I quit my job after my spouse said they would support me since they got a job that paid them a lot and then said they wanted a divorce. I have no job and am forced to rely on them financially. How do I get a lawyer? Should I file for separation? Should I just do nothing?

I had been working towards school for a 8 years but stopped going for 2 years because of my job. I wanted to go back and talked to my wife about quitting my job to finish school. I would be done in less than a year. She had gotten a job that paid a lot and told me that she wanted me to go for it.  I never was without a job and didn't like being financially dependant on anyone but she told me to trust people more and that she was my wife and would be there for me. 2 months later  she said she wasn't sure if she wanted the relationship then took it back and blamed stress for why she said what she did. Months later, she tells me that she is not happy and isn't sure if she wants this, takes it back again, then I find out she was texting another girl and had videos of her in her phone she took at a party. She said she wanted to work on the relationship and was very apologetic and then after we get in a fight about her being around the same party situation she told me that she felt that I was emotionally abusive, brainwashing her to stay with me and now wants a divorce. I had a seasonal job that ran out 3 days ago. She texted me after having no contact for two weeks to say "we need to talk about the finances going forward". I have no job and live in the apartment we got together when I was working. We have a car, utilities and debt. I don't think it's right that she can just stop paying when the decision of me not working was supported and encouraged by her. 

Does it mean she settled with him as beta provider after enjoying everything and submitting her self to her exes fully before getting dumped? How is a husband with self respect supposed to feel about it?

He was already separated for about 4-6 months before.

I have a real problem, I am going to try my best here to describe everything. My husband and I live with my mother in law. She has a drinking problem, she drinks way too much. She'll make plans with us and of course wants to be the one to drive, but will drink to where she becomes dangerous on the road. The worst part is, I sometimes can't tell she has become drunk nor see her drinking until it's too late and she is driving dangerously while my husband and I are in her car. We have our own car, we can both drive, but she insists on driving. We're honestly afraid to stand up to her. She has had a drinking problem for as long as my husband can remember, and drives drunk regularly. She is extremely confrontational, and a mean drunk. She has had at least one DUI already and paid a hefty fine, but hasn't learned a thing. I am afraid to even be asking for advice. She won't admit she has a problem. Please help me, I have anxiety pretty bad, so I am just horrible with this kind of thing. Even my husband is scared to refuse her because he knows she will absolutely blow up. I have tried asking her to allow me to drive when she was too drunk after drinking at a restaurant, but she got very mad and insisted she was fine to drive even though she wasn't. She is extremely stubborn. I am scared for mine and my husband's life and need to know how I can politely refuse her when she tries to drive us around after she's been drinking. Please keep in mind that we care about her, too. She is like my mother as well, I want to get her better, not just lock her up and throw away the key.

my husband literally wants to keep everything he's ever bought! every time I even try to put something in storage to get it out of my hair he flips! we live in a tiny apartment and its overflowing!! I'm not allowed to go through or get rid of anything! I'm going crazy!!

The family hates her now. I think she has hurt her husband and is wrong but it is between them and I've always liked her otherwise. He's an alcoholic so that does not help any and he still drinks They have 4 kids. 

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. Our relationship is beautiful! And moving at a wonderful pace! He has been nothing but gracious this entire time. The ONLY thing that bothers me is his family..his family are a different type of toxic.  His dad is an over-exaggerating alcoholic that pretends to be sick for attention and manipulates my boyfriend. He's been married 7 times and currently got married to his longtime mistress of 15 years. He's also a swinger and currently has his ex girlfriend living there while him and his new wife sleep in the basement. For the first 1.5 years of dating my bf, he lived with his dad & i was of course respectful. One day, my bf and i had sex late at night, and the next day my bf told me that his dad made his new wife cry because he intentionally listened to us having sex and threatened to leave his wife.  My bf also informed that when he was 15-16, him and his dad slept with a woman together. And another time, it was him, his grandfather, and another woman. And that he needed therapy from that situation. Of course this was alarming af, but he shows absolutely no sign of being like his father or grandfather in any way. I've never had any issues tracking his location, or questioned his fidelity to me. We're been in our apartment for 2 months and he visits his parents house everyday. He has already moved ALL of his things so there's no reason to see them so frequent& for so long

