I know there s the actual rental fee and usually a security deposit...but besides the catering and decorations, are there other factors that tie into the overall general cost of the venue? Thanks

So I'm currently planning my wedding and I had an appointment at this wedding dress store to pick out a dress, but my grandmother went to this store called unclaimed baggage and found me a beautiful dress for a really good price. I told her to buy it for me because I have a feeling I will love it and she showed me pictures. She said she doesn't want to seem pushy and that it was my decision whether I wanted it or not. I think I would rather have the dress she got me instead of buying one myself for a pricey amount. Is it okay for my grandmother to pick out my dress? She's gonna fix it up how I want it. I'm probably also going to cancel my appointment if I can wear it.

I've been with my boyfriend/fiance for 4 years and he knows I want to get married and have kids. He said we should get engaged but keep it a secret until he's ready, I don't have a ring and he said we shouldn't get one until he's ready to let others know, but is that really being engaged? He also met my family recently and didn't socialize with them at all. He browses on his phone when we're with them instead of getting to know anyone. Are these red flags or am I overreacting?