i mean in a romantic comedy the person gets a divorce and the two who liked each other be together. that's the helpless romantic part of me sides. but what happens?

A. have that goddess flogged. B. have that goddess cast into hell. C. walk away

She is 33 years old and has always been very lucky in that she can eat whatever she wants without gaining a pound. She has a major sweet tooth and eats fast food at least once a day. Despite her eating habits, she has stayed the same size since she was in high school (5'4" 110 pounds). Even after having two kids she went right back to her regular size within a week both times without any effort. However, obesity runs in her family, especially the women on her mom's side. Her sister whose 35 had always been the exact same size as her until very recently. Within the last year, her sister has put on a lot of weight. I didn't even recognize her the last time I saw her. Is my wife likely headed for the same fate as her sister in the next year or so?

You can't have both and can only chose one?

When i was 7 yrs old i was electrocuted by holding my right hand to a live wire seen on the streets. Luckily i survived with a broken hand. Now my girlfriend and i has been together for two years and suddenly shes delayed for atleast a month on her period. Do you think its possible for me to be infertile?

If you and your spouse sleep together, what size bed do you have? And do you have it up against a wall on one side, or just the headboard up against a wall? Just asking. We sleep in a Queen but my husband seriously has some bizarre problem where he's rolled off numerous times in the night and it's startling to wake up to a loud thud followed by cursing. Trying to think of a good remedy...

When my husband and I first met I was seeing some one else and I kind of had a hard time choosing and I hurt him and lead him in in the beginning. I eventually chose him and we got married and moved 400 miles away from my hometown where I grew up. I have worked since I was 15 and have always been independent. I stopped working after we got married so I can got to school. Now that I wanna go back to work he does t want me to he says I'm to easily influenced (which isn't true). I applied for jobs that required me to work from home and he was happy and all for it then I applied at a bank and he got mad and said we never talked about it. Also before we got married I was very dedicated to fitness and he doesn't even want me going to the gym. I told him the past is the past and it all happened so long ago and all he says is I made my bed now I gotta lay in it. I just stay at home now all day and watch t.v. I miss my old life so much.I havnt seen my family in 3 months since we moved away. I miss my old life so bad. Is that wrong? Is he controlling? He said he isn't telling me I can't work or I can't go to the gym. He said he just has bad feelings and I need to consider them.

One of my relatives is very abusive with his wife. He's physically, emotionally, mentally, verbally and maybe even sexually abusive. He beats her up. Locks her out of the house in the dead of winter. She's so scared that she sleeps under the table sometimes. No joke. He has a history of drug and alcohol abuse. He's been in and out of rehab many times. He's also been without a job for like 5 years but to pay for all the trouble he's caused with the IRS his wife is working three jobs to pay for his mistakes while he literally does nothing. It made me very angry when I found out about this. But it seems like no one in my family is turning a blind eye to this. Is there anything I can do to help this screwed up situation? I don't want to just ignore it because I'm not directly affected by it. :( *I mean it seems like everyone is turning a blind eye.

The problem is that certain positions can induce her dizziness, and sometimes even if she is fine after we have sex, the next morning she might have extreme dizziness. I am absolutely committed to her, but I just wonder what to do when we hit dry spells for a few weeks when she is suffering from dizziness badly. She has been to just about every specialist out there, and is currently doing physical therapy. Thanks Katie for the thoughtful answer. @Jim what a rude, unnecessary answer

Me and my husband are having financial difficulties we have a 3 yr old son together and one on the way. we just recently got evicted from his grandparents house and is now staying with his parents until we find our own place. I'm without a car and he's working a dead end job that's getting us nowhere fast I'm working a part time min wage job that's physically straining and not worth the money being 6 months pregnant. he has legal issues that will prevent him from leaving Louisiana for awhile and i feel moving to Nashville with my 3 yr old and allowing my family to help me out until i have the baby and get a job and get ourselves re established is what's best for our family. my family would love to help and they have more room and resources to help. Its not a permanent soultion to be away from my husband while he takes care of his legal problems. should i?

