Family: Question: Does my mom have moral issues or is me being to moral?

Question: Does my mom have moral issues or is me being to moral?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 01:59 PM PST

My mother is usually a good and honest person but sometimes she does things that i think are immoral. Once I woke up late to school and she told me it was okay to lie to the school and say i was sick. I told her no, and I went to my school's front office, told them I overselpt, and then they gave me an excused note to class. my problem is, why does my mom say its okay to lie? usually my mom doesn't agree with lying, but I think she thinks its okay to lie to get out of trouble. Also about a week ago my mom was in a parking lot and she found a crucifix cross on the ground. So, she took it and gave it to me when she got home. I told her she should have found a lost and found or something but I believe thats stealing. She said there was no lost and found and that there was a bunch of shops that the guy could have been in, and that it was okay because "finders keepers" (She literally said that). What makes me really upset about this is because I've lost many cross necklaces in my life and it's made me really upset each time I lost one, so I know how it is to loss a necklace. I always get the image it was some innocent kid's cross and he dropped it and is know looking for it. For all I know, it could been near and dear to someone, and know I have it. I don't want to put it back now where it was, since its been about a week and I know if I left it someone else would have taken it that wasn't the owners. What should I do? And does my mom have moral issues? Does my mom have moral issues, or is it just me?

Question: Why do I keep crying randomly ?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 01:53 PM PST

I am the kind of person that doesnt cry at all , but lately i have been getting alot of pressure from my parents they are so closed minded they dont even argue they just make fun of me and all they care about is school and housework they dont even ask me anything else it's either "what did you get in *whatever* test" or "did you do the laundry" nothing else and they are always so unsatisfied i get good grades and i try to help but this is too much they punish me by taking my escape which is my phone over the littlest things i hate it when they make fun of me so recently when ever i just argue with my mom i go into my room and cry and then stop crying and then continue i am mad in the inside all the time i cant control my crying i dont like crying i feel like i am weak since i know that my problems arent big and i feel like i am seriously stupid for crying over this stupid problem but i cant control it , why dont they care about ME not my tests or the laundry + what i hate thay they dont give me choices to make for my self it's always their choice i want to grow up and start depending on myself a little but they dont give me a chance

Question: Cousin drama please help its an emergency?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 01:52 PM PST

Hiiii, I'm Lynn, and My cousin Marie isn't a nice person, She's very fake to put it shortly. She used to say sh*t like "you're my sister/your my inspiration". While you may find that flattering I don't, In fact it totally pissed me off when she always would say it because she never means anything good she actually says and means all the bad things. She always thinks her house is my house, but whenever i would go over there in the past i couldn't even have an m&m, She always plays victim and It's pathetic. She has previously admitted to being jealous of me,Not to mention she's a whiny cry baby. I've recently (About two months i think) Have kicked her out of my life bc i don't need that negativity. I always ignore her when she tries to talk to me and when i tell her to go away she's acts like she's 5 and imitates me. I saw her on sunday at a local event, I was looking really nice and she tried yanking my poor niece who's only in kindergarten out of my arms, I told her to stop yanking the poor kid and I took the kid with me to look around at things, Later on when i was in the bathroom I hadn't known she was there so when i was done with all of that fun stuff i was just looking at myself in the mirror, She came out of the stall and looked at me with narrow, rude eyes. I didn't return the look because I'm not 10. My question is, how do i deal with this monster, do you think she's still jealous of me? I don't have interest in starting drama or making her jealous if she already isn't. I'm 14 and she is 13,Her mom threatened to kill me when i was like 10 she's not sane clearly, Her mom hates my mom basically and i guess always tried to put her kids against me. her kids always lied saying that i broke their toys when i never touched them.

Question: My boyfriend ruins everything.?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 01:49 PM PST

Should I stay? He just recently lost an amazing job because he didn't confirm which day he was supposed to go in so he went in on the wrong day and they fired him. He's overweight and refuses to just stop binge eating and can't seem to go without food for 5 minutes. He'll barely try at anything, say he's "trying as hard as he can", then get butthurt when nothing happens or I get pissed at him for literally eating over half a jar of jelly in one sitting. That's " trying " to lose weight for him. We're probably going to end up on the streets now because we can't survive on just my income and he's sitting here playing Pokemon. I don't know what to do. If I push him he cries and says he wants to kill himself and his family blames me for him losing his job and not making him a calendar and marking down the days he works. They say since he drives me to work I should make sure he gets to work too by literally making his schedule for him. It's like I'm supposed to be his mom. I literally had to teach him what proper hygiene is and how to take a shower because his family didn't teach him. I'm so sick of this but I can't afford college or have a job to support myself, nor can I drive due to my past bad living situation with my own crappy family.

Question: *URGENT* out of state friend being abused and not sure how to help him *URGENT*?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 01:42 PM PST

I have this friend I keep in touch with over the internet. He lives in Pittsburgh, PA; is 18 but still lives with family because just like them he's dirt poor; and he also has no where to go. His father abuses him and his sister likes to beat on him. He also is pretty much made to work 8am to midnight -no breaks- and his money all goes to his family whom he has to work with. What even more... his mother is gravely ill and possibly near death as we speak, so he's living with that. He's told me that he's tried to notify social services but they told him to screw himself, basically. His dad doesn't leave any marks. I told him to use his cell phone and speed dial 911 or a trusted person on speaker phone when attacked to have evidence against him, but his argument is that dad is too unpredictable leaving him not much time or opportunity to act. I even gave him the address and phone number of a crisis center, but I'm not sure how near or far he is from it. Another thing,.. he's tried to kill himself before and I'm afraid he might do it again. Even told me he's thought of killing his dad at one time. Also, he's a brony and indentifies as genderfluid... which I'm sure is an excuse for his dad being the way he is. But he's staunchly pacifist and is great person with a very big heart and compassion I've never seen in very many people. A guy like him doesn't deserve to live like this. If I could I would trade places if it meant he could live a better life. please help...

