He may not actually love him more, but he is way more affectionate with him than with me. It hurts my feelings and I do get jealous. (The cat get a jealous of me and steals my husband's attention when he is affectionate with me). I have talked to him about it. My husband is not a really " lovey dovey", romantic, affectionate guy, but he is with our cat. Idk how to get him to show that kind of affsection to me. It may seem stupid, but this is a real issue for me and I don't know what to do.

We are 30, been married for a year and we both work. However most of the house job is mine or at least I am the one who should manage things. I feel exhausted most of the time. I pass out at 11 and then wake up again at 6 but still feel very tired. I'm too busy at work because of management position and I'm also busy at home. I can find no time to dedicate to working out or gym, I can find no time to plan something fun... My husband is a caring person and I love him. I love having sex with him but honestly sometimes I pretend that I'm sleeping in order to avoid sex and I hate this. I don't know what to do :( any tips for me here?

I been married for 15 years and im bored out of my mind. it feels like a routine . He bores me. He come from work sits like a coach patatoes . Even when were intimate its lame. Oh I talk to him about it but he ignores me.

I been married for 15 years and I love him Because he's the father of my children and is a great dad. We have nothing in common . I feel we are an odd couple. I'm bored all the time. His ideas of fun is lame. We have different friends. I don't ever hang out with his friends and he never hangs out with mine. We are not friends either he doesn't care for any of my intrest and he practically ignores me.

My husband moved his lazy non working ( fully capable of working ) parents in for the 2nd time knowing the first time only cause problems. they expect people to work hard and support them while they sit on their butts all day.. what really upsets me is that we were just getting comfortable and happy and in a routine after moving into our new apartment from being homeless because of college and job situations.. every time I let him know my feelings it's and argument and I get called a stupid "B"

At my work always shows her stomach when I walk into the office. why?

Always shows me her flat stomach and says she's fat?

So my boyfriend and I are going to city hall to get married. I'm so excited anyone that had done that Can you tell me your experience and would you have preferred a real wedding or are you happy with city hall?. What advice about marriage are you willing to give? Thank you so much.

OK, my husband and I have been together for 14 years. We have two young children. He has always had control issues but lately it's been unbearable. He has been verbally abusive for many years. I am not innocent in this either. I have had problems controlling my anger as well. But I have made a huge effort to be a better, more patient person. And I feel like I've grown a lot. My husband puts me down every day. Everyone tells me it's had an obvious effect on my self esteem. When I try to talk to him, he tends to either stare straight ahead, completely ignoring me or he tells me to shut up. When I put my foot down and tell him I won't put up with this, things usually get better for a day or so. Then we are back where we started. I'm so frustrated. I don't argue with him much anymore because I don't want the kids to see that. I have broke down and cried and that makes him mad too. I just want things to get better. I need advice from anyone that has been through something like this. P!ease help!

And I marry if the child comes out Not Mines well they automatically get me a ground divorce

Ok for like the last 2 years I've been living in hell because my husbands mom lives with us I finally got great news that she was moving out! It feels like a constant battle she very rude doesn't clean up and always throws fits it's so hard to keep trying for a relationship with her any who guess what!!! She isn't leaving and I am so freakin pissed here's my question should I let my husband know how I feel or should I keep it to myself?

First off, I liked to say I loved him and our marriage was very happy. We just fit each other and our personalities compliment each other. He cheated on me which absolutely crushed me. And I could not bring myself to stay married to him even though he wanted to work it out and said that his cheating had nothing to do with not loving me. Our divorce was finalized very quickly because we didn't fight over assets, we don't have children. He kept the house. We were separated over a year after our divorce. He said he'd wait for me. I was alone for awhile, I tried dating. I just didn't feel like there was someone else out there who would make me happy in the same way, who would be a better husband for me. I want to be with him but I feel I'd be a fool to committ to him again. So right now, most of are friends and neither of our families know we are together again. I refuse to go out as a couple with him or say we are together. He keeps telling me he wants me to move back home but I am afraid too, even though I've been sleeping there several nights a week. It just feels "safe" this way. He can't cheat on me if we aren't together. I even said he could be with other women, even though he says he doesn't want to be. I feel like the chirade is silly though. That if we are together, we should be in every sense and he agrees - he hates the arrangement we have now but goes along with it so he can still be with me. If we aren't, I should stop wasting my time with him. What should I do?

