My cousin is getting married this weekend (5 hours away), but it is on my SO's birthday. He wasn't invited to the wedding, and he wanted to spend time with his family. I RSVPed to the wedding, but now I'm not sure if I should go. I really want to be with him, but I feel obligated to go to the wedding. Should I make him (and honestly myself) happy and stay home, or should I just go to my cousin's wedding?

When there is a wedding, the groom will take off the bride's garter and toss the garter to a crowd of people, and I do not understand why.

My fiance and I are debating what to do for our wedding, whether to go to the courthouse, elope to Vegas or have a wedding with his family. My parents and grandmother are deceased, no siblings. So I was just thinking would it be ok for his step mom to stand in for my mother? His father passed a few months ago and they kinda adopted me long before I lost my family. 

My fiance and I were originally going to elope. But after some hard thinking, we decided we at least want our closests friends with us. The biggest thing that lead us to this decision was, we want a really small ceremony and we had to be choosy. So who do we choose? Why choose friends over family? Simple. They have treated us better. His mom still tries to control him. Nothing he ever does is good enough. He was criticized for his entire life while living under their roof. To this day, no matter how often he visits just because, or for holidays, it's never enough. She tries to manipulate him with guilt tripping. Causing him to struggle with himself. He's always worried about "how mom will react" when we decide something. He's an adult, it shouldn't matter. But that's how she controls him. My mom is the opposite. Her and my stepdad couldn't wait to get me out of the house. I have been left out of family holiday events. Even for the first year I was living completely alone after a horrible breakup. I was always compared to my stepsisters. I never heard the end of how "great" they were in school, sports, life, etc. But I was constantly criticized. But you know who didn't leave us out, neglect us, judge us, try to control us? Our friends. And this is our day and we want it to have good, healthy, energy. It's not "getting even" or holding a grudge. We just think the people that treat us good, should be the ones included. Anyone have a friend only wedding? How did it go?  Any advice?  Actually, Earleen...family might be blood, but they can still be toxic.  At the end of the day, it is our wedding. If they want to hold a grudge for the rest of all our lives for not being invited, that's their dealing. Maybe they should have treated us better? To Messykatt, he absolutely does always take my side.  He made it clear to me that he always will.  But that doesn't take away from the fact it still effects him negatively when his mom gets an attitude. 

My boyfriend is a 23 years old guy who had to work since he was a teenager. He is a good hearted and caring person but at first everybody thinks he is the typical tough, cold and unfriendly guy, because of his buzzcut hair and light eyes. Anyway, he never brags about his past girls but... about his fish soup. He fishes himself so he always say : something like this in a restaurant would cost you at least 14€. It'a supposed to make you stronger and heal you from every sort of illness. Everything, in his opinion. If I am sick  he has the ability of measuring my temperature and establish if it's high or low and even the type of it (he refers to it as internal and external. Does it even exist anyway? What is he talking about?). He forces me to eat before giving me medicines and other than fish soup, his other specialty is ... soup with rice and chicken meat. And he is extremely happy when he cooks those things, like, he smiles the whole time and when it's ready he says 'ah ah, now you're going to feel much better now that you'll try these...' and smiles satisfied like he did something huge. If I have a congestion or nausea or some abdominal cramps his solution is simply water and lemon. And it works!  If I feel like fainting he gives me water and sugar. And it works too... I wonder, how can he do that? Where did he learn that? He's been living on his own since 17... where do you learn those things? He would have been a good doctor or nurse... why did he choose that career path? I also forgot to say that other to being an expert of natural remedies he is extremely superstitious and believes in witches and demons and karma. Not that much but he is convinced about certain things. He isn't a goth or emo, he is just a good looking normal and cute guy who has a normal life but he is like this and he also swears to god in a funny way (he puts his fingers on his eyes)