Marriage & Divorce: Question: Is it okay for a man to leave his wife for another woman if he feels that the new woman is meant to be with him and his wife is not? |
- Question: Is it okay for a man to leave his wife for another woman if he feels that the new woman is meant to be with him and his wife is not?
- Question: What do you think about our deadbeat parent problem?
- Question: Why do i feel guilt when i have sex with my husband?
- Question: What should I do about my husband?
- Question: After divorce "rules??"?
- Question: Help to pick out the red flags.?
- Question: My divorced ex boyfriend of a year says he needs space. How do I proceed?
- Question: Me and my husband had sex with 9 people. is this bad?
- Question: How do look up someone's marriage certificate and divorce?
- Question: What is it like to have kids?
- Question: Does these actions say he is married?
- Question: Need advice on mother?
- Question: How can i find out if im still married?
- Question: My wife wants a divorce and is being so rude now! Whats going on?
- Question: Is this normal for a man/husband?
- Question: Is there anything I can do to help my husband with his alcohol abuse that is causing serious problems in our marriage?
- Question: Angry and sex?
- Question: What are my options regarding custody of my son in Kentucky?
- Question: My wife wants a divorce and is being so rude to me! Please answer!?
- Question: 16 and want to marry a 22 year old?
- Question: How to pay off attorney fees for divorce?
- Question: Newlyweds, would you leave your spouse if tomorrow they were diagnosed with a terminal illness?
- Question: Person I babysit for has weird request?
- Question: My wife and I have separated. She filed an injunction, filed to have her social security number and name changed. Will we still be married?
- Question: I am getting cold feet about getting married.?
- Question: We've been together for close to 3 years now and he doesn't see himself being married yet or engaged in a couple years...?
- Question: Can you still have a fulfilling life if you choose not to get married?
- Question: Did you and your spouse clearly define the path of your relationship that lead to marriage or just go with the flow?
- Question: What would happen if you marry to a narcissist ?
- Question: HELP !! My husband keeps touching me all the time?
- Question: Do other married women ever get bored of their husbands?
- Question: Why would my husband go to a strip club against my wishes and lie about it?
- Question: I don't get marriage it just makes everything complicated financially?
- Question: Im having a marriage problem?
- Question: Kid issue after marriage?
- Question: When your married is the mans income still his and he can do whatever he wants with his money?
- Question: Is it legal for a husband to lock a wife out of their house and change the locks because she goes to visit her children?
- Question: How do I make my husband understand how bad I want a baby?
- Question: My wife has PCOS and we are having trouble conceiving. Now she's furious about everything and I don't know what to do.?
- Question: Advice please on my situation?
- Question: Is it weird to want to be a housewife?
- Question: Help Me? trying to conceive ..?
- Question: Having relationship troubles?
- Question: Is my husband right or too controlling?
- Question: Is this considered snooping and an invasion of privacy?
- Question: I dislike my husband touching me?
- Question: Me and my wife just bought a horse farm and want name it. our last name is bell, anny suggestions?
- Question: I don't love my wife anymore, nor I attracted to her?
- Question: Help! S.O.S!?
- Question: What mental state were u wen u met your partner?
- Question: Do you keep the details of your intimate life between you and your spouse?
- Question: Wife hanging out with female coworkers.?
- Question: Stay at home parents, what do you do while your children are in school?
- Question: Why does he care about one and or the other?
- Question: Is it Weird that I feel like this? What should I Do? Am I the Only one ?? HELP!!!!?
- Question: Tensed because of my husband?
- Question: Am I right to be angry?
- Question: Why does he not care?
- Question: Am I too trusting?
- Question: Is verbal abuse 'reason enough' to finay sent your husband of out?
