My mom came up to me and said "I didn't know Cameron Diaz had a baby at 47! You know I feel like my legs want to fall off in this house too much, image a baby at that age you have no patients. And by that time the baby is 10 she'll be like a grandmother it's sad". Now my mom is going to be 45 this month, is she referring to herself? Like once we went to tj max and the lady she was talking to had 8 kids and my mom kept saying god forbid to herself. I don't think my parents use protection just saying like once she thought someone said she may have another kid and she freaked and that was last summer.  So now this morning my dad was leaving for work at 5am and my mom went in the kitchen to talk to him, I couldn't really understand my mom because she has the flu but then I hear my dad say in more of a serious tone "do you want more" now I thought maybe he gave her more Advil for her fever before he left for work but no when I ask her she said we have a whole bottle now home. I can't possibly think why he would say that. He wasn't cooking wasn't giving her anything. So now I'm worry it has to do with wanting more kids? My dad is already fed up and I am as well because my sister goes in and out the hospital I'm the only backbone my mother has 

I don't want my step sister to see her mom her mom is just gonna steal her away from me and I won't be in her life anymore ok I admit it I am jealous of my step sisters mom but her mom is the main priority My step sister will go and stay with her mom in the summer I don't want her to do that because she will never see me again what do I do oh and by the way this isn't a troll I am using my dads account

My son got married a few weeks ago and I hate having to share him with her I want my son all for myself I hate my daughter in law so much I want to break them up so that I can have my son for myself what do I do?

I'm 21 and my sister is 17. So my sister keeps stealing from me. She will steal anything she can get her hands on. She will steal my clothes, jewelry, art supplies, makeup, anything. I know this is a constant thing so I hide my wallet. When I confront her she doesn't care. When I tell my parents they don't really discipline her very well. They basically just give her a slap on the wrist as if they don't care either. Then they tell me to hide my stuff and she wouldn't steal it. I don't see how that would work, she just snoops throughout my entire room just to look for stuff. My sister has even stole my parents credit card at the age of 12 and the age of 17. She basically bought video games with it both times. I feel it's a result of my parents not disciplining her enough for stealing my stuff. I've told my parents that and they basically just tell me to shut the hell up and that it's not true. I'm fed up with it and can't take it anymore. I've never stolen anything from my parents, even my sister. I don't care about her stuff, I don't want her stuff. What should I do? Also, please don't bash me or criticize me over living with my parents..I just graduated college and I'm still looking for a job. I'm actually trying.  I was never allowed to have a lock on my door at a young age, and I'm still not allowed to have a lock on my door to this day. The only reason I was told was "I don't know what you're doing in there. You don't get a lock" I'm more so asking how to handle the situation for right now. I'm not living with parents by choice, it's the only option I have right now. I need a job to move out. 

so we are both 16 and i reached out to my old best friend who i haven't talked to in years because of a fight in 2017 which was so bad our parents got involved and i wanted to be friends again so a few days ago i reached out over text and she said no so i kept begging and saying i'm sorry about the past and basically begging for her back and later her mom called me to leave her alone so i blocked the mom and kept begging my friend to be friends again and then the mom started calling my mom so i blocked her number on my moms phone before she saw them she tried calling my dad and i blocked her there also and she keeps trying to reach my parents with different numbers and i keep blocking how do i get this freak to leave us alone

so i texted my old best friend from 2 years ago who i miss and asked if we could be friends again and she replied "I'm not sure being friends is the best idea considering what happened last time" I don't understand it  our friendship ended bad before 

I want to practice/record **loud** singing in my parents house. I live with my parents. While there isn't much noise restrictions, I want to know some inexpensive ways to muffle the sound in my room. I'm afraid I may annoy my parents. Not only that, my mom is the type to make fun of and ridicule me. I can't help but feel a little bit self-conscious in the house I live with my parents. My room also has the windows and it is located right next to a neighbors house. The only options I can afford are relatively inexpensive ones. Lastly, no I don't know a friend who has a place where I could just simply practice/record at. I live in Los Angeles, there should be a lot of options. 

