the only people who should be dating or getting married are those who can support themselves without any need for a spouse first, aka middle-class, low-class who aren't dirt broke, or upper-class. and this applies to me too so I will not date until I'm successful and out of loser-hood.

He was at work when I went through my phone history and saw that he was watching porn....what is the Christian way of handling this.

I want to take a trip to another state to see my close friends .. I enjoy girl time with my bestie . My husband doesn't want to come but I want to go .. Can he stop me from going ?

My ex husband and I grew up together and started dating in our teens. I knew he had a rough life growing up and has a lot of deep anger related to that, but he refuses to acknowledge that. As we married and had kids, he started behaving the way his own father did towards his mother. He'd be verbally abusive, absent, cheated. The cheating was the breaking point for me to divorce him But I still love him. I want him to rid himself of his pain. I know he wasn't abusive towards me because he wanted to be. I still want to try and help him heal. To be a better man. He still to this day thinks he's totally fine the way he is. Everyone asks, why do you still care about this idiot? I can't figure out the answer. There must be something wrong with me to be treated so badly for so many years, but still want to help heal his root problem for his behaviour

My wife and I just got married. She saved herself until our wedding night. I had sex when I was younger but with her, I waited. We dated for over 2 years before our wedding. So the first time we made love, she told me she was really nervous. I asked her if she was okay and if she wanted to keep going and she kept saying yes. When it was over, she started crying. It took a lot to get her to tell me what was wrong but she told me that it hurt. And that even though God wants married couples to have sex, it still felt forbidden to her and she was overwhelmed. But it says that wives aren't to deny their husbands and that made her feel stuck. I don't know everything about the Bible nor do I fully understand it. But back in my past sexual relationships, there was always open communication. Nobody HAD to do anything. Now we tried again but she is scared I'm going to hurt her again and she was so tense that I figured it would hurt her then. And I don't want to make love to her and have her resent me because I'm doing something she doesn't like but she feels like she is religiously bound to accept it and doesn't tell me about it. What do we do? I thought because we love each other that everything would just fall into place but it's way more complicated than I ever could have imagined.

My husband of 10 years got into a heated argument with me tonight while in our company's presents, he said my vagina was floppy and nobody would want it. our company who was suppose to stay with us for a month laughed because of this their leaving tomorrow, they both work have no car and is currently homeless. i went for a walk for hours when i finally sat down i cried alone not in front of them. do i have a reason to be terribly upset? Thanks for any advice! nothing noah i left without a word. No i was mopping the floors and he was contradicting me so he grabbed the wet mop and hit me in the butt with it. Anonymous i'm not a troll.

Anyone else feel they can't stand their ex due to fighting , nagging or any reason but is still or again attracted and turned on by them also ??? How can you feel both ways toward someone?

I got divorced back in October. I have told family and a couple close friends I work with that I trust a lot. I have a hard time talking about it or even the word divorce. My thing is i feel like I'm living a lie or hiding a big secret because when my friends ask about my husband I always say that he's doing OK, this and that. In a way I am telling the truth, but in a way I feel that I want to tell them my situation but I don't and I really don't want the whole damn world to know. If i do tell a person, it's someone I know I can trust and not to blab to everyone. Is it wrong for me to feel this way? Should I even say anything even if they ask what's going on between us?? I'm just not sure what to do, thanks!

Let's say the person that gets married too young has a relationship that because toxic or abusive. Plus they have a bunch of kids that can't afford to take care of.

In 1994 my husban and his previous wife had a very messy divorce with his ex wife. According to my husband that his exwife made up a story about the abused. even my mother in law knows that she was a sick woman. Now that his children are adults, even his daughter told me that i have to be careful of her mom( husband's ex wife) if being trying to be my friend because she is a something wrong. if anyone knows or have an experienced of adopting step child please help me how. my husband is a good father and we have a child together, he wants my son to be put in his name. Thanks in advance

We are 31 and live in US. Married 3 yrs ago, have 1 kid. Wife just got a job last month after 3 years. We both make 85k and have 1 joint account for everything. Wife has 2 married brothers, 1 in US, 1 in India. Both of them have good stable and comfortable government jobs and their spouses are employed too. Wife's parents stay with the brother in India. Her parents also get pension. Indian House is paid off by american brother who makes good money. They don't need any kind of financial assistance at all. Wife is planning to send $200 monthly to her BROTHER in India, who is elder to her and works as a senior manager in a government bank. This is driving me nuts. Isn't it insane or am i just too selfish etc as per her???