| Posted: 20 May 2015 09:06 PM PDT |
| Question: What do you think about our deadbeat parent problem? Posted: 20 May 2015 08:50 PM PDT What causes so many deadbeats out there? |
| Question: Why do i feel guilt when i have sex with my husband? Posted: 20 May 2015 08:37 PM PDT So everytime i undress for sex i feel guilty, i feel worthless & slutty & im not sure why. Hes the only person ive ever been with & he doesnt do anything uncomfortable to make me feel that way. as soon as i undress i find the nearest blanket to cover up with. What can it be? |
| Question: What should I do about my husband? Posted: 20 May 2015 08:15 PM PDT Ever since I was pregnant, the doctors have told us that we will be having a baby boy, and he was so excited and so was I. We had gone to stores to by boy clothes, shoes, toys, ect. and he was so sweet with me and we were deciding what to name him and stuff. Everything was awesome until a week ago when our baby was finally born, it turned out it was a girl. I was surprized and kind of sad but I still loved her, however my husband was upset and shocked. When the doctor told him if he wanted to hold her, he said "Get her away from me" and punched the wall and left. You could hear him screaming and I was really worried, and now he doesn't even want to carry our daughter and I always tell him that she doesn't deserve what he is doing to her. He responds by saying that he not her daughter and now we sleep in seperate beds. I always cry and beg that he will change one day, but from the way things are now, he will never love his daughter. |
| Question: After divorce "rules??"? Posted: 20 May 2015 08:05 PM PDT I have been divorced almost 2 years, I have sole custody of our 3 kids and my ex husband gets standard visitation. I have been living with another woman who is the love of my life and my girlfriend. My kids don't understand the relationship between us, they know we love each other and that's good enough for them:) seeing mommy and "cici" hold hands is not unusual or uncomfortable for them. They range in age from 4-8. It's been long enough, and we have recently disclosed our intimate relationship with close friends and family. I want to tell my ex, but I know he's going to freak out. Can he take custody since my divorce papers say we aren't allowed overnight guests? It's been 2 years since it was final. What can he do to hurt me in light of this information? Thanks :) |
| Question: Help to pick out the red flags.? Posted: 20 May 2015 08:00 PM PDT you are dating someone over the internet, social media, skype, text messages. You both live in different states. You have your own house, your own business, a kick *** degree, and work for a financial institution. He flies out to spend two weeks with you. Comes back because you both live in different states. Before your second date he proposes.Before his divorce was final he proposes. Along the way, he has cheated on you and the other woman contacts you out of the blue.He beat this other woman because she contacted you. After being beaten she still contacts you to tell you the truth. All of his legal issues are on the internet. All of this is occurring before your wedding which is a year away. Where are the red flags? what are his intentions? what can make you not see the red flags and take heed to warning? |
| Question: My divorced ex boyfriend of a year says he needs space. How do I proceed? Posted: 20 May 2015 07:39 PM PDT Lived together with his kids for a year. We fell in love fast had a great relationship in terms of connection, compatibility and hardly fought. We talked about building a future together. After the divorce was final he started acting strange.. 3 months ago he left me to try and reconcile with his ex-wife, he said he loved me but, he had to try and see if it could be repaired. 2 weeks ago he informed me they decided not to get back together after all but, that he needs time to work on himself, be alone and single right now. I asked if we could ever try again in the future and he said he was ''not in the mindset to answer that'' right now. The only reason I would take him back is because, I know divorce and recovery can be complicated and leave people a mess (he had it all so together when we met but, obviously he had not healed). Also, we happened very fast so, I get the feeling he was in love but, overwhelmed. I feel if there was no hope ever he would have said NO or not even mentioned they are not back together. I was very good to him and his children (whom I miss terribly!) and am a very good woman, even some of his family have expressed dissapproval of his behaviour to me. I feel I should go complete NC, live my life and let him heal and decide if he misses me when the cloud lifts? I am prepared this may never happen. I would like some opinions/ feedback please. UMM, excuse me very much, Savannah it was his EX WIFE. As in they got divorced. As in he got involved with me AFTER! I am not a homewrecker. Their reasons for divorce have nothing to do with me, I had not even met him when they seperated. I had a good relationship with her. |
| Question: Me and my husband had sex with 9 people. is this bad? Posted: 20 May 2015 07:31 PM PDT me and my husband had sex last night and it was awesome. we decided to spice it up and bring in a bunch of girls so he can get even more turned on. anyways I brought it up to my friends who are the girls and they thought it was a good idea and so did he. was this slutty of me? we're both 20 years old too. |
| Question: How do look up someone's marriage certificate and divorce? Posted: 20 May 2015 07:00 PM PDT I don't have their social or driver license or anything. But I do have date of birth and full name. |
| Question: What is it like to have kids? Posted: 20 May 2015 06:43 PM PDT I'm 19 1/2 and I want kids as soon as I'm ready (I'm definitely NOT ready). Anyway, I want my first child to be a boy. All I really want in life is to be a mom. |
