No ceremony. Marriage only. What to do?

After I filed for divorce, my husband came home and told me that he got another woman pregnant (he was already talking about being a sperm donor the "natural way" before which, combined with another affair, made me file). Still loving him, I offered to help with the baby. He then tells me that he feels he should be with her and not sleep with/kiss me because it might upset her since she is pregnant and has feelings for him. I later called my best friend who I have not been able to be around since I got married (we grew up together and I had no intention of cheating with him or anyone else). He came over and made me feel a lot better. I didn't feel neglected for once. When he left, he sent me a text saying that he is willing to wait on me to divorce and heal because he has always loved me. I didn't entertain it because I love my husband. My husband read the text tonight and flipped out on me yelling about how I belong to him in front of guests. I'm seriously considering putting him out but I don't want anymore drama. I am beyond embarrassed. How do I handle this until the divorce is final?

I've known a guy who all within a year got a divorce, proposed to another before his divorce was finalized and carried on other relationships with women even after being engaged. The other woman he wanted to marry her but treated her badly through different levels of abuse. Yet this is the same woman he seeks often even years later. How is it there is no break in between? Does he have real emotions? Is the soon to be new wife one to make him change?

I've seen this person through highs and lows. From his career to struggling financially. From his depression to the many versions of himself. Yes he has moved on and is seemingly happy. We ended badly because of his lies deception and abusive ways. Will I ever cross his mind as he does mine.

I want to surprise my husband in about 2 weeks with a whole day that would be really fun for him. He works so hard for our family and deserves to be treated to something really nice. So here is where you guys come in. As men, what would you enjoy doing with your wife? All ideas, Im talking ANY ideas. I just want to know what men like the most. Im really bad at this. :P

So I have this new supervisor at my job and he's very attractive (I have a major crush on him). After doing some stalking I found out that he's married and his three kids. He has never mentioned to me that he is married or has children so he has no idea that I know. Whenever he emails me about work related stuff he always ends it with "I look forward to seeing you" and it's never anything about work. Every time he sees me he gives me these really long drawn out hugs. Yesterday for the first time, he came up to me, grabbed me, hugged me and then proceeded to kiss me on the cheek (it wasn't like one of those quick side to side peck on the cheeks it was like a long hard kiss). Now I'm really weirded out. Afterwards he offered to buy me some sweets and bring them back to me at work and I felt awkward so I said that I would just go with him to buy them. When we went to go get him food (where they also have the sweets I wanted), he refused to let me pay for my sweets, and said "I've got her" to the cashier, and even when I said it was okay he was persistent in paying. We then sat and ate for an hour and didn't talk at all about work, we talked only about personal stuff (he talked to me about his children, upbringing etc). I have no idea what to do because I can't interpret what his motive is. I personally don't think its cool for a married man to hug and kiss other younger attractive women so I'm just trying to figure out what his deal is. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Can you share your awkward moment with you and your spouse (during your guys marriage)

Mom says get married and me not yet settled I'm 26 year old I convinced so much to mom, she still says same And while family is forcing same, I don't know what to do, But I'm not interested since I'm not settled don't know where my life Leeds to I believe Strongly I stuck here if I get marry.

Hi, my spouse and I are trying to get our conditional status off of my status. We filed form I-751 and gave them an evidence of that we have been living since we got married, car insurance with our name in it, electricity bills, and our taxes, W-2 forms,etc. Both have our names in it. After 2 months they sent me a form that says they were extending my stay for another year. Which I thought was a good thing. After that, 3 months later they sent my spouse a mail about not meeting the requirements of proving that I and my spouse have this whole marriage thing as true, they have told us to provide more evidence that this whole thing was true. The mail they sent us says that we need to send them more evidence (mortgage that have our names in it, kids birth certificates, combined bank accounts) and they are giving us until August 18 to provide those evidence. My wife and I are both students, ages 22, we don't have kids we moved a lot, we thought that we have provided enough but I guess not, we don't have what they are asking. What should be my next step be? I talked to my spouse and we both agreed to write a letter to the UsCIs about our situation. Is this the right thing to do? Any suggestions? Thank you for your time.

