A spank here and there 😈

I have worked hard for my cash & I have had a hard life with my abusive folks, & I HATE, HATE the idea of being at someone else's economic mercy. Also, if my husband loses his job because of illness/injury or such, I think I'd be too stressed out financially supporting him. I won't leave him, however, I won't feel happy supporting him. Likewise, I won't want a joint bank account with him. Is it okay to remain single forever? Sorry, but my money means a lot to me, and I am NOT willing to risk losing it to a man because he turned out to be a jerk, and I will be stressed out supporting him financially all the time if he loses his job. I'll do it, but it'll be hard emotionally. I don't like joint bank accounts either.

if we are in the middle of a fight about something, after we have sex shes stll angry

I met a really great guy. Both if is just out of relationships. We dated for a about 8 weeks and met at church prior to dating. One day about 2 1/2 months ago he said he would call me at a certain time and he didn't. I over acted and made other plans and told him, I wasn't going to sit around and wait as he was calling 4 hours to late. Although I have missed him over the last several months, my pride would not let me call him and he didn't reach out either. Finally feeling that I was strong enough now, I reached out to him about a church event, he is the head of the church's admin dept. I texted him, he responded avoiding my question about the church and Tood me he had thought about me a lot and wanted to get together to catch up. I told him if he cared he would have called or texted months ago. Then crickets again, for two weeks. I then asked again. Can you please tell me about this event, the father of the church referred me back to you. He states again that he wanted to get together and catch up, that he had been meaning to call me. I then said, I don't think hangijg out with you is a great idea, as I would be sexually attracted to you and I am dating someone. He said he had love for me and thought I was great and hopes it works out, but still wants to get together. I am not in a relationship with anyone- nothing exclusive. I just don't want this guy to hurt me again. If he cared, he would have not blown me off two months ago. Right?

I admit that im not perfect and I have been stubborn and bullheaded. My wife criticises me over little things and all things, and when I offer her a middle ground for a peaceful argument it has to be her way or the highway (ive learned to peacefully compromise). She ignores me or has no affection for me until I give way (consistently). When I disagree with her respectfully with her she gets mad because I didnt do it her way...I just found a ton of information that that may be emotional bullying and or abuse. I am afraid of her chopping my head off and turning the tables to angirly criticise me. I am mature enough not to "man up" qnd "show her who is boss" because I like and want an equal relationship. Any wisdom? Thank you for mature wise answers in advance.

Okay, so I got an elope a few weeks ago. I just turned 19 and my wife is turning 19 soon. We married behind our families backs. Her family didn't took it way too serious. Mine did. My parents threatened me with moving with her and no more support from them. They found me a new place to stay at while I go to school. They said if I choose to be with her...I only keep my college funds and car. My parents took me to a psychologist and my uncle. The two stated my wife and I should get an annulment. My wife and I aren't happy about this. She's extremely upset about it. She keeps saying my parents won't let me grow up and stuff. My parents says, if you all get the anullement and she still wants to be with you and wait for the right time to marry...she truly loves you. If not, she never truly did and used you. She says she won't leave me but will be extremely hurt from this anullement.

My husband and I got married when we were 18. Fast forward almost two years and I have just turned 20 and he is about to be in June. Things are rocky. We both work full time and when he comes home he goes right onto the Playstation and plays games with his friends all night. I am a gamer too but I don't do it every free second I have. All he wants to talk about is video games, comic books, and TV shows/movies based on comics. I have no interest in this at all. I have depression and anxiety and constantly panic. He doesn't talk about how hes feeling, what hes thinking, and he doesn't understand how to pay bills or the value of the dollar. I have been througha lot in my 20 years and I know all of this. I moved out when I was 17. We had talked and I told him (over the course of a week so it sunk in with him) everything I was feeling and that I thought we both needed to grow up a bit and he needed to learn how to be an adult and I needed to find out what makes me happy in life. Now, things are good with us we are friends and living together and have fun and I am dating someone else but I am unsure if my intention is to get back with my husband at some point years from now or if I just want to start with someone new. Not knowing which, is it okay to be with someone else even if I feel like it may not last forever? Is taking a break from my husband mutually okay as long as it works for us? Obviously I've never been here before and would love some input.

