For example my aunt has an issue with her daughter and wrote a 25 page letter attacking the daughters character. The daughter is an adult. I objected to my aunt doing this but my dad made it my responsibility to refuse to speak to her as to make a statement about the letter. It caused me great anxiety to have to boycott her for six months. As a kid I was used as a pawn to try to get my grandfather to go sober by not being allowed to see him for a number of years. This ruin holidays and family celebrations to not be allowed to go. Recently my uncle and his wife have split after 30 years. I anticipate that I will be barred from any association with the wife and though I'm an adult that doesn't stop them from using me. Since I hate conflict I can't just stand up to them and tell them to grow up. The uncles wife has a mother is dying and if her funeral is on a weekday my father will have to know I'm going for I work for my father. He will say not to go and he will likely hold me back to get retribution on the uncle's wife, soon to be ex-wife. While skipping the funeral is not the end of the world since the wife's mother is not related it's once again be getting used as a pawn and it will cause me anxiety since those cousins came to my grandmothers funeral on the other side of the family. So in each of these cases I'm looking for a direct and effective way to ask them not to use me like this?

She blames me for everything and my mom always believes are just cause we don't have a dad and so she's the other girl and I'm the only boy She blames me for everything and my mom always believes are just cause we don't have a dad and so she's the other girl and I'm the only boy

I see the uncle a few times a year. Before his wife had to leave him I'd see him once or twice a year only.

I woke up late at night to get a glass of water on saw my mom literally giving my dad's D a kiss in the kitchen. I just backed off and drank straight from the tap and here I am writing this. Why did she do that? I'm 14 and they are 35 My parents aren't married

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i reached out to my old best friend over text who i haven't talked to in years bc of a fight and i asked if we could be friends again and she said " To be honest for a little won't be really talking to anyone really outside my family bc I'm trying move out of my house, focus on school, and my mom and stepdad r going through some things right now and I won't be on my phone really anymore. But I'm an really glad I was able to chat with a little and I'm happy we're good." what did she mean 

She was helping me with my computer and she was sick you could hear in her voice and stuff and she suddenly coughed in my face and it was wet and nasty and she said sorry and continued helping me but i'm worried about getting sick now

I want to move in with my mom and step dad my stepmom told me she would not allow my mother to take us there is a better environment and it makes me really happy there and I can really be myself around there my mom and step dad live in the U.S.A in New Jersey North Brunswick I want to attend college there I live with my dad and stepmom in India my stepmom says she would never let my real mom take us she also wants me to not have anything to do with my mom Can I force her to let me live with my step dad and my real mom?

My stepmom wanted me to have nothing to do with my mom anymore because she hates my mom I have had enough of her crap so I forced them both to let me live with my mom and step dad and I am moving there tomorrow Did I do the right thing? This is not a troll I am already packing my stuff 

Even though she is not and is only trying to block my mom and step dad out of my life and my stepmom went to prison for nothing I now live with my mom and step dad is this a good thing This is also not a troll 

I'm a 16 year old Finnish guy and me and and my parents go to the sauna pretty often. We went to the sauna yesterday and well I got a ***** for the first time which was embarrasing. The problem is that my mom threw cold water on my balls to make it go down. I just left and went to sleep and haven't talked to her since then. My mom is 37 and my dad is 39.

I'm a 16 year old guy and I just left for the weekend and gave my mom a quick kiss before getting on the train. She turned her head tho for the first time which was weird. Why did she do that? She is 38. She turned so that our lips touched

It hurts to be segregated when my sister is the one with the issues. The sister dislikes me cause I called her out last summer on her bullying of me which has gone on for years. My grandparents, aunt, cousin, and other siblings were all welcome over anytime. I had to wait till my sister was leaving. How do I get them to stop punishing me to please my sister? My sister gets very angry if she does not get her way so my mother, not so much my Dad, has always caved to my sister's demands. As a result the sister has become a narcissist. Of my parents 5 children she was the only daughter and the youngest. I am 38 years old.  Note---I have no problem seeing my sister, she is the one with the problem seeing me. 

I am a half Indian, half Vietnamese boy. When me and my Vietnamese mom go shopping, I hold her hand and address her as mommy. I do that because she is close to me. Yet people stare at me. Is it because of slightly different skin tones? Or is it because it is considered weird?

My sister is 30 and just had her first child. Here is a pic of her: https://imgur.com/a/OveT9Cc

As a kid I always wondered why my mom s mom had the same last name as my mom s dad, even before they got married. Well, turns out, my mom s mom s dad is the nephew of my mom s dad s dad. So my mom was the product of incest.

The animal somehow got to an abandoned building and used a dagger on me. I ended up with a stab wound on my forehead by my eyebrow. She's been criminal toward me to seize my possessions since long but i'm literally avoiding her or anything to do with her even and this is really disappointing that no one stopped her and obviously she has severe issues

My mom helps everybody except me. She doesn't care about me. She makes me feel bad. I haven't left the house in 10 years and she never tried to make me leave the house.

