Family: Question: My Mom wants to have more kids?

Question: My Mom wants to have more kids?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 01:32 PM PST

My mom just got a new boyfriend in August. He moved into our house late October and since then my mom has been paying less attention to me. My mom and him now want to have children together. I am a junior and my brother is a freshman, since we are almost adults I consider it weird for my mom to want more kids now. Is this normal? Was I not successful enough in school? My mother is 45. If she does have a child is it possible it will have a disability? My brother already has adhd.

Question: On Thanksgiving and Christmas my mom made me be separated from the family because my sister dislikes me. How do I avoid this next year?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 12:56 PM PST

My sister dislikes me for reasons that are not my fault. I finally got mad at her last summer for the bullying as I couldn't take it anymore. Thanksgiving you may remember me riding on here I was segregated to a corner room with an antisocial cousin. I also was not welcome to come until dinner hour. Come Christmas my mom tried to do the same though my father stuck up for me. My sister is like she is because my mother always gives her what she wants. So my question is how do I avoid this problem next year at the holidays or if I have to see the sister during the year. There's a wedding I might see her at in June though hopefully the sister can't make the trip.

Question: Since I am estranged from my sister is there any point in telling people I have a sister?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 12:48 PM PST

Question: My parents think I should go to a wedding at the uncle who raped me is going to be at. How do I get them to see if that’s too hard for me?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 12:48 PM PST

They say I need to get over it since it's been 20 years and he's gone sober since. Indeed he has but he's never apologized for it the three times I've seen him. He was drunk and an alcoholic when he did it and I was 12 at the time. When I see him I feel all the shame of losing my virginity to him and of mistakes I made two years later when I started sleeping around for about a year and had a baby at 15 who was placed in another family. So how do I get them to say this is too hard for me? I saw him twice when he first got out of jail and it was too hard and then four years ago at my grandmothers funeral. This would involve traveling to a wedding where we'd be with him for two days straight. His son is getting married.

Question: Ever since my brother suicide my mom has been drinking a lot. It’s been three years. Should I do one of those interventions?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 12:44 PM PST

How do I know if she's really an alcoholic because she says she's not but she's almost always lit or full-blown drunk. I don't have friends over anymore because it's embarrassing. On Christmas she was so drunk I barely saw her all day. Also if I did an intervention are the rules for that that if she does not get help I'm never allowed to talk to her again? My uncle did one on my grandfather but they never spoke again since he did not get help. My mom is the daughter of an alcoholic father. He died over 25 years ago though before I was born.  

Question: My aunt likes to insult the family. Is it normal that one member is like this and most big families?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 12:43 PM PST

Question: My mom serves alcohol to her brother who has known drinking problem, does this make her an enabler and should I tell his children?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 12:41 PM PST

He's twice divorced with the second one being due to the drinking but his children still love him.

Question: Since my dad is a bad guy well I risk having some of his traits as I get older.?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 12:39 PM PST

He was horrible to his elders and he also lies constantly. He's rather ignorant of people that are different if their family while excepting of those outside family. He's a horrible man. Just today I learned that he has already committed an active lie to disappointment  me again.  Is ruined this upcoming summer.   He's a horrible man that I keep hoping will turn around.  He's like the devil. 

Question: Do you argue with the people you live with or not at all?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 12:30 PM PST

I find it ridiculously funny that we're 3 at home, mom, my 20-year-old brother and me, and we argue a lot, for example, my brother has a lot of mental issues, and among them is an underlying eating disorder and sometimes he refuses to eat so there's a huge argument at home because I get mad and mom tries to calm me down. That's just one of the many arguments at home. Well, have a great week from Wyoming!. :-)

Question: Should I remove family members likes on my Facebook music page?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 10:55 AM PST

They don't support my goals in music but like my page, if they get wind I'm getting too serious about it it actually has started fights. They are religious and believe it's wrong to do anything involving potential fame or just say it's a crap shoot, or just simply think I'm being foolish. They find what I do simply 'cute' and a nice hobby when it's my passion. I just feel weird doing much more knowing their eyes are on me but not being supportive. I'm not going for the big time but I don't appreciate such judgmental attitudes. 

