My family has a bad reputation of me because when I was little I was homeschooled and very lonely so I pretended to be sick to get attention and now I am an adult and they constantly make me feel helpless and have a superiority complex over me. They don't let me make decisions on my own and they always act like they know better than me .... what can I do to avoid this situation?

im a junior in college. im 21, and my mom follows me to college. shes really embarrassing. shes asian, which explains a lot, and shes fat, stinky, ugly, and has an embarrassing asian accent. she sits next to me in all of my classes, and she criticizes and lectures me really loud in chinese. her english is choppy and broken, which is so annoying. she treats me like a disabled baby. she snoops through my laptop and phone, and she makes me wear diapers and a pacifier. she wipes my butt for me, and also showers and brushes my teeth. at the cafeteria, she makes me wear a bib, and she spoonfeeds me. she also hits me really hard for no reason in public and in the dorm. all my roommates see this and laugh at me. since shes asian, shes a narcissist thats always angry. she gets mad at the smallest things and screams at me for them, saying how im incompetent and mocks me. im majoring in economics, which requires me to do a lot of homework and studying. she insists i go to bed on later than 9 pm, and she yells at me for not going to bed early. she makes me wear pj's with feet, and she sleeps on my bed, so i have no choice but to sleep with her. shes really embarrassing too. . she also drinks milk directly from the jug, and farts and burps really loud. if i go to a party, she follows me and chaperones. my dad passed away when i was 16, and all my 4 older siblings have graduated and married. she wants to live with me forever and follow me everywhere i go.

So my parents are going through a messy divorce and it's lead to people questioning whether either of my parents are fit to have custody of me and my younger siblings. I'm not very familiar with how the system works but I'm 17 and if my parents are deemed unfit, would I be able to stay with a family friend? And what would happen with my siblings?

Like 5 years ago my uncle moved to my city with out his family. Then last summer his kids & wife moved here to but they lived on base. We still visited all the time & us kids took turns with sleepovers. Rachel is 1 and 1 half year older then me & since were the only girls we or I thought we did get along good. But she always says things toget me in trouble. Like if something brakes she blames it on me. If cookies or soda is missing she blames me. This christmas she even blsmed me when SHE told my little brother and her little twin brothers that santa isnt real. I got in troubke for it when SHE told them and i was telling them Rachel was wrong! She tattles on me and my little brother. She does bad things like flash my big brothers and when she gotcought by my aunt she said I TOLD her to do it and I got told off by her and my mom. I never tell on her cause Im not a snitch butRachel always trys to get me in troubke. Why dose she do it? My cousins live right down the street from us now and we go to the same school and Rachel had the same teacher last year that I have nowand she tattles to her about things I do wrong at home.

Hi, I am 17 years old and Junior in highschool. I have a twin and older sister. Me and my twin have no relationship. My parents fight and scream a lot about money. Last week, Friday, each of us had our own car. That s when everything started. Because of the snow my sister ditched. The car would have been fine but unfortunately she landed on a pole and it periced the engine. A few days later we had a show choir competition. I woke up at 530am first it. we lost and didn t make finals, and at dinner I got a call saying I may be losing my job if I can t work more. Driving home I fell asleep at the wheel 2 minutes from my house and crashed my car, deploying all the airbags and leaving me coughing and screaming with glass under my hands in the middle of an intersection. I started panicking wondering how this will effect the long term relationship I was in. In the end it didn t matter. The next day our last car broke down and everyone went angry and ballistic. The next day I found out I must attend court. the next day my phone broke, and the next day I had lost my wallet 2 hours away after a terrible experience at all state. Next my expensive glasses broke. My mom threatened to kick my dad out of the house and my sister made an attempt at running away. Then I failed my math test that I assumed I would do well on. The next day my boyfreind dumped because "it s a crime for me to love him as much as I do without him being able to give it back" I am at my worst. What do I do now?

in this case he is related to me by marrig so he is my uncles step son

I was on my moms phone today and I seen a text from a family friend and in the video him and my mother was having sex then he sent her a pic of her naked. I feel sick why would she do that to my father. she don't know that I seen it what should I do

my sister felt that our family wasn't spending enough time together -so she got dog so now we're all forced to take care of the dog. (of course the dog grew on us). but still... it was selfish.

our house is in pretty bad shape, our landlord is a shady piece of **** so we don't have a way to dispose of trash and our water was shut off. I ended up staying with a friend while my dad supposedly dealt with the water situation, and a week later nothing had been done so I wound up staying with my boyfriend because he's the only person I could stay with and bring my cat (I had been stopping in to feed him and give him water.) My Dad has my siblings on the weekends and takes them to my grandparents because he doesn't want to have them in the house, so he didn't realize immediately that I had taken my cat with me and he called to ask why. We got into an argument when I said I didn't think the chaotic environment was good for my cat or me right now, it essentially ended with him saying he didn't care that I could do whatever I want with my cat and that I didn't have to come home. I need to grab some things from my house, I've been trying to get in contact with my Dad to see if it would be okay if I grabbed some things from the house and he's been ignoring me. He's not home weekends so I could grab stuff then, or I could ask my younger brother to grab some stuff but I really don't want to involve him in anything.

okay, so starting yesterday afternoon my mom got really mad at me. and now, shes still pretty angry at me, and yelling at me. my sister and i were at the library yesterday, and it was raining heavily. i was supposed to call her and ask her to drive up to pick us up, but we saw her car, so we just ran to her, and she started fuming over that. now shes still angry. ive tried to do extra chores to appease her, but its not working. she's asian, which means she is always angry, so please take that into account.

