i am 17 year old male what is best age to get married. I was just curious and how would you know if shes the right type of person to be married to?

MEN ARE ALWAYS CHEATING

My husband didn't report the VA check he receives every month for disability. He cheated. He didn't want his family. Found a new one. He makes double what I make and complains if I ask him to buy 25.00 sneaker. Blah blah. I try to get all the overtime I can at work but I dont want to leave my kid the entire day. Plus, I'm a student. She needs to have one parent who she can depend on. So I'm not getting close to the amount I'm supposed to be and he only does bare minimum when it comes to raising her. I'm currently paying my lawyer monthly until I have the full retainer fee paid and he can start representing me in the divorce.

We've been married for a couple of years and we only have 1 bathroom. Whenever I'm in the shower, he comes into the bathroom and takes a crap and it smells AWFUL as he's eating healthy / working out more. I've locked the door but he's found a way to pick the lock and to make it even worse sometimes he won't flush the toilet while I'm in there to make me suffer while he laughs.

I didn't have a problem when I was single because I always end up dating the men I fantasize about. I also tend to develop crushes easily. However, now that I'm married, this proves to be more detrimental to my mental health and to my marriage. I never cheated but I almost had an emotional affair with several men. It hurts to not be friends with the opposite sex. How should I stop and what's the trick to avoiding this altogether?

I'm 35. He is 39. We've been together since I was 17. Married when I was 19. Throughout our relationship he has had online communication with various women in sexual chat rooms, hidden emails, etc. When cell phones came into use, it escalated with text messages. (which means he met the women while out partying with friends and exchanged phone numbers) I don't want to go into detail because that will take FOREVER. (One thing I want to say real quick, I never would have even thought to check his phones or computers, because I never would have though he would do these things, but he would fall asleep in the middle of doing them, and the rooms and messages would be up on the laptop when I would wake up) But needless to say, this continued for a long long long time. Him going out, me staying home with the kids. Him being drunk, meeting women. Fast forward to about 4 months ago and I found text messages on his phone, not just with women, but with prostitutes as well. He swears up and down he never met up with any of them. He also does not consider this cheating. He considers it very hurtful to me, but not cheating. He has not gone out drinking since, and has stopped all contact with the women. We are "trying" to move forward. The problem is: When I was 16, I had a boyfriend. We moved from Florida to Georgia and so, he moved with us. My parents didn't think it was fair to break us apart and due to age, my mother knew that soon, he would return home anyway, rather than face the responsibilities so young. She was right :) However, he and I remained really good friends and my mother kept in contact with his family. This was 20 years ago. He lives 8 hours away. We have not seen each other in those 20 years. He also married a girl who I was best friends with in middle school. We've kept in contact over Facebook mostly. Recently he and the girl are divorcing because she has become a drug addict and they have two little girls together. As a result he has called me, asking for advice. My husband... who has never ever checked my phone or phone calls in our entire relationship of 18 years... has begun to do so... I've talked to this person off and on over the years and its never been a problem ever. My husband says its because, he didn't know that we talked and that he would have had a problem with it, if he did. The problem with that is..He has always had access to the phone records, always had access to my email, always had access to my Facebook and Facebook messages. He accuses me of deleting them saying its because I don't want him to see them and he has begun to check up on me, and my phone and my text messages... (which we only talk over Facebook or in phone calls) My thing is... I never would have ever checked his items, if i never woke up to find it open on his screen. Causing a roller coaster of suspicion for years. Along with fake email accounts, fake phone numbers and google voice, etc. None of which I have ever had and have always given him open access to ALL and ANY accounts I have. But I feel like, because I caught him, and it was really bad... he is now instead, suspicious of me, when I not only haven't done anything ever, nor would I,... BUT, wouldn't even be able to, given me and the person haven't seen each other in 20 years .. and he lives 8 hours away... and who in the hell gets together with someone they knew 20 years ago, just because they're husband text prostitutes??? This all blew up tonight because... I like to keep my phone cleaned up. I delete phone calls that came in at the end of the night if I don't need the numbers (which he can see on the phone bill) I delete text messages if I am done with the conversation again, which he can see what numbers come in on text on the phone record AND... the messages also connect to my computer and those I don't delete. On top of that, if I no longer need a conversation in my Facebook messenger, I delete those. Its just a OCD thing of mine. He started questioning me tonight on what and why I was deleting something and telling me that I can no longer do that, because he needs to see my stuff. .... but, my stuff is already opened to him. ... ??

