My husband and I have been living with my mother in law. We recently had a baby, our relationship is great, but there's one problem. His mother. Why? She does absolutely nothing for herself. Is she disabled or sick? If she was I would completely understand, but no. She's crippled herself over 3 years by gorging herself. She has an electric wheelchair, but most of the time she won't use that. She used to ride her chair to the toilet that is 5 yards away but she demanded that my husband get her a potty next to her bed and he has to dump it which is disgusting. She NEVER showers. She demands to be served 3 meals a day and half the time she won't eat it because it's not the way she wanted it. She has 2 dogs that my husband takes care of instead of her and she refuses to find them a better home. These are just a FEW of the things my husband and i have to put up with. He can't do everything himself. I try to help, but when you're living someone's entire life for them it's hard to live your own as well. We have told her "look you can do things we aren't asking you to run a marathon just try" and after a long long long fight, she actually started doing things for herself. she cussed and yelled and slammed things and woke our baby up constantly, she would actually make herself a bowl of cereal once and a while. She has recently stopped doing that. We would move but she spends her 1500 ssi check on useless stuff and we have only our money to provide the rest of the month. Any advice?

My BF & I have been together for 2.5 years. He moved 1 yr in so we've been long distance since.  I recently moved to a new state for nursing gradschool. This was a big deal for me bcuz I worked very hard to get into 1 of the best schools in the WORLD & the move was a far one. My BF typically tries to be really supportive, but lately, many of our occurrences keep putting a bad taste in my mouth. To name a few- he visited right before the start of school, I was finishing the furnishing of my new place- I love fashion so decorating has been so nice as it is my 1st apartment alone.  For the entire time he was here, he would hit me w/ jabs that Im a brat/act entitled bcuz I bought some nice items for my place. He truly killed my excitement. Yesterday, I got myself an "infinity flower" box, bcuz I thought it would hold nice symbolism. They're real flowers that have blossomed now & last 2 years..The exact length of my program. I told my BF about this symbolic gift 2 myself & he laughed. I asked why he's laughing & his response was, "I don't know why you constantly need gratification" "you're in nursing school... like congrats?? (in a very degrading tone- he is a resident physician so he constantly makes demeaning comments like that about nursing..not always realizing it). I asked him why he seems so upset by all this & his response was that he didn't get anything from anyone for medschool, but my family has bombarded me w/ support & gifts, so I should "just get over it already"    He comes from a family that never bought gifts or gave much affection... I give him SO much love/gifts/support to try & compensate for his lack in childhood..But why does he even need to compare our lives. Im not entitled. I am excited/proud. I deserve to fully enjoy this period. I want my partner to 100% share that w/ me! Isn't that the point of a partner!  I have talked 2 him about my feelings.. he apologizes then just repeats that im a brat/"get over it..its nursing school" when he's moody I am 24. He is 30.

Okay, so my husband and I have been together a long time. Over 7 years. He has three solid friends that he's been friends with longer than seven years. I've hung out with them all with my husband, and one in particular I have a lot in common with, more so than with my husband. I don't want to try to take over my husband's friend but I really do like this guy (not like that) and we've even discussed it a year or so ago that I could add his family and friends. But things change and I feel I have the "renew the subscription" on that. Mostly because we've talked sexual about him before. My husband jokingly accuses me of wanting his uhh man parts and I get all red and embarrassed and laughy because that's what happens when that stuff is talked about with me. Anyway, this guy is really cool and out of my husband's friends... he's the best one. Now there's no guarantee he would accept my request, but is it out of line for me to add him, too? I seriously have zero friends in real life. Just occasionally chat with a couple former high school friends online. With that being said, a high school friend of mine added my husband today and she's been liking ALL of his stuff. Can I add his friend? Do I ask permission first?  He's not like a d*ck either so I don't know if he would even deny it even if he wanted to. He's a super sweet human that's just handed sh*t all the time.

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