I am in my mid twenties & this has happened to me four times. One when I was in high school. I was friends with a woman who was a cheerleader. She was really attractive & I liked her a lot but after I told her how I felt, she stopped talking to me & shortly she moved away without saying goodbye or anything. Ever since then that always happens to me & it really hurts me a lot. When a woman comes into my life & makes me happy & I want to make her feel special. They get the hint or enough attention & disappear from my life. Some tell me they're not interested which is fine since I want to be friends but they don't want to be friends anymore since they think that the friendship mite change into a relationship. This just happened to me again. I met this woman at a lounge. We danced & had a lot in common & we both fond each other attractive. We text & hangout but then she realized she just didn't want to be in a relationship & now she doesn't want to be friends & yet again another woman has disappeared from my life & I'm just depressed now. I don't know? does this happen a lot or is this common with women? Or is it my fault? To be honest I kinda don't want to be with a woman in fear this will happen again....

On one hand I really love this baker's rack..flip side reminds me of our kitchen..I will go with what answers I receive this may sound silly but..I just cant decide which would be better..Should I let him have it or keep it.

Who is not your wife? Is she cool about your friend? How do you keep your wife from getting jealous and not suspicious?

If so how was it? Was it better then sex with the wife? Did you regret it afterwards?

If narcissistic spouses keep you around because you are weak, don't demand anything from them, and expect you to cater to their every need; would switching the paradigm and being strong, demanding, and not doing anything they say put the narcissist in their place so they know that you aren't going to put up with that crap? If so, then shouldn't narcissistic personality disorder just be renamed "Alpha/beta syndrome"? They seem to love the fight to make everything about them; so telling them what to do short circuits their brain and they have to now realize that their grandiosity that they are hot sh*t isn't going to work any more and there's a new sheriff in town. Your thoughts?

On a humorous note I wish I knew she shed like crazy and the wads of hair in the shower are not actually a dead rodent. On a serious note I wish I knew why exactly she and her brother had a falling out. I thought it was none of my business when we were just dating, but feel closer now knowing the real story. How about you?

We just bought a new home. We cannot move into the new home for 3 weeks yet because there is some work that needs to be done. In the meantime, my husband wants to sleep at the new home instead of at our current home where HIS mother, myself and our cats and dogs will be staying. This would be fine I guess but he has a mentally unwell brother that has been threatening us because he wants his mom's money. My husband was concerned enough that he made a police report and then bought a gun to defend himself should his brother come and attack us. (My husband has not wanted a gone ever before, but this brother has been violent in the past and has a felony charge and a bunch of weapons :( ). Anyhow, shouldn't my husband want to stay home and protect US...rather than leave us so can go protect an insured, empty home??? (His brother does not know the location of the new home, it's more that my husband is just concerned about leaving it empty.) He has done stuff like this before...Like he'll say "Oh, I hope I locked the garage because I wouldn't want someone to steal my gym stuff." Instead of worrying about the cats or dogs being taken or hurt!! It seems to me he values things more than his family. Is this trait common to many men or no? Thank you.

Like do you even compliment him or her anymore or did the ring exchange demote them to old news?

and your spouse was sitting up in bed eating Oreo cookies? In the dark?