| Question: Does these actions say he is married? Posted: 20 May 2015 05:16 PM PDT I met a guy years ago...offline by accident and I met him in person. He was and still is in the army. I went with him with and his bro and best friend to a bike week. I went on FB and found his kids mom which is army too and higher rank than him. I notice some of the background in her photos and that she was using his last name and wearing a huge ring. She doesn t have pics of him on her page, just the kids. I looked at the bro page and saw that my boyfriend with a ring on. He doesn t have one on when I see him. He mentioned that he is covering entry level college test for about 7000 for the son which is not his but is hers. I also noticed that the son is driving his very expensive car that I have driven. When I meet him its not in his town its another place that he claims is vacation for me but he has a quick training but then we spend time together. he ask things about me relocating. I also found his wedding photo which he denies being recent. Says he is divorced but everytime I try having a convo he cant cause HIS FAMILY IS THERE. She was at holiday event which is a 8 hr drive for both.... he is always sending pics of the children. even the one that is not his. he talks about his siblings with me and I have his address which he sent me something I had left behind. I don't date or talk to married men and told him this before I started taking planes to meet him. His brother threw a hint out that the last time he came to my state it was for a church wedding but didn't say anything else. His friend was telling me he doesn't belong to me but only when my boyfriend turned his back. The kids mother was deployed |
| Question: Need advice on mother? Posted: 20 May 2015 05:06 PM PDT first my mom never hits me. me and my bother got into a fight at mcdonalds we threw ketchup on each other.im older im 15 he is 13. i got some ketchup on some woman clothes and my mom had to reinburst 45 dollars for the damage. my mom freak out on me told me i was a immature baby and my brother to in front of people in mcdonlads. Leaving mcdonalds she told us that she should get us some pacifers and some pampers and a playpen. people were looking at me. like she was right. she took away my x box and games and i pod i cant go out on weekends now. on the car ride home she is yelling at us telling us when she goes to wallmart she should buy us a cribs and rattles Can i turn her into CPS for abuse saying those things to me? isnt it slander or something saying lies about someone. saying i need pampers and making me look bad in public. just to scare her and For the record he started it my brother not me. its not fair now she is not going to let me take drivers ed in school. she told me that im to imature to drive that babies dont get to do grown up things. she saying all these mean things to me. I have a right to drive? cant they make her a better mom or something. this suxs so bad wut she did to me. |
| Question: How can i find out if im still married? Posted: 20 May 2015 04:59 PM PDT |
| Question: My wife wants a divorce and is being so rude now! Whats going on? Posted: 20 May 2015 04:00 PM PDT So my wife I guess had this idea pre meditated for a few weeks. We had been arguing and she finally told me she wanted a separation ( now a divorce). She wanted to see if she was happy with out me and if she was to make it permanent. She was hanging out with friends all the time (she never had friends before) and her parents have never liked me and always encouraged her to leave me. They have only been there for her when they want to take jabs at me. She told me she wants to leave me because we fought and i was emotionally abusive. I can say that I did say some harsh things during our spats but I was completely devoted to her. I have two kids with her and would love to save our marriage but at this point feel like it's best to let her be and move on. I want to focus on our boys but have no closure. She barely talks to me and when she does she is so rude. She cares more about her friends and family now. I feel like she has totally deleted me in less than a week. We have been together for 6 years!! Why is she being so rude to me? I'm giving her what she wants but she is someone that I dont know anymore. She has cheated on me twice before but i dont feel like this is the case this time. We got married young and so I feel she think the grass is greener on the other side. I feel like she wants to live the young single life?? She is always drinking now and hiding everything in her life from me. |
| Question: Is this normal for a man/husband? Posted: 20 May 2015 03:44 PM PDT My husband has always been a procrastinator/man child. It was slightly obvious when we lived with his parents. Getting him to do anything around his parent's house -like mow the lawn- would be a pain. He'd complain about dinner despite NEVER helping with it. He'd leave beard trimmings around the sink. I'd ask him to clean it, his dad would ask to clean it. A week later, *I'd* be cleaning it. I had talks BEFORE we moved out together. His answer was always that it'd be different in OUR house. Now we have our house and little changed. I pretty much do all the cleaning (minus the vacuuming). I do all the cooking including making lunch for him for work. He doesn't do handy work. He said he'd do our backsplash in the kitchen. He started 2 months ago and our kitchen is still a mess with cut tiles and tools everywhere. We started painting the bathroom. I ended up doing most of it or else it'd be in the same state as the kitchen. He keeps taking things out/starting things and never finishing. His comic books are scattered everywhere because he never boxes them back with his collection. He organized his blu rays on the floor a week ago. They're still not back on the shelf. Told him the garage was his space. I told him which shelves to buy. He bought them and they stayed packaged for a month until I organized the garage. He finally started cleaning the garage. That was a week ago. Is this normal? Why do I always have a 'talk' with him to do regular things around a home? Fine I was naive. But the question is if this is normal man behaviour. Like are a lot of men like this? AT MOST he has a job and is respectful. He works in trades which is a career path I suggested to him 5 years ago. Instead he chose to go to school and get into debt for a career he ended up hating and not pursuing. Now he's doing trades anyway. Except if he listened to me, he'd be a journeyman in tiles and be making 3 times what he makes. Instead he is now miserable at his job and complains they never let move up. |