Few month's ago I was just meeting my baby's father. He had told me he had a 6 month old and his baby's mom was crazy. So one morning, after he dropped me off at work, I purposely left my sweater in his car because he said he was going over to his baby's mom house. And Later that same day when he picked me up from work, I noticed the sweater wasn't in his car anymore. He asked him, " where's my sweater".?! And he said, "oh my baby's mom burned it up. I really do want to fight her because that sweater was $150. And I was still nice to her after that (which I barely know her)

I have a friend named Lisa and were in high school and i don't usually hang out with people because i'm socially awkward and lisa texted me she's coming over tonight at 7 (she knows my address) and if i say no she's blocking on everything so i don't know what to do i just like to spend time by myself and no she isn't worried about me she just wants to hang out because she's bored 

let's say my mom's genetics are in my half sisters newborn sister ((half sister born 1st me 2nd half sisters sister 3rd (mom get married 3 times 1st with my half sisters dad 2nd with my dad 3rd with half sisters dad again) am I now by default related to my half sisters sister

what if my mom married my "half sisters dad again after i was born" is she now my ex half sister or what

The last time my mother in-law was at our home she faked a stroke to get my husband's undivided attention. I watched her from a mirror in the hall, pull her pants down around her knees, lay on the ground, then start screaming my name. She then demanded I call my husband home from a card game he was attending at our oldest son's home. The doctors all said there was nothing wrong in her test results, but she absolutely wore him out, waiting on her hand and foot. Now she's living with her daughter 10 hours away. My husband went to visit her in October. He was their 14 days, came home tired and sick. My mother in-law is now crying for him to go back to see her. She keeps whining and nagging. He's feeling guilty and says that he needs to go see her again. The last time he was there he spent a whole lot of money buying 2 bills of groceries, taking his family out to eat.. it really set us back financially. Now he's wanting to do it all again. I don't agree with it, but I don't know what to say or if I should say anything at all. What should I do?  Like to add that my husband doesn't see her antics, but I do and so do our grown sons. He's very attached to her and talks to her almost every single day on the phone. I love him, but It's put a strain on my marriage, because of his abnormal attachment to her, the thought of him even touching me makes me cringe and gag.  She pulled her pants down to claim she passed out on the toilet. I watched her. That didn't happen. I watched her, from the hallway pull her pants down and get on the floor. I didn't tell anyone about it. I kept it to myself for her sake and my husband's.  We've been together 30 years. He's allowed her to cause problems for 3 decades. He's also allowed his sister and nieces to cause problems as well. 

So I found out that when my mom was a teenager she was abused by both of her parents she kept this secret from me because she thought I wouldn't have believed her why did she keep this secret from me My mom worked her butt of to prevent this from happening to me 

My stepmom has done everything to prevent me from contacting my mom she even refuses to let me speak to her she always find some selfish excuses to let me visit her when I was supposed to go see my mom and step father this Christmas she made me celebrate it with her and her family instead i also kept on harassing her to let me speak/ contact my mom but she won't let me. She would force my father to call my step dad and told him that I was sick and can not come over what do I do? Can I make my stepmother let me speak to my real mom

