said if they caught her around again she would go to jail. what else can I do to make sure she stays away? SHes a bit crazy and I'm scared she might do something to prove it.

I fought my ex for our daughter and won. I'm raising her now along with my ne wife's 2 kids and we have an infant. My life use to be so calm and quiet, I didn't feel happy though. My ex wife struggled with depression but she was a good mother. She was clean house was clean, but she would yell at me sometimes and was bossy about keeping the hpuse clean so I left. Then came back lied and used her depression to get custody of our daughter. I have alot of guilt about that. My new life is exhausting, my ex and I hadthe one child and lots of free time. Her mom would watch our daughter. Now I have 4 kids to support. No family around since I'm Military. My new wife I'm starting not to like . I can take the weight of all this I'm only 33. My wife does work but it's unfair that that hardly seems to matter I'm so unhappy. I'm stuck now. While my ex wife is engaged to a 23 year old 6'4 huge Boy!! She lost weight looks beautiful when I see her in court. Why did she never look that good during marriage. And she's going to fight me till she's in her grave for our daughter. It costs me $1200 in airfare to show up at court. With all my reponsabilites I can't adored to pay that. Not to mention of I get deployed which can happen any moment she can snatch my daughter. I get child support but it's not alot. I feel l

The reason I ask is because my cousin and her husband are going through a particularly nasty divorce. She is a physician and he is a stay-at-home dad, so she is cutting him off without a dime. Is it then permissible for me to remain friends with him?

We have had issues and went to counseling 3 years ago. I thought we had fixed things, he now says he just decided to stay married and accept it. I went on thinking things were ok. He started chatting with an ex on facebook 8 months ago and in August they exchanged emails. He talks about how beautiful she is and he misses her. He complains about me to her as well. Also in Aug. I found internet history for craigslist casual encounters. For places near our home and some other countries - most near our home. I confronted him. After days he let me read the emails and says craigslist was a fantasy - he never replied, chatted, text'd met anyone. I have searched a lot can't prove he did anything on craigslist. As for the emails - I don't feel he's showing everything. It took days for him to show me and I found an email from her in his spam filter with a subject line I can't find in his email. We have built a life together, 3 kids as well. At first he wanted to stay and was waiting for me, for all the wrong reasons (finances, kids). Said he isn't in love with me that way anymore (but says he loves me) and isn't physically or mentally attracted to me. So I gave him my ring back and said I would stay and he could give me back the ring when/if he ever actually loved me again. I can't stop looking for more proof! And so now he's talking about leaving. I love him. This has hurt me very badly. Should I stay? - Please help!

I have been with my husband for five years and the first few years were rough because of alcohol (physical abuse) i stayed because he was not the same person sober. Years pass and he has improved but last night he got really drunk and did it again. We broke up but this time, I really dont care and it doesnt hurt me? I would be devestated before but now its like I am fine. Am i not in love anymore?

My son has his 13th birthday coming up. We have a blended family. My husband brought 2 girls age 12 and 11 (who live with their mom and visit every other weekend) and I have a boy and girl, 12 and 9 who live with me full time. My son feels surrounded by girls. He's always doing what the girls want to do because he's outnumbered. He wants this party to be about him and his friends. He was happy to know that the party will be on a weekend that we dont have the other 2 girls/stepsisters with us. My husband on the other hand feels that his girls will enjoy the party and he wants to pick them up from their mom's house for the party. It will be a sleepover at a hotel. How should I handle this? I want my son to enjoy his day but I can see my husband's point as well.

I have been absent for most of her life. I owe over 10K in child support, and I have not talked to her in a year. I have had some legal problems, and I'm now living with my parents again. She has a good home, but I want more control over her and I do not want to pay child support anymore. Our relationship is odd because when I come around I try to ignore the fact that I have been absent. Can the mother ever have to pay me child support?