My husband cheated on me and we are trying to make it work but he isn't willing to put in the effort to make the change. He won't do the little things I ask to help the relationship heal he expects me to just get over it. I never deny him sex but he always tells me no and now he's saying until I forgive him and our relationship isn't "****" he isn't touching me. No sex no kisses just going to ignore me. If I cry he will demand I stop or he will storm off. I'm so tired of this he's the one who cheated for an entire year I'm the only one suffering he got the joys of cheating I just got the crap of it all. Him never wanting me calling me names and after he admitted he said he would change because he loved me and our children. He didn't want to lose us but he thinks everything has to be his way he decides how long I don't trust him or when we have sex or when I'm spoken too.. I feel low and unwanted and he refuses counseling for either us or his anger problems. He also calls anything religious I have to offer crap I just hate myself at this point for being so stupid trusting him..

If you said one person is one and the other person is the other, describe each person's personality to me.

I had a fight a couple of days ago with my partner, and he's been ignoring me since. But I don't want to fight wirh him I miss him so I texted him last night and asked him 'where do I stand ?' He said ' I don't no were you stand ' im so hurt. He hasn't texted me since I don't no if he with me or not ? He's been ignoring me 3 days and he he said that last night by texting me . .and when I asked him can we move on from the fight and stop arguing he just didn't care. He kept saying smart remarks and saying he didn't care and he was with his friends. So basically he wanted me to just leave him! We are together 4years. What will I do ? I don't want to chase him because clearly it gets me no where. I don't no what im doing??? He dosnt ignore me for a few days and then texts me but I don't no about this time ? Help!

Is it true that sometimes foreigners fake love to get married because my sister has met a guy from facebook from sudan but he lives in our city and knows people from this city. but him and my sister has seen each other twice and all they do is text and talk on Facebook not even all the time. they knew each other for a month he says he loves her and wants to marry and have kids with her and shes falling so easily. Could he might be faking her? im no hater i just want the best for my sister i love her and would never want to see her hurt or cry.

well I found more than proof, what I found was the contract from the lawyer with my wife and the lawyers signatures, what I also found shocked and scared me what I found also in the bag were literature and pill bottles from prescription antidepressants that I thought I had stopped taking and thought that I had thrown away over 15 years, there were about 6 or 7 empty bottles of different kinds of antidepressants, I was shocked and scared I also found bank statements from my credit union, I am flabbergasted to say the least, this is a woman that I have loved for almost 20 years and I assume she is trying to set me up with the courts and destroy my I am assuming so that I wont have any custody of our 12 year old son, How evil is this that someone would hold on to these old empty prescription bottles, can she really screw me in court with all of these old medications?

My husband cheated on me for a year and 1/2 he used the phone to look for what he needed and got all his hook ups that way when he finally admitted to it I had already been accusing him. Guess he got tired of it and fessed up. We have children so I decided I owed it to them to give it everything. I gave him a year to change and soon it will be a year with very little progress. He claims he's not cheating but he wants everything to remain as if nothing has changed. I still give him sex and I even chace aftrr him. He turns me down for sex sometimes has excuses as to why he yells at me for not trusting him fast enough. I told him we were only going to work if he was willing to let go of the phone. For about three weeks when the bill was high because of him over using data when not home it was cut off. He made all these claimd he realized our relationship was better without the phone so he talked about changing his phone all this stuff so when he said no more internet I was waiting for him to hold up his end of the deal. But come the end of the three weeks I catch him using the Internet and he flips out I don't trust him that he was bored waiting for me. All this stuff he starts ignoring me so I decided I would set phone restrictions so he couldn't go on anything not appropriate for marriage and when he found his phone and went looking on the Internet he got pissed off threw his phone then went to get mine he changed the password so I couldn't use my own phone and so he could

