Family: Question: Does my dad verbally abuse me? What should I do?

Question: Does my dad verbally abuse me? What should I do?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 12:55 PM PST

So the night before Christmas Eve, my parents arrived at my grandparents' house.They told me that they haven't bought me the thing I wanted for Christmas,although, a few weeks before I showed them what I wanted and they said that they'll buy me it; anyway, it was Christmas morning.We were preparing to go to church.My mom helped my little sister for about an hour, when I went to her to ask her where the comb was, she ignored me.While I was waiting for her to respond, my dad came at me yelling why am i not preparing.Later, when i was going to sleep, i was mad because my mom lied to me and told me the truth in the last second I needed to hear it.My dad thought that I was mad because I didn't want to visit my siblings, and he yelled at me that I am too spoiled and ungrateful (I was having a headache at the time and he knew that).This evening, some family friends came to visit us.They said they were going to go to sing carols to the neighbors, and he said he was going with them too. I took my drum and said thet I wanted to come too,but, he told me to stay at home and took my drum.I went in my room and my mom asked me what happened.I told her and she made him come to me and invite me to go with them.I refused because I knew he didn't want me to go so he yelled at me and threatened me.So my mom,sister and dad left without me. P.S.I'm 13 | I only have very good grades ,he threatens me to get good grades and always yells and threatens me if I don't agree with him or do what he wants

Question: How do you feel when your parents lie to you?n y do they do this?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 12:48 PM PST

Im 13 My mom lie to 3 time it made fell depressed BC wen she lie to me it hurt me me bad she lied about my dad she said that he never left n wen i figure that out the thrth that he left me hurted me

Question: As a 19 year old?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 12:44 PM PST

as a 19 year old man how much do you interfere in family matters and how much do you spend time with your family and discuss with them about family matters? when your parents are arguing about something do you say something or just don't interrupt?

Question: Why is my dad so mean to me for little things????

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 12:41 PM PST

He gets angry at little things and acts sheepish for big events. Today I asked him to type in the card information for his card because I am setting up a new ipad and in order or the App Store I need it. But he started yelling and screaming at me for setting up a passcode for my ipad and when he has pass words on every electronics he has too! One time I accidentally opened the car door after he closed it and then he started calling me stupid and mocking me. He yelled at me for walking in front of him so I slowed down then he called me slow and mocked me again. He does this a lot and got mad at me for buying sushi????!!!!!! I have enough of this! Why is he like this? HE IS SUCH A JERK!

Question: Family with demands?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 12:35 PM PST

I have family that expect my family to accomadate to their needs. My in-laws thinks that I should put my parents aside, my church family aside, and my life aside, so they can have a relationship with our children. I'm spread too thin as it is and don't really care to hang out with them. They are total opposites of our family. Do you have demanding family members? They see them just as much as my other family does. I'm speaking of sister & brother in-laws.

Question: I didn't get anything for Christmas?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 12:32 PM PST

I don't know, I'm a bit salty right now. I spent 200 dollars on my family members this Christmas and I only got vitamin pills from my older cousin. The only gift I actually got was from my grandma, who doesn't even work, yet still was able to muster 20 dollars. A card would've been nice, or a hanes shirt but nothing. I know this time of year is about giving, but it seems no one spent the time to give anything to me.

Question: Is this natural curiosity or do I have some odd kind of interest?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 12:27 PM PST

I'm 14. My identical twin sister and I are going to be spending 2 weeks at my grandparents while our parents are on a work trip overseas. We've been warned that my grandparents believe in spanking, and although that has never happened to us (nor even been threatened) that it is their house/their rules, and even at our age it could happen. I'm like never in trouble so it isn't a real issue, but I'm honestly really curious. Spanking is such a taboo thing nowadays, my parents were very much time out and talking parents, and so were pretty much all of my friends......I'm actually thinking about getting in trouble once just to see what it's all about. I'm nervous and uncertain about it, but I'm just really curious but my sister is convinced I have some crazy sexual obsession, which not in the least. It doesn't sound the least bit pleasant, I just am really really curious about something that seems so outdated. Am I crazy for being curious?

Question: You know how babies run to parents?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 12:20 PM PST

I'm going be an uncle. So lets say if i saw my niece in public and the parents went to the bathroom would she go over to me while my brother gone ? Do babies catch on to relatives

Question: My grandparents wont give me my PRIVACY! WHY?!?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 12:19 PM PST

Look. I am visiting family on my own, staying with my grandparents. They are always trying to change my mind, wont let me stay home alone even if it s for just 15 freaking minutes, they smile at me with a huge grin like as if i was a baby who didnt understand me, they try to punish me if I dont agree, I have a camera that i got for Christmas and i told them THREE TIMES that i would be filming on my IPAD! I told my dad and he keeps telling me ``Talk to them or ``Come on, you are coming back in like, 2 days . They wont leave me alone. Here are the rules at my home: `` I cannot stay home alone for more than 5-8 hours, they will only punish me only for certain reasons, like if i fail a test, or i dont do my homework, they always listen to my point of view and reasons, if i film, I can use any camera i want, except if one of my parents are using it!!

