i hav gd behaviour&grades but no freedom still .My frnds jus hav to say to their parnts that they r going to the park or shops n thn they just walk out of their house n thn for me its nt an 'option' to go out like thers no such thing going out w my friends or to the shops.when i hear'your grounded' or my friends saying im nt aloud to go out its just like their punishments are my 'life'. i hav been out 2x w my frnds but i hav to ask my mum lyk 2/3 days before n begg n still prob cnt go n for eg mcdnalds is 2 mins away frm my house n i would still hav to beg her nd say tht i will text her constantly. I walk to school by myself and my mum tells me to text her when i get to school n when i get back i normally go to my grandmas house(which is jus d road next to my road). I sit by myself at home sometimes n its nt a massive deal but a few days a go i had to go straight home after school and my dad practically told my cousin to 'babysit' me. I really cant take it, my friends just tease me sometimes because they just say to eachother that they r gna go shops after school n if they ask me i jus make up an excuse like im busy but i think they kinda know im not really allowed to go out!!! :/ Can anyone giv me their point of veiw /opinion/advice?? n please dnt jus say tht i hav to b gratefull cuz they jus love me n care for my safety cuz i am thankfull but it feels like im not living my childhood (teenagerhood lol whteva) n there is a difference between 'living' and 'surviving'!!

My cousin and I are very close and I have a lot of secrets about her. I'm 18 and she is 16. She is not allowed to date but she does. Everyone presumes her as a innocent person but she isn't. One time we had plans to go out to eat at this Deli with our aunt, who is around our age but my cousin wanted us to Drop her at her bf's house and it was 9pm. Because my aunt was fine with it. While her parents think she's with us. I don't want her to follow our aunt's footsteps because she would sneak around and got pregnant at 16. I said no you guys could do it when I'm not around, because I don't want to be part of this because what if something happens I would be at blame. They both got mad at me and said I was over reacting. She blame me for not letting her go. I found out they talk about me behind my back. I am tired of all these secrets. Should I tell my mom what's going on because her mom and my mom are sisters?

My mom is at work right now. So I was in dance class and got out early today, so my mom couldn't come take me home like she usually does. Because of this, i had to come home with a taxi and this was my first time ever using a taxi! When I got home, i though it would be funny to prank my mom a little so I called her from outside and said "mom I have to talk real quiet now. I have no idea where this taxi man has taken me, we are in a ditch or something, it looks like a forest and there is no trace of people or cars anywhere. mom im really scared" and then i just heard her screaming and her voice breaking and she started crying at work. i kept saying mom it was a joke, im sorry. please stop crying. and she just kept saying "no no no, things like this happen, you get kidnapped raped and murdered. NO!" And now i feel soo bad. what should i do? i hang up because she got mad but she still heavily crying,i thought she'd have a heart attack.

Lately she has been really mean to me. She calls me selfish and when she sees my bag on my bed she tells me to clean up my mess. I mean,its not even considered a mess! She yells at me nonstop and always favors my oler brother. When she sees him she is really nice and when she sees me her expression changes. Doss she hate me? What did i do to deserve this?

Se si...cosa fanno?

What can they make you do and not do and do they have the right to demand information out of you. This is just a general question, basically what is out of their power

I'm fed up! I have done everything I could possibly do to ensure my 22 year old son could be successful. I have several problems with him: He does not want to obtain a high school diploma or GED. Therefore, he can't get a job. He is a reproductive abuser (a father of four children by THREE different women). His father is not present, so he doesn't have a male role model in his life. He lives off of my money, doesn't contribute to anything in my house, abuses my pets, and drinks and smokes a lot. Please understand that it is not easy to give up on your child. I want my son to be independent, but I can't just throw him on the streets. I don't want him to file for unemployment because I am strongly opposed to government handouts, so he is financially dependent on me. My other children are independent and have already graduated college. I ask myself everyday, "Why does my son have to be this way?"

My son is 16 and he has recently told me he wants to live with his dad. I think it is because I finally came out and told him that I am in love with him. Like actually fully in love with my son and it makes him uncomfortable. I would never do anything to make him feel bad, but I need help! I don't want him to leave me! I NEED HIM!

so yesterday i was gonna watch this thing with my aunt and she was gonna be on her phone and i said are you gonna be on your phone and she said i don't know and i got mad and put something else on the tv and she got mad and left my room and i asked my mom who do you think was right and she said well i think its possible to do both and i said you never think I'm right! So today i was telling her stuff about minecraft and she said that makes sense but he got kind of psycho and i said you always think other people are right and she said not always just sometimes and i got really mad and i don't know how to make myself not be mad so how do i do that? please help :/

He says to me to not do what I think he says, but what he says. To my understanding, how I "think" is how I perceive the world, so there is no other way to obey him except to do what I "think" he says. Can you correct my understanding of this

