He is 43 and in town for a funeral that we had this past Saturday for our grandfather. He leaves tomorrow to go home. Never had any drug or alcohol problems but he looks druggy and went to the pharmacy this morning for our grandmother.

The people they hate are feuds with family members of my Mom's that I like but they hate. Some of these have been hostile to my Mom at times just like my sister is hostile to me at times.

Are family reunions not a big thing anymore? My mother's family had one in 1988 with 137 people. My aunt had the same group in 2012 and only 44 people came. I do one on the other side of my family but have kicked around doing one on my Mom's side one year but wondered this.

More people are going to be around June 30th then June 23rd when I had picked. It is 75 invitees with about 35 of them close family. Of the close family more are out of town that weekend then I thought would be as one group has a big wedding planned on the other side of their family that weekend. Would changing it be rude? The more distant 2nd cousins I am not worried about even though they are welcome to come if they want. I don't suspect a lot of the more distant ones will come.

My dad died 3 years ago, will be 4 years at the end of march. I know this was a long time ago so should i be over it or is it normal to still be sad? If you think i should be over it then why?

She's told her family well used to be out Family it was all me, and they believe me, even though all of these problems Were here and I was innocent. She also messaged a girl 20 years younger than her who is bully me + pretends it is for me, and Really it is for Herself. Why would a mother be like this.?

She treats her house like a frat house. She lets all my brother's friends come over and stay overnight. I'm the ONLY one who has respect for my house and don't let my friends come in and out. I go to public places and hang out with them there. This makes me better than my brothers. We're all in our 20s and live at home. What to do?

I'm tired of the number of people that come through on a daily basis. My mom is a dumb*** wimp who can't get a backbone and tell everyone to get out. I'm 28 and my brother's are 25 abd 19. We all live at home.

So my dad's been depressed for the past five years or so (off and on). When he goes into one of his moods, they last from weeks to months, and he stays in his room on his computer all day or goes out driving to God knows where. Recently, he moved his mother and mentally handicapped sister into our house, and he barely does anything to take care of her, leaving my mom to do everything for her. She bears it like a saint, as most women would've probably left him. He refuses to get help, and instead just ignores everyone and drinks, and whenever we try to get him to get help, he just blames it all on us, saying that he's the problem and that we all hate him and other stuff along the lines. He's never violent or aggressive, but he's incredibly manipulative, emotionally. He says he's not depressed, and won't even talk to anyone as he's pushed all his friends away. So I'm just wondering if there's any way I might be able to help him.

I have been the legal guardian for my cousin for about 2 months. At first he was about to go and live with my parents, but they live in the countryside and I know it would be harsh to him so I stepped up. He is 15 and I am 26 so he thought it would be more fun, like I did too. We have much fun, that is true, and I am more relaxed in some things (curfew, bedtime, homework).However yesterday, he was on his computer all day and he hadn't done none of the chores I gave him (like 3 simple things) so I went to his room to tell him to turn it off and he didnt, I told him again and he didn't, so finally I turned it off! He got mad, and we argued a lot, he called some pretty awful names that made me feel like a rubbish. I just told him to do whatever he wants, and then went to my room that I literally cried. I am not mad at him,neither is he , but he pushed the limits, I know he should be punished,, I just don't know how, and ofc how to approach him? Any help here? Should I take parenting lessons? Discipline* I can approach him,but I don't know what tone to use in this occasion, strict , calm?

Instead she just went "ooh"

When our father died my brother turned to gambling. For almost 15 years my older brother became addicted to gambling traveling all around the world, not holding a full time job. I tried to help the best I could, I gave him money, stopped giving him money, took him to therapy. Etc..I thought we were always close. He wouldn't tell us his exact location of where he was, but would email us checking in. Well its been 5 months and I haven't heard from my brother. The last time I checked he was homeless living overseas. I did contact the police overseas. Since he never told me his passport information nor his old address it was hard to give them much information. Did something like this ever happen to you? Did you ever find your missing person? I am not here to hear addictions are diseases I am only here to see if anyone else had a missing person they know of (which I hope no know has to experience this)

Hello there! I'm currently 8 weeks pregnant and completely single. To explain myself, ever since I was a toddler I knew I was born to be a mom, it was a huge part of me and while other little girls were playing with barbies I was babysitting my plastic baby dolls and helping my older cousins with their newborns. Then a little while ago, I found out I might have a bigger fertility problem in the future and that if I wanted to have kids without having conceiving issues, I should start when I'm ready and young. Sense I haven't found "the one" yet, or even been in a long enough relationship to contemplate having children, I decided to do AI (artificial insemination) and after a few tries I was granted a beautiful gift. I am financially stable and I am still in college but I take most of my classes in an online database so I can balance school and work! However, I have yet to tell my family and I know the confusion about how I got pregnant is going to come up as I do not have a man currently in my life. I've thought endlessly how I'd explain myself but I feel as if just straightforward telling the truth will be best, but how I think my family will react in my head versus in real life could be completely different. So, if there's any moms out there or family members, how should I go about this? How would you react?

