Family: Question: Is a 14 year old old enough to visit someone in jail?

Question: Is a 14 year old old enough to visit someone in jail?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 01:03 PM PST

My wife, who is also mother of my fourteen year old is in jail for six months for a financial crime. I am willing to stick by her and not leave her because I feel She made some stupid mistakes but it was out of character so I think she just got herself into a bad situation and make some poor decisions, She also never did anything bad at all before this And I am not defending her or saying she should not serve her punishment. I told my daughter we should be glad her mother is serving time for her actions. Doing the right thing for her mistakes. Also, her mother is showing regret and no defense at what she did .. I wonder once she goes if I should take my 14 year old daughter to visit her, but I am not sure I want my daughter to be inside a prison environment My daughter seems to be taking it fine , she also said it is kind of funny that her mother is locked up and is now the one being ordered around by others. This is weird because she never had a bad relationship with her mother. I asked what she meant and she said she was just joking. I think that is OK to try to crack a joke to make the situation feel less bad and that a better way of handing the situation instead of being hysterical about itshould I take her to visit her mother when she is in jail, or is it a bad idea? My wife says she can come if she wants to. But even if she wants to it could be a bad environment.

Question: So I got two F s but the rest are A s?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 12:58 PM PST

So I got two F s but the rest are A s should I wait until next week to give my mom my interim so I can also give her anew print out of one of my F s that turn into a B or give it to her now

Question: How many siblings do you have?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 12:56 PM PST

I have a twin sister and a little sis

Question: Bad or good idea?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 12:53 PM PST

Back story: My sons dad finally became involved in my sons life when he was 3 months old (visits every Saturday for 6 hours. it was mainly me just sitting in his house with my son while they did their family thing. He lives with his parents and grandparents. Basically we were ignored). He left when he was 9 months old. A month earlier I met my fiance. After my sons dad left he took on fatherly roles. Hes always been like a second father but became even more hands on when he left. My son is 15 months and his dad is still gone. I don't think hes coming back and my fiance like I said has been his dad. For example, my fiance moved not long after we got together and my sons birthday passed a few months ago my sons dad didn't even send a happy birthday text. But my fiance bought a plane ticket to visit for his birthday and take him out. Even from far away hes there for him. If my son has a night mare hell facetime him (No matter time of night or almost morning) until hes calmed down. Question: Since hes not coming back and lost his rights for abandonment do I just tell him my fiance is his real dad? Weve already made an arrangement to put him on the birth certificate and no matter how sour we got that hell always been A dad to my son. I dont want to lie and hurt him but I dont want him feeling not good enough and thats why his real dad left. I think hes perfect and it upsets me he has to go through this. I want him to feel loved

Question: Hello, my dad is very drunk, he is downstairs shouting at tv and i am very scared. cant even sleep, please help me. What do i do?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 12:45 PM PST

Question: How does a mother feel when her son isn't a baby anymore?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 12:34 PM PST

Question: Did I get good grades?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 12:24 PM PST

I got A- in Calculus B in French C- in American Literature B- in Advanced Biology C+ in French (Level III) D+ in Photography D in Health Class 11 My mom said id be grounded until further notice...but i got all Cs and Bs last year...I do have an A. Is it fair to ground me and make me do all my siblings chores? I think i got pretty good grades. Why are my parents so mad? The B (2nd grade) was in Behavior. Every time you get a detention your behavior grade drops one point (I got 4 detentions so far...so I went from an A+ to a A to a A- to a B+ to a B.

Question: Why do people have kids if they're going to abuse them?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 11:49 AM PST

My mother had 4 kids by the time she was 28, me being the oldest. I was occasionally hit or called named to the time I was in the 4th grade. In the 5th grade my mother would get up in the morning and scream and yell at me and I would go to school crying, but managed to calm down by the time I got there. When I was 12-13 she started beating me to a pulp, and this continued to the time I was 16. I was sat on and choked, dragged by both arms down brick stairs and kicked and told to get lost. I never did anything to upset my mother but she would always find ways to start a fight with me, even if it was something so lame as she didn't like the way I arranged my personal belongings. As an adult, I do not want children because I am very angry at the way I was treated and don't know if I can even be a good parent. I have suffered from depression and panic attacks since I was in my 20's.

Question: I am 18 and my parents won't let me ge my septum (re)pierced?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 11:44 AM PST

I have wanted a septum ring for over two years now and i have been extremely thoughtful of it and what precautions i would need to take in order to avoid awkward contact with conservative family members/ future employers. I will flip it up and hide it. I grew up with a really grade-strict dad but appearance-wise, he didn't really care unless it was something absurd.(like, apparently, a septum ring.) I was taught to respect my parents at a young age and to not talk back unless i wanted my assbeat. It was terrible. I hated it, and i am still afraid of my father today, who has apologized to me in tears about how he was a bad (but good?) young parent. But this isn't the problem. The problem is, when my twin and i got home the next day, (after texting them and letting them know we got them done. we debated not telling them at all, but went with the naive option.) They weren't happy, but I didn't think a hellstorm packed with the wrath of a vengeful god and the white-hot fury of 1,000 suns would reign down upon me that day. We got home after a four hour drive I was nervous, but it was the happiest i'd been in ages. In the end our step mom who was drunk screamed at us and took them out of our noses because we weren't allowed back into the house until they were out. LONG story short, she then threw them into the yard so we would never find them again. I was so mad i didn't speak to her for three weeks.I am still upset. How do i bring this up again so that this doesn't end violently?

