Family: Question: How do I stop my big brother from bullying me?

Question: How do I stop my big brother from bullying me?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 12:43 PM PST

I am 14 and my brother is 21. He is a very bad person he always hits me and disturbes me. After I tell my parents he starts arguing with my parents and use some weird words while arguing with them. He always wastes a lot of money of my parents on things he want and when they refuse he starts arguing. Since he is big and my punches don't hurt him I still try to push him when he is bullying me. Everybody in my family hates him. He is very good at arguing. Isn't there a way to stop him from bullying me?

Question: My mom chose her boyfriend over me?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 12:39 PM PST

I got huge *** probs. My mom is hispanic (guatemalan) & she has said a few times that she prefers white guys over hispanic guys because hispanic guys aint ****. She even talks crap about my father who is from el salvador & she makes fun of where my dad is from. Her boyfriend is white & she has also said that she loves her bf more than me & my sis & bro. She acts like a ***** when shes around her fuckfriend. She calls my dad a fat old troll. Im 15 years old & im her oldest child & son & when her bf isnt around she acts all angry with me & my siblings saying that we are ruining her love life. Then last week, I hyperextended my left knee during kickboxing practice & my mom told me to man up & to stop acting like a baby. Then, i told her you try walking with a messed up knee & she told me to stfu & her bf started laughing. My grandma says to me my mom is selfish & that she is not going to chose her kids over her love life again bc she doesnt care about us. My mom & dad split bc my dad was a heavy drinker, but he never hit my mom & he always taught me on how to be a gentlemen. My moms boyfriend isnt a drinker, but he is a big mouth prick. What should i do?

Question: My brother is an... Ashole?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 12:28 PM PST

He's older than me and of course you'd expect him to tease me here an there. He always has to say something about me being fat though.. Idk why but it gets to me. He makes fun of me in any way I can. When I'm having a good day , he always finds a way to make me feel bad. Today , he had some cheesecake and offered it to everyone and my sister told me "come get some" and he immediately said "no he can't have none and smiled at me" I honestly didn't want any. But then he said "naw im playing come get some fatty" and I really didn't want any. So then he said I was butthurt or some **** and kept saying "mmmm it's sooo good right ?" To my sisters and other younger brother. He kept doing it and I just sat there embarrassed. He does these kinds of things a lot. All I do is leave the house. I need some advice. Any way I can get back at him or talk back at least. Get him in some way he'll just shut up!? Please help and thank you

Question: How to get dressed for an informal Christmas dinner?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 12:19 PM PST

December is a warm month where I live. My family isn't use to join to this kind of celebrations. I'm thinking about going shirtless, because I haven't got sufficient shirts to put on without being uncomfortable. After all, it'll be a dinner with my dad, my aunt and uncle, my cousin and me. I know that you're going to tell me: be classy! !...

Question: How to deal with my mother's BS?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 11:56 AM PST

My mother and I decided to stop talking because we just can't get along. I wish it ended there, but now she's telling all of my family members how awful I am and instead of asking me about it or staying out of it, my family members are now ganged up against me. How do I deal with this? I'm an adult and so is my mother, but she's certainly not acting like one and neither are my family members. I'm pretty fed up with this every time my mother and I argue and I don't know why my family members hate me so much that they're so ready to jump on board the hate train before even asking me anything about it or just minding their own business. What do I do? I have no problems with cutting my mom out of my life forever, but how do I undo the mess she has made between my relatives and I?

Question: My life has been full of bitter experiences and it still continues. But now I am falling down. Any experiences or kind words will help.?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 11:36 AM PST

It has been a journey of ups and downs as anyone else will have. I had my times of greatness but also the times hitting rock bottom. Since, I could remember, my dad was a drunkard, physically, verbally and emotionally abusive towards my mom and my siblings. Childhood was full of agonies with no support from dad, but cruel beatings and torment from him. Anything I could remember are the days in which, me, my mom and siblings were choking and shouting on the ground in pain from his beating and the embarrassment we suffered in schools, church and communities because of the verbal and emotional abuse. Poverty was in its high tide. Nobody was there to support us. We used to gaze at the far distance hoping for a full day meal and peace. He neither let us being close to friends or relatives nor let anyone come to our home. However, as I mentioned, we had our heights as well. We were doing extremely good in academic and extra-curricular activities. A lot of admirations, encouragements and proud moments were there even during these tough times. At a moment, when he nearly beaten my mom close death, we filed a case against him in the Court. He gave us a very tough time during the days of trial in the court. But luckily, he was given an order to leave the house immediately and declared that he will be arrested even on approaching us. We were happy that he left the house. But we were still struggling to make our needs meet.

Question: Are girls/women protective of younger brothers?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 11:33 AM PST

Please state your age if speaking from personal experience. I know older brothers often are towards little sisters.