After seven years of a pretty seriously abusive marriage (physical and mental), my mum's best friend got a divorce. Her husband left her. It's been two years and she seems worse off, mentally, than she ever did during the marriage itself. She s still very depressed and just not with it. Is this a normal reaction to an abusive marriage ending? She obviously had problems during the marriage, but this seems more serious.

I think my perception is very skewed by adult entertainment.

Hello all... I remember always thinking my dad's pillow smelled and my mom complaining about it when I was a kid. Anyhow..I met my husband when he was 25. I thought I was so lucky because his hair and even body sweat never smelled (he always had a sweet smell). Well, he will be 32 this year and I've noticed in the past year or so his pillow will smell kind of sour and musky (sorry, eww I know). He's had his physicals and is all healthy/normal. He eats the same and drinks plenty of water. He doesn't exercise as much as he used to though, he works a 12he job. So...do men smell more as they age? I love him lots but miss that sweet smell of his sweat! Ps sorry, I know this should probably go in men's health but it seems like that section only has teenagers asking about masturbation etc. Wrong age to ask! And I figure other married women will know!

My husband once told me if he caught me cheating on him again like I did before, he would threaten to kill me or the other man. Would you be scared that your man would kill you if he caught you cheating on him? @ShoeLover-Women always cheat while men cannot. Women cheating is okay. Some women want a jealous, obsessive man so that's another reason why women cheat.

My parents, in-laws, and husband think that I can't manage well without him since my parents married me off to him. They all thought that I needed his protection 24/7. I know he wouldn't let me work out of the house where we live because he was worried that I might be influenced into having affairs with other males like I did before. Now that I'm still in a domestic violence shelter while he's in a mental institute, the people working at the shelter have been supporting me in finding a steady job, I'm feeling quite afraid of the thought of working with people in my area even though I'm looking for a job because my parents, husband, and in-laws have always hated the idea of me socializing with those outside of marriage and family and think that I won't find anyone as good as my husband. Me and my husband are separated. My husband was detained and brought to a mental institute because he can't control his emotions and he became irrational after learning that I wouldn't come back to him. What would be a good way to deal with this situation? My husband has always expected me to be dependent on him for protection like my parents have and he thought that I couldn't manage without him because he was so overprotective of me.

My ex with had a DV past gave me a hard time and stressed me out about everything. He married six months after we broke up and now his wife touts her stress free, happy life daily with continuous comments of the love for each other. Did I miss something?

.........Because some sexist studies claim that married men are likely to be successful since they have a woman in their life. By that logic--> any man who wants to stay single 4 life would be termed as unsuccessful? If the man in question is hardworking and dedicates 90% of his day ((hours)) to his work, then why should his marital status matter? If a man is well capable of working more than 100 hours a week, finishes his work way more efficiently, is always ready for any work assignment to offshore countries..then how can his being single matter???????????? He has every chance to climb the corporate ladder and even beat any **married man**

I need your suggestions I going through a painful struggle I had a childhood sweetheart , broke up with him after 5 yrs for another guy .Dat timei really could not understand love is.My ex was in tears and tears and i just didn't care 4 him I married the person of my choice not knowing if he loves me or not .Did everything in hurry and its 4 years we are married I went thru so much pain and somehow God made me realize the mistake I have done leaving my ex and hurting him den I tried to contact him to let him know I regret .By the time he was also married .When i spoke to him he told me he is not able to love his wife becos of what I did .he is not happy.We continued getting comfortable with little conversations and I started loving him now We even had some intimate conversations .Now my Ex suddenly started thinking what we are doing is not correct .He doesn't want to talk to me and is avoiding me more I'm not able to think straight my heart says I need him .I want to talk to him Im addicted to him now.My husband never showed me love and he doesn't know how to love a girl. My Ex exactly talks and does what I wanted my husband to do.Im in love again !!What can I do..I tried many times but this just doesn't go off my mind.Now my ex wants to carry on with his life and make a family.He says we are married and cant love again . But he is in my mind always What am I suppose to do? I'm not able to leave or forget him .It really hurts !!

I'm a little confused on this since I've never heard anyone use this claim before. My friend seem to claim that he's too poor to even consider marriage every time we bring this topic up. To be honest I feel he's just making up silly excuses, though it's totally his wish and I respect it. I do however find his claims funny. He makes average wages as per what an average American makes and has a white collar job and at 35 doesn't seem to have any interest in pursuing relationships. And every time someone brings up questions on his relationships, he simply shuts them up on how poor he is. Update 1: I'm quite certain that he's not homosexual. He used to often date women in his 20's. And retreated once he hit 30.