I really need someone to be a little sympathetic (but still honest): I'm 17, female.  Cons:- Hypothyroidism (got meds)- No friends (new country, 2 years -_-)- probable herpes (getting tested; biggest problem at the mo, life over)- Social anxiety- I need to lose 35 pounds- My dad is an alcoholic; it doesn't really affect me, but people tend to feel bad for me which is really what makes me uncomfortable- I constantly worry about peoples judgements (like an idiot) - I have no economical skills/interests (mathematics, coding, medical, etc) - My family is in debt, no spending money - I'm always hot (I live in a desert + hypothyroidism symptom)  - Sweaty Hands lol f*cking SUCKS and definitely contributes to my anxiety. - I'm always tired especially due to the hypothyroid - 2.8 GPA (I'm getting it up to 3.1) - Stay home always - I get competitive and awk w/kids my age & I hate it. Pros: - I have good skin (and I did the pretty scale; it said I was 70%, just chubby cheeks, wide eyes) - goofy/weird/humorous.  - Decent personality - Good family - I lost 30 pounds, I'm a size 6-8, Id prefer to be around a 4 - I'm artistic: I have an Etsy shop lol  - I'm very educated on current affairs, too educated - I speak 4 languages - good w/kids - I usually eat healthily As a whole, I'm a piece of work, I'm trying to be more positive. I was going to say it's not working... but that would be negative. I try to see myself objectively, but that's hard. I feel like I'm forgetting something huge,  Sorry, the formatting cut out for the cons, I hope you still read it. ALSO, I WILL AWARD BEST ANSWER for the thoughtful answer

I have stiff back and neck pain after I wake up. I want to get a bed, but this is my mom's apartment and she probably won't let me get a bed (family problems). Even if she would let me get a bed she would try to ruin it or make other parts of my life horrible. She'll probably ask me to pay for rent. Which sounds fair at first. But if you knew how she is you wouldn't say that. I'm sure if you have a narcissitic parent you will know how it can be/Is.

I have a mental health issue and my family thinks I have every symptom and they think everything I do is something crazy. I changed my name four times so now my family has been going around telling people she was off her meds and forgot who she was. I went to court and paid for a name change from my old name to my new name... I changed my driver's license and social security card and notified all my creditors. I know I should have this conversation with them but they never listen plus I think mental illnesses run in the family and they're the ones not on meds. How could they even think for a moment I forgot who I was? And they are so proud of the family name I was not they are a bunch of rapists and thieves who have been in and out of prison for decades. I changed my name to get away from them and it worked for almost five years until I contacted them mainly to see my son again. Long story short.

I love my mother so much and it hurts because she just thinks of me poorly. I'm 15 and I try the best to make my mother happy. I always tell her that I love her and hug her and for the moment it feels like I'm enough for her but If my brother makes a mess (he's 21) she always blames it on me even if I'm with her. He ruined my laptop after I let him use it countless times and I told my mom about it and she just said it was because of old age when I just got it last year. She got upset at me today because I told her that my laptop was laggy and it keeps freezing and she went off on me and told me I needed to stop blaming my brother and that she does so much for me when I do nothing in return and that she gives me a roof over my head, clothes to wear, and food. I thank her when I can and I try to explain that everything she does I appreciate but she never believes me. I try giving her hugs, compliments, proving it by cleaning up the whole house even though I don't have to, I try telling her I love her or buying her stuff but it never seems like it's enough. She's always believed my brother over me if I broke something he'd blame it on me. I just really don't know how to prove stuff to her. I get suicidal due to past experiences and I tried asking if she can get me therapy but she just says she'll do it but never does. How do I prove to her that I actually love her.. I just don't want her to hate me. 

My Dad is very ignorant and over-promises. Thus, I feel he is hurtful to my mental illness with his ignorance and also I feel lied to when he breaks over-promises he makes (not real promises but says he will plan on doing something and then does not). I also remain hurt that he and my mother didn't allow me around my Mom's family as a kid cause my maternal grandfather had alcoholism. This rubbed me of needed ties to family as a kid since they were using me to get him back for drinking. Lastly, my mother is old now and complains about people a lot. These mistakes and any others that come up I feel HORRIBLY hurt by since it is my parents, I need them and so they can't be imperfect. It hurts me and makes me bitter towards them. I feel they are bad, my Dad especially, and yet if they were an aunt or uncle I would like them a lot or a cousin or grandparent. It is only cause they are my parents that I am hurt when my Dad lies and shows ignorance or my Mom complains as well as the using me as a kid. So how do I teach myself to accept my parents are not perfect instead of expecting them to be and then be triple as hurt when wronged by them?

