So when I was 10 and my brother was 12 he sexually abused me. Nothing was ever really done about it except for my parents talking to him but that was about it. That was nearly a decade ago but I still feel a little scarred from it. I love my brother very much and I know he loves me, but now I can't feel sexually comfortable with people. Is that normal?

The funeral is not local so would Involve traveling tinvolve traveling too Virginia from Texas. My Dad is not the sentimental type so he is against going to funerals unless a terrible tragic death like a teen or an immediate family member like a grandparent. I would feel horrible if I missed the funeral.

My sister is ignoring my mum, because of a issue relating my step dad, my sister blames him for things, and then she accused my mum of horrible things, now because of that I am stuck in the middle and they are talking through me, I have paid bills her my sister and I have helped my mum with bills too. I'm sick of the way she's treating my mum, and I'm sick of what other people are saying about my sister and mum, The worse thing is she has young kids and we were all close, me and my mum haven't seen the kids for a long time. We both miss her and them so much, but my sister won't make up with her. What should I do? How do I get them both to apologize and move on?

I just moved in into my apartment last month with my girlfriend. We've been super excited about this and couldn't wait to decorate. My name is the only one on the lease and she planned on adding hers later. She bought majority of the furniture and i appreciate it, and of course i moved all of my clothes there as well. She began complaining about me spending too much time with my family because she doesn't like them. She's been super controlling since moving in. My job requires me to travel to earn more money and she knew this prior, but she expects me to stay home with her and make less money because she doesn't want me to go away for a year. She doesn't understand that I have goals to accomplish. She's upset that I left and lied about someone breaking in so I can come home but I ended up changing the locks and only granted for my parents to have access to them. She's been calling nonstop and won't give me space and going off on me everyday, even threatened to call the police on my parents if they don't give her the keys to my apartment. She's been spazzing out on me and even threatened to harm herself if I leave her. I come back home on Friday before I leave for the rest of the year and I don't trust seeing her anymore but I still love her dearly

I'm 15 and I have known her for 7-8 years and she is great. She treats me well and all but my dad always tells me to call her stepmom and not by her first name which makes me uncomfortable. I only feel like calling mom my mom and no one else. How could I convince him to let go? He has tried to tell me this for years but today he got really mad.

I have a late 2009 27 inch iMac and I'm selling it on eBay for money for 180$ and no one has bought it and its been weeks. It doesn't turn on because the graphics card hard drive and power supply failed so

I have a late 2009 27 inch iMac and it isn't working. For some reason it wont turn on. I press the power button and i hear the fans optical drive and hard drive turn on and i hear the boot chime but the screen stays off

We live in Kentucky so it would be a 30 minute drive to get to her in Cincinnati anyway. 

When I got out of high school, I had a hard time finding a job. I finally found a job with good pay and a great boss. I consider myself the luckiest girl alive. I just adore my boss. He makes coming to work a pleasure. One day in his office I say his high school graduation picture on his wall. I told him that my mom went to the same high school. He asked what was her name in school. When I told him, he said "I knew your mom in high school. I can see were you get your good looks. She was the most beautiful girl in the school." He said my mom had been homecoming queen 4 years in a row at high school. Mom had never told me that. I wonder why? He said "I would like to see her again to catch up on old times. Why don't you let me take the two of you to lunch some time. I said "great I will arrange it". When I told my mom about this she said she did not want to see anyone she went to high school with. When I ask her why she told me she had gained 10 pounds since she was in high school and didn't feel like she looked good. I told her 10 more pounds in 20 years and after 3 kids did not change her great looks. She still looked great. 40+ year old women am I right about this? How can I convince her she is still beautiful and should join us for lunch? I think it would be good for my career to have lunch with my boss and even if it doesn't, it seems like it would be fun. Moms, please give me some help with this.