Question: Moving out at 15?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 11:36 AM PST

I'm 15 in 9th grade. I was adopted by my fathers mom. He's in prison and my birth mom is with her family in Pennsylvania. I live in Florida. She is verbally and emotionally abusive. She's a manipulative liar. All 4 of her kids, including my father, hate her. Her mom, my great grandma, is disgusted with her. All of her brothers and sisters hate her because she has betrayed them all. Growing up, she told me my parents never wanted me and didn't care for me. Well, I just got shown the truth and I just hate her. If I keep living with her, I won't be able to get anything done. She's just ruining my life and I'll end up being nothing if I stay here. I have 3 family members to live with. One is out of state. Also, I've agreed to help out financially when I turn 16. So what can I do? I have to get out of here as soon as possible.

Question: Baby brother problem?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 11:30 AM PST

hey guys I am 20 with two little now 3 year old brothers Aiden and Christian! so now the problem... Christian was running around screaming Hes gonna get me and Aiden was sitting crying saying the same thing and my mom and dad are at work right now.. I am babysitting them.. Aiden just came running in and I am trying to calm them down. We are also about to go on vacation in two hours and I need to calm Christian down before they come home... I have Aiden taking a nap on my chest for right now... Christian keeps holding my arms and crying please make him go away I am trying everything to calm him down but nothing is working... I am going to put Aiden in his crib for a few minutes to calm Christian down. when I babysit I have there cribs downstairs so I fint have to go running up and down the stairs but I have no idea what to do to calm Christian down... poor baby... he just cried and said... no! no! don't take me! help me! I'm really scared for him... please help me!

Question: XMAS AND BDAY GIFT DILEMMA?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 11:14 AM PST

Hi all, I am 14 years old and I don't know what to ask for for Christmas and my birthday. My parents are divorced and have been for about 7 or 8 years. I don't like my dad and so I try to ask for as little as possible so that he cannot use it against me in the future or against my mom and stepdad in court. I know that that probably sounds shallow, but my dad is not a nice person. He hasn't treated me and my sisters like human beings let alone human beings. I won't go into too much detail in this question I will make one in a couple of minutes about it. Anyways, I asked him for gift cards because instead of a birthday party I am going shopping with my best friend. I don't ask my mom and stepdad because they get things based on the Autumn they know. My grandmother, on my dad's side, asked me for a list and I don't really like asking for things because I feel awkward for asking people for things that I don't need. I love books and the smell of them, I play soccer, I knit (but I don't need more yarn or anything), I'm a tomboy but I like to do my hair, I like puzzles, and I am an eighth grader doing college work if that helps at all. Look at my next question for the rest of the story.

Question: Do my parents have the right to be mad at me over withdrawing from courses?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 10:45 AM PST

Ever since I came home for holiday, my parents have gotten extremely mad at me over withdrawing from two courses in college-Calculus I and Chemistry I. I withdrew from both of the courses because I was not doing well in them and I did not want to get a low grade and lower my GPA. My parents really care about my grades and do not want my GPA to be low. I realized that I should have taken Pre-Calculus instead of Calculus because I basically forgot and did not master everything I studied in pre-calculus in high school. On top of that, Chemistry was really difficult for me. I do plan on taking Chemistry again in the future and taking pre-calculus before advancing into Calculus. Additionally, I was extremely depressed at the college because I did not have any friends and had a hard time fitting in socially since the college is big on greek life. I got some tutoring lessons but it was near the end of the semester and I already wasn't doing as well. Right now, my college GPA is 3.1 and I am a sophomore. However, I am transferring to a different college (not near home though, it's in a different state). My parents were so mad that the threatened to pull me out of the college that I want to transfer to and force me to attend college near home. They are mad that I will not graduate on time. I even told them that I would take summer college courses so I can graduate on time. Yet, they are scared that I will not academically succeed, but they do not understand that I am trying.