My parents have hates us since we where little. My mom let my dad abuse us and has abused us herself. She didnt really care that my dad hit us, she just laughted it off. She laughed when she found out he molested me when I was a toddler. But heres why they hate us the first child they didnt like because she was angry and demanding. Mental illness runs in the family and shes bipolar. the second child got into trouble. She was rebelious and my parents couldn't stand it. And the last child, me, they said never caused them problems. I just got mental health issues and extreme trouble with school attendance (qualifies under a disability) yet still they act as if they hated me since I was a toddler. And I never caused problems as a kid. And when I was about 13 they didnt have to rause me anymore because they kept putting me in group homes. They say things like they love us, but they only say it. they are super afraid of what people think of them and try to act different in front of people. is it ever justified to hate your kids?

ok sorry this pretty much me telling you my life and asking you for advice.k here it goes this might seem like nothing ok just some background. my parents are missionaries in france and are very very pertective. like no phone that connects to internet only an hour of computer time. they are also very strict like never anwser an adult always do what they say when they where they say to do it. and that the doing what they say alll the time is what annoys me soo much. so i justam always fighting with my dad about EVERYTHING but in my mind its all about fairness in hisits respect even if it doesnt make sence and you know. if you oh i forgot he says that i need to remember not to forget..what.the.heck. forgetting is when you dont remember.duh. it started when they got me a kindle paperwhit and since my family is christian and protective well.. i think it was a mix between my hormones and my curiosity and the fact that i was really shy because im circumcised about my sexuality with other boysthat drove me to look at porn and discover masturbtion. i started staying up till midnight masturbating on my paperwhite and so fatigue and the fact that i realized i was gay really messed up my life.i was always grumpy. nobody knos about my masturbation addiction i also have never stayed in the smae school for more then three years and was always moving around so i never realy have any good friends help me. sorry its so ong please help me i know it dosent seem as bad ritten down but it is

Recently iv been extremely stressed out, and I'm scared that those close to me are being hurt or upset by how I act when I'm stressed out. I'm 16 from the UK and I'm currently in college , I have divorced parents which have both remarried and had one kid each, and I am in a long distance relationship with a girl who moved away 10 months ago, we have been in a relationship for about 8 months. I live with my mum stepdad and younger brother and occasionally go to my dads house, i work one day a week, and have college 5 days a weak. Lately my girlfriend has been very sad, and is having trouble with her self image and confidence, as it is along distance relationship I really struggle to change her mind and cheer her up and this kills me as I hate to hear that she's sad. My home life is full of getting shouted at by my parents for normal teenage things... Get off your phone, tidy your room, do your jobs (chores) but my mum especially expects highly of me, she expects me to revise more, work more, do more house work, look for cars and insurance as I'm turning 17 soon. And spend more time with the family. I really want to do well in my first year at college as well as keeping my girlfriend and family happy, I just feel like I'm not achieving any of that at the moment. Is it just me being a typical lazy teenage boy, or that my parents ask to much of me or I ask to much of myself I just really want to be happy. this stuff clogs my head 24/7 how do I chill out and clear my mind

I'm looking for quick, more effective ways to help my baby girl catch on to things easier. She has a very short attention span. I want to help her as much as I can to memorize basic knowledge. I know repetition plays a big part but what else helps? I'm 18, my boyfriend is 21. We live on our own with both our girls, my oldest is whom I'm talking about. I'm currently in college and working at a paid internship and my boyfriend works in construction, so he's really busy. I try my best to devote as much time to educate my daughters before officially beginning their journey in school but I'm scared I'm not using the best method. Moms and dads... please, you're welcome to share your methods. Most effective method for teaching toddlers?

Hello, So my boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years. We are both 27. He currently lives with his gparents and I live with my dad and sisters. I get along with sisters and dad and we all help each other with things at home. And of course I do like saving money and this has helped me with saving. Me and my older sister and dad would like to someday buy a bigger home and have our boyfriends move in, into one big home. So to make like a big family.. It is our culture to live with our families and all help each other.. But my boyfriend does not want this, he wants to move out and have our own place and make our own lives. I have a hard time with this, because I don't want to leave my father.. What is the best solution? I know he doesn't want to because when it comes to time alone it is a little difficult with dad and sisters at home..and also he thinks I am different with him when he stays over since I can't show much affection. Help.. ;(

So I go over my dads house probably twice a week to sleepover but I found out that when I'm not there my stepmom and my step brother sleep in my bed. It's really weird considering they have their own rooms and my stepmom and my dad already have a bed together. It really bothers me that this woman is invading my privacy and sleeping in my bed like wtf. I've talked to my dad and he doesn't think it's a big deal and I can't talk to her about it because when I do nothing changes. It's kind of screwed up and I hate her and she is nasty af. How can I stop her from sleeping in my bed like can I put something in there so she wont? Please help

My ex husband and I share custody of our 8 year old daughter. She has a birthday coming up, and I am throwing her a party at my house. I invited my ex and his wife and their little baby. Well, here's the problem. My daughters baby brother (with her dad and stepmom) was born last year on her birthday. Therefore, my ex wants me to include his son in the festivities as well and make the party for him also. I told him no because that baby is not my child. My ex then got mad and said if I exclude his son, he won't attend my daughter's party and will tell her it was because of me. I don't want to include his son because that baby is not my child. Who's right?