Question: Why won t my parents let me hang out with anyone?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 12:18 PM PST

I m a 13 year old girl and whenever i want to hang out with my friends a lot. But when I do, it s an automatic no. They re excuses include, bad grades(ONE B), room isn t clean(it s spotless), my bathroom isn t clean(also spotless), we live too far out of town(10 miles) or simply it s because it was last minute plans, even if it s 2 days in advance. I really want to be social because I m always in my room with nothing to do. When my older sister was my age, they didn t care what she did. She was always allowed to do whatever, wear whatever, and get whatever, when I was lever allowed leave the house!

Question: My grandma is judging me on what i eat?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 12:17 PM PST

I'm 18 and I'm an average girl and my grandma judged me for throwing a pot pie in the oven! She thinks it won't fill me up (which it will cuz I get full easily) and she thinks pot pies are only for my brother.. She said we have a lot of left overs and she asked why I didn't wanna eat it so I told her I just decided to eat pot pie for lunch and she gave me the hand. I get she just had a stroke but c'mon who the hell is she to judge me and say I won't get filled up cuz she wants me eating rice twice a day and I only eat rice at dinner but not a lot of it I dont see her eating pot pie and so what its small and I said its the size of other little pot pies and she thought I was being smart and I can't leave until I graduate this year.. I told my brother to just eat the pot pie cuz I lost my appetite because of her being rude and judging me for eating a small thing what do I do :(

Question: Is my house haunted?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 12:09 PM PST

My 11 year old sister has been really sad lately. She said that this 13 year old boy name Caleb died. I don't really know who that is though. Last night she woke me up and told me while she was praying to God to help the family heal she felt stand by her next to the bed while she was praying, and when she looked around she didn't see anything but still felt it next to her bed. She told me she wants Caleb to come back when I let her sleep in my bed, but I don't remember her being friends with a Caleb. I saw her whispering in thin air and nobody was in the room and whenever she walks around the house she looks around the house. I asked her who Caleb was and she showed me a picture and it was this account that made a paragraph grieving about his death. I dont think he'll be in the house with her unless she called his spirit. He would most likely be watching over his family. Do you think he's in my house and only my sister can see or feel him, or did my sister make him as an imaginary friend so she wouldn't be as sad and feel like he's still here?

Question: Younger brother just got engaged?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 12:05 PM PST

I have a very awkward and weird dilemma. My younger brother just got engaged to my best friend.. They must have been courting and just not really letting everyone know. Parents probably did. I can honestly say I knew something was going on but they always denied it. Well I am so very happy for them! I truly am. But I am grappling with myself and feeling like the soon to be old made. Both are about 1 year or so younger than me. I don't have a car yet and I am not driving as much as him. Given the fact that I graduate college in 5 months, I still feel some kind of way. I don't want to be bitter or jealous. Has anyone had experiences like this before. How did you handle it? I also have to take into consideration that they've known eachother for the longest and have been "in love' for a while... It's just that they met earlier in life. I havent met him yet..

Question: Is my mother emotionally abusive?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 11:59 AM PST

She thinks she is alwayse right, even if the proof is in her face. She keeps on calling me a stupid kid and thinks I can't to anything right. Im 16. If I tell her I want to be treated with respect she will yell at me as loud as she can right in my face. And she is always bitching about even non bitchable things like waiting the 3 seconds it takes for a youtube video to load and everyday life stuff like she would ***** about having to get out of a fricking car. Ive become scared of her and have even considered suicide just to get away from her. She treats me like property. She keeps on referring to me as my. My child, my kids stuff, my my my. She tries to look through my phone and private things. I have cried myself to sleep countless times because of her, and I'm a big and strong guy. I give her no reason to hate me, I don't do crimes, I don't do drugs, I do everything she ask me to right away with no complaining. I don't even get to feel like a human around her. I feel like her pet. She often embarrasses me in front ot others. I need to get away from her. So is she emotionally abusive or is she right and I'm just being a stupid kid? I tried to run away once and for 3 days after that she was yelling at me non stop.

Question: Should I get help for him or should I give him space?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 11:56 AM PST

Some background to this: my circle of friends have become very close to the parent of one of our best friends (we are all in our late teens and early 20s, he is 48). Tragically, we lost him (our friend) 3 months ago and it hurts every day, but we are trying to get through it. Our lost friend and his father had an extremely close bond (he had raised him alone since early childhood and he did not get into another long-term relationship, so he was his only child). We have also tried to support his father, but his behavior has become worrying to me. Whenever we saw him, he always tried to act happy (sometimes overly so) always tried to take care of us (even though we should have been trying to take care of him). The fact that he always overdid himself when trying to project an image of happiness and being ok was the first sign to me that something was not right. After a while we began to notice that a whiff of alcohol began to follow him and although we never saw him drink (or at least he never drank in front of us) there seemed to be an increase in the number of beer bottles in his house. I asked my mother for advice and she told me that we were being too intrusive and that we should leave him for some time to get over grief. Apparrently when she saw him in the supermarket a week before Christmas he was in tears and was sobbing to himself in a relatively isolated corner. She says she did not say anything to him because she did not want to embarrass him (cont) She did speak to him later, however. I was away for Christmas so I could not see him then, but my friends did and told me that he was in terrible shape. I am wondering if i should get help him as a precaution, or if we are being too intrusive and should give him time to grieve.