Question: Can anyone explain why my 12 year old watched mother and son porn and had pictures of me?... his own mother?!?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 11:26 AM PST

Question: Christmas Eve Arguments..?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 11:21 AM PST

Okay so it s Christmas Eve & my parents got into an argument this morning😏so they haven t been talking✋🏻I think it s so selfish since it divides everything & everyone in the house🖕🏻I just don t know what to do cos I feel tomorrow will be the worst Christmas ever 😏😏someone help me out x

Question: Was quitting my job a good decision?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 11:05 AM PST

I felt I had to quit my job because my mom was promoted to a new job that requires her to work 12-10pm every day starting January 2nd. My dad is on a business trip to Arizona until February, and I have a 13 year old sister and an 8 year old cousin living with me, who I think are incapable of being home without me. my 13 year old sister can barely use a microwave. I'm 18, still in high school, and I felt I needed to leave my job that I really love in order to care for my family. It's not essential for me to have a job right now anyway, but I feel like my situation sounded far fetched to my manager...but anyway, do you think I made the right choice?

Question: How do I tell my family I don't want to sing? (Need advice quick!)?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 11:03 AM PST

(Please don't call me selfish.) Not to long ago, I was asked by a family member to prepare and sing an arrangement I have never heard of. I listened to the song and it was beautiful and my family had gone through the trouble to look it up, send me the lyrics,etc. and I appreciate that very much, but with all honestly, I do not want to preform at all. Although I was asked, I feel as if I am expected to do so after all the trouble my family had gone through for me. I have preformed in front of my family before, but I really wanted to have a relaxed Christmas this year. I don't want to break their hearts since they are so excited, but it's not something I want to do this year. I want to be truthful to them...but how do I tell them no after all the trouble they had gone through for me?

Question: Does my daughter have selective mutism?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 10:52 AM PST

My 13 year old daughter talks a lot when she's at home with me, her mom, and of course her dad who is my husband. Her teachers said that she never ever raise her hand to answer a question and that she doesn't even communicate with the other students all that much, like at lunch or recess. Her teachers said that she just stand there watching as the other students play with each other. She also doesn't talk her cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, or any other family members except for us. She just sits down on the couch and stares.

Question: I don't want to have to outlive my cat because she is too obnoxious and no one would want her. I'm 60. Does this give me the right to.?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 10:45 AM PST

Ha.ahahhhahha.! Who cares ! Santa's coming tomorrow and I don't care what anyone says.Ha-ah ect. ect.hahaha pfff.

Question: Why is my dad is such a bad mood?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 10:44 AM PST

Me and my dad were getting along just fine and now he is all mad. He bought me a Mocha from Dutch Bros and some Chicken from Jack N' The Box. Now he is slamming stuff and I say Hi and tell him that I love him and he still keeps on doing what he is doing. Now he is in the bedroom with the door closed playing on the computer. Why is he acting this way? I don't even know what I did wrong. I'm staying the night at my parents house since yesterday and I will go home on Saturday. I asked if he is mad at me and she didn't say anything. She just carried on doing what he is doing. Why is he so angry? He gets moody allot.

Question: Help me - I got myself into an awkward situation and now I need to figure out how to get out of it?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 10:41 AM PST

I used to do a certain type of creative work, but I stopped because I didn't feel good enough. Recently, a family friend indirectly asked me to do that same type of work. I tried to say no, but the family member would not let me do that. They insisted I was just being too hard on myself - I would be fine and that I should do it. I had the person email me. The email was really the person's coworker. I again didn't feel like doing the project and went back to the family member and said so. Despite being told I was under no obligation to do this, the situation became "She really needs help. You'll be fine - just do it. I want to do this so you can realize you're not as bad as you think you are." Not wanting to upset the friend and start something, I replied back to the friend's co-worker and told them I could/wanted do it. Produced two pieces of possible work to give to them, asked people skilled and experienced in this line of work for critique and I was essentially sent completely back to the drawing board. I've got nothing and they're really better off going to someone else. How can I possibly extricate myself from this situation? The friend went to me because this the work that would be otherwise costly would be free or inexpensive coming from me.

Question: My brother in law hates me.?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 10:37 AM PST

This is so stupid, but its driving me nuts. My husband and I have been married for 5 years, together for 8. We re a normal couple who do normal things and have decent jobs and a great kiddo. No weird skeletons, no weird habits. We are a normal, happy family. And I get along well with his family-with the exception of his older brother. His brother does not give me the time of day. With the exception of marrying his brother and being present for the last 8 years at their family functions, I pretty much have not affected his life in any way and I have gotten nothing but the cold shoulder from him. I ve been around to see him get married to a gal who I get along well with and have a sweet kiddo of his own. I ve tried to show him that I love his brother and his family, but he still has never given me the time of day. His wife has even told me (dont ask me why she would) that he really just doesn t like me. I honestly honestly HONESTLY HAVE NO IDEA WHY! I don t know when or how I would have ever done anything to make him feel this way. So, what do I do? I ve just been leaving it along for the sake of keeping peace. But its so awkward and uncomfortable and I always get bummed about it around the holidays when we re all together. Do I address him about it? Call him out? Do I just leave it alone?