My mom lost her job and got behind on her mortgage payments and was in danger of losing her home of 30 years. Of all the people she could of asked for help, she asked my ex husband Bill. She really liked Bill when we were married and he really liked her. She thought of him as the son she never had. I guess that friendship did not stop with our friendly divorce like I thought it would. Bill immediately paid the back mortgage payments and also he paid 1 years mortgage payments in advance. He also used his business contacts to get her a new job. That is totally in character with Bill. As long as I have known him, if he finds out someone needs help, he helps them. Mom went from VERY DEPRESSED to VERY HAPPY in one day. I am not sure how I should feel about this. I and my siblings agree that mom should of asked us first for help but we all admit we could not have helped her like Bill did. We just do not have that kind of money. I told Bill we would somehow repay him. He told me he would not accept any repayment. He said mom was great to us when we were married and this was his repayment to her. Am I off base to think mom should of asked us first before going outside the family for help. Is it possible that it would be too embarrassing for mom to ask her family for help? How should I feel about what Bill did? I am totally confused.

I have spoken to my friends about my mom and most of them say how bad of a woman she is, I need help understanding whats going on. My parents are in no way bad parents, I was raised with a rather lush life. My mom on the other hand, had a hard childhood full of neglect and distrust. But as of two or three years ago, I started to notice how my mom spoke to me.  My mom would always pass off my emotions, not concerning herself with them. She would promise me something if I did something in return and once I got that done, she wouldn't hold up her end of the deal. She said how I can be replaced by someone just like me. She instantly accuses me of doing something I didn't do, and she sets unrealistic expectations on me (like finishing a whole online class in one night) The biggest, and most common, thing that happens is If we are in a conversation that involves my emotions, and I speak my mind she takes it as a personal attack towards her, and she would go on the defense, talking about how hard her childhood was for her and how all of my problems were 10,000x worse for her. Whenever I spoke my side my mom would take that as being disrespectful and I would be punished. This has caused me to never defend myself and to be a people pleaser.  It hurts so much and I've gotten to the point where I don't know what to do. If you have any ideas what is happening and how I can stop this, please tell. Thank you so much for your time.

We had a LDR for about a year when we got engaged. I sold my house and quit my job and moved from the city to the country to be with fiancé. Brought my 11yo at the time with me and my 15yo stayed in the city with his dad. I never got over my 15yo not moving with me. I got depressed. A series of events happened and we never got married. He wasn't ready, then I wasn't ready, and four years later we aren't married or planning a wedding. The now 15yo is now a 19yo and going to be a dad. It kills me grandchild will be 150 miles from me. I think about going back to my hometown constantly, my now 15yo wants to go back home also. I've tried for almost 4 years to like the country but I hate it. I've made no friends, there is minimal work and nothing to do. I don't get along that great with the fiancé lately either. What stops me? I hate that I'm a flighty person. I hop jobs and relationships. I would be starting all over again, as I've put all my money into this house that the fiancé lives in. I would have to go stay with my parents until I got on my fee again, not that cool at my age. What would you do? 

I'm working there this summer so I have some questions 1. Am I old enough to be hired? I'm 17 2. Can I bring my pet tiger? 3. Have you ever worked there? 4. My iMac 27' 2009 won't turn on 5. Is it a good job? 5. What do I do with my iMac 27' 2009? 6. Can I bring my crush Holden to the YMCA?

the family wont talk to me. she tried claiming i was crazy and tried sending me to a mental hospital. I have no family to go to. What do i do?

My mom was 20 and dad 22.My mom was still in college and living at home.  I don't think my parents are the type of people to tell and no theh weren't married nor are they together today.

My mom was 21 when she had me and my dad was 23. My friends say that I was and accident because their parents were 30+. I'm the only one with parents still in their thirties in my class (37 and 39).