Question: My mother kicked me out?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 11:54 AM PST

Im 14 btw Anyways we have always had problems she stresses me out i stress her out i feel like its my opportunity to leave i was planning to get emancipated anyways but where can i go? To my dad's we haven't talked since i was like 7 he has been trying to repair our relationship problem we living about 30 min away from the bigger city Can i get on a bus i don't have money i don't know what to do but sure as hell i wont stay here

Question: Family memeber bought child expensive shoes vs what he needs...? Rude or nice?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 11:31 AM PST

My family makes fun of me for buying my kids pretty much nothing but yard sale toys & clothes plus I can say I have a lot of friends that have been kind enough to pass a ton of hand me does to us. My daughter has clothes from size 4T-6x in her closet waiting on her she's size 3T. My son is wearing 18-24 months. I have started watching for 4T for him. Almost all their toys even for Xmas were second loved toys. Their rooms are healing with toys. They are so spoiled. My kids want for nothing!! But she bought my son (he's 13 months old) air Jordan shoes. They were $48. To me that's gross money to spend on 1 pair of kids shoes. I would badly spend that on my shoes. She ripped the tags off in front of me. Told me "now your kids have something nice & finally NEW!" I was kinda shocked. I said thankful but also joked she was crazy for spending that. He wore them for the day & I'm tempted to put them on eBay, or a local Facebook site to sell them for even $30-$35. My husband has been off work for 4 months (major unplanned surgery) . 2-3 cases of diapers would be a great help for that price or even put that money aside for clothes,shoes etc. clearance section or yard sale could get half a wardobe for that. Thoughts?

Question: When did it become embarrassing to you for your mom to see you nude?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 11:18 AM PST

What about your father or siblings?

Question: Is me and my cousins relationship weird?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 11:09 AM PST

So my cousin is thirteen and I'm twenty-one. We've been real close since he was a baby, and basically I watched him grow up. Though I never really saw him as being younger than me when I was still a teen, he was basically the only cousin me and my sister had to play with when we were younger, because the others were older than us. And when he's around since I basically like to keep to myself I still hang out in his room and play video games, and talk. The age difference doesn't really come to mind at the time, until someone says something about it. Like today my mom mentioned that I thought he was my age. I'm basically an adult even though I don't act like it, and he's a teen. Is this at the stage where it's getting weird? Or is this basically normal behavior between cousins? They never said anything about it when we were younge

Question: Help a Veteran/Interpreter.?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 11:04 AM PST

I don't know where to start. I am male 23 from Afghanistan. I have left my country two months ago to one of the neighboring countries. Some insurgents tried to kill me and my family because I have served as an interpreter with US military in Afghanistan for three years during op enduring freedom. I am in a bad situation. I have no option left but to write this online. My father is diabetic, and i have four young sibling to feed. The last thing i had was my sell phone which i just sold an hour ago. Please help me anybody. I promise to pay you back every single penny. I need some money. If any doubts i will provide you with solid prove of my employment and my current situation. I am using an internet cafe. I will come back here tomorrow. Please email me at help.adam@yahoo.com

Question: Please help me!! What can I say to get her to leave me alone ??

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 10:57 AM PST

I'm 21. I'm in college getting my degree but I don't have a job yet bc of school is sooo in the way.. I live with my mom and she has a gf. I really can't connect with her gf at all. I even tried having a conversation but I just simply can't bond with her. My mind is just go like ???? ...& I don't like her personality so I just keep my distant, focus on my school and keeping the house clean as possible. But I hate wen she tries to be a parent. I get that she cares but I'm the kind of person who NEEEDS to be alone a lot wen I'm going through the young adult life. I hate wen she tries to make me feel guilty wen I don't spend time with my mom. And I hate wen she tries to butt in my life and try to figure out why I be sad sometimes. I really don't need her help..I'm sorry if that's mean but I can get through things on my own bc I'm not a kid. What is the nicest way to tell her that I love my space and alone time??

Question: Men have it easier and have better lives than women. True or not?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 10:47 AM PST

I have a younger brother, I am just overcome with envy. It's destroying me. He's 12 and almost as tall as me. He does make threats that he's going to be the boss and that he can beat me when he's older. God forbid he rubs his dumb luck in my face. My father used his physical force against me before. I HATE being a woman!! Other things my brother will have better than me: My brother is going to have less drama with his friends, and his friends will be more loyal. My brother is straight so he won't get cheated on as much as I will. My brother will get paid more for the same job. My brother will be able to sleep around more. My brother will be more dominant than me. My brother will have less health issues with his body, and have to pay less for health. Being a woman is a disease!!! It's a morbid disease! I have a cronic, morbid disease! I just wake up every day and SEE A WOMAN! It's hard for me to see my body in the mirror! I've beaten myself when I've seen my stupid loser c*nt and t*ts. I've done the same to other people. But men have stepped in and intimidated me and were able to stop it. I've been locked up in a mental hospital. Please, PLEASE someone tell me what are good things about being a woman? How should I live with myself and my brother? Why couldn't he just be born a female again? Please don't say "You can give birth" or "get prettied up"! A lot. I see being able to give birth is being a risk of an extreme, morbid, potentially dead disease/parasitic relationship I hate both men and women and blame them for the way women have it bad. Both men and women are sexist against women. Women for example, pick on each other and criticize each other.