Question: Was my boyfriend being disrespectful?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 01:26 PM PST

I was watching TV with my boyfriend downstairs and my brother and his girlfriend were upstairs in his room studying. I heard my brother loudly say "Oh God, I am coming". Then I heard his girlfriend say "Oh God, I am coming too". I told my boyfriend that isn't it wonderful that they were studying the bible. He laughed so hard he almost fell out of his chair. I told him studying the bible is serious business and he should not be laughing about it. Should I dump him for being disrespectful?

Question: Is it lame to be upset when your sibling doesn't want the Christmas gifts you bought them?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 01:18 PM PST

I live states away from my sister. We only really see each other once a year now. I won't get to see her Christmas. Neither of us can afford to travel right now. I was gonna send the gifts to her through my parents when they visit on New Years. Anyway, I was Christmas shopping with pocket change literally because I am broke. My boyfriend is laid off and I am a stay at home mom because he travels for work and we have a one year old son together. We can only afford two gifts for our son this year. But I didn't get my sister anything last year because I was broke. She loves cats and likes tea pots. Collectible tea pots. Not real ones. So I went to a share shop. I found seven really old cat figures in great condition and one tea pot. The tea pot is kind of holiday themed but figured she could use it for a winter decoration. I had no service in town to talk to her, so I sent her pictures when I got home because she let me know what she got me. But she said she only wanted the one cat figure. That she doesn't like the others or the tea pot. That they are ugly. And to be honest. I am sitting here crying as I type this because for some reason it really hurt when I read that. I didn't waste much money. The tea pot was only $2 and each cat figure was 25 cents. But I don't know why it bothers me so much that she doesn't want them. Has anyone else had this happen and if so did it really bother you? Or if it would happen would it really bother you?

Question: Why does everyone want me to college?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 01:15 PM PST

I'm 19. My family always wanted me to go to college. I tried it but it didn't work out. All of my bosses have said im a very good employee, and I excel when it comes to working, but I am not that driven when it comes to schooling. I C'd my way through high school and came out with a ged. Recently, I've found a job at ace hardware. It's a pretty good one to. $35,000/year plus overtime. I plan to get my own apartment once I save enough money for the deposits and all that. I don't see myself living a white collar lifestyle or working in an office or moving to the suburbs.

Question: I hate cadets A LOT and my mom won't let me quit?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 01:00 PM PST

I can't even begin to explain how much I despise this program. Seriously. We never do anything fun. For three ******* hours, all we do is practice marching and we only get a twenty minute break but it's broken up into five minutes each. It's ******* stupid, we never do anything fun- when I joined, I thought it was going to be fun because they made it sound fun but it is NOT at all. It's seriously pissing me off now and my mom said I can't quit. She won't let me. I begged her. She said if I do 'anything stupid' to get kicked out, she'll ground me for two weeks. Should I purposely get kicked out? Is it worth it? I CANNOT STAND IT. It runs my whole ******* day. I hate it so much. I'm at school all day and when I get home, I only have two hours of home time to myself before I gotta get my *** to cadets. Besides, the kids in cadets the worst at my school. They vandalize everything, they scream, have food fights, but they hide behind the uniform at the program. What do I do? How can I convince her to quit or at least purposely get kicked out? I AM NOT DOING THIS UNTIL I'M BLOODY DAMN EIGHTEEN. I'VE BEEN IN THIS SINCE SEPTEMBER AND THE MORE I WENT BACK, THE MORE I HATED IT. My mom is crazy as ****. I would quit or purposely get kicked out but she is a wacko. And I'm not reporting anyone. SERIOUSLY? Do you think I give a F*CK what they do at my school? I don't. I stated my issue and you guys seemed more worried about something else. You're all worthless. I'll get kicked out, I'll get grounded.

Question: Dorm room nudity and protocol?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 12:45 PM PST

I am a freshman in college and really am at a loss for something that happened today. I share a room with three other girls, and today two of them complained that they've "had to see me naked." I wasn't sure what that meant but they were really on me and acting like I'm all inapropriate. It suddenly dawned on me that they had been going down the hall to change clothes in the restroom stall all semester. I never realized it cause I wasn't paying attention/keeping track. They didn't really tell me I was causing a problem, but they certainly teased me and made me feel very weird. But I think it is ridiculous to expect me to go to the bathroom to change in a dirty toilet stall twice (or three) times a day. I have never (and would never) hung out naked, done homework naked, or anything like that. I wear a robe to the shower and back, etc. Is it really against roommate protocol to simply change your clothes?!? I'm worried I maybe missed something and am one of the "naked people" and just don't realize it. My summer camp growing up had wide open group showers, and I had 3 sisters, so I'm relatively comfortable changing around women (well comfortable is a big word, but it doesn't freak me out). But while I'm not a modest mouse, I am FAR from well here I am!!! Woohoo!! I think I'm reasonably discreet, and actually reasonably modest. But is it really inapropriate to get changed in my own dorm room? I have also (in fairness) dried off after a shower in the dorm room.....but ONLY when there was a line for my shower and I didn't want to keep the next girl waiting while I dried off (so I put my robe on and went back and dried off in my room)

Question: Is there everlasting life??????????

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 12:38 PM PST

How is it that people die and Christianity declares them to go straight to eternal life? How is this possible if our carnal bodies are never going to be the same ones? It'll appreciate if, someone can clarify this point that is so confusing.

Question: I hate being the middle kid in my family?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 12:32 PM PST

im a 15 year old guy and hate being the middle kid in my family. my older brother graduated high school last year as Valedictorian and got a full scholarship to college. my younger sister is 12 and is the only girl so she gets a lot of attention, while my younger brother thats 7 is the youngest so is babied a lot because of that. my younger siblings get a lot of attention, my parents tell everyone about my older brother and how great he is, or people say how amazing he is or how pretty my sister is or how cute my younger brother is and then I'm never talked about. i just feel invisible. my dream is to be a professional soccer player(I'm on a team since i was 8), but in New York the sport isn't that popular and i guess i wouldn't make it anyways .everyone tells me its stupid to even think i could make it, maybe there right. how would i even get noticed I'm invisible toe everyone

Question: My brother is verbally and physically abusive?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 12:19 PM PST

I want to kill him. He's horrible. He tells me every day that I'm stupid, fat, pathetic, etc. When I try and fight back and tell him what I think of him he hits and kicks me. My mum doesn't even care. She just says 'he's your brother, just get along with him'. But it's not me. It's never me. It's always him who is being vie and mean. I know that she just takes his side because he's her favourite. She probably thinks that I deserve it. Maybe I do.