We have had huge arguments over his drinking and weed problem, and him not spending quality time with me (he is always "hanging out" in the garage with other weed smokers and drinkers and it disgusts me). He totally disregards my concerns that it is illegal and I don't want it anywhere on my property. The other night he came in drunk and smelling of weed. Something just went bizurk in me and told him I was going to turn him and his friends into the police. I pretended I was calling the police with my cell phone and turning him in (I don't think I would ever have the guts to actually do that.) I didn't expect what happened next. He came up to me scary angry looking. Started yelling at the top of his lungs (I don't fully remember what,something like don;t ever pretend to call the cops on me again you c*nt. He said he was going to break my cell phone in pieces. I walked away from him, he followed. My internal instincts were telling me to drop to the floor (I was afraid he would push me to the floor and I would get hurt). I got to the floor on all fours and he started pushing down on my back to get me to the floor. I hit my forehead and I remember thinking "how hard did I hit my head, not bad, no concussion". Then, he kept pushing and I was trying to not hit my head on the floor. I went down gently by supporting myself with my arms. He then started screaming in my ear and it hurt, so, I covered my ear with my hand. He then, pulled my hand away and was trying to turn my head so he could yell in my ear. All I wanted to do was protect my hearing and prevent that, so, I struggled. I tried getting up and struggled against him trying to turn my head side ways. He then put his fingers into my spine at the neck area and clutched my head with his other hand, painfully digging his nails into my temple and back. I was afraid I would die from a temple injury (I later read you can also kill someone from where he was pushing on my neck). At that point I stopped struggling and completely laid down in the floor and his hands were no longed digging into me.I let him grab my ear and scream into it - it started hurting so I turned my head to look up at him and he stopped finally. I got up. He came back and threw me against the wall twice and choked me. He kept saying he was going to break my phone into pieces. I got away and looked outside. I think a neighbor saw everything, it happened in front open door. I told him a neighbor saw everything. At that point, he stopped and said "look what you did, you don't know what you did, now I will have to work the rest of my life" (I think he was talking about us talking about buying a house and starting a B&B, he meant that won't happen now). He moved in with his drinking buddies a half block away. I asked him to come get his stuff. He said he would MOnday. I told him Monday is not good, I have too much going on. He has not called or texted back. I am just wondering, should I be scared? What will he do next? (We own a house together, all his stuff is in the house.) I did tell him I was injured, concussion, vertabrae damage and doctors know, neighbors heard and saw everything and I have pictures of the brusies and I can still turn him in if I wanted to so he better not lay a pinky finger on me because neighbors are watching. I am just wondering why no communication about getting his stuff and what is he capable of. .. and I told him it is over, finito, done. My one ear has been ringing since it happened three days ago. A lot better today, but I am afraid I may have sme hearing damage. Doctor said "hopefully that comes back". He never showed up Monday to get his stuff after I told him Monday is not a good day. However, he hasn;t responded to me at all. Do you think he had a reason to attack me for pretending to call the cops on him?

My husband makes a good salary, about 130k a year, but we live in an expensive area. He bought a brand new sports car last year for 70k, plus leased a honda civic so he can drive in the winter. Now he wants to trade it in for a Porsche! We don t have kids, but isn t this crazy? We are paying off a mortgage on a townhouse with no property. I don t have a problem if he wanted to get a 50k or 60k Audi for example, but a Porsche to drive to and from work?? Please tell me if I am overreacting. I don t want to smash my husbands dreams but I also want us to spend money fairly reasonably. He says our dogs rack up vet bills and if it were up to him we wouldn t have dogs, so that s my expense. Want to add the Porsche will be 80k after taxes and fees And he couldn't afford this on his own without my salary which is decent as well

So i came on here with what i feel like is a stupid question but here goes. Me and my husband have been married for a week and dating for almost a year. Since weve been living together which has been the last 2 months ive become aware of how much he masturbates, while we were dating our sex life wasnt that strong, i mean we would have sex maybe once a week, which at the time i assumed was an age thing on his part, hes 41. The times that we did have sex he would struggle to ejaculate also. Now im pretty attractive 37 year old woman, not to sound conceited but i have men picking up on me almost daily. He tells me how beautiful i am all the time also, he does work hard physical labor and usually when he gets home drinks 3-4 beers which is why he says he has trouble finishing sometimes. Now that we live together i have noticed him watching porn on the bathroom before leaving for work in the mornings and he has admitted to jacking off. He was single for a year before we met and i chalked it up to him having a bad habit he said he was struggling to stop. Now that its an issue its totally tainted the times that we do have sex, which is usually in the morning also, he has never pleased me in bed and not really tried either, he usually just wants oral from me and we will have intercourse for five minutes after that, and its a routine. I am a very sexual person prior to this in past relationships also very open to new things and experiences. I fell in love with this man and told myself that sex wasnt the number one priority but its starting to affect my self confidence, im beginning to think its me and maybe hes not attrcted to me. We didnt even have sex on our wedding night, he got drunk and stoned to celebrate and that was that. Its funny as im typing this its making me realize how bad it really is and wonder why i married him. Its almost like its laziness and easier to just jack off, but he says he feels like a let down as a man for never pleasing his woman and having this hot wife and hes in the other room masturbating. Ive offered multiple time to watch porn with him while having sex and he always says no, and does not feel comfortable with me watching it either. Im not sure what to do next, should i just leave it alone and take what i should get or make it an issue that will cause fighting and i think more pressure and awkwardness, some advice please???