I never really understood the dynamics of "marriage benefits for men" to begin with. The man has to spend thousands of "his" money on engagement ring and wedding rings, pay for the entire ceremony (again the princess wants nothing less than that of a Disney wedding), The woman can or not choose to work, yet gets half of "his" assets + children custody. Marriage literary offers ZERO value to a man yet he have idiots getting on one knee and begging women to rob them. Is it because of our gynocentric society?

And I don't mean with the $$$$ because we are doing "okay" on bills right now since we are dual income. My concern comes from her doing things in the past because she thought it would gain her much needed self esteem and social approval. After all, this is how movies portray it (example: She's all that and Cinderella). And based on these movies, it just seems like as soon as the girl is made over then they suddenly feel this magical feeling of confidence, courage, and acceptance. And when in unflattering clothes they go back to being shy/nervous/fearful... But that's not how it REALLY works and I'm concerned that she still thinks this way... In my case, I feel like a rebel and a non-conformist on the inside. As a result, I have long shoulder-length hair (something not common of a man in my age nor my status). I also don't wear locally recognized styles of clothing; I try to find something that is offbeat so I can prove that I am original and I am NOT going to be a carbon copy of what other people are wearing. I also carry myself in a way that proves my lack of value in social constructs like mannerisms, etiquette, and ethics. Don't get me wrong, I am not a rude a**hole (except on here), but I am not afraid of violating rules for the good of my family. This includes honesty and integrity if need be. My wife though... She's confessed she doesn't know who she is.... How can a person with no identity get a makeover to reflect what they feel inside if nothing's there?

What ´s wrong with me i am really afraid to cheat on my husband .

My wife told me that she have to see this other guy that she's having an affair with to end it. But I don't buy it bc if she wants to end it she doesn't need to see him. I don't her to see him again and they can end their affair through a phone call. But she told me I don't understand. I know what I need to do but I just need more advice. Tnx

that he can't deal with the drama anymore. Help Please!!!

I've been married for almost 5 years. Lately I'm just not happy. My husband works 6 days a week. He leaves at 5 am and comes back around 7:30 pm. We only spend some time together and then go to sleep. Maybe once a week we have sex-if i initiate. I've told him i don't feel loved. He says he does love e and when i tell him that, he changes for a little bit telling me nice things or hugging me. But he's just not the kind of man that shows love i guess. When we met he was but i suppose it was the honeymoon stage. That's what i guess. I'm 27 and am attractive. I get attention from men and sometimes feel like I'm wasting my years with a man who doesn't make me feel loved. We get along really well, he makes me laugh with jokes and we have a nice time when we are together, don't get me wrong. The day he is off i do feel a connection. But on days he works he's tired and dozes off or watches soccer. He's 28 for gods sake he's not an old man. I am attentive to him. The house is clean and good is on table when he gets home. I treat him as well as i can.I love him i just don't feel it reciprocated even if he said he does. What should i do? I don't want to make the mistake of being with him only to get divorced in 10 years and have wasted time.

now 16 Got married To an 18 year old and he became abusive but we were homeless and under a lot of pressure I was also very immature its been 3 years now and my husband like to give it another shot do you think that somebody can changed he's very sincere about i. He had a had his hole family turn on him due to finding out

So. I've been married 8 years. We've known each other since high school. Lately with his work load and hours. He's gone 6-7 days a week for 12-16 hours a day. We don't see each other much, but this has been a thing before these hours so I am not using it as an excuse. I also have a 2 yr old. Which highly complicates this more so. Since we've been together, he's always had long hours, and worked a lot. So I never really got to do anything with myself extra school or career wise. I became the stay at home spouse. So I feel stuck regardless of what has been happening lately. Not to mention my child needs the support and stability of the working household. I've been waking up to sex. And not in a good way. It'll be 3am. 1am. Whenever he decides to wake up. I feel taken advantage of. I literally wake up in the midst of it beginning and him having his way with me. Even after shrugging him off. Last night it happened again. This morning I warned him. Yet again. I will leave, I will go home to my family. (1500 miles away so it seems like an empty threat considering) He always swears, you were awake. I woke you up. You weren't sleeping etc etc. So without making this more than what it is. Opinions? I won't deny over the last 10 years things have changed. I am not attracted to him near as I was then. I'd like to think we're both pretty good looking phisically but, we there's not much connection there anymore. In my early 20's I don't think it would have bothered me. Which is annoying to me that it does so much now I guess.

