I Love my FH family and I have been estranged from mine once for three years... I have always wanted to disown my family but in the past they used my children against me. I was thinking of inviting them to the engagement party to tell them they are no longer welcome in my life or at my wedding. I could write them each a long letter or email explaining why I no longer welcome them in my life. Or things could stay the same and I can avoid them all the time maybe seat them way in the back of the church at the wedding. My children are older now and they see things like I do now.  My son told me he doesn't ever want to go to another family reunion...and I am glad.  My family is full of rapists murderers liars and thieves some of them sold crack and have been to prison.

I'm 26, she's 21.  She hasn't been cool around me and that's since the jump. I've been nothing but nice and giving to her. Almost to the point I feel stupid and look dumb for what I get in return. Just trying to be the bigger person for myself and fiancé.  What really bothers me is we will go to his moms for dinner, or they'll come to us and she'll only address my fiancé in the room. She'll thank him on my behalf, call him by his name, show any type of respect to him in the room and I'm just standing there like I don't exist, I don't necessarily care it's just uncomfortable and annoying. It's obvious she's trying to make me feel excluded when I'm standing right next to my soon to be husband.  My fiancé has talked to her since she was 18 when she was really bad. He has tried to help the situation but in the end he just tells me to ignore her. He does get just as upset though.  She texted me once saying she doesn't like me because I'm the reason her and her brother don't have a relationship. Yet, I have always tried to do stuff together and include her with us but it's the same behavior from her.  Now she's asking for money, the mothers sick and she doesn't want to ask her. (No dad) I know she's young and wants help from her  "big brother" but we have joined accounts and that's "our" money. I know she's family, but I'm sickened with her behavior. I honestly don't want to help her. I want to support my fiancé, I just get crapped on. How should I go about this situation?

My mom loves to joke around with my husband and he loves it when she does. One day she ask him "Is that a gun in your pocket or are you happy to see me"? He said "They do not make guns that big". The both got a huge laugh at his answer. Another time mom ask him did he know what it takes to make a woman happy. He said "no what does it take to make a woman happy"? Mom said 10 inches. My husband said "what do I do with the other 2 inches"? They could not stop laughing for 5 minutes. How do I stop my husband from bragging and my mom from enjoying his answers?

My mom and I talked about having kids at different ages and when it's the best. She told me that I will probably have my first at around 30. I told her that I'm gonna use your style and have one in my early 20's. My mom responded that I wasn't planned and she would definitely have waited as working in McD sucked. I was like wtf mom. She is 36 and I'm 15.

She's 14 and already 230lb. I and my husband take complete responsibility for it, we didn't say " No" a lot when she was younger, letting the issue fester. We try everything We try a calm approach, doesn't work, we try a harsh approach, leads to fighting. Her attitude is that she's fine and we're annoying her. What can we do to fix this?

 I'm 26, she's 21.  She hasn't been cool around me and that's since the jump. I've been nothing but nice and giving to her. Almost to the point I feel stupid and look dumb for what I get in return. Just trying to be the bigger person for myself and fiancé.  What really bothers me is we will go to his moms for dinner, or they'll come to us and she'll only address my fiancé in the room. She'll thank him on my behalf, call him by his name,  show any type of respect to him in the room and I'm just standing there like I don't exist, I don't necessarily care it's just uncomfortable and annoying. It's obvious she's trying to make me feel excluded when I'm standing right next to my soon to be husband.  My fiancé has talked to her since she was 18 when she was really bad. He has tried to help the situation but in the end he just tells me to ignore her. He does get just as upset though.  She texted me once saying she doesn't like me because I'm the reason her and her brother don't have a relationship. Yet, I have always tried to do stuff together and include her with us but it's the same behavior from her.  Now she's asking for money, the mothers sick and she doesn't want to ask her. (No dad) I know she's young and wants help from her  "big brother" but we have joined accounts and that's "our" money. I know she's family, but I'm sickened with her behavior. I honestly don't want to help her. I want to support my fiancé, I just get crapped on. How should I go about this situation?

