| Question: How do I got about this breakup? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 08:57 PM PDT So I dated this girl for 7 months. I really loved her. We are both Christian and we talked about marriage. However, around the 6 month mark of our relationship she called me and stated that she loves me but doesn't know if it's "God's will" to marry me. , I managed to save the break up by stating to fight for each other. The following months was great, we texted each other all the time and talked about marriage. However, on the day we were seeking a premarital counsellor we got into another argument and she brought up the "Gods Will" topic again. Prior, She then stated that we are not compatible because I was career driven and she wants to be a house wife and so she believed that there would be a 40 percent chance the marriage will not work. I told her she can be a stay at home mom but I would prefer that she gets some sort of a part time job so help out financially. She invited me to her parents house the following day and I had dinner with them, at the end of the night my ex hugged me and apologized about the arguments saying she was on her menstrual cycle. I told her that I forgive her. 2 days later I get a text saying that she needed to talk while I was at work. I called her then on and she told me she wanted to break up because she did not feel peace with God in the relationship. I argued for her to stay and that we can at least seek counsel about the issue but she disagreed . The relationship is over but I need advice on what I can do. |
| Question: Is being a step parent as thankless a job as the movies make them out to be if the other natural parent is still involved? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 08:54 PM PDT Sort of like in Step Mom or the up-coming movie Daddy's Home. If I date a woman with kids, I sometimes hope the real is not involved so I won't end up feeling like the "fake" parent. Also, I noticed its makes it harder if you want to have kids in the future. |
| Question: In the state of Oregon, if any information is falsified on a marriage application and license, is the marriage legal at all? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 08:42 PM PDT |
| Question: Why has Amal Clooney not yet bore her husband, George Clooney, children yet? Why is she so lax on her wife duties? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 08:40 PM PDT Do you feel she keeps a clean house for him? |
| Question: Why I can't be in love with my husband ? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 08:40 PM PDT He is a wonderful man , every women could dream for it , well educated makes pretty good $$ , have been married 7 years , I have tried everything to be in love , but I haven't, he is in love with me , I never enjoyed sex with him not even a single time in 7 years , and he is now t sexuall attrected to me , what should I do to be in love ? Is there is anyway ? Coz I want to save my marriage, pLz help |
| Question: If you aren t married an have a baby an have cse obtain child support don t that mean your the primary parent in the state of ks? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 08:25 PM PDT |
| Question: If you have a child an aren't married an cse in ks helps you with getting child support? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 08:16 PM PDT |
| Question: I really don't like my friend but her kids and my kids are friends? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 08:11 PM PDT I think she uses people; at some point she doesn't find you useful anymore, she dumps you. My problem is she remains married to her husband who is 30+ years older than her but refuses ti divorce her even though she openly cheats. She said it's not working out but can't divorce him because it's cheaper to stay married for their medical insurance.However, this guy also has a good pension and they net about $70k without either one of them working. She also told my husband to divorce me when we were having problems and flirted with him. She comes around unannounced especially when she knows when my husband is around (all dressed up too). I told her to at least let me know if she's coming over. However, her kids and my kids go to the same school and are good friends. I want to completely cut off any contact with her because I dislike her but she finds a way to crawl back in...because of her kids. How to deal with? Should I just be honest or block her without saying a word? |
| Question: I want to cuckold to his wife to send me pictures of his wife? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 07:51 PM PDT |
| Question: Notice of Entry of Appearance? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 07:47 PM PDT Notice of Entry of Appearance? Family law long story short, I petitioned the court for for modification of custody and I won. She appealed and got denied, then she filed a motion to reconsider and was denied again. Now she is filling Notice of Entry of Appearance. What is this now? This is getting ridiculous. |