Question: Am I wrong for wanting to spend Christmas with my boyfriend and our daughter as well? Even though we woke up together but after he was gone?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 10:21 AM PST

He has 2 other kids and the mom won't let them come over to our home at all , so understanding that he went over there to spend time , I still wanted to spend time with "our" family on this day as well other than the us waking up and watching our daughter open her gifts and he's gone all day ... So is that me being selfish???

Question: I really don't wanna go to my Grandmother's house tomorrow?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 10:21 AM PST

(Heh, typical teenage problems). I really don't want to go to my Grandmother's house tomorrow, and my sister is allowed to stay home (due to the fact that she's 18). How can I persuade my mother and father to letting me stay home, hopefully, without angering either of them?

Question: How to deal with tattle talers?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 10:07 AM PST

Ok so my brother is 21 and I'm 14. Every single time he insults me, I insult him back and he runs and tells on me to our parents. I always end up getting grounded. Why does he act like such a child? Can he not take a little insult?

Question: Does being close to my mother make me a mummy's boy?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 10:02 AM PST

I am 18 and I don't have a father figure in my life and I don't have a particularly big family either. I don't have any siblings. People at my college like to make a big deal of this and spread rumours like idiots. There are some people who don't have parents so I am thankful that I am so close to my mother. She put her career on hold because of me - I am happy with everything I have in my life. Bigger families don't always have that same closeness.

Question: Girls if your 13 year old cousin asked you to buy him a fleshlight would you?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 09:46 AM PST

He asked me to buy him one and idk what to do is this normal

Question: My Aunt is staying over so I will have to share a room with my sister. How should I feel about this?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 09:39 AM PST

I have to share a room with my sister for the next few months. How should I feel about this? Edit My Aunt has come a long way to be with us and now she will be staying for a few months before she returns home. She has also brought her daughter so things are a little crowded atm and it means changes for everyone. I've been sharing a room with my sister for a few days and it has been pretty good so far. We're also really good friends - we share things, cuddle and help each other with any problem but she can be so self centered at times. I don't want to be jealous either but it feels like my cousin is receiving all the attention.

Question: Christmas gifts?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 09:35 AM PST

Ok so I know this is gonna sound really selfish and rude and ungrateful of me... But I can't stop thinking about it. Yesterday was christmas and I made a fully thought out list like in mid november. dont get me wrong I know that I'm fortunate enough to even get gifts.. Let alone make a list of what I want. But anyway so my older sister also made a list amd pretty much got everything she wanted on it. And she got these big expensive containers that she needed to organize her room and I GOT THEM TOO. They were like $200 and I didn't ask for them or have remotely any need for them.. But I got 2 things from my list: one was a starbucks reuseable cup that my sis got too (mine was plastic and hers was metal) (SHE DIDNT EVEN ASK FOR IT AND IT WAS LIKE $5), and boots that she got too. And she got other nice expensive things that she asked for and I got tea bags and candy. Then we went to my grandmas house and they got her a $100 vest and a $120 jacket and me a $50 wallet and a $70 sweater. I SOUND SO UNGRATEFUL I KNOW BUT WHY DID THEY GET MY SIS TWICE AS MUCH AS ME? I PROMISE U THAT I AM THANKFUL FOR EVERYTHING I GOT BUT I JUST FEEL LIKE MY PARENTS SPENT A LOT MORE TIME AND THOUGHT ON MY SISTER OVER ME WHICH I DONT UNDERSTAND PLESSE HELP I SOUND LIKE SUCH A BRAT OMG

Question: Is my stepdad verbally abusive?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 09:23 AM PST

I'm just going to give you an example of a few convos. He buys me things every time we go somewhere, and my mother says that he does that because its how he was "raised" and honestly, i am very grateful for everything he buys me. We are not a poor "family" but anyways, here are some convos. *baby sister crying* Me:*trying to get it to calm down * Him:*ignores baby* Note: if your wondering where My mom is, she's outside with the dog. When she takes her outside, it ushually only takes five minutes. Me: *looks at him aggravated* can you help me? Him: can't you see i'm ******* eating?!! Go to your room dumbass!! Me: oh i'm sorry for asking you to help out with your own child! *imagine me yelling at this point* Him: i don't have to take your ****! Go to your room! Me: *not yelling anymore* i was just asking you to hold your own child for a few minutes so i can do the chores that you gave me *says calmly* Him: thats not my ******* problem i have a headache and im trying to eat*mom walks in , imagine him screaming the entire time for no ******* reason* what are you stupid or something I honestly dont remember much after that or the argument they had because i ran to my room and am crying as i type this i locked the door and refuse to come out what should i do? Call somebody? Or am i just overreacting?

Question: What did you get for Christmas?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 09:18 AM PST

I understand that Christmas isn't about the presents but this is just a genuine question of what you got this year? I got a Zara coat, Michael kors bag, makeup, make up bag, perfumes, body sprays and bath stuff, £100, Pandora gift card, shopping centre gift card where I live, dressing gown, ear rings, chocolates, fluffy socks!!