He doesn't express himself either . i always was the one who used to hug him all the time but I am unable to do it anymore ..I dont feel needed anymore.I have stopped hugging him for last one year to see if he misses anything or starts hugging but he hasnt . The worst part is that since June last year I was pregant and just had a baby in feb . Even then he didnt really hug much except for when I was literally crying. I cried a lot during my pregnancy and had panic attacks too. I couldnt take anti depressants as I was pregnant . He did care about my diet and health during pregnancy but still did not hug. He read a part of my diary where I had written that I crave for hug. Even in spite of reading that his behaviour did not change.now after our baby ,he has started sleeping inseparate room because of baby so its even worst . We live more like housemates than husband and wife .I feel very lonely and still cry a lot. we had a chat about this so many times and he did confess he has distanced himself but did not change his behaviour. I have become so insecure due to this and I even started thinking that he silently likes someone else and also discussed it with him to which he said no. Im very confused and lonely.we have been blessed with a baby so want it to work between us but everyday its getting harder as i don feel loved or wanted . I hv told him so many times about my insecurities and that hug from him makes me okay but still he never hugs .i duno what to do.

My older brother has been struggling with alcohol for the past few years. He was fine with it for years but then he started abusing it to cope with stress and dug himself into a hole. My sister in law has been patient with him, taking care of him when he came home drunk, still loving him and not nasty to him. He went to rehab and got better and cut back his drinking but was still allowing it to affect him and spending a lot of money on booze. He lost his temper with her and pushed her. He didn't hurt her but she said it was the last straw. They have 3 kids and two of them told her they wanted to leave because they were scared of him. Their youngest kid has autism and they use a lot of money for resources for him and my brother started taking money from there. My brother did rehab again. He's been staying with me for 3 weeks. He's paying my girlfriend and I rent to stay with us. He's not drinking. He's giving the rest of the money to his wife voluntarily. She still loves him but she said she doesn't want to let him move back in til she can trust him to keep this up. I would do anything for my brother, deep down, he's a good guy. He helped me so much when I was growing up & when I graduated school & couldn't get a job. Thing is my girlfriend said she misses privacy & doesn't want him here anymore. It would be easier on me for him to go home. My brother said he doesn't want to fight her about moving back in until she's ready because he doesn't want to lose her.

So I need some words of wisdom here. I have been engaged for about a year and the wedding is coming up in august and I couldn't be more excited to marry my fiance. There is a problem, however. My parents divorced about 5 years ago when I was in my first year of college. It was not a clean split. My mother left without saying goodbye and my dad was understandably heart broken. He is still very much in love with her and it's awkward to even talk about her around him because he gets all depressed or angry. Because of this, I try and avoid talking about her or her life in his presence. My mom would rather not speak to or see him ever again. They haven't spoke much since the split. Last night I got a message. My mom is engaged! I met the guy once and I can't say I'm a huge fan. But they are so happy together. That's something I'm struggling with overall since I still have some anger at my mom for what she did, but that's not the point of my question. Obviously she wants her now fiance to come to my wedding with her. I know it will destroy my dad to see this. I'm not quite sure how to handle this situation. Should I tell him this is coming? His life isn't the most stable right now and he deals with a lot of depression so I'm not sure what telling him would do. Obviously, I don't want it to be a big surprise the day of either. Just looking for some words of wisdom for how to deal with this kind of situation. Thanks!

i am currently going through a horrible divorce, we were married 6 years and had been together for 10. we were together through high school. my husband and i had been having problems in our marriage . we fought all the time, always screaming at each-other. a month ago this police officer came to my door serving me divorce papers. it took me 3 days to sign them. i broke down after. i also had a notice saying i had 30 days to move because i had sign a prenup. i haven't see him since and i am currently still moving into my new apartment. its been hard i cry almost every day. i feel its my fault because i couldn't give him kids like he wanted . even though i feel like **** and just wanna stay home and lay in bed i try my hardest to be active. 2 week ago i went running and that night went out to eat. i sat there for 15 mins and everything came to me and i started crying. the host was a younger man 19 years old. came up to me and ask me if i was ok. i tried to say yes but the words wouldnt come out. he was just getting off and he wanted to take me home, so i took the offer. ( i wanted to feel better. ) got to my apt and gave him a summery of very thing and we had sex. thought of my husband the whole time. since then he comes to see me and he makes me forget the pain alittle. but im seeing im falling for this guy and i dont think its a good thing. what should i do now. advice im 32

They are betting between me and my twin brother. It's like if I ever find someone, their first reaction will probably be "told you so."