My entire family is convinced my 65 year old mother has and has had for YEARS a mental disorder. She flys off the handle over every little thing. My husband divorced me because he couldn't handle my mother.  She will say very very mean and hurtful things then will insist everyone around her misinterpreted it and insist that's not what she said at all and that we don't understand. She's put her hands on me on numerous occasions. This morning we had an altercation over burning a piece of toast. She came out of the shower soaking wet naked and tried to strangle me then hit me in the nose. When she got out of the shower she acted as if it never happened. I asked her if she knew what she did she laughed said why would I come out of the shower naked and attack you? She told me I was lying it never happened I'm delusional. She flips out over EVERYTHING. She could be on the phone with me and she spills a glass of milk and it's somehow my fault. I can't take it! She REFUSES to get help and says there's nothing wrong with her at all. I love my family but I don't know what to do. I was tempted to call the police on my mother today but I didn't want to go there. Any advice? She refuses to get help! 

If it's an enemy outside of the family who I'm not friends with and then I'm happy to make enemies with them but when it's family I have a hard time hating anyone even when my parents want me too. I've written before that my dad wants me to hate my mother's sister now that my grandfather has died. Also there's an uncle getting divorced and his ex we're supposed to hate and while I doubt I'll see her very much anymore I wish to be nice when I do see her and since her mother is in pallet of care I would like to make an appearance at the funeral when she dies since we've known her as long as we've known the ex-aunt. I don't like hating friends and family so like I said I don't mind hating people that I only know through my parents but the others I wish not to participate. My parents have a policy of your inner you're out so I think it's subconscious that they do this. I'm in adult but they're bound to find out sometimes who I see and don't say specially because they live with my maternal grandmother.

My mom hates me and is always in a rage quarreling about the fact that I do nothing around the house. And all I do is lie in bed all day and be on my laptop. While she has to go to work, come home and slave, do everything for me, like carry me to and from school. She says if she could redo her life she would've never had me. She says I don't have any shame. But I continue to live like this everyday. I wish she would stop being mad at me. 

I don't really like my boyfriends family to be honest and there's a lot of them. We recently just had a baby together and every time I post a pic of the baby on Facebook every single one of them just swarms to it like a pack of bees and likes it, shares it and saves it and then posts it to their own social media. I get they're the babies family and like to see pics but I hate how I know that every pic I post is basically getting stolen and saved to their phone straight away. It frustrates me when I see the same pics that I took being posted on their Instagram and Facebook, am I going crazy or is it normal for me to just want some privacy from them 😤 I've blocked them from seeing my photo album on Facebook, the one that I post in all the time.  I still have a couple of his family members on my Instagram so they can still see the occasional pic of the baby that I post there.

First of all, I've asked this before so I'm done after this. If you want to insult or argue with me, go ahead. Anyway! Pornstars on twitter or any platform block or say rude things to people commenting things like, "you're so sexy" or things that are perverted. First of all, they should expect it, secondly, what tweets or replies are they looking for exactly? Why even block people? I'm not attacking them for doing porn, but I feel *in MY opinon* that maybe they're overreacting? Do they expect a nice "how was your day" message? They can do porn, great. I'm just on about some of them being offended at some comments. I'm done now, but if you feel the same or disagree respectfully, please enlighten me. Have a nice day. Opinion* oof Hmhmm by pornstar.. maybe I meant pornhub stars, not the actual movie ones.. just a heads up.

I don't really like my boyfriends family to be honest and there's a lot of them. We recently just had a baby together and every time I post a pic on Facebook every single one of them just swarms to it like a pack of bees and likes it, shares it and saves it and then posts it to their own social media. I get they're the babies family and like to see pics but I hate how I know that every pic I post is basically getting stolen and saved to their phone straight away. It frustrates me when I see the same pics that I took being posted on their Instagram and Facebook, am I going crazy or is it normal for me to just want some privacy from them 😤 I've blocked them from seeing my photo album on Facebook, the one that I post in all the time. I still have a couple of his family members on my Instagram so they can still see the occasional pic of the baby that I post there. This is about photos of the baby by the way. Every time I post a pic of the baby* they all share/save it

My mom was 21 and dad 23 and both in college. I know I was the result of my dad going bareback and hoping for the best.