Question: Should I spend Christmas with my family or boyfriend's family?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 10:36 AM PST

My boyfriend of 1 year and I live long distance and usually take turns visiting each other. He was supposed to visit me and my mom for Thanksgiving while I visited his family for Christmas, but he had to cancel Thanksgiving due to last minute work demands. Recently he asked if I could also spend Christmas eve with his family as well as Christmas day. I don't mind spending time with his family, but the problem is my mom had plans too and seems sad at the thought of spending the holidays alone. She's older woman not getting any younger and my family is small and distant as it is, which would make her feel even lonlier. So I asked if he could visit this holiday since he cancelled Thanksgiving, but he seemed hesitant and told me he'll come visit in mid January. Facing a little dilemma here as both of our families are important, what to do?

Question: Dad won't let me get a job?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 10:29 AM PST

I've been waiting for me to turn 16 because I wanted a job. I feel it's a good way for me to earn some money. my dads always talking about "you have to earn money". I guess he wasn't expecting me to want to work, that $80 a year are going to buy me shoes, clothes, and yes that includes school supplies. So I said "I'm going to get a job" and his first thought was whos going to take care of my brother during the weekend. Im not asking to get paid for babysitting because I understand my parentsI work, and my older brothers would abondon him like they did me when I was little. Im getting tired of doing all housework when I lnow I could be earning something and saving up for college, and my own things. I dont like to say this but I shouldnt be held responsible for them not wanting to pay for a babysitter, lr not wanting to pay me. Like I said 80 dollars wont get me a nice pair of shoes. What do I do?

Question: Whenever my dad joins us in festivals,that day becomes really depressing.?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 10:20 AM PST

he says everything that pisses me off, he talks in such way that insults me(infront of all people). he keeps blabbring ,doesnt give any **** about others. damn it ,he really pisses me off but I still respect him and dont say anything to him cuz he is my dad but still.. Whenever he joins us,it becomes really bad/depressing day.

Question: Christmas present dilemma?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 09:54 AM PST

My mother and I agreed to buy presents for my sisters 3 kids and say it was from the both of us, anyway I got them an air hockey table (for all 3) and she got a doll for my niece Kayla, and a game for my nephew Travis, anyway, my youngest nephew Reilly isn't going to have his own gift to open....I told her we could both put like 5-10 dollars in and get him something, she started getting crabby saying the kids will have enough presents on Christmas,ect. and it ended in a big argument........She only has 3 grandkids to buy presents for, she has a decent paying job, and she can't cough up some money to get a small gift for Reilly? I'm just irritated at how cheap she's being. Then again, maybe I'm wrong and it wont be a big deal, I just don't think a 5 year old will accept his brother and sister opening gifts while he only has a shared gift. He has two other grandparents and his parents to get gifts from, nonetheless I still think it's alittle effed up.

Question: What am i gunna do about this?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 09:50 AM PST

what am I supposed to do? im 21 and pregnant. the dad doesn't wanna be in its life. my dad was never in mine.. my moms family has threatened to kick me and my mom out several times in the past..meanwhile my mom freakin goes and decides its a good idea 2 date a guy with a drug history in his family. what the ****? does she not realize theres gunna be a kid in 2 months and the best she can come up with is ohh im sorry ashley you feel lonely but shane is a really a good guy and its none of your business who i date

Question: Depressed, mom ruining the Christmas mood?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 09:49 AM PST

I hasnt really felt like xmas lately because I have sports after school everyday and I get home at 6 with homework and I haven't had time to enjoy the holiday and my moms been ruining the mood. I don't want to sound ungrateful or anything because I appreciate her very much and she does so much for me but ever since I went into highschool she hasn't cared about xmas and constantly yells and has been putting everyone down. I woke up today to my parents fighting because my mom was yelling at my dad because she didn't think it was necessary to go to my dads parents house at five for dinner. She thought that it was to early I felt bad for my dad since my mom doesn't like his parents cause there old and need a lot of help. Then I heard my dad telling her what things to buy me and my sister for xmas and then my dad left and my mom told us she didn't have time to get us anything for xmas and will take us shopping I would understand if she was doing work but she sat and did nothing all day but she yelled at my dad that he needed to go out and get my dog toys for Christmas. I'm just sad because last week I busted my *** after sports everyday going to stores to find the perfect gifts for her because she deserves it and I'm just upset she doesn't even try to get into the holiday spirit and I feel she just doesn't care anymore because me and my sister are both in highschool. I really wanted to just have one last nice family Christmas before my sister leaves and now I'm just depressed.

Question: My father left when I was a child. (3) How would I go about finding him ?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 09:44 AM PST

Question: What to do with my mom's gambling problem?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 09:40 AM PST

Hi, I'm 15 years old and my mom has a gambling problem. My mom gambles a ton of money, we already lost the house and now this is our 3rd house (moved out of the first one on purpose). I can't tell if she wants to stop or not. I'm literally gonna tell my school about the gambling problem and she will be taken away from me and my family. But she would be so depressed and end up going more but I can't help her. It's Christmas Eve and my mom isn't here to spend time with me and my family, she's still at the casino as I'm talking right now. Gosh I don't know what to do, she's also banned from seeing her family, my grandma and grandpa. My family is her only family, if she's taking away from this then she would be devastated. Maybe I should worry about myself more than her, I am in 10th grade. What can I do to help her? Thank you☺️

Question: Can someone give me tips on how to cope with these problems?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 09:30 AM PST

Well.... my life aint going great right now....and my mom yells at me and hits me on a daily basis tells family members of past things i did...she doesnt trust me ....and my grades...im trying my best in school but my grades arent improving ...i do my work and try my best but my grades arent raising ........i tried talking to my mom she wont listen...........and my life is just at an all time low can someone please tell me how to cope withh this.......

