Hello, I am 24 and recently engaged to a very sweet 22-year old girl. I don't deserve her and I think she is a very strong, brave, kindhearted, giving, and caring woman. I don't like a skewed narrative, so I will try to explain this with as little bias as possible. A few months ago, we were in a long distance relationship. We wanted to close the distance. She wanted to move to where I was, but her parents wouldn't have it, so I drove across the country (a little over 2000 miles) to live here in the same town with her. Her parents are old-fashioned so I honored their wishes for us not to live together. I asked for her father's blessing (before he was aware that I have Asperger's) and he said "yes" in a very round-about way with a lot of lectures about how difficult marriage is (and I agree that it will be an undertaking). Several months ago, I proposed and she said yes. I want nothing more than to be a good husband and father like my dad. Recently, we have been trying to plan a wedding. However, spending more time with her family, they seem to have some suspicion that I might have Asperger's (something my fiancé knew, but didn't tell them). I have often been very secretive about my Asperger's and have tried my best to subdue the symptoms so they aren't noticeable. Recently, my fiancé's parents often warn her about "the dangers of what she's getting herself into." They are discouraging us both from having kids and don't seem to believe I can be a good father. What can I do?

I feel like trying to have a mature conversation about it would be super offensive and I should just go no-contact or move far away to slowly limit contact.

First off , I wouldn't blame my parents for this because I'm older then my brother by two years and I respect people,do chores... I would say my parents think I'm the more responsible mature child. My brother on the other hand doesn't listen to my parents and gets real aggressive when my parents or me come in his way in the middle of a computer game or his phone. My parents ALWAYS tries to take away his electronics and set a time limit but he always tries some way to get it back. I was doing my homework and I needed the computer to be charged but he was sitting in front of where I usually charge my computer using his phone and and I unplugged his charger and told him I needed to do my homework and he kicked me and punched my back and started cussing... I didn't want to fight back because it get worse and he gets more aggressive. One time, he kicked a hole in my door for a stupid reason. My parents are usually out of the house for work. My brother is around 12-13. What should I do for revenge and teach him a lesson??? I've told my parents about him hitting me and they yell at him but he doesn't learn from it! I'm so tired of him disrespecting my parents and I.

Long story. My sister married a guy she met when she was pregnant with her first child. They ve been married only a year, granted he s helping take care of her first child from different father. The guy doesn t work real jobs.. Doors under the table party time bartending only. They had to leave their attic apartment and moved in with my parents. He is working even less now. My sister keeps saying she wants another kid, but with her hubby. I understand this, but they have barely 5¢ to rub together and no gone that s theirs. My parents place is already small. My sister can be neglectful already with this 1 kid. Her hubby was in jail for most of their dating too. She just told me she s pregnant with his baby. How the hell can I be happy for her? I m faking happiness right now, but oh my gosh WTH is she doing? They don t have priorities straight. I know it s her choice, she s an adult age 30, but acts 14. The baby didn t get time with other babies (age2), she s plopped in front of the most days. She recently got off birth control to get pregnant. Her first child isn t getting help from her dad(dead beat guy refuses to help$$). My sister doesn t want to bother getting child support because it s too much hassle for her. I told her it s for the baby, who cares about hassle when u need the money for baby. Her husband s nice, but I kind of don t trust him. How can I be happy for her, and not say anything?

My adult daughter became upset at me because I told her that she had to move out with her child, even I that meant moving into a shelter. She said that when she moves out that she will never speak to me again. It's been 7 months and she still hasn't spoken to me. When I call her, she is very rude to me and uses inappropriate language with me. She never comes around for holidays either. What should I do? I miss my child and grandchild.

I have severe anxiety and depression. Usually, I'll never leave my room unless I'm leaving the house, I need to use the bathroom or I'm getting a drink. Occasionally, I'll go out of my room to go into the living room to watch a movie or sometimes I will go and talk to people. But when I'm in my room, I want to be left alone. My dad will always come in and sit on my bed. I have a twin sized bed, and I'll get pissed because I want my space. And sometimes he'll like put his hand on my knee and mess with me, and I'll get super pissed at him and yell at him to stop. He'll ask why I'm always so grumpy, and I tell him that if he could start to respect my boundaries, maybe I wouldn't be. It's so frustrating. They know that I have a hard time, and I don't like to be bothered when I want to be alone, and I get really upset if I am. Then they get angry at me. I'm not in a good point in my life, and being alone is what makes it better. I just want them to respect that, and realize that right now, I just need time to myself, and maybe someday when I'm better, I can start to let people back into my life.