Question: Yo take your head of like Connor McGregor?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 10:19 AM PST

Don't get clever take your head of like Mayweather backwards kick Connor McGregor if you wanna go deeper I'll go deeper you better be prepared what people say I don't care don't start don't play them games when I see your dad he's gonna get a panic account hit him in back yh hit him in his face he be seeing stars all-day now onto your sister like a flash step back been told your sister is a brass got no **** and no **** and I heard she got attacked by 4 lads and where's your dad cuz we don't know and I wanna know why your mum is deaf

Question: Can you just throw an old broken computer in the trash? Or do you have to give it to somewhere?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 10:14 AM PST

I hade a late 2009 27 inch Imac and it's broken and old, can i just throw it in the dumpster outside? it's a LCD LED display not a CRT

Question: Why do we not lose points when we ask questions on here anymore?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 10:03 AM PST

Question: How much should I charge for my computer?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 10:02 AM PST

I'm selling my old computer on eBay for money and it's a Late 2009 27 inch iMac and it won't turn on because the graphics card and hard drive failed and i think the power supply is also dead I was thinking 189$

Question: POLL: can we be friends? i want to make some new friends?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 10:00 AM PST

Question: My computer was stolen, next steps?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 09:54 AM PST

So I was at the mall and I brought my iMac Late 2009 27' because it's broken so I was bringing it to the apple store to get it repaired and i left it outside the store while i talked to a manager and when i came back the computer was gone!! later that night i went on findmy so i could track the computer and it showed me the computer was in a house a few blocks away from the mall, should I go to the house and ask?

Question: Am i wrong for not respecting my parents?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 09:49 AM PST

I'm 18, i still live at home but work full-time to save money and I'm working on moving out. As i grew up all i can remember is getting in trouble while my sister no matter what got out of it. She even punched me in the eye because i was wearing her jacket (she's 2 years older) and my parents got mad at me not her. As i got older things only got worse my mom was verbally abusive to everyone in my family and my dad wasn't the best either. He made me feel guilty and sometimes about 1-4 times a year physically hurt me. I went to therapy for a long time and my dad always said the problem in me and my parents relationship was that i didn't respect them enough, but after being called a ***** and many names by them i can't treat them the same. My mom and i went to therapy, my mom acted like she was taking it well but instead right when i got in my car she called me and told me how much I'm a liar and that i bullied her the entire time while my therapist said it's the best I've ever communicated. My dad went to the next session and told my therapist that i needed to fix the relationship even though relationships are 2 ways. Today especially he's making me feel guilty and saying that i need to fix the way i talk to her and i need to give her more respect. Am i wrong for not respecting her? 

Question: I was scammed, next steps? please answer ?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 09:34 AM PST

I bought a new computer a late 2009 27 inch iMac on ebay and it came in today and I brought the box to my room and setup the computer and when I pressed the power button i heard a pop and smoke came out of the computer and now it's dead... The seller said the computer was 100% working in the title, what do I do now?

Question: Why do people block people?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 09:30 AM PST

My crush just blocked me on snapchat for no reason, why do people block people? it makes me cry and it's rude

Question: How can I kindly get my mom to stop obsessing over my weight?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 08:20 AM PST

I mean without being rude but it does get super annoying I am a average female 150 lbs but now I am working on gaining muscle slowly which I gained about 2 lbs so now I am about 152 lbs when that happens my clothes starts to get really baggy if anything, more baggy then when I lose weight. My mom is over weight she often gets into her moods and make comments on mine how skinny I am sometimes looks at the size of my clothing sometimes she will try to know what my weight I just think it isn't her business really. I want to tell her to stop without being rude as all I can think of is saying that my weight wasn't just handed to me why don't you lose weight? I am not that type of person however one day I did say it was hard work once which made her be quiet about it for a little while. I am a vegetarian but I eat whole grains tofu fruits and vegetables with some chocolate that actually helps me sleep and take vitamin b12 and I will take vitamin d in the winter. 

Question: Was my husband flirting with my mom?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 08:05 AM PST

My mother, June told me she wanted to start dating again and hopefully get married again. She had lost a lot weight and had bought a whole new wardrobe. She ask my husband if she could model her new clothes for him. He agreed. After she had showed him her new clothes she ask my husband what he thought of her chances of finding a man that would marry her. He told her with her great looks, a year from now she would have been on her honeymoon. She should plan now for her wedding dress as he knew she will get a marriage proposal soon. She said is that true or are you just trying to make me feel good? He told her men can not resist a beautiful woman with a great figure and she would soon be married. She gave him a hug and said you are the best son in law ever. Should my husband even be thinking about mom's figure? For the record she does have a GREAT FIGURE. Was mom flirting with my husband or was he flirting with her. What do you think?