We have had this child her whole life and she believes my husband and I are her parents. Now her biological mother wants to take her back. Im worried that this could damage her so much. I know this isn't A Marrage and divorce issue but I cant seem to find info for my situation. The reason we did not get formal custody set in place was lack of funds to do so and when we were finally at a point to do so the mother wont do it

Does he eventually have to give in?

Lisa: Fake profile WTF: She's beautiful, but she doesn't like to hear about it. She's intelligent, artistic, and impulsive. She doesn't suffer drunks gladly. Samiamrd: He seems quite dumb ("How y'all doin'?" kind of thing), but he has an inexplicable knack for machinery. You all already answered my question. Thx

Hi there, me and my wife are both from eastern culture and our marriage was arranged by our parents and relatives. We both agreed to marry as well so this is no way a forced marriage. But now I am almost 100% sure that she is sleeping with someone else, because last weekend she went out clubbing with her friends and did not turn up the next morning, she told me that she is staying at her friend's house that morning after clubbing. Now i know the code for her iphone, and checked her location history, her location at that moment was at her exe's house. Further more I read her fb messages and it was confirmed that she was sleeping with her ex. What the f am I supposed to do now, my life is officially ruined. I haven't confronted her till now, I haven't slept for a week now, and I cannot ask my friends or family for help it is so embarrassing and such a shock. Please I desperately need your expert advice.

He's only 4 but their talking around him using racist language. I mean they have always been somewhat bigoted towards everyone not White and like them, even making note of my partial Mexican ancestry before they had met me. They had been tolerable these last few years but now it seems they're trying to shape him. He's their first grandchild and I've caught on to them. They say colorful language around him and my wife just says it's how they are and that it's not that big a deal. I can tell they love him and spoil him but I don't know if I should be okay with this. Am I making too much of this?

and why do they always want a divorce for no reason?

Started as little comments, or text. Find myself looking forward toward them. Find myself turned on just the thought of him. I love my husband but is it possible to be attracted to another person as well. Wouldnt want to hurt his wife or my husband. Please no hurtful comments. email is fine goddess.vixen@yahoo.com

Hi I'm a happily married woman I love my husband very much we got married a week ago. Is just sometimes I have a lot of insecurities because I am Hispanic I know might sound stupid but yes sometimes I feel he should be with another girl. But he really loves me and is always there for me is just sometimes I feel he is very different to me like I was born and raced in Central America and I feel we show more our feelings I care more about him that i care about my self like I'm always worried if he's okay but sometimes I don't see those things from him to me. Is it because we are different races?

So me and my spouse are still married but we have been separated since 2010. After our separation he stopped his contact with our 3 children. No phone calls, birthday cards, christmas cards, letters, visits, child support, NOTHING for 2 years and 4 months. I ended up having to get the child support enforcement agency involved since he was unwilling to provide some type of support. How will this situation play out during the divorce process? We both have moved on and we both have significant others. Has anyone been through this type of situation? Will this situation look bad for him when its time to decide custody/visitation?

My husband and i have been married for 9 years and have 3 kids together. There is no more intimacy. I find myself begging him for sex and affection and get turned down. I ve caught him lying about stupid things and when i confront him about it he suggests separation. He will not apologize for hurting me. I ve asked him to take me out, i ve suggested weekend getaways to rekindle our marriage but he doesnt bite. I ve expressed how badly i am in need of being touched and feeling loved and has suggested if i stop nagging at him about it he would perhaps try to be intimate with me. On several occasions ive gone to bed crying about feeling lonely and he just rolls over and falls asleep. I ve suggested counseling, but he does not want to go. I feel i ve done everything in my power to make him happy but i feel he has given up on me completely. My birthday, anniversaries, Christmases go by and i don t even get a card from him. I want to make my marriage work, but i am so lonely and feel abandoned. I want to be a good mother to my children and raise them to be happy people, but being in this marriage is really draining everything out of me. I told him yesterday that i cannot continue spending the rest of my life feeling so neglected. He told me he needs a few days to decide if he wants to stay married or not. Has not left the house, still wants to sleep in our room while he decides. This is very hurtful.

What to expect? I am so scared.. they will talk a lot of bad things about me and try to intimidate me.. Atty doesn't answer calls or emails.. maybe it's bc i don't have money to pay him..

My parents are getting a divorce. All my friends are super religious well their parents. How should I tell my friends because they are against divorce. Especially my really close friends and I don't want to be judge and not be part of the group.