So. If you didnt see my other question you won't understand. I talked to him about us not having sex and he said he don't want me to get pregnant but he also don't want me on BC. Would it be wrong for me to go on it with out him knowing?

this woman he has a child with got pregnant by him the first month they were dating when we broke up a few years ago. We were together first and had a child first yet she's always treated me like I'm the home wrecker. Needless to say our love was strong and we got back together and got married. Hubby stopped communicating with her after she told him she wanted nothing to do with me or our son. Now after two years of him not seeing his son I finally got him to contact her. He asked to meet to see his son and the first request she has is that he doesn't bring me along. He's never brought me along to begin with which had always bothered me but I felt I couldn't say anything then since we weren't married. Now we are married should I allow him to visit her and the child for the first time without me? Does that really matter? I mean eventually her kid is gonna be around me. Mind you she never respected me as my son was always over her house when they were together and I never had a say. I just feel she is being unfair and vindictive and I should be allowed to be there whether she likes it or Not.

My husband and I aren't having sex. But I want to. How should I bring it up?

he dated me and treated me very crappy and i was extremely hurt to the point where it caused me depression. i didn't lose my innocence to him. he came back and started texting me crazy telling me how stupid he was- and how he took me for granted. of course i didn't accept him back. he got pissed off and then said he made a mistake doing this. 4 months later he got married to some girl overseas who he brought here. all along, he had this communication with this girl overseas and he kept me a secret. he never added me on Facebook, he never introduced me to his friends..so all in all her and i were both a secret. he is in his mid 30s and i guess once he married her he announced he was in a relationship and married her. i didn't look it up, someone told me about. i broke down and cried because i never had someone treat me as a secret,i was naive to believe he was a nice guy to being with. deep down inside, i know he didn't marry her bcaz of love otherwise he wouldn't have begged me back. this is the foulest a person has ever treated me in my life and i guess i feel angry that it happened this way. he talked to me about marriage and now when i think back at it - it was all a joke. and marriage is something very meaningful

I just left my abuser, and I feel numb to everything. I made an appointment to see a counselor however, the appointment is not until next week. My child is also emotional over everything and I am blaming myself because my family is broken. In my heart I know it is not my fault but I still blame myself.

I cheated about a week and a half ago (talked online to another man not about sex just casual conversation but still emotional cheating). Husband was not perfect in the past. Has really physically cheated on me and has just been controlling and jealous - major trust issues which makes what I did much worse! I've been trying very hard to make this up to him! Giving him what he wants when he wants it.........Been being as sweet as I can and try to not say anything "out of the way". Feel like hWE should be "working" on our relationship too, he doesn't.........Everything I do turns into you screwed me over......He doesn't work or contribute financially we have a 9 year old daughter. He helped hold everything down so I could finish my degree which I did almost three years ago. He has no ambitions he is 40 I am 35. I just bought a house we've been together for 18 years and struggled alot at times both financially and in our relationship....I'm just now finding myself and finding that I'm wanting different things than I did back then. Not sure if I should work this out or let it go..........My daughter will have a really hard time with a divorce! but will she have more problems if she sees a bad relationship???

I m a teenager who s parents have been divorced almost my entire life. They have equal custody. I want my mom to have full custody. My dad is not physically or sexually abusive, but he is emotionally abusive. My mom has been doing everything she can to get full custody but it s just not working. What can I do? My mom has tried to get me into court but every time my dad objects. Also there is money involved, but besides that my dad is manipulative and likes control, also just ruining our lives i think.

Our lease is up in like two or less months. I have a place to stay (my brother's) in the same city. My husband will probably end up leaving the city to go back to his hometown. I'm not sure as to what I should do. I'm working on getting a job and stuff, but i don't want to make it complicated for divorce papers. I've heard that if you live in a house that is under both of the names of the spouses, then one should wait until the divorce is final to move out, but what about apartments? any further details on situations like this would also be appreciated.

What are the differences between a married couple and an unwed couple? It seems like marriage is harder for people all over the world. Is it worth it? It seems like it's a tiring test placed on 2 people to see how much money they can make in a lifetime union with love being a cozy advertisement. It seems like a game doesn't it?

I was treated badly but I don't miss the mistreatment. I miss being able to know if this person is truly okay healthy or at least alive...is it wrong of me to feel this way? Do guys ever truly regret those they've done wrong in the past?