Question: How do I tell my dad that I am getting a tattoo?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 11:59 AM PST

I'm 19 and really want a tattoo, I've wanted the same one for over a year. My mom doesn't care, she knows I'm old enough to do what I want. But my dad has some control issues and absolutely hates tattoos. MY appointment is booked and I'm getting it. How do I make him understand that this is something I want and he can't control me over? I do not live at home 8 months out of the year as I'm at school. I do not rely on him financially either. I just feel that he should know to prevent further tension between us.

Question: Mother Issues.?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 11:55 AM PST

I am 31 and still feel like I have issues that have been a result of abandonment from my mother. My father was not present in my life and my mother was very young when she had me, leaving me to the care of my grandparents. All though I would like to think now that I am adult it does not affect me, I keep running into the same issues. I have a brother and sister. My sister has the same issues as me (self worth, anxiety, acceptance), but my brother swears our mother is the best mother ever, which makes it hard for me to confront her about how horrible I think she was- when I have my brother telling her how perfect she was! My sister also feels the same as me, but also just puts it behind her and chooses not to discuss it. I have done this too, for the sake of peace, but obviously at 31 I feel there is a lot that has not been resolved. Please don't say to go to therapy because I have, and I believe it has helped a lot. Though one thing I haven't done is confront my mother about acknowledging the past. Can children perceive their childhood differently, even if they grew up in the same house? Sometimes I feel my brother is in denial, but other times I feel maybe I am making a big deal about the past and should just get past it on my own. Any advice?

Question: My fiance almost killed my brother, he wants to sue him now?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 11:20 AM PST

I'm 23. I've been dating my fiance for 5 years, and it's a wonderful relationship. We have a baby.. My family is against us even since they met him 4 years ago. My mother even tried to trick my fiance into breaking up with me, telling him lies about me. My brother would always insult him in front of me, and one of my two sisters tried to 'seduce' him to sleep with her, but she failed. Anyway, I went to my parents' home to announce the wedding, but only my brother was there. He was drunk. He called me a slut, a criminal's whore (he isn't a criminal, he only used to sell weed, but stopped). He was insulting me badly, saying awful things, and at last he said that my little boy should have never been born, and that it'd be better if we just threw him out the window. I got so pissed and - told him he's a douche that is going to die alone (he abused his ex-girlfriend) and that it's better if HE was never born. I said more nasty things out of rage, and he hit me real hard. I tried to hit back, but then he literally beat me up. I was in bruises and cuts, and bleeding, and left the house crying. I got home and my fiance was pissed off when he saw the bruises and all. I told him everything. He went to my brother, they got in a fight, my brother ended up in the hospital and was there for three weeks. Now when he's out, he wants to sue my fiance. Could my brother win over the case?:( Or is the jury going to 'forgive' after they find out why my fiance did it? What to do? Thanks! They hate my fiance for his weed selling history, for not being from the 'right' family (his mom is in mental hospital, and his dad committed suicide). But he's very nice and good, and smart, and fun, and there's no better person. Also my family doesn't talk to me anymore. My father said he never wants to hear from me again, and my sister says she's disappointed. My mother said that I'm a mistake. They won't come to the wedding..

Question: My mother is pushing me away.?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 11:18 AM PST

I want to start off by saying that I always loved my mom. We have been through so much together and I always remember that. However, I left the house when I was 19 when I got my first job and headed out to college, because I wanted to be independent and grow up. I talk to her almost every single day but I feel like I can't confide anything because she ends up saying the most hurtful words to me and I feel like I am a loser at times. I feel guilty, sad about everything because she can sometimes be ignorant and say things and pretend she never said them. Just recently, my sister was diagnosed with a curable HPV and she told my sister she was doomed for life and to leave her boyfriend because he caused this. I called her up to explain and tell her that this is normal and that I spoke to my sister and told her that she needed to take care of herself moving forward. I supported my sister in whatever decision she made, so I gave her positive reinforcement instead of putting her down. This is just of the many few occasions where puts us down bringing up past relationships and even commenting on calling animal services for my only dog because I wanted another dog. I don't understand what goes through her mind sometimes that she feels so negatively about us. We make mistakes but we have showed nothing else but support towards her when she has a problem too. My sister and I don't do drugs, drink nor party. We go from home to work and my only friends are my family and my dogs.

Question: When does it become accetable to hit a pregnant woman?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 11:10 AM PST

My fiance and I are pregnant. He has been violent in the past but I always handled it. I would overlook it or talk it out or just take photos of the injuries for a diary. But now I am pregnant. When we fight he yells a lot. He yells over me, cuts me off and won t let me get a word in. He often blocks me into whatever room we are in and won t let me leave while making threatening gestures and comes way too close to my body for my comfort. I get so frustrated that I always end up screaming because it is the only way I am heard, but that still doesn t help. So eventually I start to hurt myself or I attack him because I have so much anger built up but no outlet. When I do attack, he fights back. Recently, I have been thrown onto my stomach during these fights. I have tried to leave before but that always comes with him threatening to take the money saved for child or him telling my mom things to make me lose my family connection or lose my job or basically any way to tie me down and ensure I have nothing if I leave. He doesn t understand that this is not healthy. That neither of us should be putting our hands on each other, but still finds all kinds of justifcation for hitting a pregnant woman and not decides we can work it out. My question is this: how do I get out of this and keep my baby and myseld safe? And if there is no way out, how do I make this stop? I don t know what to do and I am scared he will make me miscarry from stress or violence one day.