Look, enough smoke and mirrors from me. My shortcoming is that I am afraid of making a decision in my marriage that will result in me being accused of making a mistake. My wife is a perfectionist, so when things aren't "perfect" she will harshly criticize whoever came up with the idea to do the imperfect thing in the first place. This is probably why she follows "the book", because there's no one to argue with and hold accountable since "the book" is assumed to be a "tried and true" method of doing things; so if she fails something doing things "by the book" then she can only self harm herself that she didn't do it properly and hold herself accountable (negative self talk). This is why I don't intend on letting her be in charge of the family anymore; she expects perfection, and that's not the results she gets so she gets depressed and disappointed when things don't go "as planned". But that's just it, life is messy... But I am not a risk taker any more. I can't handle her sharp tongue when she is anxious/panic/despaired since she GREATLY depends on certainty in order for her to have a stabilized mood. Without certainty and routine, she is greatly disturbed and sometimes even will start fights just she can regain control of a situation and do things EXACTLY the way they were done before... I used to be a risk taker, and I used to be very charismatic, but I can't handle her emotions. It drives me crazy when she panics and there's nothing I can do... I need help with this.

I've always been a hopeless romantic. And I swear this is not by the same troll who is posting about writing letters to his future wife, lol! My baby is turning 1 this week, and I'm in extreme sentimental mode. I can't help it. We had a little party for her this weekend and I really took the time to watch my husband with her and it makes me fall in love all over again to see him be such a loving father to our child. So I wanted to write him a little card to give him on her birthday, just expressing what I said above in some more detail. What do you think? He's not quite a mushball, but I think he would like a handwritten note telling him how great he is, right? ;) Let me know what you all think!

Me and my husband just got married a couple weeks ago. We only dated for 5 months before we wed, we have lived together since the middle of january and got married on april 11th. We met at the end of october. I just found out that he messed around with his ex maybe a month or less before we moved in together. Im confused about how to look at this, on one hand yes we were together and had feelings for eachother but the other hand we had only been dating for maybe three months, and we lived in different towns so we didnt see eachother everyday, we moved in together so quickly because i was evicted from my house with my kids and he wanted to help and once we started living together we became more in love and close and knew we wanted to get married. His defense is that he had no idea what he had until we lived together and she was upset that he was with someone and talked him into seeing her "one last time". Im hurt and dont know really how to take this and he says he will do anything to get his wife back and loves me. He showed me on his phone he eventually had to block her because she wouldnt leavr him alone. I talked to her and she just called me stupid and told me i should divorce him, but wont tell me when it happened at all. Im 37 years old and have been in enough relationships to know that this all happened very fast, but im not sure how to look at this and understand what i should do. Please help

What is it that makes a married couple a "happily" married couple?

My wife was a real life Harry Potter. Her parents raised her in an urban city apartment home that they were renting and the only thing she was allowed to do was watch TV so she could stay out of trouble. Her older brother had more privileges and was allowed to go outside; but after he joined a gang he was forced to stay in the house too (they boarded up all the windows to make sure he wouldn't escape at night - which terrified my wife). At the age of 13, my father in law decided to move the family out of the apartment and into a country house where he planned on raising horses as a hobby. Her brother stayed behind and lived with the grandparents. This caused two things: my FIL disowned him and my wife becoming the oldest child... Now living in the country with even LESS contact with the outside world, my wife (as the oldest now) was volunteered to work at the horse barn and shovel horse poo. She did this (for free) for 7 years and hated it. She hated the bugs too... Her parents only gave her enough freedom to go to school, work, the barn, and help with house chores. She sometimes "escaped" to frat parties to get high/drunk. She never developed her "self" and she was sheltered from the world. If not for the internet I would have never met her, and she might not have married or been given permission to leave! But after 13.5 years of being together, my wife still hasn't created her "self"... She's still held back... Would you feel obligated to help fill the void?