| Question: What should I do about this difficult breakup? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 07:31 PM PDT So I dated this girl for 7 months. I really loved her. We are both Christian and we talked about marriage. However, around the 6 month mark of our relationship she called me and stated that she loves me but doesn't know if it's "God's will" to marry me. , I managed to save the break up by stating to fight for each other. The following months was great, we texted each other all the time and talked about marriage. However, on the day we were seeking a premarital counsellor we got into another argument and she brought up the "Gods Will" topic again. Prior, She then stated that we are not compatible because I was career driven and she wants to be a house wife and so she believed that there would be a 40 percent chance the marriage will not work. I told her she can be a stay at home mom but I would prefer that she gets some sort of a part time job so help out financially. She invited me to her parents house the following day and I had dinner with them, at the end of the night my ex hugged me and apologized about the arguments saying she was on her menstrual cycle. I told her that I forgive her. 2 days later I get a text saying that she needed to talk while I was at work. I called her then on and she told me she wanted to break up because she did not feel peace with God in the relationship. I argued for her to stay and that we can at least seek counsel about the issue but she disagreed . The relationship is over but I need advice on what I can do. |
| Question: How do you deal with mother in laws that baby your husband and is nosy? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 07:27 PM PDT If your mother was talking smack about your wife and she decided not to go to your parents house what to ovoid a conflict would you do? She also calls him so he can go eat I mean there's nothing wrong with that but he goes rite when I'm making food. And she once told MY mom that the reason she went to eat to her house was because I didn't cook😒 like seriously! After I saw she was talking **** about me I just decided to not go over their house anymore because it's just not her but her husband and male cousin too. I haven't done anything to THEM for them to talk down on me. I've been nothing but respectful and nice to them. It sucks to know that they talk **** about me after how close we were until all of a sudden they started acting different when we got married and he moved out from his parents house. |
| Question: What is a reasonable price to spend on a wedding? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 07:22 PM PDT |
| Question: What to do with divorced couples wedding photos? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 07:19 PM PDT My friend shot a wedding a few years back that they are still really proud of. Unfortunately the bride and groom got a divorce and the groom has since remarried. They have been contacted by the groom and his new wife asking that they remove all photos of him and his previous wife from their website and social media because it's causing her "emotional distress" as some of her family and friends have seen the photos. They really don't want to take them down because they are a good example of their work. Yes, they have a model release. How do they respond to this?? |
| Question: I left my husband for drinking, went back to him. He did it again and i left again and thinking abt going back again??? Married w 2 boys. 😞? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 07:09 PM PDT |
| Question: Ladies, is it normal for my girlfriend to not be jealous with the work I do for a living? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 07:02 PM PDT My girl friend is a very open person with a bisexual attraction. We've been together for almost two years and we have a very loving and wonderful relationship with each other. I'm wondering though if it's normal for my girlfriend to be ok with the work I do for a living. For my profession I do modeling and I model for sensual nude art. I model for professional European artists who do paintings and sculptors. The art work I model in is very sensual within it's nature and the purpose of the art is to capture the beauty and essence of sexuality between a man and a woman and also between two women. I normally pose with a female model for an art session and other art sessions I'll pose with two or three female models. Now I don't mean to get too explicit, though I wanted to mention that the artists believe that in order to make the art look as real as possible, to bring the art to life, and to bring to the art it's true meaning and message, I have to actually penetrate ... though we don't continue on with the act. So essentially the artists believe that penetration is very necessary for artistic purposes. In case if you're wondering ... yes, it does take a tremendous amount of patience and self control to keep the work professional. As I've already said, my girlfriend is very much ok with the work I do for a living. She even likes to visit the art studio at times to watch me model in art sessions. I asked her if she gets jealous watching me model in sensual nude passionate poses with other women. She tells me it doesn't bother her at all, but instead it turns her on a lot to watch me model in the type of art I work in. I'm just very surprised that a girl can be like that. I'm just VERY surprised about this and not sure what to make out of it. What's going on here? lol I'm not complaining here, just to let you all know. I'm just wanting to know how a girl can be like this, that's all. I'm just trying to understand the mind of a female. Is it even possible for a man to understand the mind of a female? |
| Question: How do you punish your wife when she disobeys you? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 06:51 PM PDT |
| Question: Are people right that no one is gonna agree to marry me? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 06:38 PM PDT So I told some people that I am planning on going to vietnam to meet some women over there. It is an arranged marriage and my relatives are gonna introduce to me to them. I am supposed to be meeting about 5 women over there. Some people told me that they hope that I will waste my money to go over there and then that no one will agree to marry me. They said that they hope that I can't find anyone and that I will end up forever alone. No woman in america wants me and so going over there is my only hope. Are those people's wishes gonna come true ? Will I be able to get one of those women to marry me ? |