We have been together for 5 years, and we are both in our late 20s. About 7 months back, my girlfriend was diagnosed with delayed onset Type 1 diabetes (this is the kind that typically presents during childhood, but in this case, it turned up later). She will need to check her blood sugar and will require insulin shots/pump for the rest of her life. On top of that, she will be at increased risk for heart disease, kidney disease, liver problems, as well as problems with skin, feet, allergies, and the list goes on. Additionally, she will have to plan everything out. Doing things spontaneously won't really be as easy, because she will have to make sure to plan out meals, etc. My concern is this: She will have medical bills through the roof. That will cut into the quality of life we can live if we were married. We would have a significantly lower quality of life, and a lot less discretionary income. I don't want to be stuck paying medical bills. I want a high discretionary income, and I want to minimize my expenses. I gave it a chance to see if it would work, but I don't think it will. Before you get all self-righteous on me, please recognize that we have all broken up for seemingly selfish reasons. We cannot spend our lives pleasing others when we are unhappy ourselves. Yes, money isn't everything, but I worked hard so I could have plenty of it. What would be the best way for me to break up with her while causing the least amount of pain? Folks, I already requested no self righteous comments. Please stop acting like you are holier than me when you are most clearly not.

I have a low paid job but I've chosen to go back to university to get another degree and improve my job prospects. I'm 32 soon. I lived overseas for a number of years before returning home four years ago. I have worked the same full time job for two years. Soon I will get my certification to work in the healthcare industry. So my salary will increase. My wife wotks really long hours in her real estate job. It's a non traditional role and requires her to work outside the home until late in the evening. We have no kids and we rent a room in her friend's house because our apartment is off the plan. Her parents and her savings financed it. We have a credit card and substantial car loan. Our finances are limited. She gets a generous commission from selling but only after the apartments are built. In the meantime her retainer payouts go towars paying the credit card debt. But she also uses it to buy expensive clothes. Where to start with all the things that are wrong in my eyes? She doesn't cook, we don't coordinate food in the home, we don't do anything together, we don't even share a meal, there is no friendly partnership, sex is about her looking at porn and telling me I can't satisfy her. She tells me in anger that we have a problem if I can't make her orgasm. I tell myself that she will probably cheat just to get the feeling. I feel useless and long to experience that satisfying feeling that I see other happy couples experience. Including living an interesting and fulfulling life! We have no common friends. We rarely go out together. She has been using her Sundays as free days to go out to new and interesting places with people that she wants to befriend to buy property. She has created small groups to chat to online and is so focused on money and success. She even went horse riding up the coast with friends :( My face was slapped when she caught me looking at her phone and asking why I wasn't told or invited. I discover new clothes or jewellery in the home and dhe says she wants to dress good again. I say that's fine but that I would like to take her out so we can enjoy those nice clothes and have a good time. The standard is when I have more money. Everything is going wrong with her and has been for more than 4 years. Is 32 too old to divorce and start again if I can't work things out with my wife? I want to have a family one day.

He doesn't want to go anywhere with me. I asked him for 3 weeks about going to see a movie and each week he had an excuse, the playoff's, etc. He said we would go this weekend. So when I suggested that we go today at 2 he said it wasn't going to work because the playoff game started at 4:30. I was really upset and tired of waiting. He didn't offer another time so I went by myself. When I got home he told me that I'd messed up with him because I went to the show without him. He said what kind of person goes and sees a movie without their spouse. I started crying and saying how he never wants to go anywhere to me. He doesn't ask me to dinner, to hang out or anything and I'm tired of it. I also told him that he doesn't want to have sex with me. Then he flipped it and made it my fault saying I don't where lingerie anymore and that my hair isn't pretty enough but he never initiates with me. I cook, clean, work hard and he doesn't do anything for me. Is it my fault? What am I doing wrong? He's going out with his friends tonight but he won't go anywhere with me.

