I love my family deeply and care about them but they're so toxic to my life whereas everywhere I go, they get mad. I currently live with my different sister and she is so toxic. Whenever I don't want to go on family trip or hang out with my cousin, she gets mad. She will tell me, my mom bought me a nice vehicle and I don't appreciate it. She let me live in this apartment and doesn't even charge me a lot. She tells me I don't even care about them and love my girlfriend more which isn't true. I always try to make compromises for both. When I'm going through tough time, they get mad and say I'm lying. For me, im a person who keeps to myself and don't bother anyone. I don't cause disturbance to anyone and that's what I want from them. Yet, they just don't understand that I'm just a person who is introverted. Whenever I want to go, then I'll go. If I don't want to go, just let me go. Quit holding me hostage! They always attack me and make me a villain. 

So me and my dad are members of this organization and my dad disagrees on a lot of ideas and things that they do and gets mad about it,he also gets mad about a lot of changes they make and because of this a lot of other members don't like for it,Why?,the last time I checked it was ok to have an opinion and disagree on something.

I met this girl in 2015, she was 15 and I was 16. We fell in love the second we met each other. She is now 19 and I am 20.  The mother did not though, as mother's of young daughters usually don't, I didn't make much of it and tried to make the best of the situation.  In the beginning it wasn't to bad and we saw each other often. Then over time the mother allowed her to see me less and less until it got to a point of having to wait 2 months to see each other for a few hours.  In 2017 I fell very ill and started to throw up blood and was constantly tired and dizzy.  My doctor informed my mom that it could be 1 of 3 things. Organ Failure, Cancer or a stomach acid problem. My grandad at the time passed away because of organ failure and I freaked out. My girlfriend came over and I told her it was one of the three things and she knew about my grandfather. She started crying and her family came to pick her up. The mother called and asked if I was okay and if I wanted to see my girlfriend. I thought it would be a great idea to use this to see more if her and 'faked' my issue. It worked for a few weeks until the tests came back and her mother asked my mom what was wrong. It was the stomach acid problem, I told her it was Organ Failure.  Ever since then the mother doesn't all her to see me but we meet at malls and parties when her mother let's her go out.  How would you think I could go about apologizing or making things right? HELP!!!  

Yesterday I was driving home from shopping and I saw my nephew with his friend, (his friend was born here but his parents are from Mexico) I stopped the car to talk to my nephew and during our conversation his friend took a cell phone call and began speaking in Spanish, I was appalled, when the call ended I asked him why he was speaking in his own language in front of me when I speak English, he said it was his Grandmother and she only speaks Spanish, I said that she should learn the language and then the little **** said it is none of my business what language his family speaks, I told my nephew to be a man and give him a punch and end the friendship and he said "No" I said "I am a woman and am frightened by a MAN speaking a foreign language in my presence as I have no idea what he is saying" my nephew said "I understood him perfectly well" I scoffed and told my nephew that he can't speak Spanish and apparently he can. Now I am not a Trump supporter (as a feminist I hate him) but I still think if you come to America you should only speak English. My nephew is still friends with this man and told me I am in the wrong. I have told the whole family about the incident and they are shocked too, his parents and siblings are saying he was sticking up for his friend and did the right thing! What should I do?

My mother has difficult relationships with her close family members, her boss, and all of her in-laws. She also had a difficult relationship with both of her parents. She brags about being "very black and white" in the way she sees people. That said, she has many friends and would never admit that she has difficulty in these relationships. All three of her adult kids have anxiety. Examples: Told me it was "good enough for you ya little *****" that I thought I was going to snare my now husband and he hadn't proposed yet. When asked what she would like to do for her birthday, she just said "nope" and brought up all the ways we have all failed her on her birthday in the past. First memory is she told me to put Vaseline on my lips and I thought more was better. She came in, slapped me across the face and said I was a little ******* nerd and no wonder no one liked me. My father is an alcoholic and was on probation for a DWI. I drove him to meet with his probation officer and he had been drinking. I didn't know he had been drinking. It was a violation of his probation and he went to jail. She blames me and has said repeatedly that I did it intentionally. Blames the kids for her not getting divorced. Blames the kids for my dad's alcoholism. If I ever try to discuss any of this, my mother will utterly deny it and gaslight me. Was this emotional abuse? Am I oversensitive? How should I deal with this? I have two small kids and I don't know if I should limit contact.  