Not sure how to take this, my soon to be husband got asked by his ex to fix her car at no charge. He said he'll fix it but there will be a secret charge.! She said yes our little secret! I completely see this as flirting does anyone else?

This has been going on for a few months. The couple who live next to me are in their late 30's. She is very attractive. With my job I sometimes come home in the middle of the day for a few hours. they seem like a completely normal couple, until about 2 months ago. It started one day when the wife came over in a tiny plaid skirt and heels, like a school girl look. It was innocent and she asked if my cable was out becuase theirs was out. i invited her in and checked. It was working fine. we chatted, she flirted, and then left. Then a few weeks later, another knock on the door, she is standing there in the skimpiest bikini I have ever seen. She tells me her sone threw a ball into my back yard and asked if I could get it and throw it back. Now, yesterday, she knocks on the door again, middle of the afternoon, the husband and kids are away, she asks if I could help her put a picture up on her wall that she has already set the nail and can't lift the picture. She was wearing a tiny summer dress and wedge heels. Of course I agree, go over and help. I then notice the dress. She didn't have a bra on underneath and it came right to her butt cheeks. She kept touching my arm, laughing and making sure to bend in every way possible to show herself off in the dress. So, i'm a guy, I go turned on and my hand went to her butt, under the dress. She pushed me away, but playfully. we flirt some more, then she stops things again, I leave, now I'm worried the husband might get upset.

My partner and I always had this issue. We both have a rough background, and when one of us hurts for example the other holds back their dire problems to help the other. However, when that person cannot hold back any longer, they end up blurting their issues to them when the other is mentally unstable and unable to help the other. I for one try my best to keep my problems at bay, but how long can I hold back exactly? I feel I need help just as much as they do. Do any couples have some advice? A way where we can make time for one another to tackle issues? And I don't mean issues in between us, I mean in general (family, past turmoil, stress, etc)?

I know someone who has arrears over $70,000. Child support was taken out of his check from work. He quit that job in December for a better job that he started in January so the wage garnishment stopped. He hasn't paid since January. He got served papers for a court hearing for contempt of court. What can he expect?

I'm going into the USMC by the end of this year. Before I go in I want to get married to my girlfriend that Iv been with for some time. We are gunna be together anyways so we might as well take advantage of the benefits, Right? My question is, is ther any type of loans I can get or somthing to help me fund the wedding? I work a crappy part time job at $10 and I have bills to pay. I can get much by saving $80-$100 a month.

My ex gf left me for her bf and they have been together for a year. Our break up was pretty bad and drawn out. I eventualky moved on and started to date this girl. My ex who is not my Facebook friend, went on my Facebook and saw that I was dating this girl. My new gf is very attractive and my ex may have been threatened by her. Then My ex randomly calls me after not talking for 9 months. She is still in her relationship but still called me. She said since we are both in a good place in our lives, it was a closure call. She said she didn't want to talk about the past though. Nothing about the break up. She wanted me to let go of my negative feelings for her. What was the reason for this random call? We haven't spoke in 9 months and she wants closure when she's dumped me for her current boyfriend. Why would she need closure? It should be me who would need it.

What should I do ?? Last night my fiancé started a fight and he was saying i was getting on his wick and I was annoying him etc .. He started bringing up loads of irrelevant crap just to have a fight . It started because I said ' will u come see me before you start work tomorrow '? ( we dont live together )he said ' well I want a lie in so don't rush me* I said im not rushing u ? I just would like to see u before work ( he hasn't spent time with me in ages) so that's what happend he start saying I was annoying him etc. We were texting , and it was late ..I said do u want me to leave ya so ? And he was like yeah!!!!! He hasn't spoke to me since ? He's been on facebook etc and he just hasn't texted me or anything? What will I do ??? Together 5years ..23 years of age we both are . Thanks fo the help guys!

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My boyfriend of 7 months has proposed to me. I'm madly in love with him but he is a bit narcissistic. He is pre-occupied with muscles and can be selfish and has control issues. On the flip size he is super romantic, loving and willing to work on his issues. How anyone had a great marriage with a narcissist?