Idk why but this is 90 percent of why I get yelled at by him. Either I didn't use ALL of the cat litter or not enough. We have multiple litter boxes, one being in his bedroom. Only 2 cats use this one and theirs is never messy maybe like 3 poops. I've been working on my feet all day so I take a nap and wake up to him complaining and ranting to himself about how 'dirty' it is when hardly any cats use it. It's like all I live for is to clean up cat ****, wash his laundry, and make him food. It's ridiculous and pisses me off. He can't expect a cat box to smell good.

It's my bf's birthday only my family came for dinner. I feel so bad for him. His family never came to his birthday. This is his third birthday that they didn't show up. We've been together for almost 3 years and he once mentioned to me that his family hates him. It has to do with his profession. So basically his dad wanted him to be an engineer because he's an engineer but he refused. Instead he became an artist. He loves to paint. He's the youngest of four. All his older siblings are doctors and engineers. He used to be so close with them until one time my boyfriend and his dad got into an argument and there was yelling involved and he walked out and his dad told him to don't ever come back and don't ever step foot on this house. I was there. It happened when we were still in college. They never talk since that incident. Even his mom and his siblings turned away on him. It just makes me so emotional because my boyfriend is such a nice man. I know you don't earn that much being a painter and I do earn more than him since I'm an accountant but I don't really care. What's important is that he's a good man, and has respect for me and for my family. Sometimes it makes me cry when he tells me how he feels a little jealous of me because I have a beautiful relationship with my family. My family loves him so much that my parents treat him as their own son. He said he's so lucky to have met me. I just hope one day he can have his family back😭

My mother has gone upstairs into my brother's room and I keep hearing muffled noises. I walked up the stairs and yelled "(insert brothers name here)" and no one one answered. I then came back about 5 minutes later and yelled "mom?" And she sounded weird while answering, like she just paused doing something. I came upstairs about another five minutes later to see my brother staring at me while in his bed and my mother sleeping next to him. We had an awkward conversation, and then I came back downstairs. Either I'm really dumb, or something weird just happened. I'm pretty sure I'm just being dumb though.

Okay so this one might be tough. When my mom was younger, she got pregnant by a man. She thought it was her on and off boyfriend at the time, but a paternity test was negative for me and my twin brother and him. She has no idea who got her pregnant, as the timeline and who she had been with is a bit muddy. I have little interest in finding this guy for any sentimental reasons, mostly I just want to see what he looks like and knowing his medical history. Maybe a bit of closure. Is there any way to find my biological father? All I know is what city he probably lived in in 2000, which I know isn't much to go off of. 

I am a half Indian and half Vietnamese boy. My Vietnamese mom is very patient and forgiving. She has not raised her voice once in front of me. 

Back when I was 17 I worked fast food.  So I took this one man's order and the man said that he wanted a sandwich with just the meat on it. So I accidentally crossed everything off including the meat. My supervisor was making food and she calls me and she asks me "what's this" I explain to her that it was a mistake and I meant for it to just be the meat. She says "No, you messed up the order" and takes off the screen. This poor old man comes up to us and says "excuse me, I ordered my food 20 minutes ago and it still hasn't arrived. To which my manager responds by explaining how I messed up the order, telling him that I don't know how to do my job, just letting it all out on this man. He says "I don't really care I just want my food"  So after he gets his food the supervisor runs to the coworkers and proceeds to tell them, in spanish, how horrible I am and how stupid I am and how they should fire me, calling me other mean words. (keep in mind she's 25, I was 17) then she sends me on a break and I text my mom about what happened.  An hour later my mother shows up and I beg her not to say anything. She asks for the manager and it turns into WW3. They're going back and forth, cussing each other out in spanish. My mom's saying "she's just a little girl how can you say all this stuff about her, what kind of supervisor are you?  You're the stupid one they should fire you" and it gets so heated that the general manager had to break it up.  After that I never went back there again. So the majority of the workers there were spanish and knew that my spanish was crappy. That's why she went to the back and talked about me in spanish.  Even the coworkers (none of my coworkers liked me because I was slow) were uncomfortable and telling her to calm down.  This was my first job and I only worked there for a month. I could only work weekends so I had barely any training.

He was caught of stealing an iPhone from someone and he told people that his friend stole and gave it to him. When he was 9-10, he stole my son's toys and put in his backpack. Since he was a kid I forgave and did not say to anyone. Now, he is 14 and this bad behavior seems growing. We do like him, but I hate to enable any bad behavior so I told my husband not to let him go to an upcoming trip with us that we planned to surprise him. Just recently he stole my son's monster truck that he said he wished to have, then an hour he left, the truck disappeared. Just him and my son were playing in the living room. My kiddo cried and cried. The thing is this kid doesn't think he is doing anything wrong for stealing other people's stuffs. Any help for this kid?  How do I make it clear stealing is not OK in our house? 

I was trying to go back to my room, but then my sibling is blocking me from it. They said, "I wanna kill you" and they said they had a knife. I dont know what to do. They really hate me with them kicking me every chance they get. Help. I will try to talk to them and see if I can get them to stop. If I can't, I will put the 911 call in myself when I lock my self in my room. They are under 18, so I dont think they have a gun.