Question: How will I be happy without my family..?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 09:30 AM PST

my family generally does not like me. they hate my personality and style. sometimes I can be a bit mean and impatient but I think itd cause I was always alone as a child.. my brother and sister grew up together and I came years later. I'm also completely different from my family. I just don't fit in. yesterday me and my sister got into a big argument and prior to the argument my mom explained how she was ready for me to graduate and get me through college so she can move on with her life. I have nobody. everyone likes my sister more. how will I ever be happy? I want to kill myself but I also want to be an anestiologist so I can't kill myself right now but I'm just extremely unhappy with myself and my life. I'm only a sophomore in high school. how I do live in a house where I'm not liked? how do I be happy? I also use to smoke hella weed but I gave it up and ever since then ive been so unhappy, I know drugs aren't the answer but they sue in the hell feel like it

Question: Women mature question no lies?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 09:00 AM PST

She claim to be a virgin & said she wants to hold/wait to do it. I'm a gentlemen so i respected it. She left to college. We kept it in touch but broke up. I'd then see pics of her drinking/flirting/dirtydancing with guys online. A year later today she's 19 and im 24. She recently moved back home and is now staying since she missed home. She one day called me and we hung out. I asked if she dated? She said "nothing serious". I asked how far she got sexually? She wouldn't answer it. I had to ask many times and she began sprinting, covering her ears, singing a song to avoid my question. I then admitted i slept with a girl we both know. She got pissed and dumped me. She also barely got a tongue piercing I don't know why. why is it she couldn't she answer a simple question? it sounds like she playing mind games or did sleep around while out there.

Question: My mom is moving in with my family again. Help!?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 08:29 AM PST

My mom stole my dad's money to buy drugs and cheated on him with another man about 3 years ago. Now I am 13 and she wants to move back because she lost her apartment. My Dad forgave her and she claims she isn't doing drugs anymore and isn't with that other guy. Of course I don't trust her. Anyways, I learned to absolutely love living without her. I adjusted to buying my own food, clothes, and other necessities. I ride my bike anywhere I need to go. Basically I am pretty independent. (I still can't afford rent, internet, water, gas and all that stuff but I am only 13 so I think it's okay until I am legally allowed to work.) I really don't want her here because I love my independence. Last time she visited us she cooked, cleaned, and took us out to eat. Now I feel like I owe her because she payed for the food and cleaning supplies and did all the work. My income right now is only enough for the stuff I need. (I babysit) I can't be paying her back and having her do extra things for me that I owe her for. Do you know what I should do?

Question: Was this abuse?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 08:16 AM PST

I'm 17 and I don't know why, but I've always remembered this from my childhood, but I always felt like it was my fault. I remember once when I was like 4 or 5 I sprayed windex all over my room. Like I sprayed it on my bed sheets and everything. I don't remember why, but I was a little kid, I was probably just trying to clean or something because I saw my mom using windex all the time. When my mom saw what I did, she starting hitting me, pulling my hair, and pinned me up against the wall. When my dad cam home, it was time for me to go to bed and he changed my sheets for me, but then my mom came in my room and started pulling the covers off me. At that time, I shared a room with my dad. (My mom always slept on the couch) and my mom kept coming into my room that night to hit me, and he would just lay in his bed and not do anything. I cried myself to sleep that night. There was another time when I was like 8, my mom got really mad at me. I forget why, but she was probably drunk or something, because she was drunk a lot throughout my childhood. She just started yelling at me, and she ripped up a mother's day card that I had just got for her and threw it on the floor in my room. I remember I bought the card with my aunt, and she helped me write a nice note to my mom inside. I remember her yelling something like "YOU DIDNT WRITE THIS, SHE DID!" (She meaning my aunt) I have a better relationship with my mom now, but I barely talk to my dad, and we live under the same roof.

Question: How can I get my mom to stop making my sister promises she can't keep?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 08:15 AM PST

I have a sister who lives in a different city from our family and she struggles a lot financially. She's not the problem though, the problem is that my mom continuously makes my sister promises that she can't help with. She'll tell her for example that we'll (the local family) do maintenance on her car, buy her son suits for church, send her cash for this or that and other things. My sister and her kids are visiting for Christmas and I'm just now realizing the magnitude of things we've gotten them so far. Even though she says that 'we'll' help, the burden falls on my older brother and I. My mom is 68, she's retired and doesn't make enough income to keep herself afloat so my brother and I supplement her income. I love my mom, but I'm a student and I can't afford to continue to do this. I feel so bad not fulfilling her promises to my sister because my sister tries so hard to raise her kids to the best of her ability and she doesn't ask for anything, my mom offers it and my sister gets excited about having a burden taken from her shoulders. I've talked to my mom about this and I've only been frustrated by her manipulative responses. She will angrily say that she's sorry and that she's stupid but nothing changes, it continues to happen. I'm sympathetic to the fact that she's getting older and it's probably frustrating to have to depend on support from family members but I honestly can't continue to fulfill her many promises. Does anyone have any advice moving forward?