My friend video called me while I was at work, wanting me to come over and drink with her and her a few other people. She seen my coworker in the back ground and said Hey he has a nice ***! They start flirting. I told her to watch it he was a married man. He jumps in with No I'm not I can do whatever I want. Let's go drink! What about the woman your living with? Oh she doesn't care I do whatever I want. I do this all the time. She won't care? No no not at all! So your not married? No. So your single? I have an ol lady. Ok. Clear clear clear. Alright 🤷🏻‍♀️ Let's drink! I tell him to clock out and go pick up a bottle from the liquor store. He shows back up before I clock out, when my friend calls me back and tells me that everyone's left she's going home. I really want to drink, coworker has this bottle now.. I pressure the questioning again. It's ok it's ok. So go to my place and drink. I ask maybe a few more times after we get there even. She won't get worried, won't call? No, no no I do this all the time. I sleep with whoever I want. Long story short we messed around a little. no kissing, no sex. Girl he lived with came up to my workplace.. madder than hell.. come to find out later on.. it's his ******* wife! 😡 Now my hours are cut to keep my coworker and I separated. And his wife will start working there soon. It's uneasy when I see her because I feel bad about it, even though I was lied to 😕 I have no fault in this situation 🤔 why in my gut do I feel guilty? 🤨 

Is it disgusting to clean dishes with the same brush I use to clean the litter box. Soap makes things clean and would kill anything bad. Waste $2 for a second brush?

I think that it could happen if other nations triggered it or idk.

My husband and I are newlyweds and have lived together for a year prior to our marriage. We came to an agreement that I will take care of home while he takes care of the larger bills. He told me that he'll take care of rent, insurance, cable and wifi. I'll pay for food and utilities. I have no issues with this. However, he tends to be very persistent that I clean, cook, and do his laundry. He tells me all the time that this is my duty as a wife. However, he always ask me for money when he comes up short for bills. Recently, he asked me for money for rent and asked if I could loan him $500 for his school tuition by this Friday. Also, he told me that cable is about to get cut off. I don't mind paying bills but he always tell me about my job as being the wife and how I need to do this and that around the house. Advice? 

I'm disabled and only get enough money a month to survive. But I can barely afford to keep up my hygiene. Cant afford hair cuts, cant always afford new clothes. I have to save months of money just to buy good shoes. I struggle finding a job anywhere. People wonder why I dont always look nice. Thank goodness I'm able to shower and brush my teeth every day. I just cant afford hair cuts and good clothes 

I honestly don't know what to do. I found out my husband had been cheating on me with men. He claims he's not gay and that he did not physically cheat on me and that it was just porn. I found different emails with different names he used to basically meet up with DL men. He wants to fix our marriage but I don't know if I can. He claims to not actually gone through with sexual acts but I find it hard to believe because he went as far as giving pictures of himself as well as my work schedule to these men. We have children together so it's not like I can up n leave. Was I just a cover up or is he just bi curious? Idk what to do!

My brothers ex wife wants to hang out with his daughter. They were only married for maybe a year and a half. They have been divorced for a year now and she has a new boyfriend. She keeps asking him if she can take his daughter out alone. My brother and his ex wife can not get along. So me and my family think it's weird that she wants to spend time with my niece. I also think it will confuse my niece  even more about the divorce. Are we being unreasonable? I know people do things differently for divorce these days. But we are still concerned. Does anyone else have this situation? How should my brother handle it? Thanks. 

My ex wife who I am still on friendly terms with, called and ask for my help. After our divorce she moved in with her mother. She said her mom's condo complex power was off and she and her mom were very cold as it is the middle of winter and she wanted to know if she and her mom could spend the night at my home. I said sure, come on over but I only have 2 bedrooms. She said we will work out the sleeping arrangements when we get there. What do you think would been the best sleeping arrangements so everybody was happy?

Alan, my ex husband and I are on friendly terms. We did not have any children. Two times in the last 3 years I ran into financial difficulty. I could not pay my rent or car payments. I called Alan and told him my problem and he gave/loaned (I am not sure which) me the money to solve my problems no questions asked. He never ask for the money back. Another time my computer died and I ask Alan how I would get it fixed. He sent a repair tech out to fix the computer and when I tried to pay the tech, he said Alan had prepaid him for the service call. My friends tell me I have to stop asking Alan for help if I ever expect to live on my on. I think that is probably true especially if he gets married again. However it is hard to get a loan from a commercial source and so easy to just call Alan and he will solve my problem no matter what the problem is. How do I stop my self from taking the easy way out and calling Alan when I have a financial problem? ALL ADVICE WILL BE GREATLY APPRECIATED.

so this person I know died recently. Had a good second marriage ,but never forgave the ex for cheating on them with various people and their sibling.Could not even talk to the ex.Why hold onto it ?You were successful .He left his sibling  who did the cheating nothing in his will.