| Posted: 20 May 2015 03:39 PM PDT We have been married for over 20 years, about 5 years ago he began to occasionally drink. The occasional drink has developed into an every evening event. When he drinks he becomes verbally abusive and has even gotten physical. After the last event I had him arrested for domestic violence and he is still facing those charges. He promised he was willing to do whatever it took to fix the issues, agreeing to go to the Dr and therapy. He did go to the Dr as promised and was placed on Ability. However, he refers to the medication as " my pills" as if he can't face that he actually has a problem. This evening while I was gone to get our daughter from school, he snuck and got alcohol and I came home to find him drunk. I confronted him about drinking and he became verbally abusive, blaming me and shooting insults at me. I then told him to leave... I honestly don't know what to do...he will start texting me soon and crying and promising to change, but obviously he can't...or won't. Should I turn my back on him until he can admit he has a serious issue whether mental or addiction? I love him and after twenty years can't imagine living without him....but I can't live with the man he has become. Any advice? |
| Posted: 20 May 2015 03:36 PM PDT OK I am pretty angry as my hubby is not sexually active since last 15 yrs of marriage. I always have to make the first move. It has now started making me angry and very angry. I told him too. That he needs to show affection, passion etc in relationship. We have a son too 3 yr. I don't know what to do it is spoiling my personality as when he is gone I get angry and abuse him... What do I do |
| Question: What are my options regarding custody of my son in Kentucky? Posted: 20 May 2015 03:34 PM PDT My wife and I separated 4 1/2 months ago. We have a 16 month old son in which we have been sharing visitation of (more so me by her choice) while waiting for divorce/custody to be filed. Our fallout is due to her lack of parenting and unfaithfulness. Two days ago I told her I was filing for custody due to her continued neglect towards our son and a couple hours later she filed an EPO on me with false accusations. She continued to call here (I have our son at the moment) before the epo was served, not once did she mention it. It was served today and she still called me, which I hung up on her. The problem is that our son has been with me for a week now and, although he is not mentioned in the complaint at all, he was still listed under "Other Protected Person(s)" section. My court date is set for May 27 and I have already began the process with social services on her neglect (in which I have professional witnesses) and started the process of seeking soul custody with her having limited visitations. I was told arrangements would have to be made regarding her picking him up over this EPO but she has made no such attempt. I fear for my son's health and well being if he is put in her care and the EPO states I am to have no contact and stay at a 500 yard distance from them. If she makes no attempt to pick him up, what should I do? Would getting an Emergency Custody Order help? What are my options? @sheloves_dablues: I am currently waiting for a lawyer to return my call. |
| Question: My wife wants a divorce and is being so rude to me! Please answer!? Posted: 20 May 2015 03:27 PM PDT |
| Question: 16 and want to marry a 22 year old? Posted: 20 May 2015 03:20 PM PDT Hey guys im 16 (f) and dating a 22 year old. I think i might be pregnant, but not sure yet. My mom knows about us and she is completely ok with it. He wants to marry me so i want to know if there is any way i could marry him with my moms pemission? Or what can i do in order for him not to go to jail. And please dont judge and say that he should go to jail for "rape". So please just help me. What can we do? Btw we live in Louisiana. |
| Question: How to pay off attorney fees for divorce? Posted: 20 May 2015 03:07 PM PDT we are reaching an agreement with my ex and I agreed to pay off my attorney fees but I have almost nothing.. Thank you. this is helpful, I am in my 20s and had no idea how it works.. |
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| Question: Person I babysit for has weird request? Posted: 20 May 2015 02:53 PM PDT So I babysit for my neighbor fairly often. They have a 7 year old girl who still wears pull ups. She is extremely embarrassed that she has to wear them. Her mom texted me and asked if I would wear just a pull up next time I babysat over there, which will be this Saturday. She seems to think if I'm wearing one and her daughter sees it she won't be as embarrassed. Should I do it? I mean it would be kinda embarassing for me just wearing a diaper and a t shirt with no pants on. The mom offered me extra money if I do it though. Should I do it? |
| Posted: 20 May 2015 02:48 PM PDT We are separated and she felt threatened by me. The court became involved and she decided to try and start a new life. In the process she has filed to have her name and social security number changed. Now, we have talked things through and she no longer wishes to leave. But, if the change of name and SSN go through will we still be married or will she be considered a new person legally? |
| Question: I am getting cold feet about getting married.? Posted: 20 May 2015 02:42 PM PDT My fiancé and I have been together for 13yrs and have a 12yo son who was born when I was 16. He asked me to marry him last summer and I agreed stupidly as deep down I really didn't want to because I feel like we don't need marriage but he was so happy I didn't have it in me to hurt him, We have always had a very intense relationship & lately he keeps bringing up when we should set a date etc, I keep changing the subject & he starts to get annoyed with me, I know he feels me being distant from him because its causing arguments between us, He text me today saying he booked a weekend away for us for this weekend, I acted happy about it but the truth is I'm dreading being alone with him. I don't know what has caused me to go like this with him. He wants to "do the family thing the right way, especially after 13yrs, I just don't feel like we need the piece of paper as we were fine before all this, I don't want to waste money, get stressed over one day. I do love him but Its driving me crazy all I can think about is that I'm panicking about getting married or something, I don't know! Am I a horrible person for not being straight up? Any advice would be appreciated. |
