Friends like this and I was just curious

My husband and I are both 21. He's in the military and we're financially stable with a good savings. We both have about 4 full-time semesters left to finish our bachelors degrees and I stay at home right now because we just PCS'd. I'm ready to have a child & personally feel the timing is great although we are young. I want to stay home with our child until they go to school & the online schooling I will be taking to finish my degree will allow me to do that. However, my husband's parents are REALLY pushing for us to wait until we both have our degrees, but if we were to do that, it would take a considerable amount of time. He won't even be able to go back to school until he is discharged & if I were to finish my degree now, I would have to go straight to work to pay back my loans and then decide between putting my career on hold & potentially starting over after our child starts school or only being able to stay home for maternity leave, which is not what I want at all. The influence from his parents is starting to give my husband reservations about starting a family simply because he strives to please his father (he has always been like that). I have no idea how to handle this situation. I want to live my life to the fullest while I have the time & raising a child is my top goal in life. I don't want to let our family influence how we live and keep us from taking advantage of this timing if this will be what works best for us. I really need some advice here!

In greece several mothers coplain about their ex partner dont pay child support .

My husband abused me, cheated on me, and turned everyone against me. I feel so helpless and alone. I'm sleeping in a shelter for the time being and I dont have a car. He took everything from me. I dont know what I did to deserve this and I keep wondering why. I have a couple thousand dollars. Luckily I have a job that's pays 18 an hr. i feel like getting up and leaving to the west coast for a change in scenery. My heart is so broken and when I feel helpless no one will answer my calls. I barely am surviving. I wish thing were different . Theres so many things I feel like no one loves me or cares about me. Everything reminds me of him. I lived him and he hurt me to a point of no return. He also filed a restraining order so I cnt go home. I'm not sure what he told the police to get a restraining order. He beat me and I had a black eye and I ran away from him. He already is with another person. I'm do lost. Looking for advice. I wana pick up and leave this behind. I just hope theres someone who loves me out there.. please be kind.

My wife surprised me with the divorce papers this morning, and I don't know what I'm feeling right now. I cancelled my vasectomy, I agreed on having another child with her. In fact this last two weeks we tried too many times. I have done everything to make her happy, I don't even go out with friends. I help her with our baby, with the house, with everything. Where the **** did I go wrong? I know I should be going to my therapist or talking to a friend. But I don't have friends since I stopped going out. Is there a way to fix this, because I think is stupid to give everything to a person and hurts like hell.

Watching a talk show and the woman is crying and wiping tears away while her S-hole husband is smirking over how he cheats, treats her bad, etc. She won't leave because he is good to the children and they love him. SMH.....

what means a guy says he likes my company and he likes spending time with me

My husband confessed to cheating on me it was one time. I was blindsided. I thought our 10 yr marriage was perfect. His affair was recent, he came clean to me didn't try to hide it. He said it was just sex, selfish and stupid and he is very remorseful, repentant and sorry. I believe he wants to change. I forgive him. But when he is at work I can't breathe I just scream, bawl and I'm hurting so bad. My mind races and can't understand how he would ever have been able to do that to me. It's not that I don't trust he is where he says he is when he's at work it's him not being here that just makes it hard I feel alone. He had to of lied to me that day to have the affair and how many days leading up to it. I don't have any details of the affair. I didn't want to but my mind imagines things probably far worse than what happened. My question is it's been less than a week, will these feelings and panic attacks get better with time? I don't want to know who she is but I look at every woman at our job we both work at and think Is it her? Is it her? I want to ask him if I know her but I want the answer "no" and I'm afraid hearing "yes" will make it harder on me. I have questions like that but know answer I want to hear might not be same as the truth so what do I ask and not ask. Where were our kids when u were doing this? Was it in my house or where? How did u decide to meet her somewhere? I'm going crazy! I have no one to talk to I don't want any of my family or friends knowing.

I have created a big problem with my wife. My wife and I have conversations about doing things, i.e. Household tasks, where we're going for dinner, what we're doing next week etc. ... I either lose track of what we discussed and wind up not doing what I was supposed to be doing. Or I thought we had not fully decided on doing something when wife thought we had and I didn't do what she thought I was going to do because I though we had not decided on it. My wife is angry and now feeling alone in our marriage because I'm not doing what she thought we agreed to. This morning I made a kidding remark about a sweater she had on and she got angry. Is our situation fixable?

I feel like people that are very good looking are quickly negatively stereotyped compared to average looking people. They assume they are probably stuck up, jerks, players/gold diggers, unintelligent, and vain and make bad and unfaithful partners, even though that might be the case at all. People jump to conclusions it seems much quicker the more attractive someone is without actually making an effort to get to know them. And it seems even more so if they are good looking and also very successful.

My husband and I are having a few issues in the finance department. We have a joint checking and a joint savings account where all the bills, food and gas come from. Then we each have a separate personal account. Well my husband is always taking from the joint checking for personal things. I've talked to him plenty of times and he says he works hard. Ok. I understand but I am in charge of the finances and paying the bills. I'm trying to keep us a float for unexpected things and to put money in savings and to make sure all bills are paid and on time. So help me please. If we both have a certain amount in our saving how can I stop him from using the joint? I'm trying not to be a nag. FYI: we've also tried eliminating the joint and he just giving me bill money, but that doesn't work because he doesn't give it to me on time or not enough.