I'm 30 weeks 2 days pregnant with our first child. We own a 3 bedroom trailer house and my husband let his cousin move in with us a few months ago. She helps with bills, but she constantly has her many boyfriends over the current one has been here over a week straight. And her sister is here almost every afternoon so I end up feeding 5 people every night. And cleaning up after them.my husband also had his super obnoxious friend living with us for a while but after an incident where I stepped in his friends fecal matter (long story) I convicted my husband to kick him out. Anyway our hallway is really squeaky and it goes right past our room. I'm worried with all the noise and people in and out of our house all day that my baby won't be able to sleep. Also his cousin took what was supposed to be our baby's room so now I have to try to set up his things in our room. I feel like it's not fair, my home feels like a hotel. My husband refuses to make them move out. What do I do? I really don't want them here when baby arrives, I feel it's a personal time for my immediate family, hubby baby me

I will never know my wife and who she really is. My wife will never know me and who I really am. This is a truth for everyone. Why? Because we are all locked in our own body, in our own mind, in our own feelings, in our own thoughts, and our own perception. I will NEVER know what my wife thinks/feels; especially if she doesn't express it when asked. That is the case right now, she is an "introvert" who is stuck in the prison of her own silence. Rather than extroverting her thoughts/feelings (like I do) she introverts them and keeps them to herself... All I can do is study her in hopes that observations will tell me the things I can't know. Since Sunday I've been trying to show my wife that I can protect her AND be a great leader. After 8 years of her silently questioning my competency as a "good husband", I've decided to step up to the plate and show her that I am trustworthy (despite being dishonest to others - not her) and that I am here to protect her (despite not protecting anyone outside my home). But in exchange for this, I want her to take what she's feeling about herself (the good stuff) and show it to the world. If she feels beautiful, then she needs to express it so the world knows. If she feels smart, then she needs to express it so the world knows. If she feels "awesome", then she needs to express it so the world knows. I'm a little worried though about all this. What if my wife searches within herself and finds nothing? How can I protect her from herself? Let me explain what I mean by dishonesty so people can get the sand out of their pants.... I am dishonest in the way that I will exploit the attention and beliefs of a person for personal or family gain. If I know that a person believes in God, I will use their belief in God as a way to make them question their own behavior so they leave me and my family alone. If I can tell that my wife wants to leave a party, I will act sick so she doesn't have to make a scene being the first to leave... PLEASE REPORT THIS QUESTION SO I CAN HAVE IT REMOVED FROM YAHOO! THE INFORMATION DISCLOSED IN THE ANONYMOUS PERSON'S ANSWER IS BEING USED AS BLACKMAIL. I DO NOT WANT THIS INFORMATION AVAILABLE ON THE INTERNET. PLEASE REPORT THIS QUESTION SO THE QUESTION AND THE ANSWER IS REMOVED!!!!!! Blackmail answer was removed. Best answer was given. But you can still report and remove this question if you'd like to.

Been divorced 1 yr. Me and my ex wife have a 2yr old son which I have full custody of. We recently fooled around for a bit and she ended up pregnant. Now she wants nothing to do with me and wants to do the whole pregnancy thing on her own. Making it also look like I wont have any part of it even when its born. Ive tried to be a part of it, but nothing. she has also been telling people that I dont want anything to do with it or her.... which I dont understand why, when I known ive been trying. -can she keep me from it when its born? I have custody of our son. What happens with that?

I am Christian and believe in being submissive to my husband. The problem is I don't want biological children ( I want to adopt at least 3) and I don't want to give up my career (adoption counselor) I don't know what to do.

I am 25 and my soon to be ex husband is 37. The first and only other man I had been with committed suicide 2 years ago. We were together almost 10 years and our first son died at 3 months old. He left me behind with our then 1 1/2 year old son who is now almost 4. Devastated and not used to being alone, I met my ex at my job and we started dating. He convinced me that marrying him was all I'd ever need as my life was falling apart. I married him 5 months after the death and was pregnant the following month with our son who is now 1. The man was always in my phone, making me feel bad about grieving and signing in as me on my facebook and talking to people sexually. I gave him chances and really tried but I ended up leaving him. The people he did that to will not admit he did as they don't want to be involved so there goes my proof. He has 3 other children from a previous marriage and the first 2 are not living with him because they want to be raised by his sister. I am not clear if the 3rd one is in his care or her mother's and his 2nd one was released around 7 months ago on a rape charge. He was in juvenile detention for a little over a year. He has a child with a previous coworker he was messing around with who gave the boy up for adoption and he lost the custody battle with the adoptive parents for reasons he won't talk about. He is living with a new gf I have a bf..he lost his job due to complaints on him including sexual and won't tell me his address. Will he get our son?

