My boyfriend of 5 years and I had a huge argument recently. I mentioned applying for a 6-month advisory governmental job in another town. He got very angry and said he doesn't want to do long distance again (we had done it for a year internationally and nearly broke up). Then he went on to say "but why advisory? Why??? You're slow and you need brainpower for that kind of job". I recently got a degree in Economics, am currently completing an internship in the financial sector. But he argued that it had to be said as "the core issue here behind you wanting to move towns for this job is because you think you're better than what you are." He agreed that this isn't something that a partner should say but said "I can't change your personality"; that I'm "not smart" but if I try very hard for this job, I may get it, but in his eyes I "won't go far in this job or beyond a middle-manager". This went on for 5 hours. The next day I was still upset. He was apologetic and tried to take me out for my favourite breakfast and get me an early Valentine's gift. He said he'll be more supportive and didn't mean it, and just angry. However I don't really believe him - the length and descriptiveness of his rant sounded like honesty to me. I know I am slow but I have been trying to improve myself where I can e.g. read more history, and I did do a lot of business problem solving at uni and got As. I know he is smarter than me but I often don't feel good enough for him. Am I overreacting?

He kisses me really passionately and looks at me like he's the last time he'll ever see me and kisses me in this strong way, same for when he puts his hand on my chest while making out, he closes his hand on my breasts pressing too strong and it hurts. When I tell him he stops, feels ashamed and turns red, apologises with those puppy eyes. He hugs me really tight and he's stronger than me I feel his whole strength and I feel so weak and fragile in comparison to him. He often wants to cuddle and basically begs me with his eyes, though he's usually a really tough guy, seeing him looking for comfort in me is really sweet. But when when we kiss he lets himself go a little bit too much? He's usually really controlled and respectful, when we kiss he becomes suddenly passionate and wants to touch and kiss really...too much.

Can a boy and girl share a room? Are they allowed to share with their same gender parent? Up until what age are they allowed by law?

The thing is, I work nights and am awake at night, she isn't. I am not going to not eat just for her, especially when she doesn't respect me(she calls me names and is always finding a reason to yell at me). I told her this, that I wasn't going to not eat. She recently decided I couldn't use her microwave anymore. She says I need to buy my own. Thing is, I am fine with not having one. I am not going to buy one when I am saving to move away from her when she's the one who wants me to use one. When I get home today at 6:30, I am going to treat myself to soup. I will have to use the stove. She is going to get mad, even though I am quiet as possible. What is a good response for when she freaks out at me? I just want to cook in peace. I feel like just completely ignoring her when she acts like that. Is it wrong to just ignore a person who is freaking out at me just for cooking when I get home from work?

I'm beginning to realize people talk to my pastor a lot, about me lol. My mom passed away back in October. When she was in the hospital, in a coma, my pastor came to visit to be there for me and my family and to pray over my mom. He officiated the funeral, he has helped my brother and I out with rent/bills and recently, he was there for me to talk through my feelings of anger towards God that I'm experiencing since my mom's passing. My church is quite small and many people know of me, despite having not ever met me...as it turns out. Anyways, I learned a couple weeks ago that my pastor knows where I work (I didn't tell him) and today, when my fiancé and I went up to him to tell him we're engaged, he already knew and said congratulations and that he had been discussing it with somebody this morning. He never said who he discussed it with lol! Do you think it's weird that people discuss me so much with my pastor?

I have decided to cut my mother out of my, my wife's life, and our daughter's life 2 years ago. For various reasons. My father and her divorced when I was very young and her and I have always had issues with her endless marriages ending in divorce, foreclosures on homes and her mental abuse. My family and I moved in with her over 2 years ago due to a new job I had received until we could get our own place. I thought she had changed but she had only gotten worse. She treated my wife and I very poorly including our daughter and threw us all out of her home with no warning for not giving her money. That was the last straw for me. My family and I had nowhere to go and she had turned the rest of her family members against me. Because of this I decided to cut her out of my life including my child's. She threatened me and my wife and said we were keeping her grandchild from her and would follow us and demand to see our daughter despite how my wife and I wanted. She showed up at my work, tracked down coworkers to try to find where we were living. I finally called her and said to leave us alone and that she is not going to be a part of our lives. She said no matter what family is family and she has every right to be in her granddaughters life. I told her no. Well 2 years fast forward she recently emailed me saying she wants to take our daughter out for her birthday and I don't know what to do other than ignore her. But that doesn't seem to work. Need advice on how to handle please!

guy thinks hes some legend, yeah legend at making multis

What makes something considered trauma? Does it require anything? Can it be different for everyone? Are weak or vulnerable people more susceptible to trauma?