Question: My Dad Keeps On Talking About My Personal Things In Front Of My Grandparents?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 08:12 AM PST

The last time my grandparents saw me, I was young and since then I have become older (duh) Now hes like, "WHAT ARE U PMSing ----?" And hes questioning me about all of my underwear with the smallest red spot IN FRONT OF THEM. When I tell him to stop hr says that I shouldn't be embarrassed, but he keeps on making fun of me. Then hr talks about my dates and Im not even in a major relationship, they're just dates. Then he makes a huge deal about my political party that chashes with everybody elses just to get me in a debate. I can't disrespect him, especially when I'm away from home. WHAT DO I DO, I'M REALLY EMBARRASSED?

Question: What would my son be to my grandad's sister?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 07:46 AM PST

Question: How can I tell my parents I masturbate?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 07:34 AM PST

I have a penis inflammation from masturbating so I wanted to to tell my dad I masturbate by handing him a letter that explains. I know he won't be mad. But every time I try to talk to him I get scared. Can anyone help me with this?

Question: How to convince my parents for a golden retriever???

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 06:46 AM PST

see i love golden retrivers and wanna have one, i have everything that it takes to have on of them,, but the probelem with that is my father says, "Who will get a walk for him?" i am always ready to get a walk!!!!! but still he dos`nt! another thing i only go to school for like 6 hours and else wise i am home sunday is off???? any suggestion how to???? can anyone give me fast suggestions!!!!!!!!!!! also should i get 2 or more????

Question: I was babysitting my siblings and yelled at them and then I got an asthma attack and they promised not to tell mum but my sister snitched..?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 06:43 AM PST

My mum was at work and my little brother was helping me clean up the house. My little sister, who s 11, was being a pain and didn t help. I asked her repeatedly and instead she went to play on her phone. I lost it and started yelling at her. Then she got mad and started helping me with the laundry... But then she threw some on the floor in a sarcastic kinda way. I yelled at her kinda loud.... And I was like how I was gonna kill her blah blah blah but I didn t mean it obviously. She got pissed and then I had an asthma attack.. And then she got scared and her and my 9 y/o brother got my inhalers and helped me. They were like they weren t gonna tell mum. Then later today, I was arguing with my brother and then my sister blurts out the whole thing and my mum got pissed at me and ws like how she can t teus trust me... And how the neighbour keep staring at her with like smirks on their faces... Like with a know it all attitude. Yh and then she stormed out of the house with my lil bro and sis and now.I feel like **** ...

Question: Am I being neglected and abused or am i over reacting?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 06:39 AM PST

I m 12 turning 13 in a couple months I m the kid in class that gets picked on about her weight over the past year I have gone through depression,anxiety and self harm. I m not at all proud or looking for attention My dad calls me fat,stupid,ugly,ect. He says I never do anything and that all I do is sit around and play on my phone when really I do most of the work cause I m the youngest in the house. My mom works from 6 am to 8:30 pm so she s always busy. My brothers have girlfriends and call me annoying when I don t even talk to them I know it s normal for brothers to "hate" their sisters but that s most likely when they re 10-17 my brothers are 20 and 24 I have friends but I don t like it when they come over because I m scared my dad is gonna yell at me in front of them I don t know if this is normal or if I m just over reacting

Question: My aunt is annoying and I hate living with her... help!?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 06:22 AM PST

So, I started living with my grandmother and my aunt back last summer. I don't have the best parents, but I am a very well disciplined person- I just have issues with being forgetful. For example: I may make a small mess in the kitchen while cooking. Go and eat, and then come and clean everything. I'm not a neat freak. Or sometimes I'll leave the back door open accidentally, when I get my laundry- we live in a full family house so our backdoor is inside. Or even if I fold a towel wrong or leave my eyeliner on the sink or leave the washer machine open SHE THINKS RATS WILL JUMP IN IT (WE DON'T HAVE RATS) god forbid there is a HAIR OUT OF PLACE IN THIS HOUSE and she even gets at my grandmother who is also not a neat freak, however we do clean up after ourselves even if not right away. I can stand her trying to parent me but not my grandmother. She drives me NUTS,EVERY LITTLE THING? I put some plates and a glass in the dish holder and put in an oven tray on the plates.. she says they will break.. THEY NEVER HAVE, since I've visited here when I was younger.This is my grandmothers house. I am not downing her, but she feels as if she knows everything when she is so, so wrong sometimes- but I respect her and just say yes or no. It's just I'm going nuts. I am not a perfect person but it seems she wants us to be utterly perfect, and I for the time being plan to remember any little movement I make so that I can undo it- but it's hard when she NIT PICKS. Any advice?

