Hi I'm worried about my husband's behavior. When we first started dating he was all over me and he brought up the subject of sex and intimacy all the time. But little by little he stopped wanting sex as much as he did in the beginning. I thought he didn't like me anymore but he said he does and he even proposed to me. Now we've been married for almost 2 years and he NEVER talks about intimate things or starts sex with me. I always have to take the first step and when I bring up the subject he doesn't seem interested. for example I send him a text saying: "you're sexy" and he takes a long time to reply. Or I send him a sexy picture of me and he also stays quiet or only says "wow" when the purpose is to turn him on. I feel hurt sometimes and I don't know how to behave anymore. The last two times we had sex he had erection problems and had a hard time making love to me. But even before thise problems I've always been the one that initiates sex. I'm starting to feel unloved and I had tried to talk with him and he doesn't even communicate with me!! Its frustrating because I want to know why he suddenly changed like this. So there's no way I can find out what's going on if he never tells me. He says he loves me but doesn't show it.He doesn't trust me and open up. He's a great husband and treats me well, but he's not into sex and if it continues it could damage our marriage. What can I do to resolve this issue and for my husband to open up and tell me what's going on?

Just recently back in Jan of this year I found out that he has been cheating on me with a much younger girl for almost 2 yrs now. Upon, finding out I was devestated. I kicked him out. He begged and begged for me to give him a chance and go to theraphy. So being the kind hearted and naive person I am I gave in for the sake of our daughter. That was a mistake. I tried and tried to get past it. It's impossible. Especially, that he wasn't making as much of an effort as I needed him to. I felt very broken and alone and made a horrible mistake of hooking up with a very close friend of mine. I felt horrible afterwards. I was exactly like him. I couldn't keep it in so I told him and asked for a divorce because deep down I know it will NEVER work. After, asking for a divorce he attempted suicide. He is back home from the hospital. We aren't speaking nor have I spoken about the incident. It scared me incredibly and I literally don't know what I'm supposed to do. I'm scared he'll hurt himself if I leave but, I don't want our child growing up in a bad environment filled with arguements and unhappiness. My child is my priority but, I still care for my husband.

I'm 22 years old, and while I am a year short of my MBA(THANK GOD) I want nothing more than to become a housewife. When I say housewife, I mean trophy wife- I don't really want kids, nor do I want to clean the home(even though sometimes it's a stress reliever). Why do I feel this way? It's not like I am uneducated, and looking for an easy way out. I was brought up with great work ethic from my amazing parents. But all of my life undeniably I've been materialistic- I got my nose, ears and lips done. But at the same time I can sit down and become friends with just about anyone- I am not stuck up. Generally when you think of a trophy wife you think of a stuck up, snobby woman- that is not me, I love all people. SO why do I want to become a trophy wife? Anyone else want the same?

I thought this article is interesting. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/28/link-between-mens-height-divorce-_n_5731688.html Short guys tend to marry later in life while tall guys marry early. Is this true?

Have you & your husband/wife ever had such a big argument that for a split second you asked yourself "why did I marry this person?" Or "I want a divorce" Even if you had no intention of divorce & loved them very deeply. Has there ever been like a big fight that made you think that way even for a split second?

I've invested my money and have been more than generous with him. When he's paid whether by check or cash. He's withdrawn the money he gave me. Before I did. I brought it up what he'd been doing. Now he's doing odd jobs and being paid cash. How much??  Last night he gave me $40. Today He told me he was paid $140. I spent $20 on fuel and $ 20 on my Visa.  He has new mud flaps for his truck.And $20 left in his pocket.  This is not right. not to mention his mother pays his bills. I pay mine. How am I suppose to be ok with this. As I see it he's looking out for himself. Is this a control issue. Wanting a reality check here. Thank you

I allowed my friend and my husband to go hiking because her marriage was rocky and her husband injured his foot. Behind my back, they were talking about a lot of things including whether my husband was truly happy with me(this is our 2nd try to work it out). Their first hiking trip was fine but after theirsecond trip and next get together, my husband and I started fighting more. I later on asked my friend what she was doing with my husband and she told me that she knew all along that my husband hasn't been happy. Was as a friend suppose to tell me about my marital situation especially after she stuck her nose in it? Anyway, it got better. After The 3rd get together that my friend and husband had, he pretty much said that it is over. We worked onthat and we decided to stick together. My friend had acted weird around my husband the last time she was around. She was pretty much distant towards him. I pretty much had to let her go because I had a feeling an emotional affair could have further developed. So, at this point she's an exfriend. What do you think?