I have been with my husband for five years and the first few years were rough because of alcohol (physical abuse) i stayed because he was not the same person sober. Years pass and he has improved but last night he got really drunk and did it again. We broke up but this time, I really dont care and it doesnt hurt me? I would be devestated before but now its like I am fine. Am i not in love anymore?

she won't let me sleep in our bed. Admittedly I am frequently drunk. Often very drunk. But she smokes pot every day so there's that. I can't get on with my life while ***** lives here. What can I do? @Jay: To be fair, she said I have to sleep on the couch when I'm drunk. That's pretty much every night. But yes, she's stronger than me. Much. @luke: Yes, but how do I get her to actually pack her bags and leave? We are both on the lease. @Tom & Helena: I've told her a million times. I didn't want to get married in the first place. Why should I have deal with that crap? @Princess: LOL. She tells me I'm goofy when I'm stoned. I really just don't want to get sober until she's out of my sight. @emily, we tried therapy, but it didn't help. I tried cutting back on drinking but she still nagged me anyway. She was idealistic about marriage, I wanted to wait. I went along. Now we hate each other. @jonathan: You're probably right, but I'm sick of her know it all sh*t. I just want her to get off my nutz permanently.

I ve been with my fiancée for 7 years now. We have a 5 year old and just recently had our 3 month old. A year or so after our first child was born. We separated for about 2 years and In between that time I had a one night stand with a girl I hardly know and conceived my almost 3 year old daughter. Since then me and my fiancée have worked things out , moved in together , and had our second child together. We are happy. However I ve been in an on going battle over my 2 year old daughter with her mother whose just unfit. She has sole custody and I have visitation. Since me and my fiancée have been back together she s been very supportive in helping me have my daughter more often so for the past six month me and her mother have been alternating weeks. Unfortunately she is jealous of my fiancée and the relationship ( my daughter loves her) she has with my daughter so she s been purposely trying to keep her away and only follow the court order which is me having her 1 day a week which isn t fair. We filed for a modification for me to have joint custody and her response was completely directed to my fiancée ( his "girlfriend" has involved her self in the case , the child needs to be with him at all times not his girlfriend etc) i have chosen to limit communication with my child s mother simply bc she is very difficult so sometimes things go thru my fiancée. She wrote in her response to basically force me to talk to her. Can the courts force me to talk to her ?

I'm trans and I'm getting married soon. I've always disliked my first name even before I knew I was trans, and now that I'm getting married, I was wondering if I could hit two birds w/one stone. Anyone want to sum up for me if I can or cannot? And if it would require me a trip to court?

He's a middle-aged alcoholic who makes decent salary as a package courier. We have no children and he says I "forced" him to marry me. Why won't he just go? I really don't care one way or another @sheloves. My hopes for this particular marriage are long over, and my sights are on personal development. He insists living with me is intolerable yet does nothing to remedy his situation except stay drunk and yell. I'm saving money to buy a house and will move out when I'm good and ready. He can take a long walk off a short pier as far as I'm concerned.

I recently got married. She's a felon so it's been really hard for her to find a job. At present, she has a part time job with no benefits. I have a full time job as a contract health care worker. My contract with provide health insurance for me for free but if I want to add my wife, it will be $729 a month. We can't afford it but because my job offers me insurance, we don't qualify for a subsidy. I don't know what to do. We both have health issues and need insurance.

I know this subject of lack of chemistry in marriage have been discussed over and over with different answers and opinions, but you cannot ever get tired reading a new experience. I am quite almost a decade in marriage now, but i just discovered that i might have missed out on checking the chemistry aspect. My wife is not ugly, but she's just not involved sexually, and me i am fired up all the times. Women flock around me and one lady said someday that she is sorry for me because most men marry to women that are beautiful than them, but in your case it is opposite because you look more attractive than your wife. I know some of you will say go to therapy, but i ask myself, what kind of therapy when she's not ready to just be involved emotionally and for the fact that she has no cravenness and that has destroyed even the small passion i have ever had for her. She doesn't move me emotionally. This has caused me to flirt with other women but not involved in actual physical intercourse. It is very boring living like this. I am the kind that can bring down the roof with steam passion, but i feel that i missed the kind of person i should have been doing this with. The only way i enjoy sex now is watching porn and masturbating. I can't go out there and have sex with other women because of my faith and i want to protect my home. But my wife saw some of my flirting messages & now is violent on me, calling cheat, biting me and rapping of my shirt. What a life? How did i get here? Help!