No, I seriously don't get it. Why does she want a guy who basically treats her like an object/pet? I'm seriously dumbfounded.... Is this just proof that "nice guys finish last"? :/ I was conditioned by Happy-2, sheloves_dablues, Babehart, Pearl, Starfish, Katie, Madoka, swbarnes2, and a bunch of other regulars to believe in "respect" and to believe love was this partnership. And here my wife is acting receptive to me just basically treating her like a sidekick? This goes against everything I learned from Y!A University and it just goes to show that Ryde_0n knows more about relationships than the regulars! And Jay talks about sex, which made me hate sex, but now I realize that I should have just had sex and not trusted anyone else's advice... What did I learn from all this: After learning about "romance" b|tches be crazy.

Me and my husband got married back in 2011 and have a 3 year old daughter. Since we moved in we have 4 aparents getting evicted . And stayed two times my parents and one time with his uncle. And a friend. He staying in a men's alcoholic center where he pays , he's been there for almost three weeks. He hasn't managed to save money but he misses his daughters. He has a daughter with his ex too. Well my questions how long do people stay in those places? And how do I stop this anxiety I feel? My parents don't like him and constantly talk bad about him.( Me and my daughter live with my parents)

I hate this, but at this point I feel I need to do behavior modification with my wife and kids. You don't think this is necessary? Come up with your own solution to problems when respect/love and logic/reason doesn't work; and when you do, tell me them so I can start to do them. I know the point of behaviorism is to reward behavior you want to see and discourage the behavior you don't want to see. People do this with dogs, children, low level workers, and people you're dating; I just never agreed with it because I think it is controlling and manipulative. But I honestly don't think there's any solutions that would work right now. So what rewards do you use with your spouse when they do something you like? What discouragements do you use to disable your spouse's behavior and make it clear that "that's not okay"? Also, where can I practice this behavior modification to sharpen this skill?

My husband and I have been together for 5 years married almost 4. We have a 5 month old son and live with his family (mom and brother.) Right now we aren't financially able to live on our own and his family and I are very different people (my husband and I are also very different.) I'm not happy living here, ever since I had my son I've been down right fed up with it. I endure it because I know we can't afford not to live here. My husband confessed to me the other day that he didn't want to get a place and me still be unhappy. I understand that he means that if we're happy here we can be happy anywhere. I've been wondering lately how much of living with his family is the problem and how much is just us as a couple. I feel like I'm at a dead end. We've been arguing a lot lately and have even contemplated therapy (which we can't really afford.) I'm really needing some outside insight here. Also, my husband is totally OK with everything, his biggest concern is my unhappiness. We love each other but we can't seem to agree on anything.

My ex-husband has been filling my 16 year old sons head with false information about myself. I do owe a little child support, and stay at home to care for my other 2 daughters while my fiancée works and helps support. Now, my ex has been making my son come home at 4 o clock on Sundays just because he was 10 minutes late the most recent time (and he made him go home at 5, when I'm almost sure it's 8) so now he says he'd like to live with me because of multiple legitimate reasons, can we make it happen?

If I'm alone from my husband for any period of time he accuses me of cheating on him. It's gotten to the point that I have to go to work with him and sit in the car from 4am Until 12pm. I am bored and tired and I don't even have a bathroom. But if I don't go he comes home in a rage and and tells me that I was cheating on him the entire time he was working. I feel stupid and trapped for marrying a man 15 years older than me. I do work.... I bartend. The times I do work he will sit at my bar watching me the entire time. It makes me uncomfortable. He won't let me go to the store alone. I tried to last night and he grabbed my car keys. I just left the house to walk to get food and he followed me in his car the whole way there and back.... He never lets me see my family. I've lost touch with my friends. I feel so sad. I just cry.... I Don't have anywhere else to go. I'm stuck. He doesn't hit me. He will just accuse me of doing horrible things and that I just cheat on him.... Which I don't. Not even once. He is ruining my life. I am only 22 and should be happy.... How can I get my husband to trust me?