Question: Is this a good reason to miss school?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 11:10 AM PST

Okay so this morning my mom woke me up at 530 am and started yelling at me to shower and clean my room. I showered the night before so I said no to that and she started freaking out. Then she calmed down and told me to finish cleaning my room, but my door was open and i told her to close it because i didnt want to hear her. she said she wasnt gonna close it so i said i wasnt gonna clean my room. Then she started yelling at me even more and she told me to get my backpack and get out of the house. i went to the living room and she threw my shoes and clothes at me and threw away my makeup and told me she doesnt want me living there anymore so i went to my grandmas house and stayed home from school since my hair was a mess, i didnt have socks, i had pajamas on still and i wanted to cry. Is that a bad reason to miss school? I rarely miss school. and i think my mom is mad that i stayed home because im preparing for finals (but i can email my teacher to ask what we were doing today) so i wont really miss anything, how can i get her to not be mad at me?! thanks im 14 btw

Question: How can I tell my uncles girlfriend were not friends and never will be?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 11:04 AM PST

My uncle was on and off with the same lady for years. He passed the other day. She seems to think were friends. I can't stand her and never did like her. My uncle and I were close and I think she thinks that we are friends since him and I were. It's taking everything for me to not go off on her. She said something about giving me her number... I was just like eh and walked away. I told my family if she asks for my number don't give it to her and blocked her on Facebook. Right now I'm keeping my mouth shut as respect for him and my family. But if she keeps bugging me after the funeral all bets are off. I don't like her because she clearly had a drug issue with pain pills, she lives off the government, and was living off my uncle. If you looked up lowlife her picture would be there.

Question: Should and how can I tell my mom?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 10:50 AM PST

Okay so about 9 months ago I pretended to date this girl who liked me. It seems wrong to fake date a person yes, but I'm the kind of person who makes everyone happy no matter what. Anyway, she was really abusive to me. Both verbally and physically. She would slap me, punch me in the jaw, stomach, everywhere she could. She threaten to make my life and she started to make me cut because I felt like a rag doll. She raped me every time I went to her house (I was raped over 10 times every time I went there.) She would leave bruises on me to where my mom couldn't see them without me taking my clothes off. She left them on my legs or stomach. She would say "I hope you get hit by a bus." Or "I hope your family kills you slowly." She made me feel worthless and depressed that I started to cut my wrists. My mom found the cuts on my wrist so I started to cut on my legs from her. I finally broke up with her 2 months ago and now she hates me for doing that and she glares at me, mouths the words, "I'm going to kill you." And were both in Band and when we would march I'm forced to stand next to her and when we walk she would trip me. How can I tell me mom? I can't tell my dad because he's anti on same sex relationships and say I screwed up. My mom would be a bit more understanding (I hope) but I don't know how to tell her what happened to me in those 7 months I was 'with' her. Should I even tell her? I'm not sure how she would react since I've never told her about anything bad in my life.

Question: What does my cousin mean when he asks me this?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 10:38 AM PST

when i was in india in 2011, my cousin bought me an airline ticket to visit him using his miles he gets from traveling. he asked me if my friends on facebook were going to help me because they were always bullying me he also lectured and tortured me very severely what do people mean when they say,"your cousin is very protective of you and doesnt want something to happen to you. what do people mean when they say, "your more than a relative.

Question: I hate my sons father!!!!?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 10:30 AM PST

I have an 11 month old son. Since the day i found out I was pregnant his dad has made my life hell. Didn't want to support my pregnancy and stuff even his mom said I should abort my son. I hate her too. Now that's my son is here they act like their are so in love with him. My sons dad acts like nothing never happened. And when we tried too move forward and wants me too meet his fiancé she tells him that she not ready too talk too me because she feels like I'm a bad mother. He told her I was keeping him away from his son. Which wasn't true when he would set datE but never show too get him. Then he will dispear for weeks. He always makes people think I'm the bad person. But nobody seems too acknowledged the fact of what was said and done too me. The mother of your child u don't treat like **** and treat her the way he did me. U just don't do it. He never once apologize too me. And that's exactly why u can move forward because there is conversation we never had and he knows that. I'm not in love with this man any more and nor do I want him. I'm just tired of him painting this bad picture of me. Tired of lies. I hope my son does turn out like him.

Question: Social help?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 10:29 AM PST

So basically me and a friend are exchanging gifts for Christmas, so I kinda overheard that he's buying me a PS4, which is expensive. And I told my Mum (happily) that I am getting a PS4 though mum says I'll have to refuse it as the gift I am getting him is such a simple thing. And mum told me that if I don't do so she'll punish me for disobeying her and my punishment go too far sometimes, not physical, so I don't want to get punished, but still I really want that PS4, It has been on my Wishlist for ages now.

Question: I will try to make it short pls read and please help .......?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 10:19 AM PST

So I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years no we have a 4 year old son and I have a 10 yr old daughter. When my daughter was 6yrs old and my son was 3 weeks old we had attended his nephews birthday ( His cousins kids) his cousins wife never seemed to like me was always disrespectful and rude to me I didn t want to go but I didn t want to start any problems. His. Cousin wife then began to call me bad name in front of my daughter we were trying to leave and I ended up getting attacked by her 2 sisters and her self. I don t wish to ever be in the same presence of this girl as long as I live I was attacked in front of my kids and I was humiliated. Its been 4yrs now and I still feel the same way my boyfriend family doesn t seem to think its a big deal they invite me places where she will be they tried to talk to me and ask why I m still not talking to her like I m breaking the family apart and I can t take this anymore I didny do anything wrong but his family seems to make it seem that way and when were invited to a family function where she will be I refuse to go and it s a big fight with my boyfriend I honestly feel like leaving him he is always crying about how things will never be the same and I feel like when he says that he makes it seem like its up to me if I want things to be normal for everyone just like his family makes it seem like it was not a big deal. I don t know what to do please help.

Question: How is life like for billionare children : Aren t the children afraid of being kidnaped ? How do they asume such risks ?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 10:01 AM PST

Question: My mom/dad/niece are coming to visit me and they are only staying for a week. And an obnoxious aunt came in and spoiled everything. HELP!!?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 09:58 AM PST

My niece requested me to bring her sight seeing and all of us have planned to do this together and have a good family time. We don't meet so often because they live in another country. When my father's sister heard that my family and niece are coming, she forced her way in and spoiled everything. Pushed my niece to do things like "it's fun spending holidays outside the family". My niece is so confused and is so reluctant to join the fun with the auntie. now the aunt "IS IN CONTROL" over the situation, trying to break us all apart. I told her that she is welcome to my home and visit and then she can come back again to visit other days. But she refused to do so and make all her own plans. She said many hurtful things like I am creating barriers and stopping her from seeing her brother (who is my dad), my mom and niece. She made so many changes in her plans and ordered others to follow her rules.

