I think I found the answer for the marriage problem.  You see ladies, marriage is like a turkey.  You're forcing your dude to swallow the entire thing all at once and expecting the guy to hold it down somehow. On top of that, you have an unlimited supply of turkey waiting to be jammed down the poor guy's throat. That is marriage. Like turkey, maybe marriage is only good in small quantities, once a year. Change my mind.

My brother married a woman who (to be nice) is very difficult, emotionally abusive and burdensome...i know its his job to take care of himself, create healthy boundaries, draw lines and work on his co-dependancy! But i get fired up that she's the "reason he feels suicidal" he has problems coping. He loves her. My who family graciously accepts her - but definately avoids long periods of time with her. But, so...is it ultimately his problem & he needs to draw a line? I'm defensive for him cuz i know she's a bat-case (we were friends before they met)

I was raped and i discovered i had an amnesy and there are no doctors for juridical ministry i was with amnesy for 20 years from.rape most of it . I received a divorce after 8 years first and although there is a President. the spose was adimite an Apeal i didn t know what was that i thoufht they are going to rape me for coruption togheter with the judge wich was having aface resembling the chief of students league at Law . And students having many friends and plenty oposite sex to deal with the divorce shouldn t be held but declared .as acvording to bible betwwen the two. The governmebt didn t give the rights of the people 

If somehow your children were to find out about your past deeds, how would you explain it away?  Or would you want to die of embarrassment?

I can't look at her face anymore without thinking about how many people ... I'm trying to not be judgmental after all, she's still my mother. Maybe I can learn from all these mistakes she made although she swears up and down that these were all positive experiences that made her the woman she is today!

We argue about anything and everything and we didn't realize we were so different until we got married. It's crazy how we are just now realizing this because we were best friends for five years before we decided to commit to a relationship. We argue about minor and major things all the time. She's a spender I'm a saver. She loves to shop and spend money all the time. She loves beautiful and luxurious things. I don't care about that stuff. She's a very adventurous person who loves to try new things and visit new places. I'm a simple guy who doesn't care about a luxury lifestyle. I'm pretty much stuck and set in my own ways and boundaries.im the type of person who can eat the same thing every time. I don't like spending a lot of money trying out new foods. She's also a dreamer type of women. I'm very dominant type of man and she's the type of woman who is free spirited and doesn't like any type of rules and regulations. The biggest thing we fight over is this sex thing. I always have to ask her to have sex with me and when we do have sex she's not into it. She never wants to perform oral. I'm frustrated and miserable. When I think of all the times she willingly got naked for her ex boyfriend and went down on him willingly it boils my blood. And I know this because when we're only just friends she told me about her and her ex and what they did. I feel like if you love someone you love them in all ways emotional physically everything. She has been wanting to go to New York since she was a little girl to pursue a career in writing and I was going to move with her but I'm told her I don't want to go anymore. I have family in our small city. She doesn't care about leaving her family because they are abusive anyways. I can't neglect my family.  I told my wife she can go to New York alone and she said she wants to go with me or not at all. I said I will not be going ever she so she said she's gonna forget about her writing career. Now this will cause even more strain in our marriage she will resent me now  Also she cheated twice with two different men. As miserable I've been I have never cheated. 

I was having a conversation with an acquaintance who had randomly brought up his children because I told him I switched careers and he said he agreed that would be a better choice for his kids. I guess that was fine. But then he added that they are soon to enter university and the whole story just became suspicious after a while. Maybe I m reading too much into it. Was this just sharing...?

My boyfriend and I decided that instead of a wedding, we are going with a court marriage instead. A regular wedding is just too expensive. I need to know what are the requirements to have a court marriage and what are optional things to have?

I'm still new to all of this and I'm not religious.  But I DO want to put some in thought into my single life and how my actions will affect my marriage years down the road. Any advice?

I'm beginning to get into the dating scene but want to avoid heartbreak and a bad reputation among other things. But my mother tells me that I should not be in a hurry and remain single for at least 10 years to find myself. I have a sneaking suspicion that she really means I should date as many men as possible. She says that my father was the last in a long line of previous lovers and she only decided to get married after she had her fill and experienced all and done all there is regarding dating and sex. Why does it have to be this way?  I'm not that kind of girl and don't want a high body count. Can I please get some advice on how to avoid being like my mother?

All I want is to send a text asking if person OK after his mother passed away. But I feel like I am cheating on my husband. Should I not communicate? 

If I come up to my husband and give him a goodnight kiss and he comes up to me and kisses me, are we both initiating kisses? I just want to make sure I am doing my part too. Does it matter who kisses who first?

Is it okay if my husband usually kisses me first? When he comes up to me and kisses me, I kiss him back. Does that count as both of us initiating the kiss? Or him? 

My mother moved from New Jersey to Texas. She REFUSES to learn how to pump her own gas. She actually PAYS people money to pump gas for her. When she needs gas she calls me or my husband and we have to drive 20 min to her house to take her car and pump gas. (My parents are divorced.) My husband is getting tired of it. He offered to show her how and she refuses to learn. I'm not sure what to do. She makes me feel guilty if I won't drive the 20 min to her house to fill up her tank. Any advice? Should we stop enabling her and just tell her we aren't coming anymore? She's paying people ten bucks when we aren't there to fill it for her.

My mother wants me to turn on and hate my uncle's ex-wife. She was mad that I was nice to her when I saw her at a wedding in November for her daughter. My Dad was disappointed in me also. So to win over my parents I am seeking revenge against her. They divorced after 21 years of marriage in 2016. My mother and father want me to despise who they despise and they despise this woman because they were my uncle's counselors during the divorce and he did not wrong at all and she was completely to blame (at least Mom told me that). So how do I get revenge against this woman I seldom ever see anymore? Whatever I do has to be legal of course. I am not allowed to have any concern for her 3 children's feelings even though they are cousins of mine. The one daughter leaned on her mother's side so that daughter is an enemy cousin as an enemy of our family. The two sons are good guys especially the one who calls his mother by her first name instead of Mom. That one is our pal and favorite cousin since he is cold to his mother and on uncle's side. Canadacraig: their not asking me to killer or anything but good point about them trying to drag me down with them. They're acting like teenagers. Plus like someone else know that it was an alcoholism situation though I think my uncles trying there. They've been married 21 years anyway with 3 kids

Does the husband or wife usually initiate kissing? I kiss my husband goodnight first a lot, and sometimes throughout the day he kisses me. Is it okay if I only kiss him goodnight?

We were working things out he's been lieing and lieing he kicked me out the house on his sisters property I had no say so nothing was in my name and I am wondering if I am wrong for being upset  He's saying he can't apologize for something he did nothing wrong but I feel disrespected