I'm married but my marriage is on the rocks. My husband said he doesn't know how much longer our marriage will survive. He said we are way too different on our views and the nonstop fighting is getting to him. We've been married for a couple of years now. But before we got married we were good friends for a while. My husband said he will always love me and be in my life but he doesn't know if we will be able to be partners in life forever. He said I need somebody who is naturally going to be in sync with my personality. And for the past year I've spent my time crying myself to sleep every single night thinking about how our marriage is dying. My husband said to me " I wish that I could be the man for you so badly. I wish we were more compatible because I love you more than life itself but love is not enough.""" Anyways onto this new guy. I did cheat and I'm a terrible person for cheating. One of my ex boyfriend's friends messaged me and we went from friendly conversation to flirting to hanging out and then sleeping together. We started off with me venting to him about my relationship problems I was so depressed and it felt nice to have some comfort. He was giving me amazing advice and being so helpful. We started talking and texting 24/7. Then we spent New Year's Eve together and then a couple of weeks after that we had sex.. I noticed he was still texting me but it wasn't 24/7 like we were before. And there was a couple of times where he took like 8 hours to text me. I started falling for him the more we talked but then when he got distant a little bit I started to lose interest. I got upset when he took 2 day's to respond one time so I blocked him and then he called me from another number upset with me. He said that he cut off all his other options for me and that he didn't wanna be played  Also whenever we had sex he kept making up excuses as to why he didn't wanna kiss me and it's weird to have sex without kissing  He was like " your husband might have a disease and I don't wanna kiss you then bring it back to my daughter" Then he was like you don't need to be affectionate with both me and your husband And he was saying I be talking too much and he said that kills the romance and I was like " I'm not feeling this anymore. You're not who I thought you would be plus I feel really guilty cheating on my husband. I want to turn my life around and do the right thing" Then He was like "my mom wants to meet you".... what??? And he said he wanted to get lunch 

Do they feel jeolous that they could'nt be with them even after sleeping and doing all kinky acts with them? Or do they fantasize about them when they see them and thinks how they could have married happily had tgey not have rejected her ? And if they has to meet and conversate, then how do they talk and on what topic? If their husband excuses himself away from her to let them talk, then will they talk about the good times they had in bed and other places, and how they explored everything together creating new and permament memories, which even the husband wont be able to have it now? And do they share about their present partners sizes in secret when their spouses are not in frame, as they have trust among them once?

my wife walked out on my kids and I almost 30 yrs ago .she now has a thriving business never paid child support and refused to give me a divorce .and no I cant afford one atm . question is since were still married am I entitle to part ownership or money from the business she owns. or if I could afford the contested divorce would I get half her assets. please only real answers and preferably someone thats either gone thru something similar or has legal knowledge

We started dating in early November and he was asking me my thoughts on marriage and children during the first two dates. Then around late December, he didn't want me to bring up questions, etc. about our future because he is unsure of his job security. He wants us to "go with flow" and see where we are in the summer. Then we had sex in early January. Now this week, he said I'm the best girl he has ever dated. He also said he is still unsure of job security (i.e. might move away) and that I'll have a good future without him because I'm a nice girl, but he also doesn't want us to give up yet. He also asked would I marry him this coming September and he said he is being serious. And he still wants to keep dating?

My fiancée & I are supposed to get married upcoming month; I'm 8months pregnant. Everything was good, until he started acting weird about his Facebook. He always gave me his password & out of nowhere decided to change it & didn't want me on his Facebook. Red flag. How wasn't I going to feel uncomfortable with that you know? This Facebook as well, we said we'd only add family, but he started adding all these female friends. Which made me feel uncomfortable & I thought to myself, well I guess I can have friends too. He got upset about, so we both decided to remove friends. I did, he didn't. I noticed girl hearting & reacting to his things, which hurt my feelings. I know, my hormones are a huge factor, but it's like how is that I do it & he doesn't. I brought it up, he got upset with me about. I went to my parents to give each other space. I came back home because I couldn't sleep. He was giving me an attitude, but once he went to sleep, I checked his phone to see him have download this textapp just to try to get ahold of his ex a day before his birthday. Which was this month. I changed & left. He called me pissed asking where the f*** I was. Anyways cut to the point. He acted like he didn't what I was talking about, messaged his ex who said that she doesn't even want to talk to him. Now today, he's trying to be all sweet talking about our wedding. I don't know what to do. Part of me just wants to detach myself & leave, but I don't know what to do... I feel numb & hurt.

My husband and I have been married for 8 months. His ex wife is the beneficiary of his stock. They both have 2 kids. He doesn't think it's a big deal because I am the beneficiary on everything else. Should I worry about this? He knows it bothers me and is willing to change it, but I dont know when. Should I let it go and let him do whatever? He did say if it gets too much he will change it, but how will I know if it does? I don't want to keep constantly asking him about it. What should I do?

