We've been happily married for 14 years. But our wedding was in short a disaster. We've been thinking about having a marriage blessing for our 15th wedding anniversary. The only people in attendance would be our kids.

In November 2014, I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant. My bf and I decided to get engaged right away (we were going to get engaged a month later anyways, but just didn't expect to be pregnant). Then we realized that my insurance did not cover prenatal doctor appointments. So we got our marriage license and then got married by a pastor that we knew, who officiated our license in January 2015 so that we can receive our marriage certificate (this was required by my husband's insurance company so that I may be added under his account). The pastor did not have us say our vows though. We figured we will have a real wedding in the future where we can say our vows, after our baby is born in July 2015. Now that I am starting to plan my wedding (wedding date will be March 2016), I am realizing that it is much more uncommon that I thought to already be legally married and still have a wedding afterwards. Has anyone else been in a similar situation or know somebody who has? What are your thoughts on this? I wonder if it was a mistake to get our marriage certificate so soon and that maybe we should have just waited till our real wedding with family/friends. But then if we did wait, I would not get benefits for my ob/gyn appointments and it would have been much more expensive.

My fiance and I are meeting our photographer next month at Los Rios Rancho, but I think I remember now that their hiking trail had a sign saying no photograph sessions there, does anyone know about this? Also, is there anywhere else near Los Rios Rancho that has really nice scenery, buildings, roads, etc?? Thank you!!

During an argument my fiancé said "I wanted to get married to you because I wanted kids and you can't have kids without a wife." This made me speechless. All this time we knew each other, he was so charming and in the heat of the moment he said this--this objectifying statement. Is this truth or anger? He apologized afterwards but I am very afraid of his thought process... When he is angry (when I disagree with him) he says things like: "Whatever. I'm done." "I'm afraid to have kids with you. You're mentally immature for marriage." "You can take your ego elsewhere I can find someone else to love me." (When I didn't call him because he said something rude. He got upset I didn't call him bc he felt ignored). "You're messed up." "You're batshit crazy." "You know you're stupid right?" After these statements he hangs up and says "I love you so much. Put water on the fire--don't defend yourself, just apologize." And "Promise you won't leave me? Do you still love me? I'm a broken man." And "I got you a gift." Is this an abuse cycle? Anger then regret then love. This behavior has happened thrice, before marriage.

My fiance and I are getting married in August. We decided to get eachother a wedding ring as our gift to eachother. He bought mine already. He told me he wants plain white gold ring, but he's not sure what size (how wide) He is tall 6'3, 180lbs, and size 12 shoe (so you know about his size as a person). How wide do most men prefer their wedding band?

Now on your honeymoon, did you actually go out and do things or were you more confined to your hotel? He wants to drive up to Toronto and go to the Hockey HOF. Doesn't sound very romantic to me though?

So, I have six groomsmen in my wedding and I want to give them gifts just like the bridesmaids. Just as a thank you from my fiancé and I. But there are so many I can't really afford anything too expensive. I just want the gifts to be thoughtful but not cheap. Any ideas help! Thank you :)

My coworker asked me to be her plus one for a wedding that she is a bridesmaid in. I do not know the bride or groom or any other guests, but my coworker is very close with all of them. I agreed to go because it sounded really fun, and we've been planning our whole weekend together. She's excited for me to come. The problem is, the wedding is on memorial day weekend. My grandfather died earlier this year and I just found out that my grandmother would like to spread his ashes on memorial day because he was a veteran. The wedding is in upstate NY but my grandmother lives in Maryland so it would be a ton of driving for one weekend and I know I have to be there for the spreading of his ashes but I feel bad for having to cancel on my friend and tell her I can't go to the wedding with her now. Help?

I could purchase a nice vehicle for that kind of coin. I want to know where the majority of that money goes.

When we first started planning our wedding, my fiance's best man promised to throw him a really great bachelor party. They discussed a few plans. A few months later, the best man started having serious health problems, to the point where we weren't sure if he could still be in the wedding. A month ago, my matron of honor threw me a bridal shower dance, which involved women and men. I had my shower while the men hung out at the bar and then it combined for the dance. None of his friends showed up. Our wedding is in four days. Over the weekend, he voiced that he was upset that he didn't get to have a bachelor party. (He wanted the whole stripper thing). That was one thing he looked forward to about getting married (aside from marrying me, nice save right?). But because of his best man's health issues, and nobody else stepping up to the plate to throw him a party, he became a little depressed about it. The shower dance was more for me than him, but it was still for him. I feel bad that he got jipped on this right of passage thing, but I also don't want it to cloud how he feels about being happy about everything else. I told him we could throw him a father to be party after we start having kids to make up for not having a bachelor party, sans stripper and that seemed to make him a little happier. I just don't want him to be upset about something he couldn't help.