Question: Long and hard life?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 09:57 AM PST

I am 18 and currently live with my parents. my parents are not really supportive of me. I know what I need to to get to my Long term goal but they try everything to stop me. They are constantly invading my privacy and they take my stuff that was given to me or I paid for.I am afraid to talk to them because they will yell and scream and I get into more trouble. I set a short term goal to get out of the house before the year is up but now I got the news that no matter what I have to leave on january 1st. I won't be able to get pay till about halfway through December and it won't be enough to survive. just to get food and water. I won't be able to contact anyone (because they put a hole in my wall.) I feel I lost everything from friends to stuff. What can I do? I forgot to mention that I am still in school (online) and I won't be able to finish school. what the hell is wrong with me now they may kick me out this week

Question: I'm caught between my own family and my fiance's family. Where should my loyalty be?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 09:56 AM PST

You could say that my family is an object of social ridicule. We have a lot of psychological issues that would excite any self-respecting therapist (our issues probably invented the need for therapy). However, my family members are (or were) good people who simply fell unlucky in the game of fate and circumstance, and I feel a great sense of duty and devotion to them. My parents are deceased. When my father died, my sister, two brothers, and I only had each other. My brothers went a little crazy when deciding how to handle my father's estate. The disagreement became such a violent battle that sadly ended in both of their deaths. My fiance's father is very controlling and stubborn. He blames the younger of my two brothers for the death of the elder, and he says the entire event is a huge disgrace to our families. We buried the elder of my two brothers, but my future father-in-law decreed that the younger does not deserve a funeral. Regardless of who is at fault, I loved both of my brothers, and I want to see them both laid to rest, free of the troubling life our family has endured. I had the younger of my two brothers buried in secret. However, my fiance's father was furious when he found out, and he dug up my brother's body. He says that I am to be disowned if I defy him again, and the marriage between his son and I will be called off. Should I remain loyal to my first family and lose my place in my new one?

Question: Caught between my parents?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 09:50 AM PST

My Mom found out that my Dad was on an affair website, he claims it was a pop up but there are no pop ups on tablets. It's just a complicated situation and I'm caught in the middle. I don't know what to think or do ... I'm 18.

Question: My mother wont let me stay with dad. why?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 09:28 AM PST

what im saying is, im trying to stay with my dad to finish school. im at tulsa and my dad lives in lawton. my mother keeps judging me to grow the h*** up, im about to be 16 in one month. also, i have to babysit brothers while my mother goes out to work and then her boyfriends house and stay for longer than 2 hours with me starving. also, dad has a job with alot of checks, i have to wait 2 weeks to get food for the house and all. why wont she let me?

Question: I m afraid to talk to my parents?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 09:18 AM PST

I want to go on a trip to California. I went last month to visit a few friends, and my parents were very upset with it. I came back in one piece, but now I want to go back to see if moving there would be something I'd like to do. I told my mom about it, she got upset and she ignored the conversation, and won't talk to me about it. I haven't spoken to my dad about it yet. I want to talk to my mom about it more and I'm afraid to talk to my dad. What should I do?

Question: Talking to my teenaged brother. *advice wanted* long post*?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 09:15 AM PST

To understand it fully, i must first mention that he's not my biological brother. His dad and my mom moved in together when I was eleven and he was six. I pretty much grew up with him. He has lived with his dad since he was born since his mom gave up custody ( and later on when he was 12 decided to fight for custody ) He's always been a little troubled, but I try my best to be a good sister. I love him as if he were my real brother, but anyways. Ever since his mom came back into his life, he's been extreemely disrespectful to my mom, and hardly ever gets dicsiplined by his dad. He calls my mom names, cusses at her, and last week he punched a hole through his bedroom door just because my nieces somehow got into his room and made a mess ( my nieces are all under6 years) I seem to be the only person that he listens too, but i didn't know it had gotten this bad. I told him I was going to take him out for coffe on friday. I want to talkk some sense into him, but i don't know where to start. Advice?

Question: My mom always asks for my money ?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 09:14 AM PST

My mom asks me for money when she sees that I have it. For example for my sweet 16 I obviously got money, she saw that I did and she was like wow I really need $150 I said for what she said to par something I said oh wow really she said yeah do you think you could give it to me ? I said yeah then she came to get the money and said can I have $20 more ? I need to buy something tomorrow I have no money I said yeah then I just got a job I'm 16 It wasn't a food paying job at all u worked 5 weeks and finally got my check it was $110 and she cashed it with me. I was so happy to finally have my money I worked hard for then she came and said I need to my pay our phone bills . I said oh my brother just came to leave you $100 so you can pay them (my line is only $5 it was a deal) she said the yeah but I need another 100 and she knew I just cashed my check obviously she closed the door to my room and said do you think you give me the 100 ? I said I'm yeah sure I guess. And these aren't the only situations as soon as she sees I get money she asks me for some. And ever since my grandma heard I started working she calls me constant asking me for money and I don't know what to do I don't make a lot as you can see and it hurt to just see my paycheck go like that .

Question: My mom, over protective????

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 08:44 AM PST

does my mom trust me or what? for now we are living with her friend and well her friend has a brother who 7 years older than me. don t get me wrong he is not a creep and trust me I don t even like him but like everytime I talk to him my mom is like "what yall talking about" and im like nothing and she gives me this face like I know it is not nothing. and only thing we talk about are games and life lol its nun really. but when I talk to her friend she doesn t care!! is she like this because her friend is a girl and the guy is a guy lol and btw when my bro talk to the brother my mom doesn t care. and my bro is like younger than me oh and my mom knows that I don't like him. and she is friends with him also and talks to him so its not like she think he is a creep. but seems like she wont mind if im talking to him if my brother is talking to him or if we are all playing game together OR when she is in the room. btw im a girl and I do tell her what we talked about even when she didn't ask. but she just does this weird face like she doesn't care or something

Question: Should I run away from home when I turn 18 in a couple of days? Any suggestions of where I could go?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 08:36 AM PST

My life has been pretty rough im not in school we have no car and my mom is really mean to me. I feel like im being used most of the time. And I hate being trapped I want to live my life. And I know a few people I could stay with but I don't know them to well..