My wife is 5 years older than me she's 27 I just turned 23. Is that wrong ? 

Wife found out about me giving my daughter $40 a week for groceries and flipped out. Our 23 year old daughter lost her job a couple of months ago. I accidentally let it out that I give her money for food and my wife got mad. She said that I'm enabling her not to work but I don't have it in me to let my daughter starve. Keep in mind I don't give her anything extra. The only thing I do is give her groceries money. I don't buy her clothes makeup shoes Nothing. She goes without everything else until she gets her job again. My wife said she will make sure that I don't give my daughter another dime. I know they haven't had the best relationship but does anyone think this is a little far stretched. My daughter told me she has been trying to find jobs. Any advice. My wife and daughter have always had a strained relationship. When my daughter was younger she would be aggressively hostile emotionally abusive and controlling but I thought my wife moved past this 

We've been dating for 3 months and he has been telling me that he can't really save much, etc. I told him that I want to share expenses with him. He asked "what do you expect of me in return?" I said "Don't couples do this too? Supporting each other?"

I was thinking of screaming as loud ad i can in the phone continuing as long as i can to hurt their ear. Or i could pretend to be a kid.  Then when the telemarketer asks to talk to the parent have the kid (which is really yourself) say this man asked for me to send him pics of my pepe then i act like an upset father

My husband and I have been married for 8 months. His ex wife is the beneficiary of his stock. They both have 2 kids. He says he doesn't put much in it and almost always sells it. He doesn't think it's a big deal because I am the beneficiary on everything else. He says we will change it, but don't know when or how long it will take. Should I worry about this if it ends up not being changed for a while? He knows it bothers me and is willing to change it, but I don't know when we will be able to do it. If he's not putting much in it, should I worry? Or let it go and let him do whatever? 

My husband has stock and his ex wife is listed as beneficiary. He says he doesn't keep a lot in it anyway and that it wasn't a big deal to him. Is this a big deal? Because I'm freaking out. He doesn't want to go through all the trouble to change it.  

Not that I want to divorce anyway but most people on this board are highly recommending divorce in order to play around the oat fields or something to that effect. I've already made some allowances in my marriage that wife agrees with.  Why is this so bad?  I want to celebrate life on another level instead of sneaking around.  She can too. Also, if it ends in divorce, I was already heading that way to begin with. Why would I divorce first? That's like paying the toll and not even crossing the bridge. And why judge? Ladies, you don't get judged for your numerous past lovers.  And fellas, nobody judged you when you pumped and dumped all them women and didn't consider their feelings. American society celebrates this behavior to no end.  That's not even considering the purple haired people fetishes.   So why is marriage the only thing you would consider sacred and untouchable given the promiscuous past of most people and always recommend divorce first!? By the way it's not cheating if the wife and I communicated our needs beforehand.  I plan on including her on a few adventures!  Then we can happily renew our vows and continue down the forever death marriage.

My husband and I have been married for 8 months. His ex wife is the beneficiary of his stock. They both have 2 kids. He says he doesn't put much in it and almost always sells it. He doesn't think it's a big deal because I am the beneficiary on everything else. He says we will change it, but don't know when or how long it will take. Should I worry about this if it ends up not being changed for a while? He knows it bothers me and is willing to change it, but I don't know when we will be able to do it. If he's not putting much in it, should I worry? 

We started dating in early November and he was asking me my thoughts on marriage and children during the first two dates. Then around late December, he didn't want me to bring up questions, etc. about our future because he is unsure of his job security. He wants us to "go with flow" and see where we are in the summer. Then we had sex in early January. Now this week, he said I'm the best girl he has ever dated and that he is still unsure of job security (i.e. might move away) but he also asked would I marry him this coming September. He said it's a serious question?