| Question: What's going on? Are we falling apart or is it something else? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 06:30 PM PDT I've been engaged for the past few months and moved in together shortly after our engagement. I really do love my fiance but over the past month or so, it seems as if we aren't on the same page anymore or at least he isn't. It's like he's changed. He seems to snap at me over little things like when I'm too busy to clean at times, I do go to school part time and work full time so there are times when I don't have time. And he doesn't seem as romantic as he used to be and we haven't had sex in a month when we used to at least 5 times a week. Lately he's been acting like my roommate and not my boyfriend and there have been times when he comes home later than usual and others when he starts a fight with me and walks out and comes back at like 2 in the morning. And today I was upset over not getting this promotion that I thought I deserved and I tried to talk to him about it and he just snapped at me and said I'm always whining about nonsense and how he had a bad day too but I didn't ask him about that. So I don't get what's going on, I want to talk to him but I don't know if he's going to snap at me or what. Plus I get the feeling that there may be someone else but I'm not sure though but it does seem that way since he seems to not want to be intimate with me anymore. But what do you think is going on and what can I do about it? |
| Question: My husband is addicted to pain meds and Is also a alcoholic.? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 06:24 PM PDT He has been in a lot of pain due to several back surgeries and uses the pain meds as a crutch and makes me feel guilty when I confront him. This has ruined our marriage and I feel so numb, I know the best thing for my happiness is to leave him but I have this huge guilt that I can t because of all the pain he is going through. I literally can t function and it has made me so depressed. Many people tell me I have to do what makes me happy but it s so hard to take that advice. I m also afraid of what he might do to himself if I leave because he needs me. We been together for 35 years so the thought of starting over scares me to death. |
| Question: Am I out of line for asking my husband to stop viewing porn and to stop masturbating? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 06:15 PM PDT I find it disrespectful to me and to the female gender. Don't I have the right to demand better from the man in my life? Why have so many women been deceived into thinking porn and masturbation is okay? So it's perfectly normal for him to watch other people having sex and play with himself all afternoon while ignoring his young, fit, and attractive wife that other guys flirt with on a daily basis? Just because a woman does something willingly, doesn't mean it's not demeaning. Why can't a man go without sex for a few days without whipping it out and playing with himself? What ever happened to self control? Why blame the woman for a man's lack of self control? |
| Question: How would you interpret this poem? (its a short poem)? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 06:12 PM PDT "How violently beautiful would it be to leave your mind here and your body somewhere else. This is the way you make me feel when your fingertips declare war on my skin." |
| Question: How do I get past the guilt I have been feeling that my parents divorced (it's been 5 years)? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 06:09 PM PDT Update: I feel like since I am a part of the family I must be bad. The extended family viewed their divorce as scandalous since neither of my parents tried at counseling first. |
| Question: Should I back out of being maid of honor? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 06:09 PM PDT Sis & I were BF growing up. She moved out in secret, while parents were out to plan a funeral, & in w/ an admitted pedo who tried 2 rape me prior. I was left 2 pick up the pieces while our family grieved(we lost 13 ppl that yr). She was nasty 2 me when I got engaged, then asked 2 b my MoH. I tried so hard 2 smooth things out. About 2 mo b4 the wedding, she told me 2 have a nice life. I threw my own shower & bachelorette. I know it's poor etiquette, but it let my family save face. There was a hole n my wedding day. We didn't speak for 2 years. We speak now, & again I try 2 make things work. She married/divorced pedo, dated around & had a planned kid out of wedlock. The sperm donor left her b/c the baby's a boy. (He already had 2 boys w/ 2 women, & only wanted a girl.) He neglects my 2-yr-old nephew & pays nothing. Sis neglects him too. He's unsupervised, often alone in the apt w/1 sleeping adult. He literally only knows how 2 say "more," "no," & "mama." He acts out & is never disciplined. My parents buy clothes, toys & food. Sis & her fiance (who acts like a 15-yr-old boy) don't pay their bills, live in garbage & fight constantly, but can't wait 2 get married & have another kid. She asked me 2 b MoH & I regret accepting. She's trashy bridezilla, demanding I do everything on my own dime, b*ching constantly. I don't want to be the bigger person. I can't take it, but Mom will b heartbroken if I back out. What do I do? I haven't brought up anything from my wedding, but I want to so badly. She said she wants to use the same daddy-daughter dance song and identical cake topper, and I almost bit my tongue in half. Mom says we can't always treat people the way they deserve to be treated and to be strong. I'm an adult, married many years, professional, and I have no idea why I can't get over it. |