Question: How to deal with this lady?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 06:22 AM PST

My mom has become friends with our neighbor. She is divorced, and has two kids. Even my mom has admitted that she seems like an alcoholic (I think they both are but that's another can of worms) and for a while they would go out drinking every night. This lady comes over to our house ( once at 1am) to borrow things (phone chargers, beer, etc.) She was in jail for stealing 100k from her old job. One time I came home and she was asleep on our couch. Recently she comes over for 3 or 4 hours drinking with my mom and they talk about me. One time I was literally in the room next to the kitchen, and I could hear every word. It is very annoying. They say nasty things about me. One time they were talking about awful it was that I barely talked to them - which is true. My mom likes to gossip about me because I don't agree with her decisions. She's very manipulative and all of her friends thinks she's really nice but she's very angry towards me. . I literally just do school and stay in my room. She brings her boyfriend over, first time they were drunk and had sex on the couch. The second time I was home alone and I got weird vibes from him, the third time he told me the shirt I borrowed from my mom looked better on me??? After some talk with a concealer and family members I realize I am NOT the crazy one. (ran out of words) But what can I do about this lady? I normally try to avoid her but tonight we are going to a Christmas party with friends. I'm afraid she's going to drink and bad mouth me to all these people. She won't know anybody. Please help. I'm 16

Question: My parents kicked me out of the house. How do I convince them to take me back?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 06:14 AM PST

I'm staying with my best friend right now, but I mean, I can't stay with her forever, and I'm worried her parents are sick of me. I've called my parents like a trillion times and they NEVER answer the damn phone. Hell, I've even tried going over there like 3 times but the housekeeper keeps on telling me they're not there. They kicked me out a few weeks back because I threw this huge party at my house whilst they were out of town and I got super wasted and high, and they caught me having sex with this random guy too, ugh basically the entire thing's a blur, cause I was really drunk, but I remember my parents kicking me out the very next day. It's nearly Christmas, and I want to spend it with my family. I don't want them to be mad at me anymore. What do I do? ☆ Sent from iOS Dr. Know! 1.0

Question: Do they favor? How if so?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 06:13 AM PST

Question: Girls emergency mature question?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 05:57 AM PST

She had claimed to be a virgin and said she wanted to hold/wait. I'm a gentlemen so i highly respected that. She left to school 5 hours away. We kept it in touch but had to break up. Id see pics of her drinking/flirting/dirty/ dancing with guys on facebook. A year later today she's 19 and im 24. She recently moved back home and is staying since she missed home. She called me and we got food. I asked if she dated? She said nothing serious. I asked how far she got sexually? She wouldn't answer it. I re-asked and she started sprinting, covering her ears, singing a song to avoid my question. I then admitted i slept with a girl we both know. She got pissed and dumped me. She also barely got a tongue piercing idk why. why couldn't she answer such a simple question????? idk guys it sounds like she playing mind games or did dirt out there in college.

Question: My mom has always been a deadbeat and its finally killing my dad?!?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 05:57 AM PST

I'm not talking about sahms who do a lot for their families, just my own mother. She just completely refuses to get a job. She and my dad have had screaming matches about it....and I don't know why she won't. My dad has always had med issues but he had to ignore them since there was no med insurance. Now they're bad enough where he can't ignore them anymore. But he can't get a better job because they'll lose their house and everything... Growing up, me and my sib had to make a lot of sacrifices since we didn't have enough money. Now that I've been through the process of moving out and pay in my own bills, I understand how much we and our dad gave up. I also missed out on college since I can't risk having loans since there's so many horror stories. ..I wouldn't have minded working through college, but since semesters need to be paid upfront...well, I just wish I'd had a small college fund. I don't want to have to see my dad be disabled or even die when I'm only in my early 20s. Why has my mother always been so selfish? She always had an extra car, and she didn't have any debt to pay off herself so I don't think she was running from anything. To Messykatt: Well...if you call being tied to a mortgage on a house that doesn't have enough value to sell for a profit w/o even counting the thousands in repairs it needs, and that if it foreclosed my parents would've both been homeless, then you could say he made a choice. My mom understood finances really well, so she really roped my dad in from pretty much the moment they met with credit, joint account, etc. If they ever divorced, she'd have made sure he suffered for it as much as possible. And yeah, I know it's weird that I know so much, but like I said I've had to deal with my own finances. So I understand now a lot of the decisions they (aka my mother) made, and why they didn't make sense to me at the time. And she offhandedly mentioned some of it anyway...she does all the budgeting/money decisions and always has. To Anon, I don't think that's her problem...she doesn't want to be self employed or online either...