I married my husband three years ago. Then on February twenty seventh he kicked me out of the apartment at five in the morning without telling me why and I came down here to Evansville, IN. Then he filed divorce papers without telling me about it till three weeks later and my friend got them to her landlords doorstep. Then he would say I wanna be with u one day and three days later I dont wanna be with you or I have doubts. He accused me of cheating on him with my step dad. (gross). Which I never did and my whole family believes it. He also said I have bipolar which I dont. The doctor even said I dont have it. He said all we were was friends with benefits. So then I took a day to myself and sat at the river in my car and did some thinking. I came to the conclusion that no matter what this divorce is inevitable and this marriage is not fixable. So I basically took a week and became stronger and moved on. I created an account on a dating site and met this man who's around my age and really seems to treat me right. What do you think of my ex husband?

guys here is the situation. My husband and i were so impulsive when we met 2 years ago and married within a year, had our son after that…etc he was very nice but now, he's changed. He screams and yells at me for the smallest reasons, tells me to shut the **** up, stupid..etc but i will ignore him after that and he will come apologize but after too many apologies, i feel that it's not sincere anymore. If this was the old days, i would have walked out but now with my new born son and everything its not easy. I am actually a good wife and do take good care of my husband and son, i clean, cook, help pay bills despite being on maternity leave and not working etc… for example, today, i was washing our baby bottles and stuff and he was holding our baby, when the baby started crying, my husband freaked out and kept saying i should hold him and i told him once i finish washing the bottles, then once i got done washing the bottles, i told him let me take the baby now and he said no, and i said, why did you rush me like that then and he went off on me saying shut the **** up, stupid..etc. I got upset and told him this was the last straw….3hours later, he came upstairs and apologized….I hate that my marriage is like this;i am trying my best for my newborn's sake. Also, we were supposed to go to my mother in law house for mothers day this wknd but since he treats me like crap, i wanna tell him i don't wanna go anymore; what do you think?Should i not go to teach him I'm serious? :(

why are men so selfish as to try to go out and get sex just, because they're not getting it at home?

I've been with my husband for eleven years now and we have one child together. I don't think I want this anymore. I've been complaining about our lack of sex for years and things never change. When we do have sex, there's no kissing or oral involved. He's a homebody and doesn't want to go anywhere. I've made the sacrifice to stay home more so when can spend time together. But he doesn't do the same for me. He told me to go get a friend if I don't want to be in the house. Also, he's so snappy. He gets upset about the smallest things and will start to yell obscenities at me in a moments notice. He claims to be happy and think I'm making a big deal out of nothing. We stopped going to couples therapy because he thinks it's a waste of time. He is a good father and I do care about him. However, thinking about a future with the way things have become is depressing. Any advice?

Latest court case, man accused of hiring two assassins to kill his wife. One was arrested due to a "tip-off" to police and the trigger-puller, who was on the run, has since also been captured by police. It has emerged that one of these assassins used to work for the husband as a bouncer at a club he owned. Apparently he never reported his wife missing although they lived together obviously and he hadnt been living in the house since her disappearance. Newspaper photos show the wife as looking like a sunny, energetic 28 year old. She was a physical education teacher. I can't seem to understand what his motive could have been. It doesnt even seem like she was cheating. Apparently HE was cheating on HER with one of his employees. rich people get divorced all the time, I dont see why he couldnt just do a divorce. So what if he lost a few million if he didn't have a prenup? And if he was so cash-crazy why didnt he just get a prenup? The newspapers indicated the amount he paid the killers, not really a small amount. And, they apparently demanded 5000 extra because of the media "hype" that surrounded the case, and apparently "Greedy" just handed it over to them

I want your opinions Do you think that marriage is old fashioned?