According to quizzes online, I have a low emotional intelligence. I don't know enough (care enough) about the empathetic culture in America to properly handle my wife's emotions. What do you suggest I do to improve my empathy? I listen, I don't offer solutions, I let them use me as an emotional punching bag, and I give them a compliment; what more do emotional people want?!?!?

im getting married in 4 weeks and have noticed I have a low sex drive. My fiancé hates it and I dont know what to do!!Help?

Me and my partner (5years) are having a huge fight . He lied to me about something which hurt me..and he knows what he done but won't Owen up to it. He's been fighting with me all day, I tryed to stop the arugment and just talk nicely to him, but he kept saying ' whatever, I dont care what you have to say, I'm fed up, etc' he wouldn't see me before work I miss him and he was like ' your so selfish ' I asked could I see u tonight? He said ' nah ill be tired ' but just there I seen on facebook he's going out drinking? ! That hurt . I texted him and said what's that about and he said ye I wanna relax and not have u annoye me. He told me tho HE wants to be with and he loves me. But I'm just feeling so upset and unwanted right now. The way he's been speaking to me no one just have to listen to that. He keeps saying i have ' problems with him' I don't ..but I don't want him lying to me. Obviously I'm going to confront a lier ? But he never says sorry or even relise what he dose. To him he's ALWAYS the good guy. I don't want to keep fighting with him but I don't think he should be let away with what happened including the way he's been treating me all day. When he's not like this he's lovely. If I say something like ' can I see u on your day off tomo ' he's like ' STOP LISA!!!!' ' YOUR DOING MY HEAD IN ' I would never say that to anyone. I'm very confused he claims he wants me and loves me. How can I put my foot down ? What should I say and do ? That won't cause a fight ? X

My wife and I married for 3 years and together for 7 years. We have two boys (3 and 5). During the 7 years together, I have been taking care of her and her mom (lives with us for almost 6 years and just moved back to her home out of state). Her mom and I start having problem couple years later because she was dominate and wants to be the queen of the house and that is how we start not getting alone. Problem start when she starts to cover her phone and not wanting me to see it. One day, I found that she was in one of her customer's apartment. and I start check on her and I found out she was flirting with few other guys as well. It took us about 6 months to get back to normal. It has been two years since our fight. In December, she took a work from home job and start her training for 5 weeks. She met this guy and start talking to him and distant from me. Now she decided to separate and need time to think what she wants. She goes out almost every night until 2 or 4 am and I am the one watch the kids every night. She even introduce the kids to this guy. Take them to the park and movie. She sleep in a different room but still using the master room to shower and kept everything there. She is even naked in front of me and doesn't worry my feeling. We have not have any sex since December and we don't even talk much now. I am still paying all the bills including her mom's cell phone. I still love her but I really confuse what I want to do.

I can update this question with more background info on my husband as this question gets answered.? I was married a few weeks ago and as a present to me my husband revealed that years ago after he lost his job he had a lot of free time on his hands and he wanted to write to his future spouse. Basically like what marriage meant to him and how much he knew he would love me some day. Some days he included movies he wanted to watch with me, articles on marriage, love poems etc. He said he made the crazy promise that he would always send something once a day until he found me and he always did. he sais he hoped it would represent his undying love for me and that he never gave up looking for me. He also had friends that had been married and divorced and he realized that in writing to me how important I was and that if he ever were to forget or if we ever hit a rough patch this would remind me what its really all about. I was very shocked and happy that he did this. I was just curious if any other husbands had done this for their wife and even if not how would you feel? I am sorry what Alison? No I don't mind romance lol Ecletic what do you mean his insecure about losing me?

Ok so I've been with him 6 years on off some years he was a habitual cheater maybe still cheats who knows I stop caring.. Married only a month. I swear it seems like his penis shrunk and it was already barely big enough to enjoy. We fight like cats and dogs who have a vengeance. He loves me he tries to do thinga right. Just not sex it's boring but he does one thing ok enough. I don't want to write all our issues just know I have communication issues and he has an I'm smarter than you way of talking and will remind anyone how smart he is. Anyway I don't feel the same especially sexual for him. He has even been able to tell by my recent poor sex performance I'm never turned on except when he does that one thing but even then im concentrating to death to orgasm. i know how painful cheating is he's hurt me over 2 dozen times. I just want to feel passion and happiness.. I can't with him. Idk what to do.