Question: If you don't love me now will you never love me again?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 07:31 AM PST

Question: Should I remove family member likes from my facebook page for my music? --I'm going to start putting out a lot of music soon and online?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 06:45 AM PST

networking/etc. In the past though when I have done anything related to getting serious about my music my family expresses great discouragement. They know have talent but argue that my talent should just be a hobby, they are very religious which I respect but say that wanting to be famous is basically bad, it's a crap shoot anyway and just don't believe or understand the vision or spending money on it. I understand the spending too much money as I will decrease but they like my fb page and part of me thinks I'll just hope they don't say anything and let me do my thing but there is a part of me knowing that when they watch anything their hope is that I'm doing it "just for fun" -it almost feels like knowing they hope i will fail and what I do is cute and all and I'm just being foolish.

Question: I’m too lazy and I don’t know what to do about it.?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 06:41 AM PST

Title says it all. I'm a 15 year old boy, and I just feel like I am too lazy. I have major acne on my face and I never do anything about it. When I get medicine subscribed to me for all my health problems, I never take it. I only my take a shower about twice a week. I even get mad when my parents tell me I have to take the trash out, and the dumpster is like 20 feet away from the house. Oh, did I mention that I only brush my teeth about 4 times a week? Sometimes I even feel too lazy to talk. I'm not social at all and I always try to avoid conversation. I just need motivation. I don't want to be like this forever, growing up and still living with my parents.

Question: I just learned my sister has a criminal record for falsifying a police report after an assault. Should I warn her boyfriend of her ways?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 05:20 AM PST

The assault she did against our Dad.  eyecue_two : Wow, Power. I am not at all close to my sister. She is abusive to me.  Andrew: I would love to have my sister in jail.  Kelly: My sister never admits to blame, she deflects it on others. She will claim our Dad did it which is B.S. 

Question: My Dad is a very disrespectful person. Could this be why he did not even go to the funeral for his own grandmother?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 05:19 AM PST

He had already planned a trip to the beach with my step-mother and their two kids. I was respectful and stayed back and attended. My father was not.

Question: Should I not allow my daughter around ?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 03:54 AM PST

For the past 4 years all I have heard out of my parents are we want a grandbaby, we want you to have a baby, you should have a child.... well I finally found the one 2 years ago, we have settled down and recently gotten married, I just found out I am having a baby and I notified my mom.. she ran back and told my dad... 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ Well my car has mold in it and I asked them if once I have the baby or closer to time if they could help me get a clean car (used) nothing fancy. They flew off of the henges and I ended the call for the sake of my stress and my babies stress. I would not have asked for help unless it was for the fact of a child coming into my life. One line my mom said that made me mad and stayed in my head was "you should have thought about your life and a car before you thought about a child" yet for 4 years all I heard was baby baby baby. Not to mention my 16 year old brother has a 2019 Dodge Challenger.  I asked my husband if I should ever have anything to do with them again and he told me it was my family he wasn't stopping me. I do not want my baby around my parents if they can not accept it. And the fact of mold growing in the back seat and floorboard (ever since I have had it) they should see where I am coming from. I do not want my baby in the environment of this because of the health problems it could cause.

Question: Is it ok for me to always call my niece "honey" I've been doing it so long its going to be hard to stop if I should. 13 years old.?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 03:19 AM PST

Question: Was I wrong to let my nephew go on a ride alone?

Posted: 21 Jan 2020 12:12 AM PST

So I went to the fair with my mom and my two nephews and there was a ride that needed two people. Me and one of my nephews went together while my other nephew went with a stranger.  So when the rides done the nephew that went with the stranger was sniffling and crying and hugging my mom and my mom was scolding me and the other nephew for letting him go with a stranger.  My nephew claims that the man he was with was "scary" because he was cursing during the ride and had tattoos all over his body. And my nephew was just making a huge deal out of nothing honestly, people curse.  My nephews are 10 by the way

Question: Why does my big sister call me baby sometimes she refers to me as my baby?

Posted: 20 Jan 2020 09:41 PM PST

I'm a guy 

Question: My brothers left me out to dry when my dad died ?