Last night my husband came home from work and cooked dinner. Around 8 or 8:30 he tells me that he needs to run to Walmart to look at a tool. He likes doing woodworking projects and is always buying gadgets and stuff. I've been home sick fort the past 2 days so being doped up on cold medication I really didn't hear or understand what he was saying. He left and came back like an hour or so later with no tool. I asked him what he was needing a tool for and he said that he was thinking about his next project and wanted to see if he could find the tool before he ordered it. Again, still doped up on meds I didn't pay it no mind last night. This morning I sent him this email, "What project is this again that you say you are about to start that you needed to go to Walmart to look for the tool? You always go to Walmart only to end up ordering it. Shouldn't you just order it…? Just curious as to why you think Walmart will have a certain tool when they hardly ever do….." My husband feels that since this is his hobby why am I getting so worked up about it. He does this often. When he starts a project it takes him weeks to gather everything. If you're just going to order the stuff why go looking around town for it too?

I'm a young mom age (30) we are not married my partner and I but we have two toddlers, we live in. 2 bedroom one bathroom apartment in a walk up building with stairs. When I meet other moms, i get jealous that they live in townhouses or houses and can stay at home while their husband works, and they go on vacation and everything. Why can't I give my kids a better life like them?

I think he is porn addicted. I am denying him sex bc he is an abuser and he is NOT good 2 me and i am leaving him on Friday (he has no idea). He has done so much 2 me. Physical and emotional. Unspeakable acts. Last night was the icing on the cake. I told him that if he wanted 2 have sex w me (he begged me) that he had 2 make love 2 me and not expect me w do unrealistic sex acts. It got 2 the point, that he watched other woman on YouTube during sex w me. I made the biggest mistake and i watched porn with him during sex 2 weeks ago....no big deal at the time. i told him never again would i do that..... Last night he turned to me and said "the night we had sex 2 porn was so amazing. 1 of the best times ever." My heart dropped bc secretly watching it that nite with him messed me up in the head...and he said that **** last nite. I got up and left him. Go 2 the bedroom. i walk into the kitchen to get a drink and he has a cover on him, jumps when i walk in, and drops his phone. He was masturbating. This sucks. How the hell did he get this bad? I am not going 2 blame myself it isn t me. He didn t care i wanted 2 make love and i didn t want him 2 degrade me sexually...instead of consoling me he goes 2 porn. Shocked and sick. Opinions

like with her arm on his shoulder ?

I have been married for 5 years to the man I loved the most. After knowing him for 8 years, I really have reasons to believe he is a narcissist with a pattern of leaving the relationship and then coming back months later to apologize and beg me to take him back. He has had a disturbed childhood where his father abandonned the whole family when he was 10 without standing up to his responsibilities or ever coming back. 2 months ago, he filed for divorce. I never ever wanted a divorce because I love him and because I believe in God's teachings. But he has made me suffer a lot and I have to respect myself and stand up for myself. If he doesnt love me and doesnt want me, I'll sign the divorce. I did. We don't have kids. The procedure is ongoing. My conscience is clear as I know I was a great wife to him, with great patience and caring towards him. He was a mediocre selfish husband who didn't care for me and who hid things away from me, mainly money. He has recently contacted a mutual friend and asked her to take good care of me, to stay by my side during these times as "there is nothing he could do for me"; he told her he had loved me so much during our marriage and is going through hard times sometimes crying his heart out because of the situation we have reached. He told her he wishes to still be friends with me even after separation. What does this mean? I still love him, with all my heart, but he has hurt me and disrespected me so much. What does this behavior mean??

I have a 9 year old daughter, her dad and I have been divorced for 8 years... He recently started to say very awful things to her, "If you turn out to be like your mom, I will never come to see you again... and if that happens I will hurt your mom. We have had 67 court dates, 17 mediations, two 730 evaluations and one trial. It s been horrible and she has told me she does not want to go to her dads anymore, she s scared of him and only wants to be with him in public. What are her rights and mine? I been thru custody battles but this... this is something else.

We've been together for 1 year now and every 3 months she gives me a review and a list of things that are wrong with our marriage. After the second time, I told her i don't like this and would prefer her to be open and honest about how she feels when it the problem starts. But she likes doing this because that's how she is at work... So she "coaches" me and documents everything. I had no idea she was going to be this way. our last list included me spending on her to get out of trouble, working too much, and stuff like that. What do I do about this? I tried giving her one but she got very upset with me.

I have never wanted children. They make me nervous and uncomfortable and I really hate the time I have to spend around them. My husband has also decided he doesn't want children. My problem is, when I am at work and I see baby clothes and diapers etc, I have the urge to have a baby. I know I would be a good mother and I would make sure the child felt loved (because I believe children deserve that), but I really don't want to deal giving up my reading time for a baby. Is this just the clock ticking? Or should I discuss this with my husband? I am not hiding my feelings from my husband, I have brought this up to him, I just want to better understand my feelings before I talk to him again.

So...my son just graduated college and decided to stay in Ohil- (we live in NY). He has had a job there for 8 months but the hours and stress is horrendous. I told him not to leave before he gets another job. My wife told me I feel this way as I don't want to have to support him and at first I denied that-but later told her she was partially right about that- I told her the truth as to not deny my feeling about this. She took it weirdly and said she knew that I was worried about the money part of it. Now i feel really bad that I shared my true feelings. Do you have trouble being vulnerable with your feelings???