He turned 2 a few months ago, but he speak in sentences like "Can Kate put on socks?" and walk over to me with his socks. Is this normal or is he ahead of his age?

I'm literally so sick of her behavior. I have no idea why she treats me the way she treats me. She always ask me "Are you pregnant?" like once a month, she doesn't want me leaving the house late at night, everytime someone comes to pick me up she feels as if it is rude if they don't come in and say "hi" to her, even though its okay with my Mom she doesn't want me in my Moms room eating or watching TV, she doesn't want me having a locked door knob, she occasionally opens my mail and always says it was a "accident", she finds it disrespectful if I leave I'm gone for a few days and don't tell her I'm spending the night somewhere, if I run outside really quick she'll come out and follow me. If my boyfriend or even a friend comes over she wants the door opened and them gone by 9:30... I'm talking about 23 year old girls you guys in a room hanging out! My boyfriend in my room, totally understand but, to be that nosey for me to have my room door opened while I have female company is insane and she'll keep the house "quiet" when I have company and "use" the bathroom near me 10000 times. She's threatend me with "either you live here or at your boyfriends" because I've stay over at his house for a few days. She also continues to tells my boyfriend that its "disrespectful" to pick me up late at night or have me stay over "unmarried". She is pushing marriage on us and always says " I know you two are having sex and stuff about God/not being married and don't bring no babies here " etc.

Okay so if I do say so myself I m not a terrible kid. I don t smoke, drink, go out at night and I have good grades. Now I m not an angel either. Sometimes I tend to get angry with my mom cuz she gives me the silent treatment for small things. Like she asked me to drink a glass of water in the morning but when she came in my room, I hadn t finish the water. So she started to get angry. So I guess I "talked back" cuz I said that I had barely woken up and I will drink it. I probably should have said that nicely but I was emotional and mad cuz my mom does that a lot and I was tired of it. Most of our arguments involve something tiny. I feel like I always have to do it, she gets mad over a simple thing and I have to convince her. I don't understand why I have to do it all the time. She won't really talk to me for like the whole day then I have to beg her to talk to me. Every time something like this happens I say to myself that I won't react emotionally but in reality I always end up doing it. I just want everything to be peaceful. So I would appreciate if you guys help me with keeping my mouth shut during such situations. Thanks you

i'm so scared. i see it coming it's only 50 feet away IM so scared i'm in the basement hiding and it's coming!!! NOW ITS ONLY 10 FEET AWAY IT TOOK ALL MY ELECTRONICS I HAVE NO WAY TO USE THE INTERNET IM SUICIDING

my imac is 11 years old and still works it's just quite slow, and my Windows desktop computers is 6 years old and works perfectly. how long do computers normally last?

Some of the people we are meeting for the first time in 10 years and only the second time ever. This party is being held in July this year. First time I have done one though my aunt did one 10 years ago and as a kid I went to a few on the other side of my family. The one my aunt did was for everyone like this one I am doing. The ones as a kid I went to were just first and second cousins and those ended when my great-uncle and his wife died. This will be at a park in Ohio. Not an overnight reunion.

My Mom pulled me aside on Saturday and told me the news. She said if my Dad had loved us he would not have cheated. I see her point. Now I realize he does not love us. I feel so rejected. She also said she wonders if there were other women though doesn't know yet. I feel the whole world is shattered. Dad picked this Jackie woman over the rest of us. Mom and Dad will never be together again and usually when Mom is mad at someone we never see them again so I am afraid of never seeing my Dad again or at least rarely seeing him again. If he doesn't love me I feel confused and rejected. My brothers don't seem to care as much. Also, when I do see my father how do I act around him if he has now rejected us? Do I act like everything is fine? We're going to move in the fall Mom said to be near our grandparents. Not sure if my Dad is still with this Jackie woman or not. What do I do? I am off today cause it snowed so there is no school. It is the first snow day of the year but it ends a terrible weekend. It all sucks so much.