Our relationship has been very good, I have never done anything to upset her and she feels very happy. My girlfriend of 2.5 years has told me she has a hard time trusting men because of her past. I will not go too much into details but I questioned her if she could trust me, I sensed a little hesitation with her reply. It sounded like she came up with an answer only to avoid this conversation. My friends are telling me that not trusting men is a huge issue and they also suggest me to end this relationship with her. I though of going to counseling but they tell me why waste your money for someone who isn't your wife. Now, they say that I wasted my own time and I should've seen this much earlier. With all this said, my plans of marriage with her have completely been derailed. I don't know what to do? Not sure if this helps...I am in my 30s, financially secured. She is in her late 20s. Both of us graduated from college. I make more than her. Thanks a lot!

I married my husband about 5 years ago, though I have been with him since we were in our late teens, so about 14 years, He is one of the kindest people I know and I love him dearly. We both have great careers, own a house, and we are trying to start a family. My in-laws are very nice to me. They help watch our dog when we go away, they are supportive of us, and they don't meddle in our business. However, they are a source of a TON of stress. About 3 years ago my father in law, the provider, lost his job. He has had a ton of medical issues, so now he is on disability. He never had a high salary though, so he doesn't get a lot. My mother in law lost her job about 6 years ago and never went back to work, except when she works seasonally for a local small business, that doesn't make her much. They are not educated and have trouble finding work. They tell us not to worry, but we do. Right now, they are in a huge ordeal with their mortgage. They tried for a modification and things went awry, so now there are about 20 different people in a battle with a mortgage company. Lawyers are involved, etc., but it is messy. Their house is in "pre-foreclosure" according to a few internet sites. Basically, I am worried. My mother in law said she would love to sell one day and move into a TRAILER. That scares me because the trailer parks near us can be scary and I don't know if I want my kids visiting there. I feel like my husband and I can't enjoy our lives because we constantly have to worry about his parents. I worry they won't have a home, or they won't get their act together, or they won't be okay. I want to focus on me, and my husband, and starting a family; NOT on helping his parents. I love my husband, but sometimes think it is too much to be with him because of his parents. I WANT to be with him though, I love him. Advice please? They have made some other poor decisions in their lives (got arrested, etc.) and my husband and I try to live our lives differently. However, I feel like we get sucked in to drama. I want to concentrate on making a happy life with my husband, but feel like we get dragged down by some of this. His parents TRY not to bring us into it, but we aren't stupid and can tell when something is up. Then, we talk to them and they tell us what is happening and it is stressful. What advice does anyone have? My husband tells me to concentrate on us and they're grown adults and can solve their problems.However, they sometimes make poor decisions, so I have trouble with that. I guess I always feel that WE will be responsible for taking care of them, or paying for them. I said we have great careers, but we don't make a lot of money. Living with them is not an option. They do not have the same lifestyle we have; 1 ex.: sometimes his dad smokes pot (not illegal where we live) and we don't agree with it.

my husband and i have been married for 6 years. lately we've fighting about something very serious . yesterday we'd been fighting all morning by the after noon we were tired and went our separate ways. we didn't talk for hours. around 11 pm i got hungry and started making dinner. as i was looking in the fridge he came behind me and grabbed me. kissed me neck and started rubbing my thigh. i told him no even tho i kinda wanted it, i guess he could scene that. he raised up my gown, i said no again and i told him sex wasn't gonna fix anything. he kept going and pushed me against the wall. and had sex with me. was this rape

I'm living on couches, I just got a new job but it's temporary n I make less than 500 a month. He on the other hand make about 12,000 a month. He has full custody n i visitation but I've cared for her every weekend until I got a new job. Now he's bitter about it and took the car back and sets up times with my daughter but harassed me everyday I'm not with her. Can he take my little bit of money? I get food stamps too. No rent yet but I haven't even got my first check yet either.