My husband and I have been married for a little over 2 years. He has talked to other chicks several times out of the way and i have forgiven him. He just recently confessed that he cheated 3 years ago while out of town working. I am so hurt and disappointed. We have a three and a half year old son. I want to believe that he is really sorry like he says, but he has done things so many time. Any helpful advise or words of wisdom is welcome.

Hey there everyone, thanks in advance for any advice! Let me start off by saying that I am recently married, almost two months. We got married quick, after 3 months of dating... Please no "we are rushing into it" or anything. But we are very happily married. We met through an online dating site and instantly had a connection unlike any I've ever had. A few months before I was married and my wife ended up cheating on me after 8 years of marriage. My wife is still friends with several of her male friends,several of whom she openly admits that flirt but are "harmless".This instantly got under my skin, and I let her know right away that I wasn't a fan of her speaking with other men if we were to be in a committed relationship and I'm unaware about it and she understood. She would still periodicly Facebook message some, even some that she had had a previous relationship with but wasn't "serious". I understand part of my jealousy and anxiety stems from being cheated on, especially since my ex-wife got close to the person through Facebook. Its sort of a classic case of I trust my wife I just don't trust other guys. Also, she used to party quite a bit when she was younger and I never did. She will bring up a time she got high or just hammered and laugh and I just sit there uncomfortable.I love my wife very much, that's why I don't like bringing up these things to her cause I feel like I'm worried over nothing. Do I bring it up again if over already told her before, or just let it go

My wife and I are currently going to counseling to work on some issues we're having at the moment. One issue she brought up is that we aren't having sex that much anymore. My wife feels that I should do the majority of the initiating even though she complains that we're not doing anything she still feels that she shouldn't have to initiate. She has the mindset that all men want sex all the time so she doesn't need to do anything. Well, the counselor gave us a homework assignment to go home and have sex. We did like 4 weeks ago. The next week I caught a bad cold and wasn't in the mood then my wife caught bronchitis and wasn't in the mood. She's been healthy for a few weeks now. The other night I snuggled up to her trying to have sex again and she turned me down. She just wanted me to hold her. BS!!!!! On one hand you're complaining that we're not doing it enough but on the other when I try she turns me down. And she wonders why I don't try as much anymore. Am I wrong to think she's sending mixed signals?

we'd been together for 5 years and yesterday she said she couldn't do it anymore, said she had enough. we had ours problems , we basically fought about the same things, commitment(marriage). i loved her so much but i wasn't ready for marriage. i couldn't lie to her and say i was that's just now me , and i wasn't gonna push myself in something i wasn't ready for. i always told her i wanted to spend the rest of my life with her but that wasn't enough . i was always good to her i treated her right i did everything to keep her except marriage. when she said bye it tore me apart, i wanted to die somewhere. it really hurts. i just want her to come back

That's what they said on Fox News regarding solution to all time low marriage rates What do you think agree or disagree

I have constant thoughts of cheating on my spouse. I'm not getting what I physically need at home so my mind begins to wander and I start thinking about the what if's. I would never break my marriage vows since I made them in front of God and my family. But I want to know how do I shake the thoughts? I have tried to discuss the problems we have with my spouse, but nothing ever gets resolved for more than two days. Please don't judge. Seriously looking for help.