| Question: Why is the Church of eleven22 called eleven22? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 05:59 PM PDT |
| Question: Is writing to other women while married concider cheating? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 05:56 PM PDT |
| Question: What-if your "kids are "FIGHTING", then say "THEY WANT TO DIVORCE"? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 05:45 PM PDT What would you say? What if "THEY SAY THEY WANT A DIVORCE?"-(I already know my "facts"-just am getting your 'thoughts & answers', if they say goofy things). |
| Question: Why do people stop wearing wedding rings? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 05:43 PM PDT How come some married couples decide to stop wearing their rings? There are some that stop wearing them a few short years into their marriages and others that 2 or 3 decades later stop wearing them. I wonder why that is. I'm not talking about engagement rings because a lot of people would grow tired of wearing that rock but the band doesn't seem like much of a bother, so why stop wearing them? For example, my neighbors that have been married for 9 years, the husband wears no ring but his wife does. Or like the musician David Bowie and his former supermodel wife Iman, after 23 years, no rings. Do they get tired? Do rings become boring? |
| Question: Can a woman sacrifice her dream of having children because her boyfriend or husband doesn't want children? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 05:42 PM PDT |
| Question: Why are dumb poor people more likely to marry for looks or strength? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 05:10 PM PDT while more intelligent educated people tend to marry for intelligence and personality? Gary, actually highly successful men marry other highly successful women. They don't only marry attractive women. Its only a stereotype that highly successful men marry bimbos Gary, Actually most successful men prefer to marry for intelligence over looks. I've seen rich overly paid doctors marry unattractive educated women. |
| Question: How come women give you a hard time if you are autistic and have disabilities? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 05:02 PM PDT So I have bipolar disorder and autism and I am being given a hard time by a couple of women. I am going to vietnam to meet this fiancee of mine and a couple of other potential fiancee candidates as a back up. My fiancee hasn't let me know when she will be able to drive back to her mother's house to meet me in the countryside. All of these other girls who I am supposed to meet told my aunt that they won't agree to marry me without meeting me. They said they want to meet me first and then they will decide. One of these other girls parents told my aunt that they think that I am lying and that I will not really marry their daughter. They think that I will agree to it and then drop the engagement at the last minute like my cousin did about 15 years ago. They said they are related so they are all the same. I don't get why they said that because my cousin and I are two different persons and what he did shouldn't make them think that I am like him. So far my fiancee is the only one who agrees and her mother approves of me. Everyone else is just giving me a hard time. I don't get why the others won't agree to marry me without meeting me. I am from america so I should be the one who decides because I am bringing them to america. I am just sick and tired of being alone and I just want to get married already. Being single at age 26 and not having any friends just sucks so I want a wife. I just want to force someone to marry me because I am tired of it. Why do women give me a hard time ? |
| Question: Married Couple:What are your boundaries as far as having friends of the opposite gender? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 04:46 PM PDT My boundaries with my wife( before she left me) is no having friends of the opposite gender because it can only lead to trouble and I think personally think that it's good wisdom a married person to not have friends of the opposite gender.I don't see what's the point of having a opposite gender friend if married.The spouse is supposed to be that married person best friend.I personally won't allow my significant other to text another man unless they are family members and I won't allow my significant other to email another man unless they are family members or unless it's strictly for business reasons.I find it suspicious for a married person to have any kind of friendship with someone of the opposite gender.Married people:Do you have friends of the opposite gender?Do you see a point of a married person having a opposite gender friend? |
| Question: If I get a marriage license in Texas...am I able to get married in Utah? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 04:41 PM PDT |
| Question: Anyone married someone 18 years their senior ,can you share your experience please. Did age matter as he got older? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 04:10 PM PDT |
| Question: Marriage license and certificate? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 02:53 PM PDT If you're doing a justice of peace marriage in AZ do you need both documents? |