Hello, my name is Kelly, I am from Korea. I have 2 teenage kids and here in U.S. have no friends or families. I don't know how to handle this and can't believe he used me for money and left me when I was still at work.

I've been with husband 10yrs married 7yrs. He is a good dad mostly but is terrible to me..he isn't as close to his family as they use him n only call on him when they want money /help..i try to maintain a relationship with in laws even tho they hate me as I'm not the same religion as them and they favor their new daughter in law..i had surgery a few days ago and they didn't call or come to see me but a few days later other daughter in law got ill n they are at her side.. my husband didn't help me at all after surgery i still had to cook n clean while he played games on his phone.i stay at home while he works for now and he accuses me of spending all his money even tho I just pay bills and grocery with his money..im not allowed to keep money home as he says I'd spend it.but he gives money freely to his family .he belittled me for the sake of his family when i ask about it..he calls me fat and stupid even tho I'm a size 2 and hold a bsc in engineering .he insults my family calls them names behind their backs even though they do a lot for him..he curses at me in front of our son and even my little 6yr old said we should leave and that daddy hates me :( ..my family loves him to death as they don't know what I'm going through and i don't want them worrying over me..but I don't know how much more I can take .

Now the credit card company is suing him and i. I took the papers to my lawyer. Well since it states in my decree he suppose to be taking care of it she wants me to take him back to court for contempt. My question is it even worth doing this the contempt? I have to go to court on another day to explaining why I shouldn t be stuck with it or get my wages garnisheed. She thinks taking him to court for contempt will help me out. Will the judge give him a chance to comply ? He does have a job and says hes going to take care of it, but is secretive about it.

Today I've decided I'm going to throw everything out the window that I "thought I learned" about my wife and start over. Figuring out how to manage her emotions is my new priority but I need your help to figure out a good strategy... Here's what I know of my wife: *She's an introvert and does not make her emotions obvious until it is too late and has an eruptive temper tantrum that no one could have predicted. *She's not assertive and assumes that I "should know" what she's feeling since she assumes I see reality through the same lens that she does (typically no two people see the same reality - that's why we have juries and not JUST a judge). *She has obscure beliefs that almost seem written on the spot and based on how she's feeling; if you ask her what her beliefs are she won't know since they come and go with the wind. *When she's being social, she tries to follow what her mood tells her; this makes her easily manipulated by other people's emotions or by what she saw on the internet (like those inspirational memes). Once an idea is in her head it is hard to get it out. *She has very low impulse control which is the REAL reason why I go shopping and not her; when she goes shopping with me, we end up buying a LOT of things we don't need. *When she is stressed she prefers to be alone on the computer until the stress goes away; this is actually UNproductive though because she ends up asking for a backrub afterwards. What tips could you offer me so far? "COMMUNICATION" ---- Communication doesn't work when she is so out of touch with herself. I've asked her what she's feeling and what she's thinking and she can't formulate the words. It is honestly a huge waste of time trying. I have long discussions with her and she's unable to talk about herself but she can talk about everyone around her. It's like her "self" doesn't exist. I believe this to be a result of her Christian and abused upbringing but I can only assume. So no, talking doesn't help. "WHY DID YOU MARRY THEN?" --- Ad hominem attacks only show your lack of logic... I'll answer this question though. We met at 19/20 and just stayed together sense. I'm 32 now and have had a LOT of changes. She's 33 now and she is proud that she has mostly stayed the same (no growth). "YOU DON'T LOVE/ACCEPT HER" ---- This couldn't be further from the truth. I love her as a person, but I also dislike her as a person. Since she is never consistent and her identity changes based on her mood she is never the same person in the same day. One moment and we are having a great time, the next she's in my face because I violated a personal belief of hers. She is the only person I have this problem with so I know it isn't me. I stick around for the Dr. Jekyll, but I hide from Mr. Hyde. "YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HER EMOTIONS" ---- I totally agree with you. But if she refuses to be responsible for them, then I feel like I have to be. Example: If her intuition tells her something bad is going to happen (but the probability is extremely low) she will live in fear. There's something undeveloped here, she needs someone managing her life/stress for her. This is what I mean. Some people don't WANT protection, but some people NEED protection....