and sweetest person I have ever met! Problem is he is divorced with a 7 year old. I have no kids and I wanted my man to experience his firsts with me. But I do love him already and so does he. He wants kids with me as well. His ex is remarried and has another child with her new husband. I was raised where the only ones you have a child with were your husband and wife. My parents never divorced and never had a family from outside if you know what I mean. What should I do? He's committed to be already by the way and we are already discussing marriage a family and babies despite the fact that he used to abuse drugs and alcohol and smokes (but not alot). He's unemployed at the moment but he's looking semi aggressively for a job. I work part time as a cashier.

Marriage, dating, and relationships are hard work, and I'm trying desperately to not be stuck in loser-hood so career must come first even if I have no choice but to work 80 hours a week in order to have a chance of success. Relationships and marriages would get in my way. And even just sleeping around with ladies is risky 'cuz I don't want to get STDs or pay child support to some random girl. So I've decided to be a permanent bachelor, but my family sometimes gives me a hard time about that, or if they don't they really fear that all those things will happen if I choose to stay forever single At grad school pretty ladies talk with me all the time but I still absolutely own my other head and resist it very well

My boyfriend brought up marriage a few months ago. I figured it was just the jitters I had and that they would go away... but no such luck. It did catch my attention, though, how extreme my response is. I have a rapid heartbeat if I think about marriage too much, look at wedding rings, or see other people's pictures of their wedding. I have felt nauseous from talking about it with my boyfriend before. I have even had panic attacks over it. My extreme responses have mellowed out, but I still get the rapid heartbeat. So there is definitely at least some anxiety about marriage in my subconscious somewhere, for whatever reason. I have no reason to fear marriage, my parents have a great marriage... they never fight. I did however, experience some trauma of my own growing up. My cousin molested me at 14, though I'm over it now, but I have to wonder if that is playing a role in my anxiety? I know having a guy in my past lie about loving me caused some anxiety. I feel like I will never get over this, because honestly I don't want to. I'm petrified of getting hurt again. It's not that I'm afraid of commitment, because I can commit to other things in life just fine... it's just I have a fear of marriage.... I think. I have all the symptoms and my past correlates with it. My boyfriend is really passionate about wanting to marry me... but I want nothing to do with it. We have talked it over, but he thinks I will just get over it with time. I honestly don't think I will.... advice? Marriage isn't a piece of paper... trust me. It takes a LOT more than just your signature. I know this, and that's possibly another reason why I'm afraid of it. I know how much commitment it actual does take... and I don't think I'd ever be ready for that. Also, we both believe in waiting to have sex until marriage. Sex has nothing to do with relationships. Honestly, I don't care if I remain a virgin the rest of my life. It wouldn't bother me at all.

It seems like some people get really angry and claimed that they were "tricked" if the amount of sex that they are having goes down over time. Do they not understand that there are so many factors that go into a person's libido? Update: I don't mean that people should withhold sex for no reason. But things change and I don't think that having less sex sometimes is meant to be malicious or manipulative if the reason has nothing to do with the other person and is all about stress or depression or any number of other reasons.

Any suggestions? I am not good at this kind of stuff. We live in the Kansas City area.

It sounds like a broken record. Nearly every story on here is a woman describing her ex husband has controlling, abusive or a deadbeat that doesnt want to spend time with their kids. I know a lot of good fates that want more time with their kids, but the ex wives ate controlling and dont give them time with their kids or make it difficult. When do women go to such extremes to try playing the victim?