Question: Sometimes my mom spanks me bare butt when her belt it leaves marks and welts, is the physical abuse I am 14?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 10:39 AM PST

Question: How do I tell my mom that I don't want her friend at OUR Christmas?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 10:32 AM PST

This Christmas my moms friend is coming, we are having it at my Aunts house, and I DO NOT want my moms friend there! She is extremely annoying, and is a total kill joy, she always is speaking in these rediculous tones of voice, it's very annoying and I'm not over exaggerating, it is the most annoying thing that she does. And just like at Thanksgiving, she doesn't help with anything! Cooking, shopping, preparing, ETC and She just does a lot of little things that I HATE, and my 2 cousins don't like her either. She has family, it's not like she was abandoned or anything, she just decided to weasel her way into our family for this Christmas and a couple weeks ago at our Thanksgiving... Pretty much the ONLY thing she did at thanksgiving was sit on her big butt, and watch TV, and eat... Nooooo cooking, noooo setting up the table, Noooo last minute ingredient shopping, and noooo cleaning up after. Here's and example... (We were all busy except her and my 76 year old grandma, and we needed a bag of powdered sugar for frosting, and she just sat there and let my grandma go to get it) And that is EXACTLY what she will do on Christmas... Nothing

Question: Dad kicking me out at 15 along with 16 yr old brother and 17 yr old sister?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 10:15 AM PST

Ok, so my father is trying to kick me out of his house along with my two other siblings. I'm 15, and the other 2 are 16 & 17. About two nights ago we all got in a huge fight.... We found him chocking out his girlfriend and he was intoxicated and we tried to help. He then tried to leave the house, but my older sister,age 17, told him not to and he got really angry and hit her and went to choke her. As my 1st instinct,along with my 16 year old brother, tried to help her. We all started fighting him and holding him down to stop because he's pretty strong. In the end of the fight, my brother had a busted lip, And my sisters nose was bleeding and she had a black eye. His face has a few bruises also. He denies giving her the black eye and blames it all on us. He turned everyone against us, even our family. He refuses to be by us and is forcing us to leave. He says we have by tonight to go and he doesn't care where we go either... We have no family or friends and we're all alone in this situation. I just moved down from Mississippi to Maryland to move in with him about 5 months ago. My mother still has custody of me, but my father has custody of the other 2.... I just don't know what to do in this situation. What should we do?? Dad kicking out 15 Yr old Daughter? Dad kicking out 15 Yr Old Daughter?

Question: My mom buys too many groceries..?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 10:12 AM PST

And only her, me and my dad live in this house. Most of it gets wasted and thrown out. Any other people have a parent like this? And it makes me feel guilty, especially this time of year with it being the holidays when there are people starving.

Question: Dad kicking me out at 15?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 10:03 AM PST

Question: I dont see the point of life anymore?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 09:48 AM PST

Im 16 and depress heres my background My mother left me when i was little and i lived with my grandparent till my dad remarry and i moved to US when i was 6 to live with my dad and stepmom. My dad lost his job 2 years ago. Last year my dad found a job oversea and have live there since. My mom still talk to my dad and he came back a few times to visit. My mom and I are left here. Shes nice but she seem depressed she has no friends here and work a job. Shes always stress out from work. Right now im 11th grade and my mom tell me to do stuff but never help me cause shes lazy. She avoid giving me a ride to anywhere including school. Shes doesnt like to have kid and she told me recently how she never wanted to have kids because of responsibility and start saying that all her friends and family are in her home country. I start thinking why the fk did she marry and come to US if she didnt want kids and all her relative are in her home country. I appreciate her taking care of me for 10 years but i think she is better off if she never marry my dad and stayed in her home country since she lived there all her life before marriage. I didnt tell her about my depression since I know she wont help. She said i must move out after high school but she just want me gone. I start to not see the point of life. I feel like im going to fail life, sometimes i think of killing myself. Im too shy and have no friends. I dont see the point of life anymore.

Question: I'm lost, and feel like ending my life!!?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 09:41 AM PST

Ok so to start off in a 16 year old junior in high school. I live in Florida with my mother, my mother never really had a chance to go to school, so she never finished or started high school. I started living with my mom about 6 Years ago, and I can tell you for sure alot has happened. For the other 10 years in my life I lives with my father's mom, his sister, and maybe a couple years with him. Currently my dad is living in New York with my sister who recently left my mom and me. My dad has a lot of history with being in prison and such, but now he's not. My mom has a lot of history with alcohol and I think my mom suffers from alcoholism. I've tried and tried and tried helping my mom for the past 6 years, but im tried of trying of she's not going to. This is one of the main reasons my sister left to my dads. I feel lost and confused, if I Leave to my dads then im the bad guy. I don't even know of my Dad wants me.

Question: Does liking football, sports and not liking skirts or dresses make me any less of a girl?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 09:41 AM PST

I'm happy with who I am and what I like doing but despite being really close with my sister it's clear we are both so different. She loves doing her nails, hair and all the normal girly stuff - she wants me to be like her but I like other things. I enjoy sports, video games, action movies... all that kind of thing. Does this make me less of a girl?

Question: My dad is forcing me to eat meat.?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 09:30 AM PST

Hello, I am a 15 year old girl who has been a vegan for about two and a half months, and my dad is just finding out I am a vegan. My dad keeps on saying that I'm not getting the proteins that I should be getting. But, I do get plenty of proteins.. Tree nuts, peas, quino, beans etc.. Even before I became vegan, eating meat grossed me out and made me a little sick. Every dad I eat at least two apples, a salad, and gluten free cereal. I don't know what to do because I want to continue to be a vegan.