My fiancé and I recently got engaged and we've been together for over 2 years. His parents are telling him it was rushed/making him feel bad/and making him stressed about it... Is there anything we can do to make them stop? It's hurting both of us...

I'm a bride on a very strict budget. I'll admit that I'm a frugal/tight wad/cheapskate. I went to a bridal store yesterday, and young lady bought a $17,000 dress. That nearly made me sick. I couldn't imagine spending any hard earned money on just one dress, to wear one day out of my life. I know it's not my money, but dang that was money that could be used for better things, like paying down debts. Oh well, I guess I will never understand.

When I got engaged, she had a hard time being excited for me and she never let me talk about my fiance, the wedding or anything related to it. She was very jealous because she was single and I'm not just assuming this. She was always sad about not having a boyfriend. Now she is engaged and won't stop talking about it. I literally cannot talk to her without her bringing up her engagement, wedding, fiance etc. And it has been weeks! She also has flooded social media sites with everything. Is it wrong for me to have a hard time feeling happy for her? Is it wrong for me to feel annoyed? How can I feel happier for her?

A little background: my wedding is in four days. The deadline for rsvp's was April 3rd. Last week, a cousin on my fiance's side asked, through Facebook, if she could still come. She lost the invitation or something. I said fine. Yesterday, I got an rsvp in the mail from another of his cousins saying they accept. With this, that adds five extra people. 131 people actually rsvpd to the wedding, but we expect 150 people. No big deal, I guess. But it's still irritating. Today, one of my bridesmaids, who is my fiance's sister (I'm sensing a common theme from his side of the family) asked if it was alright if one of her friends stopped by at the reception. She said it would be after the dinner, later in the evening. I am not friends with her friend, in fact I'm not a big fan of her. My fiance and I were invited to this person's wedding last year, but didn't go because it was through text through my sol, two days before the wedding. We already had plans to go to a casino with my family for father's day. My sol ever so kindly reminded me of that, so now I feel a little obligated to let her friend stop by for a while. My first instinct was to say no, but since this friend isn't taking a meal from somebody who was actually invited, I guess it doesn't hurt. I do have a problem saying no to people, and I do not want my sol to be mad at me for not letting her friend come by. She isn't very good at seeing issues other peoples way, as she only views her opinion as right. So now what?

the 1st thing i told her was that i would waste no more than 5 thousands dollars on the wedding and she got extremely mad saying i was crazy and that would not be enough her dad basically made me add another 5 thousand to our wedding budget and he also wrote a check for 5 thousands dollars she wants professional everything waiters photographer limbo she wants a live chef cooking she also wants at least two musical groups(not like the famous kind) yesterday i told her i really dont have so much money to spend on the wedding and all the guests so i told her if i could cut out her grandparents,some cousins, and some of her friends from the list she absolutely lost it saying how could i say such a thing especially since i mentioned her grandparents i just told her you never talk to them anyway is she overreacting? i wanted to have the wedding in the city where i grew up because having it in los angeles is suicide

I am a 24 yr old guy in love with a beautiful 26 yr old woman. She works as an air hostess. We have been dating for 6 months and I worship her. Her parents are worried about her marriage and are hesitating to wait. My parents are ok with it too but I am not well established in my career. I have plans to do my MBA as well. But I love her more than anything in the world. I am sure that I want to get married to her one day and no one else, Is it ok to get married now at my age?

I am looking for a beautiful venue that allows you to bring your own alcohol in the LA area (not the LA River Gardens) or OC area (Seal Beach/Huntington Beach). *please note I am not looking for "BYO with corkage" fee as that refers to wine.

My brother just got engaged in over the moon excited & happy for him!! I love his fiancé! Lots been under a week, the first time I saw them (day after engagement) they were talking about ideas, dates, bridal party, etc. she named her bridesmaids, & he named his groom man. She laughted & said an official "asking" will come later. But since she has talked to me about plans. They also named my children & husband in their wedding party. I thought about contacting her sisters & throwing a small just family engament party. Everyone pay for their own meals at a restaurant & we all pitch for theirs as a suprise. She's 1 of 5 children. So about 20 people siblings, parents grandparents. Thoughts??