I have a friend who draws a disability check from her learning when she was in school. She isn't handicapped or anything. She just got married in May but she isn't legally married since her check will get cut off if she did get legally married. She tells everybody she is married by common law and alot of people has this kind of marriage. She didn't even have marriage license. Is it legal for her to do this? She still uses her old last name when she signs papers at the doctors office and stuff

Before you unload on me with the: "Oh men do it, too!" crap; I've slept with a ton of married women, and most of them complained they were bored or unhappy in the marriage--but that they still wanted to be with their husband because they loved him. Nonsense. I was a young punk during these times, yes--but I find it sad that most of these women were doing the nasty with me while their hubby was out providing and still had a nerve to claim they loved the hubby. Then I realized that most married women are just sluts. Can someone set me straight on the matter? Thanks.

My husband and I have been married for 3 years. He's Hispanic, first language Spanish contractor and I'm Mexican American first language English .Anywho I have a holiday dinner with work and they said we could invite our significant others and at first he was excited but recently told me he didn't want to go. I should go alone because he doesn't speak a lot of English and he would feel uncomfortable... I really want to him to go, but should I force him. What should I do? How should I handle this? And I get where he's coming from but I don't know thoughts....

i have been with my guy now for 4 years . sex is different and he just has gotten so comfortable i kinda miss when he use to put in work and make me happy now its just like blah blah with sex and he is always tired .

Hi, all! I was wondering if there are any hair experts out there... Basically, I used to have fairly thick hair. Not extraordinarily thick hair, but thick enough. (A bit of background info, if it matters- I'm half Filipino, half Caucasian. My hair almost feels silky like Asian hair, but it's a light brown.) Over the years my hair has gotten thinner and thinner, and I'm just now starting to get bothered by it. Is there any possible way to get back my thicker hair? Thanks!!!

In my first marriage I was more dominant over my ex husband. For some reason that's how things naturally laid out. We weren't a good fit overall.He is in the Military and I found myself making all the decisions when he was gone and he seemed ok with it even when he was home. I never felt feminine and found myself not attracted to him. I'm engaged to another Military man, he's my heart. We get along so great and he's my best friend.. He.stands up and takes the mans role unlike my ex husband. It's all so natural with us. I'm so amazingingly attracted to him because of this. I approached him about (The man leading the Family) and he was very open to it. But I feel because of my last relationship, zi have the tendency to fall back into the bad habbits from before. So I would like to educate myself on being a goid partner but being submissive to him with him being the leader of our future family. Thank you!!!

I really want to believe I am over reacting but I doubt it. My wife and I split up now for a couple months but to get back together. I don't think she's ever messed around. However she has a kid with another man before our marriage who hasn't seen the kid since she was 1. Fours ago. I've been the kids step dad and do everything for the child. I'm deeply bothered because where my wife is she just told me that she's been getting rides from him and has even shared some personal details about our marriage to him. I am furious needless to say. So without me saying anything else Would you let this blow over or be just as pissed. For how I feel she can go to that special place underground.

I had an emotional affair about 2.5 years ago and my husband is still very obsessed by it and I know he is in a great deal of pain. We have talked and talked about it and I feel very confident that I truly and deeply understand my dysfunctional thought processes and mistakes I made that led me down such a asshole path. Anyways, in order to stay with me my husband demands that there must be a monumental gesture to him. These things he wants include; a threesome, anal sex whenever he wants it (both of these I am completely uncomfortable with and against especially the threesome due to possible STD's, etc), then he also wants me to make a fool out of myself to the other person and other things. If I say I'm not ok with these things he says I should be more than willing to do anything and everything he asks. While I want to make it up to him I truly feel like these things will not help but only hurt us more. He says if I won't do these things I clearly don't truly want to do whatever it takes to keep him. In my mind, yeah I want to do anything I can but does that mean that I have to violate myself to do it? Hoping for some insight.

What was the resentment? Her over-reaction of 2005. Why do I resent her? She took everything I enjoyed away from me just so she can have everything she enjoys instead. It went from a traditional marriage to a femdom marriage, and that is NOT what I signed up for. I want a traditional marriage again, but I don't know how to do that and I'm angry that she's make ME do all the work. Challenges: *The power struggle created with her femdom. *Hurt feelings of betrayal and how she controlled me. *Anger from having to put my pride aside to fix a problem I only partially created. *I have low self esteem due to 10 years of being dominated/manipulated/controlled. P.S. - I was 23 years old when I made the "choice" to let her femdom me (I don't mean in bed either, I mean the dynamic of the relationship - she became my boss instead of my equal). So to say I allowed her would be only partially true; I didn't know I had a choice in the matter. It was an ultimatum and I did what I had to in order to keep her in my life. I sacrificed what little esteem and pride I had to keep the marriage that I *just* got into 6 months prior... Actually, I remember my wife saying that she was not going to be just like her Mother and keep making references to me being like her Father..... In recent years, she told me that she didn't want to be like her Mother and insisted I was nothing like her Father... So back then, she hated both parents; recent years, she just hates her mother... She disowned both of them and only comes home for the holidays due to Grandparent obligation with our kids.