Question: I feel as if I'm invisible and my parents don't care about me?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 09:19 AM PST

so im a 14 year old guy and I'm just invisible to everyone my family. I'm the youngest of 4 kids my sister is 19 and my two brothers are 22 and 25. my parents had me "by accident" , i feel like my parents don't care about me. they allowed me to stay home alone since i was 11, i don't have a curfew, they gave me a credit card so i wouldn't ask them for money, i could do whatever i want pretty much. last year i payed for all my friends for the movies to see if they cared and they didn't , they looked at the bill and just payed it. they are rarely home because of work and going out with there friends. I'm invisible to them i know because my oldest brother is married with a kid and they love him and drop everything for him, me i barely get a hello. i haven't had a conversation with my parents since last year, because they are busy or when i want to tell them something they just brush me off. they treat me differently then my siblings totally, hey were very tough on my older brothers an spoiled my sister, me they just forgot abut. everyone tells me how lucky i am to do whatever i want but they don't know what it feels like to walk into a empty house everyday,its just lonely.

Question: How to reconcile this situation with my sister?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 09:11 AM PST

So about 2 weeks ago my sister was telling me about how she was thinking about leaving her fiance. She went on and on about how horrible of a person he is and how she wasn't happy and all this other stuff about how they fight all the time, etc. A week later she was on Facebook and posted a picture from two years ago of my nephew holding up a sign saying he was going to be a big brother and she tagged her fiance in it and said maybe this will be us again next year? I said something like, "Is it really a good idea to bring another kid into what you call a horrible situation?" and she got really mad. I said this to her directly, not on Facebook. It's been a little over a week now and we haven't really spoken. She's, apparently, waiting for me to apologize and I have absolutely no intentions of doing so. I can't believe anyone would choose to subject innocent little kids to a chaotic home life and I'm not backing down from that standpoint. I have been around them when they've been yelling and screaming in front of the two kids they already have and throwing crap across the room and the fact that she would even want to add another kid to that mix just makes my blood boil honestly. I don't know how to rectify the situation at this point. Does anyone have any advice?

Question: Should I tell my father how much my mother bad mouths him post-divorce or would that just be me gossiping?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 09:09 AM PST

Question: Family party this weekend but i don't want to go, what to do?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 09:09 AM PST

I've been invited to go to my cousin's birthday party this weekend but i don't want to. My cousins, uncles and aunts are so distant. We live in the same city but i don't see them much, only in christmas, etc. I don't want to go but i don't wanna hurt my uncle feelings!

Question: How when you alpy online how logn does it take to get food stampa?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 09:00 AM PST

Question: Girls A mature question?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 08:58 AM PST

Girl in school who's a friend of my guy friends. She's had plenty time to make moves. We just graduated. She added me on ig. she's liked my selfies and comments on my post. One time she liked my post that said "I need a babe and i don't need a babe". It was my bday last week. She said "we should take our fast cars out for a spin & nice rims you have *in love emoji face* ". One other time she said "i just got a new car we should celebrate with a cold beer". I had gfs in the past so im no ugly. When my own friends asked her about me she said "hes a cool guy". We never hang out or talk/txt this is just on social media that happens. Is she throwing herself at me (likes me) ? Or is she just being friendly? ... do remember we're both into cars etc so it could be friendly I don't know ....

Question: Why does my mom think that I'm going to rape someone? (15 year old boy)?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 08:51 AM PST

Lately, my mom has just been telling me over and over again to not try and NOT RAPE ANYONE. Like this one time I was going to a party with some friends, and then my mom tells me "Please don't sexually abuse any girls while you're out". Other examples are "You know how hard it is for girls who have been raped right? Don't do anything stupid, please" and "Don't take advantage of anyone who doesn't want it". I asked her once about why she thought I was going to rape someone, and she just had this look on her face, like I just said the stupidest thing in the world, like I was questioning her authority or something. Why does she think that I would rape anyone? Is it just because I am a guy? I don't think she tells my sister the same thing..?

Question: My dad didn't spend time with me when I was young and now it's getting hard for me to get along with him. I don't know what to do. Help?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 08:42 AM PST

Ever since I was a child I never really got to hang out with my dad as he was always busy with work. I don't blame him. But, as the time flew I still don't hang out with him. I do my best to have family gatherings, family dinner, make plans for the weekends. But as always my dad doesn't join with us. He would rather be at home or at work. Now that I've grown up and almost 20 years of age. I don't have a fun or memorable memories with my dad. I get jealous of other young girls with their dads at the park or mall. It's not that my dad doesn't care it's just that he doesn't like going out but I wish he would understand that I want him to spend sometime with the family. We started having a lot of fights because of not understanding each other. I'm tired of trying my best. I'm losing hope.