My mother hasn't cleaned her bathroom ever since I moved out of the house back in May last year. Well, technically it's a wetroom, not a bathroom. Much of the floor, walls and ceiling are covered in dirt and mould. I asked her why she hasn't cleaned it ever since I moved out, and she said that she doesn't have the motivation to do it. Yet, she cleans all of the other rooms in her house. Does she have to clean it?

so my parents took away my phone and said that I could get it back in years but my mum told my dad to get my phone back and he said nothing and was just thinking.Do you think ill get it back

i don't want my step daughter to see her mom anymore and i am doing everything i could do to prevent my step daughter from seeing her mom my husband is mad at me because he thinks i am being a selfish baby but i just don't want her too why should i allow my step daughter to see her mom? oh and btw this is not a troll.

I am a grown adult with parents that are on the brink of divorce. I can't exactly say what their biggest issues are, but I am almost positive that they stem from events that have happened years ago.  I am stuck right in the middle (which I know is wrong). My mom and dad both come to me separately and complain about the other. They both say that the other blames them for everything. My mom says my dad doesn't want to talk about anything and just acts like everything is okay. My dad says that every time they speak at all it ends in a fight.  It is extremely frustrating for me because I hate being caught in the middle. I feel like they could easily solve their issues if they would just let go of the past as it always comes up every time they fight.  Should I stay out of it or should I give my input and try to mediate? (I know I didn't give a lot of detail, but when I did I ended up with too many words to submit my question.)

My boyfriend & I have been dating for 6 years now. A few years ago we were paying rent, living in his moms basement. It was great in the beginning, but after a few months I started getting a lot of signs that his mom is a toxic parent. One example- she would cry on the phone with my boyfriend saying to have fun with his "new mom" and "new family" (she means my family) whenever we were w/ my family. Things like that kept happening but it got worse when I decided I wanted to get a tattoo (my body! not hers!). When she saw it, she flipped out & CRIED. She said she didn't want her son dating someone who looks like they do drugs, etc. She would talk sh*t about me & she would refer to me as his "little girlfriend"   The more important incident that happened was with my boyfriends' step dad. He came downstairs one day when no-one else was home & kept knocking on our bedroom door. When I opened it, he kept trying to push his way in & he told me he wanted to f*ck me. I physically fought his step-dad. We told his mom & ALL SHE SAID WAS "he was probably drunk" she NEVER APOLOGIZED, never brought it back up, & acted like nothing happened.   I eventually moved out & 2 years have passed since then. My boyfriend & his older sister are throwing a b-day party for their mom. My boyfriend & his sister want me there. My question is: Should I go or should I stick to my decision not to go & have my boyfriend think that I don't care about his family?

My sister is kind of an overbearing and a bully type of person. When we were kids, we were in the same school where she spread a rumor about me saying I have a crush with someone. Because of that, her classmates made fun of me. I also never get to joke about her or get mad of her because she would tend to emasculate me like calling me gay or the f-word, so I was so scared of her while growing up. When someone was bullying me that time and she sees it, she turns her back on me as if we didn't know each other. When we were a teenager and Friendster (myspace-like social media site) was a thing, she keeps on stalking a guy who was on a school band with me that I don't see often. Instead if using her account, she used mine. Problem about Friendster was there is this function called "people who viewed me" and the guy she was viewing can see who stalked me. So he saw my account and whenever I see him at school, he is mad at me (I didn't tell him the truth because I wasn't good with opening up during that time).  Also, even today as we are in our late 20s, she ignores me when I open up to her with my problems (like someone else was bullying me) or when I ask her some minor favors like some errands. When I criticize about her faults when she talks and behaves on me, she gossips about me to my family like to my other sister and mother and just look down on me in general as if I am immature to her. Part of me keeps on seeking approval to her until now but this is how she treats me. My confidence must have been very low because of her other than with the rest of my family members as I am the youngest member in our family. I find it hard to confide with someone close to me when we don't bond that much especially if she always has to be "in charge" and that I have to adjust to her (other examples is that we share a room and I shouldn't play music, etc) and she just doesn't listen to me. Other instances she did to me was when she told my parents about me smoking and when I wanted to switch college due to bullying and opening up to different people about my problems, which angered my parents. Growing up, I realized I kinda lived in fear with her because I now feel like I should act appropriately to her when I realized that I didn't stand up against her. And when I do that, she manipulates me with (again) emasculating me and gossiping about me.