The nosiness of my internal thought process is beside the point. I know an affluent couple who are 38 and 39, seem very happy together, have been married 11 years, but no kids! Is it safe to assume a couple who fits that bill doesn't have kids because they *don't* want any? Good lord would they make a cute kid... ETA: Hi Steve-O! Nice to see you back :)

My wife and I had some issues in the past, and after going to marriage counceling our marriage is amazing. A few nights ago she told me she thinks it would be good for me to sleep with someone else. At first I was excited, then I had my doubts. After talking to her more she assured me it would not affect our relationship, and after the past year I believe her. My wifes only rule is if its a mutual friend it stay between me and said friend. We have a friend that im wanting to bring the topic to, but im unsure how to do so. I dont want to freak her out but I atleast want her opinion on the subject. Any suggestions? Please, only legit answers.

Only answer this if you are HAPPILY married. To all married women who are happily married: how did you find your husband? I want to find a great guy so bad, but it's so hard. Most guys are just jerks.I want to be with a guy that loves me and treats me well. I want to be with someone who thinks I'm beautiful in every way. I want someone to have something truly special with The movies make it seem like it's so easy to find someone like that, but those people are so hard to come by. I feel like guys like that are 1 in a thousand. How can I find a guy like that? How did you find a guy like that? How much crap did you have to go through before you found him

First I want to say that I do *not* believe in stereotypes. So if any of you want to discuss them we can, but just because she's a woman doesn't mean she HAS to be emotional. So here's how this came about.... I'm driving to work after a morning where she was running late and I was ready. In the car, I'm trying to talk out the morning to sort out why things played out the way it did. Conversation is calm but she gradually becomes heated as she blames me for being "in her way" when it was her turn to shower (not true). She was fueling the fire and only seeing things through her point of view... Realizing that this was going no where I asked her why she's in survival mode all the time. She said she's not and went on to say that I need to stop falsely accusing her of things (which is true). I followed this up with "Well, who are you then? What SHOULD I be thinking?" and she said "I don't know". I replied: "Then how could I be wrong about you if you don't know what's right about you?". She was silent. I finally popped the title question, explaining that we are all 4 things but we tend to prefer one of them over the rest (MBTI). I asked her which she is the most and she tried to avoid it. I pressed on. After giving her mine, she blew up on me and said "I'm not going to pick one. I don't have to. You aren't the boss of me." Mind you, she's 33. I fail to see any spiritual respect, self perceptiveness, and objective analysis here. My wife is mostly emotional. Would you agree? Ryde brings up a good point. When a person is anxious from running late, it is probably not a good time to quiz someone... While I agree with this, I was the driver and there was nothing she was in control of at that point. Also, she is in a CONSTANT state of anxiety; so there's really no good time to discuss things with her. She only feels safe/calm in the comfort of her own home; to me, this only speaks even more volumes of her emotional preference.

I'm engaged to my daughters' father. We just got back together a few months ago and I have always loved him even when we were broken up. But the part my mother is concerned about is that when we were apart he didn't do much for our daughters financially and she has had to pay for a lot of stuff including my oldest daughter's soccer registration and their after school care but that's because he didn't have a good job or a lot of money. He has a better job now and I think he will do better plus he really love me and dumped his crazy ex girlfriend so we can be together again. But my mom's opinion means a lot to me so I'm conflicted on what to do about getting married. Right now we are supposed to be getting married this summer. I'm not sure what to do. We, well I at least I was) really young when we first got together which is part of the reason why we broke up. We were first together when I was 16.

My problem are: Can I divorce my husband that he lied to me that I found after few years that he is sterile/ infertility? Can I get divorce here in Massachusetts US even we are married in my country? Can I get alimony if I pursued my divorce to him? Can I get a green card if I pursued my divorce? My status to come here is only a B2 VISA and I want to work BC he's frugal. My husband have a Cancer that's why I come here in the states. he is US citizens. He never petition me after we get married. I come here this year 2015. If I divorce him can I ask the judge for my permanent status,so that I will not depend on him? My husband his very frugal, thrifty, not good provider even he lied to me, for many yrs. I tried to convinced many before we get married to sperm count analysis but he kept refused. He is the one who hold and controlled what to do. He hide everything from me his savings accounts and etc... We married for 17yrs, no child because I really don't know dat he is sterile / infertile, I only know that he told me the truth yr 2009 that he is infertility. That's why he refused to hve sperm count analysis before we get married and he really knows why I get married to him bc of the reason to have our own . He is very frugal, controlled over me, thrifty, not good provider since before. My marriage is unhappy. I really dont know the law here. In my country only annulment not divorce. I don't have penny in my pocket. I only depend on him. Sorry for my english. Thanks!