Question: My life..?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 08:31 AM PST

I m 16 and I lived in California for 9 years and my mom and step dad got a divorce and I use to live in michigan and my mom made me go with her and I ve been in michigan for 3 weeks and I just went to school for the first week and it s been the worst time of my life I absolutely hate it here I miss my old school and friends so much and the weather. When my mom told me I had to go with her I told her why can t I stay here and live with my step dad or my brother he s 19 or with a friend and she said because you can t and that s not a actual reason, and I understand she s my mom and I have to listen to her but why couldn t I? I this past week I ve been telling how she s been ruining my life and All she says is its going to get better and I always say it s going to get better for you, and it s been 3 weeks and it s been getting worse for me. I moved to California when I was 5 and I basically built my life there I started first grade there til 10th grade and after all the friends and everything I made and gained over the years I don t have now, and I told my mom that and just seems like she doesn t ca

Question: Do I go to the family Christmas reunion when the host didn't invite myself or my household but several other relatives have?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 08:29 AM PST

Our annual Christmas gathering is coming up. My aunt and I have a torrid relationship and do not speak because of terrible things she has said to me in the past. She refuses to apologize (the only thing I request her to do). Not only does she refuse to make amends; she says she stands by her words, and will not speak to me in public for which I am usually grateful as I do not want to peak to her either. She called the rest of our family and told them she will be hosting Christmas this year at her house. She has not invited myself or my household. Several other family members called to tell me she is hosting and that they are inviting me and mine to her Christmas. It's very awkward and uncomfortable. I would not go if it were my choice but my husband and children want to see the rest of their family. However, we are still not invited by my aunt, the host, to her home either. Do I show up with my household and say we were invited by others even if we weren't invited by my aunt into her home because my husband and kids want to go? I just want to add that this is my family, not the in-laws.

Question: How do I let my parents I know they smoke weed without actually saying it?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 08:17 AM PST

I know my parents smoke weed and I think it would be fun to just mess with their heads about it.

Question: How do I deal with my dad being a dick?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 08:14 AM PST

I'm 16 (male) and my dad and I used to be best friends. This was just a couple years ago. We didn't always agree on everything, and we occasionally fought, but all in all, we had a great bond. Now, not so much. We don't always fight, but we do more often, and when I screw up he holds his work over my head, like, "Oh, I work 12 hours a day, what do YOU do?", as if school isn't important. He also makes that excuse almost any time he apologizes for something, like, "I'm sorry, I just work all day". I appreciate how hard he works, but I'm sick and tired of him holding that over my head and using that as an excuse. We've fought about that quite a few times as well. And yesterday, he was a complete asshole because I used his bathroom. My brothers and I share a room (we live in an apartment) and it's near the kid's bathroom. They don't like me closing the door, so I went to use his (and I had a really bad stomach ache). What does he do? He kicks me out because he's too selfish to go use the other one (which he didn't even need to). Then he chews ME out for it, when all I tried to do was avoid a problem in the first place. Even my mom tried to interviene and tell him to back off, but he didn't let her or me say one word. He's like that with everything! He's never understanding, it's always his way and he's gotta be controlling of it. Normally, I'm pretty forgiving, But he's been like this for too long and I have had it!

Question: My parents suspect I'm gay and are mad at me?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 07:57 AM PST

My mom saw me looking at some pictures the other day, and since then she keeps asking me about it. Both my parents act like it's the end of the world, repeating again and again it's not normal. What should I say to them? Please, every answer is accepted Yes, I am gay, if I wasn't I wouldn't need to ask this question

Question: What to do when you make a parental threat and then regret it?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 07:53 AM PST

I'm a 35 year old mom whose husband died 3 years ago. My oldest daughter 13, is a great kid and rarely in trouble, but the past month or so she's gotten in trouble multiple times for not doing her homework. I talked to her to see if there was an issue, but its really just that she hates science and thinks the homework isn't worth enough. I talked to the teacher too, and my daughter again. It really does seem to be the only reason. So next I tried taking things away and grounding her, but she doesn't really mind grounding (she likes to read). Meanwhile, not being used to me having to be "on" her, she's taken an attitude. Finally, the week before last, I threatened to spank her. The second I said it I was questioning myself, I haven't done that in 3-4 years, and it was always only as a last resort. But I also was at my wits end and knew she was a wimp about pain. Her eyes got big as saucers and she has done homework since, the best stretch she's had recently, so I started thinking maybe I was smart. But now, today, I found she didn't do her homework again and tried to hide it from me. On one hand, I feel I need to follow through. Consistency and always meaning what I say has always been my strength as a mom. On the other hand, she's 13. Thoughts?!

Question: My mum still treats me like a baby/young child ?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 07:50 AM PST

I am 13 years old. I know I'm not that old but I think I am old enough for some things. I basically can't go out with my friends on school nights. But on weekends she goes to work so I normally have to stay at home. Wherever and whenever I'm going somewhere I have to ask for her permission. Today, we arranged to go to my friends house because it's a Friday I called and asked and she said no. She didn't have a reason. my friends all have a curfew, or they can regularly text their parents of their whereabouts. I can't do that. I asked mum of a curfew of 5.30 on school nights. Unless I go to a sports match and we decide to go celebrate at McDonald's or something then I wil text and let her know . She won't allow it. It's really not fair because now rather than hanging around with my friends I'm stuck at home doing nothing but using the internet(which she constantly moans about) we never go far always about a 10 minutes away. She has all of my parents phone numbers why won't she let me have a curfew ? What shall I do?