He parties each week, then comes home at 3 am and has really loud disgusting sounds with my bonus mom. He listens on music by people half his age, only party music btw. He occasionally talks really immature like my little brother just said "I gotta use the bathroom" and he said "Go all crazy, **** all over the place". I asked him why he left his Christain friends and he said "They have kids and are married" I said "So do you" and he said "Yeah but they're too boring". Like no they're not boring, they just don't spend all their money on alcohol and cigarettes.. I'm losing respect for him, why is he like this

It's freakin' annoying! It feels like my mother doesn't take me seriously and I've gotten to the point where I would be okay if I never saw my mother again. My mom is a good person it's just this stupid habit makes me ANGRY! I mean ANYTHING I say and my mother immediately bursts into laughter or cracks an obnoxious smile... How do I get the freakin' clown to stop smiling and laughing so damn much?

I live in a big city where homelessness and drug addiction is a huge problem. I'm a manager at a restaurant on one of the biggest college campuses in the US, and there's these two boys who are always here. I've gotten pretty close to them and they love me, but probably only because I always give them free food and talk with them. They're 12 and 13 and roam the streets all day and night. On Thursday well after we closed, I saw them running and playing on the sidewalks at 2 am, and their houses are about a 50 minute bus ride from campus. They're so sweet and spend literally 12 hours a day at my store, and being little boys they can get really rowdy (like hitting each other and screaming F bombs) Especially because they have nowhere to let their energy out. I've grown to really care about these boys and I feel so scared whenever they have to leave. I already let them stay hours after close until I walk out, but I can't help but worry. I'm not sure if there's much else I can do but talk to them and feed them, but coming from a small town with a social worker mother and me majoring in social work myself, I can't help but need to help. I don't want to do anything like call CPS when I truly know nothing about the home situations, especially living in a city where this kind of situation widespread, like I feel it could completely make things worse for them, being a social worker I know this is true. I'm at loss about how to handle them, I've really grown to care about them. I've been thinking about having them help out to get their free meals, but working for corporate, I feel like I could get into a lot of trouble. I already could get into trouble for giving them free food

Yesterday I learned that my 25 year old sister is pregnant and not keeping it. She has an appointment next week to have her 7 week old child aborted. I am 27 so a couple years older than her and I can honestly say this is one of the greatest pains I have ever felt in my life. My heart is shattered. I am so heartbroken you would think it was my own child. What hurts even more is the fact that she is a grown adult with a decent job and a loyal partner who is also financially stable and the only excuse for her not having this child is the fact that she doesn't feel grown up enough to take on the responsibility of being a parent. She was irresponsible and didn't use protection because she didn't think it could happen to her and then it did. I will never get the opportunity to meet my first niece or nephew nor will my parents ever be able to meet their first grandchild. What hurts the most is that she didn't even reach out to me to tell me this news herself nor has she acknowledged me in this life changing event in her life. I had to find out through my parents instead. I am grieving, mourning & coping the best way I know how right now but I am feeling so lost in my feelings I really don't know what to do with myself... I guess I am just looking for advice on how to cope. Am I over dramatic for feeling the way that I do?

My daughter is 3 she'll be 4 in April she really loves Queen her favorite guy is Roger she has a crush on him her favorite song is I'm In Love With My Car that is the stupidest song I ever heard I can see why they didn't want to record it. It's not really they're song it's mostly his. She watched clips of Bohemian Rhapsody on YouTube she hasn't seen the movie yet I don't know if she should she said she just wants to watch it because of him. She watched the part where they were in the studio recording he was singing Galileo also the part where Roger started to throw the coffee machine at Brian she laughed at that part. She said he's the cutest thing she ever seen she wants to marry him. I don't know how to tell her that he's not that young anymore I don't know if he's married or not I heard he was dating a girl a few years back had kids with her I think but he wouldn't go for a 4 year old girl he's old enough to be her grandpa now. Also by the time she's old enough to start dating he and Brian would be dead probably that's like 10 years from now. We watched them on the Oscars tonight I told her that's what Roger looks like now she kept arguing saying that's not him she said that's not the guy she saw in the movie. We're going to see them in concert this summer she's excited about it she said she wants to give him a hug. How can I talk to her about him ? Also is he married ?