I need to tell you the facts first before you apply any reality TV drama to me: *I am a faithful husband with NO interest in ever cheating *I am not shallow BUT my wife is not deep (details below) *I have tried everything I can to become attracted to her again but I just can't do it (nothing to work with) *I am content with being "roommates" with her, but my life feels meaningless/purposeless *There is nothing medically wrong with me except my need to overthink (not ruminate) *It has been this way for over 10 years, long before I used Yahoo! Answers for advice So here's the REAL marriage issue: I am bored with my wife. She looks the same day by day (no variance), she's not sexually satisfying in bed (just lays there), she's never had confidence, she's in a constant state of worry/panic/despair, she doesn't like touching (no PDA), she spends most of her pass time mesmerized by the TV, she isn't a deep thinker (I was projecting this on her when I thought she was), she has made everything in her life extremely routinized and predictable with no spontaneity and no uncertainty (every day is the same), and she's too self involved to pursue me so it's really a relationship dead in the water. And then there's this HUGE ISSUE that she has no personality when you try to dig deeper than the shallow surface. No, I mean it NO personality. She's like a Barbie doll, only you can't dress her up, you just get to tell her what to think/do. (more in updates - please read them) She was raised by parents that didn't see her as an individual and instead saw her based on her role as a "daughter", "student", and "family member". She wasn't allowed her own life at home, she did what her parents told her to do or she didn't have ANY freedom. So this makes sense why she didn't develop a personality prior to meeting me; but we met when she was 20 and she's had 13.5 years of us living together for her to develop SOMETHING. Instead she just follows those damn roles. But the reality of the matter is this: My wife is an empty shell, stuck in her childhood mentality, and nothing in her life forces her to develop beyond that. Her job allows her to sit in the office and follow rules of etiquette with no personality shining through. Her home life as a mother allows her to follow rules of etiquette with no personality shining through since she is doing a "duty" as a mom. She completely ignores the Wife part because there's no rules to that (I don't have any - yet) I really want to connect with her on a deep mental level but she can't use her higher level thinking skills. She's great at math and formulas, but when it comes to complex systems and complex emotions my wife can't handle it and she seeks any form of escapism to "not think about it", like playing on her phone or on Facebook... That leaves me severely mentally under-stimulated so I come on here asking questions and answering questions... I am not married to my equal. So I'm not attracted to my wife, in any way, but I love her. I want to be with her forever. But we aren't getting any younger, and I really want to feel like my life wasn't meaningless/purposeless. I feel like I'm stuck in a rut. Meanwhile my wife confessed she's happy; she was able to completely compartmentalize our entire life into a neat and predictable fashion so things are neat and orderly like a perfectionist would desire. But that's not living. That's just self protection on her part. Now, I'm a pretty miserable cat myself. I am so upset at my lack of a real relationship with my wife that I have become very frustrated at life in general. I want to be more romantic with my wife but I don't know how since she isn't acting her part (she doesn't know how). I also want to be more sexual with my wife (even though I have accepted asexuality in my marriage) but I can't approach her since she's so self focused. Lastly, I can't talk to her because she has no opinions of her own. :( To answer the "love" question. I love her, with my whole heart, but I can't express my love to her because she's so unapproachable and she's so self involved/focused. Plus, I know this is hard to believe in comparison to YOUR life, but my life is very busy with us both being dual income. Meals, chores, grocery, laundry, dishes, pets, homework, you name it, our days are full since nothing gets done while we're at work. There's just no energy left at the end of the day with no SAHM/SAHD. She moved in with me when I was 19 and she was 20. We've been together ever since. Prior to moving in with me she didn't have a life of her own; her father made her his personal slave on his hobby horse form from the age of 13 to 20. She was allowed to go to college, go to school, go to work, and if she escaped when he wasn't home she could go out and get high/drunk at frat parties. I took her from that life (she moved 2 hours from home) but she got pregnant almost instantly after moving in... I think if she wasn't pregnant immediately after meeting then we still would have ended up where we are today. Her parents neglected and mentally/emotionally abused her. She was an empty shell long before I met her. I tried to fill the shell when we first met, but she was too scared to identify with hit. She instead chose to continue doing things "by the book" and identify with her roles. First fiance, then mother (which scored her friends), then wife (more friends), home owner, etc. No "self". This question isn't about sexy lingerie. Lingerie is just a wrapper. This is about "the chase". Guys are trained to chase girls. I don't feel the draw to chase her. And when I try to connect with her on ANY level that is NOT superficial or materialistic I can't find anything that draws me to want to spend time with her. I want her to be my best friend, but there's nothing we share any more. Now that the sex is gone and the romance was never there, all that's left is just her empty shell and me. I suppose it is important to mention that I have spent $300 on gift certificates for a spa that she likes to go to and I try to send her to go treat herself and she won't go. The money is already spent, but she says she can't because she doesn't feel right doing it when there's so much to do. That's the problem though, the work is NEVER going to get done. I've even made her an appointment and she won't go; she's waiting for a friend to go, but her friends can't afford it (they are all poor).