Question: I hate doing anything how can I change?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 07:41 AM PST

I'm 19 I've worked 4 different places in the last 2 years because I hate every job I get and end up switching to something else because I can't stand it any longer. I hated school ditched a lot and dropped out. I don't care about anything at the time I just NEED to quit like I can't stand it another second. Even a part time job. I'm very shy so I'm always insecure around people. I have a hardtime getting up early. And full time jobs are too much for me and I fe el like I'm waisting my life and I should be spending more time with my daughter. I feel like its never ending. I'm scared of getting stuck at a job I hate. I know I need money for my daughter. That's whyI want to cchange. I was home schooled as a kid and my parents let me sleep in. My dad doesn't like to work either. So I think that's a lot of where it comes from. But I want to change so that my daughter has more and I don't have to be so tight on money.

Question: Camera vs world youth day 2016 which to choose?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 07:40 AM PST

hi i am having a problem choosing the above! i am really into photography i am about to buy a new dslr (canon 760d) but my mum is insisting that i go the world youth day! can you pls give some suggestions thanks

Question: My sisters are always against me and my brother?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 07:34 AM PST

me and my twin were visiting my mom. my twin brother was grounded under our older sisters terms. she would only allow him to use the bathroom. i would bring food and water up to him every morning. my sister did not like that. she told me if i do that any more she will ground me as well. we loaded our stuff in the car and tried to leave, but they blocked us off. she took away my phone so i couldnt call our father. we are now home, but how can we talk some sense into her?

Question: Why do you think a family needs a head?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 07:24 AM PST

Question: Girls am i being naive?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 07:05 AM PST

Girl in school who's a friend of my guy friends. She's had plenty time to make moves. We just graduated. She added me on ig. she's liked my selfies and comments on my post. One time she liked my post that said "I need a babe and i don't need a babe". It was my bday last week. She said "we should take our fast cars out for a spin & nice rims you have *in love emoji face* ". One other time she said "i just got a new car we should celebrate with a cold beer". I had gfs in the past so im no ugly. When my own friends asked her about me she said "hes a cool guy". We never hang out or talk/txt this is just on social media that happens. Is she throwing herself at me (likes me) ? Or is she just being friendly? ... do remember we're both into cars etc so it could be friendly I don't know

Question: I lost an expensive jacket HELP?!?!?!?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 06:48 AM PST

My nana let me borrow her jacket and said not to lose it that it was really expensive, I went to the gym and set my stuff down to play basket ball and someone took it i think it was an accident but i don't know what to do i missed my bus because i was looking for it please help what do i tell my nana?!?!?!?

Question: Why is my mom so meek and naive??? TRUE SAD STORY?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 06:43 AM PST

My mom, ever since she was 6, her mother was sick. My dad was in America, and he owned a store and lived in his mom house, and he lied to my mom in Lebanon and said that he had a million dollar business in America. My mom believed him, and when she came to America, he showed her his true face: A verbally abusive man that puts her down..... My dad didnt allow my mom to work and he complains of the bills, but it didnt make sense. Why didnt he get a better job (go to college) and then he didnt have t worry about money? Why didnt my dad allow my mom to work?? He is lazy, and he is a pathological liar,and he is insecure. I hate him because he could have done better, be nicer to my mom... Im 17 now, and my dad doesnt argue with my mom, but some part of me wishes he dies. If he died, I wouldnt care. I just hated the way he is, because he harmed himself and the whole family by his laziness and lying. He hurted my mom. And Im angry and sad for my mom. I asked her why didnt you divorce my dad? My mom: My mother was sick, if she knew of what was happening to me (my dad lied) my mom would have died out of sadness. My mom cooks, and cleans, and most of my life I see her depressed. Why didnt she be a stronger woman. If that happened to me, I would have called my dad instead of my mom, and told my dad what should i do? I dont tell my because she will get more sick... Some part of me wants to scream at my mom for her naivity in life. Nobody taught her about life.

Question: 22 and parents read my facebook messages to my boyfriend?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 06:30 AM PST

I'm 22 years old and I live with my boyfriend. My parents hate him. They are really religious and hate me living with him also. Everyday they beg me to move home and to break up with him. Well around thanksgiving I borrowed my dads phone cause my broke and messaged my boyfriend on. Well I guess I didn't log out. My dad and mom read all the messages between us for days. Well last weekend me and him go into fight and we said some nasty stuff to each other. Well before I know my parents show up, knock on the door, when I go to answer it, they barge in and start packing up my stuff and they wouldn't leave until I threaten to call the cops. Now my parents say they disown me. I'm not really sure what to do. I feel like they invaded my privacy.