My wife and I graduated high school in June of 2000. On September 2001 we met after talking online since graduation. At the end of October 2001 we got an apartment together. By Thanksgiving 2001 we found out she was pregnant. By July 2004 we got married. By her birthday 2005 she was pregnant again. From June 2001 to September 2001 we weren't dating or partying or doing much of anything. I had a job at a local movie rental store and she had a lowly job at the local bank (something to do with verifying receipts). So it was all work and no play. She also was attending classes part time where I was working two stores putting in the same amount of time as her away from home. From September 2001 to November 2001, we weren't dating persay. Who had time for that? We were working our butt off trying to please our parents and trying to avoid punishment. We saw each other on the weekends and talked every day online after work/school. So there wasn't any wining and dining except on the weekends, and even then it wasn't much because we made next to minimum wage after our car payments/insurance. The whole time she was pregnant was miserable. We spent a lot of time cuddling and acting our male/female roles, but she did not enjoy carrying a baby; especially with how poor we had to live to eat properly enough. Then after our child was born our "married life" had to change to properly raise him. So, how radical is my marriage story from the normal peoples' story?

They ve been married since 1999, so 16 years. They ve been separated for at least 2 years now, though they ve never filed for separation or divorce. They do have plans to go see a mediator to begin the official divorce sometime in the next month. The current situation is that he wants to buy his mom s house. Mom wants to move, and he really wants to keep the house in the family and has made an unofficial offer, but everyone is hesitant with the beginning of the divorce. They re afraid that anything he buys before the divorce is final may get claimed as "theirs" and put into the list of things that have to be split; that she d get more. Mom mentioned that during her divorce, her ex bought a home but had her sign some sort of agreement that it wouldn t be claimed "as theirs" and divided. This was suggested to him, but he s afraid if he tried to do that, it would tip her off that he has more money and she would get more out of the divorce. He s planning on getting a loan for the house. So in getting a loan, he doesn t really have much more than he already has, except the debt of the house (is the house itself then an asset?). If she tried to get that in the divorce, she would be liable for part of the debt right? Should they wait until the divorce is final, which takes, what, a year? Or is it safe to buy the house now? Mom is pretty anxious to move sooner than later.

My husband and I have been married for 2 years but involved 8. We started out as an affair. I eventually left my children's (two children) father for him. He is a bitter and silent person. He criticizes my children and I all the time. We can never do anything right. He says he feels like an outsider in our home. He doesn't laugh or play. He never wants to go out. He doesn't like my family. Dislikes going to my parents I think because they are very traditional and still speak Spanish. His family is ghetto. We have one year old together. He has told me I am not his priority and we are on our own with things (after an argument because I was upset he agreed to go in to work on his day off and I needed him to watch our baby so I could take an exam at my university). I do not work but do go to college and take 12+ units. He is bad with money but in charge because it is his paycheck. He is not affectionate. We rarely have sex. Admittedly I have gotten fat. I have been so stressed and depressed that I have become a closet eater. I will so far as look for change to buy junk food when I'm out of the house. He does not like me. Speaks to me only in a controlled monotone voice. I can be very bitchy. I argue long past the point of making anything better. I'm tired and unhappy. The truth is if I didn't try with him he wouldn't and our marriage would disintegrate Any advice?

I got married when i was 17 and quit school ( yes i know now i was to young and it was stupid ) but i am 23 now, have 2 kids and my marriage isn t fixable. I am miserable. My husband lived in a different state than me so 6 years ago i moved. We never spend any time together, basically i stay home 24/7 take care of the kids on my own, he works but after work or on his days off he stays on his xbox and i am not exaggerating when i say that apart from work that s all he does. Since we had our first child that is 4 now we haven t slept in the same bed. I just feel i don t have a life anymore and im not happy. I wanna leave but getting back on my feet is gonna be the worst part. My mom and dad are gone, my grandmothers and grandfathers are gone, all my aunts and uncles on my moms side are gone all i have left are cousins and none of them are stable. I just dont know what to do, i can t work and make money because i have 2 kids and no one to watch them and if i don t have any money i can t have my own place. I just don t know what to do at this point, not to mention with 2 kids i ll need a car and i honestly just feel stuck, like I m gonna be unhappy forever because i can t get these things i need. I just don t know what to do anymore.