That white people end up killing their family?

My sister is five and I was talking to her last night. She was telling me how sometimes she'll go outside and curl up on the porch in the middle of the night and wait until she gets so cold she has to go in. She also told me that one time she couldn't open my parents bedroom door so she walked out the front door in the middle of the night and went around the entire house and through my parents back bedroom door instead of just knocking the first time on the door from the inside. We live in a very vacant area so it's not a big deal as far as safety but Is this normal? and can anybody tell me what this means? Thank you.

I'm 23 and work at a store. Two 18 year old girls come often and we flirt. One a brunette and one a blonde. Both are gorgeous btw but i'm into blondes. To be honest the brunette seems more into me since she talks more vs the blonde who is more quite. I asked out the blonde within time and she said "YES" the thing is she's turned down two of my dates already by playing busy. 1st time- She said it was her bday and couldn't she wasn't lying (ig pics) 2nd time- She said she had to go on a college trip all weekend Could this chick be into me???? It could be she's shy but also could be she's turning me down softly to not make it awkward. You be the judge girls.

I am 15. Growing up I was spanked a couple of times as a last resort, but very rarely. It hasn't happened in years (since I was like 11 or so?). The last few days my sister and I have been bickering BIG time which is not normal, but it was getting really out of hand. Mom talked to us, took away TV & the pool, finally she grounded us from each other's rooms and said if we kept it up she'd give us a spanking. I was shocked to hear her say that, and, to be honest, didn't take her all that seriously. This morning I went in my sister's room to look for some clothes of mine. My sister came back, we started bickering, she started saying I wasn't allowed in her room, I lost my cool and shoved her. Just about then my mom appeared, livid at both of us for bickering, and me for being in my sister's room. At that point she took me to my room to "talk" to me. Little did I know she also expected to make good on her threat. She told me I'd be getting the spanking, I argued but didn't resist, she had me bend over my desk, and spanked me over my underwear with a ping pong paddle hard enough to REALLY hurt, but not hard enough to bruise or anything. It was about ten pops. Afterwards she gave me a hug, but reminded me I had a clear warning. I know I was in the wrong with my actions, so I'm not looking to feel vindicated. This just came from so far out of the blue and I just don't know anyone who gets spanked at my age that it leaves me curious: 1) Is this legal at my age? 2) Is this common?

I'm 17 my boyfriend is 18 and we plan to move into a trailer together within the next few months . we're both working and I own my own car that is in my name and paid off. I think the hardest part of convincing them will be the fact that my boyfriend is in the equation. my parents to not like my boyfriend and constantly tell me to break up with him, which is very annoying since we've been together for 2 1/2 years. we're both in high school. I could care less about the answers saying that we'll break up so we shouldn't live together etc. I get enough of that from my parents. I'd just like to know how I can get them to let me leave. we both plan on going into the military after high school as well (Army & Air force). as I would like to go through emancipation approval, I feel by the time things will be picking up on the case i'll already be 18 and there's no point. (my birthday's in January and its april). I want to move out because my parents are very strict and don't respect me and my choices. they talk down on everything I do and try to belittle me but get very bewildered once I say im leaving . then they try and be super nice like i'll forget that they we're just cursing me out for no reason just for their fun. I don't want to report them to anyone because I love them . I just want a peaceful moving out and that's all. but how can I do this ? how can I convince my parents to let me move out? how can I convince my parents to let me move out?

I want to run away from home because I feel unloved. Where should I go when I run away? Leaving the house will be easy because all I have to do is go out the front door. I'll make sure nobody sees me. Everyone will think it's my big brother when they hear the noise. I just don't know where to go. I want to be safe. I just want to see who in my family will really care. what would the police do if they found me?

Okay, so first of all, my brother is 18. Second of all, he's really lazy. Like, really lazy. The last few weeks he's decided that the living room is his. Which, I didn't have a problem with that at first. No big deal, right? I figured he'd get over it, but he didn't. Last year, my mom bought him a big king sized bed (he's the favorite). It's the nicest bed in the house. I have the oldest mattress - I've been using it for 16 years, and we originally got it used. Despite his nice bed, my brother now sleeps on the couch. He watches TV and naps ALL DAY. He leaves food all over the living room, and actually GETS MAD AT ME when I go downstairs and 'disturb his rest'. My mom is totally fine with it all, and gets angry when I ask her to do anything about it. I'm just at my wit's end here. This shouldn't be a problem, except I have an absolute repulsion to mess, and he leaves his stuff everywhere. It started to smell like his room (not a nice smell). I usually get up very early to go running, and then I cook breakfast and study before school, and all of this drives my brother nuts. He gets SO angry. I'm not even sure what to do anymore - how can I function if I can't use our kitchen/living room? I wish it were that simple.. My brother would blow up, and my mom would defend him. They would start talking about how ungrateful I am for my room. Thanks for the idea though! I guess I'll just have to hang tight a few years. Ugh.