I'm 23. I would go jogging everyday in my neighborhood and this attractive woman would always be outside working. Every time I would jog she would check me out. She was so obvious about it. I never gazed upon her too much, because she was married. One day I was jogging and she came jogging up next to me. She said she admired how good of shape I was in and asked if I would let her jog with me so she could get back into shape. I said ok. After a we got done jogging she asked if I would come in and help her lift something in her house. I was uneasy about it because she was married but I agreed to help her. When we got inside I helped her lift a cabinet and move it. She told me she had separated from her husband but was not officially divorced yet. She told me she was 37 years old and had a 20 year old daughter in college. She asked me if I was doing anything that weekend. I said no. She invited me over. I said ok. When I came over that weekend we ate and talked. One thing led to another and she started kissing me and then she was on top of me and we had sex. We have been seeing each other for about 3 months now. She wants to either move in me or have me move in with her. I had her move in with me. She is so good looking for an older woman. She is charming and the sex is good, but I know her husband left her because she cheated on him and a lot of people say she is crazy. What if she did the same to me? I broke up with my girlfriend just to be with her. Have I been seduced?

I'm just so in love with hubby but he got drinking problems and gonna stay that way no matter what . In 24 and he 25. Can I still stay with him without being so miserable ? I don't want to leave him but should I for my happiness?

My wife and I have been married for a little more than 2 years. She's 26 and graduating medical school next month, and I'm 34. Before getting married she said she didn't want children, and I told her I was fine with them or without them. When I came home from work one day she was sobbing on the couch, I asked her what was wrong and found out she was pregnant. I was ecstatic, however she was adamant that she didn't want children and asked me how I felt about abortion. I am against it. My wife isn't eating or talking to me very much. We sat down and had a conversation in which I asked her about her fears: she said that she didn't want to lose her figure/gain weight, give up her medical career, or give up her lifestyle. She's a recovered bulimic and anorexic, with a history of self-harm and I told her that if her past was worrying her it shouldn't be because I would fully support her through the pregnancy, however, I want her to keep the child. She left the table sobbing and moved out of our bedroom. I make enough for her to stay at home with the child, and if she wants to go and do her residency later I'll support her. I told my sister who suggested that she was nervous and to make her more excited (babysit my niece, buy baby things, etc). My wife thinks I'm forcing her. I offered to go to her 1st appointment with her and she told me "that won't be necessary" with no explanation as to why not. I'm worried and don't know what to do. I would offer to stay home in lieu of her, but the money she'd make being a doctor isn't enough to pay either of our mortgages, our cars, or sustain our lifestyle.

Sex with high school kids?

Hubby drinks a lot in a week such as one bottle in a night and 3 glasses the next day. He says thing he doesn't mean and it scared me . Very manipulating such as one night he drink 2glass of wine and 4 beers. He was manipulating me on i sleep on the bed with him or he sleeps on the floor with me .. I avoided him then he sleeps on the floor and I wish he wouldn't . It makes me worried . My hubby won't give up drinking for me so he persuaded me to drink yet I'm not a drinking. And he intruduced me to smoking as well but I don't smoke . I'm 24 and he 25 .. It's been a year with no sex and I'm still waiting for it .. But I know marriage isn't about sex so that's ok . I'm stuck should I leave him because he am acholic ? Things aren't that bad right now but I'm afraid things will be if he doesn't go sober anytime soon .. Will it ?