My mom is going to be gone all week, and I'll be stuck at home with my sisters and my dad. I only sort of like one of my sisters, I don't like the other, and I can't stand my dad. I know it sounds bratty, but they don't know they're boundaries. They are constantly coming into my room, and I usually want to be left alone. If I want to be social, I'll be social, and I'll come out, but when I'm alone in my room, I want to be alone. My dad will touch me and try to give me hugs even though I don't like being touched by really anyone. Then he's like "why are you always so grumpy?" and I'll tell him time and time again, that maybe if he would learn to respect my boundaries, I wouldn't be so grumpy all the time. I would just try to spend time with friends to get out of the house, but I'll have to be at home so I can babysit my little sister. I don't think I can handle being left here with them all week though.

Whenever we're alone, she will give me hugs, even though I'm not a touchy person. I'm homeschooled, and if I forget to print something off, or the computer deletes something, she yells at me, and she gets Dad to not believe me. I want to tell her what she does, but whenever it's the right time, she's all lovey-dovey again, and I don't like being yelled at. What do I do?

I am 20 years old by the way and live with my parents, I work and attend college. I am the only child, and my dad tends to work a lot. This year my mother's mom, dad and brother all passed away so it has been hard on all of us especially my mom. I have been considering doing this special school abroad experience that I am very very interested in that would start soon, something I have been considering for a long time. Would it be wrong to leave my mom to do this? She does not really have any family here where we live in the US considering her family is from the Philippines. Just a cousin, and a lot of filipino friends here. She seemed upset when I first mentioned it to her saying something along the lines, "my parents left, my brother and now you would be leaving me." I don't know what to do, I mean ofcourse the loss of the family is hard on me too but I know its apart of life and we have to move on. She has been taking the idea of me leaving quite hard, but this is something I really want to do for myself. It's not like it's gonna be forever, and I will always videochat her. Am I a bad person for doing this? What should I do?

She has 3 sons and 1 daughter. I am the daughter. She likes one daughter-in-law, dislikes one, and despises another.

My grandma is 68 and she might need help. She does a lot of extreme stuff like skydiving, motorcycles, snowboarding, extreme kayaking, jumping off high diving boards and other stuff. Also she's a 3rd degree black belt. She's been like this all her life. Now that she's getting old I'm worried she might hurt herself.

He always talks about his death. He's had attempts on his life before but he tells his mom she asks him not to mention it to her. He's not even 20

I got the best results in my school in some exams we recently did and my teachers and all my friends were so so happy for me and they're not even family. My mum congratulated me but it was kind of lame, and my dad returned from abroad and he hasn't even been speaking to me, let alone congratulate me! I have no idea as to what I've done wrong, because my mum and him had an argument so he was upset about that, but why does that mean he gets mad at me? My mum reminded him today and he said "I said well done on whatsapp" like mate wtf. I feel so depressed because all I want is for them to feel proud and I worked my socks off for this. Oh well, maybe looking at other teens my age they'll be grateful someday. I just need advice on how to make things less awkward at a parent-teacher meeting where they'll discuss my results next week cus he isn't even happy!

Last night we to my parents for dinner everything was going great until my mother accidentally knocked over glass of water on my daughter which my daughter to cry. my dad and mother started laughing which my daughter cry more. Yesterday my wife bought my daughter some new clothes that were in the trunk of the car. She was able to calm my daughter down & get her to go change into dry clothes. Than my daughter threw another fit because wanted to go home. I got upset & told my daughter to hush & eat. When my mother tried to make her sit down & eat my daughter started screaming & ran outside. I couldn't calm her down & when my wife was calming my daughter down my mother told my wife to stay out of it because she wasn't her granddaughter's mother. I got annoyed & was ready to go home. My wife isn't talking to me for some reason. She is asleep on the couch.

I'm just now fully realizing my parents are just two dumb people that had a kid. Not academically dumb because my mom has always been a straight A student and pop has been successful in other ways. But with their combined common sense they couldn't find their way out of a paper bag. Sometimes I just say why me? Lol. Basic common sense confounds them both and its like dealing with children. And my mom likes to start family fights likens child and pops acts like a teenage boy around women. They are not together as a couple anymore because they're too much alike. Their divorce was the best think to happen to me although I didn't want it. Please tell me I'm not alone. Pleeeease!

She always pisses me off

I hate when she talk on the phone with speaker on and I tell her to put headphones on but she doesn't listen to me it's annoying.

What can I do? My mother is so sad that she refuses to eat. She really feels bad because she found out that my older brother took money out of her savings account without leting her know. Shes 84 and lives in my country Guatemala with my 2 brothers I live in the us with my husband , son and daughter. Please, can anybody give some advice. I am so mad with this brother. I cannot stand him no more. This making my mom and me so sick my brother is so old he doesnt have a job and he says that he would pay that money to my mother but thats a lie; he is always saying that to people and he never pays back he is the worst he is trash. I feel like throwing him out of the house; should I? thank you so much god bless.