Question: My dad is driving me nuts. He decides that something needs doing in my life & without asking me if it s ok or how I want it done he does it.?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 08:03 AM PST

Examples: We heat with wood. He decided we did not have enough wood put up for winter, even though I told him many times we had things covered, and had an unllimited supply of free wood, without asking us, he went and bought us a rick of wood. He decided we needed some repairs done on our house, and even though I told him we had plans for what we were going to do about it, he started to just do it himself, and it was all I could do to make him stop. He decided we needed new tires for our van, and set about trying to get us some without even asking us, or even getting the size tire we needed. The most recent example, and the one that ticks me off the most: he & my mom babysat two of my children, and he decided my son s car seat was dirty and needed to be taken apart and cleaned. Without asking me if it was ok, he then took it apart, cleaned it, and reassembled it completely wrong, then got mad when I got annoyed and refused to let my son ride in it until it was put back together correctly. How do I make him stop doing these things? I get that he just wants to help, but it makes me feel like I m a child who can t do anything for myself. (I m 32 & have 5 kids.) it would be different if he would check with me before doing things, but it s like he thinks he knows more than me what needs to be done in my life. Also, he gets offended and angry if you call him out on something or ask him to stop doing something. How do I handle this?

Question: Is it odd to expect an engaged couple to share a room with sibling?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 07:57 AM PST

Every year my finances family takes a Christmas vacation to a cabin. As the family has gotten larger some space issues have evolved and I am being expected to share a room with two beds with my fiance and his brother. My fiance and I do not see eye to eye. The way I was raised this is very odd and unacceptable. Am I wrong in believing that they are wrong to expect me to be comfortable with this?

Question: (GIRLS) --- crazy school fight?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 07:22 AM PST

My sister Amy whose 16 was in school last week. And a guy (17) went up and grabbed under her skirt, grasping her bum. He grabbed all around UNDER her underwear, & between her legs! (not his first assault too)! Amy turned round and kicked him hard, in the groin! She had heavy shoes on (like steel) as she's a goth. The guy fell down and cried. A teacher intervened. BOTH got suspended, but HE wouldn't return to school soon anyway, due to his injuries! Amy kicked him SO hard, with such hard shoes. Mainly at the base of his penis. He was too embarassed or macho to go right to the doctor, but he actually had a lot of damage to the tissue of his penis! By the time he went to the hospital it was too late, so he seriously had to have his entire penis removed!!! They re-routed his urethra so he could still pee (like a girl), but he lost his penis forever! Meaning no sex now! Despite this, the parents have actually managed to come to an agreement about this matter though, & police agreed not to get involved. But: 1. Do you think she did the right thing? 2. Are you happy or sad that he lost his penis (and WHY)? 3. Will he feel pleasure with girls now? Or ever "bust a nut"? 4. What do you think about him having to pee like a girl? And feel like one now!? 5. Amy's girl friends are gonna leave him an anonymous message (in his locker). What do you think they should write on it?... & what special "presents" should they leave him (since he's basically feminine down there now)? .

Question: Boyfriends mother asking me seriously personal questions? Feel invaded, what would you do??

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 07:16 AM PST

I never really got on or trusted my boyfriends mom. She has terrible mood swings and can be really mean. For instance I took a hair out of the blender and put it on a plate with banana skins etc... She screams don't put that there. Now find it and put it in the bin. Crazy! She asked me to stay for Christmas with her and her son. I am planning on staying Christmas eve. She asked all about my family, what they are doing, where they are going to be. She knows theres family issues cause her son told her. I told her my mom and sister are helping out serving food to the homeless. She and her son seem to think its crazy. She goes you can bring a homeless person to the house instead, she didn't get it. She then says where's your dad going to be? Why don't your sisters talk to him.her son comes in and goes your talking about your family? Really emphasizing the issue. Why don't you just slap them in the head, and get then to stop acting like that, then her son comes was like yeah! Acting like their spoilt brats. She says your mom should be the glue that holds the family together. At the same time she is serving me cake. I just feel my personal life is invaded. I don't discuss my family with anyone and I feel disrespected at this point. I've never had anyone ask so many questions about my family or want to know so many things and pass all this judgement. What is this? What would you do? What can I do?

Question: My father gets mad when I don't say I love you it's just hard for me when he's got other family that says it he's my birth father?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 06:15 AM PST

Question: Question for adults -- do have nosy parents??

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 05:58 AM PST

My mom is constantly being nosy. She overheard something the other day as I was talking with another adult, and immediately she needed to talk to me. How have you put up boundaries??

Question: How do I find money someone stole from me?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 05:21 AM PST

A few weeks ago I saw my brother stealing money from my room but I didn't want to confront him right there because I knew he would hit me. But now I need the money for gas and I don't want to ask my parents because they shouldn't have to pay for my gas. How can I get my money back? I'm home most of the day because I do online school in the morning and work in the afternoon but he's not dumb enough to leave it at home. I asked him about it yesterday and when I tried to look in his bag he threw me to the groun and started kicking me. So how am I supposed to get my money back? I also can't tell my parents because they think he's the perfect child because he never does anything wrong in front of them so they'll never believe me and its not enough money to go to the police.

Question: Was this counted as a fight with my brother?? If so, who won??

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 04:47 AM PST

I remember this one time, I believe I was 13 years old. My younger brother, who was 10 at the time, we're arguing about something in the kitchen. So he was gonna rip up a page from my middle school yearbook. So I wasn't gonna let this dumba** ruin ANY of my property, so I got up and I pushed his stupid a** so hard, he crashed into the pots and pans. Then he hits me on the chest and I grabbed him and pushed him hard again and he went crashing into stuff again. Our grandma broke it up. We eventually apologized. So was this counted as a fight with my brother?? If so, who do you think won???