Its been about 2 months since you last had sex or saw your wife naked. Kids are fast asleep and sit on the couch turn on your favorite tv show . Your wife walks into the room and straddles you with only a thong on and gives you a kiss. What do you do? I wanna do this with my husband tonight but he's incredibly hard to turn on and is never in the mood. My best friend and her husband did this a few weeks ago and now all he wants to do is hump her. I'm just fustrated and very horny. He's alaways mad and upset at me especially and now the kids and I'm thinking it's because he hasn't had sex in about 2 months

i am looking for new Uk wife to be obedient clean my car and gardens and house daily and other things i require. how do i find wife what website to go on? Helo i move from china to Uk my china wife i accidentally hurt her in incident and had i flee my village

Me and my wife were living perfectly normal lives, that was until the Thug Life chose her. Since then everything has been hectic. She's rude as hell, curses all the time and randomly screams out "Thug Life" for no reason at all. I had to bail her out of jail yesterday because she pulled up to a police station blasting a song called "F$#@# Da Police by Bone Thugs N Harmony. What can I do? How to I exercise the Thug demon from her?

Remember, you are talking from your beliefs here. There are no absolutes, your values are not universal. They just reflect the values of your family or your church or both. But since a subjective category like "Marriage & Divorce" exists, I would say let's discuss those beliefs and see what values YOU believe in. Best answer to the person who explains why the values are important to a relationship.

a few months ago I found out my husband was having an affair with a co-worker. We have a 3 year old girl and I want to keep are family together. When I first found out about the affair he told me he cheated because she " was just so beautiful " and he couldn't help himself. I was abused by my step father as a child. And have always been a big shy when it comes to sex. He said that if I wasn't this way he would not have to get sex from other women. He told me that in order for the marriage to work. I need to be more " attractive " for him and more open to sexual experiences. Like having a 3 way or him watching me with a woman. I'm only 22 and have only had sex with my husband. Is how married life really is ? Should I try to please him in his fantasies? Or not? Help !

Married for 9 years and 4 kids,about to file for divorce but so scared. My husband has been emotionally abusive our whole marriage and last night was the worst to a point where I know he would do anything to hurt me physicaly. he has lied about everything financially, cheated, gambled and won and not told me and the worst is he has forged my name on taxes and extensions for last several years and found out he owes a lot in back taxes for his buisness and my name is on all of it. He has anger problems and has punched doors in house and has even thrown his laptop at me and broke it. But yet somehow everything is my fault and he sayes I have deserved it all. I feel completely worthless now and after he brought up my family situation last night how I have no one left except for my mom and she is never around, I lost my dad and grandma couple years ago and he was never ther for me not even hug or kiss or to be there when they passed. Yet somehow this is all my fault. He has told me he never wanted 3rd or 4th kid, and even called me a lier when I had a miscarriage couple years ago after I showed him positive test. He has told me to go jump off a bridge before too. He does silent treatments our whole marriage can go weeks at a time completely ignoring me, he has never been one to come to me and fix a problem. Purse after awhile I will just blow up. It's not fair to me or the kids. He threatens me all the time saying he will take kids away and house.

Say, a legal case? My husband just said he thinks Aaron Hernandez did not deserve life in prison because they didn't have sufficient proof, and that he deserves to be back in the NFL. I am horrified that he could think a murderer is a good man. I can't even think aobut him touching me right now.

To say honor and respect are the same thing would be like saying practicing and perfecting are the same thing (they aren't). To honor a person means to respect the amount of power and authority they received and you are willing to do what they say/request without disagreement. This is indeed a dom/sub thing. You recognize the power they have (over you) and you are doing what is expected of you. To respect your spouse's wishes/beliefs would be to do something against your will with the intentions of showing respect to a belief or boundary that your spouse has put in place. This will show respect to your spouse and help them feel valued by you, but it does not surrender your power to them like honoring them does. They have no authority over you, but the boundary that separates you two was respected so that you can protect them and keep them safe (Yes, I correlate a person's ego with their identity). So if you do something that your spouse "asks" you to do, do you feel enough authority over yourself to tell them "no" if you don't want to do it? Or do you honor them and do as you're told by surrendering your power to "keep peace" since "keeping peace" is far more important than maintaining your self respect (respecting your own boundaries)? I don't obey authority, but I will compromise with an equal.