I am having major surgery this week and it has me thinking a lot today. I have 2 children by different fathers. The babies live with me and we don't go through any kind of legal system because we all get along well for the children. Not married to either of them. I need to know if it is possible and how would I go about giving my parents custody if something was to ever happen to me. Where would I start? If something were to ever happen to me I want my kids to be raised together and safe. I don't want them split up not knowing my family or not knowing they ever had a sister. Both of my girls are my world. How can I give my parents custody if I was to ever die?

I hate my father's wife, she dislikes me. I want her to hate me, so that could, eventually, end up their marriage when my father gets to know the kind of fata-ss gold digger btch he's married to, that hates his kids. I'm not doing anything risky that makes my father prefer her over me, or lands me behind bars, Im not stupid

We've been married for 18months and I am considering divorce. My husband works in another country and makes more than twice what Imake. He pays the rent and I pay all other expenses related to our house since I am here. Its been 2 months since he last took a plane to see me, his wife! He only comes on weekends to see me and he says that 900$ is too much to spend on a ticket for 2 days. At the same time, he wont take a day or two off work to make it worth the price because he says he has lots of responsibilities at work (mind you, the price goes down if the stay is for more than 2 days). I tried everything; he had decided to book his tickets earlier to get better prices because he said I was right. He booked a month in advance for a lower fare, then the deadline arrived and he didnt buy the ticket and of course I am here alone. I am ANGRY!! I am a beautiful woman, in my late 20s. I am smart, polite, decent, independent, very fit and yes I am pretty!! Men are hitting on me all the time cause they know my husband is not with me. When he finds out about this, he goes angry and blames me for "showing my vulnerable side to almost Anyone" (which is NOT TRUE!) He rarely ever buys me any gift (I dont ask him for anythg because I feel that me asking might give him a heart attack.. Plus I dont need his gifts) When we go out he tries not to tip the waiter/valet Sometimes ge even asks for a small bottle of water instead of a big one at the restaurant and that makes me so ashamed! HELP!! I told him I cant continue living like this. He said this is what he has to offer because he has DECIDED he wanted to save 2000$ every month. He said "when I find a decent ticket fare, i will come see you" I am extremely offended. He prefers to save his money instead of seeing his wife. And please understand that i am not the demanding type of woman I just find it terribly offensive from him to put his wife and money on the same pedestal. I knw he has money. He is just being cheap. Help me plz

One of my dogs has seizures. I am really good about giving him his meds twice a day. However every once in a while I might fall asleep and forget, it happens rarely. When that happens the dog seizes. Last time I asked husband if he could help clean up the mess while I took the dog upstairs for a bath. Husband always has to blame me and remind me it's my fault. Even if his seizure has nothing to do with the meds, it's somehow my fault. I already feel bad that the dog is epileptic and also that I forgot the meds. Husband has forgotten the meds more than once himself. Is he being a jerk by blaming me every time?

Enough Trolls: I am worried about it, I feel it in my bones. He hasn't searched for teenporn or went on match.com since he met me. But he did tell me when he was 37 he was in a sexual relationship with an 18 year old. And he's vastly older than me as well. I just feel weird about him. I don't feel the same about him, like I don't really know him and lost respect for him. I am sad on so many levels about this. Rose: I only saw he searched teenporn on redtube and in between he was searching a show called Heartland, which stars a teenager. I think I saw redflags, like when I first met him he raved about this show called Heartland and made me look up the young actress Amber's pictures. Like he was making me look at a young woman he was masterbating to. I feel like I didn't listen to the signs.. Im so sad, I feel like I have to move out and live worse off but my spirit, body and mind are hurting, I did confront him, he says he did it before we met and why can't I see him as the man he's trying to be NOW. But it's the man he is now and how he acts in public that let me to search deeper. I must leave him because that's not the kind of man I want to be with. And when I did bring it up to him, he just says "what about what you do?" turns the tables on me. I am not Jesus either but I don't do that. I'm never going to find peace, am I?