I need help my husband and I abused our daughter during her whole childhood we would beat her senseless and we would kick her in the butt we would hit her physically we would spank her until she bleed I would force her to kiss my feet my hands and sometimes even my ***** I would also make her have hot sauce and I even sexually assault her when she was 5 she was so blind that she did not even notice that she was being abused  I enjoyed abusing her when my daughter was 13 she had a boyfriend who showed her what love was like and when he found out what we were doing to her he told his parents (who treat my daughter like she was their daughter) showed proof that we were abusing her and took her out of our home and her boyfriend's parents took her in 2 7 years later we went to see her and our daughters boyfriend yelled saying "why are you her get lost you abused her both physically emotionally who the **** you think you are" and my daughter just glared at us and yelled "WHY ARE YOU HERE WHO THE FICK DO YOU THINK I AM" and cut of contact with us and filed a restraining order against us What can I do to get her to forgive us? This is not a troll and this is serious  I called my daughters boyfriends mom today and said that I should stay out of her life and she will give her a real mother's love  This is not a troll question you fools

This will be fairly long but I'll do my best to summarise. I've spoken a lot over the years about being verbally attacked by my wife. Called loser, stupid, dumb etc. We came out to Australia in 2011 and she straight away started working hard and taking her frustrations out on me. I was also working hard. We started from a position of next to nothing. I've worked stable full time jobs to pay the bills and ensure we were stable. But I've needed her help along the way to chip in with them. However, it was her parents and her work in real estate that was instrumental in us getting our first home and eventually building a portfolio. I continued to work but was critical of her bad language towards me. She sacrificed so much of her health working long hours and not eating properly. Her Chinese friends look at me and ask why I'm slightly overweight when she is deathly skinny. They blame me for not taking good care of her...But I have repeatedly told her to slow down and eat properly. She ignored this. Her every waking moment is about how to earn money. She pays for her expensive handbags and jewellery and even financed our recent European trip. We have to tent out one bedroom in our apartment to afford the child care fees. I'm balancing my debt the best i can whilst working shift work with a lot of night shifts and taking the lions share of caring for our 18 month old son... Her parents make the sacrifice of coming out from China to live with us and help take care of our son. My parents live a couple of hours away and dad is still working full time shift work as well. Recently she has said things like she hates me so much and wishes she wasn't with me because she feels like a man and I'm the woman in the relationship. She often says she looks down on a man that wants to come to his wife to ask for help. That most men my age (I'm 36) will have the family organised and have investments etc. That they organise to pay for trips and surprise their wives with nice presents etc. I'd like to do that but I'm paying all the bills for our apt including expensive car loan. I've tried to explain to her these things but she doesn't listen. I've been called useless and accused of doing nothing for the family despite how I've looked after most of the housework and spent so much time to look after our son. I'd come off night shift and stay up for hrs to care for him on weekends or stay up until midday to take him to the daycare and clean up the home. Then get up for his dinner. I am a respinsible person. I put the family first and work both in the home and outside. I also study. I try my best to manage. She claims that if she gets a cancer diagnosis from her poor health, that she will straight away divorce me and want to be left alone. Yep kick me in the guts for standing by her and trying my best. My best is never good enough. I'm too relaxed for her etc. But she makes me feel like I'm a hopeless man and loser with no way to make the family good. It's damn hard.