I was married to a good man for about 5 years. I was unfaithful to him a few times because I felt like something was missing. My Husband was stable and dependable, and a great provider..yet I missed the feeling of excitement. My Husband was pretty boring in that aspect. We have 2 children together. Anyways, I met this new guy who was everything Ive ever wanted in a man..he had that bad boy personna, he just oozed excitement. After 2 years of having this affair, I found out I was pregnant with his child...My husband was suspicious, so after the baby was born he dna tested it and found out it was his. He kicked me out and divorced me soon after, so I moved in with the other man to make our new family work. However, I have been with the new man for 8 years and its a very rough relationship with both of us having trust issues. My ex husband has since moved on and got married to a woman 10 years younger than him who looks like a barbie doll and they have a 2 year old together now. I feel old and discarded. My relationship now is terrible and I cant help but think I wouldve been happier with my ex had I sought out conseling with him. Any advice on how to move on healthily?

I am divorced with a six r old son and four ur old daughter. I have been with my fiancé for over a year and we plan on getting married. My ex husband(my children's father) is a deadbeat and inconsistant about paying child support and seeing his kids and will only do so of it involves seeing me. My fiancé has been great to my kids and has stepped up to the plate. However my son continues to act rudely towards him. He does not respect him. He will tell him often he is not his dad when he tries to do things for him and tells him he can't go certain places or do certain things with him. My fiancé doesn't take it personally not get mad however reacts by leaving. This has created great distance between i us and lately my fiancé has asked to spend more time alone. This saddens me because I'm in love with him and he is great to my kids and don't want to lose him. How do I stop my son from behaving this way and how can my fiancé react other than leaving ?

Anyone ever experience unrequited love? Where your feelings of intimacy are almost exclusively one sided; like the other person just "checked out" or "was never checked in" and you realize that your entire relationship with that person was all in your head from the very beginning? No. Eh, erhm, um, okay. Well, that is what just happened to me so... Yeah, help me deal with this, okay? Now, I'm pure blood optimistic despite my pessimistic tones online; I give people the benefit of the doubt. Forgetting the politics, norms, and gender roles for a minute; as a relationship, my wife never came to me, she always waited for me to go to her. And as we got older, my body couldn't handle the high energy pursuits any more (until I lose the flat tire around my waist anyways); so I had to stop this "chase", especially since I "got the girl" already. I was hoping it balance out, but it hasn't; she doesn't pursue me at all. I don't think my wife is doing this one sided thing on purpose, she's just overthinking it. She doesn't want to be seen as needy but she doesn't want to be a mooch either. She doesn't want to be seen as a wh0re but she doesn't want to be a prude either. She doesn't want to be seen as dependent but she doesn't want to be a recluse either. The point is, my wife's comfort zone has completely dictated everything in our relationship; the only "relationship" we had, was when I went outside of MY comfort zone and pulled her out of hers... But should I even be doing this? This might also have to do with the fact that I don't possess qualities my wife admires. She's into highly idealistic men like Mr. Darcy from Pride and Prejudice; men who don't exist in modern day society, so she's already disappointed with me since I can't conform to her ideal/perfect husband. The traits I possess are equally admirable and seen as weakness by her; so she jumps between being proud to be my wife and ashamed, all because she believes certain traits are not "appropriate"...