basically my mum has been comparing my looks with other girls for years and I have become insecure because of this. I told her that and she blames me and continues showing me pictures of other girls and saying "look at them and look at you, you don't look like a 16 year old" and all that crap. When I take interest in my looks, for example I asked her to buy me another toothpaste since my teeth are off white, and she tells me to shut up. This happens with other things too the toothpaste one was just today

3 weeks ago, I was feeling depressed and just wanted to do something spontaneous & for myself for a change. So I decided to look up to see when a couple of my favorite bands were on tour. Turns out both were not playing anywhere near me, but both were in town the same week in Seattle. I have a friend from high school, Chris, who lives in Seattle & so I asked him if I could crash with him if I booked a flight out. He said,"of course!" so I booked my flights & I leave this upcoming Wednesday (the first concert is Wed night) and I get back really early Sunday morning. (The second concert is Friday.) Chris texted me (about week after I had booked everything and bought all of the concert tickets for him and I) and said that his Dad and his Dad's friend were going to be in town that same weekend and they are going to the same concert Friday night as well. Chris said he won't be able to hang out with me Sat & Sun while they're here. My parents are close to Chris's family & my mom talked to Chris's dad this past weekend & he told her that he didn't realize I was coming this weekend. They booked their "Guys Weekend" months ago & considering I'm not a guy...needless to say my mom says Chris's dad was being very polite but she thinks I should cancel my trip cause I'm intruding on Guys Weekend. What should I do? Should I cancel my trip because I'm intruding? Should I change my flight so I either leave Sat morning or Fri before Chris's dad gets there? Or should I just not worry about it?

Ok so here's the story...I live in Monmouth County, NJ, my friend (21 also) just moved back with her grandma and older sister about a year ago from Charlotte, North Carolina. Now they're moving back because my friends aunt got a job offer down in two months there and my friends family does not care if I move with them. Things to consider for me are: 1. Im on unemployment 2. Going to school (community college) 3. Have a car with lease payments (in my moms name, i cosigned, insurance in my name only) plus it has a dent i need to get fixed before i turn it in and have like 17 payments left. 4. I would transfer colleges 5. Get a new job Of course i would have to chip in for bills/rent or pay maybe one bill like the electricity for my share to count. I want to move but i don't know how my parents would react. Im 21 by the way.

My step mom always asks me to help her daughter out. I am in no way related to her daughter at all. anyways her friend obviously has some sort of thing for me and she is very good looking and nice. Well one night me and her snuck out and we fell asleep at her parents house and they didn't care and were happy I brought her home and liked to see us. Nothing happened she just slept next to me hugged me and she is 18. I would never do that with my step sister because I see her as my sister and I don't think she is attractive. Some how my step mom finds out about this comes by my apartment takes my bong smashes it and says I am going nowhere in life and that I am a bum. I have my own house and I can legally smoke weed without being hassled in my state. I don't go around breaking peoples $100 bottles of wine because thats pretty much the same thing. Is my step mom crazy and should I try and get with her daughters friend? They won't allow me to come into their house but my dad still lets me come in eventually.

My husband is a very sweet person but he gets taken advantage of by his relatives and I'm so tired of watching it! He has a disabled brother that gets government assistance and we help him, that bother is never content with anything an continuously comes up with ways to take from us even more than is offered. He's always taken anything he wanted from our pantry and guest bathroom without asking even though we routinely purchase his toiletries and food. He often rants that we're robbing him because he's gotten nothing from his father's (extremely modest) estate yet but that is absolutely because no one has received anything from that estate yet. All we've gotten so far is bill after bill with no payout to date. We've even had the attorney try to explain it to him and he just doesn't listen. The same brother also has an unwed daughter with a small child that had been receiving a great deal of help from my husband's father before his death. She is an absolute money pit! She lived with us for a few months recently and left (with my luggage) and without saying goodbye a couple of months ago. There hadn't been any disagreement really, just hat we wanted her to pick up after herself and her child and stop drinking all day. She was abruptly gone, leaving a roomful of her clothing, baby things and empty booze bottles. Recently I discovered that my husband has been wiring her money. Probably more than a person without a drug habit could need. How can I make him see that these two are just users?

i really want one. im 14. Also, if you dont have a way to help me ask my mom, then just leave, if you bother to leave a hate comment its because you literaly have nothing better to do, sorry for my rant i just hate haters.. no pun intended.

Please help me out guys! I live with my mum and my brother, I'm 13 years old, my bro is 12 and my mum is 47. I treat my mum very nicely and with mistake and I never swore at her or disobeyed her.. But my brother is the opposite! He beats her up, swears at her so badly etc.. But you know what?! My mum does nothing about it and let him do stupid things to her and she still acts the best to him treats him like a baby and blames herself if he beats her! I talked to my mum about it but she says don't interfear and I tried to talk to my brother but he keeps interrupting me by saying shut up, how do I make my brother a better person? Help me out here! My parents are divorced so I can't ask help from my dad anyway cause he lives in a different country, my mum had other kids before and they are now 27 and 29 with kids. That's why my mum is over protective and spoilt us. Also she only has me and my brother in England! She left all of her family and everyone she knew in her country and came here 14 years ago. We are everything to her.