| Posted: 20 May 2015 02:30 PM PDT So I had a conversation with my boyfriend today of close to 3 years regarding his plans for his future. He's 27 and I'm 25. I asked him where's he sees himself in 1.5-2 years and he stated the following: 1.) being where he wants to be in his career 2.) traveling the world 3.) and having his own place (he didn't specify whether he wants to get a place with me or not, but he knows that I don't agree with living together until marriage) So then I asked him, do you see yourself being married or at least engaged? And his response was that (1) he's not thinking about marriage right now and (2) he think that one day he's just going to wake up and be like "I think I'm ready to get married" So then he asked me the same question "where do I see myself in 1.5-2 years", and I told him the following: 1) I will have my own place by then 2) I'd like to be married since we've been together for awhile now, if not engaged. 3) traveling a lot He said "okay" to my response, and I told him that I'm glad I asked him this question. So it's really bothering me that he doesn't even see us being engaged given that we've been together for so long; Like he didn't mention anything about us at all. I know that he wants to marry me (I have no doubt about that) because we talk about our future together all the time, but I feel like he's not where I am mentally in terms of our future together. Thoughts on this? |
| Question: Can you still have a fulfilling life if you choose not to get married? Posted: 20 May 2015 02:11 PM PDT I'm a 30 year old woman. During my early and mid twenties, I dated. One of my relationships lasted 4.5 years, most other relationships were just casual dating flings. I'm a very introverted and independent person; I am very confident in who am I and I love traveling to Europe on my own and taking care of myself. I don't NEED a husband and most of the time, I feel like I don't WANT one, either. But family and friends and some coworkers make me feel bad about not wanting to share my life with someone and I feel pressured - it makes me think, what if I'm wrong? What if, in ten years, I regret being single? What if I have no one to take care of me when I'm getting sick? No one to pass on my belongings and savings to once I've died? That makes me sad... but it's only when I feel pressured by family. What do you think? Also, I'd like to clarify that I've NEVER had intentions of having children, whether I marry or not. |
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| Question: What would happen if you marry to a narcissist ? Posted: 20 May 2015 01:11 PM PDT |
| Question: HELP !! My husband keeps touching me all the time? Posted: 20 May 2015 01:03 PM PDT I love my husband so much but this whole touching and pulling down my pants and sticking his hands in there whenever I'm cooking or studying is getting out of control , I mean he's a really nice man but I just can't handle this anymore,it's very annoying , and I have to fake a smile and tell him I'm busy or something because I really am , I've already talked to him but he does it the moment after and every time he comes up with a new excuse or way to touch me sexually and he doesn't take me seriously what should I do? |
| Question: Do other married women ever get bored of their husbands? Posted: 20 May 2015 01:01 PM PDT |
| Question: Why would my husband go to a strip club against my wishes and lie about it? Posted: 20 May 2015 12:47 PM PDT I am a recent newlywed who has just found out that my husband of 7 weeks has lied to me on a couple of occasions about going to strip clubs - once last week and once a few months ago before our wedding. Back when we began dating, i told him that strip clubs really bother me and i prefer he not go to them which he gladly agreed to, letting me know he was much more interested in being with me than strip clubs. not the strip club itself bothers me, but it just made me uncomfortable for someone that i love and that loves me being in any sort of sexual situation, particularly lap dances, with other women. the notion that a man is detached from a sexual experience is not lost on me, however i am not detached and i think that should be respected, the same as i would respect something that made him uncomfortable. i gave my life savings, $35,000, to buy us a house. i clean, cook, exercise, contribute equally financially speaking...all i can to be a good wife. i have never gone through his phone, had trust issues or felt insecure. to be blunt, i'm a catch. i dont think it was too much to ask to skip the lap dance, if not the strip club all together and the idea that he understood and agreed with me assured me that we were the right match for each other. i feel like i have made a mistake. i don't know what is worse....the fact that he went after assuring me he wouldnt or the fact that he lied about it twice. |
| Question: I don't get marriage it just makes everything complicated financially? Posted: 20 May 2015 12:39 PM PDT Before your married whatever you make is yours and you can spend it and do whatever you want with it now all of a sudden you can't you need to both agree a man can't just go out and buy a nice sports car , or a flatscreen HD TV home theater system without his wifes consent debt becomes shared what then is the point of getting married I'd rather just cohabit-ate makes things so much easier |
| Question: Im having a marriage problem? Posted: 20 May 2015 12:35 PM PDT Ok so I know my choices are bad but Im trusting people will help me with this. So Im a 44 year old married woman and I have 2 kids in middle school. My neighbors are close friends with me and my son is friends with their 16 year old son. Lately, I have been having problems with my husband because he shows no affection for me and I feel alone. Last week, my friends son came to our house to ask my son to hang out. My son wasn't home and I was home alone but I invited him instead anyway. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex in my bedroom. I have started developing feelings for him and he likes me back. He is currently on vacation but we secretly chat but I am feeling really guilty. Should I tell my husband? |