We've been married a couple years and have a baby. It's not that I don't trust her, but I feel like now that she's married and a mother, she should be home with me and my son as opposed to going to a resort casino to drinks with the hens. Any ideas on what to say to her to prevent her from going? Her justification is she doesn't get many nights out. Plus let's be serious here I probably shouldn't be in charge of an 8 month old for 2 days I'm not lazy, she's at home with him while I'm off at work all day. I know the minimum with babies and it's no secret she's the better parent... but alright thanks for the feedback

First I want to say that marriage counseling is an excellent option if I had a difficult spouse; but I don't have a difficult spouse - my wife is open to any direction that I lead the family. But I don't know where to lead us. There's no time to "test" things out; need answers NOW. Here are SOME of the issues: *Entire family is tech addicts. We have 5 game consoles, 3 TVs, 6 handhelds, 4 laptops, and 3 cell phones. There are ENDLESS amounts of entertainment on each (easily $5k spent on all of it) *Two people are binge eaters (boredom) and the other two are addicted to fast food. There's no one home to cook healthy meals. *There was never any romance in my marriage. My wife was not raised feminine and I was not raised masculine; so neither of us know our roles in that game. I think becoming romantic might help motivate us to be better spouses to each other, but I don't even know where to begin with that. It's a lifestyle, and there's no room for it right now. *There's too many responsibilities. The kids (9 and 13) aren't self sufficient so we have to do everything for them. Chores are overwhelming with us both working full time, and then there's just normal upkeep like buying groceries/clothes. There's just not enough time, especially with us sharing all duties equally and arguing over who had time and who didn't... *No time for sex. See above for why. It has made us asexual as a result. No time for sleep either... There's more but what would you do with these? We work full time and drive 45 minutes both ways to get to to work. We have started making slow cooker meals, but between homework, chores, bills, groceries, and other mundane household thing, we really don't have time to cut up vegetables and make an elaborate 2 hour meal. The addiction to electronics is an issue with us too; we're using it as an escape from the burying amount of things we have to do. It is our only salvation for sanity at the moment.

Ok my wife and I before we were married Was going out for around 3 Years. now before we got married I knew she cheated on me before, but this was really early in the relationship around 3 months in. Then I figured out like 6 months in she did it again with the same guy but her Exuse was "I thought you cheated on me that's why I did this" which I did not cheat on her ever. and she regretted and we made up. but I told her if you ever cheat on me again I will leave you for good. Now we've been married for 9 months, right now she's home with her family cause we argued about something. And my best friend just told me she cheated on me again when she was at a wedding 2 years ago with a different guy this time. And I confronted her about it and she admitted to it, And I know this was 2 years ago but I'm still really hurt about it. And I told her I'm done with her and she cried and says she regrets it so much and she's trying hard to get our marriage back And she feels really bad about it and she said she will never do it again, cause we're married and it's different and she will never do it again. And now I don't know if I should divorce her or not, Which I really don't want to cause I love her so much, but I am so hurt and I'm scared she might do it again while we are married and I just Don't know what to do And I gave this situation to God As me and her are both Christians I would really like a Christian answer please. But any answer would do.