I'm losing respect for my dad since he has done hurtful things towards me too. Not physical but he has lied to make himself look like a good parent and me a bad person and I ended up me receiving emotional abuse for his lies! Also when we got into a car accident I had to be taken away on a stretcher all I remember him saying "really? a stretcher?" he showed no emotional concern for me. My brother emotionally and mentally abused me to the point I took myself to the hospital and admitted myself into mental ward. Why would a father allow this behaviour? In asp 4 foot10 my brother like 5'8 or 5'9 and has charged towards me like he was gonna hurt me. What kind of "dad" doesn't do anything about his sons behaviour. My dad doesn't treat me like this but he's allowing it? I'm confused. He also only shouts at me for my reaction to the abuse never at the abuser, my brother

My mom waited outside my dorm for an hour, trying to get a hold of me. She needed me to translate some things for her on Youtube. Shes trying to make a recipe. I have tried calling her the night before and early in the morning that I cannot help her anymore due to work. She never picked up or called me back. My work needed a sub and they asked me to go in because a student had some family emergency. I had no choice. So she couldnt get a hold of me and waited an hour in the car outside of my dorm. I tried calling her back after I got off work and nope. Its been two weeks now. She's acting like a kid. She keeps ignoring my calls. I asked my brother if she is okay. He told me she's been gossiping about me. She's clearly pissed off she waited for an hour outside my dorm. But thats hella petty. This is why I live in a dorm and not at home. So what can I do?

My mom gets so angry when people speak Spanish that she will begin to shake. She shuts off the TV whenever someone speaks Spanish. She thinks it's disrespectful and gets angry when anyone talks about their culture. (Not languages where the population who speaks it is mostly white or when a white person speaks a language. She only gets angry when it's a person of color) Whenever I tell her it's wrong or she's being cruel, she tells me it's disrespectful. I am 20 and about to move out but since Trump been president- she openly is more hateful and will talk a lot of hate, maybe because it's more in the news etc. I really can't stand being around her because I am not like that at all. It gets frustrating and hurtful to hear hate every single day, and mostly it's draining. I have so many loved ones who are POC, and I work with people of so many different cultures and ethnicities. It feels like personal attacks to my clients and loved ones, and I can't live like this anymore.

My grandfathers deck was made out of hard wood and it was nice to sit on

This problem has wrecked my marriage, my relationship with a sister and several cousin's, nieces and nephews. etc. The people I'm talking about did unforgivable things like filing lawsuits on family members, calling police and falsifying police reports on family members, attempted blackmail, etc. Mostly everyone I was close to went back to having relationships with these people, despite what they did, but I refused to. Now they act like one, big, happy family and I'm left out. In other words, instead of being loyal to me and my wishes not to be involved with them, they chose them instead of me. Are people that desperate not to be alone that they accept any kind of behavior from others? I feel they deserve each other and I'm happy not to be involved with them, but the consequences to me are being alone with no family support and it makes me worried and tense. Maybe it was just bad luck on my part to have a lousy family and there is no way I can forgive them.

My 13 yr old daughter wants to stay w/her dad all summer. That's okay. Now, without discussing this with her dad, she and her dad have decided that she can live there forever. I'm somewhat okay with it if she'll be happy, well educated, loved as much as the girlfriend and the new baby, and disciplined within reason. First of all, I'm disappointed that these life-changing events weren't discussed with me (I'm a controlling mom); second that I've done anything so bad that she doesn't want to be a family (me and her) anymore; and finally, that she'll lose her way and her identity. I've been a great mom, but in the last year I've really been off my game. But that's life - we're all not perfect all the time. Should I back off and let her, or should I stay on top of this situation and monitor it? I know there are lots of smart teens on Y!A; and lot's of savvy, experienced moms and dads so I'm looking forward to your thoughts.

So long story short, my brothere friend sells drug. Heavy drugs. My brother personally doesn't but has begged me not to tell as this is the only friend he's had- and they've been beside each other since 2nd grade. My brother is willing letting someone sell these potentially deadly drugs and wants me to do so too. He's my brother and I want what's best for him. I was brought up on the belief that family comes before all else. So I'm physiologically screwing myself over about what I should do. Should I report him? Or do I let him be?

I recently calculated all of what ill earn yearly from doing art commissions and how much to pay for the apartment, finding good reviews for the apartments, finding a good cheap price, what groceries to buy a month and its amount. Learning how to cook. Checking whats nearby the apartment like a hospital and restaurants, Organizing my schedule and so on. Is there any important tips on living alone that I am missing, pros and cons? Thanks!

Hello everyone . I'm having huge issues with my daughter who just a year ago was my best friend . We moved cities and although I can't blame the city it is a lot bigger . We Came from a city where you can't fart without going to prison . lol . I can't get her to go to school. I suspect she's pregnant . I am thinking of packing and going home. Anyone do a change like this and see results . I don't want to go back if we are at square one but I feel desperate right now and am willing to try anything . I have tired everything conseuling, lock the house like Fort Knox, cops etc