Question: My mom clean up after herself. She's here visiting the rest of the week. What should I do?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 05:54 AM PST

The whole house smells like cat poop right now, because she takes the cat litter and just puts it in a paper towel in the trash and leaves it open. Last night she threw the cat litter gloves under the sink and I had to pick them up and put them in a bag. She leaves her stuff sitting all over the living room and kitchen and won't pick it up. I gave her a list of ways she could clean up and she crumpled it up and threw it in the garbage. Last time she came over I spent about 2 weeks completely getting rid of the mess. She got one of the cups and peed in it outside, left the garbage overflowing, and didn't do any dishes the entire time she was here. She took all the dish detergent and dumped it in a big pile in the dish washer, so I had to buy more. I've tried talking to her about it, but she keeps leaving a mess. What should I do? Edit on the title: I meant to say "my mom won't clean up after herself." Any answers making jokes on it will be thumbs down or reported, depending on how annoying they are.

Question: Mom walked in on me?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 05:33 AM PST

So yesterday night. I was bored alone in my room, so I decided it would be fun to explore myself. So I decided to get nude, and look at myself on my cam on my laptop. So at the time no one was home, so I didn t lock my door. So she came home and I didn t hear her. She walked in on me with my laptop on and me fully nude. It was so awkward, but I feel like it was her fault. Like why come into my room? Btw I m like 19. So o don t know what to do know, except feel really awkward and not show my face anymore.

Question: Need help panicking?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 05:27 AM PST

So I have a mom fetish I guess you could say and last night I ejaculated on my moms one pair of underwear and she found out today and she's asking me and I don't want to tell her that it's sperm. I just don't know what to tell her

Question: Who should pay for the headstone? The grown children of the deceased first wife or my husband of 10 years? She passed away 12 yrs ago.?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 05:18 AM PST

Question: HELP my dad hasn t come home yet?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 04:52 AM PST

My dad has work from 3 pm to 12 am and he isn't home yet and he s supposed to be here from 8 hours ago. I got a unknown phone number at 6:30 am and I answered which was making weird noises? What do I do, I can t call the police unless it's been 24 hours!

Question: How vcan u get past your bedtime with an excuse??

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 04:50 AM PST

How can you get past your bedtime with an excuse???

Question: Constantly wishing my little brother wasn't born?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 04:44 AM PST

Recently our family has lost a lot of money and for some reason I always find myself blaming it on my little brother. Like for example: my mom pays for a very expensive online schooling for both my sister and my brother and she would be saving so much money if he wasn't alive. I feel kind of evil saying this but I just feel like he's a waste of space. I don't have anything in common with him, he's gross, never showers or bathes, annoys the crap out of me, is fat, only plays minecraft, smells like crap, and so many other things. He's the one person in my family that seriously makes me mad and it hasn't gotten better with age. I just find myself hating him so much and thinking that our financial problems and other problems would be so different if my mom didn't have another kid to care about.

Question: I saw my son masterbating and he was watching something called mom and son videos? & he had bikini pics of me from the beach, what do I do?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 04:35 AM PST

unplugged and took his computer away but he still tries to look at me when changing and stuff, not sure what his deal is.

Question: I have a couple "bad" pics of me on my ipad and my sister took it last night and saw the pics of my penis I'm scared she'll tell my momHelp.?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 04:22 AM PST

Question: Does anyone else find this odd?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 04:13 AM PST

The other day I went with my family to a house showing. We removed our shoes when we entered. Everyone else wore socks, but I was barefoot as I had worn sandals. When asking us questions in different rooms, the realtor kept saying "Emily, how does that floor feel?" And "Emily, how does that carpet feel?" I later asked her why she kept asking me that, and she said that it was because I was the only one with bare feet instead of wearing socks, thus able to feel the floors and carpets easier to feel the floors/carpets so my opinion was especially important to her. Does anyone else find this odd?

Question: The mother of my child wants a fair share of custody despite the fact I have been raising our daughter. How can I resolve this situation?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 03:44 AM PST

I was in a casual relationship with an older woman and everything was fine until she became pregnant. She made it care that her life and career was the priority and that was did not want a baby. However she kept the child and allowed me to take the responsibility. She gave birth last year when I was still only 22 (she being 34) so it was a really big responsibility for me. Our relationship broke down after and all my efforts were on caring for this beautiful little girl. Thankfully I had my family to help me - it's been tough but it feels amazing to be a dad. However the mother has really contracted me demanding to have a fair share of custody. Of course she has rights and it's important for everyone that things can be resolved. But I don't like how she can just walk in.

Question: So I was talk with my sisters boyfriend and I said something he didn't know about and he got mad?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 03:34 AM PST

So I was talk with my sisters boyfriend and my sister was hearing and in the middle of the conversation I said something that my sisters boyfriend didn't know about and he got mad and now I feel uncomfortable and feel bad for saying something I wasn't suppose to have said.

Question: My mom forbids me from talking to my dad?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 02:46 AM PST

He's not biological dad, I never met him. He was my step dad but he's been around since I was 10 so it's the closest thing I have to father. I'm 21 now and she says I can't talk to him. I'm legally an adult I know but she acts like I'm an asshole,I talk to him anyway but she doesn't know mostly. She knows I do once in a while but she bitches at me. She tries to make me feel guilty and stuff. I wanna see him because its Christmas but my mom said I can't. I know I'm adult and can do whatever but idk what to do because she's my mom. What should I do?