I got my ged at 16 and I go to a community college. I think ged is a good thing cause after 16 you can go straight to college. I'm 18 and after this year I'll get associate's and go to university and only have 2 years left and get my degree at 21

Hi guys my parents are really starting to piss me off now like they sent me a tutor because I got a below in English only in one report and i am always above target and they won't understand I'm telling them I'll be good and they just keep threatening me that I'll be a cleaner and like a kid in the street and I really don't have time for all this tutor bullshit because i am really good in English and they are always annoying me trying to get me down even when I try to revise I just can't concentrate because they keep nagging and my dad and mum fight a lot and my brother is a pain in the *** I just had enough and they just won't listen to me !!! The just don't care they don't understand that I'm on my gcses and I really need lots of time alone to concentrate I only have one hour THEY WINT UNDERSTAND I HAVE 7 subjects. TO RECAP NOT ON SOMETHING IM REALLY GOOD IN !!

I think my daughter is dressing to give me a heart attack. I get it, the kids of today have a certain style of dress, most of which I'll never understand, but I have huge problems with her dress, because yes, I see her as my little girl, but she's 18. She has a load of jean shorts that are like really short and skimpy tops. I'm a single dad FYI and we are living in Phoenix. I'll tell her to go change, she just rolls her eyes, gimme a " Oh God Dad" and goes out. Can I put my foot down? Her jean short have about as much material as a shoelace

I seriously have to do everything for him. He can't type, so I have to type in the shows he watches on Netflix for him. And he watches A LOT of shows, so literally every 20 minutes I have to get up and type something new for him. He can't even READ for that matter. So when he is on his 3DS, he just goes and blindly taps on things without even knowing what he is doing. And I constantly have to read the text for him on the video games he's playing. If he can't play the games without our help, then he shouldn't even be playing them. And the games he plays even say on their cover, "Basic reading skill is needed to fully enjoy this game." He just doesn't care. One time he even got a hacker into his Orbo tablet that kept downloading p0rn to his tablet. I had to reformat it, along with tons of ridiculous games he downloaded. Due to his inability to read, he kept asking me why the games weren't downloading, when his memory was full. But the worst part is, my parents ask me to help him, and I have no choice. If I refuse, then my computer gets taken away for the rest of the week. So I can't challenge my parents. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! I've tried EVERYTHING from the previous times I've asked this and nothing has changed. I feel like I have to help him or else he will get nowhere. The thing is I have no choice but to to help him do things he should be able to do independently by now or else I get punished. He is 7 years old. What do I do!?

I live with my mom& my cousin, it's a new situation. I've been buying all the food& they're not giving me$, I've asked them to pitch in already& my cousin gave me 8$.. compared to the hundred of dollars I spend, that's ridiculous. My mom ran out of her laundry detergent& now they're both using mine. I told her to give me$ so I can go buy them laundry detergent& food &she gives me 20$. I guess these ppl have no clue how much things cost but I don't want to be supporting them. I have a son that I need to support alone, they don't have anyone to support. I've already told them they need to help me with$ & they're not! No way I'm going to beg for$ but then I don't want them using my stuff. I tried keeping things in my room but then they come ask me for it. Like my cousin uses razors I buy& my lotion, why not but his own? Or they'll come in my room& take it. My cousin says you should buy this &that, it's like.. if you want something go buy it! My mom won't go to the store at all, I can't keep this up anymore. I'd like to move out but it would be really difficult for me right now. This really bothers me, how do I handle this& keep peace at the same time?

My father passed away three weeks ago. It was not unexpected due to his health and age. We had a wonderful relationship. I am concerned because I have not been able to grieve his death. Shortly before he died, I was involved in a car accident. After my father died, I had to plan the funeral and deal with all of the stuff from the accident. I was busy. Now that everything has slowed down, I was expecting to grieve more and I haven't. I am wondering if I did something wrong and should I go to grief counseling. I also wonder if grief counseling really works. I would greatly appreciate input from anyone who has tried grief counseling. Thank you.

I was upstairs in my bedroom watching TV when my step mother yelled "Lets go so we will not be late". Trying to stall for time, I said "I'm coming". She said "Don't get it on the sheets. That makes them sticky. Oh My God, she thought I was j - -king off. I did not know she knew I did that. She has a wonderful sense of humor so I hope she was joking. I love and adore her. She is the best mom any guy can have. Does that mean she is OK with it and I don't have to hide from her when I do it in the future? Do I have a cool mom or what? I did not know women knew guys did this. Do all women know about it?