Question: How to get my dad and his gf to break up?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 09:13 AM PST

Now do not get me wrong, by all means I want my dad to be happy, I am in college my little brother is graduating this year and my little sister the following year, and I know that he needs someone to be there with him since in a couple of years he will be completely alone, but he has been dating this "lady" for about 3 years now, and the relationship is not progressing. she is an awful person, my dad works long 12-13 hour shifts at his job a day, and attends school. She is here ALL the time, there is not a day that goes by that she is not at our house, anyways, she has no job (she says shes a real estate agent but in the 3 years I've known her i have yet to see her sell a property) and when my dad comes home the house is a mess, she lays in bed all day, does not shower, and eats everything than she'll put the dishes in the sink instead of washing them or putting them in the dishwasher. I know she gives my dad money and I'm pretty sure that's one reason he's still with her, but she lives in government paid housing and she's on welfare, and she does not do anything with herself, and my dad refuses to look at the fact that he's "paying for her" to live at a house and food that she is not providing to either of them, i could go on all day about her, but you get the point, my dad is a good man and i just want him to see the real her, not the fake lady that puts on a smile for minutes than talks about him behind her back. how do I get him to see the real her or possibly break up?

Question: What do you think of Justin Bieber?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 08:45 AM PST

I personally dislike him. I mean first of all, his live singing is terrible, his new album hasn't really broken any records yet, but most of all he's INCREDIBLY rude and mean towards his fans, and plus he keeps on trying to copy MJ lmao. According to Oprah Winfrey though, JB is the next King Of Pop. Please tell me I'm not the only one who thinks he's not that awesome? ☆ Sent from iOS Dr. Know! 1.0

Question: I want my parents to divorce?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 08:40 AM PST

I'm a 13 year old girl. From the start, we were the perfect family. We loved each other and were upper middle class. My dad had a great job, and my mom had a supporting one, earning just above minimum wage. About five years ago my dad got into meditation, and that's when it all went down. He started drinking smoothies for meals and buying huge amounts of pills that were supposed to make him healthy, lecturing everyone at family and friend gatherings. It would always be so embarrassing, because my parent would be the one yelling at the dinner table. About three months ago, it really went downhill. My dad got laid off from his job. He started sleeping about 18 hours a day. He would meditate for four hours a day, drink some smoothie, go shopping at a store we didn't have money for. He was getting drunk every night, and we got squeezed out of our friend group. We didn't even get invited to the big New Years party. He now lectures my mom and tells her she is doing everything wrong. He never verbally abused us, but you could tell it was taking a toll on my mom. She would try to pretend everything was okay. Yesterday, my mom broke down. She cried and said that she never wanted it this way. My mom is so beautiful and kind. I can see how much happier she'd be if she didn't have to be the strong one and had another man love and protect her. I know my mom thinks that we would be sad if she divorced my dad, but I hope she does. Is there something wrong with me? What should I do?

Question: My daughter doesn't wanna go out?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 08:34 AM PST

My daughter just finished her first semester in college, she's always home since she commutes. During her last high school year she went through a really bad break up and problems with friends. My son on the other hand has just been married, his wife lives with us all. So it's usually me, my husband, my son and his wife, and lastly my daughter. She never wants to spend time with us. We spent the holidays together non stop but she doesn't wanna go out with us a lot. She says she feels lonely when the 5 of us go out but I find that so hard to believe. How could she get lonely? I feel like she doesn't wanna be bothered or care.

Question: My daughter doesn't wanna go out?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 08:30 AM PST

Question: Is it wrong I am playing hardball with my parents?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 08:23 AM PST

My parents retired and they needed help moving and I said I would help them but with a cost attached. I said that to protect my expensive truck and my investment they paid for all gas on the move but they are paying no more. My dad Is a retired veteran and the milltary gives you money if you move yourself we had to get my truck weighed before hand with a full load but no we are moved and settled they want to get it weighed again so they can get a check. I feel I am owed at least half of whatever x amount of dollars is for the move up here after all it s my truck. My mom says that s your dads money and you have no bussiness in it. Only problem is they won t get paid until I take my truck to get weighed and I waht at least half to offset cost of repairs their move cost me a new battery a serpentine belt and a radiator flush. My mom said I am very ungrateful for playing hardball and they have a limited amount of time to file today is the last day offically before the paper work is done its no sweat off my *** but I would like my cut of the money but I can live without it. My dad talked about borrowing It a few nights ago but it has a remote start stop feature so he made it down the street with it before I jammed it and it shut off. i said touch it again I will file teft charges. My uncle has offered to give me 100 bucks just to take it down to get weighed but whatever x amount of dollars will be chump change compsred to 100 bucks

Question: Should I confront my relative?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 08:12 AM PST

My cousin said to me my mom did nothing for us when we were 5 years old. We live together at college, and our families used to live together. Currently, our families live in a duplex. I told him he's wrong. He kept saying it though. I apologized for fighting with him, and then I just moved on. It happened 4 months ago. recently he told me I do nothing, and I said he has a bad habbit of saying people do nothing. I proved him wrong. and then I said you never apologize to me and I always apologize to you even though I'm older than you. He then apologized. Is this enough? I gave reference to what he said about my mother by saying he has a bad habbit of saying that. Or should I tell him I don't appreciate you saying my mom did nothing for you. I don't want family tensions, and I feel like if I said this to him, his family and him would never treat me the same. All he has to do is apologize to me. I already have forgiven him, but I don' think it is right for him to get away with saying something like this. What do I do?