Posted: 20 Jan 2020 08:45 PM PST

My dad died in November. My dad had me #2 and my two brothers #3 and #4 from his second marriage and my half brother #1, the eldest from his first marriage.  I'm #2 the only daughter and the only child of my fathers who has children (young twins). My dad was very ill in his last two months, completely  homebound and living with #3, #3 didn't lift a finger to help him or even take out the trash for him. I made the 45 minute drive everyday other day to bring food and tidy up and take out garbage and no one would help me. I called them and implored upon them to please at least spend time with dad. The made little effort. The day before I took my dad to the hospital, he couldn't want or eat at all and #3 refused to stay home with him until I could get there in the morning. #1 only visited once and #3 and #4 didn't see him until the end of that week. I didn't want him to be alone so me and my aunt took turns making sure we were there for the doctors rounds.But my brothers were MIA during the service planning not answering texts or anything. #1 picked up the tab at the restaurant where we had the reception but that's all.  Now I'm almost done cleaning out my dads apartment which 12 years of stuff in it and my back hurts so bad from hurling piles of junk and furniture into my van.  How do I forgive them for leaving me alone to handle everything. I'm so hurt. I miss my dad so much, and I'm so alone and exhausted.  My dad lived alone with #3 because that's what he wanted to do with the rest of his life. 

Question: My dad vacations with his wife and my half sister but excludes me and my brother his first sons.  really hurts my feelings.?

Posted: 20 Jan 2020 08:31 PM PST

He lives long distance away from us and we only see him once a month sometimes. Makes a lot of promises to me he doesn't keep.  It really hurts my feelings and is hard to cope with. 

Question: Why does my big sister call me baby? Sometimes she refers to me as my baby. I’m a guy and I’m 15 and my sister is 19.?

Posted: 20 Jan 2020 08:30 PM PST

Sometimes she calls me honey and sweetheart.

Question: Are my parents abusiv? ?

Posted: 20 Jan 2020 08:22 PM PST

I was experiencing intense abdominal pain yesterday, so i started screaming really loudly and my dad said i was a crazy idiot and slapped me. That's just what he's done recently but it is his usual behavior. He's sexist toward me and my sister, and when i call him out he says i'm making stuff up like usual. My mom is the only one who works but she's also bad. She never listens to me when i tell her about my depression and she has stopped talking to me all of a sudden. I can't get her to talk to me. So, is this abusive? 

Question: I thought from the sound of it my mom doesn’t want anymore kids?What do you think? Why is she telling me she can’t believe she’s turning 45?

Posted: 20 Jan 2020 06:37 PM PST

Why is my mom keep saying she can't believe she's going to be 45 and so many things bother her she scared she hasn't been to the doctors had any exams since she had my last sister. Besides me (20) I have two other sisters 10 and 8 now I don't know if she's also sad about not having more kids? I don't think my mother wants more kids as when she heard Cameron Diaz having a baby at 47 thought it was scary and crazy and sad because when the kid is 10 Cameron could be a grandmother already. my mom said she has no patience already.. it went from Cameron having a baby to then my mom herself saying she has no patience for a baby. But now when I talk to her about my friend wanting a baby soon because she's gonna be 30 and I said she should just wait because my friend loves to go out and stuff and once you have a baby you're stuck! My mom kinda stays silent so I don't know what's going on in her head. She said last summer she's done having kids she needs to live her life 

Question: Why would my cousins delete and block me because they’re mad at my father?

Posted: 20 Jan 2020 06:36 PM PST

I'm in my early 30s and I've always been incredibly kind to my cousins on my dads side of the family. I interact with them regularly on Instagram, like their posts comment on them and engage them often. I congratulate them when they accomplish something and am always supportive. I live in another state so hanging out doesn't happen often. My dad is one of 8 children. His youngest sister died of cancer in 2015. She didn't have any children and she left her money to my father. My father chose to keep the money. He gave one of my cousins her car and has put the rest in a savings account and will give it to his siblings if at any point they need help with something like a mortgage payment, surgery, serious stuff etc. It's been 5 years since my aunt died and slowly all of my cousins in the past 2 years (all siblings and children of one of my dads other sisters who passed away) have all deleted me off Instagram and blocked me and also blocked my phone number and gave me no explanation. They're all my age between 28-38. They feel that they should have gotten their mothers share of the inheritance since she passed away in 2000 also of cancer and that my dads other siblings should have gotten equal shares.  I find this really hurtful. I never did anything to them. I didn't get a cent of the money my dad inherited. I pay all of my own bills. It's his money not mine. I can't imagine why they'd be so petty and take it out on me when I've been nothing but kind to them.

Question: Why does my older brother behave this way?

Posted: 20 Jan 2020 06:29 PM PST

He is 30 but he has some rather odd behaviors. One is he doesn't seem to understand the concept of how the A/C and Heater works. He sets the heater to 83 during the winter and during the summer sets the ac to 66. Too cold and too hot. He also has bad hygiene. Takes about 2-3 showers a month. He picks his nose a lot too. Also he wipes crumbs off the counters onto the floor thinking that cleans off the counter. Then he really cannot pick up on social cues very well. A friend of my mothers was telling a rather serious story and during the story she mentioned something and my brother let out a "pshhh yeah right". I'm also terrified to masturbate in my bedroom because one time he was peaking through the window. I cannot tell you how creeped out I was.