I know there's no real way of telling right now but I feel like my parents are just together to avoid divorce fees and whatever. My dad works abroad now but when he was home they were constantly bickering over stupid things. They've been together for 18 years and married for around 7 now but I can't help feeling like they've fallen out of love. I know my parents miss each other when my dad's away for a few months but when he comes home the arguments and whispering under their breath starts again. They always moan about each other it seems like they're just not happy. Is it better to stay together or divorce in your opinion? any experiences you've had like this?

I say it is.She has no business talking with my son after he graduates because she's MARRIED.It's not right for my son to keep in contact with this MARRIED woman because it's wrong.She's MARRIED so it's wrong for my son to talk with this MARRIED woman after he graduates.This is not normal for a MARRIED teacher to want to keep in contact with a student of the opposite gender.It's not right for a MARRIED person to keep in contact with a student of the opposite gender.I mean they talked about non school stuff often and it's wrong for her to want to keep in contact with my son anyway because she has talked with my son about non school stuff often and the fact that she's MARRIED.She said that she will use her personal email and her school email to keep in contact with my son after graduation.That's wrong because if she is using her personal email,it means that she is breaking the moral code and it's just so wrong in general. If she contacts my son on her school email,it's also wrong because I sure the school will fire her when the administration looks at her emails and finds out that she is chatting with my son about non school/academic stuff,especially since my son is no longer going to be in school,she will get fired.My son is 18 and he has a girlfriend who's 17 and she's 25.Can teachers get fired for talking about non school/academic stuff with their school emails?Is it a sin against god for MARRIED people to have friends of the opposite gender?

This guy and I met about a week ago and it was all flirty and cute. After I send him a picture of myself ( regular picture, not naked or anything like that) he started to act different. He's now suggesting road trips, lunch and dating... We met through an online app for flirting. He also told me that he's shy and talks about his parents, dreams and the whole nine yards. I text him and he writes way too much and wants to know if he can call me to hear my voice. I do not want to date him,I just want fun because I just got out of a long relationship. What do I do?

Having relations with someone else is it right to shoot at your spouse and beat the crap out of the person especially if they are doing it in your house?

What is your stand on sex, before or after marriage?

I've been talking to a guy for a while now online, alomost for a year. he speaks to me using mic sometimes, and so he asked me to do so too. the thing is im shy, i refused so he got kind of pissed off.. he even asked if i could speak for just 3 mins.. but i still couldn't get my self to do so? i dont know what to do? was i wrong to refuse?

Hello all just needed some advice. Me and my fiance are getting married in 3 weeks (so excited :D) we get his 5 yr old son every other week during the summer. We will have him during the wedding thats not the issue. The issue is this: BM is very high conflict and manipulative and tries to ruin our lives every chance she gets. I just KNOW she has something planned to ruin our big day. And I think I know what that might be: BM has full medical rights and has spent the last year or so taking son to doctors constantly having him poked and prodded, painful ivs, testing, all that just because hes short. Trying to say "oh poor me look at what I have to go through" yeah right...anyways what I think she has planned is to schedule a dr appointment the day of the wedding (which is during the week). And all that testing takes like 2-3 hours. If she tries to pull this, is there anything we can do? Can fiance call dr and let him knoe son wont be there? What can we do in that scenario?

What does it take to become a cougar . Plus she wears skinny jeans and wears a hat all the time. Is this what younger men like?

I have filed for a divorce because my husband is abusive, before filing for the divorce I got an Injuction for protection. In the injuction I was granted possession of the home..because I have the 4 children.. Now his lawyer has filed a Partition of the property...Is this legal?

If my son gets married, what is his wife's mother to me?

My husband and I have been married for five years. Over the past three years we've had two kids. I haven't been away from my kids for longer than a day for all their life. My husband got us tickets to go on a weeklong cruise for just me and him. There's a huge part of me that's not only excited for the cruise but for it to be just me and him again. Another part of me is very worried about leaving my kids that long. His mom is watching them so I know they'll be fine, but there's something that makes me feel uncomfortable being away from them for so long. I know I'm being irrational and I don't want to worry about my kids on my cruise with my husband. How can I not worry about them and just relax on the cruise? The cruise is in a week BTW

Okay so a few years ago my mom got my last name changed, and now I'm having difficulties getting my I.D. My birth certificate says my new name, my social security card says my old name. The problem is I can't get my social security card because me or anyone in my family doesn't have any proof stating the name change. We've been many places trying to find the documents but none can be found. There are divorce records for my parents, at the beginning of the records I have my original name but at the end of the records I have my new name, Which is weird because the name change happened before the divorce.