Question: Witch attacking me? Dark Magic? Help?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 08:01 AM PST

So yesterday me and my mother found out that my grandfathers' wife is a witch. She's been attacking me and my family for years but we haven't noticed it, well i haven't until now. But now that i am older and put all the pieces together i understand... the arguments in my family before Christmas and her telling my mother when she was drunk that she put something in my grandfathers food to make him love her forever. She doesn't like my mother because of how my mom told her to stop lying to her about loving her and many more step mother and daughter problems. She threatened us through text, making slight rhymes and saying she was going to visit us yesterdays night. I don't know what to do. i said a prayer a long one. HELPP! All i want to do is keep my mother and family safe. I guess i have to update my question because some people think I'm psychotic. If you dont study them... dont comment and stop leaving negative comments. Half of the people commenting are donald trump worshiping 40 yr old moms on the internet trying to be cool.

Question: My Dad hates me, I want to change my attitude but I can t.?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 07:55 AM PST

I have becoming too violent to my siblings. I scratched my brother and sister. I ended fighting with them. I m 15 now, and I started feeling independent. So I end up becoming rude to my parents, especially my mom. I have apologized so many times, yet I keep doing the same bad things over and over again. My dad is planning to throw me out of the house. He doesn t want to pay for my school and doesn t want to save up for my university. I want to change to become a better son. I just end up breaking the promises and hurt my family again. PS, my dad said the family feel happier and more peaceful without me. Help pls

Question: Why do people need to call others fat when they already know they are?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 07:53 AM PST

Ever since i got on Depo shots (birth control) my family is always constantly bashing me. Oh you're so fat and this and that. You're a pig, cow, or lardass. I mean i already know that i am fat, but i don't mind being fat i'm actually happy this way. I used to be a gym junkie and vegetarian before having a child. And let me tell you i was miserable i always watched what i ate and worked out for 2 hours every day. But i'm actually happy with myself and my doctor has told me i'm healthy all i want is to be happy and enjoy my daughter, but my family can't let me be happy with the constant putting down. They're never happy with me....Sometimes i think they're jealous of me because i'm the only college graduate in the family. And i'm always the one targeted with the bashing. Like i said, i used to be a fit person and they would call me nasty names like "anorexic" "skeleton" or you need to eat something you are only skin and bones and no guy wants a women that skinny. I really wish it would it be that easy if i ever tell them that it will be the last time that i would talk to them. They'll talk lots of crap about me with people. It has happened before i was called a "bad daughter" and my mother would tell me that i raised her and that regardless of what she does to me i need to take it. I mean she raised me

Question: I might be moving to Las vegas :(?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 07:41 AM PST

my parents announced to me that we might be moving to america for my dad's work. We live in middle europe. I know many kids would be like "OMG YAY!" and I would've been to, but there is one thing; My grandma lives only a mile away from my house and I visit her everyday after school. We are very close and she also has a puppy that I love taking care of and Is kinda also my puppy. Well she has breast cancer and her back always hurts.. I help her with chores and stuff. When we talk about the future and stuff she always reminds me that she might not be there anymore at that time and It just makes me so sad.. Well my parents for about 6 months now were always asking me weird questions like; Do you want to move to America? Would you do good in an english school? and stuff like that... I kinda already suspected that they think of moving. Today they told me that my dad's boss, who is also his bestfriend and my godfather, will think about him moving to Las Vegas. His boss already lives there. I know this sounds harsh, but I don't care about my friends there because I don't have any good friends. I don't have anyone close to me, the only ones are my two grandmas, my grandpa and my puppy :( I don't really know how I feel about this.When my mom saw me cry she said If we DO move It might only be for a year or two. It's really exciting because I've never been to america, but I'm afraid I will come back and my grandma will be dead... My parents said I would visit my country every 2 months

Question: My brother and I are sick of our mother, help?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 07:27 AM PST

We are both in our 40s and grown adults raising children. Any time we bring our children over, my mom overrides our parenting. I was feeding my child dinner yesterday and she ate barely anything. I told her she hasn't ate enough and she couldn't get down. My mom chimed in and said "shes fine just leave her alone" RIGHT in front of my child who then laughed in my face. My brother has a 3 year old. She stepped on a toy and broke it at Christmas. My brother told her to apologize to our cousin and my mom said "she couldn't help, it was an accident!!!!". Right in front of the child. Who then repeated Not my fault! Not my fault! How do we tell her politely to shut up?

Question: My husband has no qualms destroying someone if they get in his way and I am afraid karma, how do I make him change his ways?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 06:22 AM PST

My husband has a mean streak when anyone crosses his path, he owns several businesses now and can be quite cold and manipulative when dealing with other people. Before giving birth to our children, I have been working with him and I notice that he is good in playing mind games and blackmailing people to do what he wants. I have kept asking him to change his ways, but he always give me the excuse he has to be cruel so that no one can hurt us and our family. At home, he is the most lovable man and I will always love him, that's why as his wife, I want him to change his ways because I believe in karma and one day I fear someone is going to take revenge on us for how he destroyed their lives. We have five kids together, and he loves them so much as they love him, that's why I want him to stop being the person he is so that he can retire in peace without watching his back all the time. In fact, he is already close to a retirement age and I want him to just be my husband and not some ruthless cutthroat businessman who will destroy anyone on his path if it means getting to the top. How do I make him change his ways, I have tried talking to him but he took it in a way that someone is out to hurt our family and he became even more paranoid now, telling me that if anyone dares to hurt our family, he will take care of them and honestly it got me scared because I am afraid he might do something that will cause him trouble and might even end up in jail. What I do to make him understand?