So my wife and I had a 2 children and because her mother is a widow I said why dont you ask your mom to move in with us so she can be around the kids and not have to live alone (big mistake). I never understood why people have so many problems with mother in laws...I thought she was the best, she cares for the kids she cooks, cleans and watches the kids while we are at work all day. My oldest is 4 and my youngest is 3 (both girls). About a year ago when I started giving my 3 year old time out she would cry for grand ma and grand ma would come bail her out (because she couldnt stand to hear her cry). My wife had a talk with her and said mom they are going to cry you have to ignore it...Well last week my 4 year old was acting very bad and not listening so I gave her 2 time outs in a row and then the third time I slapped her butt and told her to sit down. I was trying to talk with her in the laundry room with the door closed, when all of a sudden grandma comes BANGING ON THE DOOR DEMANDING I LET HER OUT! Saying shes going to call the cops and I'm abusing her, etc. Screaming at the top of her lungs yelling and then texted my wife I hate your stupid husband. Well when my wife got home she yelled at me too, saying not to put my hands on her and that I dont know my own strength. I said I didnt hit her hard but she needed to be spanked. So my wife is against spanking and my mother in law is against anything that makes them cry pretty much... I'm ignoring my mother in law and my wife and we all live together, I need your advice please

My husband and I are newly married and live about four hours from both of our parents. We don't have children. Because of our work schedules, it's very difficult and costly to take a weekend trip. We've gone back twice in the last six months for the weekend. My MIL thinks we should be coming back at least once a month and whines and cries when we say we aren't coming until "x date." My husband totally agrees with me and supports our decision (especially since it's basically out of necessity), but it's still so stressful. I hate the constant calls and texts about when we can come back and question nabout why we are missing events. We've tired being nice, we've tried being firm, we've tried ignoring her calls. Nothing works. Are we really that out of line with our visiting expectations? We tell her she is always welcome to visit us, but she is always "too busy." Help!?

said she had a yeast infection two weeks ago ...for the women is that why?? or is there something more?

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Ok so I m starting to think that maybe my girlfriend might have some form of depression but I m not sure. She tells me sometimes she goes trough these phases of sadness, mostly only lasting like a couple days or maybe a week. And most times there is a pretty good amount of time inbetween these phases were is not sad. But this time she says she s been sad for around 2 weeks. She s not like suicical or any of that(and I believe her) and she acts pretty much the same but I just kinda wanna know if this is an actual form of depression or something or if it s just something that will pass. And she s not even sad like the whole day like she might be happy then get sad. Or be sad then get happy. Like the other day she was happy almost the whole day she was with me then told me she steered to get a little sad at night.

I posed a question some time ago about my wife's son (from here first marriage) who was driving his cousin's car while she's away at college and he and his brother got into it and he (or his brother) threw a cell phone at the windshield and it now has a large spiderweb crack on it. My wife is taking a non-chalant attitude about it and I said that he or his brother needs to replace the windshield before his cousin comes home from college. That's now taken a back seat because she's not making either of them take responsibility for it. Well, yesterday I discovered that her son is driving around with his bright lights on because not one but both headlights have burned out. I told him that it was illegal to ride around with your bright lights on and that it's distracting to oncoming traffic. He told me that he's already been pulled over by the police and the warned him. When I asked why he hasn't replaced them he said that he just didn't want to spend money from his paycheck to buy them when the bright lights work fine. When I posed the question about the windshield several mentioned that I should just take the car from him until he shows responsibility. The problem with that is this. Technically it's not my car to take. It's his grandparent's car and they gave it to their granddaughter. the granddaughter is away at college and now they are allowing the grandson (my wife's son) to drive the car to get back and forth to school and work. Now at 19 years old he announced over Thanksgiving dinner that he and his 20 year old girlfriend are pregnant because they feel they are ready for a baby. They planned it. he failed out of college last year and now he's in another college taking graphic design classes and thinks that he's gonna get a business started and start making money immediately. Again, he's a few months into his classes and working a seasonal job which will be over in a month or so. But he's ready to start a business, bring a baby into the world, move out and get an apt for him and his pregnant girlfriend. Granted, he's still living at home with us, driving someone else's car that he refuses to take care of, and has a job that's gonna end soon but he's ready to bring a baby into the world. What do I do? I can't put my foot down because she'll say that's not my place to say anything even through I've been in his life some 12+ years. Anytime I try and show some discipline towards him she, my wife, runs interference.