Hello all. I'm a 19 year old female. I go to an Ivy League college, and it's very competitive. I have a core group of friends and a good boyfriend. I did well last semester academically. But now I'm trying to branch out! And it hasn't been going that well. I rushed sororities, got rejected from 8/13 on the first round. I'm not ugly so what I said must've been really offputting. I tried informal with one I liked that didn't cut me, but I'm pretty sure I wasn't invited back to that either. I tried going through recruitment for this one club I was interested in that my best friend is in, and got rejected from that, twice. I was apparently a "weak, dismissive, hostile, and vague" during my interview though I'm not sure how I'm coming off so unpleasant. I got rejected from 3 other organizations. I'm not sure how I'm supposed to "branch out" and "make more friends" when I can't even get into a club. I just feel embarrassed honestly. All of my friends have gotten into the same things that I haven't been able to get into. Somethings obviously wrong with me but I have absolutely no idea what it specifically is or how to fix it. Does anyone have any suggestions?

I am starting to get involved in my church, but I get nervous. I don't know how to make people laugh. How can I be charming and funny?

My mame is Nathen, im a 23 year old guy and i have a crush on this woman who is 35. Her name is Jen, She's married and she has 2 kids, she obviously knows i like her but she's married soo im not pursuing anything. We talk all the time at work, she stares at me all the time, she laughs soo much and blushes when im aound her. Alot of people tell me that Jen is alwaya flirting with me. One day Jen was having a conversation with my close friend Amanda, Jen told her that she would never go for a younger guy because young guys have no experience in the bedroom. Is she attracted to me at all???????? Some people say she is, and some say she's not. Can i have advice??????

I'm 19, female. I want to understand why I push people away & act up as a defence mechanism when someone tries to help me, I know I need it, I'm going through a lot, most days I don't want to be alive. I blame others and say I've been hurt when I've been doing the hurting by pushing people away when all they did was try to help, I feel bad now, I will reach out and apologise to those people, they tried helping me and I ignored it, I reacted badly, I acted up, I pushed them away and kept doing it until they walked away, now I'm alone, have hardly any friends left, why? I deserve everything I get, I'm toxic and ruin lives, I'm damaged. I want to fix everything

i am trying to socialize more. how can i have a better sense of humor and be able to jokingly tease people at times, but be funny in general? especially around women, but as well as men

So, the last few months I began seeing a new guy. My friend told me he didn't like my new guy and had said a lot of stuff about him that neither of us liked. I thought it was really mean out of him and it was all jealousy too. I distanced myself slightly but then he turned really nasty. Suddenly I am blocked on facebook, whats app, and viber. Like he is so childish this is ridiculous. I told him I really liked my new partner o numerous occasions too and he even tried starting fights between me and him. It got to a stage where my partner did not want to be around him anymore. I have left him off the last few weeks and actually kinda felt sorry for his behaviour. I mean, maybe im actually being really soft and too nice about all this? Like do I really want him back in my life after all that?

It's not true.

One of my friends continually bullies me and tries to control my life. The other day, I parked in her unassigned parking spot behind our house (we don't have assigned spots but my roommates decided to basically all park in the same spot). I parked there the other day without thinking about it because our other roommates weren't there, she came in my room when she got home and she yelled at me like I cheated on her boyfriend. She went off to me telling me I was inconsiderate and how those spots were "assigned" back two years ago when we moved in. I'd never seen her that pissed off. She's one of those that has to have her way and I get the least desired things in every situation. She "called" the biggest room in our house (I of course got the smallest), she told me when we moved in that I couldn't keep anything out on the bathroom counter (no toothpaste, retainers, only soap) I learned that quickly after she kept throwing my stuff into the drawer when I'd nearly leave it out, and she'll leave me passive aggressive sticky notes if something is dirty (assuming the dirtyness is my fault). Also she tries to take guys from me even if she knows I like them, because she thinks she can get every guy out there. This girl is psycho. I can't be the only one to think this girl is crazy. Does anyone else think these actions are absurd?

i'm a girl, 12 years younger than him

Why is it better to live in a house when starting a family, instead of living in an apartment?

When I was young I was chased by this dude for no reason ( he never caught me or hurt me) just chase it was on Halloween he would dress up and Chase me even going to the store he would chase me I was maybe 13/14. Last time I'd saw him was 2015 I was 26 then and he remember who I was and when he used to do he said ( don't worry I won't chase you then laughed) then saying our goodbyes my cousin said chase her and he said (can't she has flip flops on) so if I had shoes on would he have Chase's me? I was told at an young as he liked me but could that be true and does he still like me?