I see men at work lusting over women and women loving attention. all married

I betrayed my husband's trust terribly. I didn't cheat on him, but I did reveal private details about him to my parents back when we were first engaged. Details that he did not want people to know. I did this in times of frustration and crisis and confusion. I came clean over the last few weeks and told him what I did. I relayed the last detail yesterday. He hasn't talked to me since. I've been sleeping in the guest room and any attempts to speak to him have been met with pure contempt. He says he will never be able to talk or trust me again. Yet he hasn't asked for a divorce yet. I haven't slept...or eaten much...and I am just basically having a three-week meltdown. I have started reaching out to friends and hope that this will help. I just don't know how to pick up the pieces and get through this. I'm in counseling.

So my husband and I got into a fight and he kicked me out over some stupid crap might I say. Told me we were done. So I left to my parents house and got a txt from a friend asking if I wanted to go shooting to blow off steam. I went of course just to de stress nothing else. We found we are a lot alike in what we want and have in life. I feel almost like I met my soul mate here it's weird. Then my husband asks me to come home and that he's sorry. Now my husband is nice he's taken care of me from day 1 but is a bit of an asshole at times. Not wanting a family and other things you know. So now I'm home and I can't stop thinking of this guy! I told my husband everything and he said not to talk to him again. And I haven't but I can't stop thinking about a life with him. What do I do here guys!!! I'm 25 im a good girl I would never cheat but I feel so bad for even thinking about someone else. Did I settle ?

About a week ago my husband and i had an altercation. He told me that he was going out with the boys but i felt that something wasnt right. He changed his mind about going and when he fell asleep i went through his phone and saw some messages with him and a guy he works with about meeting some girl. His friend is the one that hooked it up, but he knows that my husband is married. He also knows that i am 3 months pregnant. When i confronted my husband about it he said he was never going to do it, he just agreed to it. I didn't beleive him and i moved all my things out our apartment. We are now back together but i am still very hurt. He says it wont happen again but i dont know what to beleive. I cant trust him anymore and what's a relationship without trust?

Here are some of the things that he wrote in his journal. #1 I turned his daughter against him using P.A.S., frequently talking badly about him to his child and our friends. (therapist says I do this, and that I should stop) #2 I hid a huge sum of money from him in secret account. ($30,000) #3 I put "alerts" on account to track him. #4 I bought a $25K car without including him or telling him, when we had no money. #5 I bought daughter expensive things (car, new computers, cell phones,..) just to curry favor with her as part of P.A.S..(therapist told me I WAS guilty of P.A.S.) #6 I opened a secret account #7 I lied about having "alerts" when i DID have them. #8 I *secretively* bought an expensive dog without including him, without a family meeting, #9 i once told him that I would file false domestic abuse charges if there were divorce talk. #10 emotional abandonment, due to my being a workaholic. I say I'll be home and show up 5 hours later with no contact. (been doing this for at least 5 years now.) By doing this I've erased any possibility of "quality time". #11 He says when I say "I'm sorry" I really don't mean it because my actions don't match all the false apologies. (I don't deny any of these things.) (con't) Example: he used to drop me off & pick me up from work bc it saved gas costs and it was on the way,.... when he'd come to pick me up I would *frequently* leave him waiting in the car for me for 45 minutes to as much as 3 hours. I did this to him every day for literally 2 years straight.(time just slips away from me.) I'll apologize & I just do it to him the next day, the next day, next day,...for 2 yrs straight I did this to him. He's asked me "if the situation were reversed, HOW would you FEEL?" He asked this many times, but I stare blankly. He says spending money that we DON'T have on a new car that we never needed is akin to a husband who gambles all his family's money away. Again I DON'T deny any of these things, but I feel he should be able to forgive and forget, and go back to trusting me. I've asking him when he will get over these things. Instead he has taken another room in our house & rarely speaks to me. I realize that I screwed up,... but I'm in limbo. I don't know what to do.