So my wife says she hates me so much. She has been verbally and physically abusive. Really angry a lot and we have a 20 month old son. I'm studying and working full time shift work in a hospital. I give her my only car and take public transport. Her parents have come out from China to help us care for our son. Only her father is here at the moment. She told me last night again that I'm useless and she hates me so much. Wishes I could hurry up and leave the family home. I pay the mortgage and bills for this apartment. Her job in real estate allowed her to finance nice holidays, acquire investment properties and setup the financial future for the family. I have no savings because all my wages go to everyday bills. I'm worried that if we divorce, she will take everything and I'll be left with paying child support and only occasionally seeing my son. She could also perhaps turn him against me or he might learn to hate me and resent me. In such a scenario, I don't see a future for myself because I don't think I'll be able to save ever again and afford a home of my own. I don't want to leave this apartment that I pay for. Will I really be screwed over? Thankyou for all the answers. There is a process in Australia called mediation which involves counsellors and a written negotiated agreement that is then taken to the family court to be decided upon. It covers custody and division of assets. You can consult a lawyer but their fees start at $5,000+...my family solicitor gave some basic advice but generally doesn't deal with family law. He does wills and estates. But he gave me some insight into the process. I have many voice recordings, screenshots, photos etc. A whole pile of evidence dating back 5 years. The most significant thing was the involvement of police and the protection order put in place. She has no record and got off on a psychological section of the law with no criminal record. I kept the criminal psychologist report as well. It clearly shows she cannot control her anger if she feels criticised. Her parents come out from China to assist with caring for our son. Her father got here before the recent virus outbreak. He is ok. He helps a lot because he is retired but it's a 3 month visa. I can afford to pay the mortgage on this property. My wife pays the child care fees and upkeep of her investment properties. She can show a 50k gift from her family towards this apartment. I thought about taking out 50k on the mortgage and paying her off in a settlement. Let her keep the other properties. My parents are stable and mum stays at home. They can look after my son full time if I get custody. So I would rent out my 2 bedroom apartment and live with my parents. They'll help take proper care of him. They feed him proper meals and obviously speak English. At the moment when I'm on shift work, my son gets fed eggs for dinner. Not proper meals. Even if I cook up proper balanced meals...

My husband has stock and his ex wife is listed as beneficiary. He says he doesn't keep a lot in it anyway and that it wasn't a big deal to him. Is this a big deal? Because I'm freaking out. He doesn't want to go through all the trouble to change it.  

My husband cheated on me numerous times with numerous different women. I know he has demons he's fighting with drugs and infidelity and it got to a point where I couldn't take it any more and moved out. I haven't spoken to him and he hasn't contacted me. I want him back but I realize that I need to love him unconditionally. I have realized he may never changed but I made a vow to him and I want to honor that even though he wouldn't do it for me. How do I stay and be the support he needs to change without being disrespected. I was moved out of the house but I have been thinking about going over to the house to cook, set his clothes out, clean and pack his lunch while he's at work. I know that sounds silly because he doesn't deserve it but I'm hoping he will see that I still care and start to think about his behavior. Is this a good idea or should I just go no contact. A little background is we have been married 2 years, he's had a baby on me, and he's cheated our entire marriage. He also has impulse and substance abuse issues. We are both 29. Why am I deciding to stay (but leave)? Because I want him to love me. I want to be there for him. I want to be the type of woman that doesn't leave when things get rough but that also stands her ground. He's made mistakes but I love him and although now I don't really feel like he loves me I'm hoping he does.  It's interesting that I am being viewed as desperate to get my HUSBAND back. I really care and love him deeply and I don't want to give up on him so have a heart when responding please  Also to my knowledge he only does cocaine on the weekend 

What are the risks vs rewards? You have to at least keep up with your looks ladies!  The suburbs are too full of the ones defeated by life with too many past lovers, then let their looks go. Am I right?

How do you greet your spouse when they come home? Or if you come home? Hug? Kiss? Smile? I usually hug my spouse. Is there anything wrong with just hugging?

How to forget the automatic visuals of my wife gettting banged by multiple random men, and all laughing at me and my situation that the wife created by her actions?

She said : "I feel hat staying for me is not healthy - I'm emotional exhausted and drained". She is moving out and said "I just need space right now but I'm not planning to disappear." She mentioned as well that there is none else.

My husband opened his cards this morning and the cover of the card read "world best boyfriend. You stole my heart and rocked my world, have a wonderful birthday'"  On the left side of the page this woman wrote "I enjoyed coming over to see you the other night. Can't wait for next time ;)" Then it said "lots of love from Becky xxx" Why would this Becky woman send a card with boyfriend on it even though she knew we were married? Or was my husband having an affair and didn't tell her that he was married? I questioned my husband and he said "someone must be pulling a prank I've got no clue what it's about" I got angry and told him to get out the house.  Should I believe him?  The card also came with two bottles of alcohol in a fragile box and it was a hamper with wood shavings in it and card was next to it. It smelled like perfume 

My dad said that he is frustrated that my mom hasn't put out for 3 weeks and he will soon have to forcefully get some

Should I be upset if my husband doesn't like my Facebook pics of me? He use to, but hasn't lately. He will like his friends pics though on the same day I post mine. Should I ask him or just let it go? 

Someone told his wife he was involved with another woman and after his wife confronted him, he denied it and blocked his wife. I should mention, his page is all about God, spreading the word. So is it not strange he would block his wife from reading the word of God as he puts it?