And to guilt someone doesn't have to be direct, it can be covert or passive aggressive. Direct: "I love you but I don't think you love me since you don't [insert what you want from them]" Passive aggressive: "If only there was a MAN in the house so I can have my oil changed today." [Said while you are in listening distance]. Or --- "If only I had a GOOD wife, because a GOOD wife would give me oral whenever I wanted it." Indirect: You see your wife working VERY hard to do her share of the work and you aren't busy. You have been shamed your whole life for not being productive, so you start to feel guilty of them doing their part so you start to do your part (even though you were planning to do your part later in the day). All these methods are ways to MOTIVATE someone to do something. So how do you use guilt to motivate others? Actually, no, you were probably on the RECEIVING end of guilt/shame; so in what ways have you been motivated this way to do something you didn't want to do? Were you aware of who was in power at that time? Was it you?

What should I do ?? Last night my boyfriend started a fight and he was saying i was getting on his wick and I was annoying him etc .. He started bringing up loads of irrelevant crap just to have a fight . It started because I said ' will u come see me before you start work tomorrow '? He said ' well I want a lie in so don't rush me* I said im not rushing u ? I just would like to see u before work ( he hasn't spent time with me in ages) so that's what happend he start saying I was annoying him etc. We were texting , and it was late ..I said do u want me to leave ya so ? And he was like yeah!!!!! He hasn't spoke to me since ? He's been on facebook etc and he just hasn't texted me or anything? What will I do ??? Together 5years ..21 years of age we both are . Thanks fo the help guys!

I have been repeatedly abused. I spoke before about my wife and our marriage. Together for seven years and married for four. She has done some pretty bad stuff like cutting my clothes etc when angry. She has thrown things on me like drinks, video chatted to other men, told me to F off, idiot, useless, stupid etc. First week of marriage? Tore up our marriage certificate, wedding photos and bear, spat on it and rubbed her foot in it. Four years later most of the abuse has stopped. But I woke her up snooping through her phone a couple of weeks ago. She became so enraged that she slapped my face and started yelling and tried to smash my computer screen. The surround speakers are broken. $300 of damage. She is never around because of her real estate job and the desire to be successful. She never stocks the fridge and I always eat alone. I will shop for myself and then she will eat whatever she can find. When she is at work, she refuses to take any of my phone calls or respond to texts throughout the day. It was getting to the point that I felt like our marriage is dead. No passion. Sex involves her looking at porn while I get her off. She is glued to her phone. She won't address my sadness over her recent episode of pulling my hair and hitting me and all I did was leave a wechat message asking if I could come horse riding up the coast with her. I found out by chance. She never told me about it. We to see Anthony Robbins. He is her idol. She posted that he is a real man'she man and a hero. I told her about my healthcare aspirations and she got angry because I wasn't aiming high enough and should become a doctor!! There is very little in the way of passion and she doesn't understand that I'm hurting. She said I lack motivation and need to follow Anthony's classes. Working full time and studying full time isn't enough? Last time I asked this question, I got answers saying I'm not a man! Then what the hell is? Her colleagues laughed at her post and one woman joked that I would be jealous that she posted her admiration of Tony. My heart and good nature is never enough. I want to make a difference through nursing. I'm 31. I enjoy the study and feel like I might have found my calling. Especially if I can become influential internationally to help the third world countries. I believe I can achieve wealth creation. I believe in myself. But feel pain with my marriage. Even this morning she kept telling me I needed Anthony's classes :( I took that as meaning I'm virtually incompetent and have something wrong with me... Tomorrow she will go back to the seminar for day two. I cannot go. She will take a male friend instead. A couple of years ago she would invite guys one on one for dinner... It is the lack of appreciation and lack of considering how I feel about being hit! And Anthony did influence me to try and make changes. I thought they could start tonight but I couldn't get my voice heard. Loveless and passionless as usual. She also wrote that her male God had come out from the stage. She loves him. How do I feel? Like I am an inferior piece of **** loser with low pay. I will never get the feeling of true love and respect.

Often I read people saying that divorce isn't the answer, you can't base your happiness on your spouse or marriage etc.. and love is a choice, not a feeling, you can control your feelings etc.. So...then what is the point of marriage? Or relationships? If all fulfillment comes from within, why make it more complicated by adding another person to the mix? And if you are in a relationship, why should it matter WHO you marry? There is no such thing as the wrong partner (as long as you are not being beaten or cheated on) you can pick any person off the street, and just change your criteria for what's acceptable, and get your happiness from within.

she doesn't get the house either?

I bet some of you forget :P