| Question: How do I ask a friend to be the 2nd wife? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 01:34 PM PDT okay so i have this friend who i love and my husband also loves we crush on her. she is the sweetest thing in the world. and hot! my husband and i have talked it over and we get the pro's and con's of having a friend in the bedroom. so please give me your opinion about that AFTER you answer this question.. what words and how do you bring this up to friend. Does the female (me) ask her to join us. Do we start with sexual 3somes.. i really just want her to be apart of our marriage. no strings. no catches i'll share my husband with her. never thought i would agree with the morman thing but yeah 2nd wife sounds like a great time.. (non sexually) so sexually i'm sure it will rock too! I guess to make it clear this isn't for sex only.. or even based off sex. because the only way i can bring it up is to make it sexual. hense the question. arrangement would be more of a pyramid type not the t type i dont' want her to be our "independent" if you will .. i would like us to be as strong as a triangle. She can be with my husband ideally when ever i can be with her when ever i can be with my husband when ever. sexually on dates. etc. looking up different types of 3 person relationships can be tricky. i didn't think you all wanted a book to answer a question normally my questions are to wordy. .lol so thanks for asking. Limits are for the bed room. I don't want her to feel like a cheap used toy and we only want her for sex. i don't want her to feel odd for hitting or having alone time with my husband. i don't want me to feel jealous there are lots to talk about i'm more worried about her. |
| Question: What should i do? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 01:13 PM PDT My best friend, my husband and I got pretty drunk Friday night when a friend of mine came over. It was my best friend so i never really had a trust issue with my husband being around her on his own. We wanted to all sleep in the living room so we brought out our mattress from our room and put it right next to the couch where my friend was lying down, i was the last one to lay down and was gonna lay down next to my friend but noticed my husband beat me to it, i didn't think much of it until i saw him reach for her hand and she quickly pushed him away, he then reached for her shoulder and she kept scooting away but he kept following her. She asked why he kept touching her and he denied he ever did anything. I don't know why i couldn't react to what was happening and up to now i still don't know what i should think of it. I confronted him the next day and he said he doesn't remember anything. What do i do? Should i do anything at all? He's done something similar multiple times in the past while he's sober saying he "thought it was me" while he tried to grab my cousins hand or put his arm around her when shes much shorter and skinnier than i am. |
| Question: Am I wrong? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 12:58 PM PDT So my husband are both young. He's 20 and I'm 19 we've been together for 4 years and recently got married. he has a group of friends that all they like to do is drink and have no respect for women. He would go almost every weekend and I would always get mad because first of all I don't want an alcoholic husband and second I nearly see him during the week so all we have to see each other is the weekend and he decides to spend it with them. He hates when I get mad because he says he needs "space" and time to hang out with the boys. I have to drive him over there to their house and go pick him up around 2 or 3 am! That's ridiculous. Am I wrong for not liking this? How should I solve this problem? |
| Question: Just wondering what to do about life.? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 11:57 AM PDT My wife for 2 years. I Love her and care about her. but ever since getting married she has horrible mood swings. she isnt the same person i dated. She has a daugher who is 9 years old. she is a kid out of hell! She is rude and disrespectful. she craps her pants still at her age and she steals food and stuff. her and my wife fight everyday almost all the time. i just wanna know what to do. i am just starting to thinking you only live once and why live life unhappy and depressed. |
| Question: Co-Worker creepy towards wife.? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 11:25 AM PDT New guy started working at out job, wife and I work together. At the time I barely knew the guy, he doesn't drive so I gave him a ride home one day and when dropping him off he turns to me and says "give your wife a slap on the *** for me" I confronted him the next day and told him that **** wasn't okay, he apologized" but he's still creepy. Since then wife is super nice to him like it never happened. As far as I'm concerned people don't just say that to say it. I tolerate the guy and am civil towards him at work, just for work purposes. But wife continues to be way to nice to him and I feel he's going to take that niceness the wrong way. I'm fine all day at work till I see her being nice to this guy that made inappropriate comments towards her, then I get pissed but I hold it in. I know she's her own person but I'm her husband and I fee I'm supposed to be there to protect her when people at creepy. |