Can someone explain sibling rivalry to me? I am an only child so that concept is totally foreign to me. My husband has 2 brothers and they always try to out do the other. If one get something, the other 2 try to get a bigger and/or a better or more expensive one. No matter what it is they will waste a lot of money trying to out do the other. This makes no sense to me. Why do they do that?

Hello my boyfriend of 6-7 months has recently let me know about physical and mental abuse in his household. He is 16, and has younger siblings. (12&7). He has recently told me that when he was in kindergarten, his father went to jail for putting bruises on him from punching and hitting him. His mother does not care and I personally believe she does also. I have not seen it, nor do I have recordings or proof but I have text messages between me and him, saying how they hit him and stuff. Last night I got a few messages about how they locked him outside. It is snowing and is around 24 degrees out. I am worried for his safety and his little siblings safety. He told me not to call CPS because he will get in trouble again once his dad gets out of jail. Thank you for answering

I always say no about family gatherings with his family as I just really don't feel comfortable around them. The mother has all sorts of problems and is an alcoholic and I just don't really care to be around them as I always feel really uncomfortable and out of place. So whenever they ask me to go out for a family meal or a birthday party etc I always have to kindly decline. Does this make me a bad person? I get on great with my boyfriend I just don't like being with his family and like to see them as little as possible only when I have to. I just don't care to be around them. I don't know how I can explain it to him without sounding like a massive b*tch.

My daughter is planning on joining the army after she graduates next year. I realy want to be supportive but I am hesitant because I dont want her to go far away. Im sure that she is only doing it because of getting her education paid for. She knows we could never afford for her to get a college education and she doesnt want to start of her adult life with a ton of money owed for student loans. Could anyone help me to be more supportive and help me get over this funny feeling that she is doing the right thing.

My little sister is 23 years younger than me. Her boyfriend is 30 years younger than me. I'm five years younger than his mom and 11 years younger than his dad. HELP

Ok guys, please no bullshit answers. I'm 26 and my mom had me when she was really young. The more I grow older, the more I appreciate my mother and the more I love her everyday. When I was a stupid kid I would argue with her a lot but turns out that momma knows best. So she is my priority, I have my gf and I love her too but she can't compare to my mother and never will. If my mother isn't happy then I'm not either. It's always a blessing to see her smile and laugh after all the obstacles she'd went through her life. I really want to make her 43rd birthday memorable, do you guys have any ideas? Kindly please let me know, I was thinking of a surprise birthday party with a big custom cake. Thank you all so much.

My dad come from an dysfunctional family and his parent divorce when he was 12. He never asked.about me and he doesn't take responsibility for me. I'm 20 year old female and when I visit him he started to insult me (no reason). I stop talking to him. I don't know what to do.

My parents scold me for not being independent yet and I'm 17 they want me to start doing things on my own and not ask them for help or support. I want to go to college out of state and they said no that I had to stay within the area I live in but I had less options. They said it's because I can't take care of myself and I'm not responsible but I think I'm pretty responsible even teachers say I'm responsible. Then I asked them if I can go on vacation on my own or with friends to another country and they also said no because I'm not smart enough to be on my own and that I'm vulnerable. They said I can't leave like that until I'm older and they're like focus on school first, but I am focused I already know I really want to go to college and I will. I don't know how they want me to become independent when they don't let me do anything on my own. They tell me I don't do anything around the house and that my mom always has to do everything for me like cleaning my room. I clean my own room!! My mom just cleans my room when I'm at school but I never ask her to do it because I can do it myself so I don't understand why they get mad at me for things like this. I don't have a part time but I think it's fine because I don't go out with my friends at all, last year I only went out twice with my friends the whole year!! So I'm not constantly asking for money. Please give advice and this I want them to stop treating me like this. I want to just leave and do things on my own sometimes.

If I talk to my mom about it I know she will be mad and stick up for my stepdad. What should I do he always yells at me about my grades and every little thing I do wrong and my depression is getting worse everyday because of him If I talk to my mom about it I know she will be mad and stick up for my stepdad. What should I do he always yells at me about my grades and every little thing I do wrong and my depression is getting worse everyday because of him. He looks at my on line and I was tardy to class 1 time on the first day of my new school and he yelled a me. I can't say anything to him or he will tell my mom and then it would be 2 adults against 1 child. If I talk to my mom about it I know she will be mad and stick up for my stepdad. What should I do he always yells at me about my grades and every little thing I do wrong and my depression is getting worse everyday because of him

My siblings and me were busy after he died, So one of my sisters went to check things out. She reported back to us, and told us that the only one that any of his money was his second wife and my half-sister. We feel that my father must have left us at least something. I think our sister is lying to us. How do I find out if she stole our inheritance?