When I was little I beat A LOT I mean at least once a day and each beating would last 30 mins to a couple hours. I used to get slapped, punched, whipped with wire hangers, beat with rolling pins, choked, thrown, and other stuff. My mom even admitted that she used to beat a lot (I got beat the most out of my siblings) and she used to use full force because I was a tough kid. At one point I wouldn't even cry at anything from like the ages of 9-12. I stopped get beat and would only occasionally get slapped every once in a while since then. My siblings nicknamed me 'moms punching bag' because she would always be beating me. It would get so bad sometimes that my sisters would have to step in ( which took a lot of courage because if they interfered they would get beat too). My dad wasn't home most of the time because we were a low income family and he would be working all the time. My dad never beat me and was always the best but I was never close to him and most of the beating took place when he wasn't home but when he was home he'd stop my mom and say she was going to far. My mom never showed love to me and I mean I can't remember a single time she did. They always made sure I was well fed and had what I needed so I was never neglected. Every birthday or any other time she would talk about when I was born she would tell everyone and I mean EVERYONE friends, family, everyone about when she cried when I was born because I was skinny and ugly. Yup I know sounds ridiculous. In 2012 she got lyme disease and had to stay in the hospital and later that year my mothers whole side came to live in the same are as us. She became very emotionally abusive and manipulative since then and I know this for sure. But for the past couple months she started showing me a little love and I don't know if I should accept it or push it away. She has never said I love you to me or anyone else as far as I know. When she used to pass behind me I always used to flinch and still do sometimes She doesn't beat me that bad anymore she only slaps me once in a while (I'm 16). I don't know if I have PTSD or something but now every time I think back to those things I start feeling panicy and start crying which is very rare for me I only cry max 3 times a year. I don't think she ever meant this to get so bad and she thought of it as just discipline because where she's from its normal. At the end of the day shes still my mom and I love regardless of whether she loves me back or not.

My mother recently passed, when I was selling her house. I asked my uncle to store some items in his garage, until I could sort it. ( I live in a small apartment). He agreed and told me everything was safe there, I went today over there to sort all of it and so forth. He threw all of it away, he said he was sick of looking at it. I am so mad, I don't know what to do. It was only in his garage about a month, plus he said it was fine. I know for a fact, all her pictures, home movies and so forth was in there, that what I am the most upset about. I am not sure how to handle this situation??

My daughter is normally very respectful, She doesn't even stand too close to him while they are in my house but lately they have been going upstairs in the media room to watch movies. They are up there hours at a time. I will say it's a little weird. I don't want to ask her directly if she is having sex in my house because it will be awkward.

My mother started drinking heavily about a few years ago. I remember on a school night when I was 16 my mother got very drunk and got a gun and threatened to kill herself, I started to panic and she told me if I cried, moved, or told anyone she would kill herself. She then got more angry and told me she was going somewhere and wouldn tell me where. I wouldn't let her leave out of fear she would go hurt herself, so I drove her were she wanted. We ended up going to my aunts house and I stayed outside in the car waiting for her until it was about three in the morning. The next day she pretended like it never happened, so i didn't say anything. Another time when I was 16 , she was drinking again, she found out I was lying to her about having a boyfriend. She started yelling at me and got screw driver and began to stab her arms in front of me, and made me watch, blood began to drip all over my floor, she was covered in blood. She also drinks and drives with me and my 5 year old brother in the car. My parents fight all the time and I saw them get physical once, infront of me and my little brother.I confronted her today about the time she stabbed her self with the screw driver and she told me it was my fault for lying to her and making her angry. I am now 18 and I'm not sure what to do. I tried to leave the other day to the store to remove myself from the situation, I told her I was going to the store and she ran and blocked the door and said watch what will happen if you leave

Dad is at a funeral home for someone he works with whose step-son died. I did not know the person so I stayed home. School is hard and I don't have a Mom anymore (she did drugs so is not allowed to see me again). I don;t have siblings and I learn different which they call a disability. So should I do my homework tonight or will I look weird when ti is Friday and there is no school Monday? Dad wants to help me on the math but I can do the rest. I am 12 and a boy. I am in 6th grade and have two more years after this at the school I am at. I go to St. Rita Catholic School. Also, I talk to much cause my brain is always going. This bugs people at school and they make fun of me. How do I stop myself from talking and how quiet is too quiet? I had a good Christmas more then a month ago but it seems so long now that I feel sad again and have to go to the psykoligst person.