So I wonder what makes someone who goes through struggles learn "good things" from those struggles or "bad things". For example, my dad's dad was very abusive to him and his mom (my grandma) and years later when he had me he would beat my mom, siblings and me as a form of discipline. And I understand that people repeat what they grow up with but when I have children I don't want to beat them as a form of punishment or discipline. I remember telling my grandma when I was 5 "I don't want to hit my kids because I don't like it when daddy hits me." Also, my mom was molested as a child and when she told her mom and dad they told her not to speak of it anymore. Years later I am 18 and telling my parents of my own molestation as a child and my mom tells me that I shouldn't have told them and to not speak about it anymore. But God forbid that ever happens to my children, I will want them to tell me and I will handle it accordingly and never silence them. I do not agree with what my parents did but I understand why they did it, they were just repeating patterns that they had seen. But why don't I want to repeat those patterns? What makes someone take something bad and continue it? And what makes someone take something bad and make good from it? And what determines that outcome? I'm a girl by the way. I don't know if gender plays a role in the outcome. 

I might have to let my mom drive my car for a while but my mom farts A LOT, and she has diabetes so she also pees herself a lot on top of that.

Growing up my mother's family rejected me cause she and her father had a falling out over his drinking. My Mom would vent to me about it and so I would hear things like "they do not want a relationship with us". I felt so rejected. As I got to be a teen my Mom died and her father seemed to be getting better. We got closer and remained close until his death when I was 30. Now at age 40 I still have tremendous guilt about having been distant ages 8 to 15. My mother felt she had to protect my siblings and I. I think there is some truth to that though I also think she was just mad and overlooked our needs and used us. All these years later I feel pain by it. I was bullied in school and so hearing my maternal relatives rejected me just added to that pain. Then when I tried to make a relationship for the first time I succeeded and her family was welcoming to me. We still didn't see them a lot as our Dad had moved with us and he refused to do celebration with them. I would visit individually. All these years later it is a trauma. When we miss something cause we are not asked I get flooded with feelings of shame and loss. My father thinks it is absurd and has no understanding when he was the one to go along with my mother. As a result I am overlooked sometimes as people just see me as Paul's son who must be with his Dad for the holiday or whatever the occasion. My Dad is a good person but this one thing hurts. My siblings are not as sensitive to it. So how do I get my Dad to understand the pain I feel when he is so ignorant to it?

I liked the aunt but my parents are not going to want me to like her anymore and they force me to feel how they feel. I still have a soft spot for this ex of my uncle's my parents will now require me and my siblings to hate. My brother and I both think of her still as family, our parents order us to dislike. So is it okay to be sad about this or am I being childish? I am in my twenties so not a little kid but our parents still get mad when they find out we like an enemy of theirs though my mother has matured some on that now that we're adults. My Dad still has a childish "my enemy must be your enemy". I don't like conflict so am afraid to make them mad and am just trying to train myself to dislike this aunt but I have always liked her. I did not live in the marriage so have no idea who is at fault. Plus I don't care who is at fault since I am not going to marry either of them. The uncle can be rough but has softened some and the aunt does get bitter easily but otherwise is fine. My parents get bitter easily so they are the same as her. 

I am his 35 year old grandson but he thinks I am my late grandmother since I stay overnight often with my aunt at his house.

I don't like her but there is still that family tie. I say hi when I see her but she only speaks to me if pressured by the crowd being around. She is a case of an adult bully.

My Dad's side likes us but my Mom's side rejects us and did even when she was alive and continues to after her death. It saddens me so much. I've always held out hope for two extended family instead of one. They are cordial when they have to see us but otherwise reject us. How do I get over this sadness?

i reached out to my old best friend from my childhood over text and tried to bring back our friendship after we had a big fight years ago and after i found out she switched to homeschooling and we were texted for a while and when i asked if we could be friends again she said "To be honest for a little won't be really talking to anyone really outside my family bc I'm trying move out of my house, focus on school, and my mom and stepdad r going through some things right now and I won't be on my phone really anymore. But I'm an really glad I was able to chat with a little and I'm happy we're good. "

My dad really wants me to take up rifling because he's doing it with my younger brother. I really don't know how to feel about this. He gets on me about it and I don't think I really want to. I have gross motor skills and horrible balance, so I'd feel it'd be a safety risk. Also, with all the gun violence going on today, I'd probably get looked down upon for doing it. I don't want to seem too girly or liberal by not wanting to. Honestly, taking my younger brother with ADHD to the range was a huge risk, even if he was on his meds. I'm already insulted that he doesn't do anything like that with me first, I'm the oldest child! He's insisting in a few years I WILL go to the range. Our family is dysfunctional and I'm already not comfortable with a gun in the house. We live right next to police, so it's not necessary. But I don't want to seem like a letdown or disappointment because I'm not sure if I want to do it. I'm not good with gunfire sounds either. But if I tell him this he'll think I'm too girly,liberal, and overall lazy..