I'm in my 20's he's 10 years older than me. I saved myself for marriage and I don't have a lot of experience because of this (I'm a little shy). We've been married for two years now, he had a lot of experience previous to our marriage, but he doesn't approach me for it. I thought that once I got married I basically had a license to go nuts with him without feeling guilty for "sinning", I have all these things that I want to try but he just doesn't go for anything but the occasional intercourse and it could be MONTHS before he initiates again. He takes care of himself in the shower.  I've tried asking, dressing up, talking about how badly I'm getting, I've cried about it and lately even suggested marriage counseling. We are amazing together and I love him to death, he's the best friend that I've always wanted, we have so much fun in every other aspect but we lack in the "intimacy" department. I feel embarrassed and like a fool for feeling this way but everyone keeps making it worse friends or family members joking about how we are in the "honeymoon" stage (it doesn't feel like it) and how should babies come soon. I'm terrified of having a child if it's like this now imagine with children. I think it's me, my fault, he says that it's not my fault and that I'm desirable but he doesn't provide at least a "why" this is happening. Currently, its been 3 months since we last did anything and I'm very upset. How can I approach him about it? I don't know what else to say 

I'm a newly wed however not so much enjoying it at all. Reason - his baby mama. He has two kids, aged 5 and 3 and I have none. The situation started off terrible and it'll remain terrible. When we first got together hubby advised me of the situation being toxic, I met the kids and I thought they were great. But then.. Baby mamma found out, I got harassing text messages, stalked and even a contract written by herself advising my husband to bar me from seeing her kids for 5 months or she will not allow him to see them. I asked her if she wanted to meet me for a  coffee to see what I was like and meet me in person, she wasn't interested. I did not see the kids for the 5 months due to husbands love for his kids (fair play), 5 months passed, she knew I was seeing the kids again, still took them off us. After that had passed she started asking about our finances including mine, how we were paying for our wedding, how I could afford a bath bomb. Hubby felt obligated to tell her because they ended badly. She's now getting the 'you'll never be a mum to my kid's' in and also letting me know how close she is to his mum. She's sabotaging us and making me doubt things. How do I deal with her in a nice as possible way.. Ps this is 2 years later and she's still a d---. Oh did I forget to mention she has a partner and still interfering with mine. Yes we've been to court and have CSA in place, still the same issues. 

Ive been married to my husband a short 3 months now. He has two beautiful children from a previous relationship, girl 5 and boy 3. I have no current children of my own. Baby mamma has been an issue from the very beginning from sabotaging our relationship to harassing text messages. However a new issue has arisen. At our wedding overseas, very little of my husbands family came just parents last minute. A lot of issues came about at the wedding when hubbys parents wouldn't keep and eye on the children during ceremony and kids were crying cuddling hubbys legs as I'm walking down the isle, they were with us for our first dance, cutting of the cake and I didn't see my husband again until the end of the reception. We had a ceremony at home and the same thing happened again on top of them requesting bigotry songs and karaoke. I asked my hubby to say something to his parents about this. He did however no apology just a reply of "we didn't want to look after your greetin faced kids". Husband has forgiven and I on the other hand will not. Now comes the issue of baby mamma, really toxic person causing life to be hell. At home nobody knew about the argument between hubby and parents however, baby mamma let us know that his mum told her about the argument and that she goes to see her every monday. Making me aware that they have a close knit relationship. I have tried my absolute best with everyone including baby mama. I am coming to my breaking point. Advise would be highly appreciated. 

My fiancé is all about money. When I was getting my Masters all I heard the entire time I was getting my degree was why am I not working full time? Mind you, I worked for the university 25 hours per week they paid my entire tuition and I got a stipend every month. I was also working part time on the weekends. We did not live together and he refuses to move in together until we are married and has never helped me with a single bill in all the years we have been dating.  We are now engaged. He's made numerous comments to me that are starting to worry me. For starters, he tells me I'm not making enough at my new job that I started in May and is pushing me daily to find new work. He told me when we have a family he will support the kids but not me. I told him when we have kids I'd like to take a few months off of work. He told me he will not support and pay for me to not work and have a vacation insisting his mother went back to work just four weeks after he was born and if she could do it I could too. I'm 32 and I'm worried I'm getting too old to find someone else. I've been with my fiancé since I was 25. He never used to be like this. Should I end things?  Note: he makes GOOD money. He inherited his grandparents house, his grandparents also paid off his car before they passed away so he has no car payment, he also has no mortgage, his mom still pays his cell phone bill, oh they also are paying off his student loans from college for him! Should I end things?