So me and my husband argue all the time. Last weekend he went out of the city. While he was gone I thought a lot about our situation and I wanted to put an end to the hurt. I looked up a lot of ideas on the internet and on pinterest and applied them to our relationship Sunday when he got back home. Things have been munch better since the day he came home. There hasnt been a single argument yet, i think he's become a lot less stressed and more happy (both of us really) now he never talks about his feelings. but last night (since we have been doing so much better) he poured his feelings out to me and we both a connection neither one of has felt the whole time we have been married. or even together for that matter. But my problem is, I don't want to over do it. I don't want it to become too much or end up pushing him way or once we get used to the feeling it may lose it's spark..? You know? How do I keep it there? Other than us taking our free time to spend with our friends that way when we do see eachother again it kindles the flame in our love. Does anyone have any opinions on how to keep the spark alive? How to change things up every once in a while? Thanks its very appreciated!!

We got in a mini argument this morning when my wife almost used an excuse that our son should be dismissed from expectations of WANTING to get his homework done because he's almost a teen, and at his age teen boys don't like doing homework and would rather play games... I told her that it is just an excuse and that the fact she believes this is acceptable behavior is the REASON why he isn't doing his homework; she is ENABLING his behavior and not forcing him to push through his emotions/hormones. She said that my expectations were too unreasonable because "ALL TEENS DO THAT" and that's when I just about lost it (but I didn't, I kept my cool).... Do you tolerate accepted norms, accepted expectations, and accepted stereotypes in your household? Why or why not?

I am 30 and married and in love with my husband. I cannot help but have crushes at the office and some days the crush overwhelming and obsessive like me going to talk to the crush and reaching the office early to be there with him, talking random stuff etc. I am confused why this is happening and how I can stop it.

Do you ever imagine going through what your spouse does every day.. as far as responsibilities go? To gain insight or determie if someone's taking advantage (either person could be). What if you never think about it? do you think you could be taking advantage of the other person since it doesn't occur to you to imagine what they all have to do?

In married before I was I use to talk to this kid from high school. We dated a fee times. Yesterday was his birthday so I went on his FB and sent him a message happy birthday. Should I feel guilty I didn't tell my husband. I wouldn't anyways cause he would be pissed but u always say happy birthday to him every year.

Supposedly, a married man wanted to get a vasectomy done, can he do so without his wife's consent? Lets say he doesn't even want to let her know about his intentions, could his wife stop him from getting one?

Should people get married? Or is love enough?

This question is about someone I know: A guy I know has filed for divorce from his wife of 5 years because she cheated on him. I am not sure how he caught her or did she herself confess, but he did find out and was adamant to kick the b*tch out. Regardless to what she did, his family suggested him to give his marriage one more chance and work it out. And that even his soon to be ex-wife begged him to stay with her and how sorry she was. What I don't understand here is that why would any sane person forgive that skank? If he wants to divorce her, then that's his right. Or if he wanted to forgive, then that's his wish as well. The way people around him are making it seem like that he is not being fair here is quite shocking. The cheating wh0re gets the sympathy, and the husband is the bad guy for divorcing her?

My husband and I are going on a year of being married and have been together almost six. He has always drank a lot of beer but as of recently it's gotten worse. It is beginning to impact our finances, one thing he said would never happen. When I try to talk to him about it he goes on the defense and doesn't want to discuss it. He doesn't see the problem. Other than the obssesive daily binge drinking, he treats me very well but I don't know how much more our finances can handle it.. Advice please!!

Hey, I'm 26 and my husband is 28. We got married two years ago and have a beautiful 8 month old baby boy. My husband is so good looking and im VERY attracted to him, but i am very unhappy in my marriage and have been having strong desires to cheat on him. Not to have sex with someone but to have someone who will give me butterflies and make me feel some spark. My husband does not show me any affection, we have turned into only best friends, thats all we are now. I have expressed this to him many times and he tells me im the one who needs to change and that i need to stop complaining to him, etc. i lost my virginity to him. When we met he was so into me physically and stuff, he would kiss me and make out with me and initiate sex and oh my god he was amazing at showing affection.. Now its the complete opposite! :( i shave my legs everyday and try very hard to make sure i keep myself looking decent for him like in the beginning of our relationship, but nothing. I've addressed this so many times with him. I don't know what to do. I really miss that feeling of being wanted and happy and want to find that feeling in someone else. :( I don't want to divorce because of my baby, i love my baby so much that i will never give him any pain or suffering. Please help. What do I do?? :( I really feel like I might cheat on him.. I don't want to, obviously. Please don't judge and just help me with some advice!!

My fiancée brought up the idea of instead of changing her last name we could add the others last name through a hyphen. I have honestly never thought of the idea and am okay with it, but would it seem strange for a man to have a hyphenated surname?