I don't want to be estranged from this aunt as we'd always been close but in the last 5 years or so this aunt has gone nuts. She insults her immediate family constantly. Even her closest cousin had to tell her to keep her mouth shut when she started in to her with insults about the family. I am guessing it is a Menopause craziness thing. My Mom had it but not nearly as severe but her sister had it severe and is just now becoming normal again. So how do I protect myself without becoming estranged from this aunt?

My wife's mother Billie is staying with us for a few weeks while her house is being remodeled. She is a wonderful person that we both adore. She has a great personality and is just a joy to be around. I was brushing my teeth in the bathroom and Billie walks in, takes off her robe and gets in the shower. WOW. What a beautiful body. I had to get out of there fast so I would NOT get a b0ner. Guys, can you imagine how I could explain to my wife if I had got a b0ner for her mother. I think I would be in BIG TROUBLE (gals would I). Luckily it did NOT happen. This happened a few days ago and it apparently is no big deal for Billie. She never said a word about it. Should I tell my wife what happened and/or just lock the bathroom door every time I an in it and forget this ever happened? I am afraid if I tell my wife, she will be mad at me or mad at her mother or mad at both of us. Since nothing happened wouldn't it be better to just forget about the whole thing and not cause a family fight?

My father is ignorant, arrogant, and dishonest.  Tuto: That is digusting

I want to make sure every year is like this year where she does not come. She ruined Thanksgiving.

she said "I'm not sure being friends is the best idea considering what happened last time"

I just found out my 52 year old boyfriend shares a bed with his 22 year old daughter when she comes home. He swears there's nothing sexual. How would you feel about this?

My parents went to court and my dad is supposed to be paying my mom $400 a month in child support. My mom is in rehab, so she has not complained about not receiving the money. My sister and I live with my uncle and she is currently paying all of our bills. My dad has not paid a cent to my mom or his children. How is he getting away with this??? Is there a way I can report him.  Thanks. 

My husband is into pinching. He pinches everyone from sisters to nieces and it does hurt. I voiced my concern and told him I don't want to be pinched but he continues it anyway. He pinches me harder than he pinches everyone else in his life. He often hurts me and calls it playful. He twists my hand when I fight back and pulls my hair. I tried to run out the door because I was in pain from all the pinches and hair pulling. He got so mad that I left the house and grabbed me by the hair and told me to never do it again. He continued pinching me and laughed like it was funny while I was in pain. When I pinch him back, he goes nuts and pinches as hard as he can till it leaves a bruise. He laughs the entire time and probably thinks it's a joke. I'm not sure if this is abuse because I don't like it and I've voiced my concern many times. Is he just being playful? Are men like this? He also doesn't work and treats me like a slave. He's always on his phone, sleeping and eating.  He was never like this in the beginning of our marriage or when we were dating. 

I have had my veggies stolen and clues point to the neighbor. I recently met him on the road and told him I have just fixed beautiful cameras with night vision. I explained that even in the dark with starlight I can get a clear black and white video. I told him with a mobile you cannot photograph in the dark like this night vision camera. I told him that the camera is recording 24 hours a day and I can replay and watch the video. The thefts of veggies stopped the day I fixed the camera. Will the neighbour think that I know its him stealing the veggies and that's why I told him all this ?

