I didn't believe it and didn't think about it again until things started to really go bad. She cursed me for looking like the woman her husband left her for! You can't help me if you don't believe me, or can you?

I thought best friends make the best lovers because you know everything about each other and you can be yourself and completely comfortable. She said it's totally different but how? Anyone wanna share their experiences on this topic

Tell me about it and what makes it perfect? 

My dad just turned 58 and just welcomed his 9th child with a woman who is exactly 30 years younger! They work together at the same company too. They re planning on a wedding later this year, which will be his third marriage. He had 2 kids with wife #1, 2 with with #2 and then 4 more kids with 4 different women. Two of those women already had 2 kids from before and my dad had a 3rd baby with them. He also had grandkids. He s a good dad and a good guy, but loves the younger women and getting together with them. He is basically the Dennis Franz of his workplace....a guy you wouldn't expect to get the younger, good looking women. Beard, belly, glasses, but skinny. How does he get them?

I'm turning 37 this year. I'm married with a 2 year old son. I work full time shift work and study part time nursing. My wife works in real estate and has worked very long hours to secure multiple investment properties and she pays for holidays and looks after all the properties. Buys her own jewellery etc. She is 34 years old this year. She is always looking for new ways to earn money. My wages go to the mortgage and bills. I have no spare cash for holidays, presents for her etc. We rent out our spare bedroom to pay for our son's childcare fees. So lately my wife has been accusing me of not being successful, not capable of earning good money, not taking charge and letting her rest etc. Reminding me that I haven't achieved anything with my life and that 99% of married men earn more than I do and have been far more successful... Kept calling me a woman because I've been doing the housework and looking after our son. Also claiming no one likes me. She also gets quite hostile and says her declining health is a result of my low wages and her being forced to work to the point of sacrificing her health to get ahead. Now she says she would divorce me in an instant if she is ever diagnosed with cancer and that she hates me. That she is attracted to the man that can be a boss and take charge of the family. My wages can't do that unfortunately. Not in a big city like Sydney. I'm not a lawyer or doctor or engineer... Now we are cooperating with another couple to acquire rental properties and we turn them into Airbnb. It is starting to be successful. My wife found out about it and the couple were former tenants in one of my wife's investment properties. I have tried to explain that my wages are being badly affected by the car loan which luckily has only 12 months remaining. She still says she looks down on me because I am not earning at least 100k to help support. She wants me to earn more and take charge of managing the repayments on the investments, pay for childcare etc. Right now I cant even afford private health insurance anymore. So I feel like I'm just a failure. She even hates it that she is going to split the earnings from the new Airbnb venture with me. That I have no shame by asking her to give some of the profit to me despite how much I'm doing to help organise and manage the property. Because she is financing it. Then calls me a loser husband. Tells me to find the 5k to put up rent and furnish an apartment to start an Airbnb.  I cant do that as I'm living paycheck to paycheck with the ongoing bills. I earn about 65k per year. Around the average wage. She also tries to threaten to remove me from the chat group communication and cut me off from the Airbnb business.

My Mom used us to get our Dad back for the divorce and told us he didn't really love us. This wrecked me. He died last year by alcoholism. She always said if he loved us he wouldn't drink.

don't have a car so it's not like I can go drive to his place and make up some story about how I'm visiting a friend. He is forced to drive over here. I've been having him park at the neighbors house for fear of my family seeing him. My parents don't mind if I date but I don't want the evil eyes and judgement of dating someone so close after the divorce. I don't have time for a million questions. Plus I don't wanna introduce a new guy into our life until we've been together for a full year. I don't want it getting back to him I just know he's going to spread rumors about me being the biggest ho in town. Having sex in the car is getting old. Having to go on dates in another city so we won't be seen is getting old. Not being able to go out on public dates because you don't wanna be seen is getting Olof.

She doesn't want a divorce so I said fine we can stay together as long as you meet the following demands.  1) Get a style consultant to change your look 2) Enroll in a conversational skills class so she has interesting things to talk about in a sophisticated way.  3) Get a boob job and tummy tuck because of reasons 4) Get a hobby that gets her out of the house 5) Learn to do the splits and bend over backwards for reasons. Then she can finally show me something new.  She basically has to fill the role of every woman I would meet if I were single. Is that too much to ask to stay married?

Anyone I ever knew before marriage has disappeared and never come around even to visit. Plus, in my normal interactions, the ladies avoid me like the plague (I don't wear my wedding ring).  It's like they smell the marriage stench for miles. Marriage is like your character is suffering from an incurable negative status effect that nerfs all of your stats.  Like paying life with a handicap. How then am I supposed to have a positive view about marriage when most of my experience with it has been negative?