| Question: My wife makes me feel guilty when I don't eat her home cooked meals. But my wife also only cooks when SHE is hungry. What should I do? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 10:45 AM PDT Example: It's 6pm and we just got home from work (we work together). I am hungry, she isn't. I have an issue with instant gratification, she doesn't (except on certain things). I have a bunch of food to fill my belly, she gets on the computer and "Facebook's" for an hour or two then starts dinner. When she serves dinner, she makes me a plate. I've already eaten my fill of calories through snacking (healthy stuff though like single ingredient peanut butter and apples and bananas) and I'm not hungry any more, but some how she expects me to eat her home cooked meal too and shames me when I don't (eating together is family time - she's old school). What can we do to fix this? I'm getting WAAAAY more calories than I need in a day, but I can't tell her "No" if she's going to shame me in front of the kids. I've asked her to make the following day's meals the night before and we just re-heat it and eat when we are ready. But she doesn't want to do that because she will miss a "family moment". I've asked her to do a crock pot meal and have it ready by the time she's normally ready to eat (8pm) but she refuses to do that because she doesn't want all of our meals to be crock pot meals. I've told her I'm going to make my own meals and eat whenever I'm ready and she said that I still need to sit at the table with her and the kids for family time (unhealthy relationship with food and family), but I can't sit there and watch people eat without eating... What would you do? |
| Question: Do you think it's to late for me to work things out with my ex husband? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 10:14 AM PDT I am a complete fool. I left my ex husband a few months back because I didn't believe in him and I thought I could do better. I didn't want to admit to myself but at the time I was man crazy and it just so happen to have a job or car at the time. I was with my ex because it was something I was use too not because I loved him. At one point I did but living with the hurt he put me through the love just died eventually, now I want him back and realizing the feelings I still have for him. He has COMPLETELY change. He now have a traveling job where he gets paid way more that he has ever been paid since he and I have been together, he just got him a camera and he have dropped 60 or so pounds. He just seem very very different. I want to acknowledge him and see where things go but I'm scared. I told him some really harsh things when I left him and that I didn't love him. I practical left the man when he had nothing. |
| Question: Is 22 too young to get engaged or married? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 09:57 AM PDT |
| Question: We have lived separately for 4 years, hes filing for divorce now. during the living apart, we still paid bills together, etc.? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 09:37 AM PDT |
| Question: My husbands response really stressed me out.? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 09:30 AM PDT We have been married a year and a half, we don t have children yet, and wont for a few years (I hope). The other night we were babysitting my little sister in law and she asked if I wanted boys or girls, I said I want boys, my husband piped in and said "yeah me too so i can beat the Sh** out of them" I had no idea what to say, I have never heard anyone say anything like that about kids ever...this has put my stomach in knots, I cant seem to shake this feeling of confusion and stress..what do I do? He is a very angry, negative, bitter person, I have talked to him already and told him I am not happy in our marriage because he doesnt treat me like a wife should be treated..calling me names, putting me down, never showing any love or affection, thinking i should wait on him hand and foot...I am stuck, I dont know what to do, I wouldnt just assume the worst in someone, i dont think a happy normal person would say something like that, he wasnt joking because when he jokes he laughs at himself.. He was abused by his father when he was younger, his dad used to beat him and his mom. |
| Question: I can't trust my husband after affair? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 09:11 AM PDT I found out my husband of 9 years had an emotional affair with a co worker in March. Since then, he did not stop communicating with her for months. He moved out of our house three months ago. He has came back and told me he cut all ties with her. Lately, I'm having trouble trusting him. He hides his phone, he won't let me see it or even touch it. He refuses to give me any access to his emails and social sites. I feel he isn't willing to make things work or change. Is there any hope? |
| Question: I am much like my generation in the sense that I have a problem with delayed gratification. This hurts my marriage a lot. What can I do? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 08:41 AM PDT My wife has agreed to join me in make progressive changes so we can become more mainstream and healthy, but I'm not big on progressive changes though. I am impatient and I like to make sudden changes that shock the system and everything falls apart. I know this is chaotic, but if I don't make the change immediately with full force, then I have a hard time keeping the change going. I did this with my diet 3 years ago and I succeeded in losing 80 lbs; only to put it all back on when I my wife took over the cooking and we went back to her lifestyle of eating "good tasting food" (which proves that individual changes are IMPOSSIBLE in a codependent marriage)... I know that my idea of change (shock & awe) doesn't work with my wife, and that's probably why I've had so many problems with her in the past (so much so that I wanted to sedate her to calm her down from the anxiety of the