| Question: Kid issue after marriage? Posted: 20 May 2015 11:57 AM PDT Well, my boyfriend wants to have a son someday when we're married but he has to have a good job that pays $20 an hour. But for me, I don't want to have a kid or any kids. Because they're expensive and I have absolutely no experience of raising a child since I'm partially irresponsible and I'm not assertive when I have to say no to them. I don't do well with tantrums and crying cause they freak me out completely like what happened when I was working at the YMCA Daycare. Kids are hard to deal with and too much responsibility. So I DON'T WANT TO HAVE KIDS!!!! |
| Posted: 20 May 2015 11:44 AM PDT As long as all the bills and mortgage are paid and there is money for groceries She shouldn't have any complaints right and you can do whatever you want with the rest right and you can spend it anyway you want right |
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| Question: How do I make my husband understand how bad I want a baby? Posted: 20 May 2015 11:25 AM PDT We have a 2 year old.im ready for baby number two. He doesn't want another baby for a few years. |
| Posted: 20 May 2015 11:24 AM PDT Our goal has always been for me to work and my wife to stay home with kids. We've been married for just under 3 years and are 31. She's on medicine for depression due to the not being able have a baby and I think that issue is ruining our marriage. For weeks she has been insufferable. Really mean and snippy with me pretty much constantly. Last night she asked me to do chores before dinner and I decided I would just do them after. Bad Idea. When I told her I would handle them after dinner she lost it. She told me that if she was going to work i needed to do more housework. She said she wanted to quit her job and we could live off my income. She said I'd lost my motivation since I haven't kept a second job and that I needed to hit the gym. I'm not in bad shape. She said she wants to look into IVF, adoption, donors, etc immediately. She is absolutely FURIOUS about everything because she doesn't have kids and has to work and is implying I need to work 2 jobs so she can stay home with a baby we adopt ASAP. I feel like I work my *** off and I am in no way unmotivated. It hurt my feelings for her to call me that. Also, I would rather keep trying to naturally have kids and try IVF later. She gets MEAN when she doesn't get exactly what she wants immediately. She acted this way when 1)I took to long to propose, 2) before she quit her first job, and now (wants kids, no job.) I don't know how to approach this. I think we have the same goal but the way she acts drives me away. My biggest fear is she is going to be distant, condescending, and flat out mean until she gets exactly what she wants. If I could give her a baby and make 100k overnight I would but I can't. I need to figure out how to help her be patient and live a good life while we work towards those goals but anything I say is wrong / stupid. |
| Question: Advice please on my situation? Posted: 20 May 2015 11:23 AM PDT My guy proposed to me on Christmas said he was 100 % sure he wanted me to be his wife and him be my husband. The past year we have been great and spent a ton of time together with our 3year old son. Anyway he was told by his ex wife that he couldn't see his two teen children with me or our son around so he choose to write them and wait until he had vacation to spend with them alone. Long story short time came when he asked his ex wife if he could have his kids for a few days. But before anything she told him off and said she didn't know him anymore how could he choose me over them. It wasn't that, he was really trying to keep everyone happy and not hurt by picking who to spend time with. He wanted us all together but wasn't allowed. Since his ex put her guilt on him hes change. He started to doubt his decisions. Regret the way he handled them. I told him several times I would be supportive of any decision he made even encouraged him to see his kids without me and our son. Now hes completely confused about everything in his life. His mom even noticed how negative he's become. Plus our relationship is falling apart he dosent want to get married, not sure if he wants a relationship and confessed that hes change since the conversation with his ex telling him he was a piece of s$#! Pretty much. Sunday this all went down he said he needed time to think, I told him I did as well because I couldn't be with someone who was easily influenced by another persons opinion. |
| Question: Is it weird to want to be a housewife? Posted: 20 May 2015 11:03 AM PDT I know women have fought to stay out of the kitchen and into the work field and have equal pay That good and all But I want to cook and clean and raise 5 kids Yes, I want to do other activities and stuff to keep me occupied but in the end, I want to stay at home and cook and clean |
| Question: Help Me? trying to conceive ..? Posted: 20 May 2015 11:02 AM PDT my fiancé and are are trying to conceive.. iv been off birth control for over a month now, I'm 15 days late for my monthly.. I'm very moody, and tired. next to no energy. took 3 HPT all negative, as of the past few days I've been getting mild cramping. any idea whats going on? Forgot to mention I've had some morning sickness sick to my stomach lately as well |
| Question: Having relationship troubles? Posted: 20 May 2015 10:44 AM PDT I have been married for 8 years. As most couples we have our trials and our sucesses. My husband is however a functional alchoholic and though in the last year's he's significantly reduced his drinking, it is an up and down roller coaster. In the past two weeks he has been tremendously temperamental and very cruel even. I get upset and can only emotionally shut myself off from his banter, but then I'm in trouble because I'm staying 'mad.' He wants to know what's wrong with me? What is my problem. I have learned that I cannot control his drinking, I cannot control how he acts toward me while he is under the influence so I don't fight with him. It seems that is what he wants though, then he can play the victim. I finally decided to start counselling this week as I can feel myself slipping into depression. I fear by doing this though, I am only giving him more power, power to say "see, I knew you had a problem. It's not me." I am going anyway though and have made up my mind not to let his opinion affect me. At least I hope I hope I stay strong enough to not let it. I know most advice would be to get out, leave him. I just can't. I've not been perfect in the past either. That is the difference though, my past is my past. He keeps living his and the cycle continues. |
