I stepped down as maid of honor for a friend's wedding, we're clearly not that close anymore. She is the type of person who has always asked for a lot from other people, but does little for others in return. When she sent me a long message expecting me to arrange a bachelorette party for her, I told her I would be stepping down as maid of honor. When I texted her happy birthday, she didn't even respond. I really don't have any motivation to go to her bridal shower at her mother's house. I will be starting another job soon, could I just use a work event as a reasonable excuse to go? I'd rather just go to the wedding and get her a nice present, I really don't see why attending a bridal shower should be so necessary. We likely won't be keeping in touch after the wedding anyways, I don't see much of a reason to. Has anyone else been through a similar experience or have any advice to offer?

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