And she gives the common excuse which all promiscous people gives thst whatever she did orcontracted in the past is none of her husband's business n so she did'nt tell him because past is past and has no influence on present, which she thinks is modernism . So, in that case should the husband happily die from those deadly STD's without complaining as othherwise he will ne called insecured, loser and dominant for minding about his wife's privacy before marriage? And she could immediately jump to another partner after the husband's death and repaet the same with them as well n can give the same excuse,because people supports that sleeping around(protected or unprotected sex) before marriage is not a big thing n the wife does'nt have to tell about it to her husband, n so she does'nt have to tell about the consequences(STD's) too because its again not a big thing n her private thing. And the virgin husband's could keep on dieing for no fault of theirs.  Otherwise what option does the poor husband's have who gets married to such wife who slept with multiple men before marriage and brought such deady dieseases for their future husbands in the form of gift from their exes.

We can be walking and guys would be rolling down their car windows and quite obviously checking her body out. She doesn't wear anything skimpy so its not that i can blame that on her. They see that i am walking with her and they don't care. How can they be so disrespectful? Do you think she enjoys it?When i ask her she says she doesn't  know what i'm talking about and that nobody is looking at her. Am i overreacting? 

We do it frequently enough that I feel satisfied on the frequency. However, lately I can go longer than an hour or my wife can take over and go wild but I still can't finish. I have to pretend she's another person almost every time now to finish. What does this mean?

My husband and I moved and bought a home 2 years ago in a new city. It has been the worst 2 years of our lives. From financial struggles, to job loss to just EVERYTHING. We both absolutely hate it here and we both want to leave and move back to Atlanta where we previously lived. We agreed to wait until March to put the house on the market.  Something went terribly wrong yesterday with my husbands job and now he called in sick today and just left to go look for an apartment in Atlanta. He said if he finds one he's signing a lease today and that he's done with where we currently live. I understand where he's coming from but he's being so irrational. We CANNOT afford a house payment and rent at the exact same time right now. Hence why selling the house first is so crucial. I don't know what to do. I'm honestly worried he's going to sign a lease out of disgust and frustration. Any advice? I'm still at work 4 hours away. Any advice? I understand why he wants to do this but he's being so irrational right now. 

I had a serious discussion with my wife about divorce.  We've been married a long time but I think it's time to call it quits. Reasons are simple but she won't even consider divorce so instead she would like to remain married but with exceptions.  She won't call it open marriage but will tolerate if I ever need to cheat and also she agrees to give me space when I need it. What do you think?  Should I just get the divorce or stay married with this new plan? It doesn't sound so bad.  I know I'm being selfish and I should be.  Don't I deserve to have some fun on occasion?  Also, I wouldn't mind if she joined me on a few trysts so she may enjoy herself as well.  What is it with you people wanting to always resort to the extreme solution that causes the most pain?

I'm beginning to think I'll never get a straight answer regarding the marriage institution and all it entails good and bad. Half of you guys are trolls and the other half are crazy! Why would anyone take these answers seriously?

My husband and I moved to Myrtle Beach SC in 2016 for his job. After 4 months, his company closed its doors permanently. We've been unable to find decent paying jobs since then. Everything  is seasonal and the pay is an absolute disgrace. We are both working two jobs just to get by. I am a 2nd grade teacher and after taxes, medical, and the mandatory 9 percent retirement state employees are required to take out in bringing home 13000 per month. He makes 32000 per year as a sales manager.  I can't take it much more. We have no family here both of our families are 14 hours away. I cry almost daily. I want to move but my husband refuses to move. He loves the weather and the beach. He goes out to the bars and all he wants to do is "live it up" as he calls it. I feel like since moving here he's regressed back to a 21 year old.  Everyone we associate with is divorced or has kids but still drinks and has parties while their kids are sleeping. I feel like this is just a huge party town and NOT where we need to be! I explained to him my feelings and he told me if I don't like it he will gladly sign papers for a divorce and find someone who's local and wants to live here. Those were his exact words. I'm educated and have a degree. Going back to school is not an option for me. I want out of here. I know we can do better elsewhere. I know we aren't supposed to give up on our marriage but I'm honestly thinking of filing and just moving home with my parents. We are both 29 years old. 

Please list all the positives as well as ANY negatives.  Be honest.

And when you tell her, "No, I'm fine, I don't need to know about that kind of thing", she insists that she MUST tell you?

I am 22 and I wanted to get secretly married without my parents knowing. Is this possible?  I am under their health insurance and I am apart of their auto Insurance policy as someone that lives with them and drives their car. They also claims me as a dependent on their taxes  If I complete my own taxes and get my own Insurance, will their auto insurance company notify them that I am married ?  What are other things that can possible notify them that I have changed my marital status ?  We will be getting married at a courthouse. 

I caught him at a house and he says he was selling drugs there i said well why did you spend a night there three nights in a row because the drug dealer dont stay at the trap house but all he keep saying is he was selling drugs and its no woman involve but i'm not crazy and everyone i mention it to say it's a lie.i know my husband he don't like cops so he wouldn't sell any drugs it's just something to say to throw me off but I'm not stupid