| Question: Is my husband right or too controlling? Posted: 20 May 2015 10:35 AM PDT Ystd. we had my sister and his brother over and they announced that she's pregnant. This makes hubby furious; he's already upset finding out recently that they're dating (I know they've been dating since 2012). His objection is b/c my sister is 27 and BIL is only 23. I myself find it ok. I like my BIL (I've known him since he was a kid and he's always a quiet and good-natured boy). They both also have a job. It's true that hubby decides many things for his brother b/c hubby is 12 years older, and since their parents have passed away it was him who put his brother through university etc. My BIL usually just does what hubby says (like about the car he should buy etc.), but my sister is the headstrong one. She's ok too, but she doesn't like the way my hubby takes part in his brother's life (although my hubby does mean well). Ystd. my hubby said things which offended my sister and vice versa. She's calling him control freak and he accused her of playing a younger man etc. It was awkward. My BIL and I are practically in the middle while my hubby and sis are always bickering with each other, and ystd. it was really bad. My hubby thinks that his brother and my sister will blow apart b/c my BIL is too young and that's why he's furious. We're close but with those two always arguing I'm afraid our family ties will be just weakened, and it's such a shame b/c our kids love their aunt and uncle. I wonder if my husband is overreacting, and how to soften him? My sis is obstinate too. Hurricain, don't be insulting. I've got mixed answers as well and a few said BIL is indeed too young to be getting married. My husband always wants the best for his brother (I know because I'm his wife!), but I'm not sure about this situation. I just want everything to go smoothly. |
| Question: Is this considered snooping and an invasion of privacy? Posted: 20 May 2015 10:34 AM PDT I've found evidence of my husband's infidelity on the home computer that we both use. Nothing was password protected, I didn't hack anything. It's in the hard drive in a specific folder. I did dig a bit to find the rest after seeing one thing on the desktop. Is this snooping? Or not because I didn't have to enter a password to see it? |
| Question: I dislike my husband touching me? Posted: 20 May 2015 10:18 AM PDT My husband cheated. And ever since that I dislike his complimentents. Why? Because he would compliment her on her legs like he would to me, so everytime he compliments me, it reminds me of her. He tries to spank my *** but I get mad. I'm not the woman I use to be when this happend I feel that It will never be the same after that happend. I just feel stabbed in the back. And I thought I was his only desire, but I was wrong I have low self a steem, but it's different now, I don't think It will ever be the same. I Don't look at him as a friend anymore not the same. What do u think about this? Should we go to a marriage counseler? |
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| Question: I don't love my wife anymore, nor I attracted to her? Posted: 20 May 2015 09:56 AM PDT My question, what to do? |
| Posted: 20 May 2015 09:02 AM PDT I want to know how some couples manage to not be jealous, when one of them is extremely good looking and gets hit on constantly? How do men who are with models not get jealous when other guys j/o to pictures of their wife? And leave sexual comments on her photos online? And how do jersey chasers handle it when beautiful women are offering to go service their man at hotels when he's playing away games? |
| Question: What mental state were u wen u met your partner? Posted: 20 May 2015 08:47 AM PDT were u broke? depressed? very happy? worried? feeling as though everything was going great in your life? feeling as though things were terrible in your life? I just wana see if theres any pattern or a state more likely to lead to finding someone than others. thanks |
| Question: Do you keep the details of your intimate life between you and your spouse? Posted: 20 May 2015 06:54 AM PDT Or is it normal to discuss your sex life with your parents/in-laws? Just wondering, because I met my husband's mother at the mall yesterday and she gave me a book on kama sutra in anticipation of me and my husband's one year anniversary trip in June, and over lunch was asking how our sex life was and if I could make one change with it, what would that be? I felt really uncomfortable and my husband failed to see an issue. He just said sex is natural and she wasn't out of line. |
| Question: Wife hanging out with female coworkers.? Posted: 20 May 2015 06:22 AM PDT I am 36 and my wife is 34. We have been together for 13 years and married for 11. About 6 months ago my wife started a new job that she absolutely loves. She works with mostly women who are married or engaged. Soon after she started there she went have dinner and drinks with these friends. I don't have a problem with that. 6 months later one coworker is quiting so another wants to have a going away party at her house to which my wife was invited. Again not a problem with me. I had to make her go. She left around 3pm and got home around 9pm. The next day one of the women posted on fb that they need to do it again when her husband gets home. So I took that to mean that maybe next time I could tag along and get to know her coworkers. Now my wife says I am jealous of her having fun without me. The fact is I'm not jealous of that. I'm jealous of the relationship she has with her coworkers because I have never had that kind of relationship with mine. She might do this once every six months. She doesn't think its that important for me to get to know them but I think it is. IF they are important to her and make her happy outside of our relationship then in my mind it is important for me to get to know them. But she says I am making way too big of a deal about it. I'm not asking to tag along every time. I just ask once in a while let's include the husbands, im sure the other husbands wouldn't mind either. Am I wrong for this? Am I making too big of a deal about it? |