Question: What should we do about our Mom and Step Jerk?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 04:44 AM PST

Story from a blog: My mother has been with my "step jerk" for over ten years. This guy has tried to "replace" my Dad since I've known him. My brother, sister and I know that he's a total fraud when he tells everyone in our families that he "loves us with all his heart". Whenever he's alone with us (without my mother around), then he's cruel and mean by saying terrible things about my Dad. Also, he's very jealous that we're decent kids (his son was a high school dropout and pill popper who"s serving fifteen years in jail for vehicular homicide). We told our mother that we want to live with Dad, but she keeps telling us that she won't let us go without a fight. However, when we tell her that her husband is abusive especially when she's not around, then suggests family counseling as a "cure". (We've tried it twice and he's still the same old jerk). We plan on sneaking our stuff over to Dad's place and tell a social worker (Dad's best friend) about our ordeal. Any other suggestions?

Question: Is it wrong to make out with your cousin while drunk?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 03:49 AM PST

(Just to clarify: I'M A GIRL AND SO IS MY COUSIN) Last night, one of my friends had a small party at his house that basically consisted of weed, alcohol, etc. My cousin (who is my dad's half brother's daughter) and I are really close and we were just hanging out and drinking and smoking. After a while, we got kinda messed up and started taking shots off of people who were there. And apparently, I also made out with her. I don't remember that very much at all, but one of the guys there took a picture and sent it to me this morning. It was very obvious that it's me and my cousin in that photo. I trust him not to show anyone else (he promised he deleted it after sending it to me this morning), but I feel weird now. I'm definitely going to talk to her about it when I get to first period. But is it wrong to do what we did?

Question: Im 16 and cant live with the guilt caused by knowing my mom is having an online emotional affair?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 03:40 AM PST

Im 16 and have a little sister whos 9, I live with my mam who im very close too, more of a sister than a mam, i live with my stepdad (dad of sister) but hes basically my dad he brought me up since i was 1 yr old, my mam has been talking to this man online for 3 years as friends but recently the past 8months its gotten serious,they ring each other almost everynight she tells my dad shes going to bed and shes really upstairs on the phone, sometimes she sends him shopping etc just to ring him theyve never met (were from london him newcastle) they flirt ( quite sexualy) and talk about hotel rooms going for drinks, She tells me constantly she loves him and she gets really badly moody when they dont talk, he also has a wife and kids but my mam tells him shes divorced (shes not!) we dont get along with my stepdad hes controlling and a horrible person he doesnt show her any affection and she says she loves him but isnt inlove anymore, he makes my life hell as he kicks off at everything and is just so controlling, but recently iv felt guilty that he thinks everything is fine, i even started having dreams about her being caught and him being heartbroken, i cant tell him as im closer to my mam and it would betray her so much, but i cant live with the guilt, everytime im in the same room i feel awful that he doesnt know and i do, what can i do? Also shes becoming out of control, she will promise to watch films with me etc and order food but she always blows me off to ring him

Question: I need a better reason to live...?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 03:40 AM PST

So yeah, my family's one, friends, my boyfriend, cats, my job maybe... My moms gone and so is my dad so my grandparents and my brother are my only family really.. And we all hate each other.. My friends aren't really my friends.. Just people I see a lot they don't even come over cause I invite them, my brother or his boyfriend does.. See I don't make friends anymore cause I'm so nice they just take advantage of me.. As for me and my boyfriend we constantly fight and I'm tired of it and the rest blah blah blah.. I'm really depressed and I'm suicidal to a point where I'd let an infection like a uti kill me then my own damn self at least people won't think I'm selfish.. I have nothing to live for...

Question: I only have three or two days of winter break? What should I do?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 02:51 AM PST

Hi there! Winter break is coming very soon, but I just realized that I can only do what I want for around 3 days, meaning I will stay at where I live for 3 days. I'm going to Japan for the rest of the break and when I come back, I will have to go to school almost immediately. The problem is that my dad always choose to travel to other countries when my brother and I have a long break and we travel to Japan almost every break we got. I just don't really want to travel to Japan because I don't really like my family members in Japan. I just feel awkward with them because we don't have anything to talk about. I'm pretty sure that they don't like us as well because they (especially my grandma) judges me and compares me with other "better" people, which makes me feel like a trash. And my dad is always the one who talks when all my Japanese family members meet up. My dad always speak without thinking and he sometimes blurt out in front of my family members about my embarrassing experiences. If I have a long break, I just want to rest at home, study for my finals, and do what I enjoy. My dad doesn't seem to understand. When I say "I don't want to travel over the break," my mom will give me this look to tell me to be quiet. But don't get me wrong, I enjoy travelling very much, it's just that I want to spend some of my break alone. And sometimes, I wish to travel to other countries as well, not just Japan. I know I'm overreacting and being very selfish, but what can I do? Also, one of my best friends, whom I haven't met in a few years, is visiting to the area I live in. I also hope to spend some time with her, but she is only visiting when I'm at Japan and leaving on the day I return from Japan. Recently, I feel kinda upset about this because I don't think we will be able to meet up soon, since she is very busy with her studies.

Question: Sick and tired of having to live with these family?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 02:23 AM PST

First of all, for all the years that I've lived with my family, no matter how nice I am to their faces.. they still treat me like dirt and continue to do so until I'm out of the house. They continually emotionally abuse me, and we never have a real talk, i feel like i only feel i'm force to live with them and I'm sick and tired of it. Beyond that, these are the kind of family who are complete strangers to me for that's how I was treated for all the years that I've lived them. I can't remember the last time we have had a family dinner or anything, I have an family member who loves to go through my things in my room when I'm not around.. I just want to get out of home. Well I'm gonna be moving out of the house next year with an roommate, and I'm looking forward for it. What's your input on this? I'd appreciate all your comments!THANKS :)

Question: What do I do?!!?

Posted: 09 Dec 2015 02:06 AM PST

I'm going to barf, cry, and die omg.. So I woke up at like 4:40 in the morning.. But I woke up to the sound of my parents moaning and bouncing and smacking each other.. I'm so disgusted... I'm 11 and I feal like I didn't need to hear that.. I just stayed in bed just like.. Crying.. Their room is right next to mine and their door was wide open (I could tell their door was open) Do I tell them?? What do I do??!

Question: I hate my son's father!!!?