We have been together for 4 years ,1.5 years of this was long distance,married last september .For the last 1 year we have been having problems as he spends most of his time at work,stopped taking me out,not doing any surprises and doesn't show affection.In some of the heated arguments,I asked him to leave and he left for 3-4 days and came back with apology but he never changed. In our last argument,he told me that he was at the gym .He came very late and when I pushed him,he told me that he went to a client`s house to do her hair so he can get extra money to buy me a present.He is a hair dresser.When I asked where his equipment is ,he admitted that he went out with his friends.I never stopped him going out with his friends but he chooses to spend time with them more than he wants to spend time with me.We both made mistakes in this marriage . Since the seperation 1 month ago,I initiated contact,met with him to talk ,we decided to go on therapy,he looked after my dog when I went out and came to do the gardening last sunday.I thought we were sorting our problems out but he then told me that he still needs time to correct his ways and restore the spark as he thinks we lost it.but he only contacted me once since last sunday asking me if I need anything .he is not trying to sort things out or to get the spark back. I haven`t seen him or talked to him in last 10 days.I feel like he is the one who lied but punishing me for it.Shall I block him everywhere and move on?

I miss the gender games in my marriage... What gender games? The game where the man acts gentleman-like, the woman acts lady-like, and the two follow gender norms that keep this magnetic attraction towards each other going. Yes, this is not our "natural" state, and is nothing more than an act, kind of like a dance or a concerted performance, but after 3 years of it, THIS is the dynamic I signed up for. He compliments, she blushes. She kisses, he feels proud. He pampers, she swoons. She scratches, he smiles. It's a pretty great game to play! But imagine all that being taken away from you after marriage. Imagine one person saying "You know what, all this women stuff sucks. I never asked for this." then denouncing her role and the tradition of husband and wife is now under attack. Don't get me wrong, she's entitled to this as a liberal activist/feminist and as an individual with a brain, but she single-handedly killed the romance and the intimacy in our marriage by doing this. How do you treat a woman respectfully like a lady if she doesn't identify as one? How do you have hetero sex when she acts as manly as you do, if not more manly? It was all a mindfcuk. This change emasculated me, made me question who I am, took away everything I loved about our intimacy, and for 10 years now I haven't figured out what went wrong or how to fix it... Hence, 4 years on Yahoo! It might be too late, but how do I recreate this dynamic in my marriage? It was the only time I was ever happy...

I get no sex at all and it makes me so frustrated, I know marriage is not all about sex but sometimes a woman wants the satisfaction of feeling loved because he holds and caress her. Been going on for quite some time. Sometimes I'm so angry that my needs are not fulfied by my husband, what's a woman to do.we don't talk about it anymore because if I bring it up I'm just a nagging ***** so unhappy a lot of the times. He thinks nothing of it seems anyman would want to fulfield his wife sexual needs and he know how much I enjoyed sex. Any advice from you I'm sad, broken, disgusted right now. I agree with you all. may be low testerone he went to the doctor for some pain he was experiencing and he told me he got checked for prostate and everyting was fine with him.I told him oh no it's not. If this messes with his ego, just imagine how my self esteem is torn right now.The worst thing of all he won't talk to me about what's going on with him, I told him that we have been married to long for us not to be able to talk about anything. Almost to lose respect for him and his selfishness.

....because he always complains about money or how much he spends on the family. I'd rather a pair of slippers from Walmart, and never hear about it again, instead of being given something expensive, then hearing about how much it costs or "we blow through money" regularly. Do I give it back or insist I do not want anymore gifts from him. This all makes me stressed and honestly, hurts my feelings. Thanks for your help

He was hurt 10 years ago, a year before we married. We bought a home together. He is going to give up his disability status and drive trucks again and I think he is scheming to let our home go into forclosure and buy a motor home and leave.me. My name is on the deed but not the mortgage. What rights would I have concerning this motor home? I reside in the state of North Carolina.

I broke up with him (he made hints about marrying me) but 3 months later he was engaged to someone else. I don't understand. He got married, then left on deployment. What gives? Why did he talk about marrying me but got married to someone else 3 months later?