My husband is 24 and I'm 32. I'm the youngest on my side of the family with 2 older sisters (the oldest is only 4 years older than me) who are all married. Every time we go to my parents' house everyone is given a bed and my husband and I are given a thin mattress on the floor. Before I married to him, I was given a bed. But the bed is now taken away. My family said my husband is young enough and sleeping on the floor won't matter for him. My husband and I are also made to sit at the "Kids' table" with my 5-8 year old second cousins. This year (for my parents' wedding anniversary), we will be bringing our newborn daughter and yet we are still being offered the floor. My husband said that he doesn't want to go to my parents' house anymore. My family doesn't like him b/c he's 8 years younger than me. They said it themselves. There's no other reasons, b/c he has a degree, a job, and he gets along okay with everyone, except my family. They dislike him despite everything I said. For my dad in particular, my husband must certainly be checked in the head for daring to marry a woman older than he is. I don't know how to make my family understands and behaves better??? Thank you.

husband moved out 6 months ago, and we are about to go thru divorce. We have been married for 9 years with 4 kids, things have gotten so bad here lately with finding out all the lies he hS hidden from me for whole marriage. Like forging my name on taxes for last several years, and found out he owes lot of money in back taxes for his buisness and not paid anything, numerous loans and bowing money from family that I have never known. Been hidden from anything financially, cause I found out he has couple other separate bank account and emails. Been gambeling and winning lots of money and never told me and so much more😞 I seriously feel like my whole marriage has been a lie. Every time I would ask about anything he would say we are fine buisness is good, I have everything under control. Well I was stupid to believe that cause he came to me right before he moved out and said we had to file bankruptcy, and during that time is when I found out about numerous loans and everything else that I feel dumb sitting in front of attorney cause I had no idea, but hey now it is all my fault I shojl have know and that I am a dumbass and many other names he has called me. He has a bad temper and daughter almost called police on him last week cause he was throwing and punching everything. We were all scared. I didn't call police but now I kind of wish I did, kids are scared of him and he keeps threatening me saying he will take kids, house and everyghing. What would you do?

After their divorce eighteen years ago, my mother quickly remarried and moved to the Middle East two years later. She didn't keep up on child support payments. My father and I tried to work with her to pay but she refused. I am wondering if it is too late (as a 20 yr. old) to get those payments when she returns to the States? The state the divorce was files in was Iowa.

As a singleton, I often fear that the married/coupled people I know will engage in "single shaming" (belittling or patronizing the singletons they know). Our society en-cultures us to disdain being single or un-married. Do you look down on singles if you're married? Do you respect your single friends, acquaintances, and family as equals?

I am poor as ****. Nobody likes me, nobody wants me. Is improving yourself a good idea? Like art, sports etc.

Been divorced for two years after my wife of 14 years had an affair and refused to work with me with a therapist. We have two kids with 50/50 custody. The kids go back and forth between homes a couple of times a week. Inevitably, the kids wear clothes to one home that the other parent bought. I regularly buy the kids new clothes. It isn't like one home is buying clothes while the other has none. On days when the kids are going to their mother's, I try to have them wear clothes that belong there that ended up at my home. My ex wife gets bent out of shape over the clothes. She thinks I'm sitting on a pike of her clothes and periodically asks to come in and search the home and bedrooms. I do have her over on a regular basis, but I don't like her snooping. I'm missing clothes, too and I expect some that I bought are likely at her house, in the wash and will make their way back here. Im not calling and asking about it or asking to search her bedrooms or laundry room. How do other divorced parents handle this situation? Its a problem for my ex...not me...but the drama it is causing is a problem for me.

Especially marriage? Doesn't seem worth ANY attention at all Personally I've never been with a "secure committed guy" who treated me Real special I'ma bit older, but I might look somewhat younger. When guys say their interest all I feel I can do is do what I Want to do, cuz guys never quite shown he's ready for a real relationship.. Advice?