My brother was arrested last night for a misdemeanor marijuana charge in Texas. He will be arraigned in the morning around 8am. I don't know what i should do, i don't want to stress my parents out, and i don't want them to get upset, and disappointed with my brother. My brother didn't tell me if I should tell my parents when he called through the jail phone. He's 20 years old and this is his first offense. Do you think we could possibly keep this a secret from my parents or should we just tell them the bad news?

My Dad is bipolar. He hit me a lot, pulled my hair, and banged me into things. Despite this I turned into a normal adult. Now that I am almost 27 I ask him about that time. Why he didn't stop. What he thought would happen when I grew up. I tell him I love him, but he was a terrible father.  His responses range from accepting what he did to denying all of it. Sometimes he says he only hit me once or that I'm exaggerating. I post about what happened on Facebook and across the internet, and that is usually when he is upset. If he was truly sorry I don't think he would mind though. As I have pointed out to him, I have to live with the memories not him.  Other times he admits what he did, but when he claims to be sorry it isn't very genuine. He says he is sorry because he didn't know I would hold it over his head. He tries to blame his life. Saying having sick parents made him do it. He tries to say I deserved it, but then I remind him I was a child.  He tries to build himself up, saying he is great because he stuck around, but he didn't even financially support us. He points out my Mom forced him to have kids, which to be fair I have told her this wasn't a very good decision.  Does your abusive parent comment on the ordeal now that you're an adult? 

My brother is starting to become superspade. If he breeds with this negresse, he will curse our family with a mongrel. I'm no racist, but just like dogs there are different breeds of human. All are worth equal, but they are still different. I can't get him to leave her without hurting him, so any tips about making her feel unwelcome to our family so she leaves him?

I live in a really tiny apartment with my Mom and my relatives ,we are a poor income family and things get really hard from time to time , we struggle to pay some bills and food is enough but not plenty , My wonder is why is it that my parents allow virtually any reltive or acquaintance that comes knocking the door to overstay their visit , to rob us of the little personal space and privacy we have , to feed of our fridge and never contribute to any expense and all of this with a smile on their face , is this people pleasing at it s best? Sometimes we feel obligated to house her brothers ex wife just because she showed up other times it would be her brothers mother in law , etc this are people I do not know at all , don t share anything in common with and feel obligated to live among with , Why would a mother sabotage their

I came home from school today to find my diary/journal was not in its usual place. My cleaning lady had also happened to come today. Not only was it not where I left it (in a drawer, not out in the open) but the little flap was opened!! I'm really upset she obviously read it. Should I tell my mom or just ignore it? Any tips on hiding it? Should she be fired?

this is the 2nd time in a year. my kids will do or say something that just kills me inside. like my dad  it hurts so bad I'll go to the next room let it out then try to go back to what I'm doing but instead I'm like a statue. I'll be quiet. ill just sit there n almost stare off into space trying not to dwell on the situation. I'll acknowledge everyone but I'm  short with my answers. n it really ruins the night. I can't help it. my ex says I'm giving them the silent treatment. I just feel done for the night. any advise would b great