Question: Are my parents controlling? I m 22 and they still try and tell me what to do?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 02:34 AM PST

As I said, I m 22, moved out, graduated university, have a job, and they are trying to tell me what to do. I ve always had a restricted childhood which means I ve always been rebellious. But when I got my navel pierced when I was 16 they went apeshit and kicked me out. I had to live with a friend until I removed it. I ve recently just come back from a 4 month work-related training stuff from Norway and I ve come back with pink hair (temporary dye), and dreadlocks. Anyways I m home for Christmas and they won t let me in the house because of my hair. I ve grown up, moved out, finished my education, have a job, and am completely financially independent from them and they still tell me what I can and cannot do. Is this normal? Or are they just in general controlling parents?

Question: Is it normal to feel like this towards my cousin?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 02:01 AM PST

I have this cousin(Samantha) who is 22 years old and we became close over the 5 years. Everytime when I come to my aunt we would sit in a room and talk about our personal life. We even take selfies together. Btw I'm a guy and she is a girl . Anyway there is something that is off about her. She doesn't support my career choice of becoming a tattoo artist/piercer. Now and then I have to lie about my career choice. She also says that my music(I listen to Metal and Punk) is weird and the devil has ways of indoctrinating people. I can admit she was raised in a strict Christian family.I was also raised in Christian family but became Agnostic and I think she is too conservative to my liking. Anyway when it was my other cousin's(Heather) wedding a week ago, Samantha and I sat down,ate and spoke a little bit. A few hours later Samantha's mother comes to me asking me why am I not looking after her. It was only later that I realized she was acting rather strange. My other cousins had to tell me that she was drunk.She was saying a lot of unusual things and I tried my best to avoid her. She was making scene. I was pissed off because I hate being a babysitter to someone. PS I don't give sympathy towards drunk people. Samantha also scatched my cousin(Janet) on her eye. On Sunday I was glad she didn't come because I would of scolded at her for doing this. My mother was also asking if Samantha was drunk that night. In my perspective I think she is weird and stupid in a way.Is this normal? I mean I'm close to her but I think she is a real b*tch. Is it normal to feel that way. She also once showed me meme of what an old person would look like if they had tattoos. I mean this is a great disrespect to me.

Question: How do I solve this.?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 01:20 AM PST

I'm a 15yo guy. The other day I invited my boyfriend over to my house(saying he is my best friend) and e were watching a movie and we started making out but my mom caught us doing it. My boyfriend got kicked out and my mom is threatening to send me to a conversion camp

Question: Why didnt my mom tell me she has a gf?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 12:59 AM PST

So recently, I was walking home with my friend & I heard noises in my room so i went to got check it out & I open the door & i see my mom naked with a ******* ***** who is I think younger than her in my room. Luckily, they didnt notice me, so i close the door & i was like wtf is this. Then i found out why my mom has been acting so ******* weird. My friend also saw that nasty **** & when they finished their "job" , i find my bro in my moms room asleep. i here my room door opening & my friend & me hide. I see my mom & that whore walk in & my mom says thank you. I needed that" & that skank says "anytime you sexy single hispanic bad girl". Ugh, i jus wanted to punch that ***** in the face. Then my mom says "come back at 12 & well do it better". My mom isnt cheating on my dad cuz he was deported back to Él Salvador & died weeks ago, but im still pissed. My mom is guatemalan & i know how to speak spanish & english. My friend went back home & said hell tell nobody about what he saw. I stood awake till 12:09 & my mom was putting roses around my houses jacuzzi & i hear knocks on the door & my mom opens the door & she greets that ***** with a kiss. Right now there probably still in the jacuzzi. Why didnt my mom tell me has a gf? What should i do?

Question: Had an Argument with my 25 yr old cousin. sick&tired of her being rude and getting away with it! Tired of her disrespecting me. any advice?

Posted: 24 Dec 2015 12:54 AM PST

im 15 and me and my 25 yr old cousin had an argument over texting, bc she had an errand to run and she wanted me to go with her so she would be able to use the carpool lane (i literally go everywhere she asks me to) but my mom told her she wont let me go that day with her. so my cousin texted me and started calling me fake and selfish bc i didnt defend her. like how am i supposed to defend her if my mom didnt let me go? and then she started talking **** about my dad (she always had beef with my dad) and then she told me "if i was 16 i would of beat ur ***" and stuff like that. I go everywhere with her and waste my days on her errands&this one time i dont go somewhere this is how she reacts. now she always comes into my house and talks to my mom (she lives next door) and today she asked me if i could help her with something, like she tried talking to me as if everythings ok.this isnt the first time she has argued with me like this& its very rude. she thinks she can insult me and act like its okay.what do u guys think i should do? ignore her? talk to her again? or just tell her i want nothing to do with her bc im sick of all her obnoxious actions. am i wrong for feeling this way? im just so tired of feeling used, or like a toy, that you can insult me that way and then act like nothing ever happened. any advice? thankyou