change and so much so that I blamed her concussion when she was 14 on why she couldn't change). So I need to learn how to follow a "delayed gratification" and "skill building" mentality, but I don't know how to do it. Almost everything in my life is instant gratification; even purchases now that we have money to spare. I know a lot of you learned needs vs wants, and some of you even did the "wait for marriage" or "wait for your birthday" delay; but I didn't have any of these things in my life. I am very unfortunate to have instant gratification parents who didn't teach me this. Is there any hope for me? While I agree this is a question to ask a therapist, the Yahoo! Answers section of "Psychology" isn't going to help me answer this question. I have another question in there and it is receiving 0 answers. This is why we underdeveloped people go to M&D because at least people of older age are there to answer questions and offer advice. |
| Question: Is my wife doing this on purpose? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 08:36 AM PDT So I will come home from a hard day's work, and ask my wife for sex. She will be playing candy crush on her phone, and say later. I'll ask her again in an hour or 2 and again same response. I'll keep asking throughout the rest of the day/night and get the same response . Than she just goes to bed. She isn't too busy. All she is doing is playing on Facebook . This same thing will happen on her days off, and on mine. I've had entire days where she does nothing but text, and use Facebook, and keeps telling me I'll have sex later. But when later comes I get nothing. I tried confronting her about this, and she says she's busy. How is spending hours on Facebook being busy? |
| Question: Is it hard to find a wife in the navy? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 08:20 AM PDT I am about to go to meps in a week and a half and I am dreading having to leave my girlfriend which I have been dating for over a year. From people who have been in the navy is it hard to find a girl when you are moving so much? I am scared I won't be able to find a girl/ wife moving every couple years |
| Question: Miserable in my marriage and pregnant with our first child, Help? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 08:07 AM PDT My husband and I got married in April. Everything was great until he decided to get back into church. My father is a baptist preacher and my husband is a hard core Pentecost. Mind you I am very strong in my own Faith. I dropped going to my church and adapted to his religion because he was throwing a fit about everything. I left behind everything that I knew to make him happy. He is now forcing what he believes on me, such as not letting me leave without forcing a skirt on me and I am not allowed to wear makeup or cut my hair. I would do all of these things willingly out of love if it wasn't forced. The other day I wanted to wear pants somewhere and he broke the bathroom door and dented the wall out of anger, then stood at the door and dressed me in a skirt. I am now pregnant with our first child and yesterday he said the child is not his responsibility because he is not the one who is pregnant. I did not get pregnant on purpose, because if anything I would not want to bring a child into a divided marriage. Things have gotten so bad that my only thought is to leave.. What is the best and smartest thing to do in a religion divided household? |
| Question: Is it normal for a married man of 35 to watch porn to release stress? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 07:42 AM PDT |
| Question: What is wrong with a woman who chooses to stay at home? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 06:47 AM PDT My wife wants to be a stay at home mom. She has told me several times staying at home, taking care of the kids is what makes her happy. She believes a woman's place is at home. I have never done anything to stand in her way or hold her back. But her friends are always telling her she needs to do more with her life, and I'm forcing her to be my servant. She is always talking about how happy being a mom and a wife makes her. Why is it hard to believe a woman would want to be a stay at home wife? |
| Question: My husband does not allow me to visit my grown children and grandchildren by controlling all money and car? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 06:33 AM PDT |
| Question: Seperation is making me forget about my husband instead of miss him, why? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 06:15 AM PDT My husband was the one who called for the seperation. He wanted to be 'free' and now after 4 months, the feeling of missing him has now faded and now I'm starting to realize that I'm just as happy without him and I'm slowly forgetting about him. This is what I was afraid of happening but I just felt betrayed. He wanted this, he has a new female friend who I know that he sleeps with. As much as he denies it. In the beginning I was hurt and sad but now when I see him I don't feel anything. It's strange because for so long I always had so much love for him but now I just see him as I see anyone else. I wish things were different but I don't know if I'll ever feel the same way about him again. Is this normal? |