So, I'm 21, my mother is 39 my grandfather is 59, and my grandmother is 57. The ages are important for the story. So, my grandparents just had their 41st wedding anniversary. They've been together since teenagers and got married because my grandmother was pregnant with my uncle, who's 41 (surprise). It's just been revealed that APPARENTLY my grandmother cheating on my grandfather back before they were married, like gave exact dates and ****. (This is all word of m mouth from my mother) So, apparently, back in the first three months of their relationship, my grandmother was still messing around with her ex boyfriend, the only other guy she's ever been with besides my grandfather. She actually stopped Jan 2nd, 1979 and told herself that if she made it passed 40 years with my grandfather, she would tell him. Why wait that long? I don't know. How did she know she would even marry my grandfather? I don't know. But she find out shortly after she was pregnant (yes, my uncle is my grandfather's kid, no denying that) and they were married. My grandfather had actually chatted on my grandmother with multiple different women back in the 90's, and this is common knowledge to everyone in the family, but what's you guys opinion on this? Would you stay with your significant other that you've been with for years, that maybe you're even married to or have kids with, if you found out they had been cheating or had cheated on you in the past?

Anytime I see a guy who is attractive, I instantly stereotype him as a jerk and give him the cold shoulder, even if I don't even know him. I'm largely overweight and never had a boyfriend and I feel like guys mostly ignore me, but even though I feel like guys ignore me, I feel like the most attractive ones are judging me extremely harshly and examining my every move and telling themselves how fat and ugly I am. It makes no sense considering they probably don't even know I exist, but I build up this scenario in my head anytime I see a good looking man. I haven't even spoken to a man for than 5 minutes since I graduated college 8 years ago. Yes that's how little I socialize with the opposite sex.

So i have been married for going on 4 years. Our marriage seemed good at the start but then quickly fell off. We started fighting and not seeing eye to eye on alot of stuff. I tried all that i could to save our marriage. Nothing seemed to work. Ive been wanting a divorce but havent found the best time or way to tell her because i know she wont take it well. I know feelings and words will be exchanged and i know its not gonna be good. Well back in May of 2019 I met this wonderful woman whobi have completely fallen for. Shes everything that i want and need it seems. She understood me for me. And actually cares for me. Only issue is she doesnt know im currently married and believes im divorced. Also she doesnt know my legal name. But i dont want to tell her my real name until im actually divorced because im honestly afraid of loosing this woman. So now im stuck in a situation to where i could tell her everything and risk loosing her or wait for my divorce to be final and delete all social media and start fresh so she wouldnt have any idea. 

I've been married 9 years and me and my husband have been having problems our entire marriage. Arguments left and right. He always tells me how I deserve better and how I should leave him then he a lot of times when he's angry with me he threatens to leave. He's controlling, emotionally manipulative, emotionally abusive, and also seems to have a great deal of hatred towards women.. every time we have a discussion about a couple he always acts nasty towards the woman. He's nice for a few days then goes back to being snappy and angry. Everything turns into a debate with him. I could say the sky is blue and he would argue with me for an hour on why it's not. Just an example. Not only that, we barely spend time together, he's not romantic. I can't even count how many times I went to bed alone and cried my eyes out. Just hoping and praying and wishing he would change. We've been going through so much Therapy and couples counseling and nothing works. I recently contacted an old male friend and we got a lot closer than I imagined to the point we ended up having sex. I felt alive with him. He made me feel beautiful, desisted, wanted, he was funny, he didn't try to control every word I said. We talked 24/7 from nightfall to sunrise. He told me I deserve better and he told me how he thinks my husband is cheating. He said I shouldn't even feel bad about cheating because my husband is horrible towards ma This guy was showing me way more attention than my husband. My husband could not even bother to spend time with me on New Year's Eve. My friend drove a good distance to ring in the new year with me.  I remember when I was with my husband and I didn't crack a smile or laugh in years. I actually smiled and laughed for the first time with my friend. Our connection was magnetic  My friend was asking me for some naked pictures and I sent them and then the next thing we were kissing she having sex.. I didn't even mean for this to happen I just wanted some comfort a shoulder to cry on.. It's so weird though cause when I tried to call my friend his number was some sort of text plus number.. 

Most people living in this country are expats. I met this guy from Pakistan and he's 32. He could very well be married in his own country.   He travels between 2 gulf countries and his home town every month!!! We are dating but I can't believe he is single as he never picks up when he's abroad.  I already asked him and he said I m busy with family!!  * I asked if he is married or not, but he denies it , and claims not to be able to pick up around his mom/ father!!!