Question: Mind if you read? :)?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 06:09 AM PST

I was fat back then, my family used to tease me for it that I should lose weight. But now that I lost weight, they always say "Why are you so thin now?", "Why do you keep exercising?" and I just answer "To be healthy and fit." When I said "Atleast I'm not obese" once. My father would say "You're delusional and paranoid." Sometimes I suffer from depression. I feel out of place sometimes because I'm the middle girl of the family while my two siblings are boys. They are biased to them. My father still punishes us (using a belt) especially me cause' I'm the black sheep of the family. When my parents fight, my mom would say "I wanna divorce him" always, in my mind I reply "You always say that but you never do it." Are we a happy family?

Question: How should i act towards my abusive mother?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 05:32 AM PST

I am a 17 year old girl and my mom is physically and verbally abusive. Trust me...its BAD. I can honestly say that i have no love in my heart for her. None. I hate her guts and i wish she would die. She says the same things to me...stuff like "i want to kill you" or "just die already!" Or "i wish you were never born." I know that i can avoid her attacks by simply doing what she asks but i CANT. Pretending to like her and being polite just makes me sick and feel fake (like her). She expects me to love her and gets mad when i dont treat her as if she is the person i love most in the world. When she hits me, i want to hit her back. When she yells at me, i yell back. When she does something to me, i plot my revenge. I know these things will only make things worse, but submitting to her will literally drive me insane. How should i treat her?

Question: Should I confront her about this?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 04:33 AM PST

My kids dad and his mom came in to town for Christmas and only saw his first two children and not the two we share together.They brought them gifts and spent time with them and didn't even reach out to the kids we share together.I will say I do have him on child support and the other mom doesn't have him on support. He currently lives out of state with a new woman but comes in town for holidays. It just ticks me off that they act like he doesn't have other kids here and the kicker is me and the first mom don't live far from each other. His mom doesn't even acknowledge that they're alive. It makes me sad for my kids that they care nothing about them. Should I reach out to his mom and tell her how I feel? When we were together she would bring things for our kids when she came into town now that we don't get along she acts like they don't exist and she hasn't even met our daughter that we share together which is really sad! They look like spiting images of the first two kids. She also did this last year as well. So should I confront the grandmother or leave things as is? Also I've reached out before and she ignored me.

Question: Is it appropriate to invite your girlfriend over for Christmas and meet your ex wife?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 04:24 AM PST

So, today my Christmas was ruined because my mum got pissed at my dad bec he told her his gf was coming over and asked if she wanted to meet her. Personally, i think its ****** up because this is a time to spend with family and i never see my mum because she's always working. My dad spends most of his time with his gf and her family--more time than he spends with me and my brothers. Actually, the only time we actually have family time is if it's with them, its never with just us. I feel like thats all my mum just wanted but my dad doesnt seem to understand this. I think its a complete joke to be honest; forced to play a family game and sppend time with people who you dont even know, the games you remember playing with mum. Im so confused right now, how could he possibly think tthis is okay.

Question: Girls mature question?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 04:21 AM PST

Lasted 7 months. zero sex since she claimed to be a virgin and wanted to wait. She left to college & we broke up. A year later she moves back home because she missed it. One day she calls me and we grabbed food. We met up and started to kiss. Now remember i haven't seen her in 1 year. I asked if she dated? and she said "nothing serious". I asked how far she got sexually. She wouldn't answer it (playing dumb). I asked numerous times. She then began to sprint walk, cover her ears, sing a song to avoid it. I then admitted i slept/dated an ex. She got mad and said "Just one huh hotshot". We went on 2 more dates but for a reason she just had to bring her little sister along (maybe she was scared i was going to ask questions again) and after these 2 dates she cut me off. Days before our last date she had still claimed to still be a virgin but she also got a tongue ring so you'll never know if she used that or anal. She's 20 and i'm 23. Why couldn't she answer a question? My theory is either she slept around or really did nothing and i ruined it.

Question: HELP. LIFE ADVICE! Everyone dies!?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 04:09 AM PST

Hi. I'm a 25 year old guy. I am half Finnish and half Greek. I have studied at University, got my Bachelor, served at military and done all I had to do. After all these I thought that It s time to finally get independent! So after I finished my studies at Greece, I moved to Finland to serve in military. I lived at my grandmothers house for my military time and we had to move to another house in Finland because of a big reshuffle the building had to have. After the military I moved back to Greece full of hope for finally getting a job and getting independent. Then the phone rang and the news came. My grandmother had died so I had to move back to Finland to empty her house and do the paperwork, interment etc. At the moment I spent my Christmas in an empty house just waiting for a probate paper to come. All office works are frozen due to Christmas. Then the phone rang. Yesterday my disabled uncle died. The only relative I had in Finland. So now I lost him too and I have to start all over again to empty his house, paperwork etc all from 0. It will take another 2-3 months + a hell lot of money. I have been sending for about 7 months almost every day 5-15 job applications, but nothing. I have in my bank account 200$ and that's it. I assume that after all this I will move back to Greece to my parents and will be stuck in Greece again. There are no jobs and all I want is a stable life with no more moving. I don t want to ask money from my parents. Any advice? Sorry 4 bad English.