Is it wrong to be engaged to get married after you have just been together for 4 months? Me and her have been best friends for 7 years and I truly think she is the one. I have been in love with her for the 5 years of our friendship. I'm 29 and she is 22 btw

I've been dating this guy , he's friends with his baby mama in Facebook, they share a son who is a year old . so to make it clear I posted sexy photos of myself on FB , tagging him saying how much I love him. She made a comment saying he loves you too and can't wait to make you his wife. I have three kids and this man is financially stable and has promised to look after me and my kids. Few days ago I commented on his photo saying how sexy he was looking. And he deleted and blocked me from Facebook. What did I do wrong ?

I think so. My s/o and I are planning on getting a place together. Those statistics people mention don't apply to everyone. Just a little update, it's okay to have an opinion but don't go attacking people because their views differ from yours.

I'm 15 years old and my parents have been fighting a lot for the past few weeks. It seems like they're always mad at each other and today my dad flipped out and started rambling about how my mom brought up divorce. I'm not as worried about that as I am about who I'd live with. Honestly if they got divorced I don't think I'd want to live with either of them. I just don't know what to think and if I'm forced to live somewhere I really don't want to, I'm sure I won't be half as successful at what I want/like to do. Thanks in advance. -.- I meant live with another family member if I chose not to.

I recently got married and graduated from undergrad. I have a job lined up on the east coast paying about 67k/year, and just got married. I currently use US Bank and my wife uses Wells Fargo. Which is best for our new joint account? We both have good credit scores and no debt.

Her husband is also legally blind. He is leaving her for another woman. She is destitute. She is going to try and apply for Medicaid and SSI. He has VA benefits but is telling her she will get none of his VA benefits. Are there any legal resources she can turn to for help?

This guy's parents divorced when he was 6 and I heard that this means his chances of being a divorcee later are higher. Is that true? (We're dating)

When I go to the SSA website, it says I can submit my marriage license that shows my new legal name. Being that I chose not to take his name back when we got married, my license doesn't have that "new legal name" they are looking for. So what should be my first step? How do I obtain a new legal name?

Even though I am divorced from my wife, we are on friendly terms. I am also friends with her mother who lives alone. Our marriage did not work out but the friendship remained with both my ex wife and her mother. He mother has called me several times to help her with problems with her house or her car and I have always went to help her when she called me. However I never told my ex wife about this as I did not want to cause her any problems with her mother. My ex wife has also called asking for help several times and I always help her when she asked. For example, her computer stopped working and she wanted help getting her email. I fixed her computer. She could not get her car started one time and I took her to work, fixed her car and brought her home from work. Recently she asked for help with her filling out the forms for her income taxes. Some of her friends have asked me to stop helping her. They tell me she will never be able to learn to live on her on and get on with her life if I keep helping her. I would find it very hard to turn down anyone that asked for my help when I know I can help them. However I want the very best future for her and I don't want to cause her any future problems. Please give me some advice on what I should do in the future if she asks for help.

I filed with the county clerk last week and they didn't give me a copy of the petition to serve to my spouse and I didn't ask for them to serve him either, do I need to go back and obtain one?

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years since March 2013, and he recently joined the airforce. He went to basic training at the beginning of February and is now in tech school. He will be graduating from tech school in September. I will be starting college in August for my freshman year. He's 19 and I'm 18. We have been thinking about getting married. We have to get married in order to live with each other because it is a military rule. Any advice would be helpful about military relationships.