Question: Me and my Mother have been fighting a lot, why?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 06:24 AM PST

We have recently been fighting a lot recently, she wants me to take 1 class at a time while I work full-time in a factory, I want to take my college classes while working part-time. I want to be able to get a feel for my classes and not trying to do everything at once. She used to not be like this she used to want me to do part-time and go to school but something changed. She never really talks to me when I am upset now she only yells and idk what to do anymore. Starting yo feel like my last resort is moving out I just turned 18 this year and our relationship went from great to terrible. I need some advice.. She always screams at me she wants me to grow up but she is making all my decisions and if I don't do what she wants she refuses to talk to me and looks down on me. There is no talking to her because she won't listen.

Question: 12 year old out of control?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 06:16 AM PST

Shell tell anyone that talks to her to shut up, shes going behind her parents backs to date boys and have social media, she yells ALL THE TIME at the top of her lungs for no reason, shell hit someone when she doesn't get her way or she she "gets provoked" (basically when she doesn't like what someone does or says). We can't figure out why. Its ruining her mom. She cant handle the stress of her acting out. Its literally making her sick. Her mom has asked her why shes doing it and she said because "shes stressing about fitting in" she smiled throughout her moms talk and blew it off. Last night she told me she was suicidal and was bullied last year and "touched in 4th grade" Also said this smiling and laughing. I cant handle it either. I want to beat her! She said she was touched by a fellow student. I want to believe her but she said it ALL smiling and I had reported a sexual assault earlier this year from when my ex assaulted me and it was basically WORD FOR WORD of my feelings and emotions. She said basically what I did all while stopping to smile in some points. She said what changed her happened last year but shes in 7th grade and this "touching" happened in 4th

Question: How can I force my room mate to be considerate?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 05:41 AM PST

Im at college and I want to put all of my effort into my studies but I have a problem with my roomy. While my family is relatively well to do, which means she doesn't have to work she is forced to earn money and the hours of her employment have started to affect my sleep. She often works late at night from her room via her computer and this has made things difficult. Invariably there are verbal exchanges which I hear as there are often lots of people who want a direct consultation with her. Also as Christian the language these men- and her- employ is coarse and thoroughly inappropriate as well as being somewhat repetitive and depressing. She also is so preoccupied with her duties to her clients as she calls them that she is simply unaware of how messy she makes our room and I often find I am cleaning up for days after her. She does earn a hell of a lot of money so I dont want to deprive her but she is driving me potty. What can I do?

Question: How do I fix the fact that my parents have 0 trust in me?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 05:25 AM PST

My parents do not trust me at all. If I have any guys over, I can't be alone In my room with them. I have never dated a person (lol) and I am a virgin and they know that. They also think that I am talking to people on my phone at midnight and hooking up with people when they are asleep. I HAVE NEVER DONE ANYTHING LIKE THAT IN MY LIFE! I don't even know where they got that idea. So because they don't trust me and think i "do bad things" they take my phone away at 9pm every night. And then they always go through my stuff. It's like they are TRYING to find something to yell at me for. So why the **** don't they trust me? The last time I did something that they didn't like was when I was 11 and I forgot to do my homework like WTF

Question: Why does my dad refuse to use a cell phone?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 05:06 AM PST

I don't know if it's because he was raised in the woods, brought up poor, had it hard, or because it's what his dad would of done. Why in the world does he refuse to carry a cell phone is beyond me, he even brags he doesn't know how to turn one on. We're at this huge hospital right now, he is the families only ride home, the vehicle is up here at the hospital, and the doors are locked and we needed something bad from the truck, and he roams off because he's restless. He struggles to switch the TV also from its different inputs, he still believes you have to put the TV on channel 3 because that's what you done to play a VCR tape. He'll try and the TV is so messed up, and well try to help him and he gets frustrated and walks off. Why is it you think older adults choose to be this way? My dad is 66, I guess it's because he was brought up poor, IDK.

Question: Should I send a Christmas Card to my mother's cousin who I knew as a kid but haven't seen since my mother died almost 13 years ago?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 04:39 AM PST

Also what would I say? I liked her but my mother died young and her father died one year prior (he was single) so I haven't seen her since the Christmas after my mother died which was 2003. She was over each Thanksgiving is why I remember her fairly well even though she was not real talkative.

Question: How to deal with shitty dad?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 04:29 AM PST

My dad always curses at me and threatens to kill me, just because i dont study in my weekends. Im not ranting because it happened today only it happens all the time for like a few years now. Every time it happens he threatens to kill me and beat me up ( thankfully he doesnt beat me up) then he blames my mom for not raising me right and says she doesnt know anything and how stupid she is. I dont live in US or Canada, so running away is no option here, if you do cops will catch you and put you back home with him. Please help me how do i deal with him?????

Question: What should you do if your teenage son tells you everyone in his class is calling him gay because he's bad at sports?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 04:27 AM PST

I want to defend him so badly, but I'm afraid that they might begin to suspect that I'M also gay...