I'm 16 years old and my sister is 18. She never really liked me but that was something i could cope with, however when she turned 15 she started being horrible to me,we share our room and everyday when we went to bed she kept telling me i should kill myself that i'm worthless ugly a ***** and more.Most of the time i told her to fk off and ignored her. But she didn't stop bothering me with that and it wasn't until i turned 14 where it really started to bother me.Alot of the times i told my mom about it and my mom yelled at her for some time but she stoped that and just kept saying i'm lying or just ignore her.I cried myself to sleep 80%of the time and went to the bathroom just to cry without her telling me to shut up.Most of the time she ignores me during the day and only tells me to shut up and i hate you.About a month ago she started being even worse to the point where i got a mental breakdown and even asked her why she hates me,she just said my life sucks because of you i wish mom aborted you.I started acctually histerically crying. My mom got in our room to see what was happening and i was about to say everything she told me until my sister just said i  hate you infront of her but she just told me to not think about it too much and that my sister dosen't hate me but is just going thru a phase.I however started cutting myself and became depressed i can't do anything and i don't wanna deal with this i hate myself and i hate her i don't know what to do. I don't have alot of friends and when they come over she also bullies them to whitch my friends just awkwardly stare at me, and i don't usually stand up to her and just tell her to shut up and then we just go out somewhere. And i feel like noone is gonna care even if i record it since i think everyone will tell me i'm overacting and i don't know anyone i could talk to other then my mom or counselor but i'm scared to cuz my whole class might find out and start bullying me for being a crybaby.

daily life is getting harder for me, dealing with family issues and personal frustrations are making me a timing bomb. Stupid things make me go mad. PS: I'm 27.  I walk a lot, but it isn't enough for me. 

So I'm Mexican and I look black mixed white and I have some tight curls my hair is 3c/4a mainly 4a and when I was born I had 4b/4c hair

I'm totally exhausted nothing makes me happy and I'm miserable stressed I used to be so positive why is this happening

He noted he had been belted and that his brother was being belted that day for disobeying their mom who was my uncle's wife at the time. I told my mom who is disappointed in her brother for doing that but should we have contacted CPS? This was 20 years ago so the kids are adults now but wondering if back then we should have? The one who told me is pretty distant from the family now so I don't know what he's like but his brother who we see at holidays and weddings-funerals turned out pretty good. Not looking to call CPS now, just asking if I should have 20 years ago. Obviously now I would not Dr.D: my dad was never belted he said. However, my mother was belted.  My mom's sister is distant from her family and I saw her in December and she talked about how being belt it was a violation of everything, I reminded her that a lot of parents do that. She's a very bitter person towards her immediate family and determined to be distant from family. 

My sister is just mean in every way shape and form. She is an adult bully. My father is very ignorant and my mental illness and he also tends to lie a lot. Ignorant of my mental illness I meant to type

Last Thursday my mom and step Dad were supposed to have a great wedding my father barged in and he threw wine at my new step fathers shirt I tried to talk him out of this he even said a terrible speech to my mother he even my mom step dad and I are so upset with him he kept on apologizing to me but I refused to forgive him I apologized to my step dad he said it is not my fault Continue: I called my dad and told him what a horrible father he is and I hope that he can suffer the consequences and I told him that I will never forgive him he kept on apologizing and told me that he was jealous of my step father  Should I forgive him btw this is not a troll 

I can see if he was a thug or something but his son was in high school and there was no fight or anything, he called to make sure the son and his other family (Mom and step-Dad) was okay after 9/11 as they lived near the Pentagon in Arlington, VA.. This man was living in Phoenix area. I saw the son at my grandfather's funeral last fall and asked what his Dad was up to and that is when he said he hadn't spoken to him since 2001. I know you don't know the people involved but what kinds of things would make an otherwise nice and good man not speak to his son for 18 years? The man is an alcoholic but he is not some angry drunk who fights with people, he gets mushy when drunk and is not drunk all the time or anything. Correction---His son lived near NYC, not the Pentagon, an uncle worked in the Pentagon.

My mother always banned me from anyone she was estranged from but I always felt that was kind of unfair. My sister is not physically dangerous but just cruel with her words and selfish. My sister was the one to cut the contact and not me. My only flaw is I am a little sensitive too much. So should I just tell the kids they cannot meet her while she won't talk to their mother or is that selfish of me and should I let them meet her? I doubt she will be mean to them but will simply say the word hi and then ignore them. My son wish special needs she likely will complain about after (she does so with my other sister's autistic step-son). Kids are 10, 13, and 16 (all boys except the oldest).  They met her when little but only the oldest was old enough to remember. 