Question: I can't stand living with my mother?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 03:53 AM PST

I just ******* hate everything in my life. I live in miserable Britain and I hate everything here. I have no friends. my mother gets angry at the drop of a hat . She moans all the God damn time, and it drives me insane. She always thinks whatever she does is right, everyone else is wrong and she give a crap load of critism but if she gets critism she goes mad. Even my dad thinks she's strange. ..if he's in England he doesn't even bother to talk when she's around because she moans at him whatever he says. Dontget me wrong, she does her best for me and is caring. Sometimes she's good to talk to. I just wish I could live with my other relatives who live in a different country. They seem really nice and fun. I'm 15 so I can't leave home:(. My dad lives in a country that doesn't speak English, so I can't go and live with him. What can I do??

Question: My older sister wants to control everything in my life. Why is this?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 03:40 AM PST

I have 3 sisters and I love them a lot but my older sister has been acting like she is my mother and it's not really much fun. My "real" mother is always busy at work and since we have no father influence (passed away when we were young) my older sister is effectively the boss & controls everything. Growing up my older sister has always been the dominant sibling in the family (6 years older than me 22-16) & pretty much she always felt she was gods gift and deserved the best of everything. Despite this we get on great most of the time but she is always telling me what to do & if she doesn't like a girl I am dating she will tell me to dump her. I will have to share a room with her when my Aunt stays over for a few weeks. She is more controlling of me than anyone else and I don't get why.

Question: I had a small Christmas party and someones kid decided to use my daughters drawer as a urinal! Do I let the parents know what happened?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 03:33 AM PST

The thing is that I m pretty sure who it was but I m not positive. Do I mention it to the parents or should I just stay quiet?

Question: Can a 17 year old move out with parental consent? Any advice on living on your own as a teen mom?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 02:48 AM PST

Please don't be rude or anything just need some helpful advice! I'm 4 months with twins and I live with my dad step mom and 5 siblings in a 3bd house, my step legally adopted me not sure if that counts but because the house is so packed and I've had my job for a little over a year. I really do understand how hard it is living on your own but at this point I don't really have too much of a choice, there's no room at the house and I have no other family to live with. I'm wondering if I kept my job ($8.50 an hour) my step mom offered to babysit for free and all I needed was a small 1bd place, just use a DVD player, shop for groceries at a cheaper store, got used furniture.. if there was a possibility of me being able to live on my own now. (Please don't say anything about abortion I nor my family agree with it)live in Georgia. Please only kind helpful comments!

Question: Should I continue to live with my Aunt who is like a mother or should I live with my real mum?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 02:37 AM PST

My biological mum had me when she was young (18) and she struggled to cope with the pressures of raising a baby. Her sister (Aunt) helped her but in the end she ended up raising me. It was only when I was 10-11 when my mum tried desperately to start being a real mum. Things began to pick up and she has spent the last 8 years trying to make it up to me. I've lived with my Aunt and her daughters for most of my life and it kind of feels like I have two homes. When I'm not with my actual mum she often comes and stays with us. What would be the best thing to do?

Question: Should I be worried about my parents?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 02:12 AM PST

I have come to visit my parents over Christmas and have been staying with them for three days. I have been getting really frustrated because all my parents do is watch TV. I would estimate that they have watched at least 10 hours of TV a day while I've been here. I phoned my parents about two months before my visit, and asked if we could plan a day outing or two. I explained that I wasn't keen on flying to visit them if we would just be sitting around at home. My Dad promised that he would organise a day trip, and then when I arrive it turns out he never did. I was researching options last night, and my mum was upset because she just wanted to stay home and watch TV. Is this weird? Should I be worried? They sit in their recliner chairs and literally don't move. I've been getting so irritated by the CONSTANT noise of the TV in the house.

Question: How should my sister and I go about picking proper áo dài?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 01:54 AM PST

Okay so my sister (19) and myself (16) are planning on having some formal photos done. Our grandmother, whom recently passed, was from Vietnam (though her mother was half Korean and Half Chinese) and wanted us to get áo dài, Well according to a lot of my other Asian friends and some other people I've asked, it's actually really popular for grandparents and parents to take their child/grandchild back to the home country and get formal wear (for us áo dài) and then get your hair and makeup done before getting professional photos taken. My main question is how would I go about finding a good seller, not to mention picking an áo dài? Please give good answers.

Question: Can you re child have a nose that isn t similar to the mom or dad?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 01:38 AM PST

My son doesn t have my or his mother s nose is that normal? He s 4 by the way.

Question: Please help me, I'm really worried about my sister!?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 12:59 AM PST

I'm 18 and I'm really worried about my sister we went through some terrible abuse. Literally my biological mother is the real life version of the wife in gone girl. My sister feels like some of the ****** up decisions she made was her fault. Like does she get beat today or does our older special brother get beat today instead of me. If it wasn't for my sister I would have starved to death as a baby. She had to try and take care of me as a baby. She blames herself for so much that she shouldn't, she is succumbed with gilt. But I feel like no matter what I say she's still going to blame herself I don't know how to convey to her I'm not mad at her I feel no anger to her our brother doesn't ether he loves her so much he loves seeing her. But she feels as though she let use down by making ****** up decisions and not being able to protect use. Please help!!!!

Question: Dad problems?

Posted: 26 Dec 2015 12:56 AM PST

Just curious. But is it just me or does anyone else have that "anoying" dad that treats you like yout some 5 year old when your actually alredady an adult.