My ex and I were together a total of 6 years. 3 of which we were married. The marriage ended badly. It was a long distance relationship. I'm pretty sure (not positive) that he was seeing someone else that last year of marriage. We have been divorced about a year now and I'm traveling for work. I have tried to contact him via phone 1-3 times each month since our divorce in August of 2014. I plan to be home the beginning of December 2015, and would like to see him. I doubt he would pick up the phone to agree with a meeting, hence the surprise visit. I do believe he is seeing someone else. Bad idea?

Looking answers from men only. How do you married men do this?

I eat healthy, exercise and have a decent professional job. Two of my kids are grown and out of the house. My last one at home is 14. I was married for 18 years and been divorced for five years.Where do I find middle age single men who are interested in a long term relationship? Do men avoid dating single moms? Are all of the good ones taken? I am not a bar person and online dating scares me. Do I have a chance of ever finding lasting love or getting remarried? It feels hopeless.

I'm 21 years old, he is 24 years old. Every time, I go to bed, and go too sleep. He has too come into the room and wake me up. Or let's say in the morning, he I am fast asleep. He gets up and go for work. He always has too say, babe I'm away now. Or turns on the light or something. Why!!!!!! Or for example, I go too bed early, and I tell him, don't wake me up. But he always wakes me up. With emma, emma, emma. Or he laughs really loud. It's like he has no respect for me at all. Why does he keep on doing this? Is this even normal. When someone is sleeping, why wake them up....

We have been together for 6 years and currently have a 6 yr old and a 2 yr old. However, throughout these 6 years, his longest time keeping a job is one year. He just works and the moment he doesn t like something, he just quits and stays home for a month and a half and then looks for another job. I know i sound as if i don t want to work either but we had a deal that I would finish my bachelors and be a fulltime mom, and he ll do all the working. Now he s been unemployed for a month and I see no intentions for him to start finding another job...I don t know what to do! I m soon to graduate and start working, but i m afraid that he s just gonna depend on me! What should I do?

He is a momma's boy. So of course he called his own mom and wished her a happy mothers day. But when I was talking to my mom he never mentioned a thing. Also he never text her or anything. I wished HIS mother a happy mothers day. Is it something most people/husbands do?

Me and my husbands 1 year anniversary is next week and I was wanting to do something special for him. Something romantic. Any ideas? We are going out of town and have a nice hotel (:

I do not disagree it is when you are selfishly taking away from a romantic sexual relationship. But what about when a guy has a habit of managing work-related stress (performance evaluations, stressful work presentations, dealing with stressful client situations), by using masturbation strictly as a stress-coping mechanism And as a man wants to show his spouse that he is strong and confident by not exposing his level of actual stress...by coping with it through masturbating more frequently during certain stressful times of the year... Is this a form of cheating? Or is this a cop out? Perhaps this is like potty training for adults? A child who is stressed will find it harder to go to the bathroom when adjusting to being used to being able to go wherever whenever? Same learning mechanism here? Edit: If you inform spouse that you are stressed and sex will reduce that sex and your spouse that particular day says "I understand how you feel. However, today I am not in the mood for sex. Tomorrow perhaps?" And you are at a point where you know getting it out will release needed tension, is the guy then forced to fight the urge and fight the urge at all costs? I draw the line at this. Masturbation induced by porn is wrong. Masturbation when partner is open to sex is selfish and wrong. Masturbation that compromises sex is wrong. Masturbation to release stress I do not know is wrong if the urge to begin masturbating is not lust-driven, but purely stress-driven. If there is something that day that is fight or flight going on with your life ...losing job...bankruptcy...loss of a loved one ..... The very stress that should I feel an urge to masturbate when it is unacceptable, can trigger stress in itself to feel the need to masturbate. And then the use of masturbation to release THIS stress being forbidden creates a perpetuating and viciously uncomfortable cycle To the poster who said that it is emotionally cheating to masturbate: You also specified it is the role of the female to ease the stress of the spouse by engaging in sexually. That raises an obvious point that you are not of the school of thought that married women are "free" not to agree to sex as a condition of marriage. Looks like traditional marriages were based on gender roles and intolerance to solo masturbation...psych supports more tolerance in marriage and debunking of old gender roles