Im not the emotional type but there comes a point and age where you say enough is enough. My dad was very violent went I was young he apparently got better although I just think he got better at hiding it inside and expressing it other ways by being sexist and using favoritism and emotional put downs which I could care less I'm so used to it. I'm a girl in her early 20s and every now and then I come to my parents and my dad will punch my leg then starts laughing or hell kind of hit my head in a pushing way and like I said I'm not sensitive but I am a girl and he think this is normal and that I'm "stupid" or "dumb," I wonder if this has anything to do with the fact that my dad wanted a boy then I came out but I now have a brother so idk he has this anamosity towards me that I don't understand. I never understood why he hated me so much when I was little. Maybe because him and my mom faught a lot because of me? She would fight with him when he made obvious physical abuse. He also went to jail for a night because he was beating my mom on the floor while she was pregnant. The next door neighbors called when they heard all the yelling. Anyways idk how do I stay away from this negativity? But I still want to see and be with my family? And my mom needs my help a lot. My dad calls me so many names like that I'm stupid (since I was a kid) dumb, retarded, fat (I'm not really). Honestly I just want to be a good and kind person but being around my family and dad makes me so toxic.

When we were first married, mom helped us out financially. That was many years ago. We are in a much better financial situation now and my husband Bill says we have a moral obligation to repay my mother for her help when we were first married. Now when mom wants or needs something no matter how big or how small Bill buys it for her. He is not keeping track of how much mom gave us and how much he is giving her. If mom wants it she gets it. Mom is very happy that we are doing this for her and I am very happy that we can do this for her. My problem is my sister and her husband are mad at us for "making them look bad". I assume but I do not know for sure that mom helped them when they were first married. They can well afford to repay her but I don't think they are. I discussed this with my husband and he said that is my sister and her husband's problem. He said we will continue to help mom as it is the morally right thing to do. Is my husband right about what he is doing for mom?

I have 2 daughters who both danced since age 2 1/2 .. (1999, and 2004) its going on 5 years of not dancing due to a bad falling out with the dance company.... my youngest daughter wants dearly to go back and I truly miss the dance family,,, we ( my daughter and I discussed ) me calling the company and see what we need to do to get back in... but my needing advice is, what on earth should I say when calling to start making things right...

I live with my dad, stepmother, stepbrothers (11 and 6) and stepsisters (10, 7 and 5). My grandparents were there for me when my mom died. They supported my dad, helped him out with money and were just so amazing with me. They paid for counseling to help me deal with everything. Then, as soon as he got married, he and his wife started being really mean to them. I got to see them still, but not as much as I had been allowed to see them. But the last few months, things have changed even more. My dad and stepmother get annoyed when my grandparents (moms parents) take me out and not the other kids in the house, who aren't related to them at all. They have asked them to send birthday and Christmas presents/cards to the other kids, and to treat them as if they were their grandchildren. My stepmother even told my grandmother that it wasn't fair that I have grandparents who get to see me all the time when her kids don't. She also told me that I was being mean to her kids by going with them. I pointed out that I'd lost my mom and they are her parents and she said "tough s**t". Dad is now saying I can't see or speak to them anymore. They're trying to get custody of me, which I want. But I miss them so much and I hate my dad for this. I really hate him. Help me!

My husband went from a very strong. what SEEMED like a healthy man, to getting one after another serious diagnosis. He has dealt with so many insensitive comments, he doesn't know how to handle it. Example, he had a recent cardiac event, so he missed his granddaughter's birthday party, I went by to give her a beautiful bracelet, and she told me that her dad told her that it is because he eats candy. (This coming from a man who, as a boy, complained we didn't have any food in the house, because DH refused to have junk food In the house, except for special occasions.) I just about lost it, but I kept it to myself. I told her that it was because he has an illness that can hurt his heart, and that it also runs in the family. His father started going through all this when he was about the same age. When diagnosed with cancer, forget the "oh man! I'm sorry. Did they say how they plan to treat it?" or offer to go with him? No. They went straight into the you'll be fine, if you stay positive. He just wants to feel like he matters. So, how do YOU handle provoked, cruel, well-intended b.s. comments?

So my brother (who is 22 now) and I were having a very deep conversation yesterday, and he brought up the fact that when he was 9, he inappropriately touched our sister (who was 6) for several months. I'm 9 years older than him, so I was in college and didn't know about this (neither did my parents) Normally, I would be extremely concerned about this, but the thing is that my parents would not allow us to go to public school and we lived in a secluded area of NC, so my brother rarely saw any girls and was curious about their genitals. He told me that he knew it was bad but didn't know how bad until he learned about sex a while later. He and my sister talked about it, and he profusely apologized and told her that he never should have done it and didn't know the severity of it (he only touched her with his hands; no rape) and she forgave him. He also told me that she never said no, but she also didn't know what was going onsince she was so young. He said it started from his curiosity and growing interest towards girls, and he liked it and that's why it continued until he realized that it was awful. Yet he was so young that I doubt it was a perverted or sexual and believe that he truly was just curious since he was so isolated, and he swore that he never had ill intentions and has not done it since and still regrets it. I love both of my siblings and am at a loss for how to handle this. I feel like I'm maybe just making excuses for my brother since I care about him so much. He also told me that she would say that she enjoyed it and that it felt good, so I suppose it was mutual in a sense, yet he's the one that began it. From what he said, he never pressured her into it, and when she began to question it and refuse, he started to realize that he was doing something worse than he originally thought, but he never pressured her or forced her into it, but since she was only 6 when it happened, she didn't understand, but he was also only 9 and didn't really get it either

I am graduating high school in less than a month, and I want to give my grandparents something thanking them for all they have done for me and for how much I love them. Any ideas? My grandparents are the ones that raised me, even though they are disabled.