Most recently my wife has been displaying her hate of me. It started towards the end of our holiday last month and now whenever something upsets her, she is so quick to remind me of how much of a useless husband I am. She asked me to paint the house but I have been so busy with work, taking care of the home, filling out her parents' visa paperwork and trying to help out with an Airbnb business she is starting with her friends,  that I literally haven't had the spare time. She is emotionally abusive in my opinion. Eg. Just two days ago her father who is staying with us decided he wanted to go out to buy vegetables at the nearby market. It was too hot for our 18 month old son to go out. I was getting ready for work. My wife sleeping. Just before I left, I went to open my wife's door and she got up so angry! Created a real scene and tore off to look for her father. Screaming f...you idiot over and over whilst our son was crying his head off. I stayed to watch our son as he can't be home alone. I was working the afternoon shift at the hospital. She came back and I went to leave. She then started kicking and punching me out the front of our home. She asked me to fill out some more Visa paperwork today. I agreed if she sent it to me. I got home about 1am and wanted to relax with a whisky and watch some Netflix before sleeping. Assumed she was sleeping. But she came out and nearly broke my headphones...snatched the remote and told me she hates me so much. To fill her mother's Visa paperwork instead. Also said I do nothing for the home because the walls aren't painted. Expected me to drop off our son without the car (wants to purposely drive it early to force me to walk to the daycare) and to paint the walls before work! Of course there isn't enough time to do that! She also said she wants me out of the home. But I pay the mortgage! I'm not going anywhere! Also threatened to kick me out of the Airbnb cooperation in the morning despite how much effort I did for the project. My name is on one of the property leases. This concerns me. I did take screenshots of my contributions to the business and backed them up. They aren't financial but they entail a lot of research and some cleaning etc. I also helped to greet the guests. She wont go to counselling. There is a history of an AVO because I called the cops after she smashed the home and was hitting her mother. I mean the entire kitchen was littered with food, broken bottles of alcohol (no one was drinking), plates, cups, glasses. Chipped floor tile etc. In the aftermath, I nearly pressed for divorce and wanted custody of my son..it probably had a high chance back then. But now it wont happen in my favour I don't think. I still care about her despite how she is treating me recently. But I have to say that I feel like a useless husband and like crap because of what she says to me. She asked me to leave the family home. I refuse to. I sleep on the sofa bed for comfort under the aircon. It had been about 6 weeks since she started saying she hates me do much etc. But she keeps demanding I fill out her parents migration papers and to letting me work on the Airbnb business... Marriage therapists have told me before that I'm trapped in an abusive relationship. But no one understands that divorce will result in me losing access to my son, he will grow up in a broken home, I will get none of our assets, be for ed to leave the family home and pay child support for my son until he turns 21. I will be financially ruined and never own a home again.

My mom had me at 21 outside of marriage and people have told me that I'm an accidental bastard but is it really that big of a deal?

In 2013, my fiancee cancelled our wedding. I married my now husband in 2016. I have exchanged several emails with my ex over the years. Basically, he regrets not marrying me. He asked to meet for coffee. Im curios, but have moral conflicts.advice?

A year ago, my husband and I were visiting his parents with our one-year-old daughter. While visiting his stepdad, asked why is my daughter looking all in his face? And continued to say that she is going to like being in men's faces when she gets older!  Now to me, i felt that comment was extremely inappropriate, and my husband did nothing about it! I have explained my issues to my husband about the incident , especially when this is not his stepfather's first inappropriate comment to/ about a young girl. I don't want my daughter anywhere around this man, even if my husband is present. Am I overreacting as a parent? My one year old daughter is rarely around this man. This is his third time seeing her when he said: Why is she all in my face? (meaning looking at him)and then said my daughter is going to like being in men face when she gets older!

My husband's best friend's fiance is the type of girl that needs to be the center of attention. When I first met her, it was at an all you can eat and drink brunch buffet with all of my husbands friends. One of my husband's friends can drink like a fish without getting drunk, so she was trying to out beat him the whole time, which resulted in her getting drunk, and saying very vulgar things. For example, she asked my husband and his friends to buy her new bras because she was going to get a boob job soon. On another occasion, my husband and I went to a bar with all of his friends and she happened to be there, and of course, she got drunk again. I went to the restroom and left my phone on the table, and when I came back, she had taken pictures of herself pulling her shirt down with her tongue out on my phone, then she pulled her pants down to show me her vagina tattoo in front of my husband, she also poured a shot on the floor that my husband bought for her, and she told our bartender that she would pay for whatever this random couple next to us ordered; however, she only gave us $20 for a $200 bill. This made me furious, so I decided that I would no longer go anywhere if she was going to be around, including her wedding. Now my husband and his best friend don't talk as much, and my husband blames me for it. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should do?