He just did bad to him since his childhood. My boyfriend was a war orphan,he was adopted at the age of 7, and he was traumatized by the whole experience. He grew up in a town by the sea, had two parents who loved him and an older sister. He was adopted by a childless couple in their 40s, the father wanted to force him to go to church and baptised him while he was crying against his will. He went to a school where he was bullied for being foreign, he had no friends, he was the only blond guy among dark haired people, the parents forbid him to speak his language (he can still speak it but he's always afraid). He was often hit with a belt from.his dad because they didn't get on, the man didn't like my boyfriend's personality, he didn't fit it with the other kids, with people and everything. During his teenage years he never fell in love. At 17 he run away from home to look for his sister, who got married and had a child, but didn't want to host him because he had too much trouble. After many hardships he emigrated again and found a job in the west. After many years he is called by her adoptive mom who begs him to visit his adoptive father cause he's dying of cancer. He refuses to see him saying that the man only did bad to him,that he was never a father, that was never a family. The man is now dead but still the wife (who was much softer than her husband) wants to meet my boyfriend again..do you think he should? He really doesn't want to and starts to get nervous at the thought

My baby father ex think it's my fault that he's not doing anything for their child. I mean at least he does give her $100 every 2 week's, she should be happy. I don't have anything to do with why he's the way he is. Now she's saying she hope our child die of and get murdered. I really want to beat her *** but she suffering enough. I don't care if takes care of his kid or not. He told me that he's not giving her child support neither. Which I really don't want child support because I can take care of myself. She's the one that need the help. 

My stepmom was great and I called her stepmom but recently she has been really mean for some reason that I don't know. I tried to ask her what was on her mind but to no prevail. Last weekend that I visited my dad's place it got completely out of hand. My dad wasn't working from Friday to Saturday and we had a great time but on Sunday he was at work and it was only me and my stepmom. We didn't speak to each other that day or anything but as I was about to leave at around 12 she told me that she won't let any of my dad's "bastards" in anymore and told me to give my keys that dad had given me to her. I refused to give them and decided go just leave. She has never been like this before and I don't know what to do. Should I tell mom or dad or both? They are married so half of the house is technically hers. Can she refuse to let me inside? I don't want to stop visiting my dad. I'm 15 and my dad is 41 and my mom is 36 and my stepmom is 32. My dad obviously lets me in but my stepmom doesn't. If my dad i gone but has given me permission to go in can I then go in even if my stepmom is home? But where do we meet then? Why is she so upset that me and my brother like to visit our dad?

I like going to the sauna with my parents. They go naked so I join them because ut's awkward to wear a towel or something if they are naked. Last time I got a ***** and had to try to cover it up while leaving the sauna but I think they noticed. How do I not get one? Should I ask them to wear towels? I'm 15 and they are 36 and 38.

My brother wants to buy my house to move out of mom and dad's, but I refuse to sell it because, I am too poor to get another house, and do not want to sell my home. now because I said no, he saying "There will be consequences to pay if I do not sell him my home" what do I do give him what he wants or see if he'll do something? I should have also added he wants to only give me $300 for my house

I'm 23 years old and a few years ago my mom said she wasn't sure if my Dad was my Dad. I love my Dad, he is my hero, but the past few years with the unknown has been hurting me. Even if he isn't my Biological dad I'd still love and respect him the same but without knowing it simply makes me feel uncomfortable. I just want to settle this. Is their a way to find out without admitting my curiosity to him? I don't want to trouble him with the question until I find the answer. Thank you very much.

So I told her ***** Idc. I hate my mother and the abuse she inflicted on my sisters including me the most. I've asked my mother too leave me alone, but all she does is argue. I told her I'd kill her if she continues to threaten me. I'm afraid if she doesn't stop nagging me it may not be a good ideal or ending. I told my grandmother the same thing. That I wish my mother would move on and leave me alone because she's a piece of **** who doesn't deserve children. She allowed for me and my sister's to be molested by her ex husband. She gave us away to the state and idk her. I don't want anything to do with her because I may end her life if she doesn't stop abusing me.  I'm here with my grandmother because i lost my place in Nov. I told my grandmother if nothing is resolved than I will put a restraining order in place. 