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Quick backstory: When I met him, I had no idea that we'd ever become close. About a month into our friendship, I met one of his online friends. The three of us had a group call online. His friend started asking me questions. He asked how old I was, and the wrong age slipped out. I still don't know why I did this, but part of it was his friend was kind of rude, so I'm guessing that made me anxious. I already knew my (future) boyfriend's age, so he was hearing my 'age' for the first time during this group call. At that point, his friend went on with the conversation and there was no chance to fix it, so I just let it go. I haven't spoken to his online friend since then. Fast forward several months later. We just recently got closer and admitted feelings, and now we're together. Here's the problem: He thinks that I'm 3 years older than him, when I'm actually 5 years older than him. (We're both legal adults, so that's not the issue.) I never corrected my age, because it never came up, and when I do think about it, I get anxious and have no idea how to even start the conversation. He's said many times that doesn't mind our age gap (the 3 years he thinks we have), but I'm still so unsure how to bring it up. I don't want to make it a huge deal, but I also want to tell him so badly because it's the one thing I have never clarified. I tell him everything else, and I'm nothing but honest. Except for this, and it's a weight on my shoulders I don't want to carry. I feel horrible that I've never told him. I don't want to keep this from him any longer. I just need suggestions and help on HOW TO START this conversation, without making it sound intimidating. (Nothing like, "We need to talk.") I know that there are possibly consequences...and it's up to him after that. I just need help with how to begin this conversation. Thank you.

I live in a two bedroom apartment with a roommate. While I do my best to be respectful of our common spaces and keep them clean, I let my own room get pretty messy. Mostly clothes, books, etc. on the floor, messy desk, you know. Nothing gross or especially weird. However, my roommate tends to make jokes about me and my room and how messy it is. At first I took it in stride (it is messy after all!) but it's starting to feel like she's genuinely bothered by it and making fun of me. Again, I do my best to keep our common spaces uncluttered, and she has no reason to be in my room or care how it looks. Is it worth confronting her over?

I want to make this as short as possible but I have never been one who has had friends. At least not real ones. As a child, I was severely bullied by classmates and I feel that lowed my confidence and how I felt about myself. I didn't establish very healthy "friendships" in high school and I was devastated after one of my best friends from college betrayed me. Since then. I have tried to meet new people but I have been rejected a few times to the point where I feel so emotionally hurt that I don't want to risk feeling it again. I'm 25 now and I have tried to accept the idea that maybe friends/relationships are not for me. I consider myself a very kind and caring person, so I don't understand. I have always felt that I am not worthy of being loved, so I am trying to block out the pain I feel by focusing on other things. However, I feel sad and a sense of emptiness in life and I don't know if my lack of human connection is unhealthy for me. I have felt hopeless around my relationships for quite some time now that I just feel like giving up.

Sometimes, the kids at my table like to talk, so I have to tell them to be quiet. How do i do it without offending them or getting too loud?

So I got invited to attend an important meeting where the discussion has to do with me and a group of other people. Nothing bad or anything but this is being held in NY where I just moved from Im now in Fl. I can Skype into the meeting and watch but part of me wants to go. If I go I'll be staying with an uncle And Aunt that I barley talk to and I had experience living with before and it wasn't always good. But the reason why I wanna go back is to ofc be apart of the meeting and I also want to hang out with my old friends that're There and take a break from work because since I moved that's all I do if I'm not with my boyfriend. My uncle & aunt are kind of strict they're about business and they are quiet people they keep to themselves so idk if it'll be awkward or anything. I'm just over thinking this because I don't want to feel like I'm going to be walking in egg shells there. If I go I'll be staying for 4 days and within the four days I'll be going to 2 meetings and hopefully link up with old friends. Also I'm not saying if I go that I know automatically that I'll feel uncomfortable but I know how they are and I don't want to feel like I'm intruding there space. Maybe I should stop over thinking and just go but idkkkk..

Okay, here's the deal, I'm special, but EVERYBODY hates me!!!!! I don't have a single friend, in the world. :'( I got a special creative gift. I don't know if that's why people hate me, or not, though. I don't think it has anything to do with that. I think it's about my paranoia, and anxiety issues, I'm going through. A lot of people find it offensive. It's tough to explain... :/

Long story short, unbeknownst to me until now, my coworkers have been going to my boss concerning "issues" with me. Which has encouraged me boss to spy on me without me knowing. My coworkers say they are my friends and they love me but can't come to me about things they see as a problem. Would a true friend run to your boss and tell them "So and so is doing this" or would they come to you to tell you? And the crazy part is I am a hard worker and I do everything they ask me to do. I am an asset to the job and they know I am which probably why they have done this. And what makes it more crazier is that they've told me out of their mouth that they would always come to me first before they even consider going to my boss because then that would cause my boss to look at me a certain way but THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT THEY JUST DID! I have told them, if you ever notice anything off about me or you have a concern with me, come to me, you can talk to me. Yet, they have been going behind my back to talk to my boss and then say that they only did it because they are concerned for me but if they were truly concerned and truly my friends, wouldn't they just come to me? I would do that for them