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I will be graduating this May and my parents could not come to my graduation ceremony for some reasons. I have been dating with this guy for around two months (yeah I know, it's not long),and have been visited his family for couple times and they like me. I would like to invite my bf to the ceremony but he works at that day. So is it okay to invite his parents to come to my ceremony? Or would it be weired? Thank you in advance!

I just missed the bus like 5 minutes ago and I really can't miss another day. I've already missed like 25 days so far and nobody can take me to school. Some days I missed school because I just hate it so much and I would make an excuse to tell me parents when they get home. Most of that times they would just take my phone. But now I'm extremely scared because they said I can't miss another day what should I do?

I'm not planning to do anything, but he is so evil. He is a supremacist, annoying, and hypocritical. He's also a complete a**hole to my Mom. And my Mom is disabled. He reminds me of f*cking Greg Stillson from The Dead Zone. I'm not doing this to vent, I'm stating my reasons behind my fantasy so that I might get help on calming down. Well, my main reasons anyway.

I kinda really dislike my family most of the time. I am placed lower then everyone, and I'm the youngest of the 5. yesterday, my brother said he thought he had stuttering problems, so, if you watch Kings speech, you know what I was doing when I kept stuttering like 'o-o-oh y--you-n-n-need--h-he-help?' he knows I was joking, then he said ' f you freaking *****' know this, there is a rule in the house where if you call names you get punished, I got shouted at for calling my other brother a butthead after he flipped me off 4 times and said I watch Fox News to look cool, so after my brother said ' f U freaking *****' (he didn't say the f word he said f) I said 'I'm telling mom 'after that he said 'I wasn't talking to you (I think he said freakinh idiot not sure) idiot' there was no one else in the room so he was surely taking to me, he still called me a name too, so I said 'I'm telling mom' again and he said 'hey *my name* *starts typing on Google transalate I think* then I said 'no. shutup. ' and leave the room. then he says 'HAUGH IM TELLING Mom' in a mocking voice to make fun of me. I never told my mom because he always lies and gets his way and throws rants, today I told everyone 'back to the future sucks' because they were talking about it and my sister said 'what?' and I repeated myself then she said 'you suck, shut up' and she was mad too, but then I told my mom and my mom wouldn't stop saying she was joking because obviously she is the favorite. help. I had to update to add more! I might delete this later so no one sees it. everyday my brother says bad stuff to me and when I talk back or tell my mom she blames me and says I'm fighting I'm a soon to be figure skater in lessons and my brother when we were at the rink before my private lesson I was teaching him how to stop, then he started talking crap about figure skating like 'figure skaters suck, hockey is much harder and cooler' and stuff like that, then I keep telling him 'figure skating is a sport and it's harder then hockey' he keeps saying bad stuff and denies it then I say 'yugioh sucks' he gets so mad and gets in my way while I'm skating and I almost trip and he won't leave the. I tell my mom through the glass and she makes him ignore me. later at the food court he already told mom he was nice and I was a snotty brat and my mom believed him and not me she then said he was a nice brother. it's funny. because the last night he called me a *****, whore, and I'll tell you so what happened the night before was He said he was playing club penguin (an online game) I said I was sad because my membeeshio will run out April 14. he got me called me a liar and said no it was just renewed o said. I was there when mom did it and they emailed her he said 'YOU ARELYYING!' I walked out said screw you and he put up his middle finger and didn't let it down and said all the he bad names you can think off '***** whore retard' he spqmmed me, and before that before that after I said screw you he told me to go to hell he said 'to hell with you' and after he slammed me I said 'I'm not waking you up tomorrow ' (to go to the rink' he said 'yeah you will ******' and I said 'go to hell' because he did and he slammed me again everyday things like this happen and my family blames me. I don't tell my family most because he will lie and I will get i. trouble. however, he is sinning and he will have to bring this up to God, his bad names, lying, and so on, he goes to college in 3 years, when I wm 14. I am hopinge for a better life then.

My grandmother passed away and she didn't have a will. my aunt is being greedy and has taken everything my grandma had in her apartment before putting her in a home without saying anything to my mother. My aunt went behind my mother's back and made her daughter POA. My aunt has never done a single kind thing to my grandmother unless it benefited her in some way. My grandmother raised me And I seen how my aunt treated her. when she started losing her memory my aunt took advantage. Now my mother has nothing to remember my grandmother by because my aunt took everything and gave most of it away to her children and grandchildren. I'm sick over this and I don't know what could be done to get at least a few photo albums.that's all she wants. Any suggestions?