Hi, so I don't want to sound cocky or anything but I'm tired of everyone thinking I'm perfect. So in my family, I have 2 sisters. I am the middle sibling. I have straight A's, am pretty according to many, and have a prefect future straight ahead according to many as well. Whenever there is an argument in my family my parents first thing they do to my siblings is say, what can't you be more like your sister (aka me). Whenever we are at a family gathering my parents always talk about me (specifically about grades, my looks, and how I never cause problems compared to my sisters). My sisters have told me they hate me because of it. I've always been there for them, giving them advice and trying to be the best sister I can be but they always bring up they hate me and that I should just go away. My friends always bring up I'm a good friend and my other friend just the other day started saying she's tired of me and that she wishes she had my life. She then yelled at me and said she wished she never met me cuz she can't stand how perfect I am. I feel like I'm done with this. I DONT want to be seen as perfect. I want to be seen as me and nothing more. I try and try to be the best for the people around me but in the end they just say they hate me cuz I'm perfect. I don't know what to do or how to feel. I need help...plz

I have an old iMac and my temperature monitoring app shows the cpu skyrocketing to 190 F in a matter of minutes and even when I turn the fan up the cpu doesn't cool at all and when it gets to the 200s the computer shuts down. Why is it overheating and why is the fan not able to do anything?

I feel like people don't believe me when I say I want to change.  I was sober from September-December and had a brief slip in December. I'm exactly one month clean after having overdosed on Dec 22nd. I swear this time I'm done forever. It's a battle that I fight everyday and it's hard as hell. It's harder when people don't trust me or doubt my intentions.it's harder if I ask for money, for example, because I'm struggling to pay rent.No....it's "are you using it for drugs"Can't do anything without being doubting my intentions....if I isolate myself, they assume I'm using again....Can't be any possible explanation.So how can I get people to rust me again? How long does it take? 

I just want to know.. because I kind of don't want to talk to my extended family on my dads side of the family, but they keep wanting me to attend family reunions, and I'm very busy, but they don't get it. 

So she started working at a bus compound a year ago and when she started getting comfortable with her workers she started bringing them coffee everyday. Like, she would brew it at home and then bring the pot to them with cups. Then she started bring boiled eggs. She would buy boxes of eggs and then boil them and bring it to work. Then she started buying dozens and dozens of bagels to bring to work.  Lastly, she has this huge pot thats like a foot tall and she boils tea in it and brings the whole pot to work.  Where does she put all this? She has a minivan and she puts the backseats down and rests all her items in the back. If you saw how packed and disorganized her car is you would think she's homeless.  Why is she doing all this? Just to make friends? She doesn't even feed me like this lmao

I desperately need anybody's help and advice on this, and I am being serious so please don't be mean.  I am 24 years old, but I am still living at home. My parents have babied me to a fault. They pay for my car insurance, do my taxes, pay my phone bill, you name it. There are only a few minor things that I pay for like gas and personal expenses, student loan repayment, doctors visits, but all of the major stuff, they deal with. They never taught me how to do anything major in order to transition from adolescence into adulthood. I don't know how to do taxes or apply for loans.. any of that stuff. I also have never had a credit card and my bank account is overseen by my parents. So I'm serious, I don't know how to do anything and don't know where or how to start. I have a college degree, and when I graduated I tried applying to jobs but didn't hear back from any. I'm currently in the process of going back to school to apply for another degree in a field where I can know for certain that there is a high demand for jobs. For work, I have a part time job and make roughly $1200-1400 a month. It sounds all grand and dandy and lucky for me to have parents who do this for me, but there is a downside. It is a very emotionally toxic environment and I think my parents love the codependency. I'm the youngest and they love babying me, but on the flip side there is a lot of verbal abuse in this household. This has been going on for years, and I'm sick of it. Please tell me what to do. 

Mine died either when I hadn't been born or then a few years after so I have no idea how it is. I don't have a dad either. Mom, uncle and aunt. That'd it.

My dad apparently legt amd I have never seen him. I get caller the fatherless boy in school and I want a dad too like everyone else.

My mom is Norwegian and dad i Brazilian. I lived my whole life up until now in Brazil. They call me Brazillian boy in school and tell me that I don't belong here and need to go back. I just turned 15.