| Question: How can I fall back in love with my husband? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 05:52 AM PDT I ve been w/my husband for 11.5 yrs & we have an 8 yr old son.I ve caught him talking to other women & he s been verbally abusive off & on. I m the overly compromising type (caught him talking to other women, he said it was bc I wasn t affectionate enough so I started being more affectionate instead of doing what most would: putting him on lock down, bringing it up constantly) & he s the alpha male type.When he has an issue w/something about me, I always work on it to make him happy. My son & I go to FL every yr to visit my family (he never goes bc no vac. time when we go/maybe just doesn t want to go?). This yr we were going to be gone a wk & a half but 3 days in, he started cussing me bc I was staying w/12 family members & couldn t make him dirty videos. He called me a lazy spoiled brat who needed to be "humbled" & everything else one could think of. Sadly, none of this bothered/shocked me bc it s all been said thru the yrs so it s pretty impossible to hurt my feelings anymore. He d tell me to stay a few more days & then flip out when I did. He said he wanted our son home by 6pm the next day & when I said that wasn t happening, we d be home in a few days, he threatened to shoot my dogs. Home now, I m not mad, just numb & feel like moving to FL & starting over w/our son. He s trying to fix things but idk how to get the feelings back. FL is 10hrs away & I don t want to hurt our son by taking him from his dad but to start over I d have to move bc I have nothing & nobody here. |
| Question: Why is my husband doing this? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 05:25 AM PDT So 2 days ago I was on my husbands phone my husband never leaves his phone anywhere and I mean never but anyway so he was really stressed about something and when he went down to the shops he left his phone without realising and he doesn't let me use his phone, so I was going through his Facebook messages and I seen that about a week ago he was talking to this girl and asking her why she's single and that she's a sexy nurse what's wrong with guys are they to blind to see how sexy you are ... And I was so mad coz he never complements me I only get hugs or kisses from him when wer having sex literally . Like he makes other girls feel good about them selves but never thinks about making me feel good about myself I haven't spoken to him about it duno if I should . |
| Question: I'm in an abusive situation and i dont know what to do....Advice Please? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 04:48 AM PDT I'm in an abusive relationship and i dont know what to do.. i am married to a very Toxic and Manipulative man... we have only been married 2 years and it's been HELL.. a little history: rocky relationship from the beginning.. i moved away from him and he followed me (i know it's my fault for believing he could change but i'm not perfect, i wanted to salvage my marriage if he did in fact want to change).. anyway, that was a HUGE mistake.. within a couple months we were fighting and arguing non stop.. one night the cops were called and he injured himself trying to get me arrested and out of the house so he could clean it out while i was gone.... didnt work, the police made him leave for the "NIGHT" since i have a disabled child here (my child from a prior marriage).. the house lease is in my name only from when i moved away from him.. but police said it's his residence too since we are married and he HAD mail coming here.... he ended up moving and taking most of his things, was gone for a few weeks and then came back (against my will).. he used the police to get back in.. saying that since he had mail coming here i cold not make him leave even though he has changed his mail to the place he moved his belongings too.. he comes and threatens to take my belongings while i'm gone, which has caused me to be scared to leave the house.. i have changed the locks but police say i cannot legally do that.. REALLY? |
| Question: Does it sound like these women are giving me a hard time? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 02:12 AM PDT So I am supposed to be going over to vietnam to meet a group of women and I will pick one to marry and let her be my wife. I am going to bring her to america. I am trying to go over there soon to meet them. These women said that they won't agree to marry me without meeting me. My aunts are introducing me to them since I can't find anyone here in america. They said that they will decide when they meet me. I thought that it would be easier for me to find a wife in vietnam since I am a vietnamese american man myself and I can bring her to america. I thought all of them want to come to america. One of these girls parents said to my aunt that they think that I am lying and that I really won't marry their daughter. They think that I am going to agree to marry her and then ditched her and break off the engagement at the last minute like one of my cousins did. They think that my cousin and I are alike and say that they don't believe me and I don't understand why they think that because we are two different people. Does it sound like I am being given a hard time by these women and their parents ? |
| Question: How can I heal from mental & emotional abuse from wife??? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 01:27 AM PDT I am at the end of the rop, I have been understanding and patent as one can be with all the mixed emotion and pain its been.. I have try communication but a lot good it does when she only texts, I have told her to get help for issues she had that she wud blame for her action at moment, but she tells me all the things to get me to stay then don't go through with doing ... We are marry and I don't believe divorcing!!! But can't live like this anymore. What the hell do I do??????? How can I keep myself from going off deep end |
| Question: 10 year anniversay gift for my husband that farms? Posted: 31 Aug 2015 01:25 AM PDT |