No one really likes my cousin. It's impossible to have a conversation with him because he is one of those people who ALWAYS has to be right and win, no matter the conequences. I remember when I graduated with a bacherlors in engineering. His exact words to me were: "I guess it's good. But I know people who have a masters degree". Despite him not even finishin high school. I was visiting my parents and he came with his newborn baby. I mentioned that they are looking for operators at my job. I was just making conversation. I never imagined he would ask me to recommend him. I don't know to be honest. I know that financially he has a tough time and he has a family to take care off and I do want to help his family out. But if he gets this job I'll be his closest boss and I don't want to work with him. He's a douchebag plain and simple. I don't know what to do here cause he needs the job but at the same time he is a horrible employee?

First things first, he's 18 and refuses to pay rent for numerous reasons. He pays for food, toiletries, travel but the reasons are for rent is because: - Our house is apparently a dump and he doesn't want to pay to stay in a dump. We keep our stuff in his bedroom because we have nowhere else to put it. Because of his last bedroom, he thinks we neglected him as a child. He doesn't even have friends. He said its because he's embarrassed of inviting them in but that's an excuse. - He told us last year that he was depressed. How does he think we feel paying bills and everything etc? He said that he shouldn't help us because we didn't help him and just shouted at him for being depressed. What are we supposed to do? - He said because we have trouble paying bills, that it's our problem. My other sons paid before they moved out and they would deal with my son who doesn't pay rent. I threatened to call them so they can go up and deal with him but he then threatened to call a psychologist to help us with our "hoarding" problems. What can we do? I need detailed answers. None of yours are useful.

So last Friday my wife's family got together for a BBQ. We were all having fun just drinking a few cold ones a few shot's of liquor but through out the night i noticed her mom was being a lot closer than usual she rubbed my shoulder like if we were together and when I reached in to hug her when I got there she kissed me on my neck I must sound crazy but I also felt her tounge softly touch me while she reached in for that kiss I didnt expect that at all I kept it cool ddnt think anything of it time went by we all were chillin at the patio we had plenty of brew n liquor in us so I had got up to use the RR I headed in took care of my business went to the kitchen for a bottled water my mother in law walks in drunk as hell saying she's glad I'm with her daughter and that she loves me then ran straight to the RR I stayed in the kitchen drinkin my water but what happened next was jus unexpected I'm going for a swig of water I'm tiltin my head back and then from the corner of my eye my mother in law walkin into the kitchen not thinkn anything jus on how good that cold water taste suddenly I feel a good squeeze on my dick I jump like wtf n its no one else but my mother in law I'm in shock she was jus like I'm sorry and gave me this really seductive look but she jus had me stuck on what jus happend I couldn't react right she jus asked how is my water bottle told her jus fine and she walked back out like nothing I haven't told my wife, is this a sign that she wants to have sex

I'm 17 and my mum NEVER lets me make my own decisions. I have an identical twin sister who's 8 minutes younger and a brother who's 2 years younger than me, and she lets them decide what they want/do. Here are some examples: -It's my friend's 18th birthday on Wednesday and I decided to get her a massive wine glass. But mum said "you are NOT getting her that" - my mum chose her gift from me because she thought what I picked was 'tacky'. -When I go clothes shopping with my mum and I see a shirt I like, she says things like "you'll look like a slut in that". She always ends up choosing my clothes. -Whenever we go out to eat or have a takeaway, she NEVER lets me choose what I want. She always ends up choosing mine. -I want to go to this university when I finish sixth form, but she's like "you're not applying for that university - you're applying for the ones I want!" -Even when it's movie night at our house, she NEVER lets me choose a movie I want to watch. She thinks the movies I like are "tacky", "cheesy" or "boring". -She never lets me go to concerts either. She thinks all concerts are dangerous and too noisy for me. -She also never lets me pick any of my friends. If I pick a friend, she would call them a "bad influence" or a "tw*t". Why does she NEVER let me make my own decisions? She lets my siblings choose theirs!

About 3 weeks ago, I was feeling depressed and just wanted to do something spontaneous and for myself for a change. I was listening to a couple of my favorite bands at the time and decided to look up to see when they were on tour. Turns out both were not playing anywhere near me, but both were in town the same week in Seattle. I have a friend from high school, Chris, who lives in Seattle and so I asked him if I could crash with him if I booked a flight out. He said, "of course!" so I booked my flights and I leave this upcoming Wednesday (the first concert is Wednesday night) and I get back really early Sunday morning. (The second concert is Friday night.) Chris texted me (about week after I had booked everything and bought all of the concert tickets for him and I) and said that his Dad and his Dad's friend were going to be in town that same weekend and they are going to the same concert Friday night as well. My parents are close to Chris's family and my mom talked to Chris's dad this past weekend and he told her that he didn't realize I was coming this weekend. They booked their "Guys Weekend" months ago and considering I'm not a guy.... needless to say my mom says Chris's dad was being very polite but she thinks I should cancel my trip cause I'm intruding on Guys Weekend. What should I do? Should I cancel my trip because I'm intruding? Should I change my flight so I either leave Sat morning or Fri before Chris's dad gets there? Or should I just not worry about it..