I woke up this morning to my husband cussing and screaming because his ride to work bailed on him at the last minute. We don't have a car at the moment. The girl next door has told her boyfriend and made comments to other neighbors she wants to sleep with my husband so bad and would do anything to get in his pants. She has a car and he told me he was going over there and getting a ride with her even though he knows that's not acceptable. I told him if he went over there at all he didn't need to come back. And he said he will just pack his stuff load it up in her car and leave. I'm not even allowed to talk to guys at all. And it's okay for him to say things like that to me because of something that isn't my fault? Plus he knows I could call my parents to give him a ride to work if need be. What do you guys think about this situation? I want to show him how this really feels. What should I do to him?

It's been hard but we got through two semesters and we're getting ready to wrap up our spring semester with a 3.0 gpa (pretty good with caring for a newborn). Well now because classes we have to take are not available online my mother in-law has agreed to come move out to where we're at and have us all get a place together and she will care for our little girl while my husband and I go to campus for classes a couple times a week. The problem though is she views the house as her own even though we will be splitting the bills and rent 50/50 and is making these rules such as no alcohol (because she is christian but my husband and I don't identify as that) or no people over just because that's how she feels things should be. As far as the lease goes it will be in her name but as I said we will be paying money to her. What rights do we have and what rules can she impose on us? We're both over 21 so it's not like we're minors. It's frustrating for my husband and myself because the rent where we're at now is going up and this would be a great opportunity to save money and have someone trustworthy to watch our daughter. Not to mention us finishing college and having a chance at a good career will be what's best for our daughter in the long run. We have only two years left but the thought of living with her seems like an eternity. I can bite my tongue though but would like some thoughts as to what can be done. Sorry for the length but anything would be helpful.

My ex and i were together for 12yrs.after years of drug use and an a affair i filed for divorce. We divorced in Nov 2014 & have remained in communication. He started working on his soberiety and recently hit his 60 day mark, we have taken 2 trips together and really connected on them. In feb of this year, while he was still on the drugs, my mom had a stroke and ling story short they messed up her ct and she lost use of her left arm and was sent home w norco for pain. My ex husband came by my house (i was taking my mom her meds every 4 hourd so she didnt take to many) & he took abd sold them, she prosecuted and thats done. However, because of this and hid other wrong doings whike on drugs they hate him ( my father has threatened him w a gun and had police out when he was getting some of his items from here) also tonight i went through his phone and he has been cont his communication w the same girl he had the afair w and asking her to go in dates and vacations that we planned on taking together this coming up summer. I didnt want our divorce but i knew it was best as things were so bad between us. I feel so stuck as my father bought my house for me and is living w me to get it fixed up and helping me financially as i look for a new job. I love my husband and hes taken great strides in his soberiety to get my son and i back, and says he wants us back but im torn w learning his mistress is still in the pic and the lies and my family not even allowing me to mention his name...

My wife Susan ran off with my brother Hiram he's a heavy drug user and he may have her on some I love her with all of my heart but he's very persuasive and she's easily led

I can't help but be super curious about sleeping with another female even a threesome but if my husband new this is something I've always wanted to he'd flip out What the right thing to do just ignore this stupid fantasy or mention it to my husband ?

My sexual relationship with my husband went from OK to incredible ever since all our kids moved out. We make love as much as we did when we were newlywed and with a quality we've never had. Is it common for sex to improve when your kids move out? Why is that?

I've been married for 23 years and I've had the same wedding ring my whole life. My husband bought it for me when we were both kids and neither of us had a lot of money. I could have gotten another ring if I wanted to, especially when my husband and I started making more money, but I never did because the effort my husband put into getting that ring meant a lot to me. Now I've lost it. I've looked everywhere for it (and I mean everywhere). I can't find it. I've resigned myself that I may not find it. I feel atrocious. That ring means so much to me and it's gone. I know it's only a symbol, but every time I looked at it I remembered how much my husband loves me. How can I feel OK about loosing my wedding ring even though it's a big deal to me?

Big debate need help!?