His mom has bad anxiety but is otherwise healthy. I understand anxiety and how paralyzing it can be. She sits on the couch all day every day and smokes. She is still married but he leaves and travels as he's still trying to enjoy life into his 70's. She has a home paid free and clear, retirement and social security and free healthcare as she is a native. His sister has three kids by different men, barely works, and was just dumped by an asshole. Her dad pays most of her bills and covers her rent. I forgot to mention she has a $80k retirement plan. Both his mom who is capable and his sister who is also capable expect him to drive across town to shovel the driveway or lend his mom his truck. His sister said she's expecting him to pay for her rent and help her out now that she's single. I want him and I to have a chance. We both work our asses off and live in a crappy apartment and he's gone half the year for work. I'm just exhausted and afraid to talk to him about this. I understand family needs to help, but they are both capable and have their own money.

My husband and I have been Grandparents for over 7 years (5 grandkids in all) and the Grandkids call up Lolli & Pop! His Brother and Sister-in-law just found out the will be Grandparents and want to also be called Lolli & Pop. This bothers us both and we have told them. They don t care. Should we change our "name" since they won t budge?

My parents have been married for over 30 years. They are living with me because of limited income. The money they have pretty much goes toward food and their alcohol consumption. My father is verbally and emotionally abusive to my mom. She cries and by looking at her physical state, it's obvious he drains the life out of her and she admits it. The problem is, she does not want to leave him. I've given her multiple options, even paying a full trip for her to visit her sister in another county, but she don't want to go!!! She just refuses to leave my father. I've offered to give them money and my house and I plan on moving to another state, my mom Bursts into tears saying how can I leave her. I love my mother and she's more than good to me and my sister but this is so unfair. It's like she's dragging me through their abuse. I feel sooo bad for her and my heart is breaking but what can I do here when she won't leave him alone and how can she be soooo selfish to even want me to be around this mess. I feel so bad for her cus she's a great mother but I don't know what to do.

In the last four years I've been to about 12 funerals and/or memorial services. 4 alone in 2018 of people who were REALLY close to me. After the last one I said I wasn't going to anymore and this year there have already been 2 that I skipped. I don't really think I am needed to go to this one seeing as I haven't really been that close to them and the father isn't my family but the cousin's obviously are. I I don't really want to attend another funeral for a very long time unless absolutely necessary but I just need an unbias opinion on whether or not I should go or just send some relaxation gifts.

my brother in laws girlfriend.We had to live next door to them for a period of time and she WAS SUPER RUDE TO ME and even harassed my family members, my brother in law hit on me a few times when I starting dating my husband and once before(she was pregnant with their second child at the time)I rejected him each time #1i loved my boyfriend(at the time)#2he's unattractive,anyone when she started being rude to me after my first child was born,I blurted our the thing about her husband.she held a grudge against me for many years.I said sorry for telling her(she was never sorry for being rude)then she was rude to me again at a family party(I then blurted out about her brothers Infidelity(my husbands ex best friend), which they acted paranoid about me knowing.Then her boyfriend came to our house screaming about her being on drugs and wanting her kicked out(shes had issues with it since Highschool)cause he feared for their children's safety.i recorded the video since she had tried to take multiple pictures of me nude and stock everyone I knew previous of meeting my husband.She was on bench probation for theft,then her boyfriend came over and threatened to murder me, then went home and called the cops on me and made up a story because I have the video of him saying shes on drugs!now shes becoming a Nuisance in my life.WHO IS IN THE WRONG?should I file a restraining order?

My granpa is dying. it's a matter of days. I'm 29,he's 92. It's a matter of days,I am a medical resident. I saw people die,but in my family this is the first time that someone of my inner family dies. The sad part is that nothing can be done. He has done so many wonderful things in his life. He didn't go to college and didn't get a degree or something but he's been an honest worker. He had a general store in town. A family man,hard worker,a good man,honest,I could go on. My question is: when the time comes,should I be in the room with him holding his hands? I know that normally (I see this all the time) nurses or doctors tell the family members to go out in the last moments,I tell this too to people (it happens rarely though).If the nurses tell me to go out I don't give a damn,if I want to I stay there,I am a doctor after all. But should I want to be there to hold his hand? I'm quite old to have never lost anyone yet but that's how it is. From your experience,is it a moment where you should be there holding his hand? Will I regret it if I'm not there? I really could use some good advices now it's so hard watching him there..I don't know if I can be in the room with him when the moment comes I don't know if it is too painful for me to be there