My cousin is kinda edgy. Every time she visits she makes really really weird jokes always about murder and stuff. It always creeps me out but I just brush it off cause it seems like she's joking...I think. We sleep in the same room cause our house is small and every time she always very strongly insists that we turn all the lights off and close the doors. When I ask why, she never answers. And this time she took a pair of scissors and put them on the nightstand near her. I hid them, but later she was like "....you know what I find really cool....? Anything can be used as a weapon." I still won't turn out the light cause now I'm a very freaked out and she was literally just like "you know what fine. Don't turn out the light. But tomorrow when the investigators come they will say that there were signs of struggle" she literally says it a voice like she's trying not to laugh. I can't tell if she's trying to prank me but she does this EVERY TIME she visits.

Okay so I'm sixteen and I am atheist while my parents are Christian. They make me go to church on Friday nights, it's a youth group thing for the teens. So today I went and I got super bored so I snuck out and went to the mall with my homegirls to smoke weed and get high. Now one of the teens from the church is calling me asking where I am because it's still in session. But I don't want to go back and she keeps on texting asking where I am. 1. Where do I tell the people at church I went and what should I tell them as to why I am taking so long to answer their calls and texts 2. If my parents find out, what do I tell them so I don't get in trouble? Thanks!

I am a 19 year old girl who is going to graduate college in December 2019, then go to law school. My 12 year old brother in 6th grade wants me to ask how long it will take to do law school, because he claims that if I have a real/good paying job before he is 18, things will be "awkward" and will stress him out. Don't answer if you won't say anything nice about my brother, he suffers from autism and is literally depressed because I am studying abroad in Spain and applying for a job in Washington that will last all summer if I get it.

How can I deal with this? For example they will ask me to skip school to help them with chores and insist that my grades are less important than my family's needs. If I say that's not fair to me considering how much I help them in other ways they insist I'm just drunk and that anything I say should be disregarded. Even if I haven't had a drink in days. It's really upsetting. What can I do when they treat me like this?

So my sister and I are twins. We both took our road tests on Thursday. I passed, she failed. She was so upset over failing that she threw a temper tantrum, took my wallet, and ripped up my temporary paper license. What am I supposed to do? Now I can't drive anywhere until my regular license comes in the mail, and I have no idea when that will be.

I don't mean sex, I just mean love me like a mother loves her son.

Last night, I was in my room and he came in mad because I hadn't cleaned my room. I was lying on my bed and all of a sudden he ripped my covers off and started getting in my face. He smacked my phone out of my hand and it hit the wall. So I got up to leave and he started saying that he was gonna break everything in my room. I didn't think he was serious so I said okay go ahead. He literally took all of my old records and my record player and smashed them against the wall. Then he smashed my cd stand against my bed. I thought it was over because he left but he came back and tried to throw my laundry basket at me too. We've had some heavy arguments in the past and he always gets up in my face and won't back off. He's never HIT me but he did spank me as a child? I think he has anger problems but idk what to do.

For over 3 months now, living in my house has been torture. Constantly, I am belittled by my dad and especially stepmom for being a worthless piece of ****. I am 18 years old, and currently am in college and have a part time job. I haven't gotten a great amount of hours from my job recently, so in turn they have been on my *** about getting another. For 3 weeks I have applied to many different places. I have applied to 6 places just this week. During this process, they have continued to push me to get a job. How am I supposed to explain to them that I'm ******* trying? It seems like the only thing that matters to them is me getting a job. And it's too the point that it's unbearable having to deal with it. They have also become especially rude with me. For example, I have HAnds foot and mouth disease from my half sister, and they are now pissed about it and claim my immune system is shitty and complain about having to Lysol stuff. I want out so bad, and as soon as I get a call from one of these jobs I'm gonna work my *** off to get out. Are my parents assholes?

They are really close friends. They have been friends since back in the day when they were in elementary school. I am even close friends with his daughter. I didn't mean for it to happen but I have never really fit in anywhere because I am emo and I live in a area where everyone is expected to be barbie dolls and cheerleaders and ect... He was always really nice to me and talked to me and asked me how I am doing when no one else would but one thing led to another and on my 18th bday we started sleeping together. I feel horrible and this is all my fault. Everyone is going to hate me especially my dad and his daughter and wife. I am disgusted with myself. I ruined his life as well so I know he will hate me to. I do not want to get an abortion but I am not sure how I can hide a pregnancy for 7 months and then what do I do afterwards? I cannot believe I did this to him and my dad and family.

My brother has never allowed me to have a brother-sister relationship with him. He was always mean to me growing up. He treats his girlfriend better than me and I get jealous of that. I hate her and refuse to say hi to her when she talks to me. She stays at our house most of the time and she doesn't live here. They are having a baby soon. I want to tell her to get lost. How can I cope??