Posted: 08 Dec 2015 11:49 PM PST

I have an 11 month old son. Since the day i found out I was pregnant his dad has made my life hell. Didn't want to support my pregnancy and stuff even his mom said I should abort my son. I hate her too. Now that's my son is here they act like their are so in love with him. My sons dad acts like nothing never happened. And when we tried too move forward and wants me too meet his fiancé she tells him that she not ready too talk too me because she feels like I'm a bad mother. He told her I was keeping him away from his son. Which wasn't true when he would set dates to see him and not show up and then disappear for weeks at a time. He paints such a bad image of me. Never seems too remember what he did too me or even say that he was sorry for putting the mother of his child through hell. I never once got an I'm sorry. He makes everyone think I'm crazy. I'm so over this **** and I don't even want too see him. When he picks up and drop of our son I'm not here and he Picks up and drops off too my mom. I honestly hate this man I swear and I don't want my son too not be like him. I don't love him nor do I want him back but how donuntry too move forward and co-parent when he always telling people that ur a bad person. His fiancé is a major part of my sons life and I will try too be on the same page as them but I honestly give up because U have already painted a bad picture me.

Question: My mom always makes me feel uncomfortable and worthless and when I tell her she doesn't say anything?

Posted: 08 Dec 2015 11:47 PM PST

My mom makes me feel worthless

Question: Stress/anxiety related question?

Posted: 08 Dec 2015 11:28 PM PST

so basically, when my parents decide to get drunk, they talk extremely loudly. not shouting per say, but they insist on talking back and fourth at the same VOLUME as shouting, in other words, i can hear them from upstairs with my bedroom door shut. they also turn up the tv very loudly and do not stop talking until well past 1:00am. i'm trying to study up here, and between the loudness and the way they stink up the whole house with the smell of alcohol, i get extremely agitated, even frenzied, and i find myself whispering "shut up" over and over again. i swear it makes me so angry that i want to scream, and i anxiously turn on the fan and put in earplugs, trying to block on the noise. i just find it unusual that im reacting so strongly while my other siblings dont seem to care at all. is this just stress and anxiety or what? i'm sick of feeling this way. thanks.

Question: My fiancé was sexually molested by his father and abused by his mother. He wants to have a relationship with them. Is this normal?

Posted: 08 Dec 2015 11:24 PM PST

I will be visiting them this Christmas for the first time. He said his Mom already made me a stocking. She seems thoughtful. I don t understand how someone so cold could go to so caring? It is a deep concern to me. A few months into our relationship he told me that he was molested by his father. That he basically lost his father when he had brain surgery because he acted differnt since. After the surgery he molested him. I think he was 9-10 at the time. He said he had a lot of therapy. He also told me that his mother was mean to him. She told him he would never amount to anything. Recently she has changed. I noticed when I was with him that she would send him text saying she was proud of him. He even mentioned that she was being really nice lately. I wonder if this has something to do with him being in the military now? Does she suddenly respect him more? I asked him what was going on with his parents because they seemed nice. He said his father won t look him in the eye and his mother is nice now because he basicly told them that he would never talk to them again if they kept treated him badly. He is the only child they have. Is it possible that the relationship between them is starting to heal like this? Is he lying about how bad it was? I dont think he is lying-he has never lied to me before.I understand that abusers can be deceitful and kind. Should I be worried about my own saftey? Thank you for taking the time to read this and I truly appreciate any feedback.

Question: Buying a gift for 60 year old dad?

Posted: 08 Dec 2015 11:05 PM PST

My dad is unique. He's 64 years old and has a wide variety of interests. He's easy to shop for and not so easy to shop for at the same time just because of the kind of person he is. We usually get him clothing because he's a slob and loves to wear them out until they're literally falling apart. However, I want to get him something that really means something to him this year. He's a government professor and he loves the oldies and classic movies but also modern critically acclaimed TV and movies and in general is kind of an entertainment junky. He likes sports (Philly teams) but he has two bad knees and I haven't seen him do anything extremely physical since I was 10. He and my mom are avid golfers but it seems like such an easy target for shopping. He's a sap too (he cried when we saw Toy Story 3 together). Ideas appreciated :)

Question: My parents don't want me to get tribal tattoos? Please help!?

Posted: 08 Dec 2015 10:19 PM PST

My parents have religion and are modern. They've stopped practicing most of our tribal culture. They are from different headhunter tribes. I'm from Southeast Asia and I have learned everything about our culture. I want to get tribal tattoos on my shoulder and on my hand. These tattoos are one from my mother's tribe (shoulders) and one from my father's tribe (hand). My great grandparents have long forgotten these traditions of tattoos. But our culture is slowly dying. Even the elders have forgotten most of what the tattoos look like and their meaning. I feel really sad and want to keep it alive, even if it's little. My family are all Christians. They said they don't want me to be a traditional pagan and spirits worshipper. Before being colonised, the people were mostly pagans and animist. I don't think tattoos will change me as a person. It is simply because I want to appreciate culture. However, tattoos are frowned upon here. How do I convince them I want to get tattoos? I fully understand the meaning and will only get them on my shoulders if they really won't approve me of getting them....at least just my shoulders. A few people my age have also learned our culture and got tattoos but they are not bad pagans and evil spirits worshippers.

Question: I need to stay home tomorrow from school! please have answers quick?

Posted: 08 Dec 2015 10:02 PM PST

okay so my friend and I were talking and she decided she wanted to role play unfortunately e I WASNT TOLD WE WERE ROLE PLAYING and when she said her step mom was abusing her and she was going to kill herself I immediately called 911.... after they left she called me and yelled at me..... even her mom called mine and yelled.... I need a day off school because im really shaken up about it and keep getting random anxiety attacks but I dont think my mom will let me stay home....HOW DO I GET HER TO LET ME STAY HOME!! please don t say to suck it up and go because I really don t think I could handle a day please answer fast

Question: I'm angry at my family?

Posted: 08 Dec 2015 09:34 PM PST

none of my extended family wished me a happy birthday on Facebook and they never have. My mom sent me off to boot camps and none of them even wrote besides my one uncle in jail. I feel like I'm not welcome and can't even talk to them.

Question: Solution or for feeding a baby formula every 4 hours for 2 months (30 oz. a day /48 days)?

Posted: 08 Dec 2015 09:31 PM PST