We are employed in the medical (PA & NP), and we earn decent salaries. People are expecting an open bar, and dancing all night long. But this is not what we're doing at all. Our wedding is in the morning. We aren't having any alcohol or dancing, because we're getting married in our church. Would you expect an OTT wedding?

So I bought my gf of four years an engagement ring this weekend and it is an i1 with over a carat. The inclusion is not able to be seen by the naked eye and is quite minimal under a microscope. Due to the inclusion I did get this at a steal for only 4k. I welcome any thoughts. Just trying to figure out if I got screwed lol but I don't think I did based off my pricing over the past six months.

I read that you can have a bachelorette party outside of the state that you're in and you can go to a fun destination... Except I'm not really sure how that would work. Would each individual girl pay for their own and I pay for the bride or would it be I pay for everyone? And is there anyway to get cheaper flights for a group? Basically, I'm just looking for the most efficient way to go about this! Thank you!

I want to combine a fire and wind theme at my wedding. I'm a fielement and my fiance is wind so I thought it would be great to somehow incorporate that into it. I get that I can use candles to represent fire but what about wind? Is there anything else to represent fire? What about maybe in the "cocktail hour"? please help! :)

I want to propose to my wife again because the first time I proposed I was young and didn't have the money to get her this grand proposal that she deserved. Now that I have the money I want to propose to her with a new ring and in a more romantic fashion than it was the first time. So my question is do you think it will be lame or romantic to propose to her again?

Of course I would love to have one to wear at certain events where my security was ensured. But would you feel comfortable wearing a ring that expensive everywhere you go?

I know about some of the questions some of you won't feel comfortable asking but nothing to lose! 1. What was your wedding budget and how many people did you invite? 2. How many were in your wedding party (bridesmaid & grooms men) 3. What are the most important things you absolutely need apart from the food and venue? 4. About how much was your dress? 5. Who pays for the bridesmaid dresses and tuxs? 6. What drinks did you serve? (Including alcohol and non alcohol) 7. Did you have kids? 8. Do you have to get a package on the venue or just get the venue itself? (If that's possible) 9. Did you have a wedding planner? If so, about how much do they charge? 10. What season did you get married in? 11. Does diy invitations/save the dates ie. Look to cheap? 12. Do artificial flower bouquets for bridesmaid look trashy? Do they even have bouquets? 13. do you think its wrong if I have flower girls and someone to hold my train on the aisle and not be allowed at the reception? (I'm not having anyone under 18) 14. What do you think my fiance and I can do if we can't decide which church to get married in? He doesn't belong to one but it do and that's the one I wanna get married in since my parents married in that one. He wants to get married in the church where his grandfather's funeral was at (I think it's stupid because he never even met him he died way before he was born!) Sorry it's long!

I was married a few weeks ago and as a present to me my husband revealed that years ago after he lost his job he had a lot of free time on his hands and he wanted to write to his future spouse. Basically like what marriage meant to him and how much he knew he would love me some day. Some days he included movies he wanted to watch with me, articles on marriage, love poems etc. He said he made the crazy promise that he would always send something once a day until he found me and he always did. he sais he hoped it would represent his undying love for me and that he never gave up looking for me. He also had friends that had been married and divorced and he realized that in writing to me how important I was and that if he ever were to forget or if we ever hit a rough patch this would remind me what its really all about. I was very shocked and happy that he did this. I was just curious if any other husbands had done this for their wife and even if not how would you feel?

Hi, I am an Indian bride to be, all set to get married after 4 months but I am very anxious about certain things related to Sex so please help 1) I have been playing a lot of sports which is why Immight have already popped my hymen. How would he react if I don't bleed the first time he has Sex with me. Should I get a hymen repair ? 2) I have actually never had Sex before so I have no idea how would it be and what if he finds me to be bad in bed or on the contrary what if he turns out to be bad ? 3) Is it necessary to be very submissive or is it ok to be a little dominant when you initiate it on your first night ? And lastly 4) what is it like on the first night of your marriage and how does life change after marriage if you are going to live with your husband and his family ? I am asking these questions as it is an arranged marriage. Thank you