When my husband and I first met I was thin and in shape. We were very sexually active. Then I got pregnant and gained weight. I struggled for 5 years to get back to my pre pregnancy weight. Happily I have succeeded and reached that weight. While we were dating he would say such sweet things randomly. Like when he was looking at me I would say what, and he would say "nothing, you are just beautiful". However that stopped while I was heavier. I thought that maybe that was just because now he knew he had me and didn't need to impress me anymore. But now that I am thinner again he says that same stuff again. He is also suddenly a lot more interested sexually. Of course I am happy that he is attracted to me once more. But in some ways it hurts that he was so stand offish physically while I was heavy. Am I being too sensitive or would this hurt you too?

What qualities do you look for in a woman when deciding to get married? Or realize she is a keeper? In addition to my question, if you find a woman who gets along with your mom, treats her like her own mom, treats your family as her own and your family adored her is that a plus? Is family or parent approval a big thing?

I been cheating on husband for a couple of years, and developed a relationship with another men, that I have been seeing regularly for at least 3 years. My husband was great, but this guy was a up and coming musician, and as any woman can tell you, it is impossible for any woman to resist one, if they start flirting with you. However, his band hasn't made it big, and honestly, he needs to grow up and realize that he just doesn't have it. Unfortunately, at a bar two days ago, were we go all the time, I was caught by a mutual of both my husband and I. He told me I have a week to come clean, or he will tell my husband himself. Now I am not sure what to do, my exboyfriend is no use, since its clear he is going to make it big, and so I can't turn to him. The truth is, that this was really all my husbands fault, all he did was just be Mr. Perfect. He had/has a steady job, makes alright money, never starts fights, and is too understand, and very trusting. The truth is, that no woman wants that, we want something more than that in a relationship, and he needs to understand that. What do I do, to make him understand this, and that this is the reason I had an affair. Please help me.

paid child support. She does not have custody they never went to court and both at the time mutually agreed their child live with the dad and she can get visits. That was because she left him for another man and didn't think it was right to take their child away from his dad just because she didn't want to be with him. So that was their agreement. No courts. Anywats that was 6 years ago and she has never fought us custody and seems fine that their child still mainly lives with us. She is married and has kids with that man but during all this time she hasn't been made to pay child support. She is once again a stay home mom and I think she should get a job and pay. The agreement they had was she pays for their kid when she has him and he pays when he has him. My husband makes over 169,000 a year. She makes ZERO. Can the courts make her get a job if we decide to go for child support. Can they make her husband pay? I hVe never heard of a mother not wanting full custody even though her words are she doesnt want to have their child being shuffled back and forth. She sees him on weekends. She pays no real child support. Nothing was ever ordered but still. And no I'm not spiteful or jealous of her. Why would I be? She cheated on him and she should have to pay child support!

Yes it is all very popular "transference". I am seeing a therapist for a year now and I started to fall in love w/him..why because I feel chemistry w/him. From the first day I saw him I realized he is someone I can have chemistry with. So I told him about my feeling of love toward him and that it is hard for me to deal w/these feelings. He said he is dealing w/it himself. So he tells me that he thinks about me and that I should keep seeing him and that we can work through this. Gosh, what does he want and the more I see him, the more I am in love w/him. It is so hard to quit, but should I stop seeing him? It is two way attraction but he says it does not work because we are both married and also for ethical reasons because he is my therapist. So why does he keep wanting to see me? What would you do in my place? Please don't be rude. last session I asked him what to do., In reply he asked me "what do you like to do?" I said I like to date you. Then he asked me what do you feel like right now and I said I like to kiss you. We started at each other for a long time then he said he can't. I am so confused. If I quit therapy can we date right away? I don't get him.