So i've been living with my for a year now and i have basically been miserable my mom and i are always arguing and it puts so much stress on me it's affecting my daily life at this point and her and her husband are always arguing over me and it's literally driving me insane.My mom always says there's no way in hell you can move back in with your dad then she gives me this whole guilt trip about it and i'm sick of it my dad and i did smoke weed together a year ago but he went and got all the help he needed just so he can get back into my life and he's sober i also went and got help but my mom and i are fighting so much it's made me so unhappy to where it's like i never got help.So can you guys tell me if i can move out?Thanks

I'll often buy a lot of pretty things, tech, makeup, etc. Sometimes I'll even give the nice things I buy to my mom. It's not that I don't want to keep them, but she never really buys nice things for herself. And if I'm not using them, I'll pass them on to my mom. After I gave her my Kindle e-reader and a nice fountain pen, my sister said it's weird that I give my things away so much, especially when I've paid a bit of money for it. I just don't see what's so weird about it.

So I haven't talked to my mother since last August, my mom

I'm asking as a sister in reference to a custody court case my mom is going through. It involves my sister, my mom and my sister's dad. The details pertaining to the case are that my sister's dad lost custody rights due to a toxic home. He only has supervised visits. The main issue I'm inquiring about involves the boyfriend recording my sister at home, in the living room, and in his car. My sister is a younger teen, so I imagine privacy is a big deal for her. My sister recently found out the boyfriend has a camera in the living room, and she saw that his phone was audio recordering her while he was driving her home from school. I brought this up with my mom and then questioned her what's going on. She stated that it might have been an accident, that her boyfriend hit record on his phone by accident. Then she changed the story and said their custody lawyer advised them to record my sister, so that any accusations of abuse could be rejected due to recorded evidence. Are the actions that my mom and her boyfriend doing, right? Would a lawyer really suggest recording my sister? 

They make me hate good people they hate but I like. For example my cousins' have a mother (uncle's ex) who my parents hate so I am not allowed to be nice to my cousins if their mother is around. That is one of dozens of examples. My Dad used me as a weapon to get my Mom's sister back a few years ago. 

He did it because he is a bully and I stutter. He calls me aspie fag because I have Asperger's. I don't like it and I cry everyday cause I am scared of him. He is big as he is 17 and I am only 15. I dont go to school cause Mom teaches me but my brother is a junior which means he is home for another year before he goes to college and I wont have to see him again. 

Great-grandma/grandma doing the right thing? The lady doesn't always bathe but my 11-year-old daughter cried after she said that. 

Hello everyone. I'm not trying to sound whiny at all... I have a genuine problem here. I have a job, but it doesn't take care of my needs well enough. My parents get a stipend from the govt. for adopting me, but when my paychecks come up short, my mom refuses to help me. Part of the reason I'm barely living is because she makes me pay for my schooling (I'm homeschooled, too) and it's ******* EXPENSIVE! The reason I'm bringing this up NOW is because this month my mom made me buy a laptop for school, the others are broken (fine, i dont care...) but it also meant that I didn't see a cent of my paycheck at all. So i ran out of TOOTHPASTE and she refused to buy me a 99cent tube! I wasn't even asking for something EXPENSIVE.. and I lost it and told her, you take my government stipend AND my money, and you won't even buy me toothpaste! And she LOST it and called me ungrateful! I'm not ungrateful! I'm freezing, every night, because I can't afford a quilt and i live in the basement. She threw her old quilt away instead of giving it to me! Can I report her, for... Something??

I've been very fortunate to be living with my parents, while paying a small portion of the rent, my own bills, and 1/3 of my tuition. However, I feel that living under my parents' roof is preventing me from experiencing the freedom I need at my age (23). That being said, I completely understand that I need to abide by their rules while under their roof; but it's time I think I need to do things on my own. I've held part-time jobs over many years while in college and have saved up about $25k.  Some things I'm concerned about: 1. I currently don't have a job (I've been actively seeking for 3 months now) while being a part-time student in a Master's program. 2. I don't have a credit card; which I understand is a big step that determines your credibility when undergoing a background check (i.e. credit score). My questions are: 1. What are some steps I can take to make myself moving out easier (i.e. should getting a credit card be a top priority?) 2. Would it be wise to continue living with my parents (while paying all current bills of course) until I find a job? Thanks so much in advance!