I'm turning 30 in October and I don't know I feel like my family are dropping these hints on me that if I don't get married before my 30th birthday that "no man will want 30yrs old or older woman." I personally don't feel like i'm ready. I have not met anyone that I felt like I want to spend the rest of my life with. I don't want to make a mistake, be divorced, single mother, and depressed...etc. Any advice or suggestions on how to get my family to let me live my life.

Hi. Im struggling with life at the moment. I have been with my fiancé for 10 years . ( 5years engaged )our relationship has been great and we love each other so much and make each other laugh alot. He's the love of my life. Unfortunately we have been fighting and arguing the last few days over something that can easily be fixed . He's having none of me he's been ignoring me and not answeing the phone, I told him I don't no were I stand with hik and he said ' yeah I dunno wear you stand either ' he never texted back or rang . Im so upset I don't no what to do ? Why is he like this . When we had the fight he told me to 'forget him' but now he's saying he never said that ? But he did . He said ' i want to have fun' and ' relax ' but he said he dose want me ..but dosnt no where I stand ?!?! What should I do? Will I text him again or just leave him . Im so upset .I miss him. I just want our relationship again I don't want to fight about anything stupid. I don't want to keep chasing him ( I always try and solve things and he ignores me ) I hate not speaking to him though :( before the fight he was great with me ? I think I got upset a bit because lately he's been working more hours staying behind.. going out without me ..He's been buying clothes and haircuts ..and never takes me out and we haven't had sex in a while. He's been tired or I never see him ? He told me he loves me so much just a day before ..I just don't want to lose him but I no i shouldn't be treated this way

Me and girlfriend (yes we're a gay couple, if you want to judge you can quit reading this now) would like to get married when we're older and the job my girlfriend wants to get is called "criminal profiler", she's also thinking of being a criminal forensic, or criminal therapist.. And she wants to get a job in Florida which means we'd have to move down there. Apparently serial killers are commen down in Florida which concerns me because that's very dangerous especially with us having kids in the future and her being a criminal profiler or whatever. Does anyone have a husband or a wife that has a job like this? What's it like? Do you see your partner often or do they work all the time? Is it as dangerous as it seems? Does it ever cause problems in your marriage? Any other advice would be very appreciated. Thank you!

My wife said she was in the mood. So what happened? She proceeded to put on her usual video and then I couldn't finish her orally. Even afterwards. So she said my kissing was sh*t and if I couldn't make her orgasm we would gave a problem. That sums up 7 years with her. This is not the first tome this has happened. I have been trying for years to have nornal intimacy and foreplay. At 31, I would like to feel like a man in chsrge and able to lead his woman. Instead my pay is low and even that affects my confidence. The last words out of her mouth were "you can go now and what you like, I will finish myself"... Just like that she dismissed me like trash. I think this is the last straw for me. The treating me like an object. The lack of respect. It is just too much. Does anyone have anything to say about yhe way she acted and spoke to me? Just now I came to the bed and she was trying to hig me and say how much she still loves me and that I know what her anger is like...

He wants to live on a farm, be self-sufficient. I always saw myself as a working woman, maybe with kids, living in a city. He says he wants me to be happy but what if our needs and desires are so far off? Has anyone else experienced something like this? Did it work out for you? I love him so much and I'm just so terrified of losing him

I'm not just talking about love marriages but also arranged marriages as well.

I'm just asking this because some people need to learn that it is my decision I just want some input. My and my fiance are already getting married July 25th. But I want to know. We've been together 5 years and love each other a lot. I'm 18, He's 23. Yes you did your math right. We started dating when I was 14 and he was 18. -.- moooving on. we've been through so much together. We've conquered the bad and celebrated the best. I can't see myself with anyone but him and vice versa. Some people that don't even know me are saying I shouldn't get married at 18. Which to get technical I'll be 19 when we get married. So what's your input.

So I have a fetish for piercings on women but my wife doesn't have any. I still love her and I wouldn't cheat on her. Should I tell her and see if she'll get any or would this make her self conscious?