My career is very important to me. I will sometimes put it before a husband, if need be. Money is important. No money, no honey. Am I selfish for this?

be for me to stay at my sisters house for a period of time to see if it is what she really wants to do I think she is torn, but she said there is no guarentee the separartion will stop the divorce, but I am willing to try anything to save my marriage we have been married for over 15 years and I love her very much, she said if I stay in the house the divorce is going to happen but if I try the seperation it may or may not save the marriage please help

I know a friend whom I am very close with who has a husband who's in the military who constantly cheats on her with one specific woman who he seems to stop at nothing to see her. As if he is obsessed with the woman the woman even told my friend that he tried to impregnate her she said she didn't even kno he was married he completely lied to her about his entire life he would pay for her trips to come everywhere he was stationed or had an assignment an would even come where ever she went or relocated.Him an the woman haven't seen each other in a while which is what he told my friend after she found out about her an confronted her she stopped fooling around with him.But she told my friend he constantly reaches out to her an wants to see her an even still has an attire that he keep as a possession that belongs to the other woman. I try to tell my friend she should suggest seperation for a while but im not the one to make a person or keep telling them to do what they dont want.

My husband has a sex addiction, and he looks at porn. I know some people think porn is not a bad thing, but that is not what I am asking about. He gets really mean and nasty when he looks at porn. and even aside from the porn, he's a mean selfish person. He shoves our son if he's in front of the tv, and yells at him if he messes up his video game. But what I am most worried about, is leaving our son alone with him. I don't think he has ever abused him sexually, but lately I wonder. I'm always hyper aware of it, and I don't know what I would do if anything happened to my son. I would really like a divorce, but I'm terrified that I might not get full and legal custody. I don't mind my husband seeing our son, but I don't ever want to leave him overnight, or unattended with him very long. I am afraid to move forward in case it ruins my sons life, but I'm afraid to stay for the same reason. What should I do? Do I have a case? Can I get full AND legal custody? I don't want to be stuck living near my husband because he has joint custody. If we get a good chance to move somewhere else, I want that opportunity. My biggest concern is that he gets left alone with my husband, that's why I want to make sure I can get full and legal custody. It's not child porn, and he has been diagnosed by a professional. I'm not looking for ignorant assumptions, just legal help. If you don't know anything about law, or haven't had this experience, you can't possibly know what it is like, so please don't waste my time. Only mothers who have been through this or lawyers know what I am talking about.

Everytime she gets upset about something, she never tells me what it is or why. All she does is completely shut me out and goes into her own world. Seeing how she and her family interact, they all do the same when they are upset with each other. It is maddening. Personally, i find it very disrespectful. Why would you waste time being upset? I don t understand that. Also, why would someone waste time by not solving the issue. From an engineering standpoint, I m incredibly dumbfounded. that s not how we are taught to approach and solve a problem.

I love using a penis pump I own several. My Wife says she doesn't mind but I overheard her mentioning to our neighbor all about it, shes a close friend. I also use a strap on penis in between when I can't get a full erection. Do you think my wife is bothered by this? And would it bother you if your husband did the same??

I grew up being teased about my looks and I think I'm pretty but I usually think I'm not that pretty usually. I always remember being called ugly and yes, it has messed up my self esteem. It was really difficult and even till this day to get any male attention, asked out or even have someone look my way. I used to be severely overweight and u lost almost 90 lbs. When I look in the mirror, I honestly try to feel and see someone pretty but it's really hard to and I just see the same ugly girl that I was growing up. I was called ugly repeatedly and told no one will really find me attractive. It's hard to even know if a man is being genuine about my looks. I've never been asked out and no one has ever liked me and I wonder what it's like. I want to marry one day and have children but I don't want my children to look like me, I want them to look their potential father whose genes and DNA will be far superior to mine and I wouldn't want him disappointed that they'd be ugly like me. So do you think it'll ever happen? I'm 20 years old.