Question: My parents expect me to spend all of my free time with them. How do I keep them happy and balance everything else going on in my life?

Posted: 20 Jan 2020 06:03 PM PST

To clarify, I live at home while I'm going to college. I'll be 20 this year and go to school full time as well as work 5-6 days a week. I have friends and a boyfriend. I work Saturday nights but I spend all day Saturday with my family and spend any weeknights that I have off with them as well. I have Sunday's off and will generally spend either every other or every third Sunday with my boyfriend or best friends and the other Sunday's I spend with my family.  I've always been introverted so I never went out in high school but have been more often lately. My parents (more specifically, my dad) have lately been guilt tripping me, saying that I'm choosing other things and people over them. Anytime my family asks me to spend time with them, and I already have plans, I always cancel my predetermined plans for them. I'm the oldest child so I don't know if it possibly has to do with my parents not being used to their children having lives separate from them, but it's becoming increasingly difficult to keep them happy and balance all the other aspects of my life. 

Question: How to act when a sibling is this temperamental?

Posted: 20 Jan 2020 04:12 PM PST

     Sorry for the long text...          I'm asking because I can't go to a therapist and I really want a opinion of someone who is out of the situation.        I'm someone who tries to avoid conflict, and my little brother is really argumentative, but he always suddenly stops the discussion when he sees he is wrong and turns surly.Sometimes he blocks my number on the phone when I say something he don't like, or he is uncomfortable whith the subject of conversation. He never say something like "I don't wanna talk about this anymore", he just begins to avoid me at all level of interaction. I think this is disrespectful, but I can't tell him, cause he would, again, become  moody and get away of me. He's never willing to hear a criticism.       But when it's the other way around (when I'm the one who is not confortable with the conversation), he gets upset if I say "I don't wanna talk about it with you". I don't avoid him, I don't block him, I act the way what I wish others would act with me.       Right now, we are in our parents house and he is ignoring me for a month, as if I didn't exist. He's doing this because when I said I wasn't going to talk about that specific subject with him, and as he insisted I got mad and left the room. Am I wrong? Is there a better way to say it?       And how do you act when a person you love acts that way? He's obviously doing emotional blackmail to make me feel bad and guilty, but I'm not going to apologize for setting limits.

Question: Is having a parent with mild dementia basically like having a boss who yells at you for something that wasn’t your fault?

Posted: 20 Jan 2020 03:52 PM PST

In this comparison, I'm not talking about the "forgetting" symptom, but rather the fact that the parent is getting all snippy for no reason, therefore making the son/daughter looking like they said something wrong.

Question: I am scared to leave my mom home alone with my family. What do I do?

Posted: 20 Jan 2020 02:47 PM PST

In my family there's this expectation that my mom still do everything a stay-at-home mom would do (cook/laundry/sweep/mop/all housekeeping) w/out help even though she has a 6AM-4PM job 4 days a week. I really don't like this perception (it is mostly my older brother and dad who think this way) because my mom always comes home tired and takes a nap but my older brother always complains that she isn't feeding us early enough (we eat around 10PM most nights). My older brother is low-key sexist and thinks it is wrong for him to wash dishes or sweep or whatever so it is almost always me who cleans around the house because I want to help my mom. I make my little brother help out (he's in high school I'm in college) but again he mostly only cleans when I ask him to. My dad has a very long commute to work (leaves and returns from 9AM-9PM) and usually just wants to come home and relax after a long day. My parents argue constantly and my older brother is constantly out of the house and makes everything a joke to "lighten the mood"/cope with things, and if I bring an issue up I'm labeled "too serious". I am scared that if I leave the house will essentially "fall apart" (not literally of course), my parents will continue arguing all the time, my brothers will do little to help around the house, and my mom will get even more stressed (she's wanted to divorce before but financially it's just impossible for her to self-support). I stay on-campus next-year and I'm scared. Any advice/support?

Question: My computer won’t turn off?

Posted: 20 Jan 2020 10:16 AM PST

I have a late 2009 27 inch iMac and it won't turn off!! It's a desktop so it doesn't have a battery so i don't know why it won't turn off. I tried holding down the power button and it didn't work and i tried unplugging it but it still won't turn off