| Question: Stay at home parents, what do you do while your children are in school? Posted: 20 May 2015 06:12 AM PDT My cousin's wife is a stay at home mom of two boys, ages five and seven. Both of her boys are now in school, which means between eight thirty and three she's basically free. Lately she and my cousin have been fighting because she just doesn't seem to be doing anything during that time. My cousin comes home from work at two thirty, and his wife is often out with her sisters, so he winds up being the one to get the boys off from the bus, help them with their school work, and drive the older one to his karate classes. He says he also winds up cooking dinner, and doing a lot of the cleaning. His wife constantly argues that she has a lot to do and that my cousin doesn't understand how stressful it is for her to manage the schedule she has... And yet she literally cannot say what she does beyond sending the boys off in the morning and grocery shopping once a week. Don't take my question as me prying into their business. I am absolutely not poking my nose into their situation, as it's their business and not mine. I'm just wondering what other stay at home types do once their kids are in school? Did you return to work? Do you use that time to get a lot done? Or is it basically "me" time for you? |
| Question: Why does he care about one and or the other? Posted: 20 May 2015 05:28 AM PDT So before I met my husband he had a kid. He was 7 at the time now he's 14. Whenever I bring him up he always dismisses it I don't get y is he ashamed of him. I also believe his dead beat way he is embarresd about so he makes me look like I'm the jealous type that would never accept his kid which is not the case. I just find it so weird because he hasn't seen his kid since 2010. He lives in dominican republic, the other weird part is the kid doesn't have his last name. Why would he make me look like the bad person that's so wrong. I wanna find out my self out of what's going on because if he's making me look bad I wanna set the record straight. His sister in law doesn't like him much so I was planning when we go to the lake she will give me answer I'm searching for. What's sad about this is we have a kid together and he is great to him puts his pictures all over Facebook, but he never mentions his other son. I'm so confused and don't know what to do. It's his bussiness because it's not my kid but y not be proud of him and acknowledge his existence, instead of denying him. Please help |
| Question: Is it Weird that I feel like this? What should I Do? Am I the Only one ?? HELP!!!!? Posted: 20 May 2015 05:24 AM PDT Ok so lately I've been felling like i want to see other Ppl. Idk I crave attention from another man, I dnt knw why. My BF is a Great Guy he's Responsible, A Great Dad, & Everything a Girl can Ask for. I hate myself for feeling like this I knw I will never cheat on him I can't hurt him in that way. I Love him which is why it's so strange to me that im felling this way! Pleeaassseeee Give me Some Advice! |
| Question: Tensed because of my husband? Posted: 20 May 2015 04:25 AM PDT I am niki from India,its been 3 yrs for my marraige.now after 3 years due to social networking sites and whatsapp my husbands is chatting with teenagers(17-22)he is asking for their phone number nad he even tells them to meet him to watch movies and wants to date them.All he is doing through his fake account..and fortunately i know his fake FB accounts username and password because of which i can see all his conversations. i donot know and i m confused what to do?i am really very tensed and afraid incase if he realy date.? Realy very very very tensed in depressed.:( |
| Question: Am I right to be angry? Posted: 20 May 2015 03:59 AM PDT My husband told me last night he's been doing drugs at work. I caught him lying about it-first he said it was only once. Then he said "I only did that once" which was different. Anyway, I think you get the point. He's also been taking one of my perscriptions to work and using that. Am I wrong to be angry? I don't want to be with a selfish liar. What do I do? |
| Question: Why does he not care? Posted: 20 May 2015 02:56 AM PDT So before I met my husband he had a kid. He was 7 at the time now he's 14. Whenever I bring him up he always dismisses it I don't get y is he ashamed of him. I also believe his dead beat way he is embarresd about so he makes me look like I'm the jealous type that would never accept his kid which is not the case. I just find it so weird because he hasn't seen his kid since 2010. He lives in dominican republic, the other weird part is the kid doesn't have his last name. Why would he make me look like the bad person that's so wrong. I wanna find out my self out of what's going on because if he's making me look bad I wanna set the record straight. His sister in law doesn't like him much so I was planning when we go to the lake she will give me answer I'm searching for. What's sad about this is we have a kid together and he is great to him puts his pictures all over Facebook, but he never mentions his other son. I'm so confused and don't know what to do. It's his bussiness because it's not my kid but y not be proud of him and acknowledge his existence, instead of denying him. Please help |
| Posted: 20 May 2015 01:30 AM PDT I had a look at the wife's phone and she texts this other guy like all day. And they are even texting when she is at home. Is it normal for two ppl to message each other so much? And I let her see this guy fit lunch and dinner. And I letting her get away with too much? |
| Question: Is verbal abuse 'reason enough' to finay sent your husband of out? Posted: 20 May 2015 12:39 AM PDT So I've endured a rocky marriage from the start..(miserable life), gave the man many years, bc I THOUGHT he would change but haven't.. So, almost 8 years later, I finally sent him out (boot), and 2 very young kids I am left with :( :( (woe is me), < (sarcastic remark) I rather be alone than the way he treated me. But I STILL feel guilty (he makes me..he owns of NO responsibility (8 months later of being seperated. He says I 'screwed up' his life, cuz he had to start anew (gave him no notice and sent him the very next day), he could have gone to 'rents. And also cuz he has to pay child support. He says he doesn't want to come back bc: -doesn't love me anymore (did he really ever??) -isn't happy -is happy alone..bla bla So, why I still feel guilty as he makes me. I |
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