My daughter is 14 and is incredibly unhygienic. She has really strong body and feet odor and won't do anything about it. She rarely brushes her hair or teeth on school mornings and will wear the same pair of pants for a week, while only changing her shirt. To her, this is practical, and she refuses to wear PJ's or nightclothes because she can just wake up in the morning already dressed. She rarely ever shaves and I try to tell her that it's disgusting, but she claims it's "natural". She, honestly, looks homeless most days. because of her negligence. Some of it is her sensory issues, she can only wear a certain type of legging and graphic teens with the seams cut out. She'll go to the bathroom without washing her hands and will sometimes have the door open. She never takes baths and she despises showers because of how they feel. She was bullied a lot in her childhood, so she's very big about internal things. She doesn't care that she looks like a slob or smells like a dumpster, she claims people need to just get over that. She knows her best friends, despite both of them being neat freaks, will never leave her, because they focus on internal things. She hid from me that teachers had reported her body odor to the nurse and also students had written her letters to control it. She hasn't done a thing. She doesn't care about this affecting her at all. She also has claimed make-up is fake and a waste. She never changes her pads, and honestly doesn't care if she bleeds through them We never taught her to act this way and at home we're pretty strict on hygiene. Should I do anything about this and what should I do? I've tried talking to her but she really doesn't care a speck about her appearance or hygiene at all. She wants to approach people and she's in choir and theater. She doesn't do this for any other purpose besides the fact she doesn't want to appear "fake" and waste time. I don't allow this. I yell at her and punish her as much as I can or motivate her, but she really doesn't care at all. I don't require her to wear makeup, but I feel like it would help her self esteem because acne is a very prevalent gene in our family. She's a notorious liar, and I don't have time in the morning to verify if she put deodorant on.  She doesn't use her phone ever as it's in my room most of the day and she really doesn't care for it either. Her sensory issues are real and I respect that. She went to therapy for it as a child and got diagnosed. She's got over 12 pairs of the leggings she wears, but she thinks it's more efficient to wear one a week  We've talked about her future but she has no idea. She said all she really wants to be is "14 and tax free". Her dad already told she won't ever get a job because of the scars on her arms, which I've tried to stop him berating her about it. Her skin heals badly and she's a mosquito magnet. She's been tested for the Autism spectrum, but all she really has is SPD and Gross Motor skills. Her brother has ADHD. To her, ALL cleaning products are conformist and preppy.  She's been tested for depression and there's no signs of it. She just doesn't like to clean up and she claims it takes too much time. Her younger brothers are disgusted with her, but she doesn't care. She only uses beauty products for her concerts, but kids apparently berate her make-up skills (they honestly aren't the best). She can't stand people who take care of their appearances.  Organic products are too expensive and she wouldn't use them, she said those are even more conforming. 

My bf and I have been together for almost one year (LDR - VA/NY). He would like me to move down by end of this year to be closer together and get married/start a family soon. He makes a lot more than I do, but in my standpoint, this is my stable job until I can find something better. I am not financially stable to just move without having a backup job first. He told me he will support me until I find a job, and even then he doesn't mind what kind of job I do or how much I make. I told him I don't want to rely on him like that, and the fact that I support my parents financially, I feel like it would be a burden on him. I want to be self sufficient and responsible too. He said he supports me in whatever I do. All he wants is for me to move down. Problem is when I first brought up this conversation with my mom, she got so angry. She feels like I'm abandoning her and said I've changed. She doesn't want me to move to another state, even when I asked what if it is better for me. She guilts me saying I don't care about her or the family anymore and all I think about is my bf. And being in NY, I never have to drive, so she uses that against me saying I don't even drive. She always complains that me and my brother are not independent enough, but now that I get the chance to, she acts like this. In a way, I feel like she's the one putting me down and not giving me the chance to grow. Am I wrong here? I do want to move there and give it a try. I never liked NY and had dreamed of going somewhere more peaceful and quiet. I just need to get my financial situation more stable and learn to drive. Even if I were to stay in NY, I will learn to drive soon. I currently pay for house bills and have been helping my brother with one car bill. I kept reassuring my mom that even if I move, I would still help however I can at home, and I would still help pay the car. She still make me like the bad guy. Everyone who my mom has talked to about my relationship have been supportive of me moving. They told my mom nicely (in front of me) that she can't be selfish and have to learn to let me go and be independent. That she can't cook for me forever. And that we're just a few hours drive away. On one hand, I feel bad to hear people say that to my mom, but on another hand, I'm glad that she's getting all these inputs from outside POV. My bf's family is also in NY so he still comes back occasionally regardless, just now even more cause of me. And both his parents and even himself have told me that when they get older and needs taken care of, he is expected to move back to NY.