Going through a lot with my husband right now we are trying to get over the last time he got "depressed" and he stepped out of our marriage and cheated for almost two years. He apologized and we are trying to make it work but since he told me he cheated I'm always doing something wrong. I'm not trusting him fast enough I'm not helping HIM heal fast enough. That all I do is make it about me. He will start attacking me saying all kinds of things about me and if I defend myself his comments are always the same "Always make it about you! Everything has to be about you, you, you!" He makes everything impossible and I don't know what to do anymore. He's either on a rage with me or he's telling me he's depressed and no one is willing to help him. Anyone who's ever given him advice including his friends he just ends up pissed off at them later too and gets mad at me for their "bad" advice too. He doesn't tell me what they say just basically says they lecture him. He will get into a fight with me and get upset and he will say something suicidal and turn off his phone and take off. Or like today he will make horrible comments like " i hope I die in the car today" it really kills me when he says things like this to me. My family was just in a car accident so I try to be on good terms with him before he goes anywhere I say I love you and I put everything aside and he just says "screw your I love you" "You don't love me you're just here for the kids" I'm trying so hard. Not denying him I offer him sex all the time and most of the time he turns me down for one reason or another I even tried to set a goal for us to "try" to have sex at least 5 days a week but it never happens. If he goes to long without being with me I offer him oral sex and not having to be with me in return.. I'm trying to please him but apparently nothing I do is right and I don't know how to help him. Sometimes when I talk of counseling he will agree to go but other times he fights the idea. I think right now he agrees because he knows without any insurance we couldn't get any counseling for free so we would have to pay for it so he will say yes. But I am really considering looking for someone and making some kind of payment plan because between his anger and suicide threats I can't take this anymore. He's put me through so much and I'm trying everything I can to try to mend this but he is just making me feel like I will never be good enough. Not good enough to love or live for

I don't want to be looked at all the time like some sex object. They must really like my body because they follow me with their eyes. I think Im smart, so why don't they treat me better?

He cant raise someone else's kid. We have a 1 year old together and he said he is only going to be a parent to her. I am so broken hearted and don't understand. He is 23 I am 28 and my daughter is 8. Can their be more to this? Is he scared to be attracted to her once she grows? Or is it just a difficult situation at our ages? Can he feel different with time as he matures? I am not sure how to take this. PLEASE ADVISE, I AM THINKING THE WORSE AND DONT WANT TO. ANY STEP PARENTS OUT THERE, HELP!

I am 28 and my husband is 23. We been married 2 years. We have a 1 year old baby and he is the stepfather to my 8 year old daughter. I Caught my husband watching Porn when I was pregnant(child now 1yr old) this really hurts and makes me feel betrayed, specially when he does not tell me he is having lusting issues and I have to catch him.(He has done it multiple times after) He does not understand how it makes me feel as his wife. I know men battle with temptation since back in biblical times.I want to learn how to understand him and not be so darn controlling as far as what he watches, but I don't want him to believe this behavior is acceptable.I want to trust him and rekindle our trust and love.He demand I change or we aren't going to workout, but puts no efforts to reassure his love.When we speak to each other he never makes eyes contact with me, but when he speaks to other females he stares into their eyes,makes me feel less than and disrespected.Him neglecting and ignoring me lately,except for sex does not help me any.Makes me feel used,unloved and insecure.(He is like a vampire, does not see his reflection in the mirror)I feel he has ADD but refuses to get checked.Another thing is, he has recently told me that he cant see my 8 yr old daughter as his own, as its someone else's kid.My mind is thinking the worse;Is it the age difference, is he scared to be attracted to her once she is older? Or is it actually hard for a STEPFATHER to raise a daughter being around this age?

Like when a mother alienates her kids from their father after a divorce. Not counting cased where physical violence is a risk.

If we get divorced, would I fall under the 20-20-20 program and keep my benefits? He enlisted 3- 19 -1985 and retired 3-31-2005. We were married 6-23-1993.

Right now we have a one year old daughter and we both work. It is a haste trying to get her to day care or a sitter while getting ready for work. My husband told me he's been thinking a lot about being a stay at home dad. It would make everything so much easier. He said he doesn't like that our daughter is at day care ecentialy with strangers all day and I have to agree. I asked if when she's school age if he wants to go back to work and he said no he still wants to stay home even if we don't have more children (he wants a lot of children and I'm not so sure, he is a lot more maternal than I am, I'm so awkward with kids). It wouldn't hurt us financially because I make most of the moeny and have better benefits. Is it strange for a man to be a stay at home dad? Is that more common now? Our neighbors are gay and one of them is a stay at home dad, but is that is different because they are gay?

He gets the weekend off and ge complains how it takes him a whole day to clean the house ..but When i used to work 5 days a week i would always cook clean and basically pick after his **** and now when its the other way around he hates it does he no appreciate me ???