I'm a guy and I'm 15 and my sister is 19 and I'm still in high school and she graduated high school when she was 17. She still lives at home with us. She's a sophomore at a university. On school mornings I'm really sleepy and on school morning she wakes me up and I say to her I'm reaally tired or sleepy and she says to me, baby you have to get up

My Mom and her siblings will go to war. One against another. I will be in trouble for not taking sides. For not defending my Mom and feeding the hate she will feel. Meanwhile she will be in distress over her parents deaths and thus unable to live. I know someone who has just begun to live again 5 years after their mother's death. They were the care giver for their mother. My Mom is the exact same way. She views her parents like her children and so when they die it will be like losing two kids a year or so apart. All this family dysfunction is going to lead me into depression. Especially everyone wanting me to be as depressed as they are and as mad as they are. My Mom's family is one that can be real close and loving at some points and real hateful and vengeful at other points. Italian Family. So how do I handle my Mom's agonizing cries and the dysfunction in the family that will follow the deaths of her parents. Christmas time will be especially brutal for about 5 years after the 2nd parent dies. I often wish my Mom would go first out of mercy for her. Neither is dying today but they are at an age and eat in ways that they couldn't be alive in 5 years absent a miracle. All their friends have died except two of my grandmother's friends.  Both good answers thank you. 

He is a bad man. He is my Dad so I love him but I do not like him, he has a bad soul and is a bad man.

Hi everyone,  Wanted to see if anybody ran into a similar issue I've been with my fiancée 9 years, we currently have a 6 year old and one on the way.  My fiancée had his first daughter with someone a year before I met him, he was 15 at the time.  He never had a chance to bond with his Daughter because his ex was constantly cheating on him , and from there ended up with his best friend which raised his daughter for a couple of years. After that another man stepped into her life and has been there since she was 4. (10) My fiancée has always paid child support since the age of 18, and never missed. His ex always took her daughter away and has brainwashed her growing up. I personally have done many things for the little girl, and more than I should have. Her mother always seems to take advantage & now his daughter is the exact same.  My mother in law and me have had a rocky relationship because she's always seen my fiancée be a good father to our daughter, he's been there since day one and they have a strong relationship. My sister in law also has a lot of animosity towards my daughter as well. My daughter has always been looked at as she has everything - & " lives in a different world " then they live in. Me and my fiancée have always worked and try to give our daughter everything. My stepdaughters mother lives off the state and doesn't work at all - therefore she doesn't have as much.  Is it normal for adults to feel such pain towards my daughter - it's not her fault  

My dad has always been emotionally distant. He's never shown that he's been proud of or happy for me or my siblings for anything we've done. He does what he has to do as a father. He provides for my brothers and I, as well as my mom. And I don't take that for granted. But he's always unhappy and extremely quick to anger and will critique whatever he can and start cursing his life because of it. Last year my brother got into a car accident, and before even making sure he was okay, he started yelling at my mom about how stupid my brother was and the money he'd have to pay. Luckily he was fine and the other people pressed no charges, but when the accident happened, he refused to talk to my brother over the phone because he "didn't want to hear his voice". My mom cooks for him every single day without question and every single day he criticizes the food she makes. He's put her through hell and she's never gotten a thank you for it, she's just constantly being berated and it makes me so mad to see. His side of the family controls him like a puppet on a string and there's no doubt in my mind that he would turn on us at the drop of a hat if they convinced him to. Our lives (including my siblings and my mom) have revolved around his cruel and hateful family and his constant mood swings. I feel like I've reached a boiling point with him and I just feel so angry at all he's done and the pain he's caused. I feel like I want nothing to do with him. Am I wrong to feel this way?

my crush said he doesn't feel comfortable and blocked me

My dad passed away when I was 15 (2018) & ever since then I've been a completely different person. I'm more bitter, I don't care about things as much & always feel sad. A lot of time I go through photos or watch home videos. I feel like this cycle will never end & I will always be stuck. Is there any way to make the pain less intense?