Question: Should I hook my step-mother and former step-father up on a date?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 04:19 AM PST

I know this sounds weird but my father died in March and my step-mother is very lonely. Over the years I have stayed in touch with my former step-father who my mother divorced but I really liked. They are both in their 60's and I thought I'd set them up but of course "I am setting my step-parents up" may sound weird. Would it be socially acceptable? I doubt either will ever marry again but just as friends. My step-father has been married twice, once widowed, and my step-mother was only married to my Dad who died in March of ALS. Any thoughts?

Question: How do I train my brain not to be disappointed about visiting arrangements on Christmas and other holidays?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 04:11 AM PST

My parents are divorced so on Christmas I won't be able to see my Dad like I would like to. I will also miss out on seeing my maternal grandfather as he and my step-grandmother are travelling and my mother declined their invite to join the day after Christmas. So I will be seeing both my grandmothers and my mother's family but that's all (maybe my Dad's sister). I will not be seeing about half the family and not be seeing my Dad. M My question is how can I train my brain to enjoy what I do do and who I do see rather then disappointed I am not seeing my Dad or grandfather? My mother gets her way which upsets me but she won't change as if it were up to me I'd see both parents. This is the second year in a row this has happened with my Dad and this year the added disappointment of other relatives not being around.

Question: I am so stuck....?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 04:09 AM PST

I have currently been raising my 9y/o grandaughter for 2 years. As my stepdaughter is incarcerated. Her maternal grandmother could not handle or discipline her to make her do homework, brush hair/teeth, clean room ect... I have achieved this....and she is doing great academically. Yet I'm stressed. We were expecting her mother to be released in January but is now 2-3 years before release. Her maternal grandmother has weekend visitation, which helps me with a (break) but she now has no responsibilities homework ect.. When visiting. And is currently raising her other daughters 6 month old, while too incarcerated. My husband helps some, but I am the one she seeks and comes to for Love. I adore this child but resent her at the same time. she has improved much over the years yet is still stressful on me. I have a serious illness, chronic pancreatitis, that is sometimes triggered by stress and it pains me, but she has no parents. Which leaves me stressed and confused as to my responsibility?..Husbands?... Maternal grandmothers?....

Question: Needing help with my grandma passing away?.. What should I expect at my first funeral/rosary for her?..?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 04:06 AM PST

I lost my grandma Wednesday night due to heart attack.. Her rosary is soon this week, what should I expect? And her funeral is a day after. I've never lost someone so close, I've never lost someone period. Is it normal to be scared of going to her services? I'm 15, and I'm just so overwhelmed and exhausted, I miss her & I don't wanna have that moment of realization that my grandma is gone. Im just so saddened by it I don't want to feel more sadness.. What should I expect at a funeral & rosary? What do they do?

Question: Is it normal to think of my cousins as brothers instead of being cousins?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 03:53 AM PST

I Am just wanting to know. Do you think the same way when it comes to your cousins?

Question: Why do I have such bad luck?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 03:39 AM PST

Like ever since I was born I have been cursed by God 1- when I was born. my father dumped me and my mother wanted to do an abortion sadly she didn't. I am 22 now and I have no idea who my father is, I grew up with an alcoholic who would hit me to the extent I had to go to hospital for months 2- I struggle really bad in school and its really difficult for me to actually pass exams, I have an extremely short memory which makes it very difficult for me to remember things for a long period of time and needless to say I barely pass exams, I am that useless 3- My uncle wants me to go to the UK for university and says he will support me fully financial wise but I don't have the results to get into uni and i am too ashamed to tell him this 4- I won a mercedez benz just about 5-6 months ago in a lottery and the car got stolen so I have nothing 5- I rented a house to move out of my parents house but the house somehow caught on fire when I was away and now I am back with my parents and possibly going to court soon since the owners are pressing charges 6- I have never dated in my life because I am extremely shy and just ashamed of the loser that I am 7- I won 300 000 in a lottery about 3-4 years ago but I got robbed a week later and lost all the money and more 9- I went to a job interview and got a job but the owner died and the company was shut down Sadly I am afraid to commit suicide because from my bad luck I will probably just break every single bone in my body and still be alive

Question: I come from a boring family?

Posted: 04 Dec 2015 02:12 AM PST

I am struggling lately with the realization I come from a boring and stiff family. At my home, things were never loud and joyful. I have quiet parents, the extended family doesn't have anything spicy and I realize now there are people who were born into large families, with a lot of noise and livelyness. Those people have such a different way of living their life. I was raised without any crazyness, everything had to be within reason, everything a little different from the norm was seen as crazy by my parents etc. Plus, it is not very warm at home, and parents are having problems with their siblings. It's like the goal in this family is to fight each other, instead of giving each other space to blossom, to explore, to discuss etc. Would the answer be to create a family of my own? I really want to meet a guy who is different, who has a different view on life. Cause I feel so boring and rigid... Does anyone have the same experience??